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  • ive heard the same arguments over and over.such as "wait you never had a problem with me before you knew i was gay" stereotypes will run the world forever people should relize this.

  • It looks hot there and so do you .... This vid is 50% inspiration and 50% perspiration, luckily your T-Shirt soaks it up and you have a hot body :D

  • you are awesome. true inspiration...

  • HOOAH!

  • I have just today discovered your videos and have wathed them all and subscribed. I think you are great and brave! I appreciate your service to this country. Keep the videos coming. A comment on this particular video: Do not edit your videos! Your "um's" are a part of you and makes your videos more genuine. You are great, don't ever change!

  • Oh hahahaha I know you now

  • Great

    You are not alone to be gay... Never forget it... Surelly  more than 5 % people on the earth are gays

    We are probally a minority, but like other minorities we exist, want respect... and want to be happy and in love ...

    Bye

  • I freakin' love your videos. I love your attitude and I love when you said, "I don't act gay, I don't act straight, I just act like me." Amen to that. People who go out of their way to "act" in any way make me sad... unless they are professional actors, then they are getting paid for it.

  • I think, whatever you decide to do you should take your top off :D

  • Damn bro you're really inspirational. Stay safe. I honour what you're doing.

  • @ICrySemperFi you're straight? Maybe you should keep it to yourself then.

  • @ICrySemperFi asshole

  • @ICrySemperFi WHY? What's the fucking problem?

  • @Starbuckfsd Because in the Military, servicemen have killed other servicemen for being gay

  • What like about this guy so much is that i hate the gay guys that act like their gay. like they talk and act like a chick and their just....ugh. But this guy... hes tough,cool and well i respect him alot. :)

  • @TheJonathanwhitfield I think what you mean is you dislike gays who act feminine yeah? Cause every gay acts like their gay, because they like guys lol :P But do you really hate feminine gays? I mean there are effeminate straight guys, manly gays metrosexuals, butch straight women, butch + fem lesbians would you really want every single man in the world to be hypermasculine, and every women to be completely feminine? I think it would make for a pretty boring world tbh lol :P

  • wow.. i loved to see those sweaty chest.. looking forward to watch your shirtless video.. yummiey~ =)

  • Remember that, while it's nice to have approval from straight people, it's not necessary. Be yourself and if anyone doesn't like it, FUCK THEM..

  • I'm an Atheist. I'm a guy.

    2 Reasons it doesn't matter that you're gay.

  • omg ok u should tell your friend but now that you baught up the editing thing I can't help but gear every um you say its writers I cans stop hearing umm everywhere I go lol

  • I like how he is sweating on his muscles, so sexy <333

  • no one said anything negative about it because even if someone has 1 braincell he would agree that gay people are exactly like straight people.

  • @OneDollarMercenary no uproar about it**

  • I completely agree with you, I love how the videos are few in number and chronicle your coming out. You make me so proud and I am honored that you are a serviceman in our military, they need more men like you.

    I also agree that you should tell your friend and in a way that he knows he does work well with gay people. I do think as I think you do too that you should wait to tell til after DADT aka now, for the legal reasons. Again thank you for these videos, you are inspiring so many out there!

  • Its fucked up how people think that a way of love is a sin, or that its abnormal.

  • You are awesome. !!

  • If you hate gays then your a true asshole. Because gay isnt picked by the person , its just the way there mind works . So if any of you think there stupid , idiots , nasty or anything else you are a complete Dickhead.

  • Your accent is sooo cute.

  • i love u no matter what xxx lol

  • Have you told your buddy yet? How did it go =/

  • I'm starting to feel like tons of people out there are gay...

    or at least everyone has a "niche" of the type of person/body type they're gay for, but some are lucky enough to not fully realize it or let it take over their conscience...

    The only difference guys have is the Y chromosome--the smallest chromosome in the body! Yes, it allows us to like girls, but we still have an X chromosome! The Y chromosome has also "deteriorated" over time--Google it!

