ARGH I know how you feel. My boyfriends mum tried to have a 'you need to lose weight' conversation with me one afternoon. I didn't shut her down but I WISH I did. My bf was pissed about it tho and told his mum to mind her own business LOL.
omg im only fifteen when i was 12 i was at my freinds house. my freind went to get us some snacks like chips and stuff and her mom came up to me and said 'oh honey you know eating cookies isnt very good for your weigth, i know yer young, but you dont want to get too be big. ok.
that was at a sleepover, i mean that woman was insane, good thing i ate the cookies anyway :)
Something like this happened to me too.... So I am 9 months pregnant (and obviously so even though I am a size 18 pre-pregnant) and this guy in the supermarket says to me "Damn, what are you carrying two of them?" My response was about the same "That's really fucking rude!!!!!"
I sooo know what you are talking about. I have been aproached (not once ) twice. Both times were by men while I was at wal-mart with my husband. WHERE DO they get the NERVE? Those bastards. Both times they were selling a weight loss program or pill.
Yaaaaaaaaaay you how damn ruuuuude. have spent all my years with mother saying oh thingys daughter thingy has lost so many stone at weight watchers.......then had a visit from an old friend of my mothers and she walked in and said oh yeah your mum said you had put on tonnes of weight!! Not talking to either of them now lol :0)
Had a guy randomly tell me people are too skinny these days and that i was a perfect size.... made me SUPER uncomfortable, i don't know why. Not exactly the same thing but it was a really random and forward comment that was totally unnecessary. P.S. Shan, you're SO amazing. would never have had the guts to say something like that. Cudos girl!
maybe she was trying to sell something. that is the only rational explanation for a stranger to come at you like that. LOL i am so not a fan of unsolicited advice, i shut people down on the regular. i dont think anyone has ever said anything like that to my face, most likely because my default face is one of annoyance and i look like i am on the verge of kicking someone in the head if they test me. you were kind to her. gold star for self restraint. love ya! :)
Good for you ppl assume to fucking much these days too i mean the only time somebody else should talk to you about losing weight is if you are in a gym or a diet place outside of those nope.
:O i would have gotton so pissed off!! i would have done the samething you did xD just say some smartass shit and walk off haha. yay for you hun <3 :)
Shan I think you look lovely the way you are! My mom would have told that lady to work on her dang filter that's between her brain and mouth. bejeezus! Now I'm mad at that lady for freaken saying that to you Shan! lol it's because I love you lol <3
OH that woman needs to SHUT IT! WTF?! You said EXACTLY what I would have said. She was totally out of line. How dare she assume you have the shit self-esteem SHE obviously did?! Sometimes you have to play harshly with rudeness. YOU GO!
Way to go Shan! That is absolutely fantastic what you did, the woman had no right to tell you how she felt you should be. And at no point were you rude, you handled the situation how it needed to be done; you found your inner black woman and verbally slapped a bitch. You go girl!
Being on the opposite end of the spectrum, and I hope this comment isn't viewed as offensive, my parents tell me all the time to eat more. It never works. I'm honestly some kind of freak of nature.
F that lady sweetie, I would have had the same reaction. Love who you are! I'm extremely curvaceous and was tortured in middle school/highschool. If I fight with my ex they call me fat. But I realized I'm not fat. Don't EVER let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. Confidence is the best make up
Alright, did that lady actually tell you this?? Are you kidding? That is SOO rude! Omjae, that pissed me off! Omjae, that just made me so mad. I freaking LOVE you the way you are! I'm glad you stuck up for yourself. You do gurl! Jesus, I love ya. :D
Wow, that WAS rude, and everyone's right. I'm sure Ms. Creeplady was trying to sell you something. It makes me wonder though - if she wasn't selling, I bet people did that to her until she lost her weight. I hope you made her think, "Damn, I wish I would have stuck up for MYself instead so I wouldn't still be preoccupied with how much I hate my body image even after losing all my weight so I wouldn't need to bring other people down!" Hehe, I probably would have just slapped her. Just sayin'.
Wow, what a dumb bitch, sorry that happened to you. I can't believe how stupid she was to say that. Ever consider that maybe some people are on medicine that makes them gain weight? Ever consider that maybe some people were born big, and are actually really healthy on the inside? Jeez, the ignorance of people annoys me greatly.
