You have had alot of really good advice so far I see. And I know this is the last thing you need to hear at the moment... But your accent is HOT :) LOL - Good luck with the girl!!
I would say you are being too hard on yourself. You are attracted to what you are attracted to! This person has changed physically and so have you.. that also changes personality. I think you should go for it and see what happens. You were just out of a bad relationship back then.... also, I belive everything happens for a reason.. you were put in each others path again when you went to the club for a reason :)
This is continued: I would contact her definitely...and you may just explain that you've changed so much in the past years...just be honest with her and I promise she will respect that. This may be an opportunity that God has brought your way and it warrents exploring right ? :) You are definitely not a bad person and we all know that. I'll stop rambling now lol.
First let me say you are looking awesome! I've been so behind on videos,so this is the first time I'm seeing you in a while. Having said that meeting someone online is tough at times.I've talked to my friends about things like this before. We are all entitled to our preferences. I never was angry with a person if they weren't attracted to me as long as they were respectful. That was the most important thing to me.
A person changes a lot in 3 years normally and even more so in our situation.
I see and agree with you. 3 years is a lot of time for someone to change, both physically and emotionally. I know I did. We will see what happens. Thanks so much for taking the time and sharing your POV. means so much! :-D
You are just so darn cute! I've never been a "physical" person either. BUT come on there are some people you just can't help being "physically" attracted to. I would say be honest with "this person" and go from there. You are right, you have both changed. You "lack" of attraction to them 3 years ago could have actually been your lack of attraction to yourself! You only live once, GO FOR IT!
I would agree with brat, I wouldn't say because you're attracted to her is messed up. I would see what happens, if something happens good, if nothing happens, it wasn't meant to be. Don't stress, if it's meant to be life will work itself out, always does. Bon chaunce! (good luck) cait.
Thanks for your thoughts. I have a lot of thinking to do, but regardless. I am happy I have such good people like yourself in my life that can help me and show so much support! Thank You! :-)
so far I agree mostly with BRATLEE2U. In my opinion if you only want to contact this person because her looks changed thats messed up. My wife and I agree it would be shallow. This is what I would do if i were in your shoes...FOCUS on reaching my weight loss goal and surround myself with FRIENDS, then give your time and attention to finding a partner or even a soulmate ;) Laterz bud
i see where you are coming from. Is something I have been thinking as well. Sometimes you have to find yourself to be able to find your other half. Thanks so much for your comments. I appreciate it! :-)
you may not want to be the person who goes by looks but lets face it. we are attracted to certain types of people. we cannot help who we are attracted to. i have NEVER been attracted to overweight guys. i'm sorry, good personality or not. you cant change who you're attracted to. you will never meet a woman who says "i married my husband because of just his personality. he was ugly as a dog but, hes nice". meaning, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. if they're cute and nice. go4it.
okay, so maybe i should clarify. What one may find attractive, another may not. That's why beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I guess my comment was a little brash. If you are attracted to this person now, maybe they are exhibiting a new confidence or "something" you just can't explain. I hope i didn't offend anyone with my above comment. It was worded very wrong and I am really not good with words. So I bet I didn't explain myself on this one either. But there's other good advice here.
I respect your opinion and you dont have to be sorry for what you wrote. We are all different and we all have our own taste in people. Thanks so much for your honesty, I admire that! :-)
Go for it Carlos. Now that you are more mentally prepared to maybe start a relationship--go and get your feet wet. The worst that can happen is what? Keep us posted
I suggest you just meet as friends. Do coffee, drinks, etc. If she is worthy of you, then I would persue it. Call her. Don't make it about her looks (even if it is) because you wouldn't want someone contacting you because you lost weight. Get to know her - maybe you will like her - maybe you will not. Good luck, buddy.
Just by the fact that you feel conscious about this shows that you heart is in the right place. Go for it...you never know what might happen and you both have this journey in common!
all i can really say is persue it carlos, the absolute worst that is going to happenn is that this person is going to say that they are not interested..... you are 100 % right... you both have lost a great amount of weight and you are both different people now. i think things will be great....so what are you waiting for, pick up that phone Carlos!!!!!
As you have lost weight you have gotten confident, as you should when you look better. She probably has obviously changed too emotionally and physically because of her weight loss. Which is nothing wrong with that. I feel you should try and have a relationship with her as long as your conscience doesn't interfear with your heart. Your not the first and certainly not the last person who has not gone out with someone because of looks, we are all human and make mistakes. I say Go for it !!!
Thanks So much for your advice. I do believe I should go and try see what happens. Now, all depends if the feeling is mutual! Will keep you posted! :-D
You have had alot of really good advice so far I see. And I know this is the last thing you need to hear at the moment... But your accent is HOT :) LOL - Good luck with the girl!!
SarahWillBeSkinny 3 years ago
Aww..::Blushing:: :-) Thanks so much!
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
I would say you are being too hard on yourself. You are attracted to what you are attracted to! This person has changed physically and so have you.. that also changes personality. I think you should go for it and see what happens. You were just out of a bad relationship back then.... also, I belive everything happens for a reason.. you were put in each others path again when you went to the club for a reason :)
nadinemccarthy08 3 years ago
I bealieve that too... I know things happen for a reason. :-) Big Hugs! :-D
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
This is continued: I would contact her definitely...and you may just explain that you've changed so much in the past years...just be honest with her and I promise she will respect that. This may be an opportunity that God has brought your way and it warrents exploring right ? :) You are definitely not a bad person and we all know that. I'll stop rambling now lol.
allisonpacino 3 years ago
I will...thanks so much My Friend! :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
First let me say you are looking awesome! I've been so behind on videos,so this is the first time I'm seeing you in a while. Having said that meeting someone online is tough at times.I've talked to my friends about things like this before. We are all entitled to our preferences. I never was angry with a person if they weren't attracted to me as long as they were respectful. That was the most important thing to me.
