...and human communication is about 77% projected through our body language/ actions. So whether two people choose to wait (not have sex) or be physically intimate (get butt ass naked!) the key is that both individuals have to have a mutual connection to grow! As for natural hair and wigs.. each to there own.. if someone loves you then they will see that the topic is trivial and will be more focused on the inner qualities!
I think that alot of individuals (both male&female) put alot of emphasis on 'sex' too! A relationship is multi layered and 'I' believe that if two people want to get to know each other and evolve together then 'intimacy' and 'communication' play major roles for success!
It as if we've placed so much emphasis on sex in our relationships between male and female that we seem to forget the "relation" part of it all. Let's take sex out of the equation...what happens to the relationship. ... I I'm all about the natural hair :) ... weave, wigs...well there are exceptions I guess...but the more natural the better I think.
Shoot! I am transitioning to natural and I flinch when people touch my hair! I'm scared because I'm not sure if they will get their hands back. My hair is kinky sometimes!!
"Marriage is three years minimum" - where did you get that statistic? My sister got married five years ago after dating, getting engaged and married all in a span of 6 months. And they didn't have their first child until year three and they are very happy together. Basically, don't useless baseless information or references to friends to justify your own desire for sex. Plenty of men wait all over the world - its not rocket science, just takes this thing called DISCIPLINE.
I love that you did this video. I like to hear a guys perspective/opinion on different things. And it was interesting to here these two. It's always good to have open healthy discussions like this, it get's everyone thinking. :-)
I love the concept of this vid, but watching it made me upset. It was mostly Ever's talk about sex that bothered me. Asking a man to stay chaste in a monogamous relationship shouldn't be hard. If you don't respect my wishes as your girlfriend, you sure as hell won't respect me as your wife. He's basically saying that if you don't put out in a timely manner you'll be alone your whole life. Sex is spiritual as well as physical. As spouses, you should be willing to make sex wonderful for each other
LOL@ this ho.. Speaking to folks about virginity? Really!? You have 3 kids by 3 different dudes & been f*ckin since you were a kid. This topic really should’nt being coming out of your mouth. Once again you’re giving advice to young girls when YOUR life dosn’t reflect this “great advice” you tend to spew…. Oh yeah…. Explain this pic OF YOU, from this home video, to your followers => oi41.tinypic(.)com/m8nsj5.jpg
Please check your friend, Ever. I do not and never have worn a weave or wig, but I do not let people put their hands in my hair all willy nilly. If someone, especially a stranger or someone I don't know well, wants to touch it, they have to ask. If they reach for it I WILL lean away from him or her. I don't let people touch other parts of my anatomy without permission; why should my hair be any different?
Great vid.I'm 24, and still a virgin. I plan to wait until marriage, due to my beliefs.I'm always hearing "wow, that's rare" or "how do you do it?" To me, it's not that hard. I made the decision that I would wait at a very young age, and I've stuck with it. I must admit, I've been single because most guys can't/won't wait, but I believe that when the right guy comes along, he'll cherish my vcard, and wait :-)...and not just for ME, but because he believes it's the right thing to do as well.
Completely disagree twith him as it relates to being married and sex being bad because that would mean there was no communication as to what she would or would not do. Last but not least waiting means the two have decided to court each other but itf not then their simply dating which for me really means the guy is definitely not worth me giving you something so precious like sex. My opinion my body my worth and spirtuality to my belief. This is why intimacy is missing in many marriages.
Okay but people date backwards sex should be after marriage and he said what if he get a girl that dont know what she doin or the other way around you can teach them what you like. And if the girl aint down for certain things, then who cares it shouldnt matter if you really love that person.
I really enjoyed the first segment but was kind of put off by the 2nd half about sex, especially Ever's comments about abstinence & the comments in general about sex on the first night. In my opinion, sex isnt supposed to be a recreational activity loosely perfomed during moments of lust. That mentality is a contributing factor in the high rates of HIV cases, unplanned pregnancies and emotionally unstable individuals that were'nt ready for the emotional changes that follow sex. But great topic!
@UntamedTomi I totally get what you mean, but I definitely wanted to bring in "real world" questions and for the most part, ppl have casual sex... Some ppl don't... In no way am I condoning irrational sex, but it's OK to talk about it.. But now watching it back, I will definitely put up a disclaimer in the beginning of future videos if there is any content related to sex... I'm glad you enjoyed the segment though :)
So I had to come back and look at this video again because it's probably one of my favorites for so many reasons. I just noticed. In the intro of the guys Mark is listed as "Comedian"... Ever... has nothing. WHAT does he do?! lol. Love this series. Can't wait to see more. I'd even watch Mark and Ever again because they give me so much material that I could comment on them for days Haha.
MARK... where have u been all my life!!! This guy is so funny!!!... I appreciate the honesty from both men.... One thing: If sex is the defining factor in a relationship then there is a problem, a deeper problem that needs to be addressed!!! Great video!!
