The rejection of "you're too nice of a guy" - a prospective (part 1)

[MsPhoenixeyes]

nerd black white I like listening to your opinions but the labels are making my ears bleed! Women who say "too nice" are either immature, bitchy, or they just dont have the guts to tell you the truth. Either way men shouldn't want those girls anyway. Same thing for us, the nice girls "finish last". I think if you stand up for what you believe and continue being yourself (nice) then you are not finishing last the others who are judging and faking happy are dead last! "Nice girls" get ignored too!

[RustArtRed]

I WAS TOLD THIS , JUST HERAD TODAY, 3 /1 / 2012, SHE WAS LAID OFF AS A TEACHER ! I WAS LIKE ! FUCK YEA !

[RustArtRed]

I AM MY OWN BEST FRIEND ! FUCK THESE WOMAN ! I AM RICH NOW , AGE 36, STUPID BITCHES ! I COULD HAVE GAVE YOU THE WORLD A FEW YEARS AGO, WHEN I WAS BROKE ! GOOD LUCK IN 2022, WHEN AMERICA IS IN A MASSIVE DEPRESSION ! HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HAHAH AHAHAHA

[lanuwame]

@RustArtRed I have past girlfriends the same way - they rejected me back in the day when I was struggling with my business and NOW they want to be 'friends' again. The difference now is that I have a house, an amazing woman and a good life - while they have multiple kids with disappeared fathers and struggling to make ends meet. Learned what it was like to be used from those same girls and have no interest in that same path again. They chose their path...

[RustArtRed]

Tom Leykis 

[RustArtRed]

Gentleman : DO NOT HCANGE YOURSELFS ! BE YOU, MOST FEMALES HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA WHAT THEY WANT ! WORRY ABOUT YOU ! FOR FURTHER INFO : CONTACT TOME LEYKIS ON YOUTUBE ! THANK ME LATER !

[Charliesonbaahsonsky]

IF SOME WOMEN DONT WANT NICE GUYS THEN I SUGGEST THEY SIMPLY GO TO THE MILITARY BARRACKS AND GET SHOT 3 TIMES OR MAY BE THEY CAN START BY BURNING THE WHOLE SEA BY AND WORSE OF ALL DIG A HOLE AND BURY THEMSELVES. THAT CONCLUDES THEIR HATE FOR NICE GUYS.

[MsPhoenixeyes]

@Charliesonbaahsonsky dont forget it goes both ways. Most guys dont seem to like "nice" girls either, a lot of men want the fake ones that look good on their arm and couldn't care less about anyone but themselves. I think if a guy is told he's "too nice" more than once, maybe he should re-examine his strategy for picking women, he's obviously asking out the wrong ones!

[kshppatel]

bitches are a joke, seriously.

[e84fresh]

Women always want to complicate things. They say they want a nice guy but they always mess with assholes or guys with tons of money. They bitch about the simplest things. They are never satisfied. They blame everything on the man. They expect a man to read their mind. Going through all this bullshit isnt worth it. It's better to just get a piece of ass and leave.

[LuxuriousLuxembourg]

good for those 2 girls who didn't want u. cause look i had an ex the same way got her ass beat by the new guy and so on within 3 months. :) she wanted a bad boy she got one!!!! :)

[ronfan69]

Women are treated like royalty from birth in our society so they don't need a guy to treat them that way. Guys are just disposable entertainment to them, mainly in the form of drama.

[ronfan69]

GUYS:

Go to the Philippines. Filipinas LOVE nice guys.

[QUeensNYCUSA]

Pipe game > every thing.

It trumps any possibly quality trait or characteristic you can think of.

[tyronejonez]

Makes senses to me

[atillerman]

Women don't like nice guys cause women in general are shit and are insecure. Therefore, they attract shit and insecure guys - basic law of attraction.

[dantej32]

There are many BM who are single. I tell you why. The aint shit dude, no one wants anymore after making 6 babies by 8 baby momma. He had his time and then the BW gets wise, THEN the BW go to the nice guy who did not get any play in HS and College Is making up for lostg time and now he is screwing women who are attracted to his success and he does not want to marry. get with us while you can ladies, The nice guy is fucking all of you and throwing you away just as you did him in his younger days

[horrorcatali]

Women say they don't want "nice guys". Fair enough. But then they get treated like crap only to come back and spread "all guys are jerks" on Facebook etc.

[mercyhurstchic]

I really don't like nice guys. They wear their feelings and heart on their sleeves way too much. They do not give much of a challenge or mystery of the relationship. Nice guys who are too nice opens the door for women to walk all over them. Plus nice guys reveal their feelings for a woman too early and too much in the relationship. I've experienced this first hand. It scares women off.

[ksly2010]

@mercyhurstchic.Keep messing around with assholes...it will be something to think about when you are getting a pelvic exam at the local GYN lab for an STD or hiding out at your local abuse shelter. I have worked at these places for 10 years, and it's the same story over and over again...women like you getting mixed up with some maniac! Ladies, keep messing around with the wrong men for the wrong reasons....YOU WILL ALL PAY FOR IT ONE WAY OR THE OTHER!