A person changes a lot in 3 years normally and even more so in our situation.
allisonpacino 3 years ago
I see and agree with you. 3 years is a lot of time for someone to change, both physically and emotionally. I know I did. We will see what happens. Thanks so much for taking the time and sharing your POV. means so much! :-D
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
You are just so darn cute! I've never been a "physical" person either. BUT come on there are some people you just can't help being "physically" attracted to. I would say be honest with "this person" and go from there. You are right, you have both changed. You "lack" of attraction to them 3 years ago could have actually been your lack of attraction to yourself! You only live once, GO FOR IT!
imaswtgrl 3 years ago
I agree with you on this. And deep inside I know is true. Thanks so much for taking the time and comment. Big Hugs!
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
I would agree with brat, I wouldn't say because you're attracted to her is messed up. I would see what happens, if something happens good, if nothing happens, it wasn't meant to be. Don't stress, if it's meant to be life will work itself out, always does. Bon chaunce! (good luck) cait.
creynon 3 years ago
I will make an update on my next video.. Thanks so much for your comment! :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
I say the past is the past. You BOTH have changed. You also have the WL in common.
Ask for a coffee and if accepted, see if you are getting any vibe whether you pursue it.
We all know now that life is SO short, and
as people battling our weight, don't you think we missed out on a lot of opportunities in the past.
I say GO FOR it, and don't analyze it too much. Good Luck!
playboysgirl08 3 years ago
Thanks for your thoughts. I have a lot of thinking to do, but regardless. I am happy I have such good people like yourself in my life that can help me and show so much support! Thank You! :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
so far I agree mostly with BRATLEE2U. In my opinion if you only want to contact this person because her looks changed thats messed up. My wife and I agree it would be shallow. This is what I would do if i were in your shoes...FOCUS on reaching my weight loss goal and surround myself with FRIENDS, then give your time and attention to finding a partner or even a soulmate ;) Laterz bud
marinebulldog0309 3 years ago
i see where you are coming from. Is something I have been thinking as well. Sometimes you have to find yourself to be able to find your other half. Thanks so much for your comments. I appreciate it! :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
you may not want to be the person who goes by looks but lets face it. we are attracted to certain types of people. we cannot help who we are attracted to. i have NEVER been attracted to overweight guys. i'm sorry, good personality or not. you cant change who you're attracted to. you will never meet a woman who says "i married my husband because of just his personality. he was ugly as a dog but, hes nice". meaning, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. if they're cute and nice. go4it.
peterrabbit31 3 years ago
Carlos, you don't want to think like ^^^^^
marinebulldog0309 3 years ago
okay, so maybe i should clarify. What one may find attractive, another may not. That's why beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I guess my comment was a little brash. If you are attracted to this person now, maybe they are exhibiting a new confidence or "something" you just can't explain. I hope i didn't offend anyone with my above comment. It was worded very wrong and I am really not good with words. So I bet I didn't explain myself on this one either. But there's other good advice here.
peterrabbit31 3 years ago
I respect your opinion and you dont have to be sorry for what you wrote. We are all different and we all have our own taste in people. Thanks so much for your honesty, I admire that! :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
:-) Good point. Thanks so much for your POV. :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
Go for it Carlos. Now that you are more mentally prepared to maybe start a relationship--go and get your feet wet. The worst that can happen is what? Keep us posted
vivkuhl 3 years ago
I will, thanks so much for your encouragement! :-D
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
I suggest you just meet as friends. Do coffee, drinks, etc. If she is worthy of you, then I would persue it. Call her. Don't make it about her looks (even if it is) because you wouldn't want someone contacting you because you lost weight. Get to know her - maybe you will like her - maybe you will not. Good luck, buddy.
bratlee2u 3 years ago
I couldn't Agree more. Thanks So Much for your Thoughts. I will do just that!
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
Great advice :)
allisonpacino 3 years ago
Just by the fact that you feel conscious about this shows that you heart is in the right place. Go for it...you never know what might happen and you both have this journey in common!
halfofmegone 3 years ago
Thank You for your Comment. :-) Means a lot! :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
all i can really say is persue it carlos, the absolute worst that is going to happenn is that this person is going to say that they are not interested..... you are 100 % right... you both have lost a great amount of weight and you are both different people now. i think things will be great....so what are you waiting for, pick up that phone Carlos!!!!!
jamie9841 3 years ago
:-D Thanks jamie. I have the phone number but I dial 9 digits and then I get scared..lol But I will try to overcome my nerves. :-)
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago
As you have lost weight you have gotten confident, as you should when you look better. She probably has obviously changed too emotionally and physically because of her weight loss. Which is nothing wrong with that. I feel you should try and have a relationship with her as long as your conscience doesn't interfear with your heart. Your not the first and certainly not the last person who has not gone out with someone because of looks, we are all human and make mistakes. I say Go for it !!!
myRNYJourney 3 years ago
Thanks So much for your advice. I do believe I should go and try see what happens. Now, all depends if the feeling is mutual! Will keep you posted! :-D
TheRoadToPerfection 3 years ago