Hey girl wanted to give my two sense lol. When i met my husband he was the one who actually wanted to wait tell we were married. And it was actually an issue for me and something i had to adjust to and respect. Lol i found myself getting upset with him a few times because i wanted to have sex and he wanted to wait. Then i realized that i had a man who loved me with out a doubt! And loved me without sex ever even playing a factor. And even now that we are married we have an amazing relationship
Some of y'all are getting too worked up over this. Ever should have worded himself better tho. But still sometimes we'll hear the opinions of others and not like it or agree. I actually read an article that it was true some relationships are strained because of sex. Sex plays a part. As human beings we naturally enjoy sex (so we can have babies) so if you want to have sex but EVERY time you do it's not enjoyable then you'll have problems. That's just the psychology behind it.
One thing I don't agree with is that younger women hold off on sex... Girl... Have you ever spent any time around younger women? They are TOO ready to give it up! And it's always to the wrong person. Now older women often are willing to give it up quick because she doesn't feel like wasting TIME. LoL! Plus she's not looking for a "prince" anymore. She gets her nookie and let it go where it will. :) But (some) young girls are WAY easy to talk out of some quick sex.
@Leecpc33, I agree with you totally....if sex is that big of an issue then dont be with that person...save the woman the trouble and move on to someone who has "good" sex.
look if you married someone cause the sex is good then your marriage was going to fail from the get go. the men you chose to interview are silly and childish a real man has a perspective beyond their own realm of experiences. The guy with the hat has a little more sense, but they both are immature, and my guess is that they both aren't married.
I was having sex before marriage and thought it was great, When I got married I found out the love making was Awesome!!!! and I was with the same man before and after marriage. It is the bond and the holiness of marriage that makes it worth waiting for. I wish my husband was my first. Those who I had sex with before him, in the end, did not deserve it.
Now the way he said the cheating thing probably didnt come out right. Im pretty sure he just meant like sexual acts arent being committed cause the girl didnt want to do them. From my experience of being with my bf for 3 years and what he has told me Ive learned : you have to be on the same page as your man ( same thing as, he has to be on the same page as you). This dude in the blue isnt saying that the women has to do what he wants. hes just saying like if your a freak you'd want a freak.
I could tell Ever was damaged in some way like most of us. He needs to let that go and be the nice, sexy guy that he can be. He has potential. Most men now a days want women to conform to what they want. I always say, " If you give the man the trophy before he won it, he won't work that hard for it or not at all". They are not mature enough for me to date but I could hang out with them.
I agree with Ever on one thing tho, in marriage you can't not do what the other person wants you to do. COMPROMISE ppl lol, you want the other person to wait, well you better be willing to put out when it comes time! lol
Ever would not be saying he doesn't support abstinence if we were talking about his daughter (if he had one)...smh. Abstinence is a beautiful thing people. Don't let people like that fool you. It's not as hard as it looks. If a person can learn to control their desires and exercise self-discipline, it is definitely possible for that person to be abstinent. And if you can be faithful to someone you MARRIED because the sex ain't good, you never loved them in
yall over here degrading black men like they r just the worst the point of the matter is THEY ARE MEN and they're suppose to be speaking for the men its not always about race damn grow the fuck up and quit being so shallow... personally i found this very entertaining because its nice to hear how men possibly think
I would never even talk to either of these guys in any other matter than 'acquaintance" maybe not even that. because they don't have the love of Christ! NO WAY! If you think that you are worth a woman's body without paying the price of marriage YOU ARE CRAZY i'm done i'm done
"sexual compatibility" is a bunch of b.s. take a man and a woman with working parts and sexual attraction bam sexually compatible! Im pretty sure "sexual compatibility" doesn't determine whether or not a one night stand is gonna happen. You can't base sex off of a relationship cause guess what eventually sex with the same person will get boring but if you truly love that person you can make it work through meeting each other's needs and communication!
9:07 you should know what you partner likes and dislikes..especially if you are experienced in having sex even if you havent had sexual intercourse with each other and I'm not saying you will not learn about each others afterwards but you need to start somewhere.
These two guys are "Typical Ghetto Guys" with that Black man mentality. These are the type of Black men that are about "themselves" and focus their time sexing different women withou taking any commitments.
I wish Taren found some successful BM who are married, have a family and love their wives. The Player mentality is to prevelent in the Black community
Whether I agreed or disagreed with either guys response I like the fact that they were honest and didn't try to give these "picture perfect" answers for us viewers. It helps give us as women a better outlook and to recognize that there are men out there with similar views to both. This vid reminds us to be cautious and precise of what we are looking for in a male and also allows us to reflect on how we present ourselves to them. Thanks Taren! This was a great idea
@shugalippz OMG!!! You couldn't have said this any better!! 20 thumbs up (if I could LOL!) I'm sick of men who when you ask them what type of women they're attracted to, they say a natural woman w/ no make up.. But when a female passes by w/ weave & make up like Bey or Kim.. They're breaking their necks trying to get her number.. -___- So I always appreciate honesty (whether I agree w/ them or not)..