    Of course, THIS IS ALL SPECULATION&OPINION

  • WHY ARE ALOT OF WHITE MEN GAY??

  • Its just another excuse to deny jobs to persons who need it. In combat, Carlos Mencia said it best - I want the gay guy whose in love with me fighting next to me - he gonna cover my ass!

  • What does a gay person act like? I've known people i thought were gay but weren't and the other way around. I think its a matter of personal preference whether or not you are or not - unless of course you are trying to start a relationship with someone. In the work place, it's nobody's business!

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  • gay or straight not big deal at any work,if it doesn't bother others!

  • By now you have probably decided what to say (or not say) to your friend. I hope you told him and also showed him that he does in fact get along with gay people. Hopefully everything worked out really well for you! (:

  • I'm sure by now you have either told him or he has found out and I hope that everything worked out well. I know from my own experiences from guy friends, before I came out to them they would say stuff like that all the time and I think that once they met a gay guy that doesn't fit the stereotypical mold they open up to that fact that gay guys can be cool too!

    p.s. I say um a lot too, don't worry about it.

  • Good Man, I salute you!

  • I love when you apologize. LOL!

  • thank you for this <3 i like how you said you act like you and not gay or straight , very cool , very inspiring ;)

  • This makes me so sad, you don't owe people an explanation you're such an amazing, strong guy. In the US people are such racists, the reason they don't take it further is bec of how the african american thing blew up in their face and backfired. anyways lots of respect to you xo!

  • I never noticed your "um"s until you said something about it!

  • U do what you feel like doin.If it makes u happy to tell ur friends then go 4 it.I'm a gay guy of 20 yrs old living in Mauritius and people like u make me feel happy that I'm gay.U seem like a really nice guy.Thanks.

  • @kayliahferrero Ow did you tell your parents about it? What did they say?

  • @WIIstpM2 I didn't.I come from a conservative family and I'm a muslim.I'm saving money to go live in the usa or some where else like Spain or France.It's hard sometimes having no friends 2 talk to but I love myself and I'm happy to be gay.I can't wait of doin it with a guy though.

  • @kayliahferrero mri bez :S moi mo pa kner si mo gay ou pas XD enfin.. Zom attire mwa sexuellement mai mo trouv mwa marier ek 1 fam,kontant li, ggn zenfant,etc... :S pou catholique etre gay 1 pecher... :O et having sex avant mariaz ossi pareil...

  • @WIIstpM2 I didn't.I come from a conservative family and I'm a muslim.I'm saving money to go live in the usa or some where else like Spain or France.It's hard sometimes having no friends 2 talk to but I love myself and I'm happy to be gay.I can't wait of doin it with a guy though.

  • nice lips

  • Who cares if you're gay man. Just stop complaining, deal with it. Live life for yourself, who cares what other people think about you. You don't have to make a series of videos about this...... Ty for your service though!

  • @queerp All the best of liberal and conservative small-mindedness!

    Anyway AYS I love your sincerity and resolve. Happy trails man.

  • @Pyretix actually according to a test of one's political ideology that I took, it stated that my views were somewhere in between gandhi and nelson mandela. most people with a brain idolize them, and my views aren't that far off. so i guess you don't think much of them either hey?

  • @queerp ok dude

  • I know this is months old but. Check your gig line. ^^

  • Thanks so much for your service to our country!!

  • gay isn't an mos. do your job and nobody should give a damn.

  • Yay!!! Next us gay marriage legal in all states!

  • @MPHansen83 when we are unaware of something.. it seems nothing is a big of a deal... so why concern with something after you know and never afected you? get scared? of what? :S

  • ...Respect dude

  • If you want to serve our country to keep it safe, I could CARE LESS what color your skin is, what religion's god you worship or who you welcome to you bed!!! DO YOUR JOB, do it well and please BE SAFE Doing it!!!!!

    In a perfect world I would say YES, please join us out here but it's NOT a perfect world. You're there, we're not. You know your situation, we don't. YOU have to do what you feel is BEST and safest FOR YOU!!

