I suppose also don't agree with scheduled c sections before 37 weeks when it's not medically necessary. Which means scheduling a c section before baby is full term when you don't have a medical reason to do so. I don't even know why a mother would do that or a doctor allow her to in the first place. However, I don't agree with the idea that elective c sections, when baby is full term, are somehow a poor choice. Your birth experience should be the way you see best to give birth and that is the s
I thought it was a really good video until the end where you said that you have a point where you judge like when it comes to an elective c-section.
You either judge or you don't - it doesn't matter where you draw the line. If you "minimise" what ANYONE else chooses to do then you are just as bad as anyone else that judges you for the things that you deemed necessary.
It's not about no one else being in the room, it's about no one else being in their head.
omg i had the same problem! I had an emergency c-section after 20 hours of non progression labor they wanted to make me go longer and would have if it came to a life and death for my daughter. Her heart rate was dropping fast and it was getting really low. If i didn't have a c-section she would have died. Was i sad i missed out on a natural labor YES did i want to lose my child.. NO. Then because of pcos and c-section i couldn't BF i didn't produce milk no matter what i did every ass made me
@TTCPCOS feel like shit! everyone made me feel scumish because i didn't have a natural labor or breast feed.. people need to keep their mouth's shut. after 20 hours of labor and 2cm dilated the WHOLE time. Having a epidural after 14 hours of labor was the best thing i did because they'd have knocked me completely out and taken her out.
I had the same thing happen with my first. My choice was c-section...at that point it is not a luxury choice. I totally agree with you one this. I'm expecting another child in March so we will see how this goes...
I hope you have that moment with baby #2 Carla :))) I really connected with you and this video, you are a fantastic mother and I hope your next birth is every thing you hope for :)
(contued) But just because I think the "system" in North America has gone rather awry, it doesn't make it alright to judge people. That accomlishes nothing.
This a great video. I think it's SO unproductive to criticize an individual mother's birth decisions. When all is said and done, health for mother and baby is what matters. However, I don't think that should ever detract from the effort to question a system of birth that would have use believe a full third of women can't birth vaginally. I think birth should be as low tech as possible, and that obgyns shouldn't base the practices on flawed research about what is "safe".
I just love you more and more Carla!! I had to have a emergency c-sec with my daughter cause my pelvic bones 'didn't open' naturally, so she could not come out...LORD, at all the hate I got...I'M NOT about to let my baby die in the womb b/c I 'want' a natural birth.no way..Then when i got preggo with #2 and had to have a planned c-section at 39 weeks.more hate.ppl need to ask themselves "what would you do in that situation?" would you let ur baby die? nope, didnt think so.i just love you carla!!
"Having Hannah for a Lifetime" :) I connected with you so much when you said that . I am Due in August and I have a few issues that has caused me concern and I have opted for a elective C section . I am scared to death to have this baby vaginally , It is my body ,my baby and my choice . I really have no support or understanding for this from my Husband or family. There response is you will be fine! I don't feel like if there isn't intervention that I will be fine.
You said this so well. I was induced 41w, had to have vacuum extraction and episiostomy. I had a friend that posted "I am so sorry your doctor rushed your delivery by scheduling an induction." I was so sad for a week about that.
as long as you and the baby are alive and well as all that matter's!! i had an epidural and it was freaken wonderful i was able to stop puking from the pain! and relax and enjoy my sons birth! and id do it again !
With my twins I was induced @ 39 weeks. I had PUPS & blood pressure issues. I could have waited but the PUPS was awful. The fact that I carried twins to 39 weeks is incredible. I had an epidural. Being that it was twins I had to give birth in the operating room. Things didn't go the way we wanted. Our babies are healthy & getting ready to celebrate their 1st b-day and that is all that matters!
not as much once I was dilated (that could have been the epidural getting it the way though). So while I didn't get to push him out on my own, I did get my successful vaginal birth.
The one birth plan that I don't understand is CHOOSING a c-section over vaginal birth just because childbirth pain scares you. I think that x number of hours is a lot easier to deal with than weeks of recovery time. We are made to birth vaginally (granted sometimes we aren't able to because of x medical condition)
partly because so many people here just do it that it was almost automatic for my hospital.
I was induced a few days early because of my high blood pressure, and while I think that I could have done the birth itself without the epidural the contractions were pretty unbearable, but the anesthesiologist took forever getting there so I was already fully dilated when he was done. Also because I was induced (I personally think) the pushing instinct really came with the first few real contractions,
While I do believe that induction causes a whole lot of problems that can get in the way of one's birth plan, I also understand and agree that sometimes induction is sometimes medically necessary.
I believe that you made your choices in as sound of a mind as one can have during birth, let alone your experience, with clear reasoning. I wholeheartedly support that.
I didn't really have a birth plan and I got the epidural partly because I didn't think I would be able to handle the birth pain and
I would love more than anything to have a child naturally, from conception to birth. But I don't get a choice in either respect. When I was 14 I fractured my pelvis in 6 places (hips, ischiums, coccyx and pubis). I am an automatic c-section when it comes to that day. If my hips allowed a baby through it would only be because they broke. To conceive, unless God grants me a miracle, it will be with fertility treatments. I have PCOS and uterine fibroid. So I don't judge anyone for those things.
@isisorchid As for the whole breast feeding vs. bottle feeding thing. I am always in favor of breast feeding. Since I can't conceive or give birth naturally I want to breast feed as long as my body and the baby allows, ideally up to a year and a half. I do somewhat judge women who ELECT to bottle feed. Why? Same with elected c-section. Why? But if it's out of your hands, it is to save the mother's life and baby's, I will never judge. Instead I'll be proud you did what you had to do.
@isisorchid Last one I promise. I also favor organic baby food at home vs store bought, but I've never judged anyone for buying it in the store. I can see how it'd be time consuming or frustrating for some. Plus produce is expensive when it's organic. I will do my best to always make my own food. And I favor cloth diapering vs disposable because I love my planet and poop doesn't bother me. My sister is doing disposables because she can't even clean the cat box without throwing up.lol
I laughed &cried through this video also VERY well said! I also wanted to have a natural birth with my 1st & it was COMPLETELY out of my hands as they had to take him out at 32 wks 4 days. That entire situation was very hard for me to come to terms with. When I found out I was preg with # 2 I had the same intentions. I made it all the way to 7 cm naturally before a few minor problems caused me to have yet another c-section :( BUT my 1st birth taught me happy & healthy baby is ALL THAT MATTERS.
There are so many opinions as to what is the "right" thing to do when it comes to having a baby. Your the one delivering the baby and no one can change that. As for as breastfeeding/formula and getting your son snipped/not snipped. Its no ones decision but you and your partners. No one should put blame on you for what you feel is right. There are complications with everything you do and risk. I was induced and got the epidural and had a wonderful birth. And if I could do it again i would.
Carla this video is awesome! I had an experience very similar to yours and people look down on me and hurts bc I didnt have a choice. I wanted a medication free waterbirtha nd got an emergency c section and an infection that turned into sepsis. My baby's life was saved by a c section. Anyway Ill save the horror story but I loved this video I have delt with alot of guilt I shouldnt have but this does make me feel better. You are a rock star :)
So happy I'm subscribed to you! You rock! I wanted my labor to start naturally, I wanted an epideral, and I wanted to be able to be able to feel the need to push and by some MIRACLE I had the birth that I wanted. BUT I'm so prepared for that not happening the next time around. The point of being empowered is to know what you want and go for that and not be judged by our peers who are in this case other mothers! We have to support each other and realize that different families do everything diff
Oh I just love you Carla! Lol. Honestly, look at a lineup of fifth graders...who was born with epidural? By c-section? Vaginally? Nobody knows and nobody cares! EXCEPT their own moms!
I feel guilty every day because I had an emergency c-section. My daughter ended up having a massive drop in heart rate because of meconium aspiration. I blame myself every day and think about what I could have done differently to change the situation.Too often I see Youtubers put down people who don't breastfeed or have natural births. It is so refreshing and relieving to be able to feel like I am accepted by this community because of what you have said here. This desperately needed to be said.
The point is to have a happy healthy baby. I gave birth to a healthy happy little boy who is 1 month old and that is all that matters to me not how he came into the world but that is in it with me !
Beautiful story! I am going for a VBAC with my little lady (due today.. Haha) and it took me a very very long time to cope with my last birthing experience. Did things go the way they should have? No. Was my c-section medically necessary? Not according to the doctors I've spoken to. But i have my beautiful little girl. That's what matters.
I totally agree with you and very well said. My sister had a c-section and it's not because she wanted to but because the baby needed it. I don't understand why other people would go on saying things that are not appreciative, they are trying to make you feel as if you took the easy out.
Amen! I use to have strong feelings about what I wanted my birth experience to be like, but after having 2 miscarriages, being diagnosed with a blood disease called ITP, and now pregnant for a third time, I don't care what happens during the birth as long as my baby is safe and healthy. If I get to bring home my baby at the end of the day, I will be happy. The birth experience will be amazing, c-section or vaginal delivery, because of my BABY not because of how I brought her into the world.