[mercyhurstchic]

@ksly2010 I don't sleep around, in fact, I don't have sex at all. What you fail to understand is that I do not want a man that is clingy and needy. The so-called "nice guys" tend to be very needy and clingy. Those men tend to have a lack of confidence in themselves. I do want a man that is RESPECTFUL towards women, who is kind, gentle, but strong, mentally sound, CONFIDENT, and intelligent. I don't want a man who is clingy, needy, who do too much too soon in a relationship.

[mercyhurstchic]

@ksly2010 Nice guys never stand up for themselves, they're actually giving up control over his life to the women he wants to date. He’s too scared to live his own life, too scared to do what he wants to do. Women don't want power over a man like that. What women want is a man. They want a leader -- a great guy who will lead them.

[ksly2010]

@mercyhurstchic You just made a deal with the devil lady. *sigh*

[ATENakaATON]

@mercyhurstchic so women are too scared to live their own lives, too scared to do what they want to do?

[Netlocd]

Women call me a "nice guy" all the time... but some how, I manage to get them into bed.

[erictbrown1]

This is why I date outside of my race mostly I don't need these thug loving women in my life.

[LexPhilogus]

Bill Gates is a geek, but he isn't a "nice guy."

[BREADZ65]

woman just dont kno wat they want period

[e84fresh]

That was a very nice video. I had a few women tell me something similar to that. I get the line "you seem so perfect"... For those 2 women you described in the video get exactly what they deserve. Learned something new from this video. Women that say you are too nice or perfect like a lot of drama.

[blahblahblahman]

Us women do not want "assholes/jerks". It just so happens that the assholes and jerks have a certain personality trait that "nice guys" don't typically have. That personality trait is assertiveness. You let a woman know that you want her and you go after her. "Nice guys" are way too hesitant when it comes to courting a woman and seem to lack confidence. We do not like that.

Please stop spreading the lie that women want jerks.

[lanuwame]

@blahblahblahman Interestingly, many men feel that it's women with low self esteem that are easy prey for the assholes. They don't see their own worth or have issues that make them easy targets. I think it is amazing that people equate hesitant or shy with low self esteem and not humility or respectfulness. Just like how assertiveness and cockiness never seem to get associated. If a women knows the nice ones are the shy ones and jerks are in your face, wouldn't the real choice be obvious?

[sdijnfpo0jaisf]

@lanuwame wow, dude. good answer :). i agree 100%

[lanuwame]

@blahblahblahman and just to clarify, I am not saying ALL women like jerks...just as I'm sure your comment isn't saying that all "nice guys" lack confidence or are too hesitant. There are serious relationship issues on both sides of the gender divide and there is no harm in having an open debate on what people think. We all have our views

[josh19852008]

@lanuwame This person is obvioulsy clueless blahblahblahman! Sadly 80% of the female population in America is this way

[Planetoxo]

@blahblahblahman You sound like the typical 'jerk' woman on POF. You people don't deserve a nice guy in your life!

[Planetoxo]

Interesting video. Lanuwame. :)

[togair9]

@blahblahblahman - bunch of bull shit...

[bluetigerltd]

@blahblahblahman We as men get that women dont want jerks. They just don't want some bumbling, zero confidence fool. One thing that really annoys me is that a lot of "nice guys" just assume that someone who's dating an attractive woman must be a jerk.

[Cap285]

@blahblahblahman You do want jerks. There are plenty of nice guys that are assertive, yet you still run as fast as you can to a douche bag with a backwards baseball hat and an Affliction shirt on. Nice try.

[blahblahblahman]

@Cap285

Um, no. We don't want jerks. At all. And you seem like a jerk...the type I wouldn't want. Very headstrong and stubborn.

[Cap285]

@blahblahblahman Translation: "You speak your mind and don't agree with everything I say and let me put your balls in a vice." You are the queens of headstrong and stubborn.

[livendapast]

@blahblahblahman I agree with what ur saying. But the "nice" guys have probably had a ton of rejection to. Noone wants rejection so it's understandable to me why they would be hesitant or shy. I used to be that way, but i also learned being to forward can scare females off to, so i think i just depends on the person.

[jmkittyfire]

just becuse you may say you dont want asshole jerks you still do go out with the problom i see with women al together

[BlackTruthForever]

@blahblahblahman

The biggest problem with women is that they are perfectly willing to lie about their behavior, and think little of it.

That line about "nice guys aren't assertive" is a good example. You are playing games and it shows, but when you're older you'll be asking where the nice guys are.

BW want to blame someone else for the fact that you hate yourself to the point that you seek out rotten men.

Take some responsibility for your poor choices, will you?

[josh19852008]

@blahblahblahman Who listens to your babbling? Everything you just stated was FALSE. I am a nice guy. I have no problem courting a woman but I will not let her walk all over me. You know what we are hesitant? Because we know long before that opening line women have already decided. Which means if it does not look good you hvae no chance. WAKE UP! Women are the issue! Keep going out getting fucked and dumped. Not bothering me at all!

