the Q is technically for Queer , and if you go to websites like Downelink(dot)com Queer will be on there . Queer kinda means, fluid between all of those other Letters, or no definition,.. Like '' I'm just a freak , i do whutever '' kinda thing... But there is various other sexualities, that i've known about for years & that now many youngers are Learning about and identifying with as it allows more freedom which we all want.. Like for instance - A-sexual & Pansexual ! I'm a Shaman, so i change!
I am very happy you made this video, if only more people can see it. I and proud to say that idk what the heck i am. People can come up and ask me, you are bi, or straight right??? I am too young to decide and people need to understand that.
@kicesie ok for a long time I've been having troubles getting a boyfriend or if I do get one, he's an ass. So many people have told me "well hey if you're having boy troubles, just become a lesbian" and they're completely serious. I'm not attracted to women and I never have been, and I've always thought that sexuality had to do with being physically attracted, not just convenience. Can you help?
@Insomniacwithnolife lOl , why do you feel the need to take their advice ? Sexuality IS about Sexual attraction . if your having trouble attracting the kind of man you want to get with, its not gonna change if u get with a women, you'd then just attract women that are bxtches lOl . Wut u have to do is ask yourself wut is it about YOU that aligns you with those men. then change thatm and until u are a balanced human being, don't get with anyone, cuz you will only attract other imbalanced people.
I todally agree with you- i think everyone is kind of in between and that we can´t define ourselves as straight or gay or whatever . i dont think it matters - its just our society which is pushing us either way- and yes i chose more often guys but i am sure i could love girls the same way!
I'm 13 years old and I'm often call gay by my pears for the things I enjoy do and say but I do not think I'm gay. Some times I'm not so shore tho. But I do fell the preacher to figure it out. I do like Wiman infect i like U.( but that's not the point). Can u please make a video about this topic for me your biggest fan. Thank you gust potting my filings do has mad me feel better. Oh and if there is any confusion I am a Man a Young Man. So thank you for all your help so fare, and in the fucher.
@Insomniacwithnolife That's because Apple is no longer supporting Flash. And youtube is trying to convert to HTML5 (I think that's it). So it'll take a long time for them to sort it all out... but obviously all these videos are available online.
The scale to which she is referring is actually 1-6, not 1-5, and it's called the Kinsey scale. Just a little point of clarification there in case anybody wants to research it further... And I would DEFINITELY recommend researching Dr. Kinsey or seeing the movie Kinsey. If you love learning about sex, he will be your friend.
Queer is unable or unwilling to be classified. You can be heterosexual and still be queer if you accept that your heterosexuality is a tendency, and not an absolute. Also, bi implies that there are only 2 genders or 2 sexes, which is simply not true, or that you are only attracted to defined men or women, which might be.
Finally, crossdressers are not necessarily transgender. Tg is about your identity, and sometimes xdress is just about style and comfort.
@mxrubyben I disagree with that popular notion. There ARE only two genders. the fact that
- everyone is somewhere inbetween the two extremes and
- noone is one hundred percent one of them
doesn't take away from that. neglecting the fundaments of the system may be a strong philosophical point when you throw it in the face of someone who isn't even aware of the existance of things like asexuality, but actually the only problem with the system is that contemporary societies assume it is simple.
Bisexual is a term that you like both genders. Most of my bisexual friends prefer one gender but still have sexual feelings for both genders. Pansexual is no preference. This is also called being gender blind and it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman. Please respond to this comment
Pansexual doesn't necessary mean no preference. It simply refers to one who is attracted to "all" genders: men, women, and those who fall outside the gender binary.
Queer is an umbrella term, but from what ive seen now people use it more to identify that there not specifically one gender, as in they don't prefer to be one gender, like the bisexuals of the gender world But maybe thats just with my circle of friends.
You really get it. See, I'm definitely not straight, but I don't fall into L, G, B, Q, *or* T. It's weird having to explain that to people. It's great that you have such an open mind.
Queer is a umbrella term for any one who isnt straight like lesbian, gay ,bisexual,queer,genderqueer,transgender,transexual(yes gender and sexual are different.)intersex,pansexual etc. but they dont feel like the idenity so they feel confortable with the label queer. im not an expert i think thats what queer means im not gay so i dont know too much but i tried to identify that . i feel alot teenagers go thru trying to defining themselves. and the kinsey scale says its a huge spectrum
hey i just started watching your vids tonight. pretty good so far. anywho queer or questioning is pretty much the same thing. i believe the actually definition of queer is,Of a questionable nature or character; suspicious. so its lik someone whos like you were saying not "gay" or "lesbiean" not "straight" but not exactlly "bi" either. I'm not sure if anyone has responded to that i didn't read your comments but i thought i'ed let you know. anyways keep up the good work
omg I love you lol!!! See.. you seem to understand... sexuality is very fluid.. you are who you are.... people should not be made to fit into cookie cutter steriotypes!! I am definately subscribing to you!! Thank you so much
Ahh and I have this saying that we're never ready for the really big, really scary things in life. We become ready through the experience of doing them... It's like jumping from a cliff and only sprouting wings the moment we begin to fall.
one more thing tht i wanted to add our culture combined with human nature tend to want us to define ourself for safeties sake. if we define ourselves a certain way then we conveniently have our clique to work with as in support and acceptance, therefore fear is diminished...what we dont realize is that fear is a catalyst to growth and expansion...with fear in our hearts we need to cut the strings that hold us
I'm not personally a fan of the alphabet soup classification thing. People are who they are, and do what the do, do we really need to pigeonhole everyone into discreet categories so others can be assured of their sexuality? In ancient times, in many societies, these definitions didn't exist, and it was considered unusual for anyone to exclusively prefer one sex to the other.
We have this impulse to try to put everyone into a category. The lead singers of "TATU" (Lena Katina and Yulia Volkova) are constantly asked in interviews whether or not they are lesbians. People seem to be obsessed with knowing whether they're actually lesbians or not. (Oh, and I should mention that the "Q" in LGBQT actually stands for "questioning")
I have had so many conversations with my friends who can't 'define' their sexuality. I think with most of them, it's just a case of assuring yourself that you know who you are, because being a teenager is all about finding yourself. You don't want to complicate things at the moment, you want to know how you are in the simplist way possible. I don't agree that society is 'forcing' us to brand ourselves, but I definitely think it has something to do with it.
some people who don't know if they are a 1 or 2 (on kinsley sacle)say they are bicurious that is why people are making sure you say Questioning because there are soooo many people questioning
I think all these, I mean homo and lez kind of different representations have to do with the fantaisies of each one.
Much to say about all this, so few space but comes to the fact that sexuality is meant to lead to reproduction and there it's a matter of odd fantaisies.
However, freedom for everybody to think and so to have fantaisies (fantaisies are part of the thoughts), so nothing wrong with it !