I <3 this video. You put it so well when you say that even though you have an idea in your mind of what your labor will be, it may not turn out that way. To criticize someone for something they didn't necessarily choose is ridiculous. As long as Mom's aren't making decisions that directly endanger their childs life, then WHO CARES! They aren't making a decision for you, your body or your family so let them be.
I had both of my boys by c-section and I have never felt cheated or shorted or anything! I feel like you take care of them for 9 months and they are alive because you did your job! And it does not matter how they get here it is that they get here and they are great!
So, for anyone, well researched or not, especially in the lay community to pass judgement on someone else's labor experience is rather self righteous and probably pretty ignorant. I am with you, Carla. You want natural? Go for it. You want an epidural? Get it. It's your body. Your life. :) But, I trust my doctors. They know more than I do. And, as you said, in the end health is ALL that matters.
My aunt is and has been a labor and delivery nurse for over 30 years and she has always told me that you literally have NO IDEA what can go wrong during delivery. I don't intend to scare anyone (I'm 29 weeks pregnant myself) but it's true. In fact, those things my aunt has seen are the very things that actually used to kill mommy and baby all too often. These "interventions" sometimes are life saving.
i'm commenting as i'm watching but i wanted to let you know that i literally just laughed out loud when you were trying to figure out the word "engage." <3
I'm not able to link my video, but I created a video response, YT username is mrsmnifer77. I rambled, but the message is still the same...it's up to you, to your partner and what works best FOR YOU!!
i think it´s always the same thing: every mom wants to give birth natrually and breastfeed and go through pregnancy without any medication - that is what EVERYBODY wants - but it´s just NOT what EVERYBODY gets. and believe me: if something goes "wrong" at any point - as a mother you do feel guilty! even if your not!
good for you! i think it's very easy for anyone to make snap judgements before realizing that each person has their own situation. you never know what you would do until you're in the situation yourself...moms feel we have to prove we are a good mom.. i know one of my worst fears was for someone to think i was a 'bad' mom and so we have to defend our own actions, but its at the expense of someone else's experience. good for you for speaking up!!! <3 what you said about a lifetime with hannah :)
then doctors are puting them on scheduals expecting a one size fits all birth. In the end I guess all Im trying to say it as mommys we should support eachother and teach how to be educated on all aspects of parenting including birth but never make you feel bad for the way things went! Im so sorry anyone made you feel bad about your birth. Sounds to me you did your best and that is all anyone can do!!!
I agree with everything your saying. The sad part is alot of people/mommys will post/say things like you described and make other mommys feel bad about one of the most beautiful things they will ever experience! Then there are some moms (like me) who just want people to know their options. You did research and were educated but sadly most women don't know there are other options or understand anything about birth besides a baby will come out one way or another and go for the ride and....
I think sometimes people forget that childbirth used to be the number one cause of death for women. C-Sections are a wonderful thing for those who need them. I had a vag birth with an epidural....I'm a wimp:) In the end, all I cared about was coming home with a healthy baby.
I wouldn't have a clue in the slightest how I was born, I've never really cared all that much to ask. I wouldn't have a clue how anybody else I know was born either because does it REALLY matter how you birthed your child? It's ONE day (unless you're like carla with such a long labour hehe) in comparison to a lifetime of days where "choices" will be made. You can't change it. It happened. It's not a big deal. It wont change who your baby is, it won't change who they become. It could be worse! :)
By your description in this video, I had the exact same labour except it wasnt induced and i wasnt dilating for 7 hours at the higest contractions every minute. Im having a really hard time cause i wanted completely natural no intervention birth. You really made me cry, its soo hard to come to terms with. I would really appriciate if you would answer me back and tell me how you dealt with it! I dont regret having a c section by the end but i am dissapointed :(
I LOVE your videos ... I wish I'd found them sooner!! But seriously, your air your opinions and feelings with such grace and eloquence. Hannah is very lucky to have you as a Mum :)
I think (and hope) that most of this judgement is not aimed at stories like yours, but at the women who say 'are you kidding? I'm not going through all the pain of a vaginal delivery! Knock me out and cut it out of me' without being educated or aware of all the risks and potential negative effects of c-sections. And yes, MANY women said those exact words to me when I told them I wasn't going to have an epidural!
@raquelmacuil1980 And yet this isn't really their fault. It's how our society is today. I thought I educated myself on birth with my hospital ed class and read the recommended books. Having a natural birth was mentioned, but that was it. I didn't know much about birth until after my third child was born....yet I thought I did, I took the class, and all my friends and family had a hospital birth with pain meds. That was my "normal."
I tried for years for my twins and I would have let them chop my arm off to get them hear safely. Im all for natural births but I did NOT have babies to have a delivery I had them to be a mother and to have beautiful babies. I would not and do not get how a mother can let how she births her child affect how she bonds with her child. Like the poor little baby has a say in any of it. The makes me mad.
Good Qn! I find myself in a similar place, I too bf & cloth diaper so have similar news feed! I didn't have strong opinions on most issues pre delivery, where as I do now. (For my babys/ies) My aim is to always respect other people's choices & their right to express their opinions. Just cause a choice was differnt to mine doesn't make it wrong!! Doesn't mean I'm perfect & don't have to "check" myself once in a while. I totally agree that whatever decision you make it should be an informed one :)
@thebubblelush first baby I had a scheduled c-section at 37 weeks due to my heart abd blood pressure being so high the doctors were concerned about me having a stroke. I hated myself for it since my daughter was in nicu for a week with breathing issues. Second time around I had a VBAC with epidural after 14hrs and I wouldn't trade my baby for the world. Would I change anything yes, do I judge, NO it's the moms choice nobody else's!
Shame on those who judge ..I think you did everything you could have to get your nat birth..I say good for you....No Blame here I had a 10 lb baby by C-section and tried to go nat with #2 but gave up after 12 hrs you did a hell of alot better then me!!!And I have been watching your videos the past 2 hrs...
Im sitting here watching this while my daughter cries through contractions shes not due for 4 weeks ...I think shes just over tierd and the braxton hix get worse with every baby..My daughter loves her epidurals but wants a water birth but says it depends what happen's that day ..
thank you for this. i had emergency c-section after water was broken 20 +hrs and labor didnt progress. just like you explain your experience, i had to make a choice for my son's safety. and i did go through very emotional time right after birth. and my mother in law who also had c-section told me " don't feel like you failed as a mom just because you had c-section. the important thing is your baby is finally here and safely" at that moment i felt so much better like got it off my shoulder.
Hi! I love watching your vlogs and i am kinda looking up to you because i am also factor v positive I have had 5 clots I am now 15 weeks n 6 days with my first child n im scared cause of all my health problems I am on Lovenox 200mgs daily and have been since 4 weeks 5 days Im scheduled to see a perinatal specialist next week so far ive had 3 sonos and babys looking wonderful I had 2 scares already with that said i would love to speak to u more about questions i have so please contact me Thank u!
Regarding your comment about scheduled c/s before 37 weeks...you will be happy to know that all portland area hospitals refuse c/s before 39 weeks now unless medically necessary :)
Thank you for this. I am not pregnant and have never been before, but I have so many 'plans' for my future births and sometimes I do get 'judgy' towards people who don't want to birth naturally/cloth diaper/breast feed, etc.. I am slowly getting better and I appreciate your candid viewpoint on this Carla!
I totally understand! Sometime I catch myself judging mothers who formula feed, but it's not cause I think they're bad moms. I'm just really pro breastfeeding & get a little excited sometimes lol! Good video :)
Thank you so much for making this video. I have been struggling so bad with the outcome of my own delivery. Just like you I had my dream birth plan, but the outcome was nothing I could ever imagine. It's even came to the point where its hard to talk to people about because I always feel like I am going to be judged by other mothers. And yes, you are so right, I was the only one in the room! And I made the best choice for myself and my daughter. This video gives me confidence to share with pride!
i couldnt breast feed and i pumped for 2 months but couldnt bear to see my daughter be alone so much so i coul ppump so i decided to stop pumping and switch her to formula, i feel judged bout it every day and so many people were unsupportve of my decisionto breastfeed at al that now i feel like im getting alot of i told you so's and as a formula feeding mother i feel guilt and regret but i know that i did the best that i could with the stuation i was given and i wish that there was no judgement
MY opinion...it's their life, their labor, nobody elses. I don't think anyone has any right to judge someones choices. YES, you can have your opinions, but if they are negative, they should be kept to themselves.
