Dan's thoughts on the moral outrage about 'sexting'.

[toniviguncio]

What? you doesn't have a picture of your dick in the internet? omg!! Is there something wrong with it?

[tgwnn]

no the reason is not that we consider women communal property. the reason is people like breasts and they like forwarding pictures of them. they don't like penises that much.

[Rahavin1]

His reasoning is kinda flawed, I must say. The rest of the school was not suspended because you cant punish everybody. However, she didnt do anything wrong either. She is guilty only of sending private pictures to her bf (in a way easily shared, maybe naieve of her). He goes onto say that we are trying to "control female sexuality." Not true at all. He says "not pictures of dicks." which is also untrue. Viewed different? Yes. But does it imply a sense of control? Not at all. Refute me.

[slytherinspy1960]

@Rahavin1 what he was implying wasn't that everyone should be suspended but that no one should be. even you say she did nothing wrong. so why is anyone being suspended? that was his argument. people always have more of a problem with women showing themselves than men. this pretty common. so what happens is they try to control women's bodies more than they do men.

[kristinaoleta]

@Rahavin1 I used to take a two hour bus ride home from art school four days a week. The bus had tv's and they would play HLN from dawn until dusk. So I saw EVERY freaking "sexting" story on the news, because HLN only reports stuff like that. Not once did they report about a guy sending pictures of his penis. Not because guys don't send them or girls don't want to see them. In a sexting situation, any girl that denies wanting to see his junk is lying or asexual. It's because girls are

[Rahavin1]

@kristinaoleta Well, maybe it's the HLN ideal, but not others'. But as you were saying, when that group moves on, it may all become a non-issue. I do hope this is the case, even though such hopes have been abandoned in similar events previously.

[kristinaoleta]

@Rahavin1 supposed to be some kind of sexless beings while guys have as much fun as they want. Just look at the contraception argument. No one is saying men can't have vasectomies or buy condoms. Because men are allowed and expected to be promiscuous. Everyone is anti-abortion and anti-pill and anti-IUD because that gives women the same right as men to control their sex lives. To choose who and when and what and where and why and how they want to have sex. And it's fucking up guys as much

[Rahavin1]

@kristinaoleta The people that are against female contraceptives are also against male contraceptives. Just look at the Christian community and what they are trying to do in Africa with dissuading people from using condoms. I would say that the people who are trying to control women's sexuality are also trying to control men's.

[kristinaoleta]

@Rahavin1 as it's fucking up girls. Guys lose custody battles because that's a "woman's job." Guys serve longer prison sentences because "they can tough it out" and women "can't." So don't be fooled. This is a sexism issue that, like Dan said, will be a non-issue once all the crazy old people are dead or no longer in politics.

[Rahavin1]

@kristinaoleta Yes, this is part of the feminist idea of equality only when it suits. As soon as a custody battle comes up, or prison time is being discussed, its all about the quotes you just stated. It is a flaw with the feminist movement. Instead of focusing on equality and consistency in argument, it is the exploitation of the argument which is oftentimes subconsciously adopted. It is important not to focus on one group of people, but all people.

[dragonflux14]

DERP TJ SENT ME DERP

[unifieddynasty]

@dragonflux14 TJ didn't send anyone here. He 'liked' the video and people reacted independently and accordingly.

[BluTrilobite]

I'm a freak, I'm too modest to put pics of my "junk" online or, I still have some dignity and common sense. Not everyone needs to or should ever show their "junk" unless you're trying to induce vomiting!

[Dvdbabcock]

@BluTrilobite so according to you, everybody's junk induces vomiting. So then why does the pornogrophy industry thrive so; and for that matter why do we even reproduce and succeed as a species: Because according to you, we are all going to barf the moment we see a pair of tits or a ball sack. So you wanna know what i say to you and all the people who comments on this video.

Pics of tits or gtfo

[BluTrilobite]

@Dvdbabcock No, no, no! I'm just saying SOME people need not show their junk to anyone. If you get turned on by old men's wrinkly dicks or some unfortunate guys tiny baby dick or cocks with sores or grandmas loooong, saggy tits and you really like seeing this and I have offended you, then I'm sorry.

