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[jrion2]

no reason not to take a risk? pshh.. yea right.. hows about my dignity and self respect!! my ego is on da line here!

[Kythos]

Are you more of a social psychologist? I am sure that you learned all these stuff from experience and the experience of others. Do you have any videos that will eliminate the fears of rejection and intimacy? Thank You.

[kaulchen]

Hi,

I think you´re doing a really great job so I´ve decided to seek your advice. The guy I´m interested at has already met me for coffe once though it was not officially a date but rather an appoinment to help me with homework. Yet he continued talking to me after we had finished the homework and really it really felt like we were on a date and having a good time. So I was hoping he would call me afterwards but he hasn´t. Do you think I should somehow ask him on a 2nd date ?

[kdjfnvjvd]

Hi, So,I see your comment is almost a year old but what ever happened with that situation????? I'm willing to bet it never really went anywhere. Is that accurate?

[brollykat123]

Also you should make more scenarios for your female viewers, maybe...

BK123

[arkady39]

Thanks. Are there any particular issues you would like me to address?

[brollykat123]

That I may try. Thanx for the tip!

BK123 ^_^

[brollykat123]

Hi, I love your videos! I have a question to pose you. There is this kid at my job that I believe he likes me. The thing is he looks at me all the time but remains quiet and for the most part unresponsive, unless I interact with him. If and when I do approach him he get's really clumsy and looks like a deer stuck under headlights. I would like to know what can I do to ease the situation up and show him that I mean no harm? I actually do like him and would like a chance with him, what to do?

BK

[arkady39]

Thanks for your kind words. Obviously the guy is shy & nervous around you. I know this will sound extreme, but the best ice-breaker would be to make fun of the whole awkwardness and hit it "head on" kind of like in "Goodwill hunting." If you have the guts, you should say playfully: "So... why are you so shy around me? Do I look that scary? I don't bite, you know. Not at first anyway" - and wink.

If that doesn't get him moving, then... he needs to do some work & he is just not ready for it.

[Miryr]

I love your videos, but I have a question:

There's a girl which is a great friend of mine, liked her for some time too, but every time I invite her she makes an excuse not to go or simply not confirms.And the weird part is that she continues to say I should invite her, and so I do but at the last moment she arrives very late (about an hour later)or nor confirms as I already said, so what the fuck is all that about?

Hope you can help.

[arkady39]

Hey there. Thanks for your kind words and support.

It sounds like the girl is not responsible/mature enough yet to follow through with what she says or with plans, so... it is something that she needs to fix about herself and there is not much you can do about it. Thanks.

[limelight06]

Miryr, I must say that the girl is rather confused and playing you all the way. The best option is to move on to someone who cares about you. Life is short so live it too the fullest...no regrets!

[arkady39]

Good point.

[jegede339]

fantastic Advice!!! ... just for life in General! Thanks!

[arkady39]

Thanks!

[plobolide]

thnxx for the advicee

[arkady39]

Sure, my pleasure.

[avidhorserider]

brilliant.

going to try it out tmrrw!! sooo nervous!!

and hmm, as wrong as this sounds, this reminds me of Hitler and his policy... one of his men once said 'it is better to make mistakes while interferring rather than not intrferring at all' or something along those lines... his men were punished more severely for being IDLE and not doing anythin!! haha, wow, what a parallel.... :P

keep up the great work!!

[arkady39]

Thanks! I guess being compared to the evil Hitler isn't the best thing, but... if a man achieved such power and leadership, he must have had great qualities that allowed him to get there.

[avidhorserider]

exactly! that's the spirit! the man had charisma, and that's an amazing quality!! i still stick to what i said before... your videos are fantastic!!thanks!and as for the guy thing... LOL he approached me!! finallllly. i also watched your video about the msn thing,so when he asked for my msn i tried working it into exchanging numbers, and it got sort of confusing and he ended up giving ME his number and msn.. is that a bad sign? should i talk to him through these things? thanks in advance! xxxxxx

[arkady39]

Hey there. Thanks for your kind words again. Obviously, that guy needs way more help than you. I can't believe his passive attitude. If he is not interested, then it's understandable. Otherwise, every man should know that it's his job to ask and get a woman's phone number.

[EnduringRain]

I liked what you said, and it reminded me of Kafka:

'You can hold yourself back from the sufferings of the world, that is something that you are free to do and it accords with your nature, but perhaps this holding back is the one suffering you could avoid.'

[arkady39]

Thanks a lot! Having someone quote a famous philosopher in connection with my videos is an ultimate compliment!

[methy222]

sum more of your best advice always go for it! if you dont youll regret it and if you fail you can say at least i tried and you nevenr know what mite happen. you rock arkady!!

[arkady39]

Thanks. Go to my site and look at the left bar with exclusive videos - there are not that many of them but you will enjoy them as well (they are no available on youtube).

[arkady39]

Hey, there is nothing wrong with coming up to her and saying: "Hey, can I talk to you for a minute" and thus separate her from the group.

Try it. It's easy and if for some reason she doesn't want to step away from her friends to talk to you, then you got your answer - she is not interested.

Thanks, and let me know how it goes.

[horopokoru23]

also.. i think something is wrong with your site? iv been trying 2 go buh iuno...

[arkady39]

Thanks a lot. I appreciate your letting me know. The host's servers were down. It should be up now. check it out and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter for more dating tips.

[horopokoru23]

I was planing 2 ask her awhile ago at school but i ddnt see her..then i jst glanced a lil bit here in youtube and i saw ur videos kinda watch them all..i saw some of ur tips nd stuff but should i ask her if shes always with her friends? ..i kinda like that "very original pickup line" of urs but do u have any advice in my situation? we kinda had some EC buh i jst couldnt make a move bcoz of her friends.. thnx nd hope u reply asap