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
I totally AGREE w/ you. I feel the same about moms judging moms about their method of feeding the baby. I was 110% breastfeeding my son but I really didn't have a supply, I did what the lactation consultant told me NOTHING help my supply it was formula or my baby not eating. I was judge by EVERYONE when i fed my child in public. i get the stare. I was told my family members "OH your not a good cow" that made me feel like sh.. I would cry because i wanted to BF my child. im PROUD of what i did
I have major regrets about my first birth and I always think about what you said when Hannah was born, you said it may not be what we wanted but its our birth story so we love it! And I thank you for that. After you said that I came to terms with my first birth and now I love our story.
You're spot on Carla. Women can be SO judgmental of other women. We need to support each other. I like you would never choose a mothers choice of her birth plan or how she chooses to fed or diaper their child. I had severe preeclampsia and had a 6week preemie. No mother would want that. I too want a vbac. I hope we both get them.
Man, I'm not even pregnant and I want an epidural. hioo!! Anyone? Anyone? No?
The only problem I have with a c-section is with these women who are "too posh to push." Or as you said, having it scheduled before 37 weeks without a medical reason.
C-section is not something I would want, but I can say the same thing for any surgery. The thought of being cut open scares the hell out of me. As for the epi, I wouldn't rule it out. I've never been in labor, so I can't say I'd never get one. ^_^
My first labor & delivery was nothing like expected or planned BUT it was a HUGE learning experience. My 2nd went perfectly until 9 cm and I hit the wall you are talking about. I have huge regrets about it but otherwise I am ok with both but it took me time to cope with it. I am PRO-EDUCATION. I think a lot of choices and better decisions could be made with education but I think its each moms decision. I think you and I think a lot alike Carla Dear :)
Thanks for being a voice of reason, support, and calm in this community. I saw the blow-up on your comment and I decided I wasn't going to touch it with a ten foot pole. Those judgements and vocalizations are the reason I don't fully invest myself in this community and keep my connections on YT/FB to a limited bunch of ladies who I know are very open-hearted people. I have to deal with enough negativity with IF- I don't need it from my "support" community.
I cant thankyou enough for this video. Spoken so well. Everyone's delivery is so different and we all can't predict exactly how it will all go. I have four children and all were different. All women have the right to their own choices as it is their body and we are the only ones who know our bodies. Parenting brings so much judgement. We should all respect other mum's choices and decisions.
One way is never better than the other - it's a matter of preference and it's nobody's right to force their opinion on anyone else. I will never force my views on you."
I feel the same way, so much so I made it a point to tell everyone: "To all my ladies - please know that I do not care what you do with your childrens' penises. Or whether you want to cloth diaper or use disposables. Or whether you want to breast or bottle feed. Or whether you want an epidural or natural birth. Or whether you use bumpers, bouncers, crying out methods or anything you can think of concerning your children. I am your friend, and that is regardless of any personal belief I hold.
Jdmvlogs. Exactly. I was part of the Facebook discussion and I feel that my comments were taken out of context. I was going to make a video response but you have said exactly what I was trying to say at the time.
I remember following your birth. We were all so worried about you as one day turned into 3. I am thankful for science and technology. Without modern science I may have not had a succesful birth. I went 42 + as well and Irving was not coming out. He did not engage until I was 10 cm. He also was not pressing on my cervix. I came very very close to a C cection and honestly I would have done it in a second. You were amazing and you are my hero.
the only thing that matters during birth , whatever the choices you've made or will make , is that the baby comes out healthy and that both lives aren't in danger.
I think we can all dream of the perfect labor and delivery, but reality tells us that nothing in life is perfect and as long is that baby is healthy nothing else matters.
Basically all I mean to say is, you should never make a choice out of fear, and from what I've heard a lot of women do. We are all SMART women, do your own research and find out what works for you and your baby based on facts not horror stories :)
The only thing that bothers me about hearing other women's birth stories, is they didn't educate themselves on all their options. They choice to listen to other women and be scared of something so good & natural that they only ever considered an epidural based on fear. If you educate yourself on your options, and then make whatever choice you're comfortable with, then power to you. I just don't think going into something so life changing unprepared is responsible. Was that non judgmental?
@jdmvlogs I think most women feel educated though. I took a birth class at my hospital and read the recommended books. All the women I know do that too. So we feel educated...even though now I now (after birthing 3 children) that I was not as educated as I should have been.
Thank you for this video I am terrified that something will go wrong on my induction on Thursday the 26th. I have pre-E and I have been thinking and praying about my birth and it is great to see this video and you shine some light on some of my fears and concerns, thank you! Lydia
This video is very good! Any approach that can help the mother to deliver her baby in the most natural way possible - in a safe way though, is welcome! I mean: you're dealing with your baby's life, that's the priority! Sorry for my awkward English. Hugs from Italy!
"Um, what you doing" lol love it! I'm 3months pregnant with my first and am hoping for an all natural birth but life happens so I'm going to go in with a positive attitude and let God give me my baby how he sees fit! Simple as that.
I just don't want to be strapped to a bed so I want to stay at home as long as possible. I just want that moment too I want to be the first person to hold my baby not the fourth. I want this next birth experience to be better and I def don't want postpartum depression.
Not always almost never actually do things go as perfectly planned I thought mine would though but it ended in csection. I went into postpartum depression thinking my body failed me and that I was less of a mother than those who delivered their babies naturally and vaginally.I want to VBAC with this one and its all I want but I feel like I won't get it because of the protocols at my hospital my doc has already told me they will do continous monitoring which I don't want.
my own birthing experience was over before I knew it. From the first contraction untill the birth itself 90minutes had passed. I come from a family of "fast birthers", the nine children born to my mother, sister and me were all born within three houres of labour and birth, and with no real recovery needed afterwards. But I have a complication that causes a high risk on premature labour, without medical intervention I would have lost my daughter before 24 weeks of pregnancy= so stress nontheless.
You GO Carla! Women putting other women down because of their own CHOICE is just petty. I almost had a panic attack from the pain of the pitocin contractions, I wasn't getting a break, my contractions were back to back..hour after hour. That epidural was the BEST thing to happen to me at the worst part of my labor. I don't regret it ONE bit! And for other women to say that my choice was wrong...all I have to say is, in the nicest way, you weren't in the bed with me, huh? Didn't think so :)
With all that "go-natural" stuff people tend to forget that in places where there is no medical help available, 1 in 3 births end bad for the mother or baby or both. Thanks to all the medical posibility's they've changed this rate drastically. That we're now on a point where too many people over-romanticise the whole birthing process. Never feel bad when it didn't went as "natural" as you would have liked, cause nature can be a real b**** .
there were some negative comments on the post but i ended up some good convos with 2 diff women about birth and breast feeding it was great to connect with diff women on these topics in a positive way.
watching this gave me shivers Carla i have no judgement on any ones birth, some people have great births and some have horrific but it is only women that understand what labour is like so we should all support each other. When i went into labour with my third child i found out afterwards that family members on my husbands side had been praying for me to not have an epidural as i had had one with my previous ones, um i wanted to have a epidural with my third and that pissed me i wanted one.
LOVE YOU CARLA!!! Seriously, you are one the most mature Youtubers I watch! I am FB friends and a follower of a mother who is very anti-circ. She posts about it a lot and I just have to pass right over her posts about it. She says she isnt judging, however, it comes off as very "high and mighty." I just dont get why she cares so much about what parents do (or dont do!) with their son's foreskin. I dont care what she does w/ her son's foreskin and she shouldnt care about my son's!
Right do what ever is best for u and your baby i would rarthe no ep. Or c sec. But with my son i was induced and had pethedine and gas and air but i did not want ep. Or c sec. But if it was nessercary the yes i EOULD have it its like people would prefer you and baby to die then make a hard choice x
I just had my first 3 weeks ago and I expected the worst because I heard so many horror stories!! My birth was not scary at all it was perfect, no pain meds, quick and no issues I labored in the jacuzzi tub which you never hear of and it did wonders. My midwife was nothing short of amazing. I did have a hospital birth but in the end I needed nothing from it other then the tub! I still think being in the hospital was great and you never know what could happen! You never hear of the good experien
I don't think there are many moms who get the birth experiance they want, at least the first time around. I know I didn't. So many things were not what I wanted but the number one thing had nothing to do with a birth plan but the fact that my hubby was deployed.
I don't see how anyone can judge anyone elses birth. How your child comes into the world at that exact moment does not change that the mother carried them for 40 or so odd weeks give or take. A Mom is a mom no matter how she gives birth.
Amen sister! We are trying to do the best job we can as moms. As long as our kids are safe, healthy, and happy, it doesn't matter how they came into this world or whether we BF or formula feed.
This is crazy!! You should in no way have to explain yourself!! You had to do what you had to do to ensure the health and safety of you and your baby.
I completely agree with you as well. Birth is just one of those things that cannot be scripted. You gotta do what you gotta do depending on the situation you find yourself in.
Carla thank you for kicking so much booty :) haha everyone needs to chill out and learn that there is a difference in introducing new ideas to people and shoving you're thoughts and ideas on others. Give information, help others, and then let them do what they wish with that information. Everyone is different and has a different experience :)
Very very well articulated, this video is going in my favourites. I didn't even know anyone considered these options as "bad things" until I joined the TTC YouTube community and came across so much negativity and judgement. We wouldn't get dentistry without pain relief...
