That's The Way I've Always Heard It Should Be - Carly Simon

[EFM961]

Incidentally, I am about the same age as Ms. Simon was at the time of this recording, as just the same I contemplate marriage, children, and where my life is heading. I look forward to a family one day, but for now I feel the need to savor as much of my independence as possible, before settling down.

[EFM961]

This is the music my parents listened to in their youth. We were consequently raised listening to classic songs and artists like this.

[DavidJY1970]

I heard this song on the rado on what would have been my Jr. Prom, the girl whom I was madly in love with another guy, I drove my car up to the cemetary ,had a couple of joints, a 40 of bud and a pack of marlboros......spent the whole night out there wondering why...now 24 years later I have a house, a good job and a woman who really loves me for who I am, And now I still wonder why

[DavidJY1970]

@DavidJY1970 she went with another guy

[mskitti6375]

I love Carly Simon and her beautiful voice. This song is important. It makes you ache and appreciate what you have. I cry everytime and appreciate what I have even more. So cry because you recognize :) God bless )--(

[sirensofsong]

This is a good song to listen to in complete darkness.

[bodaciouscowboy]

@sirensofsong ...preferably while smoking a cigarette.

[jc221989]

I Grew up to rap music but as i am getting older i dont like it as much as i use to. i am 22 and i wish i was a teenager in the 70's i think the music back then had so much meaning and their is a lot of songs that can fit any mood your in. I know people back then were a lot different. the youth back then had a lot more morals than the youth now and days. Young Teenagers now just want to live fast and they have these bad pop stars now and rappers as their role models its not good.

[TheRealXynot]

@jc221989 Glad to see you expand. I grew up a preacher's son in the 60's so I got classical, gospel, traditional church music, and the Beatles. Back then, you had only a few stations. Religious, Classical Music, Western, News and then everything else. Motown, Soul, Beatles, Baez, Dylan, Sabbath, everything played on one station. Now music separates instead of binds us.

[Nostranamus811]

@jc221989 I grew up listening to rap and I'm feeling the same way as far as listening to it. Fortunately I have always had an ear for other types of music. Sad how the youth really don't have good artist to listen to but I wouldn't say that people had more morals back then, the late 60's and 70's was the time of the sex, drug, and rock n roll revolution. I think the older crowd didn't care to much for the youth of that time.

[shasty40]

wow i havn't heard this song in 30 years. it brought a rush of very painful childhhod memories as well as a tear or 2. my dads been gone for fifteen years now crazy how a song can bring back exactly what you were thinking and what was going on in your life the moment you heard it for the first time. there are only a few songs that do that 4 me, this is one and "i'm not in love," by 10cc. happy or sad, music can be such a core of our beings, its nuts. love u miss u dad.i'm going to therepy c ya..

[FeelingFreshSon]

Ever since I heard "You're so Vain" on the radio I've loved Ms. Simon...

[candy19817]

the song Makes me Cry everytime ..... it is so beautiful !!!! I have known my Partner for 10 years ..... I met him when I was 20 ...... we have to wait untill he is retired before we think about seriously living together .... there is 16 years between us !! ..... I Love this Man so very much !!.... we dont have to be Married to be together ..... I Just Hope that the Love I have for him is still there in 10 years ...... he is the light of my life !!!!

[maf5454]

@candy19817

Age is just a number, nothing more. My Mom and Dad were 18 years apart, Dad older. I always felt they truly loved each other, even when stuff got tough, like when he was declining. My folks taught me that if you truly care for someone it dosn't matter, love them and enjoy your time together. They were together for 50 years! Funny just remembered, I've been married 36 yeras to the one and only woman I truly loved. Best of luck to you my sister.

[kardashevtypetwo]

The reason they don't make songs this or others of representative eras is simple. We've seen the pinnacle of music, which peaked in the 80s. Everything from here is downhill or sparse. Remember, after Mahler, there really wasn't much left. The 20th century is known as the age of the Conductor, not composer. Sadly, even Art has its peak. There may be millions of chords, but the combinations are dwindling.

[jessivan52880]

Ive lived this song. Its touching.

[lastrada52]

Despite wonderful songs this is still her best. So good I really thought this was the start of a new female vocalist with intense songs. Even her LP covers were creative & inspiring. But, for my taste, she slipped into a very commercial vein & never came back with the edge of this song. Don't get me wrong -- she's a great talent & vocalist. I guess, my expectations were high & it never materialized. I wanted a darker Joni Mitchell -- thought Carly would be it. That first LP was the only one.