When I was 10 years old my sister took me aside and told me everything that was wrong with me. She told me that everyone at school was laughing at me because my stomach made me look like I was pregnant, and to stop acting like I thought I was sexy because I wasn't (among other things). 11 years later, I finally realized that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I wish I'd had the self esteem to tell her to shut the fuck up back then; it would've saved me a bit of grief.
This has happened to me several times with Gastric Bypass patients... who most of them are fat again btw. It bothers me that people think that A. i got it, so should you! B. and this is coming from skinny people... Why don't you have bariatric surgery? Like if I really wanted I would run my ass every day and eat granola or something... people need to learn that they need to just mind their business!
Good for you Shan!!! I was once at a diner with my aunt and some woman walked up to our f***ing table and handed my aunt a card for some weight loss pills she was selling. I wish I would have told her off but I was just in such shock over her behavior!
I'm european.... :S lol but I totally understand what you mean. This one time, I was about 15 maybe, and my aunt said "oh, your face is so pretty, you have really nice eyes... now you just need to loose weight so you can get a boyfriend". that stuck with me to this date. it was really, really, really mean
WHAT?!!!! The nerve of some people!!! She probably sells the program, and just was trying to make some money!! I'm so offended for you!!! So fucking rude!!!!
She probably did think she was helping. Whatever made her feel she needed to lose weight, she projected onto you. I had a lady "take me aside" once & offer me a diet book. Another lady has brought up the subject of dieting/weight to me several times. These are people I see every week, so I just "cut them off" sans profanity to keep the peace. I see that it's coming from their insecurities projected onto me. I don't harbor the anger (after venting to sweet hubby!) because that hurts me.
Win. Plain and simple. That's beyond rude to me. How you look is your business. Not anybody else's. Unless... you know.. you're going around lacking clothing. Then how you look may become the police's business....
actually women are legally allowed to be topless where I currently live, so we can all swing free if we wanted to. It only becomes the police's business if you....well....err....ya know! :)
Good for you for cutting her off and standing up for yourself!
I do beleive that deserves an enthusiastic "You GO girl!" (including multiple finger snaps).
I like the point that you brought up about people not having the right to insinuate that we need to change something about ourselves based on their perception of us.
No one has the right to make you feel like less than the amazing, beautiful woman you are!
Good for you! I bet that bitch was never even fat in her life anyways. I bet the 'program she used' speech is just a ploy to hock whatever horrible diet pills she sells.
I think it is so rude when people assume that there is no possibe way that you could ever be happy at whatever weight you are, or that you feel the exact same way they feel. Ive come to realize it is because they are just miserable in their own lives most times.
It was VERY rude of her. Like geez, mind your own business lady! The nerve of some people.
I've never had anyone outside of close friends or family suggest that I do something about my weight, and the love me and I'm open to that discussion with them. Luckily no stupid strangers are trying to tell me to drop a few pounds, because I'd totally react that way you did. She deserved it.
good on you! You should have said that we should all be proud of what we look like and u are very pretty :)
xMattVolturix 1 year ago
I love you Shan! And I've been in that situation before too, unlike you, I wish I that I should've shutted that person down! You rock honey!
MizzFab 1 year ago
I love you. You've given me serious inspiration. I'm a big girl and I have had times where people have tried to make me lose weight....
but you know I'm happy being me...i work out, i do things...i'm just big. i can't help it.
puppyeyes92 2 years ago
YOUR RIGHT!!! no your not over reacting D:<!!!! GIVE THAT WOMAN THE CHAIR O.O
YouCannotKillMe69 2 years ago
ARGH I know how you feel. My boyfriends mum tried to have a 'you need to lose weight' conversation with me one afternoon. I didn't shut her down but I WISH I did. My bf was pissed about it tho and told his mum to mind her own business LOL.
MissRLA 2 years ago
i love you .fuuur real . mwah!! xxxx
kateevans1987 2 years ago
omg haha I love you :)
OxygenPirate 2 years ago
Good for you! I'm glad you told that lady what's up. You're beautiful the way you are.
Samelevennn 2 years ago
omg im only fifteen when i was 12 i was at my freinds house. my freind went to get us some snacks like chips and stuff and her mom came up to me and said 'oh honey you know eating cookies isnt very good for your weigth, i know yer young, but you dont want to get too be big. ok.
that was at a sleepover, i mean that woman was insane, good thing i ate the cookies anyway :)
Demi12345Lovato 2 years ago
GO SHAN!!!! =D!
altimacloud81 2 years ago
Something like this happened to me too.... So I am 9 months pregnant (and obviously so even though I am a size 18 pre-pregnant) and this guy in the supermarket says to me "Damn, what are you carrying two of them?" My response was about the same "That's really fucking rude!!!!!"