Great video! I am one of the few that had to get over my tramatic vaginal birth. My first pregnancy was with Trplets and from the start I was set for a c section but at 23 weeks while in hospital bedrest I had to delivery my first baby vaginaly. I wasn't ready for that and I was scared. The next day I delivered my other two via a inverted t csection. From then on I hae to have a repeat section.
I <3 you Carla! I knew from the get-go that I was going to have an epidural. My hospital does epidurals at any stage of labor. So I did a few contractions just to see what they felt like, and then was like "Okay, epidural please!". In which they did, but my labor was going so quickly, that as soon as my epidural took affect, I started pushing and he was out in like, 15 minutes! So I like to say that I did the labor part without any medication.. Which I technically did!
I agree with you. Go health and what is necessarily with your plans known.What happens within the walls of the hospital rooms is hectic. Babies can through off "YOUR PLANS" right from the beginning.If women didn't know this before hand than what did they expect? Go in,DO "PLAN" no matter what...HAHAHA WRONG. The baby has say so in this too!! Think again Mom's!!
Such a great video! I wish people would go in to birth with an open mind, you really never know what can happen. This is my first and I think it would be incredibly presumptuous of me to say this is how it's going to be regardless. I've never been through this so I can't make that decision yet. Ideally it would be nice to say I had a natural birth but I'm not going to be rigid to the point that I feel robbed of an experience, in the end my ling TTC journey will be over and I'll have my son in m
So I try to post things that are to learn from before the matter to help woman that way. I don't I've every voiced my opinion on certain labour or birthing situations either. But I guess just relating and educating is my way of helping? Who knows. Knowing my luck someone feels judged no matter what. :(
I *try* not to judge, but I am only human, right? I try to educate on the matter BEFORE, but I can see how it would come across as judging or make someone feel bad. I've gone through a lot with my birth as you know and I struggled a lot too and still do, sadly. I've come across a lot of woman through YT that have had traumatic birth experiences because they DIDN"T know about epidurals, pitocin, induction methods and c-sections etc and felt if they had known their outcome who of been different.
oh carla i almost cried too when ou were talking about ripping the curtain back and hannah licking you r face!!! Oh i hope that you can have a baby on ur chest next time around! I was watching a baby story and they positioned the curtain really low and layed the baby right on mommy chest after birth! maybe if you have to have another section ask if that would be possible...
haha momma i didnt have an epidural with my first and had a breezy 7 hour labor lol with my second 20 hours later i had to have an epidural. i had to!!! i gave up. but i am the same way i am the only one who got to experience the entire labor... so everyone else can have an opinion but thanks for keeping it to yourself lol!
You did awesome! Hannah is here and safe and perfect so I think you did a pretty damn good job. Other people need to get over themselves. It took me awhile to get over my c-section with Haleigh (emotionally) but it was for my own reasons that it bugged me so much. I am very proud of my VBAC with Lucas, and it helped me heal a lot. Both of my kids are here and perfect in the end that is all that matters :)
Absolutely amazing video!! I had a tear come to my eye :) I work in labor and delivery and the doctors and nurses HATE c-sections and push for vaginal births. Although we all see medical necessary means and at the of the day we want a healthy baby and healthy mama. Thanks for sharing this video I hope it helps with less judgement and more acceptance :)
At 25 weeks pregnant I was told I would need an emergency c-section that night and that the baby would probably not survive. When I made it to 36 weeks I was just ecstatic to have made it that far and that my baby was most likely going to be ok. I long for that natural birthing experience next time, but I know that for my situation a c-section was a blessing that ended a very scary pregnancy. I think people judge without looking at specifics, and you just can't do that.
I'm pregnant with baby #2 & TERRIFIED of a vbac. I had a traumatic birth experience as well that ended in a c-section. My son wouldn't come out... after what ended up being 1 hour of being told I was 9+ when I was a 10 and felt like I needed to push, 3/1/2 hours of pushing and 2 hours of waiting for my doctor and then surgical staff to get there and being told not to push. So as much as I would absolutely love to have a vbac, I'm so scared of all of the strain on my uterus and having it rupture!
A friend of mine wanted a completely natural birth and ended up having an epidural when her baby came out sideways. I am so unbelievably proud of her and she is one of the bravest people I know. As women, we should support each other through this time instead of judging, right?
Carla, thank u for this video! You are truly an advocate for this community. As women we need to support one another's decisions regardless of what our own beliefs are. We don't have to agree but we do have to accept. One of the beautiful benefits of living in a free society.
I suppose also don't agree with scheduled c sections before 37 weeks when it's not medically necessary. Which means scheduling a c section before baby is full term when you don't have a medical reason to do so. I don't even know why a mother would do that or a doctor allow her to in the first place. However, I don't agree with the idea that elective c sections, when baby is full term, are somehow a poor choice. Your birth experience should be the way you see best to give birth and that is the s
spearminthappenings 4 days ago
I thought it was a really good video until the end where you said that you have a point where you judge like when it comes to an elective c-section.
You either judge or you don't - it doesn't matter where you draw the line. If you "minimise" what ANYONE else chooses to do then you are just as bad as anyone else that judges you for the things that you deemed necessary.
It's not about no one else being in the room, it's about no one else being in their head.
LouiseAndBaba 2 weeks ago in playlist Uploaded videos
you had me rolling at 10 mins lol
nellyville6502 2 weeks ago
omg i had the same problem! I had an emergency c-section after 20 hours of non progression labor they wanted to make me go longer and would have if it came to a life and death for my daughter. Her heart rate was dropping fast and it was getting really low. If i didn't have a c-section she would have died. Was i sad i missed out on a natural labor YES did i want to lose my child.. NO. Then because of pcos and c-section i couldn't BF i didn't produce milk no matter what i did every ass made me
TTCPCOS 2 weeks ago
@TTCPCOS feel like shit! everyone made me feel scumish because i didn't have a natural labor or breast feed.. people need to keep their mouth's shut. after 20 hours of labor and 2cm dilated the WHOLE time. Having a epidural after 14 hours of labor was the best thing i did because they'd have knocked me completely out and taken her out.
TTCPCOS 2 weeks ago
I had the same thing happen with my first. My choice was c-section...at that point it is not a luxury choice. I totally agree with you one this. I'm expecting another child in March so we will see how this goes...
ArtInMeAndYou 2 weeks ago
I hope you have that moment with baby #2 Carla :))) I really connected with you and this video, you are a fantastic mother and I hope your next birth is every thing you hope for :)
maraJason1 2 weeks ago
Thank you for this video!
AnniePik 2 weeks ago
(contued) But just because I think the "system" in North America has gone rather awry, it doesn't make it alright to judge people. That accomlishes nothing.
danielle9074 3 weeks ago
@danielle9074 accomplishes* woops
danielle9074 3 weeks ago
This a great video. I think it's SO unproductive to criticize an individual mother's birth decisions. When all is said and done, health for mother and baby is what matters. However, I don't think that should ever detract from the effort to question a system of birth that would have use believe a full third of women can't birth vaginally. I think birth should be as low tech as possible, and that obgyns shouldn't base the practices on flawed research about what is "safe".
danielle9074 3 weeks ago
I had a natural and didn't get the moment bc my son was 4weeks early and he came out not breathing i had the moment with my daughter and its GRAND!!
morgan85100 3 weeks ago
I just love you more and more Carla!! I had to have a emergency c-sec with my daughter cause my pelvic bones 'didn't open' naturally, so she could not come out...LORD, at all the hate I got...I'M NOT about to let my baby die in the womb b/c I 'want' a natural birth.no way..Then when i got preggo with #2 and had to have a planned c-section at 39 weeks.more hate.ppl need to ask themselves "what would you do in that situation?" would you let ur baby die? nope, didnt think so.i just love you carla!!
KirkseyNation2006 3 weeks ago
Excellent vlog! Who is anyone to judge another mother and the circumstances at hand.
mommywood1 3 weeks ago
Oh Carla, you are such a beautiful person! I hope you experience that 'moment' with your future second baby.
TheHannahBrophy 3 weeks ago
( continued ) And all I care about is getting this baby here healthy and without issue. I am Brandy Huffman on your FB page.
eugenesgal22 3 weeks ago
"Having Hannah for a Lifetime" :) I connected with you so much when you said that . I am Due in August and I have a few issues that has caused me concern and I have opted for a elective C section . I am scared to death to have this baby vaginally , It is my body ,my baby and my choice . I really have no support or understanding for this from my Husband or family. There response is you will be fine! I don't feel like if there isn't intervention that I will be fine.
eugenesgal22 3 weeks ago
You said this so well. I was induced 41w, had to have vacuum extraction and episiostomy. I had a friend that posted "I am so sorry your doctor rushed your delivery by scheduling an induction." I was so sad for a week about that.
cassiebrite 3 weeks ago
as long as you and the baby are alive and well as all that matter's!! i had an epidural and it was freaken wonderful i was able to stop puking from the pain! and relax and enjoy my sons birth! and id do it again !