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Questioning, Transgendered (pre-op & post-op), Gender Fluid, Asexual, Gay/Lesbian/Bi-Asexual, A-romantic, Gay/Lesbian/Bi A-romantic. Basically any combo can be made with who you love or don't, who you wanna have sex with or don't, who your attracted to or not, and what your gender is or isn't.
what I meant was....you went to school for sex ed right? so there you are with like 30 other guys and girls talking about sex in class all day. It has to be the horniest group of people ever or is it the opposite? because I dated a girl that was taking sex ed when i was 19 and OH MY
Well I haven't even gotten my BA yet, almost done with that. The human sexuality classes I've taken were actually (while wonderfully interesting) quite full of not so interesting people. Lots of people take umm as electives or general ed classes... and when I get my advanced degree in it I want to focus on sexual abnormalities...
hey well i was kinda freaked out when about two years ago cause i didnt know if i liked guys or girls (im a girl btw) and i learned to accept myself and i basicly think that im open to both (bi) but my preference would be men. You are completly right when you say that society forces us to be on one side, or in a groupe... it sucks because most people arent open enough to LGBQT1's and some freakout when they see them.
what i wonder is can a girl really cross dress? ive seen lots of girls who have boyfriends who wear clothes that you'd think would be on a guy. any clarification?
Yay I'm so glad your touching on the subject especially the whole "You have to pick ur sexuality right away" thing I think Teens should have time to explore instead of being pushed into a life style that will only make them unhappy in the long run
I know I might get shot down here but no harm is meant at all.I think you are either straight or not all the others fall under the gay category just in different degrees,just a thought please don,t take offence!!!
Agree with you that despite the dictionary definition the term gay now only refers to males - pity someone can't come up with a more attractive word than l.e.s.b.i.a.n which always sounds so unattractive.......
It's amazing how fascinating hormones can trigger a fetus that starts out as a female and then transforms into all of these possibilities. The unfortunate part is when they evolve into walking and breathing human beings and have to reconcile with the rest of humanity with all its stigmas and prejudices. Thank goodness for diversity.
Interesting to read texts on this intriguing subject - perhaps an even wider audience could have been reached with a better title Kicesie. LGBQT isn't such a grabber as some of your others....appreciate you don't want to cheapen subject but headlines work!
I agree that gender & sexuality are fluid, in the sense that they can change in ways that might not be anticipated. But I think one has to be very careful to distinguish between the possibility of change generally and the possibility of voluntary change. From what I understand -- but you would know better than I do -- there are only rare cases in which individuals have been able deliberately to change their sexual orientation, and even in those cases the process is extremely difficult.
No, I'm not wrong. I'm not talking about dictionary definitions but communities definitions. It's the 'gay' community that has adopted this set (and more) of letters.
Opposed to what the common reactions will be, I feel we are all created a certain way naturally. I feel it is the minds of some that complicate sexuality and create definitions, added letters, terms, etc. When in essence it is their inability to grasp, cope, or understand who they are in the real life body they are born to.
Oh it's quite real, and quite well documented. And then there are people who are genetically and physically one gender but then their hormones are not what we would expect. There are SO many things that can vary with gender. It's not quite so either/or as we once thought.
I have seen some of your other videos. Is there another way to stay in communication with you? email, Im etc... I know you said you have run out of time but you are a rare find and would like to stay in touch from time to time.
Myspace? My account over there is relatively calm... so I pay more attention to messages, etc. (course of that gets out it might no longer be the case. lol) account name over there is is kicesies (make sure to put the S on the end.)
LOL, umm, I don't mind nicknames as long as not everybody starts calling me that. You can though. :-) I've quite a few nicknames in my life. I should vlog about it. lol
ok I think you are refering to intersexed people. Intersexuality is the state of a person whose sex chromosomes, genitalia and/or secondary sex characteristics are determined to be neither exclusively male nor female. A person with intersex may have biological characteristics of both the male and female sexes.
From a biological standpoint mistakes can happen in nature. But that is a very small % compared to everyone that calls themself gay,bi,queer,etc. If you notice a key phrase over and over is "find" themselves, or "explore". That is using the mind to alter your given biological makeup. You can just as easily reference studies on the mind and how it will believe something, even if it is a lie, through rationalization.
Hey guys I am LOVING your comments. Sorry I responded to so many but this is just so interesting to me and I'm getting SO much out of it! Please keep the comments coming!!
Interesting and sane thoughts you have about the teens. I think you are one of the sanest Psych's (or Psych student) that I've heard speak. Usually they just read from there books and don't apply common sence to what they say. Your right teens have enough to figure out in there own universe that they don't need to be pigion hold into one of those labels. Keep up the good work K-girl!!!
Don't you think it would be better if LGBQT people kept it confidential that they were like this so intolerant people could not treat them any different. I have been thinking lately that may be a better way to go that this trying to get people to accept them because the majority of people will always treat them different because they can't understand it.
I feel as though that would have been like asking women to dress and appear as men in earlier decades to they could get the respect and success and opporunities afforded only to men. It might have worked for some, in some situations, but who wants to live that 'lie'? Eventually we have to be respected for who we are. And that can't be done if everyone keeps pretending.
So I would totally agree with what you said about society pressuring people to find there sexuality, But I also think there may be other factors. For example, and I see this a lot a school, a girl/guy clams to be atracted to the same sex but many times this is due to a longing for attention. Once the person states they like the same sex they are labled gay or lesbian and it is hard to come back and fight that label.
I do fear that some. Like with the show 'South of Nowhere'. Targetted to mid-teens. Don't get me wrong, love the show, but it would have confused the hell out me even more when I was young because it makes lesbianism look SO 'cool' and attractive, fun, etc. While they deal with the hard aspects, in the end the characters come out looking like rebels with a great cause, and still very cool.... etc.
As in a recent video reply apparently there are two Qs used. :-) and two Ts... and I have found an I (intersex). And of course we MUST include asexual.... which is a video all on it's own one of these days as 10% of the american population is asexual at any given time. Wonderfully interesting stuff!
i thought gay and queer was the same thing... I'm pretty sure queer is the same as gay, you don't even hear queer very often, I thought it was a bad word for gays like fag. Queer cant be good because you know the game you play with football smear the queer. nice shirt btw.
I think they are trying to take back the word, which I'm always for... and use it to define something more... or less. But a few great hypothesis on it's meaning have been left in comments, worth checking out! thanks for the comment.
Oh yes! There is that one too!! I forgot! That's for reminding me. :-D Let's have a 100 point scale and each day we can redefine where, alone that scale we feel for the day. :-P Or in the given situation. My point being, the fluidity of sexuality as well as gender... but I've said that enough it seems. :-)
o.O um... okay... i dont really care i wasnt tying to make any point, and trust me i know how confusing it all can be, i was just pointing out how that reminded me of the kinsey scale, and how doctor kinsey himself said that he often changed his opinion of where he was on the scale.
My other one is for vlogs.... ie. videos where I talk about me and my life. They were removed from this channel due to people's lack of boundries, etc. I am actually more fond of my other channel, probably because it's closer to the heart. :-) But yeah, if you want to listen to vlogs or things outside of sexual issues, please visit that channel, subscribe, etc. Would love to have you!
Well sexual preference is something very personal and very private!! Me as a straight and married for 6 years now with 2 children at the age of 31, i still find woman's body one of the best creations i have ever touched or sensed in the living world!!! Of course i don't think that different sexual preferences LGBQT is wrong as far as the person is having fun in his/her sex live but i preffer orthodox old time classic sex,man+woman etc.