[MrABC1093]

That's the way I always heard it should be! Too bad lifes not ! Love the song

[Theblindmovement]

Gets me wet.

[reichmuth100]

BEAUTIFUL...SONG!

[tinytoonces1]

This song still gives me chills after all these years. Flawless performance.

[27132lower]

a curse on the two dislikes?

[semkobenko]

WOW!!!! Pilgrim telephone whoooooaaaa whoaaaa

[ladywhispers111]

I loved this song when I first heard it wayyyyyy back when. It's even better now than it was then. Especially since I have been married I understand what she means now! The drums are so perfect in this song, I can listen to it over and over. I came from the age of music, I have been spending time rediscovering my past. I spent over a week trying to remember this song and the artist. Thank you Google. But most of all thank you to all of you that post these great songs

[avdreader1]

Beautiful melody.....devastatingly sad....used to make me tear up when I heard it. Really lovely though.  The piano in this is wonderful.

[Thadesgal]

Simply timeless...

[SIGNALSTAT]

Love the drums in this masterpeice.

[noggin420]

Check out Young Buck's Sleep with an AK - if you want to hear this song sampled....kinda interesting anyway

[shegotyagood]

i was in junior high when this song was released and, even at that age, it sounded beautiful and haunting at the same time...you didn't have to be an adult to understand the emotions behind the music...what a great time for music...

[curiousnomad]

This was written when pop music required real song writing, not drum loops and inane lyrics. Nothing these days is as psychologically as deep as this, either.

[Kevinnefsey]

she is a nice person, with a big heart.

[tplayer73]

If I were to be stranded on a desert island and could only take one song with me, this would be it. I first heard this song in '88 while driving home at night and fell in love with it. The message (as I understand it) of just moving in together and forging a relationship with the one you love even though your parents' marriages did not work out is something that I always carry with me. My favorite song, by my favorite artist.

[theunknowndrunk1]

Perfect writing, so honest, painful, yet without apologizing . NO ONE writes like this anymore. Beautiful.....

[MeredithOD]

my mom used to play this in the car when i was little

[AceHoffman]

I think the drumming in this song is incredible... and everything else about it, too...

[MrVeesworld]

@AceHoffman I agree as well especially how they obviously used the Beatles technique of placing napkins on the toms. Very earthy and primal sounding. The bass is also nice...strings too...hell all of it to be exact.

[helios1912]

DamianGarcia92--the best songs are timeless. The feelings and cutting lyrics of this song will never die, just as the best songs being written and performed now will never age. Yes, this 1970s haunting hit connects with every breathing human I know.

[frank19154]

This song was the first time I remember that sometimes woman have a better idea of what marriage really is about.

[KaristaSwiss]

classic biting song :-)

[bx944]

VERY NICE BEAUTIFUL MIX ALWAYS ENJOYED HER LOVELY VOICE. THERE IS NOTHING LIKE HEARING IT ON A GOOD SYSTEM, ITS A WHOLE NEW EXPERIENCE, THANK YOU FOR POST HAD NOT HEARD THIS SONG FOR SOME TIME AND TO HEAR IT AGAIN SOUNDS EVEN BETTER.

[kariebeez]

Used to love this love song. Carly Simon was the girl -- especially for a young girl who was romantically inclined. Agree whole-heartedly with microminiskirt's and DamianGarcia92's most astute coments.

[swampzoid]

A Masterpiece of a Song.

[fiverings37]

@ Damien, good luck with that.

[DamianGarcia92]

I heard this song for the first time on the radio not too long ago. And I immediately connected to it. I think that's one of the major flaws with newer music. There's no meaning to it and no message for purpose for it. I find older music was used to tell stories and teach lessons and act as a medium for the soul. My hope is someday music will return to what it once was and bring back that missing essence.

[sylvette323b]

@DamianGarcia92, I agree 100%!

[jityr2]

@sylvette323b Yet young people say rap music tells a story. I love the rare occasions where young people brag about how they appreciate old music.

[sylvette323b]

@jityr2 ..so very true!