@mimi504 True..............I see BM doing that all the time and then when BW are gone they say they don't want any "Nappy Headed Hoes" simpliar to what Imus said. To be honest; Imus got those remarks from Black men. I gree with your remarks; their liars on short hair. Taren is beautiful with short hair or long hair but many BM seem to have problems and say they don't want be with a man if your hair is short!
P2, Now with that said, "no waters" are getting tested until their's a ring on my finger with a wedding date. Even with that my celibacy will not get blown to pieces but I would break it to see how sexually compatible my future husband is or isn't.
Adult Single Mom *shook* into practicing celibacy. 1st & only child in 30's 1 of the most traumatic exp of my life & I NEVER want to repeat it, so I wanted a 100% guarantee not to get pregnant EVER again unless it was by my husband! HOWEVER, as a grown women knowing better, I need to experience my pre-husband sexually to know what I'm working with, because a healthy sex life is equally as important as mental, physical & emotional well being. I will not be married to a sexually unskilled man.P1
@Icooka4u I don't even date Black men anymore because most of them don't have anything and lots like to "Live off women". I'm currently engaged to a White man. I simply moved on, I was sick of running into the "Promiousious Player Black Man that's broke always coming up with excuses. You won't experience these behaviors from "other men" which have more to offer. If you havenn't looked on the back end of Black men's lives most of them die alone because of how they lived.
why are you happy with a white man but still dedicate so much time to bashing black men and broadcasting your IR relationship? I've seen your posts on other videos as well talking about the same stuff. The more people do this, the more their claims of IR dating look suspect. I'm mean no disrespect but you don't come off as someone who's happy.
@kuunami. Don't make me laugh! BM tell you they don't want you all the time and don't do a damn thing for you or the children you conceive with them. Their always telling you that WW/other races are better so don't play DUMB! LMAO I guess your offended when a BW says they don't date BM? Why.........MOST BM get on nationall media and say they don't want BW all the time and give their money and time to WW! LMAO Notice now that BW are doing the samethings to BM!
What national TV programs have BM been doing this on? Can you give me an example or a link? I'm not "playing dumb", I honestly haven't seen black men doing this on national TV. I doubt that the media would air that anyway. Anyway, all I'm saying is that for a happy person you come off as very bitter. It's the internet so people can only judge your character by what you put out there. I honestly hope that I'm wrong about that and I wish you the best. Good luck and God bless.
@kuunami Oh come on now! They do special programs on how BM treat BW and the rift that's going on. CNN did a special on Black community which was spathetic but true. As well as the media, newspapers, Radio, Forums, church.......always talk about Black men horrible stats.
Im simply tellig you that MOST BM on average treat BW with disrespect the same way their used your Mothers, Aunts and Grandmothers! Black men USE MOST BW including yourself!
"MOST BM get on nationall media and say they don't want BW all the time and give their money and time to WW! LMAO Notice now that BW are doing the samethings to BM! "
That's the comment that I'm asking about. I can say that I saw space aliens in my backyard but people will expect me to prove it. Give me specific examples these of programs you're talking about where black men say they don't want black women national tv. If I've missed these show's prove me wrong.
@kuunami Yes, look at the examples around of most BM. You sounds like some BM who say they don't anything wrong and they don't understand why BW are angry at them! LMAO
@kuunami , No I'm not wrong; its just that BM make you look like a fool! Watch Maury, Divorce Court, Read the newspapers, Watch the crime channesl if its back; its mostly Black men!
As I said its not all BM but most BM and i refuse to overlook what they say or do! Too many don't do a damn thing for BW or children or the Black community; the bulk of hte responsbility is left on Black women and chiildren to do alone. Then these "Nigs' have the nerve to demand good women! Kiss my Arse! LMAo
You're trying to distract me from my question by turning it into a who's worse than who debate when everyone knows that black women have just as many issues as black men in the black community.
So I'll repeat the question. What national TV shows have black men gone on and said that they don't want black women as you claimed in your original comment? I need specific examples, the name of the shows, links to videos or something that proves this is happening or else it didn't happen!
@kuunami, You've never heard a Football star, Rapper or Celbrity say they don't like and don't date BW? Your a liar! One rapper said he doesnt date "Dark Butts"only WW, Football stars that say they don't deal with BW to date or marry and select WW? What about Kenya West, Lil Wayne, Bird Man, Tank and 50 cents? Haven't they all been/are with WW? Yes.........!!!!! Most of them say, "I don't date dark butt or Biggens BW". You see the same drama on talk shows like Maury, Divorce Court, Steve Wilkos
I've heard dumbass uneducated black people both men and women say all kinds of stupid stuff in interviews. But I'm not dumb enough to think that rappers, athletes those idiots represent blacks, nor do I let what I see on TV dictate my view on life. That's how racist white people think. I've never seen a group of black men get on a national TV show, especially a respectable show and say that they don't want black women. Never. So like I said, if you've seen it I'd like to see proof.