Keep up the good work Kicesie, hope 2 c soon part2!!! C U
I think defining yourself -- i.e., knowing yourself well enough to be able to describe yourself *to* yourself in some detail -- is a healthy manifestation of self-knowledge and personal growth. What's unhealthy is trying to fit into other people's expectations or pigeon holes. But you're right; not only will youth not necessarily have a firm definition in this sense, but *nobody's* self-definition is ever entirely complete and immutable.
Thanks for posting this comment!! I think it's exactly what I wanted to say but didn't have the words for!!!! I'll, without a doubt, quote it in part three! SO true!!
you know that's why everybody does really become straight because society pressures everyone to become straight.. and she's right during preteen and teen you do have a lot to figure it out! im still figuring it out...i hate labels...if i like girls or boys why does it matter? all that matters that im me and choose to stay true to myself and go with what i feel natural to me. i have love for everyone who says it only has to be a certain gender? respond kicesie if you want.
I've always said, 'why can't there be a term "sexual"... as in, "I'm not bisexual. I'm just sexual."'? heh... I think, ultimately, we are attracted to someone's essence, however you want to define that... and gender plays a role, but gender is fluid as well and not static. So yeah, I understand what you're saying.
i say we're all undifined and pending, in an everchanging motion. also i think lgbqt's are still people i don't care who you find love with, i only hope that you find love.
i totally agree.(did i just type toatally,WOW) anywho, no offense to any one but i refuse to believe in statistics, i don't need ppl to tell me what population of my race will fail or what ever i'd rather just focus on succeeding.(just an example)
also i agree with most of ur points which is why i subscribed
(ran out of room) I haven't seen the Q tossed into LBGT much at all. Queer in context seems mainly a political stance and identity and taking back language...not really an orientation. I won't claim authority on the subject though...
thanks for this topic. I guess I'd be in the middle of your scale as I am attracted to both men and women. It is a shame that there is such pressure for kids to "pick a team" early on...I'm approaching middle age and still find my feelings on the subject evolving. It's like telling kids, Spinach, love it or hate it, choose now and stick to that for your life!
RE: The sexual preference Psychology grading from 1-5 that you refer to, where grades 2 and 4 are rather ambigous, because society hasn't decided yet what should fall under their umbrella...I was thinking that bicuriosity should fall under these grades? What do you reckon, Kicesie?
Curiosity suggests a transitory or exploritory stage. Many people will prefer the opposite gender with occational (sexual, emotional, spiritual) attractions to a same gendered person for their whole life. It is not best described as 'curious'. One knows, has been there perhaps, and that's their sexual preference identity.
Kicesie: Im a little bit confused here. People that cross dress...are they not known as transvestites? It makes sense (vestite coming from latin VESTIR i.e. to dress)?
Cross-dressing and transvestism are different due to the reasons for doing it. Transvestism is a sexual fetish, cross-dressing is more gender identity.
are you sure Queer is on of them... i've never heard a Q in there... its just a derogatory slur for gays.... but as for defining urself... like im gay/bi .. erm but i dont think its so much society that pressures pple into defining themselves, but its the person themselves, i mean not knowing who your attracted to kinda sucks, like going on dates, going to dances, etc is all screwed up..
What is the design on your shirt? Sometimes it looks like rabbit to me; sometimes, like a lobster; and sometimes, like a woman dancing; and often it doesn't look like any of those things and just makes me wonder what it is.
I like the scene layout. I recall that you are a lover of pink. I'm not, but I appreciate any color used to good aesthetic effect in a video. And...OK, I know the rules; I won't say you're h_t...Let's just say you're fiancé is lucky. (Of course, that would be true no matter what you looked like, but...after all, YouTube is a visual medium....When you sit up straight, you look like a goddess...and your look fits into the rest of the scene...)
I believe, that it is really as much a freedom of choice issue, as it is not to have arranged marriages anymore. It is all a decision about who we are "supposed" to love.
The mot base functionality of English language is based upon pronouns. People have to define themselves as one or the other, or if they do sit somewhere in the middle (even in terms of sexuality) - people are confused and not sure how to react. Being queer can be treated in the same way. You don't identify as straight? The straight sphere is confused. You don't identify as gay, yet are sleeping with those of the same gender? The gay community is confused.
i feel thoughts of homsexuality and lesbianism are relative to growing up, the mind at the critical age of growing up! everyone has thoughts like these but it's part of growing up ! the challenge's in life are almost all in the mind, but for younger people in your sexuality i suggest being patient and folwing the ebn flow or your heart, and in times of trouble just be yourself!
My thoughts about "finding" your sexuality is, it's the same as coming to understand yourself. Everyone moves at their own pace some people, know what they want early some don't. Why people think it should happen at certain point is beyond me, there's proof that people find out they like others of the same sex at a number of age ranges.
Kicesie, is the flower, the ribbon tied around it and your shirt (more spcifically the color of each item) your way of supporting Breast Cancer Awareness month? At first I didn't understand why you had situated yourself so far to the right. The potential reason didn't come to me until about 2/3 of the way through this episode. I hope i guessed correctly.
The semantic ambiguity as to whether a woman can be "gay" has been around at least since the early 1980s, when I was in college. I thought Ellen Degeneres had settled it a few years ago when she came out using the word "gay" and declared that she didn't like the word "lesbian". I guess not.
Another great Vid kicesie, not my pick of subject matter, but worth watching just to find out what LGBQT means. Sorry I'm just a naive country lad from Aus.
I think a distinction should be drawn between "sexual orientation" and "gender identity". This seems to be missing from the way most people think about the subject. It's really two separate things in many respects.
I agree it's two seperate things. Very seperate. But I was making the point that I believe both are fluid and both not static as well as not completely definable, however much we wish we had easy definitions and explanations for everything in our world.
Well just got home from work and find this video on LGBQT. :) You amaze me on the wide range of subjects. Looking forward to the Part 2. Oh, is that you in the portrait to your right? have a great day. - dave -
*paused at 2:35* I think there is a word for that already.
I would call that "bi-curious". This terms seems to be gaining some popularity. Eh..., I'd consider myself to be bi-curious I suppose. This to me it seems to imply somewhere between hetero- and bi-. Not sure what to use for between homo- and bi-. I'd like to know though.
"I always thought queer was just the same as gay?" <- I did too, but I just looked it up. Queer means "sexually wierd/strange", and not necessarily homosexual at all. Not convinced it needs to be a letter in there though.
It likely stands for bestiality, incest, paedophilia, polygamy, necrophilia and sadomasochism. They have always been part of the movement, they're just kept at a low profile.
Never heard that one as bestiality, pedophilia, and S&M are all a far cry from one another. If they are in any way a part of each other it's very 'covert'. heh
It is, one just need to read their literature to discover the concealed components. Note, I'm not the one grouping them together, they are, and it's quite disturbing when the movement seeks to overturn laws, re-write government policies, or even legally force insurance companies to cover sex changes, cities to fund drag queen shows and get gay fairy tales in elementary school curriculum, etc...
I'm going on record as completely disagreeing with you. This is an open forum for growth and discussion but not for defamation or slander. I read the major research journels.... and if your studies aren't in there, they aren't credible enough. I got the files you sent... haven't finished reading them but they look like hogwash to me.
Actually, 'queer' is an umbrella term that some individuals in the gay community adopt because of the freedom within that title. For example, a lesbian may also be attracted to transgendered males. Or, perhaps someone is interested in both females and males, but chooses not to believe in gender and loves individuals based upon their own characteristics and not their gender. It's a freeing term which states anything known other than 'straight'.