Jess8730 2 years ago
people need to mind their own business. frig.
4ndiland 2 years ago
I sooo know what you are talking about. I have been aproached (not once ) twice. Both times were by men while I was at wal-mart with my husband. WHERE DO they get the NERVE? Those bastards. Both times they were selling a weight loss program or pill.
foxyfeline23 2 years ago
Good for you! That IS rude. You're beautiful!
AndVenusSmiled 2 years ago
So proud you stood up for yourself!
LadyGalena 2 years ago
Yaaaaaaaaaay you how damn ruuuuude. have spent all my years with mother saying oh thingys daughter thingy has lost so many stone at weight watchers.......then had a visit from an old friend of my mothers and she walked in and said oh yeah your mum said you had put on tonnes of weight!! Not talking to either of them now lol :0)
xxxJoolsxxx
BarrysDaughter 2 years ago
ahahahhahhahah ahahahhaha
*Idea*
Go offer a size 0 some food :D
Score 1 for the fat people!
RiddikulussRS 2 years ago
FeistyShan rules.
TheLisey 2 years ago
Somewhere in the world there is a button that reads: How DARE U ASSUME that I would RATHER BE THIN!!!
mnady60 2 years ago
See. This is why I love you!! Good for you!!!
mnady60 2 years ago
oh and i LOVED the music in the background :)
meganagan 2 years ago
Had a guy randomly tell me people are too skinny these days and that i was a perfect size.... made me SUPER uncomfortable, i don't know why. Not exactly the same thing but it was a really random and forward comment that was totally unnecessary. P.S. Shan, you're SO amazing. would never have had the guts to say something like that. Cudos girl!
meganagan 2 years ago
I don't get how people think women's bodies are public property to be commented on and scrutinized. You are freakin' awesome.
hairsprayqueen 2 years ago
I so know what that is like!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
VivaLaJade21 2 years ago
I. Love. You.
... That is all. :)
crazy91kim 2 years ago
ur awesome shan just the way u are
selenagfan7 2 years ago
you are beautiful..they can just suck an egg
gypsy43 2 years ago
maybe she was trying to sell something. that is the only rational explanation for a stranger to come at you like that. LOL i am so not a fan of unsolicited advice, i shut people down on the regular. i dont think anyone has ever said anything like that to my face, most likely because my default face is one of annoyance and i look like i am on the verge of kicking someone in the head if they test me. you were kind to her. gold star for self restraint. love ya! :)
nicoleisthenewblack 2 years ago
omg go you!! i think you're beautiful as you are :) and that person really didnt have any place in telling you to go on a diet programme ... ugh
bubblegumbabe21 2 years ago
I hate when things like that happen.. I don't generally have the balls to stop it though.
silkshines00 2 years ago
Just be careful of Karma. Be nice
TheBenjaminFrank 2 years ago
I've been saving my good karma for this one ;) I think I'll be fine
ProjectLifesize 2 years ago
I'm so proud of you - oh, and GREAT vid! :D
head2thasky 2 years ago
LOL!!! i love you shan!!! i hate!!! when people do that, i've had that done to me many times..
sheddingtheshell 2 years ago
You...make the world go 'round. endofstory.
supbry 2 years ago
what an asshat that woman was. f'n jerk. glad you put her in her place!!!
iamfirelust 2 years ago
you shoulda smacked her :)
ThaButtaFly 2 years ago
Good for you ppl assume to fucking much these days too i mean the only time somebody else should talk to you about losing weight is if you are in a gym or a diet place outside of those nope.
bearchay889 2 years ago
Very fucking rude!
Love how you handles it girl!!
:)
aknpnk187 2 years ago
I agree with waywardbard, that background music IS epic!!
sadisticgirl 2 years ago
You did not over react. That lady was rude as hell. I am glad you stuck up for yourself.
staceydyan 2 years ago
You aren't overeating it was fucking rude! ... It's none of her business what you do with your life.
phobe001 2 years ago
Have a nice day? you let that woman off lightly. what a rude biatch.
dingosatemypringles 2 years ago
:O i would have gotton so pissed off!! i would have done the samething you did xD just say some smartass shit and walk off haha. yay for you hun <3 :)
LuvBugKisses07 2 years ago
that's so rude !
beyondYOURreach 2 years ago
left a msg on the vm#. also, that bg music is kind of epic.
waywardbard 2 years ago
Yeah Shan! I love this! You tell 'em, girl!
almostalice64 2 years ago
Girl, right on! I'm so sick of hearing people go on about how being bigger is horrible! Fuck it! I like being chubby! Get over yourselves Hahahaha
AdventureArdvark 2 years ago
Shan I think you look lovely the way you are! My mom would have told that lady to work on her dang filter that's between her brain and mouth. bejeezus! Now I'm mad at that lady for freaken saying that to you Shan! lol it's because I love you lol <3
angel56335 2 years ago
So true!!
