Thank you for making and sharing this. There is so little information about adult meltdowns, maybe due to the shame involved, no one wants to share how 'crazy' they act.So it makes you feel like you are the only one, or that you are weird even for an Aspie.
About how I cope. I'm still to figure that out, usually I can feel one coming, and sadly it seems that trying to avoid it simply delays it.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It has been very helpful in understanding a couple of close friends of mine who have Aspergers or Apergers-like patterns. As for what helps, I strongly suggest trying a good therapis who specialises in Cognitive-Behavioural therapy because if you can train your mind to think differently about triggers and change, and about things which you "can't get your head around", the intensity of the meltdown can be WAY less.
i have meltdowns and when they happen there huge . I cant get my brain to think rational about the situation and once I start getting in a tiz its like rolling a small snowball in the snow it just gets bigger and bigger . normal people dont understand that change is very difficult for our brains to cope with and why we react to the change the way we do .
My meltdowns usually begin by abandoning work, going awol for a while and hope that someone will come along and pick up the pieces of me. Other times, on lesser episodes, things get broken.
I haven't had a bad meltdown in a few weeks now, but I think I had one creeping up on me just a few minutes ago. I get this over anxious feeling and I become really upset over as it was today something completely small. So stupid. Now I have to walk around on my toes all day, 'cause what if I step on another trigger...my meltdown could start off at almost anything. I have to give it a lot of energy if I'm going to make it through Christmas without any problems.
@specialpersonize Totally agree with you. Constantly having to deal with rudeness, primate dominance and just plain incredible lack of consideration for others from humans is hard enough, but being held to a higher expectation for no plausible reason by others especially in the face of a real hardship would overwhelm any normal person. Meltdowns are not just dysfunctional, sometimes it's the only way to get heard by people who are intent on dismissing you.
I can usually feel the meltdown coming on, If I start felling something like an ice-cream headache it's close. I try an sort of mediate or distract my self. And I keep a pair of sun glasses and meditation music on my Mp3 player incase I can't find somewhere private. Generally i try to leave though.
I once had a melt down in the middle of the night in a forgein country and walked a mile or two during, ended up in someones back yard with no idea where I was.
It sounds to me like you're completely justified in being upset. The problem is what it does to you.
Are you still committed to this "life changing" undertaking? Because unknown conditions for me would be a deal breaker. If you can break the deal then sometimes just telling them might ease the distress.
But I know how you feel about your plans being changed. Thats' why I detest surprise parties. I think they're the worlds rudest gifts.
("I am lucky" continued) Also over the years I have molded my lifestyle around my "quirks" (thanks to an understanding family and boss) which has reduced the chances that I ever reach the point of having a meltdown. Also over time through zen meditation I have been able to train my mind not to be so busy all the time this provides some refuge as well. I hope my response helps you.
I am lucky because I have not had an outrageous melt down since I was eleven. Since then, I have learned to recognize the feelings preceding my breaking point. When I feel myself getting to that point I tend to seclude myself for a while in order to work through my issues (It could be for a day or two and sometimes for up to two or three months) . Then I am able emerge and cope with society again. I started doing this before I was diagnosed with Aspergers. Practicing Zen has helped me as well.
I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with my meltdowns. Though I found out that being in open spaces with some people scattered about reduces my chance of becoming violent. I do often feel horrified after a big meltdown. My mom bought me two stress-balls as a way to cope, but I often end up throwing them in meltdown mode. My animation teacher told me to go outside when I felt overwhelmed.
I have experienced meltdowns which drew a crowd: they're usually precipitated by my feeling 'backed into a corner'. Since my being diagnosed, I have tried to avoid 'triggers' but as you say, one cannot avoid them all. Apropos of how I feel following a meltdown, I spend considerable time berating myself for losing control.
Regarding change: oh (as in dramatic) yes. I can't tolerate change.
@oldmankelv Thank you, it was really helpful to read your comment since I'm still sort of recovering (it usually takes at least 2-3 days for me, after a massive meltdown, to fully recover). I really needed to hear (read? lol) someone else pointing out that they go through the same things, and even for some of the same reasons. Btw, how is it coming with the AAC application you mentioned before? I'm really interested in that since, like I said, it sounds like it could be really helpful.
Thank you for making and sharing this. There is so little information about adult meltdowns, maybe due to the shame involved, no one wants to share how 'crazy' they act.So it makes you feel like you are the only one, or that you are weird even for an Aspie.
About how I cope. I'm still to figure that out, usually I can feel one coming, and sadly it seems that trying to avoid it simply delays it.
rhibear1 1 month ago
Thank you so much for sharing this. It has been very helpful in understanding a couple of close friends of mine who have Aspergers or Apergers-like patterns. As for what helps, I strongly suggest trying a good therapis who specialises in Cognitive-Behavioural therapy because if you can train your mind to think differently about triggers and change, and about things which you "can't get your head around", the intensity of the meltdown can be WAY less.