It's the most widely accepted definition in the gay community because it also adopts trans gendered people into the definition... who aren't necessarily considered 'gay' if their gender identification is male and their partner is female. I think you should definitely talk about gender identification in your next set. I think it's very important to clarify that sexuality, preference, gender identification, and the like are different things.
If a search in the PsychINFO database of research can't pull this kind of info, it's not academically reliable to me. Not to mention any studies without peer review and clear expression of their funding, etc, are questionable if not completely without merit.
Sorry kicesie, but I don't understand why you're suddenly getting defensive. I'm not defaming or slandering, I'm participating in the discussion. If we're going to have a serious discussion on this, let's put everything on the table, not only things permissible to the "community", which by the way is known to censor or prevent discussion.
That is like us having a discussion on ethnic equality and someone bringing up the bell curve and discussing the possibility that different ethnicities don't have as high an IQ as others. It's been hashed, rehashed and it's hurtful. It's destructive. It's misunderstood. More in an email to you....:
I can't be sure exactly who that reply was to. I'm sorry if I used a 'they' 'we' terminology. I didn't mean to if I did. That does suggest a seperation, a turning against each other, etc.
the Q is technically for Queer , and if you go to websites like Downelink(dot)com Queer will be on there . Queer kinda means, fluid between all of those other Letters, or no definition,.. Like '' I'm just a freak , i do whutever '' kinda thing... But there is various other sexualities, that i've known about for years & that now many youngers are Learning about and identifying with as it allows more freedom which we all want.. Like for instance - A-sexual & Pansexual ! I'm a Shaman, so i change!
G0LDENL0VEMUSIC 8 months ago
I am very happy you made this video, if only more people can see it. I and proud to say that idk what the heck i am. People can come up and ask me, you are bi, or straight right??? I am too young to decide and people need to understand that.
Maddiehouse 10 months ago
@kicesie ok for a long time I've been having troubles getting a boyfriend or if I do get one, he's an ass. So many people have told me "well hey if you're having boy troubles, just become a lesbian" and they're completely serious. I'm not attracted to women and I never have been, and I've always thought that sexuality had to do with being physically attracted, not just convenience. Can you help?
Insomniacwithnolife 10 months ago
@Insomniacwithnolife lOl , why do you feel the need to take their advice ? Sexuality IS about Sexual attraction . if your having trouble attracting the kind of man you want to get with, its not gonna change if u get with a women, you'd then just attract women that are bxtches lOl . Wut u have to do is ask yourself wut is it about YOU that aligns you with those men. then change thatm and until u are a balanced human being, don't get with anyone, cuz you will only attract other imbalanced people.
G0LDENL0VEMUSIC 8 months ago
I todally agree with you- i think everyone is kind of in between and that we can´t define ourselves as straight or gay or whatever . i dont think it matters - its just our society which is pushing us either way- and yes i chose more often guys but i am sure i could love girls the same way!
LouNalim 1 year ago
I'm 13 years old and I'm often call gay by my pears for the things I enjoy do and say but I do not think I'm gay. Some times I'm not so shore tho. But I do fell the preacher to figure it out. I do like Wiman infect i like U.( but that's not the point). Can u please make a video about this topic for me your biggest fan. Thank you gust potting my filings do has mad me feel better. Oh and if there is any confusion I am a Man a Young Man. So thank you for all your help so fare, and in the fucher.
MeAlex001 1 year ago
Some of these videos say it's not allowed to play back on my iPhone so i can't watch part two of a bunch of stuff :'(
Insomniacwithnolife 1 year ago
@Insomniacwithnolife That's because Apple is no longer supporting Flash. And youtube is trying to convert to HTML5 (I think that's it). So it'll take a long time for them to sort it all out... but obviously all these videos are available online.
kicesie 1 year ago
I thought Q was for Questioning
chocolateluver117 1 year ago
@chocolateluver117 Most people now add two Qs.... for both. :-)
kicesie 1 year ago
Queer is also a word more open and less labeling for any kind of gender queerness or sexual preferences.
ravenwyld 1 year ago
pansexual. into ppl not genitalia. i feel gender is irrelevant.
ravenwyld 1 year ago
In our high school GSA (gay-straight alliance) Club, we refer to the "Q" in LGBQT as "questioning."
:-)
LoveElisaveta 1 year ago
Many groups now put two Qs, both for Queer and Questioning.
kicesie 1 year ago
The scale to which she is referring is actually 1-6, not 1-5, and it's called the Kinsey scale. Just a little point of clarification there in case anybody wants to research it further... And I would DEFINITELY recommend researching Dr. Kinsey or seeing the movie Kinsey. If you love learning about sex, he will be your friend.
sillyg00sey 2 years ago
There are actually about 4 or more common scales like this.
kicesie 2 years ago
Queer is unable or unwilling to be classified. You can be heterosexual and still be queer if you accept that your heterosexuality is a tendency, and not an absolute. Also, bi implies that there are only 2 genders or 2 sexes, which is simply not true, or that you are only attracted to defined men or women, which might be.
Finally, crossdressers are not necessarily transgender. Tg is about your identity, and sometimes xdress is just about style and comfort.
I think it's cool that you took this on.
mxrubyben 2 years ago
Thanks so much for your input! SO many people were adamant that there WAS no 'queer' 'category'.
You helped explain it a lot! Awesome!
kicesie 2 years ago
@mxrubyben I disagree with that popular notion. There ARE only two genders. the fact that
- everyone is somewhere inbetween the two extremes and
- noone is one hundred percent one of them
doesn't take away from that. neglecting the fundaments of the system may be a strong philosophical point when you throw it in the face of someone who isn't even aware of the existance of things like asexuality, but actually the only problem with the system is that contemporary societies assume it is simple.
SuckItLily 1 year ago
They include "queer" so you
can say "LGB . . . CUTIE!"
nErUaLeNiAlE 2 years ago
Bisexual is a term that you like both genders. Most of my bisexual friends prefer one gender but still have sexual feelings for both genders. Pansexual is no preference. This is also called being gender blind and it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman. Please respond to this comment
TheAmazingLiberalist 2 years ago
Pansexual doesn't necessary mean no preference. It simply refers to one who is attracted to "all" genders: men, women, and those who fall outside the gender binary.
FM897 1 year ago
Queer is an umbrella term, but from what ive seen now people use it more to identify that there not specifically one gender, as in they don't prefer to be one gender, like the bisexuals of the gender world But maybe thats just with my circle of friends.
XCDaoustX 2 years ago
You really get it. See, I'm definitely not straight, but I don't fall into L, G, B, Q, *or* T. It's weird having to explain that to people. It's great that you have such an open mind.
SpasticFlailure 2 years ago
@SpasticFlailure then out of curiousity, how would you describe what you are?