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With my twins I was induced @ 39 weeks. I had PUPS & blood pressure issues. I could have waited but the PUPS was awful. The fact that I carried twins to 39 weeks is incredible. I had an epidural. Being that it was twins I had to give birth in the operating room. Things didn't go the way we wanted. Our babies are healthy & getting ready to celebrate their 1st b-day and that is all that matters!
jabkrb77 3 weeks ago
I love how open minded you are! i love it! youre just awesome. its so easy to be judgmental about anything thats different!
OhkayKada 3 weeks ago in playlist Uploaded videos
but we are not meant to be cut into, especially not by choice.
ok rant over
Kakita987 3 weeks ago
not as much once I was dilated (that could have been the epidural getting it the way though). So while I didn't get to push him out on my own, I did get my successful vaginal birth.
The one birth plan that I don't understand is CHOOSING a c-section over vaginal birth just because childbirth pain scares you. I think that x number of hours is a lot easier to deal with than weeks of recovery time. We are made to birth vaginally (granted sometimes we aren't able to because of x medical condition)
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partly because so many people here just do it that it was almost automatic for my hospital.
I was induced a few days early because of my high blood pressure, and while I think that I could have done the birth itself without the epidural the contractions were pretty unbearable, but the anesthesiologist took forever getting there so I was already fully dilated when he was done. Also because I was induced (I personally think) the pushing instinct really came with the first few real contractions,
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Kakita987 3 weeks ago
While I do believe that induction causes a whole lot of problems that can get in the way of one's birth plan, I also understand and agree that sometimes induction is sometimes medically necessary.
I believe that you made your choices in as sound of a mind as one can have during birth, let alone your experience, with clear reasoning. I wholeheartedly support that.
I didn't really have a birth plan and I got the epidural partly because I didn't think I would be able to handle the birth pain and
Kakita987 3 weeks ago
I would love more than anything to have a child naturally, from conception to birth. But I don't get a choice in either respect. When I was 14 I fractured my pelvis in 6 places (hips, ischiums, coccyx and pubis). I am an automatic c-section when it comes to that day. If my hips allowed a baby through it would only be because they broke. To conceive, unless God grants me a miracle, it will be with fertility treatments. I have PCOS and uterine fibroid. So I don't judge anyone for those things.
isisorchid 3 weeks ago
@isisorchid As for the whole breast feeding vs. bottle feeding thing. I am always in favor of breast feeding. Since I can't conceive or give birth naturally I want to breast feed as long as my body and the baby allows, ideally up to a year and a half. I do somewhat judge women who ELECT to bottle feed. Why? Same with elected c-section. Why? But if it's out of your hands, it is to save the mother's life and baby's, I will never judge. Instead I'll be proud you did what you had to do.
isisorchid 3 weeks ago
@isisorchid Last one I promise. I also favor organic baby food at home vs store bought, but I've never judged anyone for buying it in the store. I can see how it'd be time consuming or frustrating for some. Plus produce is expensive when it's organic. I will do my best to always make my own food. And I favor cloth diapering vs disposable because I love my planet and poop doesn't bother me. My sister is doing disposables because she can't even clean the cat box without throwing up.lol
isisorchid 3 weeks ago
I laughed &cried through this video also VERY well said! I also wanted to have a natural birth with my 1st & it was COMPLETELY out of my hands as they had to take him out at 32 wks 4 days. That entire situation was very hard for me to come to terms with. When I found out I was preg with # 2 I had the same intentions. I made it all the way to 7 cm naturally before a few minor problems caused me to have yet another c-section :( BUT my 1st birth taught me happy & healthy baby is ALL THAT MATTERS.
HisMrs06 3 weeks ago
There are so many opinions as to what is the "right" thing to do when it comes to having a baby. Your the one delivering the baby and no one can change that. As for as breastfeeding/formula and getting your son snipped/not snipped. Its no ones decision but you and your partners. No one should put blame on you for what you feel is right. There are complications with everything you do and risk. I was induced and got the epidural and had a wonderful birth. And if I could do it again i would.
CrayolaAttack 3 weeks ago
Carla this video is awesome! I had an experience very similar to yours and people look down on me and hurts bc I didnt have a choice. I wanted a medication free waterbirtha nd got an emergency c section and an infection that turned into sepsis. My baby's life was saved by a c section. Anyway Ill save the horror story but I loved this video I have delt with alot of guilt I shouldnt have but this does make me feel better. You are a rock star :)
meggyloo22 3 weeks ago
Amen...sister. As mom, dad/partner are happy and at peace then who are we to pass judgement.
Shannindhall 4 weeks ago
So happy I'm subscribed to you! You rock! I wanted my labor to start naturally, I wanted an epideral, and I wanted to be able to be able to feel the need to push and by some MIRACLE I had the birth that I wanted. BUT I'm so prepared for that not happening the next time around. The point of being empowered is to know what you want and go for that and not be judged by our peers who are in this case other mothers! We have to support each other and realize that different families do everything diff
aml1012 4 weeks ago
Oh I just love you Carla! Lol. Honestly, look at a lineup of fifth graders...who was born with epidural? By c-section? Vaginally? Nobody knows and nobody cares! EXCEPT their own moms!
sendmejuice 4 weeks ago
I feel guilty every day because I had an emergency c-section. My daughter ended up having a massive drop in heart rate because of meconium aspiration. I blame myself every day and think about what I could have done differently to change the situation.Too often I see Youtubers put down people who don't breastfeed or have natural births. It is so refreshing and relieving to be able to feel like I am accepted by this community because of what you have said here. This desperately needed to be said.
kendra326 4 weeks ago
Amen Carla,
The point is to have a happy healthy baby. I gave birth to a healthy happy little boy who is 1 month old and that is all that matters to me not how he came into the world but that is in it with me !
0625harmony 4 weeks ago
Beautiful story! I am going for a VBAC with my little lady (due today.. Haha) and it took me a very very long time to cope with my last birthing experience. Did things go the way they should have? No. Was my c-section medically necessary? Not according to the doctors I've spoken to. But i have my beautiful little girl. That's what matters.
mandi620 4 weeks ago
I totally agree with you and very well said. My sister had a c-section and it's not because she wanted to but because the baby needed it. I don't understand why other people would go on saying things that are not appreciative, they are trying to make you feel as if you took the easy out.
wErHoPiNg4BaBy 4 weeks ago
Amen! I use to have strong feelings about what I wanted my birth experience to be like, but after having 2 miscarriages, being diagnosed with a blood disease called ITP, and now pregnant for a third time, I don't care what happens during the birth as long as my baby is safe and healthy. If I get to bring home my baby at the end of the day, I will be happy. The birth experience will be amazing, c-section or vaginal delivery, because of my BABY not because of how I brought her into the world.
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I <3 this video. You put it so well when you say that even though you have an idea in your mind of what your labor will be, it may not turn out that way. To criticize someone for something they didn't necessarily choose is ridiculous. As long as Mom's aren't making decisions that directly endanger their childs life, then WHO CARES! They aren't making a decision for you, your body or your family so let them be.
ChelsyeBrooks 4 weeks ago
Too much pressure is placed on us women to do everything au natural.Noone should feel guilty for choices made. Very well said Carla.
beyondmyfreedom 4 weeks ago
I had both of my boys by c-section and I have never felt cheated or shorted or anything! I feel like you take care of them for 9 months and they are alive because you did your job! And it does not matter how they get here it is that they get here and they are great!
goodonebruce 4 weeks ago
It's truly sad that we, as women, feel the need to have to explain these things.
tstlkevanilla 4 weeks ago
Honestly, who cares what a bunch of people you don't know think about you. You don't have to explain yourself. You're a great mom!
angelsongbaby 4 weeks ago
So, for anyone, well researched or not, especially in the lay community to pass judgement on someone else's labor experience is rather self righteous and probably pretty ignorant. I am with you, Carla. You want natural? Go for it. You want an epidural? Get it. It's your body. Your life. :) But, I trust my doctors. They know more than I do. And, as you said, in the end health is ALL that matters.
Caitlindale917 4 weeks ago
My aunt is and has been a labor and delivery nurse for over 30 years and she has always told me that you literally have NO IDEA what can go wrong during delivery. I don't intend to scare anyone (I'm 29 weeks pregnant myself) but it's true. In fact, those things my aunt has seen are the very things that actually used to kill mommy and baby all too often. These "interventions" sometimes are life saving.
Caitlindale917 4 weeks ago
you're an awesome woman, Carla. end of story. thank you for this video.
somethingfaded0212 4 weeks ago
It's true. Nobody knows what really went down unless they were there. You have to do what's right for you and your family.
