Very good thoughts. My adult son is quadriplegic, and I find that he is invisible to many people, especially in public. There's nothing wrong with his speech and he's an intelligent, interesting guy, yet people interrupt him and talk right over the top of him. It's like I'm pushing an empty chair around- folks politely make room for the chair, but they don't see the handsome, interactive human in it.
I am disabled and I admire your earnestness. You didn't have to come on here and tell your truth. People can call you patronizing and insulting, but I get a genuine desire for you to understand and I appreciate your attempt to put it out there. You really want to connect with and care about people. I get this. And for those people who can't handle this guy's truth and have to put him down, grow up.
I am disabled and if you want to know how i want people to react to me i want them to not give a toss and treat me with the ignorence you treat any other person in the street like i'm not even there its so anoying when i'm going down the street and everyone say hello good morning hi how are you and i don't even know any of them people even pass me in cars and wave at me ithink they do this because the relized when you look at them that there stareing so must difuse there embaresment by engageing
Man, you are the embodiment of stupidity. Disability is a condition of life that can certainly do without you. Believe me! Don't bother. Go play golf instead!
Which is one reason I am so offended by some things. I mean, I think I have always asked myself, whether it related to race, class, age, ability....HOW WOULD I FEEL IN THIS SITUATION. If you can place yourself in the shoe (I only have one leg so 1 only wear 1 shoe) of another person, it often changes how you react to them.
When you have questions about disability, ask yourself, how would i feel in that situation.
And please don't assume we have all always been disabled. I lost my leg in 2002. Before that I was a runner and climbed telephone poles for a living, so I have seen both sides of the fence.
How insulting of you to assume that just because I'm disabled, I therefore don't get, and am craving, interpersonal interaction? Especially with someone as pompous as you come off in this video. Don't worry, none of us disabled people are missing out on your condescending five minutes of interaction.
U wanna be around most people with disabilities just be friendly & relaxed. Just be yourself. Social cues can change even just culture, country, etc. The "normal" idea is something that you need to get over as well. We're all just people. Embarrassment just happens. It's all about context.
I appreciate that you mean well, but I have to respectfully disagree with some of your base assumptions. For instance, you assume that just because someone has a physical, visible disability that they are "starved for personal interaction". Some PWDs are social bunnies, some aren't, nothing about being physically disabled makes you automatically socially inadequate. As a fellow christian, I'd ask that you prayerfully consider your condescension.
I'm disabled. About your comments about saying hi to strangers who are disabled. Actually, I'm usually the one who just ants others to say hi and move on while the other person wants to chat, thinking it's what I want. Just like you, I don't usually like chatting with strangers unless there's a specific reason to do so. I do want to chat, just not with total strangers. I guess it depends on the disabled person but I'm usually grouchy and just want to smack strangers to move along. lol
Thanks for this. I have worked with disabled students for along time and you put it all into words.Plus my girlfriend is disable and i'm able bodied, some prejudice when we are out together, maybe you can do a show about that.!
Seems to me that you become partially disabled when you encounter disabled people. It happens to you because you have learned that from others in the same way you have learned your other social skills. I see no reason to change, you mean no harm and that is to me the more important thing.
I agree, it's a brilliant video. Don't worry so much about how selfish you are, the fact that you are so sensitive and caring that you took the time to make this detailed video nullifies your opinion of yourself.
Your need to connect with young attractive girls is a biological reaction to your hormones, and biological clock. Once you are married, and have children, you'll wonder why you never noticed how precious babies are. Living longer simply gives us more experiences to relate.
I wanted to share with everyone some great thoughts that I recieved from Amanda (half of the YouTube username Orbvious pair). Both Ben and Amanda have backgrounds in psychology so I found their perspective particularly interesting. Amanda's thoughts are posted in a series of replies to this message to get around the 500 charachter limit.
There are a couple of things happening for Wheels105 that need to be overcome. The first is that we are automatically uncomfortable with situations that step outside of our comfort zone. As a fully functioning human being the way to overcome any anxiety is to remember that there is not a person on the planet who is disabled, just different, and difference is what gives us diversity and makes us more interesting.
The one thing that exists in all of us is the mind. The body is merely a vesel for the mind to move around. Talk to the mind of everyone that you meet. That is where the 'self' exists and if you be yourself you have nothing to fear. In principle the whole communication thing boils down to simply recognising the self within each other and acknowledge that we are all striving to be seen, to be heard, to be appreciated and ultimately understood despite all outward appearances to the contrary.