SuckItLily 1 year ago
Queer is a umbrella term for any one who isnt straight like lesbian, gay ,bisexual,queer,genderqueer,transgender,transexual(yes gender and sexual are different.)intersex,pansexual etc. but they dont feel like the idenity so they feel confortable with the label queer. im not an expert i think thats what queer means im not gay so i dont know too much but i tried to identify that . i feel alot teenagers go thru trying to defining themselves. and the kinsey scale says its a huge spectrum
DeadEndJustice13 2 years ago
hey i just started watching your vids tonight. pretty good so far. anywho queer or questioning is pretty much the same thing. i believe the actually definition of queer is,Of a questionable nature or character; suspicious. so its lik someone whos like you were saying not "gay" or "lesbiean" not "straight" but not exactlly "bi" either. I'm not sure if anyone has responded to that i didn't read your comments but i thought i'ed let you know. anyways keep up the good work
abc123cda321 4 years ago 13
omg I love you lol!!! See.. you seem to understand... sexuality is very fluid.. you are who you are.... people should not be made to fit into cookie cutter steriotypes!! I am definately subscribing to you!! Thank you so much
lovesomeonea 4 years ago 66
growth and expansion should not be comforting it should border on the same way one would feel jumping off a cliff and expecting to fly
ripster100 4 years ago 6
Ahh and I have this saying that we're never ready for the really big, really scary things in life. We become ready through the experience of doing them... It's like jumping from a cliff and only sprouting wings the moment we begin to fall.
kicesie 4 years ago
one more thing tht i wanted to add our culture combined with human nature tend to want us to define ourself for safeties sake. if we define ourselves a certain way then we conveniently have our clique to work with as in support and acceptance, therefore fear is diminished...what we dont realize is that fear is a catalyst to growth and expansion...with fear in our hearts we need to cut the strings that hold us
ripster100 4 years ago 11
why define yourself at all...the ultimate expression is just BE
ripster100 4 years ago 35
Your technique is beautiful. Keep it up. Spread the word and the awakening is occuring.
SACT NIKA
Hcone Nortatem Fonos
KBDSTEALTH 4 years ago 8
I'm not personally a fan of the alphabet soup classification thing. People are who they are, and do what the do, do we really need to pigeonhole everyone into discreet categories so others can be assured of their sexuality? In ancient times, in many societies, these definitions didn't exist, and it was considered unusual for anyone to exclusively prefer one sex to the other.
theistus 4 years ago 11
We have this impulse to try to put everyone into a category. The lead singers of "TATU" (Lena Katina and Yulia Volkova) are constantly asked in interviews whether or not they are lesbians. People seem to be obsessed with knowing whether they're actually lesbians or not. (Oh, and I should mention that the "Q" in LGBQT actually stands for "questioning")
TheMathGuy 4 years ago 13
It's often LGBTTQQ for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Transexual, Queer, and Questioning.
mxrubyben 2 years ago
@TheMathGuy those two chicks admitted later that it was all an act. did you know that, mathguy from the past?
SuckItLily 1 year ago
I find transgendered people confusing.
FlowingGeisha 4 years ago
So do transgender people. It's confusing.
mxrubyben 2 years ago
I have had so many conversations with my friends who can't 'define' their sexuality. I think with most of them, it's just a case of assuring yourself that you know who you are, because being a teenager is all about finding yourself. You don't want to complicate things at the moment, you want to know how you are in the simplist way possible. I don't agree that society is 'forcing' us to brand ourselves, but I definitely think it has something to do with it.
yoyochickens 4 years ago 2
some people who don't know if they are a 1 or 2 (on kinsley sacle)say they are bicurious that is why people are making sure you say Questioning because there are soooo many people questioning
cmc103192 4 years ago 3
You're soooooo hot it's ridiculous!
32Pennies 4 years ago
I think all these, I mean homo and lez kind of different representations have to do with the fantaisies of each one.
Much to say about all this, so few space but comes to the fact that sexuality is meant to lead to reproduction and there it's a matter of odd fantaisies.
However, freedom for everybody to think and so to have fantaisies (fantaisies are part of the thoughts), so nothing wrong with it !
myth2k7 4 years ago
As time goes on less and less of our sexuality has anything to do with reproduction.
kicesie 4 years ago
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Questioning, Transgendered (pre-op & post-op), Gender Fluid, Asexual, Gay/Lesbian/Bi-Asexual, A-romantic, Gay/Lesbian/Bi A-romantic. Basically any combo can be made with who you love or don't, who you wanna have sex with or don't, who your attracted to or not, and what your gender is or isn't.
ClosetCaseLez 4 years ago 3
Thanks for the comment! So completely true!
kicesie 4 years ago
"Q" does mean "Questioning" NOT QUEER!!! It means questioning.
bigbootyprincess09 4 years ago
I don't think you should be forced into a certain description. You are who you are and you shouldn't be categorized by your lifestyle preference.
Skyesoldier00 4 years ago 2
dont you ever want to have sex with people in your class?
murbones 4 years ago
....??
kicesie 4 years ago
what I meant was....you went to school for sex ed right? so there you are with like 30 other guys and girls talking about sex in class all day. It has to be the horniest group of people ever or is it the opposite? because I dated a girl that was taking sex ed when i was 19 and OH MY
murbones 4 years ago 4
Well I haven't even gotten my BA yet, almost done with that. The human sexuality classes I've taken were actually (while wonderfully interesting) quite full of not so interesting people. Lots of people take umm as electives or general ed classes... and when I get my advanced degree in it I want to focus on sexual abnormalities...
kicesie 4 years ago
Doesn't the Q stand for "Questioning"? Like when you don't really know if you are Gay or not.
Benjamin82watches 4 years ago
hey well i was kinda freaked out when about two years ago cause i didnt know if i liked guys or girls (im a girl btw) and i learned to accept myself and i basicly think that im open to both (bi) but my preference would be men. You are completly right when you say that society forces us to be on one side, or in a groupe... it sucks because most people arent open enough to LGBQT1's and some freakout when they see them.
music4ever13 4 years ago
Sorry lol this has NOTHING to do with this but
I didn't mean to send u so many messages but could u reply TO my (Supposed to be lol) 1 message Kicesie????
Just to make this relevent lol.
I'm 100% streight even tho I'm a virgin :(
qwweetrtr7777777 4 years ago
I don't check messages much at all anymore.
kicesie 4 years ago
I don't think being Gay or straight has anything to do with a person being a virgin or not.
Benjamin82watches 4 years ago
Transsexual?...click on 777tao...100% female.
777tao 4 years ago
what i wonder is can a girl really cross dress? ive seen lots of girls who have boyfriends who wear clothes that you'd think would be on a guy. any clarification?
edwinshap 4 years ago
Ever seen 9 1/2 weeks? Great female crossdressing scene in there. Tons of pictures on the net as examples... some hot, some not-so-hot.
kicesie 4 years ago
ok so.....i love you!!!!! i swear you are the most kick ass person i know!!!
LuckyLoser611 4 years ago
Yay I'm so glad your touching on the subject especially the whole "You have to pick ur sexuality right away" thing I think Teens should have time to explore instead of being pushed into a life style that will only make them unhappy in the long run
SliverChick123 4 years ago
Damn she is hot
geometrovert 4 years ago
True I guess either or lol,nowadays the later is probably more true.
humblebear2000 4 years ago
I know I might get shot down here but no harm is meant at all.I think you are either straight or not all the others fall under the gay category just in different degrees,just a thought please don,t take offence!!!
humblebear2000 4 years ago
Or it could be said that everyone is gay except for those who are straight in varying degrees.