NaturallyThriftyMom 4 weeks ago
i'm commenting as i'm watching but i wanted to let you know that i literally just laughed out loud when you were trying to figure out the word "engage." <3
somethingfaded0212 4 weeks ago
Carla for President!! Woot Woot!! Best debate ever!!3
nvme4imaqt 4 weeks ago
Amen Sist-a
Fer6810 4 weeks ago
I'm not able to link my video, but I created a video response, YT username is mrsmnifer77. I rambled, but the message is still the same...it's up to you, to your partner and what works best FOR YOU!!
mrsmnifer77 4 weeks ago
Well said Carla!!!!
NauticalGirl85 4 weeks ago
i think it´s always the same thing: every mom wants to give birth natrually and breastfeed and go through pregnancy without any medication - that is what EVERYBODY wants - but it´s just NOT what EVERYBODY gets. and believe me: if something goes "wrong" at any point - as a mother you do feel guilty! even if your not!
Ninitschga 4 weeks ago
good for you! i think it's very easy for anyone to make snap judgements before realizing that each person has their own situation. you never know what you would do until you're in the situation yourself...moms feel we have to prove we are a good mom.. i know one of my worst fears was for someone to think i was a 'bad' mom and so we have to defend our own actions, but its at the expense of someone else's experience. good for you for speaking up!!! <3 what you said about a lifetime with hannah :)
ch1pmunk86 4 weeks ago
then doctors are puting them on scheduals expecting a one size fits all birth. In the end I guess all Im trying to say it as mommys we should support eachother and teach how to be educated on all aspects of parenting including birth but never make you feel bad for the way things went! Im so sorry anyone made you feel bad about your birth. Sounds to me you did your best and that is all anyone can do!!!
bakerof5 4 weeks ago
I agree with everything your saying. The sad part is alot of people/mommys will post/say things like you described and make other mommys feel bad about one of the most beautiful things they will ever experience! Then there are some moms (like me) who just want people to know their options. You did research and were educated but sadly most women don't know there are other options or understand anything about birth besides a baby will come out one way or another and go for the ride and....
bakerof5 4 weeks ago
I think sometimes people forget that childbirth used to be the number one cause of death for women. C-Sections are a wonderful thing for those who need them. I had a vag birth with an epidural....I'm a wimp:) In the end, all I cared about was coming home with a healthy baby.
juliet1178 4 weeks ago
That is what I always say. I don't care how your babies are born you are not less of a mother.
I had an emergency c-section with my 1st child and a planned c-section with the 2nd.
parnellapril 4 weeks ago
I wouldn't have a clue in the slightest how I was born, I've never really cared all that much to ask. I wouldn't have a clue how anybody else I know was born either because does it REALLY matter how you birthed your child? It's ONE day (unless you're like carla with such a long labour hehe) in comparison to a lifetime of days where "choices" will be made. You can't change it. It happened. It's not a big deal. It wont change who your baby is, it won't change who they become. It could be worse! :)
kwoodfor 4 weeks ago
By your description in this video, I had the exact same labour except it wasnt induced and i wasnt dilating for 7 hours at the higest contractions every minute. Im having a really hard time cause i wanted completely natural no intervention birth. You really made me cry, its soo hard to come to terms with. I would really appriciate if you would answer me back and tell me how you dealt with it! I dont regret having a c section by the end but i am dissapointed :(
onesprincess 4 weeks ago
I LOVE your videos ... I wish I'd found them sooner!! But seriously, your air your opinions and feelings with such grace and eloquence. Hannah is very lucky to have you as a Mum :)
anonymause82 4 weeks ago
I think (and hope) that most of this judgement is not aimed at stories like yours, but at the women who say 'are you kidding? I'm not going through all the pain of a vaginal delivery! Knock me out and cut it out of me' without being educated or aware of all the risks and potential negative effects of c-sections. And yes, MANY women said those exact words to me when I told them I wasn't going to have an epidural!
raquelmacuil1980 4 weeks ago
@raquelmacuil1980 And yet this isn't really their fault. It's how our society is today. I thought I educated myself on birth with my hospital ed class and read the recommended books. Having a natural birth was mentioned, but that was it. I didn't know much about birth until after my third child was born....yet I thought I did, I took the class, and all my friends and family had a hospital birth with pain meds. That was my "normal."
juliet1178 4 weeks ago
I tried for years for my twins and I would have let them chop my arm off to get them hear safely. Im all for natural births but I did NOT have babies to have a delivery I had them to be a mother and to have beautiful babies. I would not and do not get how a mother can let how she births her child affect how she bonds with her child. Like the poor little baby has a say in any of it. The makes me mad.
elesha76 4 weeks ago
Good Qn! I find myself in a similar place, I too bf & cloth diaper so have similar news feed! I didn't have strong opinions on most issues pre delivery, where as I do now. (For my babys/ies) My aim is to always respect other people's choices & their right to express their opinions. Just cause a choice was differnt to mine doesn't make it wrong!! Doesn't mean I'm perfect & don't have to "check" myself once in a while. I totally agree that whatever decision you make it should be an informed one :)
Hopefultime 4 weeks ago
I agree with every word you say!! U are great!!:)
xxxxtryingmiaxxxx 4 weeks ago
@thebubblelush first baby I had a scheduled c-section at 37 weeks due to my heart abd blood pressure being so high the doctors were concerned about me having a stroke. I hated myself for it since my daughter was in nicu for a week with breathing issues. Second time around I had a VBAC with epidural after 14hrs and I wouldn't trade my baby for the world. Would I change anything yes, do I judge, NO it's the moms choice nobody else's!
USMCBaby2011 4 weeks ago
Shame on those who judge ..I think you did everything you could have to get your nat birth..I say good for you....No Blame here I had a 10 lb baby by C-section and tried to go nat with #2 but gave up after 12 hrs you did a hell of alot better then me!!!And I have been watching your videos the past 2 hrs...
giantsfan562001 4 weeks ago
Im sitting here watching this while my daughter cries through contractions shes not due for 4 weeks ...I think shes just over tierd and the braxton hix get worse with every baby..My daughter loves her epidurals but wants a water birth but says it depends what happen's that day ..
giantsfan562001 4 weeks ago
thank you for this. i had emergency c-section after water was broken 20 +hrs and labor didnt progress. just like you explain your experience, i had to make a choice for my son's safety. and i did go through very emotional time right after birth. and my mother in law who also had c-section told me " don't feel like you failed as a mom just because you had c-section. the important thing is your baby is finally here and safely" at that moment i felt so much better like got it off my shoulder.
thetyks 4 weeks ago
Hi! I love watching your vlogs and i am kinda looking up to you because i am also factor v positive I have had 5 clots I am now 15 weeks n 6 days with my first child n im scared cause of all my health problems I am on Lovenox 200mgs daily and have been since 4 weeks 5 days Im scheduled to see a perinatal specialist next week so far ive had 3 sonos and babys looking wonderful I had 2 scares already with that said i would love to speak to u more about questions i have so please contact me Thank u!
ErniesAngelwings 4 weeks ago
You are a great and wonderful mommy! HUG!! <3
Dreamworld542 4 weeks ago
Regarding your comment about scheduled c/s before 37 weeks...you will be happy to know that all portland area hospitals refuse c/s before 39 weeks now unless medically necessary :)
mommajessx3 4 weeks ago
Thank you for this. I am not pregnant and have never been before, but I have so many 'plans' for my future births and sometimes I do get 'judgy' towards people who don't want to birth naturally/cloth diaper/breast feed, etc.. I am slowly getting better and I appreciate your candid viewpoint on this Carla!
aquarianotes 4 weeks ago
Well said Carla :)
Aimeettc3 4 weeks ago
It was nice of you to say those things. I wish more people would.
loveramongstars 1 month ago
I totally understand! Sometime I catch myself judging mothers who formula feed, but it's not cause I think they're bad moms. I'm just really pro breastfeeding & get a little excited sometimes lol! Good video :)
08sarahrangel 1 month ago
Thank you so much for making this video. I have been struggling so bad with the outcome of my own delivery. Just like you I had my dream birth plan, but the outcome was nothing I could ever imagine. It's even came to the point where its hard to talk to people about because I always feel like I am going to be judged by other mothers. And yes, you are so right, I was the only one in the room! And I made the best choice for myself and my daughter. This video gives me confidence to share with pride!
bayareailove 1 month ago
Loved this!
ChitoNSam 1 month ago
i couldnt breast feed and i pumped for 2 months but couldnt bear to see my daughter be alone so much so i coul ppump so i decided to stop pumping and switch her to formula, i feel judged bout it every day and so many people were unsupportve of my decisionto breastfeed at al that now i feel like im getting alot of i told you so's and as a formula feeding mother i feel guilt and regret but i know that i did the best that i could with the stuation i was given and i wish that there was no judgement
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MY opinion...it's their life, their labor, nobody elses. I don't think anyone has any right to judge someones choices. YES, you can have your opinions, but if they are negative, they should be kept to themselves.