@kuunami True............Anything other than a BM will do these days. to be honest BM disrespect BW too much so I can't support them like they don't support us! It goes both ways now.
Great videos! Both guys had good points of views! But honestly a lot of guys do think the way Ever thinks. I loved Marks response on waiting till marriage..but it is very rare to find a guy that is mature enough to think that way! I pray that God sends me a guy like Mark..matter fact is he available! Hahaha lmbo!
This is probably just me, but I feel like if you're in a monogamous, relationship, you wait until you're married to have sex, and you don't want t do anything without your husband, there was something missing from that bond in the first place. I think actions in the bedroom display the nature of trust. You're not gonna go all out for someone you question. Plus, even if you're not having sex, u still need to talk about it, what's okay, what's not, what u expect, and want to experience.
The guy in the white shirt is so much more mature than the guy in the black shirt. This is why a lot of black relationships don't flourish, the selfish Black male ego! So what, you've been unresponsively been "having sex"(that's absolutely all you've been doing) all your life, as you say. Where is the maturity of selflessness? Then, at the end of the discussion, he wants to change his tune. Deadbeat Bum!
i belive in keeping yourself till u get married, if a man loves u ,he should love u 4 who u r n not cos of sex n should be able to wait unit u guys get married. what if u get infected with HIV or become preganant would he admit dat he is responsible n tk care of u n d baby or he will just denial n run away, this is my personal opinion, LADIES KEEP URSELF 4 UR HUSBAND u dnt hv a man to achieve what u want in life all u need is GOD.
and the comment made at the end of video..there isn't a set age where a woman knows who she is.to be honest there are older woman who still don't know who they are. whether a woman choose to have sex on the first date or not is a personal value. hasn't really anything to do with knowing who you are. in my opinion.
thanks Taren love the guy in the white shirt comment on waiting until marriage because i plan on doing that and I was worried about how a guy would react its good to know that some guys are ok with waiting
So if u got married to a girl who didn't have sex with you....but you LOVED her to the point were u 2 got married... y should the sex matter?? If you knew her as a person n u found her attractive... u would leave her if the sex was not up to your standards??
"If you want me not to cheat on you, you're sex has to be great"?? Really? It is not a woman's job to jump through hoops to please a man sexually in order to keep him faithful. If bad sex is a deal breaker and you are not willing to work with her to fix the problem, then just move on. There's no need to cheat and treat someone poorly. Try growing up.
@Leecpc33 he's talking about a WILLING woman. like for a guy like him, if she DOESNT give oral sex bc of her beliefs or whatever the case may be then there are women that are willing to do so. of course he CAN move on and avoid going behind her back to cheat but there r those instances where a guy wants to be faithful but a thirsty female comes along and ruins his intensions. the mind is willing but the flesh is weak. guys r alot weaker than females in sexual situations. Sex IS important to them
@melisaj1212 I understood what he meant, and I sincerely stand by my original comment. I don't believe there is any excuse for cheating. Regardless of a "thirsty" female. Being a man does not give a person an excuse to cheat because they have a high sex drive. A woman can't ruin his intentions on her own if HE made the selfish choice to cheat. Sex is important to women as well. They don't get a free pass just for having a Y chromosome.
I think a good sex question for them, especially the one in the Yankee cap, would have been, What if your wife becomes incapcitated and can't have sex, would you leave her?
First, LOVED this video Taren! The guys remind me of some of my guy friends. If you wait and get married and find that the man refuses to do certain things you like, there will be issues. What's wrong with a man saying the same? The non-negotiables should be discussed beforehand to avoid the problem altogether. For the immature and un-enlightened, you can be cool with dudes without having slept with them or wanting to sleep with them. Sheesh! Quit assuming nonsense, mmmkay?!
@curlychristina88 What does that have to do with her being a Mom? What you said was down right disrespectful and childish toward everyone you basically pre-judged. We all have our opinions but it's another thing when you automatically judge someone based on their appearance. Do you KNOW any of these people personally? I'm just saying, if someone made an accusation about you that you know isn't true, how would you feel abou that. I think we should think before we speak..that's what wise people do
People who make stupid ass comments like that are effin haters!!! Go get u sum MFN bizness hater...she looks nice and ur just jealous. U must not have breast or ur insecure in ur own skin. I hate women who always have something negative 2 say.