Just sayin... it can be seen the other way too.
kicesie 4 years ago
Agree with you that despite the dictionary definition the term gay now only refers to males - pity someone can't come up with a more attractive word than l.e.s.b.i.a.n which always sounds so unattractive.......
poldhuahoy 4 years ago
Shades of pink sex........?
More difficult than I thought to think of something original and a grabber!
What's on your t-shirt Kicesie?
poldhuahoy 4 years ago
It's a woman.... anyhow, umm... I'll try that title with the original title in parathesis maybe...
kicesie 4 years ago
It's amazing how fascinating hormones can trigger a fetus that starts out as a female and then transforms into all of these possibilities. The unfortunate part is when they evolve into walking and breathing human beings and have to reconcile with the rest of humanity with all its stigmas and prejudices. Thank goodness for diversity.
pongman 4 years ago 2
Interesting to read texts on this intriguing subject - perhaps an even wider audience could have been reached with a better title Kicesie. LGBQT isn't such a grabber as some of your others....appreciate you don't want to cheapen subject but headlines work!
poldhuahoy 4 years ago
Want to suggest a title? I'll use it temporarily to see what it does perhaps.
kicesie 4 years ago
I agree that gender & sexuality are fluid, in the sense that they can change in ways that might not be anticipated. But I think one has to be very careful to distinguish between the possibility of change generally and the possibility of voluntary change. From what I understand -- but you would know better than I do -- there are only rare cases in which individuals have been able deliberately to change their sexual orientation, and even in those cases the process is extremely difficult.
DClaudeKatz 4 years ago
Very much agreed. I don't think it's something one controls.
kicesie 4 years ago
I don't see what difference it makes whether it's voluntary. Usually you can't control your preferences, but if you can, more power to you.
JasonMelancon 4 years ago 3
gay [gay]
adjective (comparative gay·er, superlative gay·est)
1. attracted to same sex: relating to sexual attraction or activity among members of the same sex
As you see the dictionary Clearly shows that gay does not only apply to males. You are dead wrong. Gay does not refer to males more then Female.
Wildatheart73 4 years ago
No, I'm not wrong. I'm not talking about dictionary definitions but communities definitions. It's the 'gay' community that has adopted this set (and more) of letters.
kicesie 4 years ago
omg! I thought about asking you to make a video about this topic, just today :D:D:D and here oyu are :)
janapink 4 years ago
Opposed to what the common reactions will be, I feel we are all created a certain way naturally. I feel it is the minds of some that complicate sexuality and create definitions, added letters, terms, etc. When in essence it is their inability to grasp, cope, or understand who they are in the real life body they are born to.
jberg411 4 years ago
What of the people who are born with the genetics for one gender and the physical bodies of the opposite one? etc...?
kicesie 4 years ago
Is there such a thing? or is it a theory that some have put forward?
thetaracer 4 years ago
Oh it's quite real, and quite well documented. And then there are people who are genetically and physically one gender but then their hormones are not what we would expect. There are SO many things that can vary with gender. It's not quite so either/or as we once thought.
kicesie 4 years ago
I have seen some of your other videos. Is there another way to stay in communication with you? email, Im etc... I know you said you have run out of time but you are a rare find and would like to stay in touch from time to time.
thetaracer 4 years ago
Myspace? My account over there is relatively calm... so I pay more attention to messages, etc. (course of that gets out it might no longer be the case. lol) account name over there is is kicesies (make sure to put the S on the end.)
kicesie 4 years ago
Cool...Thanks...got to hit the hay. I hope you don't mind nicknames? K-girl seems to fit.
thetaracer 4 years ago
LOL, umm, I don't mind nicknames as long as not everybody starts calling me that. You can though. :-) I've quite a few nicknames in my life. I should vlog about it. lol
kicesie 4 years ago
ok I think you are refering to intersexed people. Intersexuality is the state of a person whose sex chromosomes, genitalia and/or secondary sex characteristics are determined to be neither exclusively male nor female. A person with intersex may have biological characteristics of both the male and female sexes.
michelletg2006 4 years ago
From a biological standpoint mistakes can happen in nature. But that is a very small % compared to everyone that calls themself gay,bi,queer,etc. If you notice a key phrase over and over is "find" themselves, or "explore". That is using the mind to alter your given biological makeup. You can just as easily reference studies on the mind and how it will believe something, even if it is a lie, through rationalization.
jberg411 4 years ago
Hey guys I am LOVING your comments. Sorry I responded to so many but this is just so interesting to me and I'm getting SO much out of it! Please keep the comments coming!!
kicesie 4 years ago
Interesting and sane thoughts you have about the teens. I think you are one of the sanest Psych's (or Psych student) that I've heard speak. Usually they just read from there books and don't apply common sence to what they say. Your right teens have enough to figure out in there own universe that they don't need to be pigion hold into one of those labels. Keep up the good work K-girl!!!
thetaracer 4 years ago
Why thank you!!! :-D
kicesie 4 years ago
Very interesting, looking forward to part 2
nicks68 4 years ago
great video!!!
karlomak222 4 years ago
Don't you think it would be better if LGBQT people kept it confidential that they were like this so intolerant people could not treat them any different. I have been thinking lately that may be a better way to go that this trying to get people to accept them because the majority of people will always treat them different because they can't understand it.
stevedahl 4 years ago
I feel as though that would have been like asking women to dress and appear as men in earlier decades to they could get the respect and success and opporunities afforded only to men. It might have worked for some, in some situations, but who wants to live that 'lie'? Eventually we have to be respected for who we are. And that can't be done if everyone keeps pretending.
kicesie 4 years ago
So I would totally agree with what you said about society pressuring people to find there sexuality, But I also think there may be other factors. For example, and I see this a lot a school, a girl/guy clams to be atracted to the same sex but many times this is due to a longing for attention. Once the person states they like the same sex they are labled gay or lesbian and it is hard to come back and fight that label.
j2008d 4 years ago
I do fear that some. Like with the show 'South of Nowhere'. Targetted to mid-teens. Don't get me wrong, love the show, but it would have confused the hell out me even more when I was young because it makes lesbianism look SO 'cool' and attractive, fun, etc. While they deal with the hard aspects, in the end the characters come out looking like rebels with a great cause, and still very cool.... etc.
kicesie 4 years ago
ok transgender covers a brod range. It covers dragkings dragqueens crossdressers intersexed transexual and if i for got groop in this i am sorry.
michelletg2006 4 years ago
Thanks for pointing that out. :-)
kicesie 4 years ago
Q is Questioning. NOT queer lol.
KaneCyber 4 years ago
As in a recent video reply apparently there are two Qs used. :-) and two Ts... and I have found an I (intersex). And of course we MUST include asexual.... which is a video all on it's own one of these days as 10% of the american population is asexual at any given time. Wonderfully interesting stuff!
SO, LGBQQTTIA? :-D Oh, and then straight. :-)
kicesie 4 years ago
LOL! Oh, almost forgot me-A PANsexual:D So add that P in there lol.
KaneCyber 4 years ago
OMG this girl is so hot!
tomslatincom 4 years ago
i thought gay and queer was the same thing... I'm pretty sure queer is the same as gay, you don't even hear queer very often, I thought it was a bad word for gays like fag. Queer cant be good because you know the game you play with football smear the queer. nice shirt btw.
thetvirus 4 years ago
I think they are trying to take back the word, which I'm always for... and use it to define something more... or less. But a few great hypothesis on it's meaning have been left in comments, worth checking out! thanks for the comment.
kicesie 4 years ago
Great Work!