    BEST OF LUCK, STAY SAFE and come home SOON!!

  • thank you for coming-out.Thank you for using the word "Orientation"..the World is being passed to a newGeneration,yourGeneration.O­ver40yrs ago,TheStonewall revolt..began the Human-Rights movement for GayPeople in 1969...&.now in 2011 A new World is begining for your-generation...Keep up the good-work...just coming-out is always a huge-step...&..now coming-out in theArmy is an-actual-factual part of "Just Being a Person among-People"...living &loving:mayGod bless you &may youFind-Love(akaMrRight.

  • @Nightmoveblues do you have to comment on all his vids? how about you go fight a war and stop being a pussy behind a comp thx bye ^.^

  • fuck i feel so bad for saying things are "gay" now. i feel pretty terrible definitely going to change that.

  • @ThtTerracottaDrummer you missed the point, by far. just saying.

  • "I act like myself" you go bud :) everyone should be proud of their sexuality.

  • @Sileni You don't know him, you don't know anything about what was going on at that particular moment, if he was anywhere near anything significant, so why don't you just go back to your life, and let him do him. Oh btw, this is from a black girl, and people are all the same underneath. Too bad you're too shallow to see that.

  • yep tell him

  • Looks like KAF hmm

  • WHo the hell cares if he is gay , atleast he is brave enough to fight in Iraq

  • @leaderdblusbro your exactly right who cares if hes gay:) at least he can be a man an fight for our live an stil be gay

    i respect people like him

  • When i tell my friend "fuckin faggot" i dont use it in a way that compares them to gay people, im using it in a way that compares it to ....well......faggots

  • After watching this I'm not really uncomfortable with gay service members. I'm going to be a Marine and he seems like a good guy...

  • Way to go. You're a hero and you speak for so many others who don't have the courage to do what you're doing.

  • Dude I think I'm in love with your pecs....

  • To answer the question...

    You don't need to come out to every single person as it really isn't any of anyone's business what you do behind closed doors. However you should tell this friend of yours about your sexuality. Simply so that he can see there's nothing to be concerned about when it comes to interacting with gay people. This will be a huge blessing to the many gay people he will encounter throughout the rest of his life. So do it for them.

    Peace xoxo

  • my advice:

    1) wait until it's all legal.

    2) don't make yourself uncomfortable. you're not obligated to be vulnerable with every person on the planet. if you feel comfortable and you think the guy might grow and be a better person if he realizes that he has a gay friend, tell him. if you think it's going to be an uncomfortable situation for you, you don't have to tell that particular person. it's up to you.who you want to share personal things with.

  • great! now the ums are distracting me from the lulling bass, ;)

  • In my unit of 50 men 12 were out and even told like this stud did, 2 of us didnt deny it as we kept the oath of the UCMJ, So 14 out of 50 men gay and NO ONE CARED, NOT ONE thing happened.....

  • yes yes and yes-youre true youre honest-youre what a true American should be-i honor you and youre service-next workout-i remember you-every muscle i flex--yes i benefit-you benefit-i honor you.

  • Yes, tell him!

  • USA ! USA ! military ftw !

  • Now that DADT has been repealed, you should definitely come out. I admire what you do serving our country and good luck. Thank you for being honest and be proud. Thank you, Thank you again.

  • @Flipsexeen77 check his latest video! he recorded himself calling his dad and coming out. It's really awesome.

  • hope you are single.....

  • I'm just catching up with your videos, trying to watch them all in order so I am not sure if anyone has asked this below already, but did you tell your friend in the end?

  • Amazing! Great candid video. Good for you.

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  • DUDE WAY TO GO ... YOU THE BEST OF TE BEST WHAT THE MILITARY HAS TO OFFER .. I AM SO PROUD TO HAVE SOME ONE DEFENDING US OUT THERE. AND SO PROUD THAT ABOUT YOUR VIDEOS. WAY TO GO ..