@Taren, thanks 4 the video luv...good to hear a man's point-of-view on these subjects(:
I actually LOVE BOTH of these guys. Love it or hate it, each of their opinions represent the views of men in our society (in which I'm sure that other men would agree with their views).
-It's nice to hear what men REALLY think and not just what we want them to think.
Maybe the reason a woman doesn't want to have sex on the first night is not because she is worried about what the guy will think of her, but its because of how she would view herself. Maybe she holds herself to a higher standard for sharing her body with someone.
To Mark, if a woman is not important enough to you to wait for her or move toward marriage faster, then you're right, you are not the one for her. And yes, sex is important to a marriage-- it is the deepest connection for a man and wife designed by God. But, if ALL you are looking for to fulfill your marriage is sex, which will never be amazing all the time, then you don't understand the true purpose of marriage.
@vanorris1908 I ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH YOU I AM HAPPILY MARRIED TO MY WIFE FOR TEN YEARS NOW. SEX IS IMPORTANT BUT ITS DONT DETERMINE YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER
I'm curious about Ever's opinion that a relationship/marriage would end because the woman isn't willing to do what he needs to have done on the sexual front. Question to him: Does he take the time out to make sure that the woman is getting what she needs sexually? Sexual compatibility is important, but if he thinks that he only needs "to get his" & too bad for the woman if she doesn't get hers, that's lame as hell. & Mark, bless his heart! He was working overtime with his crafted responses. :-D
To Ever: relationships/marriages aren't based solely on sex. So if a marriage doesn't work out after a few months, it wasn't just because the woman didn't want to have sex, or didn't agree to do what her husband wanted, there are deeper relationship issues between them. You're not telling the whole story :)
ooo good question with waiting for sex till marriage. I had decided to wait, and then I met my now boyfriend and we've been together for almost a year. Still waiting...I think it's great, it has made us closer. you have to be strong but it is possible and worth it :)
This is one ignoramous!!!!! This dude needs a strong spiritual mentor....now we see why its sooo necessary for the older to help and mentor the young this dude needs it NOW!!!
Its truly sad to see the perspective of the dude in black how sad!!! Sex is such a small part of any relationship, the BEST part of any partnership is the powerful,spiritual, physical, emotional bond that is found in each other through Christ who gives us everything was need including great relations (sex) within the marriage. How ignorant and small this person is to think that sex can make or break anything!
I want to know if you're still doing the 6 weeks body training. Looks like you gained some weight. Was that your aim? I only ask because you were trying to gain weight in the past. I enjoyed the comments about hair on this video.
The point the guy made at 9:04 is EXACTLY WHY people need to wait until the get married to have sex. The dude with the glasses does not realize that he has already set himself up with having elicit sex (in God's eyes) with multiple women. He's opening himself up to all of these "different women" so that if he ever decides to get marriage, he will never be able to just enjoy his wife--it's like a person who starts out smoking weed, sooner or later, they will graduate to crack or some other drug.
If a woman wants to show off her figure thats her right. It does not make her a slut or slutty. Your actions are the determining factor but also a woman does not have to go by what society deems "appropriate".
@taren916 Oh wow I can't believe how rude some of the ppl are on youtube you are a grown women do as u please I hope u aren't allowing ppl's negative comments get to u if u are please don't u looked fine to me
the dude in black, said that sex is an important part of a relationship so abstinence doesnt work etc. to be honest with you yes sex is important, but why use this as an excuse to have sex before marriage, there are many important parts to marriage, sex in reality is only 5 - 10 percent of what makes a marriage tick. i think if the dude isnt in a marriage himself, or doesnt come from a background of what it successful marriages its (i'm not assuming) its pretty pointless to ask about marriage.
I think if the hair looks good on YOU, then rock it. If a guy doesn't like your hair and that makes him stray away, then he simply isn't for you. I've had guys tell me they don't like weave, and in the same breathe tell me they like my hair...lol but they never know if I am or if Im NOT wearing weave. and who is the guy talking loud on the phone in the background?! lmbo
@MysTaria87 right? lol A lot of guys have no real reason as to what they see as hair "do's and don'ts"...women take a lot of time and patience to deal with their hair and find out whats good and not good for it. Some of us find wigs and sew ins as a way of transitioning, adding length, or just to have a different hair style without physically manipulating our own hair.
Okay, dude on the left (black shirt) is a idiot. Taren, I'm going to need you to find a replacement for part two. Just saying. By the way, you looked gorgeous honey.
Not true, I dip my head when people try and reach for my hair or face because I have problems with people touching anything above my neck. I feel like I have to wash or fix my hair or face asap.
Most of us ladies know how important sex is to most men. That being said, the guy on the end told a big fat LIE. He knows good and well, no matter how good the sex is with your current partner, if something new comes along, he will hop on that train, even if it's its once or twice. I didn't enjoy this video. I hope part 2 includes interviews with men who are straight forward and HONEST..On a side note.......I know it's hot Taren, but I agree with covering up the girls!
