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  • Most times for me, my significant other is the most difficult person i deal with lol

  • *note to self* stopping at [43:29] and will pick the rest up tomorrow.

  • i love him. he's brilliant.

  • i enjoyed your teachings i love a bit of humor mixed.

    is there something moving top left corner underneath the yellow flowers?

  • Did people ACTUALLY get up and leave? It sounded like they did!

  • buddha is from the one and only god in heaven, the lady god.

  • Haha of course it's way of life, nice joke with this taxes hehe. Yeah love this video, something I need for evening, meeting many different and this difficult people is a lot.

  • You made my day! I would like to not let difficult people affect me in a bad way from this day forward. You are a kind soul. Thank you!

  • I didnt get the tax joke :(

  • @Cheballer87 in Australia and i'm pretty sure the US too, Religious organizations are exempt from paying certain taxes because they are a religion.

  • I really like this, thank you . Really help me.

  • This completely stopped me getting angrier. Respond to negativity with calm kindness. It works.

  • Thank You I needed to watch this. I learned and good and remembered much that I had forgotten. Of all the things I have lost over the past few years, my once deep well of compassion is the loss that pains me the most. I am working to regain it

  • Thank you Ajahn Brahm

  • "That's your karma "part just made my day ! Thanks for uploading !

  • @FirsthDreamcatcher Because he's English ;)

  • Thank you very much. It just came to me at the very right time.

    Bianca

  • he is great

    

  • A Buddhist monk with an Australian accent, Now I've seen everything.

  • @hamzahgeek I guess you are one of the difficult people we have to deal with?

  • @japandata Right on target.

    

  • the funniest monk!!! wise parables on life!!

  • I wonder if the mosquito was carrying malaria, would Ajahn Brahm still let it have its dinner?

    So then he himself can spread the malaria to other people until everyone dies from painful miserable death?!

    Wow, great philosophy!

    I'm not listening to this whole lecture, just as I don't need to eat the whole egg to know it's rotten!

  • @AlexanderTheHuge I will know how to reply to you after this lecture.

  • @josh1492

    Your smart ass reply is wasted on this lecture.

    Besides, if you disagree with me, speak to the point.

  • @josh1492 troll

  • @AlexanderTheHuge How can one know that a mosquito has malaria?

  • @AlexanderTheHuge lol u sound like a lil pussy. if he gets infected with malaria .. his meditation will cure him better than any antibiotic so in effect makes him stronger.

  • @vtn08

    Yep, you got it!

    I checked - that's exactly what they prescribe for malaria - meditation!

    Not sure what they prescribe for your condition though... I guess old fashioned "shush" will do ...

  • I was so upset because my husband always puts me down.Now I feel so good and I am going to try all the advice you give me.

  • Great speech.

  • pretty fffffffffff.. terryfying.. heh

  • good advice, difficult people have to deal with themselves all day and that produces compassion?  i learned something.

    But dude, you MUST swat mosquitoes and you MUST teach everyone to swat them, you do not let them bite you nor anyone else.

  • The guy in jail needs to learn how to make coffee!

    

  • who saw the whole thing?

  • Thank you very much, Ajahn Brahmavamso.

  • @XD65 Words of wisdom...

  • @XD65 I think you posted this to prove his point. Touche sir. Thank you for the lesson in patience.

  • @Slixis9 Exactly, besides I would of watched this video if some hot chick was explaining it. Not some homo.

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  • @Facesofmagic Okay, grandma.

  • @XD65 if you actually listened to what he was saying you might actually get something out of it. Ajahn Brahm is a brilliant teacher.

  • @Fuzzles128 lul, I'm not going to listen to him for an hour.

    Fuck that.

  • "Anything that is irritating you, anything which is troubling you, that..is your teacher."

    Just about four minutes in, I already felt better after he said that. ^_^

  • may the 7 difficult people find happiness

  • These philosophy's resonate well with me. I wish these talks were in every school from elementary to college all over the world. Then we quite possibly have world peace.

  • These philosophy's resonate well with me. I wish these talks were in every school from elementary to college all over the world. Then we quite possibly have world peace.

    <3

  • 7 people are those difficult people he talks about in these talks

  • Those whom we judge with the label of 'difficult person' might themselves find US rather 'difficult' to deal with also...'difficult' is a matter of perspective...nevertheless, as always, Ajahn makes some salient points in this talk.