I'm all for hot chicks showin' their tits so maybe I should have been a bit more accurate in what I was saying. Have a wonderful day!

[Monad01]

I wonder if it has occurred to Dan that the reason why a girl's 'tit's' are circulated widely is not because "we don't think women own their own tit's" (and by extension, their sexuality). But simply a matter of supply and demand. Simply, there is plenty of demand for 'tits' and not much for 'dicks'. Just look at prostitution and porn.

Women should be able to do what they like with their bodies, but people will make their judgments, rightly or wrongly. Such is life.

[clixx13]

Id like to know what dan thinks about Congressman Weiner and Brett Favre, given his remark about how it's "never pictures of dicks".

[lookatmepleasesir]

a girl sending pictures of her body is worse then a boy sending pictures of his body

[BassHead563]

@lookatmepleasesir Explain

[lookatmepleasesir]

@BassHead563 the pictures of the girl will be circulated more and lots of guys will jerk off to them. Similar reasons to why a straight guy cannot be a slut . All to do with the differences between male and female sexuality and male/female sexual dynamics. Girls and women need to respect their bodies and they seem to have no idea how to do this.

[SeedsOfHatred]

@lookatmepleasesir I don't know, I've met some pretty slutty straight guys.

That aside, women are whores. It happens. For some, the idea of their picture being circulated is a flattering one. That's part of the reason you can find pictures of them literally anywhere.

If women want to whore themselves to feel good, is that not their decision? We don't need to respect or agree with it, but that doesn't mean they "need" to respect themselves. As I said, some feel the degradation to be enjoyable.

[lookatmepleasesir]

@SeedsOfHatred Even if a guy is promiscuous, he isn't a slut.

[bradconx]

@lookatmepleasesir people dont call him a slut but they will think of him as one... unless they are sex deprived in which case he becomes a hero.

[SeedsOfHatred]

@lookatmepleasesir Hahaha. That's pretty much the politically correct definition of the word "slut": promiscuous.

You trollin'?

[lookatmepleasesir]

@SeedsOfHatred a slut has always refered to a female a promiscuous male is reffered to as a sleaze or a stud. To be promiscuos a man has to be naturally charismatic or has to put a lot of work into having the perfect combination of charm, wit, confidence, status and physical appeal. A slut just has to be there. Any girl can do it.

[SeedsOfHatred]

@lookatmepleasesir Cute. I saw that Jim Jefferies standup special too.

In any case, we're just arguing irrelevant symantics at this point. Men aren't generally called "cunts" either, but every now and then you'll find someone calling a man a "cunt". Slut, cunt, twat, whore, they're just words. Our language is evolving to the point that there is not a whole lot of gender specificity anymore.

As I said, it's just irrelevant symantics. My original point is that your morality does not dictate

[SeedsOfHatred]

@lookatmepleasesir (Part 2) the morality of others. If women wish to whore themselves across social media, they may do it. You dont' have to agree with or respect it, I personally don't agree with or respect it, but it's not our lives. It's theirs and the lives of whomever comes across their photos later on. Your condescention is unecessary.

[SeedsOfHatred]

@lookatmepleasesir (Part 2) And as for those who don't wish to be circulated, yet send pictures of themselves to others anyway; they knew what they were risking. It was their decision and they must reap the consequences. That's their problem.

If they're not smart enough to have the forethought, that is also their problem.

[Sethmyrrh]

Well said. This guy has a lot of very good points.

[AcidReflux27]

First off, the girls aren't getting in trouble for sending the picture, they are getting in trouble for exposing their tits in public. Boys DO get in trouble just as often, it's just not on the news as often. This guy is clearly a Mangina, and needs to climb back into his mothers feminist womb.

[pengu5981]

@AcidReflux27 Actually, he wasn't being sexist at all. He was saying that the girls getting in trouble is sexist dumb ass.

[Kd8OUR]

when i was 13 a friend of mine and his girlfriend got in trouble taking pictures of each other in his room. his mom wasn't happy, but now days he could have went to fucking jail. WTF america. 