This was an interesting piece. I can't wait to see more. The guy in the middle with the grey shirt was killing me with his "if she moves it's weave" but, I still liked his two analogies. Good stuff.
They are so shallow. Neither one of them come off as marriage material. And the one on the end knows good and well sex has nothing to do with the reason why men cheat. A woman can have her man screaming from the mountain top BUT let a brand new chick come through and he'll get it if he can. Men don't care about feelings. it's about the chase and something new. That being said, I hope in the future you consider not having half your boobs hanging out. Not a good look.
What it seems like is the men they spoke of are super selfish. Instead of being concerned over their partner's feelings and what not they were more concerned with doing some ol Luke type stuff. They need to grow up a lil bit
Ummm...the one in the black lost me when he went to talking about his friend that waited and then got married and it lasted 3 months because of the sex. I'm going to assume there is more to that story because he made his friend sound real shallow! And nobody talks about God's intentions for us when it comes to that topic. Interesting video, I look forward to part 2.
Ever is a hypocrite you tell your daughter to wait but you can not wait on a girl that is right for you to for sex......sex I just sex not the basis of a relationship!
hey taren, i just wanted to tell u that my mom loves ur videos, she saw me watching ur videos and she was like wow, i like her personality and spirit, you are actually the one who inspired her to continue her natural hair journey, she big chopped 2 months ago.!! ur camera is awesome, it looks like im watching cable, what brand and model is it.
any woman that has sex on the first night is a skank slut hoe, whatever other name there is. this is why hiv/aids, herpes, etc is so rampant in the black community.
Dude in the black keeps talking about the girl not willing to do what her guy wanted and so they divorced, but you should have that conversation before getting married. Just because you abstain from sex while dating, doesn't mean you don't have "the conversations". Having the conversations is a must. It's how you find out if you are compatible or not. Especially is you are deciding to wait.
@trpd123 i completly agree. some ppl put too much religion into it and think that even TALKING about sex is dirty and sinful. u sould never go into any kind of commitment blindly
yoo I wanna hang out with Taren and Mark lol invite me to tea lol
289dancer 6 days ago
...and human communication is about 77% projected through our body language/ actions. So whether two people choose to wait (not have sex) or be physically intimate (get butt ass naked!) the key is that both individuals have to have a mutual connection to grow! As for natural hair and wigs.. each to there own.. if someone loves you then they will see that the topic is trivial and will be more focused on the inner qualities!
enommis100 1 month ago
I think that alot of individuals (both male&female) put alot of emphasis on 'sex' too! A relationship is multi layered and 'I' believe that if two people want to get to know each other and evolve together then 'intimacy' and 'communication' play major roles for success!
enommis100 1 month ago
It as if we've placed so much emphasis on sex in our relationships between male and female that we seem to forget the "relation" part of it all. Let's take sex out of the equation...what happens to the relationship. ... I I'm all about the natural hair :) ... weave, wigs...well there are exceptions I guess...but the more natural the better I think.
PromoSeanTV 1 month ago
Taren pull up your shirt!! lol
x82biancaox 1 month ago
Shoot! I am transitioning to natural and I flinch when people touch my hair! I'm scared because I'm not sure if they will get their hands back. My hair is kinky sometimes!!
XxAmberxCherixX 1 month ago
Thanks for sharing! I'll be buying the book ASAP!
NapsIntertwined 1 month ago in playlist Talking w/ Taren Guy
"Marriage is three years minimum" - where did you get that statistic? My sister got married five years ago after dating, getting engaged and married all in a span of 6 months. And they didn't have their first child until year three and they are very happy together. Basically, don't useless baseless information or references to friends to justify your own desire for sex. Plenty of men wait all over the world - its not rocket science, just takes this thing called DISCIPLINE.
MsHoneysuckle10 2 months ago
I love that you did this video. I like to hear a guys perspective/opinion on different things. And it was interesting to here these two. It's always good to have open healthy discussions like this, it get's everyone thinking. :-)
Nardino88 2 months ago
I love the concept of this vid, but watching it made me upset. It was mostly Ever's talk about sex that bothered me. Asking a man to stay chaste in a monogamous relationship shouldn't be hard. If you don't respect my wishes as your girlfriend, you sure as hell won't respect me as your wife. He's basically saying that if you don't put out in a timely manner you'll be alone your whole life. Sex is spiritual as well as physical. As spouses, you should be willing to make sex wonderful for each other
NaturalLady102190 2 months ago
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LOL@ this ho.. Speaking to folks about virginity? Really!? You have 3 kids by 3 different dudes & been f*ckin since you were a kid. This topic really should’nt being coming out of your mouth. Once again you’re giving advice to young girls when YOUR life dosn’t reflect this “great advice” you tend to spew…. Oh yeah…. Explain this pic OF YOU, from this home video, to your followers => oi41.tinypic(.)com/m8nsj5.jpg
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MissTruthHurts909 3 months ago
HONESTLY, IN MY OPINION IF I DONT CONNECT WITH SOMEONE SEXUALLY, ITS NOT GOING TO WORK
marcie101080 3 months ago
Although I am HELLA late... I LOVE Evers honesty. Gosh, women can be so damn cruel. They both were amazing!!