The second issue comes from the primordial instinct to outcast a member of the species that threatens survival - hence the haters. People who have to overcome hurdles and suffer in the hands of a bi-ped society have much more to offer. Such people often have much more depth of thought than those who have been fed with the shallow silver spoon.
hey thanks for taking the time to make this video! and it does make you think for the disabled person and how akward it is for them to interact with others. good on ya.
What you are really talking about here is fear. Fear isn't rational, so you can't make it go away by thinking your way around it. You have to confront it. The best way to get comfortable around anyone you feel you aren't being honest with is to spend some time with them. When you find out they are just like you, the fear will go.
I think the lesson we can learn from Jesus is that he walked right past the hinderences that most people had and he related to people with disabilites. He treated them like people, he talked to them, he had compassion on them. We have to be willing to get to know someone in order to understand their needs whether or not we can help them or if maybe the best help comes in just being a real friend.
I think you have hit the nail on the head by making the point that disabled people make us uncomfortable and because we are uncomfortable we hold back and we don't allow ourselves to get to know them and try to understand the world they live in. Like anyone else who is different, the key to being able to relate, is finding a way to understand.
lol @ you changing cams and sounding retarded when you do it
Sick6Stringer 1 year ago
lol at that OT comment...totally agree...
technobub 2 years ago
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technobub 2 years ago
Jordan is amazing
JordanJabba 2 years ago
the poor next hundred or so ot kids that have to sit through this
mysticspirals 2 years ago 6
Imaginefree69 3 years ago 2
Hey check out my friends blog, its about being disabled and his views. disabledornot .blogspot. com ( get rid of the spaces) Thanks.
cakemaphoneige 3 years ago
I am disabled and I admire your earnestness. You didn't have to come on here and tell your truth. People can call you patronizing and insulting, but I get a genuine desire for you to understand and I appreciate your attempt to put it out there. You really want to connect with and care about people. I get this. And for those people who can't handle this guy's truth and have to put him down, grow up.
charlottemina 3 years ago
I am disabled and if you want to know how i want people to react to me i want them to not give a toss and treat me with the ignorence you treat any other person in the street like i'm not even there its so anoying when i'm going down the street and everyone say hello good morning hi how are you and i don't even know any of them people even pass me in cars and wave at me ithink they do this because the relized when you look at them that there stareing so must difuse there embaresment by engageing
blobby1972 3 years ago
You change cam angles far too often. It's distracting. Sorry.
marcluc1988 3 years ago 2
Man, you are the embodiment of stupidity. Disability is a condition of life that can certainly do without you. Believe me! Don't bother. Go play golf instead!
AnnaQuad 3 years ago
"Nothing in the world is more dangerous than a sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity."
trickeyspirit 4 years ago
Which is one reason I am so offended by some things. I mean, I think I have always asked myself, whether it related to race, class, age, ability....HOW WOULD I FEEL IN THIS SITUATION. If you can place yourself in the shoe (I only have one leg so 1 only wear 1 shoe) of another person, it often changes how you react to them.
trickeychick 4 years ago
When you have questions about disability, ask yourself, how would i feel in that situation.
And please don't assume we have all always been disabled. I lost my leg in 2002. Before that I was a runner and climbed telephone poles for a living, so I have seen both sides of the fence.
trickeychick 4 years ago
How insulting of you to assume that just because I'm disabled, I therefore don't get, and am craving, interpersonal interaction? Especially with someone as pompous as you come off in this video. Don't worry, none of us disabled people are missing out on your condescending five minutes of interaction.
Katatawnic 4 years ago
nice video
keithcry 4 years ago
the bravery....is a bit patronizing
U wanna be around most people with disabilities just be friendly & relaxed. Just be yourself. Social cues can change even just culture, country, etc. The "normal" idea is something that you need to get over as well. We're all just people. Embarrassment just happens. It's all about context.
rnb8220 4 years ago
I appreciate that you mean well, but I have to respectfully disagree with some of your base assumptions. For instance, you assume that just because someone has a physical, visible disability that they are "starved for personal interaction". Some PWDs are social bunnies, some aren't, nothing about being physically disabled makes you automatically socially inadequate. As a fellow christian, I'd ask that you prayerfully consider your condescension.
Tokahfang 4 years ago
I have disabilities, your video is great! I agree 100 percent with looking past disabilities!!! :-D
The Ability within me recognizes the Ability within you!