    LOTS OF LOVE AND THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU ....

    I AM ANGELLO FROM LOS ANGELES .. DUDE THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ..

  • Now that you're out, Did you end up pointing out that he does get along w a gay man?

  • "I don't act straight, I don't act gay, I just act like me" --- So well said.

    There's always gonna be people who like us and people who don't, but we are who we are, and as long as we like ourselves and stand by who we are, there'll be a lot more "liker's" than haters...

    One more thing... I have the outmost respect for you and each and every man and woman risking their lives fighting for the safety of me and my family, Thank you all

  • you are so brave! good job!

  • Check out the video Don't Ask Don't Tell by @GoldiloXmusic. It is a great song and it addresses the problem

  • THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE! Now, serve openly and be proud!!

    HUGS~

  • So inspirational! All the luck and god bless you and your mates! My brother is in the army and he's bisexual, but he hasn't told anyone but me yet, so this is very personal to me too.

  • I love u dude!!!

  • Bravo. here is to 'acting like' we are!

  • keep up the good work man.. gay doesnt define us its just part of who we are.. when i was in the Marines my close friends knew and never had a problem with it..

  • I like your videos!

  • I think that the key to coming out is realizing that the closet is the fear of imagining the worst possible outcome, which doesn't necessarily happen (although it can).

    Coming out is not necessarily telling everyone, but living your life honestly.

    If it comes up and someone asks, go ahead. Or if it is someone you really feel should know (like the people mentioned in your first video).

    Generally, I confirm if they ask, but most importantly, try to live honestly.

    Good luck!

  • There is really no reason that you must come out just because of the repeal of DADT I am out and proud, but feel that sharing your sexuality isn't necessary always. If you have life experiences to share as friends because of something that you and your partner do, then it might need explained that your partner is male. But just because the rules change, share it when it's needed, be proud of who you are. Just do what you feel is right at that time and place.

  • Great video l wish you all good stuff for you future life. Be safe..

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  • DONT EDIT YOUR VLOGS. The "ums" are a hoot and a half.

    And your gay military "ramblings" are stuff I've never heard before. I love it.

  • I think you'll be prouder and your buddy will be pleasantly surprised when you come out to him, and you should! He'll be glad you opened his eyes a bit to realize that gays aren't always the ones you can TELL are gay just because they're different enough to stand out!

  • I think you should let your friend know. I admire your bravery.

  • Come out be proud :D

  • I think you should tell your buddy, it'll challenge his assumptions, which sound like they need a bit of a refresh.

  • @leftcoastpunk13z Congratulations! You insulted a military service-member who is risking his life for your very right to say that. You've passed initiation into the Westboro Baptist Church! What are you going to do now?

  • Yes, I think you should tell. Why, since your friend may be happy having a friend like you. If he doesn't accept you, then it's his loss. Be true to yourself and others.

  • Really cool how he accepted it. shows that real friendships are made.

  • You uploaded this video on Aug 2, 2011. That is the day got married with my partner (now husband).

  • Hmm I don't think I'm a position to say but maybe if he does know he'll think twice about making fun of someone gay.

  • I wonder if he is a top or a bottom ! anyways I just think It would be really hard to come out !

  • I wonder what DADT means? Anyway, your body looks great and ur mouth too :D hope your coming out is going great, you will be very famous in gay community.

  • @25089945 'dadt' stands for don't ask don't tell =/ the law he was talkin about in the beginning

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  • I am gay and it was hard to cone out to my friend but it's up to you who you want to tell and when you want to tell then!! And I hope ever thing go's good for you and I having nothing but respect for you !!

  • Yes, I found you on Towleroad. Take care & celebrate your life

  • Personally I truly believe if you are gay and you want to come out to people go for it. That is one thing I have never liked about the military and am glad they are getting rid of it. I have argued the subject plenty of times with other military members and all the ones I have argued with it about (mostly guys) have said let the girls come out and the guys get out. Talk about double standards. But as a sister in the same branch I say go for it if you want to shout it out.