  • i dont know why but i become irritate easily whenever people tease me or make me feel uncomfortable. I can never calm myself down because i always take things seriously... sometimes words hurt

  • @tinimissvn Hi tinimissvn, I know how that feels. I've learned (over many years) that you have to not give a damn about the hurtful comments of others. It took me a long time to learn this, because I used to try to not SHOW that my feelings were getting hurt, while underneath, they still WERE - and bullies sensed this. My life only got better (in this regard) when I ACTUALLY stopped caring about what they thought. That was liberating for me. Now, I don't care if they howl, or not. :)

  • @hearts0ngs yup! sometimes you gotta move on with life and smile, oh and thanks for the response :)

  • I am so bless that i was born in buddhist family. I love my parents so much and grandmother taught me about buddhism all my life. I believe in Virtue,peace,wisdom and compassion.I was impression listen Ajahn Brahm teaching, i grew up only listening asian monk.

    Love it. Buddha said, Your mind is everything what you think become.

    Fill your mind with compassion. Peace, thank you so much for your teaching.

  • It's amazing when we find that WE are the difficult ones! One of my favorite of his talks.

  • Wonderful video. Thank you. this may help my relations with my father

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  • ...when We're arrogant around people they become rude and difficult. When We talk down to them, they become ineffective. When We're dry and aloof, they ignore us. When We toady up and try to 'creep' people into to liking us, they sneer at us. But we'd rather believe it is their fault than ours because we'd rather think ourselves above them. So we stay either dry, rude and aloof or sycophantic and oily and both earn us negative responses which are OUR fault.

  • @vapourmile Well said! :)

  • From my experience I don't think any teaching could be more crucial. Buddhism is so wrapped in theories of enlightenment that it's cool to hear some basic useful advice, which works, for a change. I've been trying to say the same thing: Exacerbated by the Internet we live in a disposable society in which we keep disqualifying people and moving on until Mr or Mrs 'right' and don't respect that most people are simply reacting to US...

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  • Remember God is right in this conversation

  • You have been  measured,weighed and found wanting...

  • very inspiring. thank you very much

  • why eliminate Jesus in your path to enlightenment? jesus is real and you deny him

  • @WildernessTree you are so brainwashed. He is not real. God is not real. Face it. And before you pick up with the fallacy that I cannot prove they do not exist, it is not for anybody to prove they don't exist. Anybody's proposition, from any point in time, that they did exist, has to be proven. Never has been proven, never will be. Does not exist. Period.

  • @BeeRich33 Hold fast to the fact that God will forgive even athiests.God be with you!

  • @WildernessTree There's no teaching you, is there. Study science, and you will see the light. Heh.

  • @BeeRich33 The day that an athiest teaches God fearing people will be the day.Science has nothing to do will proof of god.If you need proof then you ability to have faith is gone from the beginning

  • @WildernessTree The pressure isn't upon science to prove god doesn't exist. God has never been proven to exist in the first place. Yet another fallacy that the brainwashed throw back, because it's been so effective against the religious to begin with. I don't have faith in things that don't exist. That's what makes religious people foolish. I don't believe in unicorns or leprechauns either. I'm sure you do.

  • @WildernessTree No one is saying that he didn't exist but Buddhism just makes sense to us. I don't believe that someone can 'save' me. Only you can save yourself. Buddhism also teaches us morals, something lacking in todays society now adays.

  • @Secretlyastonishing God was tired of our endless sinning so he sent his only son to "save" you and me .We dont need to beleive it but heed his words if yee want redemption. Morals begin and end with the lord

    We? The beleivers in a normal human who is supposed to be better than everyone else including god himself? I aint buyin that. Get with god pal.

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  • some people no matter how nice you be with them....complement them, try to support them, encourage them, counsel them, turn their life around but they will still will remain difficult, their heart wont change no matter how hard you try....it is sad...

  • @Imspcl65 Their bad karma is so bad it's hindering them from seeing the truth.

  • @Imspcl65 I guess that is where compassion and patience comes in! Throughout this talk I was thinking of one particularly diffiult person that I have had to deal with. Since I didn't want to feel anger or annoyance I decided to stay away from her as much as possible, but during this talk I think I understood more about her than I had during the 3 years I've known her. She will still be difficult, but now I can look at her differently and be more patient and compassionate! Amazing practical talk!

  • I am very grateful for bringing these invaluable philosophies to us. Many thanks.

  • Amen (Satu) , Thanks for drawing me back to buddha teaching. 