LOVED this vid and i adore you Shan!
designbyolia 2 years ago
You go girl.
Fuck them. XD
DestaneeSky 2 years ago
Hey, YOU were not a bit rude. SHE was rude, and you were just asserting yourself. Seriously.... some people.
Lovingdoubt 2 years ago
OH that woman needs to SHUT IT! WTF?! You said EXACTLY what I would have said. She was totally out of line. How dare she assume you have the shit self-esteem SHE obviously did?! Sometimes you have to play harshly with rudeness. YOU GO!
cbgoddess31 2 years ago
Way to go Shan! That is absolutely fantastic what you did, the woman had no right to tell you how she felt you should be. And at no point were you rude, you handled the situation how it needed to be done; you found your inner black woman and verbally slapped a bitch. You go girl!
TarzanTheDeviant 2 years ago
Props to you. That was mega rude. I'm going to show this to everyone I know, because you're right.
ChloeAgnewfan 2 years ago 2
Screw that cunt! I'm glad you shut that bitch down.
whitestripesiluv 2 years ago 2
Tawanda!!!!! So glad you put her straight!
sixstringvixen 2 years ago
Being on the opposite end of the spectrum, and I hope this comment isn't viewed as offensive, my parents tell me all the time to eat more. It never works. I'm honestly some kind of freak of nature.
Orygyn 2 years ago
Oh definitely not offensive :) Hugs dearest orygyn, You're no freak of nature <3
ProjectLifesize 2 years ago
You go girl! Women power! *pumps fist*
Omg I totally thought that was my phone for a second. Lol.
lilmidgetgirl69 2 years ago
She was a rude bitch. Good for you.
reader5 2 years ago
F that lady sweetie, I would have had the same reaction. Love who you are! I'm extremely curvaceous and was tortured in middle school/highschool. If I fight with my ex they call me fat. But I realized I'm not fat. Don't EVER let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. Confidence is the best make up
Jaxluvsyou15 2 years ago
Good for you.
greenschmoodle 2 years ago
what a bitch (that lady not you of course)
theshadowed1 2 years ago
Alright, did that lady actually tell you this?? Are you kidding? That is SOO rude! Omjae, that pissed me off! Omjae, that just made me so mad. I freaking LOVE you the way you are! I'm glad you stuck up for yourself. You do gurl! Jesus, I love ya. :D
MrsxEdwardCullen96 2 years ago
Wow, that WAS rude, and everyone's right. I'm sure Ms. Creeplady was trying to sell you something. It makes me wonder though - if she wasn't selling, I bet people did that to her until she lost her weight. I hope you made her think, "Damn, I wish I would have stuck up for MYself instead so I wouldn't still be preoccupied with how much I hate my body image even after losing all my weight so I wouldn't need to bring other people down!" Hehe, I probably would have just slapped her. Just sayin'.
ilikepebbles 2 years ago
Wow, what a dumb bitch, sorry that happened to you. I can't believe how stupid she was to say that. Ever consider that maybe some people are on medicine that makes them gain weight? Ever consider that maybe some people were born big, and are actually really healthy on the inside? Jeez, the ignorance of people annoys me greatly.
bks1366 2 years ago
When I was 10 years old my sister took me aside and told me everything that was wrong with me. She told me that everyone at school was laughing at me because my stomach made me look like I was pregnant, and to stop acting like I thought I was sexy because I wasn't (among other things). 11 years later, I finally realized that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I wish I'd had the self esteem to tell her to shut the fuck up back then; it would've saved me a bit of grief.
Well done!
itinerary56 2 years ago
She was probably a salesperson for whatever company she was promoting. That still doesn't excuse her crap.
Different is beautiful!
elizziebooks 2 years ago
This has happened to me several times with Gastric Bypass patients... who most of them are fat again btw. It bothers me that people think that A. i got it, so should you! B. and this is coming from skinny people... Why don't you have bariatric surgery? Like if I really wanted I would run my ass every day and eat granola or something... people need to learn that they need to just mind their business!