  • I would be extremely cautious. Polices change constantly and there is no way to know how it will impact your career or your relationships with your coworkers long term. There is a great deal on the line. Especially if you want to make a career of the military. No need to blaze the trail. Keep it to yourself. It is nobody's business but your own.

  • Coming out is a very personal journey and you should only do it when you feel it is the right thing for you. Don't do it because you feel you have to tell him or for any other reason. You are the one that's going to deal with it so you should only do it when YOU feel ready to face what's next. When the moment comes, you'll feel ready to say it out loud.

  • AYS?: Wanted to communicate with you since I saw the Sidewinder video and then the others. Thanks first of all, THANK YOU for your service, then thanks for the Sidewinder video. I'm not gay, always was homophobic. EXCEPT about the Military. I served 40 years ago, and STILL believe that if someone is trained to do the job, it should not matter if they are gay or even a monkey. YOU have my support in what you are doing, because it is Constitutional. I guess I'm no longer homophobic. Stay safe!

  • Good luck to you in whatever decision you make. And, thanks for sharing the Sidewinder clips, which is how I first found your page.

  • I don't believe you should have to tell anyone anything just to prove a point. This is a personal matter and you should reveal it on your terms. God Bless and stay safe.

  • In response to your question: yes. Everyone deserves to be who they are without having to worry about what other people think; if your friend is really a friend he won't care. It shouldn't matter, PERIOD. It'd be like hating someone because they like a different baseball team than you do. It is what it is, and if this guy wants to trip, then its not your problem, its his. Just do you, you know?

  • YOUR FREAKING AWESOME!!! <3

  • Your a great soldier and I cant stand people that judge someone for who they love. I think your great. Tell your buddy if hes a friend he'll love you know matter what.

  • Gays and bisexual people are becoming more and more accepted in today's world and I think it's great they're repealing the "don't ask, don't tell" policy, and while I admire your courage, just keep in mind that once you come out with it you can never take it back. So long as you're all right with the guy's response and/or attitude toward it, I say go for it. Maybe you can ask him one day about how he feels about the policy being repealed and what he thinks about gays before telling him.

  • I think you realy should detect more if your friend could report you or not cause he may be more carring to have a good image then be friends with you

  • I really don't think you should tell with the nazi like tea cup party getting more control in the government because many that are quite about their dislike for gays will start being more out there with it.

  • I'd say definitely wait until the repeal goes into effect Sept 20, but absolutely come out if you are OK with his reaction, whether it's good or bad. The only way to help people understand that GLBT service members are the same as them is to say, "Hey, guess what? You DO know and work with GLBT already...and it's clearly not been an issue so far." Best of luck and I hope to meet you out there some day.

  • I have to adimre your courage, but be carefull and protect yourself.

    God Bless you and all the gay members of the military

  • you're making some awesome connections and i hope some day you will feel comfortable sharing this part of your life with your comrades.

  • You are awesome man. Don't worry about whether or not to come out to people.  It's a personal thing and if you feel like telling someone, then do. If not, that's alright as well. You might be surprised yourself by how people react especially if they have really gotten to know you. In my case, it has always been positive because they got to know *me*, not a sexuality. Good thoughts coming your way man.

  • man you're going to be fine, no worries he'll be cool also....

  • I respect you :] For both who you are and your courage.

  • I survived DADT and the even worse crap before it. Unfortunately I left the service before the repeal of DADT. I encourage you and all other LGBT service members to come out. There is strength in numbers and in educating your peers that LGBT people come in all shapes, sizes, colors and genders. If I was still in the service I would come out! It takes a lot of courage, because you don't know if any homophobes in your chain of command will ruin your career. Stay safe, young man. :)

  • Just got curious, as your video of covering "Rolling in the Deep" has gained so much attention right now, is everything OK in the military for you? coz they (as in the band members) shoulda found out who you are by now........

  • @roscoemak Read his twitter, they did find out. TBH that was my first thought when I saw that video - "this is awesome, but what if it gets back to them?"