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2 words, AMAZING VIDEO!
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
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to MANY PEOPLE need control over every little thing including other people most of the times its people thats pointing fingers that have no control over their own life people need to realize to each thier own why do you have control over someone elses like what gives you the right im not talking about you carla of course but the people whi THINK they have a right to tell PEOPLE how to live THEIR lives thats my opinion
babygirlmd15 1 month ago
I totally AGREE w/ you. I feel the same about moms judging moms about their method of feeding the baby. I was 110% breastfeeding my son but I really didn't have a supply, I did what the lactation consultant told me NOTHING help my supply it was formula or my baby not eating. I was judge by EVERYONE when i fed my child in public. i get the stare. I was told my family members "OH your not a good cow" that made me feel like sh.. I would cry because i wanted to BF my child. im PROUD of what i did
kosovitacielo 1 month ago
I have major regrets about my first birth and I always think about what you said when Hannah was born, you said it may not be what we wanted but its our birth story so we love it! And I thank you for that. After you said that I came to terms with my first birth and now I love our story.
ecmomma 1 month ago
You're spot on Carla. Women can be SO judgmental of other women. We need to support each other. I like you would never choose a mothers choice of her birth plan or how she chooses to fed or diaper their child. I had severe preeclampsia and had a 6week preemie. No mother would want that. I too want a vbac. I hope we both get them.
jsandlin08 1 month ago
I laughed, I cried, I nodded and nodded and nodded. Yes. Yes. Yes. Well said.
dancedance444 1 month ago 7
@dancedance444 you cried??
brookisnookie 4 weeks ago
Man, I'm not even pregnant and I want an epidural. hioo!! Anyone? Anyone? No?
The only problem I have with a c-section is with these women who are "too posh to push." Or as you said, having it scheduled before 37 weeks without a medical reason.
C-section is not something I would want, but I can say the same thing for any surgery. The thought of being cut open scares the hell out of me. As for the epi, I wouldn't rule it out. I've never been in labor, so I can't say I'd never get one. ^_^
lilblondehooker 1 month ago
I love this video! Thanks for making this!!!!
fishlawyer1 1 month ago
My first labor & delivery was nothing like expected or planned BUT it was a HUGE learning experience. My 2nd went perfectly until 9 cm and I hit the wall you are talking about. I have huge regrets about it but otherwise I am ok with both but it took me time to cope with it. I am PRO-EDUCATION. I think a lot of choices and better decisions could be made with education but I think its each moms decision. I think you and I think a lot alike Carla Dear :)
pnkprincesswcu 1 month ago
@pnkprincesswcu oops. Made that comment from my old account. Not sure why i was signed into that. I try to educate without judgement.
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Thanks for being a voice of reason, support, and calm in this community. I saw the blow-up on your comment and I decided I wasn't going to touch it with a ten foot pole. Those judgements and vocalizations are the reason I don't fully invest myself in this community and keep my connections on YT/FB to a limited bunch of ladies who I know are very open-hearted people. I have to deal with enough negativity with IF- I don't need it from my "support" community.
IrishBabyDreams 1 month ago 4
"Hummm wat u doin'? " Hahaha! Love you Carla!
ashtenv 1 month ago
Thank you for this video! Btw lmao at, "hmm...what you doin?"
LesbianFamilyDiary 1 month ago
Awww, Carla... you are AMAZING!!! This video is AWESOME!!!
aSoldiersPrincess 1 month ago
I cant thankyou enough for this video. Spoken so well. Everyone's delivery is so different and we all can't predict exactly how it will all go. I have four children and all were different. All women have the right to their own choices as it is their body and we are the only ones who know our bodies. Parenting brings so much judgement. We should all respect other mum's choices and decisions.
geel1228 1 month ago
One way is never better than the other - it's a matter of preference and it's nobody's right to force their opinion on anyone else. I will never force my views on you."
TTCaMiniMash 1 month ago
I feel the same way, so much so I made it a point to tell everyone: "To all my ladies - please know that I do not care what you do with your childrens' penises. Or whether you want to cloth diaper or use disposables. Or whether you want to breast or bottle feed. Or whether you want an epidural or natural birth. Or whether you use bumpers, bouncers, crying out methods or anything you can think of concerning your children. I am your friend, and that is regardless of any personal belief I hold.
TTCaMiniMash 1 month ago
Jdmvlogs. Exactly. I was part of the Facebook discussion and I feel that my comments were taken out of context. I was going to make a video response but you have said exactly what I was trying to say at the time.
ShellyNkidlets 1 month ago
Well said!!
moovers3 1 month ago
Very well put. Totally agree.
jengilbert3369 1 month ago
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I remember following your birth. We were all so worried about you as one day turned into 3. I am thankful for science and technology. Without modern science I may have not had a succesful birth. I went 42 + as well and Irving was not coming out. He did not engage until I was 10 cm. He also was not pressing on my cervix. I came very very close to a C cection and honestly I would have done it in a second. You were amazing and you are my hero.
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PeskyPCOS 1 month ago
the only thing that matters during birth , whatever the choices you've made or will make , is that the baby comes out healthy and that both lives aren't in danger.
desrosiersxstewart 1 month ago 2
I think we can all dream of the perfect labor and delivery, but reality tells us that nothing in life is perfect and as long is that baby is healthy nothing else matters.
TaylorSwiftfan1iever 1 month ago
Basically all I mean to say is, you should never make a choice out of fear, and from what I've heard a lot of women do. We are all SMART women, do your own research and find out what works for you and your baby based on facts not horror stories :)
jdmvlogs 1 month ago
The only thing that bothers me about hearing other women's birth stories, is they didn't educate themselves on all their options. They choice to listen to other women and be scared of something so good & natural that they only ever considered an epidural based on fear. If you educate yourself on your options, and then make whatever choice you're comfortable with, then power to you. I just don't think going into something so life changing unprepared is responsible. Was that non judgmental?
jdmvlogs 1 month ago
@jdmvlogs I think most women feel educated though. I took a birth class at my hospital and read the recommended books. All the women I know do that too. So we feel educated...even though now I now (after birthing 3 children) that I was not as educated as I should have been.
juliet1178 4 weeks ago
Thank you for this video I am terrified that something will go wrong on my induction on Thursday the 26th. I have pre-E and I have been thinking and praying about my birth and it is great to see this video and you shine some light on some of my fears and concerns, thank you! Lydia
LYDISANC21 1 month ago
This video is very good! Any approach that can help the mother to deliver her baby in the most natural way possible - in a safe way though, is welcome! I mean: you're dealing with your baby's life, that's the priority! Sorry for my awkward English. Hugs from Italy!
ralphilonia 1 month ago
"Um, what you doing" lol love it! I'm 3months pregnant with my first and am hoping for an all natural birth but life happens so I'm going to go in with a positive attitude and let God give me my baby how he sees fit! Simple as that.
Skysvlog1 1 month ago
"Hmm, whatcyou doin?" Totally laughed out loud. Diddo the whole thing, 100%
hawkeyegirl2003 1 month ago
I just don't want to be strapped to a bed so I want to stay at home as long as possible. I just want that moment too I want to be the first person to hold my baby not the fourth. I want this next birth experience to be better and I def don't want postpartum depression.
Aliwisha1 1 month ago
Not always almost never actually do things go as perfectly planned I thought mine would though but it ended in csection. I went into postpartum depression thinking my body failed me and that I was less of a mother than those who delivered their babies naturally and vaginally.I want to VBAC with this one and its all I want but I feel like I won't get it because of the protocols at my hospital my doc has already told me they will do continous monitoring which I don't want.
Aliwisha1 1 month ago
This video is so good Carla. Thank you for posting it :-) You rock!
hopeandb 1 month ago
my own birthing experience was over before I knew it. From the first contraction untill the birth itself 90minutes had passed. I come from a family of "fast birthers", the nine children born to my mother, sister and me were all born within three houres of labour and birth, and with no real recovery needed afterwards. But I have a complication that causes a high risk on premature labour, without medical intervention I would have lost my daughter before 24 weeks of pregnancy= so stress nontheless.
kittyminty 1 month ago
You GO Carla! Women putting other women down because of their own CHOICE is just petty. I almost had a panic attack from the pain of the pitocin contractions, I wasn't getting a break, my contractions were back to back..hour after hour. That epidural was the BEST thing to happen to me at the worst part of my labor. I don't regret it ONE bit! And for other women to say that my choice was wrong...all I have to say is, in the nicest way, you weren't in the bed with me, huh? Didn't think so :)
LeReveAble 1 month ago
With all that "go-natural" stuff people tend to forget that in places where there is no medical help available, 1 in 3 births end bad for the mother or baby or both. Thanks to all the medical posibility's they've changed this rate drastically. That we're now on a point where too many people over-romanticise the whole birthing process. Never feel bad when it didn't went as "natural" as you would have liked, cause nature can be a real b**** .
kittyminty 1 month ago
there were some negative comments on the post but i ended up some good convos with 2 diff women about birth and breast feeding it was great to connect with diff women on these topics in a positive way.