Swazi88 4 years ago
Thanks!
kicesie 4 years ago
5 points? i've always seen the kinsey scale from 0-6
Shaggmire 4 years ago
Oh yes! There is that one too!! I forgot! That's for reminding me. :-D Let's have a 100 point scale and each day we can redefine where, alone that scale we feel for the day. :-P Or in the given situation. My point being, the fluidity of sexuality as well as gender... but I've said that enough it seems. :-)
kicesie 4 years ago
o.O um... okay... i dont really care i wasnt tying to make any point, and trust me i know how confusing it all can be, i was just pointing out how that reminded me of the kinsey scale, and how doctor kinsey himself said that he often changed his opinion of where he was on the scale.
Shaggmire 4 years ago
i dont get what the difference between your two accounts are. should i add both of them?
hotpinkmonke 4 years ago
My other one is for vlogs.... ie. videos where I talk about me and my life. They were removed from this channel due to people's lack of boundries, etc. I am actually more fond of my other channel, probably because it's closer to the heart. :-) But yeah, if you want to listen to vlogs or things outside of sexual issues, please visit that channel, subscribe, etc. Would love to have you!
kicesie 4 years ago
im so glad your posting adult sex ed videos again!! please post the next one soon :)
heather0585 4 years ago
Well sexual preference is something very personal and very private!! Me as a straight and married for 6 years now with 2 children at the age of 31, i still find woman's body one of the best creations i have ever touched or sensed in the living world!!! Of course i don't think that different sexual preferences LGBQT is wrong as far as the person is having fun in his/her sex live but i preffer orthodox old time classic sex,man+woman etc.
Keep up the good work Kicesie, hope 2 c soon part2!!! C U
pavlos340 4 years ago
I think defining yourself -- i.e., knowing yourself well enough to be able to describe yourself *to* yourself in some detail -- is a healthy manifestation of self-knowledge and personal growth. What's unhealthy is trying to fit into other people's expectations or pigeon holes. But you're right; not only will youth not necessarily have a firm definition in this sense, but *nobody's* self-definition is ever entirely complete and immutable.
JasonMelancon 4 years ago
Thanks for posting this comment!! I think it's exactly what I wanted to say but didn't have the words for!!!! I'll, without a doubt, quote it in part three! SO true!!
kicesie 4 years ago
My pleasure! I'm just pleased that it finally posted. LOL
JasonMelancon 4 years ago
you know that's why everybody does really become straight because society pressures everyone to become straight.. and she's right during preteen and teen you do have a lot to figure it out! im still figuring it out...i hate labels...if i like girls or boys why does it matter? all that matters that im me and choose to stay true to myself and go with what i feel natural to me. i have love for everyone who says it only has to be a certain gender? respond kicesie if you want.
jeffhyuga91 4 years ago
I've always said, 'why can't there be a term "sexual"... as in, "I'm not bisexual. I'm just sexual."'? heh... I think, ultimately, we are attracted to someone's essence, however you want to define that... and gender plays a role, but gender is fluid as well and not static. So yeah, I understand what you're saying.
kicesie 4 years ago
i say we're all undifined and pending, in an everchanging motion. also i think lgbqt's are still people i don't care who you find love with, i only hope that you find love.
Diamond121212 4 years ago
That's why I said I think it's fluid... and not static. For some more than others. Sexuality is sexuality... in my opinion.
kicesie 4 years ago
i totally agree.(did i just type toatally,WOW) anywho, no offense to any one but i refuse to believe in statistics, i don't need ppl to tell me what population of my race will fail or what ever i'd rather just focus on succeeding.(just an example)
also i agree with most of ur points which is why i subscribed
Diamond121212 4 years ago
(ran out of room) I haven't seen the Q tossed into LBGT much at all. Queer in context seems mainly a political stance and identity and taking back language...not really an orientation. I won't claim authority on the subject though...
GretchenDawntreader 4 years ago
thanks for this topic. I guess I'd be in the middle of your scale as I am attracted to both men and women. It is a shame that there is such pressure for kids to "pick a team" early on...I'm approaching middle age and still find my feelings on the subject evolving. It's like telling kids, Spinach, love it or hate it, choose now and stick to that for your life!
GretchenDawntreader 4 years ago
i love this gurl, keep up the good work
trigun1231 4 years ago 4
RE: The sexual preference Psychology grading from 1-5 that you refer to, where grades 2 and 4 are rather ambigous, because society hasn't decided yet what should fall under their umbrella...I was thinking that bicuriosity should fall under these grades? What do you reckon, Kicesie?
I'm hooked on your classes now :P
filthiestfish 4 years ago
Curiosity suggests a transitory or exploritory stage. Many people will prefer the opposite gender with occational (sexual, emotional, spiritual) attractions to a same gendered person for their whole life. It is not best described as 'curious'. One knows, has been there perhaps, and that's their sexual preference identity.
kicesie 4 years ago
Great video Kicesie. Enjoyed watching it, lookin' forward to Part 2.
keyransolo 4 years ago
Kicesie: Im a little bit confused here. People that cross dress...are they not known as transvestites? It makes sense (vestite coming from latin VESTIR i.e. to dress)?
filthiestfish 4 years ago
Cross-dressing and transvestism are different due to the reasons for doing it. Transvestism is a sexual fetish, cross-dressing is more gender identity.
amokk13 4 years ago
I've seen the Rocky Horror Picture Show.
I understand the differences!
tyeporter 4 years ago
are you sure Queer is on of them... i've never heard a Q in there... its just a derogatory slur for gays.... but as for defining urself... like im gay/bi .. erm but i dont think its so much society that pressures pple into defining themselves, but its the person themselves, i mean not knowing who your attracted to kinda sucks, like going on dates, going to dances, etc is all screwed up..
tylermanchesteruntd 4 years ago
Can anyone say if gay / lesbian sex is as satisfying as 'orthodox' sex?
poldhuahoy 4 years ago
I think gay/lesbian people would say it is more satisfying to them. I think that's the point.
kicesie 4 years ago
I don't understand the question.
Regardless of one's lifestyle choice, his lifestyle and actions are going to be satisfying to him, right?
If one claims to be homosexual he usually says that living as a hetrosexual was a living hell until he "came out".
tyeporter 4 years ago
What is the design on your shirt? Sometimes it looks like rabbit to me; sometimes, like a lobster; and sometimes, like a woman dancing; and often it doesn't look like any of those things and just makes me wonder what it is.
DClaudeKatz 4 years ago
I like the scene layout. I recall that you are a lover of pink. I'm not, but I appreciate any color used to good aesthetic effect in a video. And...OK, I know the rules; I won't say you're h_t...Let's just say you're fiancé is lucky. (Of course, that would be true no matter what you looked like, but...after all, YouTube is a visual medium....When you sit up straight, you look like a goddess...and your look fits into the rest of the scene...)
DClaudeKatz 4 years ago
so what am i lol
RgB
roccigiovanniberrini 4 years ago
You look so professional, Kicesie!
I love this video, I think it's really great you're doing this topic.