ColorDivaPRDR 2 years ago
my mom once bought me a bunch of new clothes and i tried them on and they were way too small
she then said 'oh well when you lose the weight you need to lose, then they will fit!'
vIKTORIAxo 2 years ago
Good for you Shan!!! I was once at a diner with my aunt and some woman walked up to our f***ing table and handed my aunt a card for some weight loss pills she was selling. I wish I would have told her off but I was just in such shock over her behavior!
pitasquit 2 years ago
AWESOME!
JIovannone 2 years ago
Good for you! People need to learn to shut their mouths.
philosophymixtapes 2 years ago
I'm european.... :S lol but I totally understand what you mean. This one time, I was about 15 maybe, and my aunt said "oh, your face is so pretty, you have really nice eyes... now you just need to loose weight so you can get a boyfriend". that stuck with me to this date. it was really, really, really mean
mickysantos 2 years ago
WHAT?!!!! The nerve of some people!!! She probably sells the program, and just was trying to make some money!! I'm so offended for you!!! So fucking rude!!!!
deemered2 2 years ago
Eugh you're totally right. She probably still hates herself even after losing a ton of weight and it makes her feel good doing this sort of garbage.
The only people who tell me I'm looking a little chunky are family... Who are much larger than me.... Thanks guys, really.
xcassimus 2 years ago
good job shan!
onthegoodshiplollie 2 years ago
Shan, you're awesome!
You SOOOOOO owned that woman!!!
RockTheNPC 2 years ago 2
hell yeah shan.
i fucking love you, girl.
Grrrstin 2 years ago 2
If she would have talked to me like that, I would of cut her off too. :)
This is comparable to someone who has ASD and asks them to see a shrink.
They deserve to be folded into pretzels so to speak. :)
thebluerobbin 2 years ago
She probably did think she was helping. Whatever made her feel she needed to lose weight, she projected onto you. I had a lady "take me aside" once & offer me a diet book. Another lady has brought up the subject of dieting/weight to me several times. These are people I see every week, so I just "cut them off" sans profanity to keep the peace. I see that it's coming from their insecurities projected onto me. I don't harbor the anger (after venting to sweet hubby!) because that hurts me.
sybeve 2 years ago
Win. Plain and simple. That's beyond rude to me. How you look is your business. Not anybody else's. Unless... you know.. you're going around lacking clothing. Then how you look may become the police's business....
SingerxYuna 2 years ago
actually women are legally allowed to be topless where I currently live, so we can all swing free if we wanted to. It only becomes the police's business if you....well....err....ya know! :)
MopyDream44 2 years ago
O_O Okay... but bottomless!! lol.
SingerxYuna 2 years ago
Good for you for cutting her off and standing up for yourself!
I do beleive that deserves an enthusiastic "You GO girl!" (including multiple finger snaps).
I like the point that you brought up about people not having the right to insinuate that we need to change something about ourselves based on their perception of us.
No one has the right to make you feel like less than the amazing, beautiful woman you are!
xoxoxoxoxxox
AndSoShePaints 2 years ago
UGH! People are so annoying. If she comes at you again Shan...let me know...IWILLCUTABITCH :P lol
StarToBe2007 2 years ago
Good for you! I bet that bitch was never even fat in her life anyways. I bet the 'program she used' speech is just a ploy to hock whatever horrible diet pills she sells.
YoKelcie 2 years ago
ps. especially the way you said how rude! haha :) rewde.
leesha666 2 years ago
I can not believe someone did that to you! thats terrible! What a silly and rude woman! haha you really pwned that woman! hahah
leesha666 2 years ago
I think it is so rude when people assume that there is no possibe way that you could ever be happy at whatever weight you are, or that you feel the exact same way they feel. Ive come to realize it is because they are just miserable in their own lives most times.
Good for standing up for yourself!
Reluctantwriter7 2 years ago
It was VERY rude of her. Like geez, mind your own business lady! The nerve of some people.
I've never had anyone outside of close friends or family suggest that I do something about my weight, and the love me and I'm open to that discussion with them. Luckily no stupid strangers are trying to tell me to drop a few pounds, because I'd totally react that way you did. She deserved it.
ValeneShay 2 years ago
I love this entire video!!!! Especially the message but more than that, the song! :D
nonblondified 2 years ago
haha! damn girl, hella bold and blunt! *internet high five*
narrowroads 2 years ago