MrsDaniellePlamer 1 month ago
watching this gave me shivers Carla i have no judgement on any ones birth, some people have great births and some have horrific but it is only women that understand what labour is like so we should all support each other. When i went into labour with my third child i found out afterwards that family members on my husbands side had been praying for me to not have an epidural as i had had one with my previous ones, um i wanted to have a epidural with my third and that pissed me i wanted one.
MrsDaniellePlamer 1 month ago
LOVE YOU CARLA!!! Seriously, you are one the most mature Youtubers I watch! I am FB friends and a follower of a mother who is very anti-circ. She posts about it a lot and I just have to pass right over her posts about it. She says she isnt judging, however, it comes off as very "high and mighty." I just dont get why she cares so much about what parents do (or dont do!) with their son's foreskin. I dont care what she does w/ her son's foreskin and she shouldnt care about my son's!
Blessedmommy22 1 month ago
Right do what ever is best for u and your baby i would rarthe no ep. Or c sec. But with my son i was induced and had pethedine and gas and air but i did not want ep. Or c sec. But if it was nessercary the yes i EOULD have it its like people would prefer you and baby to die then make a hard choice x
oswestryGIRL 1 month ago
I really agree with you, good on ya for doing this video :) xxx
MetalMummySavinMoney 1 month ago
I just had my first 3 weeks ago and I expected the worst because I heard so many horror stories!! My birth was not scary at all it was perfect, no pain meds, quick and no issues I labored in the jacuzzi tub which you never hear of and it did wonders. My midwife was nothing short of amazing. I did have a hospital birth but in the end I needed nothing from it other then the tub! I still think being in the hospital was great and you never know what could happen! You never hear of the good experien
renator88 1 month ago
I don't think there are many moms who get the birth experiance they want, at least the first time around. I know I didn't. So many things were not what I wanted but the number one thing had nothing to do with a birth plan but the fact that my hubby was deployed.
I don't see how anyone can judge anyone elses birth. How your child comes into the world at that exact moment does not change that the mother carried them for 40 or so odd weeks give or take. A Mom is a mom no matter how she gives birth.
eaglbabe 1 month ago
Amen sister! We are trying to do the best job we can as moms. As long as our kids are safe, healthy, and happy, it doesn't matter how they came into this world or whether we BF or formula feed.
twompers01 1 month ago
L.O.V.E. THIS!!!
thebabymuse 1 month ago
This is crazy!! You should in no way have to explain yourself!! You had to do what you had to do to ensure the health and safety of you and your baby.
Jennybear2003 1 month ago
I completely agree with you as well. Birth is just one of those things that cannot be scripted. You gotta do what you gotta do depending on the situation you find yourself in.
lynnais 1 month ago
Carla thank you for kicking so much booty :) haha everyone needs to chill out and learn that there is a difference in introducing new ideas to people and shoving you're thoughts and ideas on others. Give information, help others, and then let them do what they wish with that information. Everyone is different and has a different experience :)
CourtneyLiz1220 1 month ago
Very very well articulated, this video is going in my favourites. I didn't even know anyone considered these options as "bad things" until I joined the TTC YouTube community and came across so much negativity and judgement. We wouldn't get dentistry without pain relief...
TTCbabybump 1 month ago 4
Great video! I am one of the few that had to get over my tramatic vaginal birth. My first pregnancy was with Trplets and from the start I was set for a c section but at 23 weeks while in hospital bedrest I had to delivery my first baby vaginaly. I wasn't ready for that and I was scared. The next day I delivered my other two via a inverted t csection. From then on I hae to have a repeat section.
lauracori 1 month ago
I <3 you Carla! I knew from the get-go that I was going to have an epidural. My hospital does epidurals at any stage of labor. So I did a few contractions just to see what they felt like, and then was like "Okay, epidural please!". In which they did, but my labor was going so quickly, that as soon as my epidural took affect, I started pushing and he was out in like, 15 minutes! So I like to say that I did the labor part without any medication.. Which I technically did!
beth510 1 month ago
I agree with you. Go health and what is necessarily with your plans known.What happens within the walls of the hospital rooms is hectic. Babies can through off "YOUR PLANS" right from the beginning.If women didn't know this before hand than what did they expect? Go in,DO "PLAN" no matter what...HAHAHA WRONG. The baby has say so in this too!! Think again Mom's!!
TheGenni23 1 month ago
Such a great video! I wish people would go in to birth with an open mind, you really never know what can happen. This is my first and I think it would be incredibly presumptuous of me to say this is how it's going to be regardless. I've never been through this so I can't make that decision yet. Ideally it would be nice to say I had a natural birth but I'm not going to be rigid to the point that I feel robbed of an experience, in the end my ling TTC journey will be over and I'll have my son in m
Tashakcooks 1 month ago
So I try to post things that are to learn from before the matter to help woman that way. I don't I've every voiced my opinion on certain labour or birthing situations either. But I guess just relating and educating is my way of helping? Who knows. Knowing my luck someone feels judged no matter what. :(
nannerskins 1 month ago
I *try* not to judge, but I am only human, right? I try to educate on the matter BEFORE, but I can see how it would come across as judging or make someone feel bad. I've gone through a lot with my birth as you know and I struggled a lot too and still do, sadly. I've come across a lot of woman through YT that have had traumatic birth experiences because they DIDN"T know about epidurals, pitocin, induction methods and c-sections etc and felt if they had known their outcome who of been different.
nannerskins 1 month ago
oh carla i almost cried too when ou were talking about ripping the curtain back and hannah licking you r face!!! Oh i hope that you can have a baby on ur chest next time around! I was watching a baby story and they positioned the curtain really low and layed the baby right on mommy chest after birth! maybe if you have to have another section ask if that would be possible...
MommaBeiler 1 month ago
I agree with you 100 percent!
MUSleger 1 month ago
haha momma i didnt have an epidural with my first and had a breezy 7 hour labor lol with my second 20 hours later i had to have an epidural. i had to!!! i gave up. but i am the same way i am the only one who got to experience the entire labor... so everyone else can have an opinion but thanks for keeping it to yourself lol!
MommaBeiler 1 month ago
Just have to say - YOU FRIGGIN' ROCK!!! ;o)
xx1onthewayxx 1 month ago
You did awesome! Hannah is here and safe and perfect so I think you did a pretty damn good job. Other people need to get over themselves. It took me awhile to get over my c-section with Haleigh (emotionally) but it was for my own reasons that it bugged me so much. I am very proud of my VBAC with Lucas, and it helped me heal a lot. Both of my kids are here and perfect in the end that is all that matters :)
JaggedRamblings07 1 month ago
Absolutely amazing video!! I had a tear come to my eye :) I work in labor and delivery and the doctors and nurses HATE c-sections and push for vaginal births. Although we all see medical necessary means and at the of the day we want a healthy baby and healthy mama. Thanks for sharing this video I hope it helps with less judgement and more acceptance :)
perfectnpink100 1 month ago
I'm all game for people doing what makes the most sense to them and their doctors.
kimpcosttc2 1 month ago
At 25 weeks pregnant I was told I would need an emergency c-section that night and that the baby would probably not survive. When I made it to 36 weeks I was just ecstatic to have made it that far and that my baby was most likely going to be ok. I long for that natural birthing experience next time, but I know that for my situation a c-section was a blessing that ended a very scary pregnancy. I think people judge without looking at specifics, and you just can't do that.
vik2reoshrt 1 month ago
I'm pregnant with baby #2 & TERRIFIED of a vbac. I had a traumatic birth experience as well that ended in a c-section. My son wouldn't come out... after what ended up being 1 hour of being told I was 9+ when I was a 10 and felt like I needed to push, 3/1/2 hours of pushing and 2 hours of waiting for my doctor and then surgical staff to get there and being told not to push. So as much as I would absolutely love to have a vbac, I'm so scared of all of the strain on my uterus and having it rupture!
kimpcosttc2 1 month ago
A friend of mine wanted a completely natural birth and ended up having an epidural when her baby came out sideways. I am so unbelievably proud of her and she is one of the bravest people I know. As women, we should support each other through this time instead of judging, right?
thoughtsontheway 1 month ago
Good for you! And totally agree!
Jenkins3Fam 1 month ago
I agree, and the same goes for breastfeeding in that it doesn't always work out the way we hope it will. Thanks for the video :)
SunnyZoey11 1 month ago
Carla, thank u for this video! You are truly an advocate for this community. As women we need to support one another's decisions regardless of what our own beliefs are. We don't have to agree but we do have to accept. One of the beautiful benefits of living in a free society.
MrsStacieAllen 1 month ago
Well said!!!
kimpcosttc2 1 month ago
Very well said! Completely agree.
allharr 1 month ago