BlissfulBeauty91 3 months ago
love marks answer about monogamy...
pausemental 3 months ago 3
Please check your friend, Ever. I do not and never have worn a weave or wig, but I do not let people put their hands in my hair all willy nilly. If someone, especially a stranger or someone I don't know well, wants to touch it, they have to ask. If they reach for it I WILL lean away from him or her. I don't let people touch other parts of my anatomy without permission; why should my hair be any different?
babyboom64 4 months ago in playlist Talking w/ Taren Guy 3
I enjoyed their perspective especially Mark's statement like the ocean touching the sand,by the way I really enjoy your channel and the new haircut
QUEENDIVINE0704 4 months ago
Great vid.I'm 24, and still a virgin. I plan to wait until marriage, due to my beliefs.I'm always hearing "wow, that's rare" or "how do you do it?" To me, it's not that hard. I made the decision that I would wait at a very young age, and I've stuck with it. I must admit, I've been single because most guys can't/won't wait, but I believe that when the right guy comes along, he'll cherish my vcard, and wait :-)...and not just for ME, but because he believes it's the right thing to do as well.
dnyknight05 4 months ago 7
LMAO "great wig sense" lol lol love it!
finenfabulouscious 4 months ago 3
i pity the woman who gets stuck with Ever ugh..but mark yes lawd..he seems like a beautiful soul & just mentally stimulating plus he is a cutie lol
PanaR3dd 5 months ago 6
Completely disagree twith him as it relates to being married and sex being bad because that would mean there was no communication as to what she would or would not do. Last but not least waiting means the two have decided to court each other but itf not then their simply dating which for me really means the guy is definitely not worth me giving you something so precious like sex. My opinion my body my worth and spirtuality to my belief. This is why intimacy is missing in many marriages.
sugarbrown4life 5 months ago 2
Okay but people date backwards sex should be after marriage and he said what if he get a girl that dont know what she doin or the other way around you can teach them what you like. And if the girl aint down for certain things, then who cares it shouldnt matter if you really love that person.
SuperNiNiB 5 months ago
I really enjoyed the first segment but was kind of put off by the 2nd half about sex, especially Ever's comments about abstinence & the comments in general about sex on the first night. In my opinion, sex isnt supposed to be a recreational activity loosely perfomed during moments of lust. That mentality is a contributing factor in the high rates of HIV cases, unplanned pregnancies and emotionally unstable individuals that were'nt ready for the emotional changes that follow sex. But great topic!
UntamedTomi 5 months ago 11
@UntamedTomi I totally get what you mean, but I definitely wanted to bring in "real world" questions and for the most part, ppl have casual sex... Some ppl don't... In no way am I condoning irrational sex, but it's OK to talk about it.. But now watching it back, I will definitely put up a disclaimer in the beginning of future videos if there is any content related to sex... I'm glad you enjoyed the segment though :)
taren916 5 months ago 4
I ain't waiting for nothing!!!! Lord Jesus heal his mind!! lol
Nokzima 5 months ago in playlist More videos from taren916 5
Tell that bird whistling to shut up!! LMBO!!
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The guy with the white shirt is so much more mature. sex cannot be the defining factor in a relationship..
minalove27 5 months ago 5
The guy in the white shirt is cute, mature and intelligent.
dallasleo8 6 months ago 3
@dallasleo8 I was thinking the same exact thing. :D
MissBlueMoon 5 months ago
So I had to come back and look at this video again because it's probably one of my favorites for so many reasons. I just noticed. In the intro of the guys Mark is listed as "Comedian"... Ever... has nothing. WHAT does he do?! lol. Love this series. Can't wait to see more. I'd even watch Mark and Ever again because they give me so much material that I could comment on them for days Haha.