<3
hellomoseph 4 years ago
I believe, that it is really as much a freedom of choice issue, as it is not to have arranged marriages anymore. It is all a decision about who we are "supposed" to love.
Benjamin82watches 4 years ago 2
Definitely agree.
kicesie 4 years ago
..so why do people let society pressure them?
is this a weakness...or an insecurity?
either way I believe that I have bested society's pressure.
F0XTR0T 4 years ago
The mot base functionality of English language is based upon pronouns. People have to define themselves as one or the other, or if they do sit somewhere in the middle (even in terms of sexuality) - people are confused and not sure how to react. Being queer can be treated in the same way. You don't identify as straight? The straight sphere is confused. You don't identify as gay, yet are sleeping with those of the same gender? The gay community is confused.
lapetiteoiseau 4 years ago
i feel thoughts of homsexuality and lesbianism are relative to growing up, the mind at the critical age of growing up! everyone has thoughts like these but it's part of growing up ! the challenge's in life are almost all in the mind, but for younger people in your sexuality i suggest being patient and folwing the ebn flow or your heart, and in times of trouble just be yourself!
187beyond 4 years ago
My thoughts about "finding" your sexuality is, it's the same as coming to understand yourself. Everyone moves at their own pace some people, know what they want early some don't. Why people think it should happen at certain point is beyond me, there's proof that people find out they like others of the same sex at a number of age ranges.
slackerbum0518 4 years ago
Kicesie, is the flower, the ribbon tied around it and your shirt (more spcifically the color of each item) your way of supporting Breast Cancer Awareness month? At first I didn't understand why you had situated yourself so far to the right. The potential reason didn't come to me until about 2/3 of the way through this episode. I hope i guessed correctly.
Ozzman500 4 years ago
I love the glasses they bring out your high lights and make you that much more beautiful.
DashHopes 4 years ago
What is the difference in Queers and Gays?
bhutaneseguy 4 years ago
Kicesie, Did you get a breast enhancement or are you just naturally blessed. You look great!
music3639 4 years ago
No I've never had surgery. And my 'breasts' are not up for discussion!
kicesie 4 years ago
Ha ha ha!
SNAP!
tyeporter 4 years ago
I like the 'Seinfeld' answer. "They are real and they are spectacular". lol :)
Brianj1234 4 years ago
The semantic ambiguity as to whether a woman can be "gay" has been around at least since the early 1980s, when I was in college. I thought Ellen Degeneres had settled it a few years ago when she came out using the word "gay" and declared that she didn't like the word "lesbian". I guess not.
DClaudeKatz 4 years ago
"...Society's Push to define ourselves..."
I'm saddened that "society" can push us to redefine ourselves from what God created/defined us to be.
As if we're smarter/better than God.
tyeporter 4 years ago
Too much to say on this subject matter, please visit veracityprojectdotcom for information regarding the movement. Thank you.
ticklemelo 4 years ago
Another great Vid kicesie, not my pick of subject matter, but worth watching just to find out what LGBQT means. Sorry I'm just a naive country lad from Aus.
Keep up the good work!!!
Dargo25 4 years ago
I think a distinction should be drawn between "sexual orientation" and "gender identity". This seems to be missing from the way most people think about the subject. It's really two separate things in many respects.
DougCube 4 years ago
I agree it's two seperate things. Very seperate. But I was making the point that I believe both are fluid and both not static as well as not completely definable, however much we wish we had easy definitions and explanations for everything in our world.
kicesie 4 years ago
Well just got home from work and find this video on LGBQT. :) You amaze me on the wide range of subjects. Looking forward to the Part 2. Oh, is that you in the portrait to your right? have a great day. - dave -
thephantomtravler 4 years ago
*paused at 2:35* I think there is a word for that already.
I would call that "bi-curious". This terms seems to be gaining some popularity. Eh..., I'd consider myself to be bi-curious I suppose. This to me it seems to imply somewhere between hetero- and bi-. Not sure what to use for between homo- and bi-. I'd like to know though.
DougCube 4 years ago
LMAO..very good doug..i mean..how duh can ya get..lol yes bi LMFAO!!!
mythebau 4 years ago
I always thought queer was just the same as gay?
firebolt0 4 years ago
"I always thought queer was just the same as gay?" <- I did too, but I just looked it up. Queer means "sexually wierd/strange", and not necessarily homosexual at all. Not convinced it needs to be a letter in there though.
DougCube 4 years ago 2
ha ha ha
They all mean the same thing: homosexual.
We can create new words, letter and meanings but it all boils down to one word.
tyeporter 4 years ago
It likely stands for bestiality, incest, paedophilia, polygamy, necrophilia and sadomasochism. They have always been part of the movement, they're just kept at a low profile.
ticklemelo 4 years ago
Never heard that one as bestiality, pedophilia, and S&M are all a far cry from one another. If they are in any way a part of each other it's very 'covert'. heh
kicesie 4 years ago
It is, one just need to read their literature to discover the concealed components. Note, I'm not the one grouping them together, they are, and it's quite disturbing when the movement seeks to overturn laws, re-write government policies, or even legally force insurance companies to cover sex changes, cities to fund drag queen shows and get gay fairy tales in elementary school curriculum, etc...
ticklemelo 4 years ago
I'm going on record as completely disagreeing with you. This is an open forum for growth and discussion but not for defamation or slander. I read the major research journels.... and if your studies aren't in there, they aren't credible enough. I got the files you sent... haven't finished reading them but they look like hogwash to me.
kicesie 4 years ago
Actually, 'queer' is an umbrella term that some individuals in the gay community adopt because of the freedom within that title. For example, a lesbian may also be attracted to transgendered males. Or, perhaps someone is interested in both females and males, but chooses not to believe in gender and loves individuals based upon their own characteristics and not their gender. It's a freeing term which states anything known other than 'straight'.
lapetiteoiseau 4 years ago
Thanks!!! I like that definition! :-)
kicesie 4 years ago
It's the most widely accepted definition in the gay community because it also adopts trans gendered people into the definition... who aren't necessarily considered 'gay' if their gender identification is male and their partner is female. I think you should definitely talk about gender identification in your next set. I think it's very important to clarify that sexuality, preference, gender identification, and the like are different things.
lapetiteoiseau 4 years ago
If a search in the PsychINFO database of research can't pull this kind of info, it's not academically reliable to me. Not to mention any studies without peer review and clear expression of their funding, etc, are questionable if not completely without merit.
kicesie 4 years ago
Sorry kicesie, but I don't understand why you're suddenly getting defensive. I'm not defaming or slandering, I'm participating in the discussion. If we're going to have a serious discussion on this, let's put everything on the table, not only things permissible to the "community", which by the way is known to censor or prevent discussion.
ticklemelo 4 years ago 2
That is like us having a discussion on ethnic equality and someone bringing up the bell curve and discussing the possibility that different ethnicities don't have as high an IQ as others. It's been hashed, rehashed and it's hurtful. It's destructive. It's misunderstood. More in an email to you....:
kicesie 4 years ago
And 'they'? Does that mean the straight people are the 'we'? Are people turned against another for the people they share lives with? Wow...
lapetiteoiseau 4 years ago
I can't be sure exactly who that reply was to. I'm sorry if I used a 'they' 'we' terminology. I didn't mean to if I did. That does suggest a seperation, a turning against each other, etc.