[dowshipwigga]

So true

[rockerteen8300]

I agree with him but it's funny how he jumps over the fact that women have pussies, you would assume womens sexual organs were tits if you didn't know anatomy, now I know he did not mention pussies for two reasons, #1 to be polite, #2 so stupid people would not start thinking what a pervert, but I mean really, it's fine to talk about dicks "which it is" but not about pussies, instead we have to call pussies tits. LOL

[FoxNewzLies]

I don't know. They talked about Anthonys "Weiner"

[AlexanderAnarchist]

This is obsolete. That democratic dude who had to quit was sexting.

[tubetib]

And what about child pornography? Why is it a crime? I am not talking about child exploitation but only about the idea that the image of a nude young person is illegal. When are we going to accept ourselves as human being as we are?

[mistajames3213]

@tubetib Issues with abuse and a lack of consent. Though I agree with the Supreme Court of Canada that interfering in the private sexual activities of teenagers of the age of consent (either with close-in-age exceptions or 16+) is none of anyone's fucking business, because sexual exploration is a natural part of growing up.

The problem is the forwarding of "sexts" because we need to protect minors from their own stupidity (see the negative social consequences mentioned in this vid)

[57world57]

meow

[jajackka]

Makes me feel a lot better about the pictures I thought would come back to bite me lol

[bartonim]

Well, obviously the boys who share pics of their gfs' booty are slimy losers. And the girls need to wake up to a very clear message: drop the dickhead boyfriend, and feel free to share pics of your boobs with the right friends!

[TeenNewsLive]

who the fk would send pictures of their dick?

[StuffedCrows]

@TeenNewsLive Someone who's girlfriend or boyfriend asked?

[SytrusISurtys]

Pot should be a non-issue, but it still is. Im not sure what you were talking about there. Good vid

[AlexeeGforce]

TJ liked this

[ButtaNToast]

@AlexeeGforce So did Tfoot

[TheRandomguy112]

this is not completely true because their is a 10 year old boy on the sex offenders list because he sent a picture of his own dick to his gf.

[HannibaltheVictor13]

Happened in Ohio, in licking county they tried to charge a girl with distribution of child pornography. They claimed that they didn't want young women to ruin their lives. It has got to be the biggest crock of shit in a long time.

[HaploidCell]

Yes, true, but there WAS a popular case of some politician losing his job because of sexting. Anthony Wiener, I believe.

Probably post-this-speech.

[linkuei83]

@HaploidCell if memory serves right wasn't because of sexting, but because he was screwing around. Wasn't meant for his wife, but another woman, but correct me if i'm wrong.

[xxpocketmonster]

So much respect! Thank you for saying so much that I have been thinking!

[MoldytoasterMedia]

this guy is such a pervert.

[Beeevaaa]

@MoldytoasterMedia rofl!

[SpearofDestiny0]

OMG I Love Dan Savage

[lisambofoh]

I normally don't call sexism left and right because I think issues can be more complicated than that, but Dan's right on about young women not owning their own bodies. Everyone wants their teenage daughters to be pure and spotless, but it's normal if their sons aren't.

[Vaeviktis]

That, is my dick. Swing on it.

[inflate98]

You seem to say that all our problems will fly away, once all the "old people" are gone. Your pumped up arms speak volumes about your self-regard, and what really matters to you - which is apparently an insatiable desire to be loved. Well, I don't love you. Swing on it.

[squamish4244]

@inflate98 Every generation has complained about the next generation's 'moral degradation.' Two thousand years ago, a Roman philosopher complained about the 'moral degradation' of the youth of his day. Based on that reasoning, we'd all have regressed to single-celled organisms by now. People start bitching about the younger generations once they get old enough to get resentful. And I'm not exactly a spring chicken anymore, so you're not hearing this from some teenager.

[inflate98]

"...and now can't - because no one wants to see them naked." Ageist, much, Dan?

[squamish4244]

@inflate98 Maybe, but it's true. Nobody wants to see them naked.

[atomiclovekaboom]

@squamish4244

I do!