AbilityGirlCMG 4 years ago
I'm disabled. About your comments about saying hi to strangers who are disabled. Actually, I'm usually the one who just ants others to say hi and move on while the other person wants to chat, thinking it's what I want. Just like you, I don't usually like chatting with strangers unless there's a specific reason to do so. I do want to chat, just not with total strangers. I guess it depends on the disabled person but I'm usually grouchy and just want to smack strangers to move along. lol
wheelsofterror 4 years ago
Would you make a joke to a normal able bodied person who farted?
Saying Hi doesn't mean you have to do anything running the risk of offensive.
If you don't know what to do, ask the disabled person.
lantusappreciation 5 years ago
Thanks for this. I have worked with disabled students for along time and you put it all into words.Plus my girlfriend is disable and i'm able bodied, some prejudice when we are out together, maybe you can do a show about that.!
sufiboy 5 years ago
Seems to me that you become partially disabled when you encounter disabled people. It happens to you because you have learned that from others in the same way you have learned your other social skills. I see no reason to change, you mean no harm and that is to me the more important thing.
PorchDogPondering 5 years ago
Very wonderful blog. You are brave to initiate open discussion on this. Talking about this will help all of us to better relate and come together.
pi314too 5 years ago
Excellent video!
vitalfinds 5 years ago
Wow, you're very good at expressing yourself. I don't know what else to say. Good job.
dusty300 5 years ago
My eyes are blind to all disability. People are people and that is it. Having a disabled daughter has taught me that.
Momoftwinsplus1 5 years ago
I agree, it's a brilliant video. Don't worry so much about how selfish you are, the fact that you are so sensitive and caring that you took the time to make this detailed video nullifies your opinion of yourself.
Your need to connect with young attractive girls is a biological reaction to your hormones, and biological clock. Once you are married, and have children, you'll wonder why you never noticed how precious babies are. Living longer simply gives us more experiences to relate.
fafaintexas 5 years ago
Brilliant video. Thank you.
positivesue 5 years ago
This is an excellent video. Thank you for posting it.
connie727 5 years ago
I wanted to share with everyone some great thoughts that I recieved from Amanda (half of the YouTube username Orbvious pair). Both Ben and Amanda have backgrounds in psychology so I found their perspective particularly interesting. Amanda's thoughts are posted in a series of replies to this message to get around the 500 charachter limit.
TheBashar99 5 years ago
There are a couple of things happening for Wheels105 that need to be overcome. The first is that we are automatically uncomfortable with situations that step outside of our comfort zone. As a fully functioning human being the way to overcome any anxiety is to remember that there is not a person on the planet who is disabled, just different, and difference is what gives us diversity and makes us more interesting.
TheBashar99 5 years ago
The one thing that exists in all of us is the mind. The body is merely a vesel for the mind to move around. Talk to the mind of everyone that you meet. That is where the 'self' exists and if you be yourself you have nothing to fear. In principle the whole communication thing boils down to simply recognising the self within each other and acknowledge that we are all striving to be seen, to be heard, to be appreciated and ultimately understood despite all outward appearances to the contrary.
TheBashar99 5 years ago
The second issue comes from the primordial instinct to outcast a member of the species that threatens survival - hence the haters. People who have to overcome hurdles and suffer in the hands of a bi-ped society have much more to offer. Such people often have much more depth of thought than those who have been fed with the shallow silver spoon.
TheBashar99 5 years ago
hey thanks for taking the time to make this video! and it does make you think for the disabled person and how akward it is for them to interact with others. good on ya.
spewacus 5 years ago
What you are really talking about here is fear. Fear isn't rational, so you can't make it go away by thinking your way around it. You have to confront it. The best way to get comfortable around anyone you feel you aren't being honest with is to spend some time with them. When you find out they are just like you, the fear will go.
periurban 5 years ago
I think the lesson we can learn from Jesus is that he walked right past the hinderences that most people had and he related to people with disabilites. He treated them like people, he talked to them, he had compassion on them. We have to be willing to get to know someone in order to understand their needs whether or not we can help them or if maybe the best help comes in just being a real friend.
preacherman777 5 years ago
I think you have hit the nail on the head by making the point that disabled people make us uncomfortable and because we are uncomfortable we hold back and we don't allow ourselves to get to know them and try to understand the world they live in. Like anyone else who is different, the key to being able to relate, is finding a way to understand.
preacherman777 5 years ago