GreenWomanGreyCat 1 month ago
i have meltdowns and when they happen there huge . I cant get my brain to think rational about the situation and once I start getting in a tiz its like rolling a small snowball in the snow it just gets bigger and bigger . normal people dont understand that change is very difficult for our brains to cope with and why we react to the change the way we do .
TheFourthdisciple 1 month ago
My meltdowns usually begin by abandoning work, going awol for a while and hope that someone will come along and pick up the pieces of me. Other times, on lesser episodes, things get broken.
MrGonzoification 1 month ago
@pitchit89 One of the symptoms of Asperger's is being detail oriented.
kingofqwerty 1 month ago
did you have to go to your dads? tetes when i git meltdowns...
Bryce6789 2 months ago
I haven't had a bad meltdown in a few weeks now, but I think I had one creeping up on me just a few minutes ago. I get this over anxious feeling and I become really upset over as it was today something completely small. So stupid. Now I have to walk around on my toes all day, 'cause what if I step on another trigger...my meltdown could start off at almost anything. I have to give it a lot of energy if I'm going to make it through Christmas without any problems.
LetDie 2 months ago
i really feel for you in this video . i too like you get realy loud when i have a meltdown. and hate how i feel afterwards
ilovebrean 3 months ago
@specialpersonize Totally agree with you. Constantly having to deal with rudeness, primate dominance and just plain incredible lack of consideration for others from humans is hard enough, but being held to a higher expectation for no plausible reason by others especially in the face of a real hardship would overwhelm any normal person. Meltdowns are not just dysfunctional, sometimes it's the only way to get heard by people who are intent on dismissing you.
SediluWarrior 3 months ago
I can usually feel the meltdown coming on, If I start felling something like an ice-cream headache it's close. I try an sort of mediate or distract my self. And I keep a pair of sun glasses and meditation music on my Mp3 player incase I can't find somewhere private. Generally i try to leave though.
I once had a melt down in the middle of the night in a forgein country and walked a mile or two during, ended up in someones back yard with no idea where I was.
RobotGreenAlien 5 months ago
It sounds to me like you're completely justified in being upset. The problem is what it does to you.
Are you still committed to this "life changing" undertaking? Because unknown conditions for me would be a deal breaker. If you can break the deal then sometimes just telling them might ease the distress.
But I know how you feel about your plans being changed. Thats' why I detest surprise parties. I think they're the worlds rudest gifts.
Majoofi 5 months ago
Reason you're having these meltdowns is because you're suffering from mercury poisoning.
9999necron 5 months ago
@9999necron You're an idiot
RobotGreenAlien 5 months ago
("I am lucky" continued) Also over the years I have molded my lifestyle around my "quirks" (thanks to an understanding family and boss) which has reduced the chances that I ever reach the point of having a meltdown. Also over time through zen meditation I have been able to train my mind not to be so busy all the time this provides some refuge as well. I hope my response helps you.
tallismortallic 5 months ago
I am lucky because I have not had an outrageous melt down since I was eleven. Since then, I have learned to recognize the feelings preceding my breaking point. When I feel myself getting to that point I tend to seclude myself for a while in order to work through my issues (It could be for a day or two and sometimes for up to two or three months) . Then I am able emerge and cope with society again. I started doing this before I was diagnosed with Aspergers. Practicing Zen has helped me as well.
tallismortallic 5 months ago
I once punched my dad's truck's windshield in.
Nedspodos 7 months ago
I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with my meltdowns. Though I found out that being in open spaces with some people scattered about reduces my chance of becoming violent. I do often feel horrified after a big meltdown. My mom bought me two stress-balls as a way to cope, but I often end up throwing them in meltdown mode. My animation teacher told me to go outside when I felt overwhelmed.
lu4y4pants 7 months ago
I have experienced meltdowns which drew a crowd: they're usually precipitated by my feeling 'backed into a corner'. Since my being diagnosed, I have tried to avoid 'triggers' but as you say, one cannot avoid them all. Apropos of how I feel following a meltdown, I spend considerable time berating myself for losing control.
Regarding change: oh (as in dramatic) yes. I can't tolerate change.
oldmankelv 11 months ago
@oldmankelv Thank you, it was really helpful to read your comment since I'm still sort of recovering (it usually takes at least 2-3 days for me, after a massive meltdown, to fully recover). I really needed to hear (read? lol) someone else pointing out that they go through the same things, and even for some of the same reasons. Btw, how is it coming with the AAC application you mentioned before? I'm really interested in that since, like I said, it sounds like it could be really helpful.
JustEmbers 11 months ago
@JustEmbers i have aspergers to and im behind you 100%! dont give up.
nerdymom2 1 week ago