[nikoincroatia]

That president should be you Dan!

[ifthisisthelife]

the advertisements are offering me a holyland-pilgrimage to israel. wtf?

[insaneduck16]

omg i lovehim so much

[squamish4244]

One 18 year-old girl hanged herself after her boyfriend forwarded naked pictures of her to a bunch of people at school...he's the one who is at fault, for being an asshole.

[Child3o3]

Funny and no nonsense at the same time .. love it! ★

[darrenholcomb42]

There's no such thing as illegitimate children, only illegitimate parents.

[TheJadeSabre]

no pictures of dick... this is pre weinergate

[makenna88]

This is the first thing I thought of when I heard. Smart man, Mr. Savage.

[MagillaCutty519]

Visited here again after Weinergate... Damn, this guy is prescient.

[docatomics]

...eye put my full monty on the net last week in a private call to my sweetheart, and of course the signal was stolen and copied, good luck controlling me with your crimes you shills,

~ if you dare expose yourself to try; as I all ready know each and every data base & line that my encoded picture in picture has been opened in, ha ha ha, control yourself or get my fist !

[timray99]

a father who plays outside of the marriage is how Africa ended up the AIDS Capitol of the World

[gcclarke1]

The whole "someone's political career has been ruined by sexting" thing has already started.

[DEVB0T]

@JimmyPi314 the whole point is, why IS it slutty for a girl to have pics of her tits online or to send a pic of them to someone she wants to show them to. A guy does something like that and its "boys will be boys" a girl does it and its slutty. cos, as Dan says, girls dont have the right to do such things, their bodies dont belong to them, they belong to men. and hopefully thats what'll change. then everyone wont have "dirty" pictures online. they'll just have pictures. of their tits. big deal.

[JonathanBloggs]

@DEVB0T Because in an evolutionary sense the consequences of female promiscuity is greater for the family than male promiscuity. A father fucks around and nothing happens, he can come back to his wife and still help raise her kids, he can still provide them food. A female fucks around and that's a whole year of someone else's genes getting in the way of yours, that's some other guy's kid you have to feed, taking food out of the mouths of your kids.

I'm not saying it's right or fair btw

[karahershey]

when clebs sexist it makes them more  fam

[karahershey]

 your right thats so sexist and so true

[JimmyPi314]

"everybody is gonna have dirty pics online". Thats not gonna happen. Many women would prefer not to have themselves portrayed as a "slut".

[drealgrin]

@JimmyPi314 Hopefully only the fatties.

[ianmboyd1]

Brilliantly spoken. =)

[dsalmeron]

I love the comment at 3:40

[MATHGODpi]

just watched doogie horner and then this vid... dan savage is 100x funnier

[TheBeanandcheese]

Ya I agree with this..but I also don't think 12 year old kids should be doing it and they are. Does that make me old fashioned? I don't think so.

[kiwisunshine5233]

@dajamesbomb2005 Its not like I'm saying its okay. There are consequences beyond legal ones. The only legal consequences should just be for the police to inform the parents and to teach the kid why they shouldn't be sending nude pictures.

[EyeLean5280]

@rozax740, really? "hear, hear"? What's the background on that, if you don't mind taking a moment to explain. Thanks.

[Ryno706]

Juvenile

[donashcroft93]

XD i have sent pics of my dick to a boy it no big deal =)

[xxBlacksundayxx]

@donashcroft93

Keep it to yourself

You are what,16? Thats illegal

[rodittis]

And here I thought "sexting" was just sending naughty text messages to someone. LOL! I am soooo out of it... 

[lorezapocalypse]

@dajamesbomb2005 Digital technology has created an environment where censorship is not possible. You can talk about a middle ground all you want, but the technology isn't meeting people in the middle, its on the side of a scary, extreme form of freedom. Well, scary and extreme to some people.

[dustin60671]

I love Dan Savage

[ickaickaicka]

PREACH!

[recoil669]

Not to mention the fact that the old people who're old now will be dead.

[karahershey]

so so true

[HOPSCOTCHPIRATE]

im replaying this. Dan, you pwn.