[adamwakeling]

@jityr2 Stop being so unbelievably narrow-minded. There is plenty of 'old' music that is far worse than alot of the rubbish churned out today. There is some extremely profound rap music by talented lyricists if you bother to search for it. Just like there are bands out there today with music that tell very profound stories. Stop looking at the Top 10 charts as a point of comparison. We live in the world of the internet - utilise it.

[TheRealXynot]

@adamwakeling It's Rap- not Rap music. There is nothing musical about people with attitudes talkin s***. And that's what rap is. I can walk through my neighborhood and get that. I want music.

A #1 choice of music. Carlie will never go out of style.

[Nostranamus811]

@TheRealXynot All rap isn't people with attitudes talking s***, and rap is music, maybe not in the classical sense of musical composition but it is still music. If it wasn't for rap I probably wouldn't have come across this song so many years ago, wish the artist that used this song did a better job on how they sampled this song. 

[paperboy6996]

@DamianGarcia92 wouldnt that be nice

[MrVeesworld]

@DamianGarcia92 I am a musician and songwriter. I strive daily to write songs such as the one's you describe. My influences are Seal, Carly Simon, Prince, Lenny Kravitz....., all of the 70's songwriters had substance and great stories that is for sure!!

[goldenfish71]

I disagree 100%. Maybe, you have stopped listening to music like you use to.

[inboilsgang]

@DamianGarcia92 Not all music during the 70s was good, nor is all music today bad. You always have to separate the wheat from the chaff.

[primogennaio]

@DamianGarcia92 I hope you are right. Unfortunately, mostly to make bucks, the artists and videos today are more interested in special effects, glitzy stage sets, rockets flying across the stage, and outfits like the trash Lady Gaga wears. In the 50s through early 80s, performers had just themselves on stage to display talent and connect with the audience. In those days, you relied on your talent, not the other stuff.

[primogennaio]

First time I heard this song was in 1971 when my cousin played the album. I felt them like I do now, it's a song sung with warmth, sentimentality and passion. You get the theme of the song not just from the lyrics, but the singer's emotion. Can't say this about most of today's music.

[johnsoncm65]

@DamianGarcia92 I see that the problem with modern music is that it's too EASY to produce your own. Any dope with a CD burner, ProTools, AutoTune, a keyboard, and a microphone can just start pumping out CDs or put it on the internet right away. Back before self-published music, artists had to COMPETE for a limited number of recording contracts. It weeded out the hacks. They never got recorded.

[telagraphic]

@DamianGarcia92

Wow, you must be on downers homes.

[DavidJY1970]

@DamianGarcia92 Agreed!!!

[RassieDog]

@DamianGarcia92 - Oh my dearheart. This world needs you and the likes of you and very badly. Please keep a clear eye.

[momceefy]

@DamianGarcia92 ... and you will discover a lot more music / songs of the 60's, 70's & 80's more meaningful and great to listen whether ballad or dance music .. a genre of music treasure {",&

[GuyinCa]

@momceefy I agree with you, I dearly miss such heartfelt and original music like this. Nothing will ever replace this timeless music, the kids of today don't know what they are missing out on.

[mwupchurch]

@DamianGarcia92 you are exactly right my friend....todays music means NOTHING....no heart,,no soul....and this is VERY noticable....i thought it was just me.....ty ! very well put !

[robnrick1]

Now this is music!! Thanks for posting :)

[feazel1]

All these years and I had no idea that the "Simon" of Simon & Shuster" Book publishers was the father of Carly Simon. Cool.

Nobody does it better.

[frank19154]

Remember the first time I heard this. 71-late at night. I thought it was the best thing I ever heard. Still love and love her.

[0710caramel]

nice music!!!! luv it!!

[Elaiyel]

Thanks for uploading this song.  I was in the mood to hear it.

[ShotX2]

Sylvette: Love this woman and love your name. Both beautiful. S2

[sylvette323b]

@ShotX2 , wow! Thanks to you too!

[petclark1]

Oops. Unfortunately, I can't add-this was released 40 years ago-NOT 50.

My bad.

[petclark1]

This song is 50 years old and just as relevent as it was in 1971. Certainly more meaningful than any of the tripe that passes for "music" in 2011. Carly might not

have a huge back catalogue of recordings, but then, hey, when you're as great as her, it must be hard to keep topping yourself.

[vinyl12s]

@petclark1 This was issued the year I was born, and your statement really holds true on this. I need to upload my radio promo 45 on this. Sounds good with a couple faint pops in the beginning.