  • Soldier, I was born with a condition that gave me "ambiguous gender." The technical term is "intersexed" and I used to be afraid of telling everybody gay, straight, and otherwise. I learned never to focus on their reaction. If you tell then tell because it is something you need to do in order to become the man you want to become. They are responsible for their reactions and how they treat you. Keep in mind that it might be a shock and show patience but never think you "caused" any bad reactions.

  • Here's a few cliches that fit the bill. 1) Honesty is the best policy. 2) Discretion is the better part of valor.

    If you value your friendship with this guy, then you might want to ask him, "What if you had a friend who was gay and you didn't know it?" Listen carefully to his answer. If this "friend' you're referring to honors and respects you as a person who happens to be gay, then it's a non-issue.

    As far as putting someone on YouTube without their prior consent; not cool.

  • There is a difference with people acting gay. I have a Gay guy friend...that is more female like in behavior, so....depends on what you mean. There are guys I know that are gay, but are more male acting. as yourself. Its very brave of you to come out and do a video. That must be really hard to keep from friends because you are afraid of loosing respect or being treated different - I wish you only the best.

  • You make me smile So proud of You! Be proud be OUT

  • I think it is quite sad that such things are even a question and it is a shame we have not developed a society where people are judged purely on who they are regardless of orientation. After all, that what is evil, is indiscriminately so.

  • @voianhemsed Society will have a long way to go. It has taken a long time and still there are some that have problems with the color of skin, so this is gonna take even longer. but you are right people should be judged based on how they treat one another. I feel that sexual orientation has nothing to do with (whether a person is good or bad) I get better treatment for non-Christians sometimes than christian. I am a Christian - we are not the judge, I am just a human. be well.

  • YES. :D You're such an inspiration.

    I'm so incredibly proud of you, mystery man.

    Your videos constantly make me grin.

  • I would love to chat with you sometime! Your amazing with what your going thru and we went thru this 20 yrs ago when my husband whose gay too came out in the military!

  • @eddie94603...the end of dadt is 20 sep not 10 sep. Don't start the party too early! :)

  • keep it up, champ.

  • If you want to then yes do it. But I feel like straight people don't announce that they are straight so why should gays? Don't feel obligated to tell him. -3 Spc. Perry

  • If YOU want to "come out" so to speak, then do it. If people don't like you for your sexual orientation then fuck them. I feel like it's harder on men then women to come out in the military.

  • I'd take things as they come, telling your friend is a good first step and only you know how he's going to react so I think you need to come to that conclusion whether or not its a good idea to tell him, but I hope if you do tell him that he is cool with it and accepting of the fact. In regards to coming out fully once the DADT is fully repealed I'd say take it one step at a time and do it at your own pace! I was outted as a kid and I wish I'd had more control over it to this day! Take care

  • When you asked if you should tell my mind went into overdrive. I came out to a punk band, probably the most why would we give a shit group of people and it was fucking hard to do. The stress level in comparison is miles away from in the military. So that lil guy on my shoulder says play it safe. But the one on the other shoulder, looking far more fabulous mind, knows how great it felt to do it and says go for it. No help. But I will say I have never respected anyone more than I do you.

  • I like the fact that you say you act like you, I act like me as well. I mean We may both be gay, but gay like race does not, or at least should not define people. Heck I tend to be a more feminine guy but I worked at Walmart and none of the guys new, damn woman lmfao They knew, but the fact is, as far as the guys were conserned I was just a little bit of a feminine straight guy, and they still dont have a clue. Anyways, just thought I add my thoughts and little story. Keep up the hard ass work.

  • I work on an Air Force base and let me tell you, there is a decent amount of service members showing their true colors while in uniform. I have noticed the increase within the past year or so. I think you guys will be fine.

    As far as I'm concerned if a gay person wants to join the military then who cares. If they can do their job then sexual orientation shouldn't prevent it.

    Thank you for your service to our country.