[koishiou]

Here here Dan : ) Anyone accusing him of being a misogynist can now look to this for proof that at least regarding some aspects of female sexuality discourse, he knows his sh*t.

[Orville9999]

I agree with him most of the time but this opinion of his is bullshit. the boys who receive these pictures from their girlfriends get prosecuted for possession of child pornography much more than girls do. If anyone has numbers to prove me wrong feel free to share them.

[MagnusIan]

I can't wait until the day we have a presidential candidate who admits "Yeah, I masturbated furiously to pictures of Scarlett Johansson. What straight guy didn't? How many times in a day? Uhhhhhh, about 6."

[kiwisunshine5233]

@dajamesbomb2005 If a 13 year old girl/guy sends pictures of their junk or tits, they shouldn't be arrested at all for it. Its as stupid as a 13 yr old masturbating and being arrested for "child molestation". Its up to the parents to teach their kids not to send nude pictures of themselves, but if it happens, it happens and there is nothing we can really do about it.

[NinkaPanda]

@kiwisunshine5233 HELLO! Thats CHILD PORNOGRAPHY! 16 years old and under!!

[kiwisunshine5233]

@NinkaPanda There is a BIG difference between child abusers raping kids on camera for money, and a kid just taking a picture of his/her own body. A child shouldn't be arrested and put in jail just for doing something that can't [physically] harm anyone.

[SuperRustyTrumbone]

@kiwisunshine5233 ever since when did a child get arrested and put in jail just for that.

you dont no what youre talking about.

[lookatmepleasesir]

@SuperRustyTrumbone kids have been charged for sexting pictures of themselves 

[SuperRustyTrumbone]

@lookatmepleasesir so you went from kids going to jail to kids just being charged?

[lookatmepleasesir]

@SuperRustyTrumbone I never said they went to jail. But its likely that they did.

[SuperRustyTrumbone]

@lookatmepleasesir man i hate this youtube chat thing coz wen everyones in on a conversation its hard to know who said what, soz. and no, i think a kid wouldn't go to jail for showing round a pic of tits, unless it was in middle east.

[SessKo]

Dan Savage releases his inner feminist, nice. =)

[TheBigMclargehuge]

SWING ON IT! 

[TheNoWayOut85]

Those are my tits... but I didn't inhale! lol

[Goobian]

On a recent episode of Penn and Teller Bullshit there was a 12 year old boy that got a picture sent of a 12 yo girl naked from another 12 year old boy. He told his best friend about it. His best friend said if you don't send it to me I will not be your friend anymore. So he sent it and felt so bad he deleted it right after wards. The next day he went to school and 25 other boys had the picture and they all got arrested for sending child porn. The charges got dropped on him fortunately.

[abmindprof]

You forgot to mention that they'll be persecuting something new from younger people when they're old. Just don't want the young 'uns to feel too morally superior.

[pendulousphallus]

I want to buy Dan a beer.

[shatani]

hahaha....bushels of coke.  i love it!

[RassieDog]

love Dan

[integral]

love dan savage

and I wonder if I can sell my sex tape before it's so commonplace

that there won't be a market for sex tapes? ;)

[losermilkshake10]

dan savage needs to be president

[IoEstasCedonta]

In the future, everyone will have a fifteen-minute-long sex tape.

[valhar2000]

If it were up to me, the people who expel these girls for "sexting" would be sentenced to years of hard labor.

[Divinity33372]

VERY true. As a sex workers advocate one of the main issues I have to deal with is women not owning their bodies out right. WIN video.

[rileypam]

one of the problems is the huge distraction this causes in school. Learning of a different type does occur I suppose, but not Algebra.... haha no, i make bad pun, but it IS a concern there. I wouldn't expel the girl but her cell phone privileges maybe could exit the building.

[Inaneen]

Gademit, watched all 96 videos in the past two days and as I subscribed to your channel, the ugly reality is, that you probably will not upload 90 videos or sth in the next two days. Can I still hope?

[morsa575]

Insightful and hilarious as always. Well done.

[phleba23]

Ideas to chew on-