  • Thank you so much... I did easy to get angry when people gissip and talk bad about me but after I practice the Dhamma I knew that the anger occur in my mind just see it and let it go.

  • really wonderful - many thanks for the wisdom presented in such an 'easy' way

    much metta

  • Great teaching from Ajahn Brahm

  • awesome!

  • I adore and am thankful for the lecture. But, what if the demon gets bigger because of your niceness? making them proud that their disgusting manners are the right way to get things their way?

  • @goonchorn: My thinking is, it is all about the mind game. demon or difficult ppl, if you make them more angry, their mind will get on fire more than ever as anger kills the ability to think, but if you make them feel better their mind will go calm and make them think. And thats where u will begin to win, with some ppl it may take more time as he said. And yes there are few difficult ppl who take way too long, in that case you simple have to leave the place and move.

  • @jigesh78 Thanks :) I see it clearer and agree with you.

  • I adore and am thankful for the lecture. But, what if the demon gets bigger because of your niceness? making them proud that their disgusting manners are the right way to get things their way?

  • @goonchorn sometimes it means removing yourself from the situation completely, if possible. It's not so much niceness as not feeding into it. Try it out. It's disarming, because it takes two :)

  • I love you...

  • Ajahn Brahm is the monk man!

  • great talk, buddhism should be bout great laughter not stuffy doctrine, this guy manifests a lot of freedom

  • @rhinohippo I agree! With all due respect, some monks make buddhism sound difficult and abstract. They start with the most difficult principles that are difficult to follow in real life. I guess that is where your communication skills come in. Ajahn Brahm is an amazing teacher, and his talks have made me so peaceful, happy and relaxed even though I am currently following a Masters course in Engineering with A LOT of coursework. lol... Thank you! :)

  • Very good speech! =/

  • i needed to hear this today!

  • I think you have a very warm and welcoming personality.

  • Very least makes you think and try and be a better human

  • afulani5

    We need to give him our compassion and understanding.

    Practice Four Sublime States of Mind.

  • From your comment, you dont seem to understadn teh meaning of life. Dont criticise people if you dont understand what is the purpose and meaning of the talk.

  • If you watch a talk, watch buddhist posts,travel to buddhist countries,spend hours listening and talking to buddhists and buddhist friends(all of which I have done) and find little but conflated concepts, undefinable terms,sophistry and nonsense passing as a philosophy one can pass a verdict on a video by a man who, if one listens closely,is trading ambiguity as insight and super ego/ego obsessions as erudition. The 'meaning of life' - just another of those indefinable and subjective phrases

  • I have read somewhere that Buddhism is all about uncertainty and being comfortable with that and that would include 'meaning of life' and all other indefinable and subjective phrases. It won't be so just by watching a talk etcetera etcetera but by actually experiencing it yourself at the deepest level and for it, you will need to meditate.

  • Of course I didn't mean to imply that understanding is a shopping list to be ticked off through travel and books. I meant to say than the only consistent thing about Buddhism( in the varieties, geographic and historical, that I've seen) is its inconsistency.Of course you can now rap about inconsistent consistencies, but without all the sophistry Buddhism is solipsistic poetry in a most morbidly obsessed state.regular people meditate all the time on being and love just minus the fairy dust.

  • For me, the four noble truths and the eightfold path is all that is important.

  • if you were a zen monk, you'd get hit by a stick

  • @EnvyAbomination

    Thank you for your comment. I watched Seung Sahn's video on your profile page. Yes, I should get hit by stick 30 times Just yesterday, I gave water to a thirsty person!

  • You're welcome! :)

    And thank you for giving that person some water. :)

    with metta

  • @minip64 Great if you have passed through all the fairy dust and found the essence behind all the veils of sophistry and solipsistic poetry. Heart Sutra is to be applied to all the fairy dust in Buddhism as well as to Heart Sutra itself. Meditating on being itself produces love.

  • may i suggest minimizing your screen and simply listening to this talk? very rewarding...

  • Thank you for your suggestion.

  • Obviously there are many people that just can't take their own spiritual evolvment seriously. Sad. As for those of us who do, I suppose that it's 'find a quiet spot and be there'... confronting those unfortunate enough not to know that life can be sweeter only seems to make them even angrier and give them more pain.

  • why are you so angry?

  • You say Buddah is dead yet I have never felt so alive since I start believing in his teachings............Take care brother.

  • Of course Buddha is dead. Ajahn Brahm even said in his rituals video that when he bows to the statue he knows it's just a statue, it's simply a reminder of respect to the Buddha's wisdom.