[bumzurvaj]

Bloody excellent video my friend!

[mass1dasc]

Well said brother, Well said brother. 

[1989bryam]

If she ever developed feelings for me, she will have to prove them to me. I'm done trying to win her heart because she doesn't deserved me. There are a lot of girls out there that are only looking for fun so I don't need her. What I need in a relationship is a girl that can truly love me. However I don't regret it since I will continue searching for my other half even if my heart gets hurt 100 times! I believe in love, and I will never give up that believe because of an immature girl! :)

[1989bryam]

I have some money, and I consider myself more than average looking. I'm about to graduate from a top school, but I'm average compare to others (GPA 3.0). The last time I saw her, she even tried to get my attention,but I decided to avoid her completely. It still hard for me not to think about her since we did kiss a few times, but I know that a relationship could be difficult because she is very immature.

[1989bryam]

thanks a lot for posting this video! The last two girls in my life didn't really told me directly that I was too good to date, but they did completely confused me. Well, the first girl got away without any explanations, but the last girl I did make sure to clear that she never had any good intentions towards me so I took her out of my life completely. I made sure to let her know that she broke my heart, and that I would have never talked to her if I knew had bad intentions.

[MrWhiteskull]

you nailed it. that is why women wear buhrkas? in the middle east. suffrage hasnt happened there yet- but without "nice guys" womens suffrage would never have happened. Kinda like slavery in the US. Now we just have a different form of slavery - gansta rap and the ideal it promotes - even against white ppl. i gotta worry about some dude going after me on the streets even if I agree with him. Culture of h8.

[YoungnRomantic]

@MrWhiteskull That's real talk

[bizminded32]

Women want a challenge. Plus usually when they're age 35 or older, have a few kids, and still single that's when they want the nice guy...maybe.

[ThePeekaboonovelties]

In North America, women act as if they are independent and confident. If you actually travel to other countries like Russia, Ukraine and Brazil, you will find REAL independent and confident women. There, if a girl likes you, she doesn't sit around waiting for you to make the first move - they aggressively come after YOU! In Russia, geeky chess masters get the hottest women. That would NEVER happen here! In North America,once you have cash, then you get any woman you want. Nice means nothing!

[mrhenryleopard]

@ThePeekaboonovelties

So what you're saying is:

"In Soviet Russia, chicks bang you!"

[ApollosInsight]

To any man who's in the friend zone/too nice:

Please pick up another language and travel overseas. We're no longer "finishing last" b/c there ARE women in the world who love us "nice guys" type.

You'll see that you have plenty of options when it comes to women.

[maj197]

I used to have friends who had unrealistic expectations of the men they want to date. Not all women are like this, but confused naive girls do exist. The same can be said about men too. Some people just don't know what they really want, don't know themselves and make mistake after mistake

[4152102011]

Sorry for the double post.

[4152102011]

The key to finding a nice girl? BE A NICE GUY YOURSELF, the rest will come easy. "LIKE TENDS TO ATTRACT LIKE" (compatibilities, commonalities, etc.). MOST relationships are based on that, even more so than opposites attracting. If you find someone who is a nice girl herself, SHE WILL APPRECIATE NICE GUYS, AND SO SHE WILL LIKE NICE GUYS. So,it all depends on who YOU are,and what kind of partner you are looking at. Being a nice guy or a nice girl is hard in todays world,but the strong can do it.

[GPCJordanDowns]

@4152102011 thats absolutely 100% correct! Good to see someone who knows the Law of attraction.

[nykel007]

plain and simple.........'Get The Attitude - Get The Women' audiobookt. people do a Google search. this would clear up a whole lot of stuff pertaining to this age old issue of being the 'nice guy'.

[TheNoleboo]

I'm a jamaican gal and it's hard to find nice men in NY. Maybe nice guys don't like me! :-(. I like geeks, I'm kinda geeky myself! I find nice guys do like ultra feminine, sweet girls and I'm kinda assertive and tom-boyish. So you have nice guys been rejected by ultra feminine women and assertuve women been rejected by nice guys!

[jg95mia]

I think its just American women.

[Frontier500]

cant hear youuuuuuu

[lanuwame]

@Frontier500 Sorry for the volume - didn't know my mic was busted

[TheTelesha]

thanks for showing this isnt a black/white issue or preference!its a woman issue/preference.Even though i dont feel it pertains to me..i personally like nice guys.they arent easy to find though.the nerd thing doesnt matter to me.the square thing doesnt matter to me..but i have to be compatible with them.i am aggresive and maybe thats intimidating..but at the same time i like to let my man be a man.so nice guys dont give up.try to date someone you think would not date you..you may be suprised!=)

[lanuwame]

Understand that this video is not about attacking women or demonizing relationships. I am simply discussing a subject - though trite and over discussed - but affects us as a society no matter how much people pretend to be unaffected by matters of rejection, love and belonging. We humans are flawed creatures and the only way to correct a flaw is to discuss it - not pretend it doesn't exist or can be swept under a rug. Remember, wars have been fought over matters of the heart...