[vegasshowgirlshoes]

I just listened to the covers of this song , Some are ok , but NONE of them come close to this version ,

Carly is without a doubt the best female vocalist I've ever heard , ever

[shengchenfan]

Thank you for loading this.

[melissacarterTS]

How can someone so young write and compose something so deep, moving and poignant? I still think this is her greatest piece and though it sits well down the list of her more popular work, that makes me love it all the more.

[mookielovesgod]

get the kids raised then you REALLY move in together ;)

[KaristaSwiss]

Its eerie that someone actually was CYNICAL about marriage :) She nailed it :)

[MademoiselleSwann]

Perfect. It's beautiful and haunting as others have said (and really a rather chilling portrait of marriage). The song, Carly's vocal, the drums, all fantastic. But what really makes this song for me is the cello.

[bringback2day]

@MademoiselleSwann Hi I wanted to make a comment on your perfect description the songs portrait of marriage (chilling).. I am no longer married..but I was young when this song came out the words stood out so profound to me. Her parents seemed so sad..it causes me to reflect on my friends who are married...and the problems I hear them talk about, it gives a modern day description of the way marriage effects children...but that is a part of life take the bitter with the sweet..take care..

[shewolf401]

carly.. you felt me.. you wrote about me.. you loved me.. and i'll love you back 4 ever ...

[rgasp11]

they don't sing songs like these anymore.

[Looner]

Wow, what a golden voice! Love this song! As I was watching and listening along with my cat and it made my cat's ears up like an owl! lol....Awesome!

[sylvette323b]

@Looner , ha ha ha.....soooo cute!!

[nfournier1958]

@Looner Awww. So cute! :) I'm a cat lover, and they can be so darn cute and are curious creatures! When I whistle a tune my cat comes to me and gets in my lap, starts meowing and purring - it's too funny. ;)

[msonj]

One of the best lyrical songs EVER! it really speaks to you. Haunting melody, story, UGH, why oh why can't they make music like this anymore???

[MothersLuv861]

I have loved this song since i first heard it when I was 7, on a fall day in queens new york. I am 24 now, and my children 2, and 3 love it when I sing it to them. Thank you so much for bringing back fond memories. This song makes so much more sence now since I am married to a wonderful person.

[MothersLuv861]

I have loved this song since i first heard it when I was 7, on a fall day in queens new york. I am 24 now, and my children 2, and 3 love it when I sing it to them. Thank you so much for bringing back fond memories.

[ellakoza088]

i use to listen to this song with my sister all the time. we use to rock out to you're so vain on an 8 track. im 23 now and yes i know what an 8 track is and still have a player in my house lol

[ilovemy51]

Love this song! omg

[tractordude330]

Im only 20 an di listen to 70s and 80s all the time i was raised to good music and i absoulty love carly simon such a pretty voice.

[DariousM510]

Love this song! I'm not too familiar with the artist but I love this!

[farmboy1455]

What a voice, thanks for posting this! Remember this from years ago, loved it then.

[nk3219]

beautiful and timeless***

[redeyeduck]

I remember falling asleep to this song on the radio when I was a kid.

[owenbb505]

@redeyeduck i can relate to that..i remember drifting in and out of sleep once and this song was playing, it always felt weird. To me, it was interesting how the third verse never kicked in JUST at the moment when the chorus ended...how it was just like half a second behind and i remember that half a second feeling much longer somehow when your in and out of dreamland!...as if the song stopped THEN started again; Beautiful song though, my favorite Carly Simon tune barnone!

[64MissyAnn]

@redeyeduck Me too!!

[renecrod3]

Thanks for posting the original on here this is my favorite Carly Simon song.

[rockawells]

This song breaks my heart.

[jijerjei]

Thanks again Sylvette........

[sylvette323b]

@jijerjei You are always welcome!

[jijerjei]

Thanks again Sylvette............

[rpy76]

OMG, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS SONG!!!!  DEEP, REALLY DEEP!!!

[microminiskirt]

Back then 1971 they had lyrics, stories, themes. Sounds great then and still does today.

[mundrubjet]

One of the lesser appreciated hits from this beauty. To you younger people...ya gotta give it time to grow on ya. First comment goes to MEEEE!!! Yeah!!! Sorry....

[sylvette323b]

@mundrubjet CHEERS!!

[14mbs]

@mundrubjet Just love to hear Carly and lots of the music from that time.