  • thank you for this video, best i've seen for awhile.

  • Today "07-06-2009" is the greatest day of Sri Lanka. Today is the "POSON DAY" .

    The day Sri lanka became a Buddhist country 2600 years ago.

    Buddhism will help Sri lanka in every challenge she faces for the next 5000 years.

    Thanx India and King Ashoka for helping us learn the absolute truth.

    "THERUWAN SARANAI".

  • @magebaba Uh... I'm sorry but I don't think buddhism has been around for that long? Its only been 2500 something years! :)

  • This is what our monks do in the temples every morning:

    "Buddhist forest monks chanting the morning puja"

  • ajahn mosquito! LOL love this guy

  • Ajahn Brahm just full of positive energy! whenever u fell not right, just EAT his Dhamma talk, then u will be fine.

  • there is no point of your cheap talks.

    do something for all the muslim little girls who are molested by their fathers and uncles by selling them at the age of 5,6 to older men for couple of dollors.

  • @Bisnove I KNOW!!!! :) :) :)

  • His wisdom is profound :-)

    If I become a father, maybe I'll just be open and honest with my son/daughter and simply say, "daddys just going to have a little rest after work, so that he's not so grumpy...."

    :-) There is no sence in trying to "cover up" the truth, because the kids will probably suss you out.... they'll simply do what YOU did when you were a kid... SEE THINGS AS THEY REALLY ARE, and not just how they are "presented".

  • 'Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. '

  • I did exactly what he said with my father. He was a prisoner. It was totally worth it and made me much more compassionate, patient, loving, kind. I am forever grateful to my father. I love him now even though he has passed away. Before he died he learned to express love more, to hug, to curb some of his anger, to say I love you, He asked my forgiveness for things wrong between us in our lives before he died.

  • how do i learn to not be a difficult person.

    I try to be a compassionate person,but i just seem to drive people away.Help,i have no friends and am so lonely,what can i do.

  • Listen to Ajahn Brahm's talks regularly. Meditate. Most importantly, keep your five precepts pure. Read dhamma books everyday and you will find the answer. Be happy. I'm sure you know what happy goes lucky means.Take things easy, smile and say positive things.

  • All conditions are impermanent. Your feeling of being alone is impermanent. Your feeling of having few friends is impermanent. This is why monks create sculptures in butter, only to watch the creation melt away. All things have this quality of impermanence. Loneliness and isolation are impermanent conditions.

    Start with being happy with yourself. You are a child Buddha. Cultivate lovingkindness toward others, and yourself. Engage yourself in the world and practice engaged compassion.

  • @RoeLaw

    Such perfect words of wisdom.

    Thank You! Peace and love.

  • Join a sangha. Use the sangha to practice stillness, and cultivate a connection with the sangha. Even if you are alone in your meditation, you will begin to feel connected with the entire world. How then, can you be alone anymore?

  • I have some questions. Do you drive people away from fear of intimacy through a form of subtle sabotage? Is it physiological (breath or body order)? Are you crossing personal boundaries? Or do you have trouble reading facial and body language? Therefore making empathy difficult. Start to examine the patterns of your associations with those who left you. Whatever you do, do not give up. Try reading the book social intelligence or the book human by gazzaniga. At the end of all, impermanence

  • Hey, it's 6 months on. Are things any better now? Are you still listening to Ajahn Brahm? I'm just asking because I sympathise.

  • Thanks from Dallas Texas.

  • Excellent talk! thank u so much!

  • listened to this on podcast this morning..ajahn brahm is areally good teacher and full of humor and wit.

  • That was such a fresh talk, very nice.

  • Thank You.

  • Peace be with you.

  • I sure wish I had been exposed to this philosophy three years ago. It would have spared me much, much grief and anguish!

  • Let it go brother. You are here now...in this moment. And hopefully you can deal with such things more skillfully in the future :)

    Peace & Love

  • Thank you, indigoble66, for your kind comment! :-)

  • DEFEKINNYC: Hi. As you will learn as you dig deeper, is that everything that has happened in our lives, HAD to happen exactly as it did for us to be where we are now:) You're in perfect timing. :)

    Namaste' Brother:)

  • Satori1800, thank you for your reply. Also, happy new year! :-)

  • I love this talks. Thank you so much for posting them! Peace be with you.

  • True true. lol.

  • Ditto!

  • Ajahn Brahm is such a fantastic speaker. Thanks for uploading. :)

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