YuPiMSPECL 6 months ago
Who is that talking in the background? He sure is loud. LOL.
missnaturalme 6 months ago
Mark is smart the other umm not so much
Roxykell10 6 months ago
so guy in the black shirt...how are we slut and men are thirsy jack rabbits? how does that work..
curlyakambi 6 months ago
MARK... where have u been all my life!!! This guy is so funny!!!... I appreciate the honesty from both men.... One thing: If sex is the defining factor in a relationship then there is a problem, a deeper problem that needs to be addressed!!! Great video!!
annikans1 6 months ago
LMAO @ if she move it's a wig
mayaj291 6 months ago
I appreciate Ever's honesty. I like how Mike thinks.
krystaprice80 6 months ago 3
Omgoodnes... He is an idiot....The guy in the black..
simmysays52 6 months ago 2
looool i laughed so hard about the weave bit, that was mad crazy funny lol
mesince1988 6 months ago
Great show and topic! Mark is cute...he looks a lot like Carmelo Anthony :)
donwana 6 months ago
Hey girl wanted to give my two sense lol. When i met my husband he was the one who actually wanted to wait tell we were married. And it was actually an issue for me and something i had to adjust to and respect. Lol i found myself getting upset with him a few times because i wanted to have sex and he wanted to wait. Then i realized that i had a man who loved me with out a doubt! And loved me without sex ever even playing a factor. And even now that we are married we have an amazing relationship
alaughlin33 6 months ago
Some of y'all are getting too worked up over this. Ever should have worded himself better tho. But still sometimes we'll hear the opinions of others and not like it or agree. I actually read an article that it was true some relationships are strained because of sex. Sex plays a part. As human beings we naturally enjoy sex (so we can have babies) so if you want to have sex but EVERY time you do it's not enjoyable then you'll have problems. That's just the psychology behind it.
IntoTheFrenzy89 6 months ago
thats crazy i never thought i would like this, but i watchd it and i love it
swiftjill11 6 months ago
One thing I don't agree with is that younger women hold off on sex... Girl... Have you ever spent any time around younger women? They are TOO ready to give it up! And it's always to the wrong person. Now older women often are willing to give it up quick because she doesn't feel like wasting TIME. LoL! Plus she's not looking for a "prince" anymore. She gets her nookie and let it go where it will. :) But (some) young girls are WAY easy to talk out of some quick sex.
BlackAngelPlayah 6 months ago
OK.. I watched it and with the exception of SOME parts, it was OK... It was not as pisstivity inducing I thought it would be. :)
Jen
BlackAngelPlayah 6 months ago
@Taren916....I want those earrings girl!!!! LOL!
NaturallyKhenti11 6 months ago
@Leecpc33, I agree with you totally....if sex is that big of an issue then dont be with that person...save the woman the trouble and move on to someone who has "good" sex.
NaturallyKhenti11 6 months ago
look if you married someone cause the sex is good then your marriage was going to fail from the get go. the men you chose to interview are silly and childish a real man has a perspective beyond their own realm of experiences. The guy with the hat has a little more sense, but they both are immature, and my guess is that they both aren't married.
bebegurl31291 6 months ago 4
these guys are a trip!!!!!!!LOL
MsRouge2000 6 months ago
I was having sex before marriage and thought it was great, When I got married I found out the love making was Awesome!!!! and I was with the same man before and after marriage. It is the bond and the holiness of marriage that makes it worth waiting for. I wish my husband was my first. Those who I had sex with before him, in the end, did not deserve it.
orgage 6 months ago 11
Some girls need long hair to cover certain things? What do ugly bald men need???
hwiseman1 6 months ago
lol dude cursing in the backround lol
theeladybug305 6 months ago
Now the way he said the cheating thing probably didnt come out right. Im pretty sure he just meant like sexual acts arent being committed cause the girl didnt want to do them. From my experience of being with my bf for 3 years and what he has told me Ive learned : you have to be on the same page as your man ( same thing as, he has to be on the same page as you). This dude in the blue isnt saying that the women has to do what he wants. hes just saying like if your a freak you'd want a freak.
JazzRockablity 6 months ago
This video is about men. Not about race.
Please, let's keep it nice and friendly!
justamember2 6 months ago
I could tell Ever was damaged in some way like most of us. He needs to let that go and be the nice, sexy guy that he can be. He has potential. Most men now a days want women to conform to what they want. I always say, " If you give the man the trophy before he won it, he won't work that hard for it or not at all". They are not mature enough for me to date but I could hang out with them.
yyyidk 6 months ago 3
I agree with Ever on one thing tho, in marriage you can't not do what the other person wants you to do. COMPROMISE ppl lol, you want the other person to wait, well you better be willing to put out when it comes time! lol
123abcgagaga 6 months ago
the first place and the relationship was built on nothing but lust and not love...
123abcgagaga 6 months ago
Ever would not be saying he doesn't support abstinence if we were talking about his daughter (if he had one)...smh. Abstinence is a beautiful thing people. Don't let people like that fool you. It's not as hard as it looks. If a person can learn to control their desires and exercise self-discipline, it is definitely possible for that person to be abstinent. And if you can be faithful to someone you MARRIED because the sex ain't good, you never loved them in
123abcgagaga 6 months ago
gemini swaggg but i'm one so mark is the move :) balance is what you need in a relationship!
msladybugmecca 6 months ago
omg mike is my type of guy no im not hitting on him but i dig what he says
oshync 6 months ago
@oshync i mean mark lol
oshync 6 months ago
yall over here degrading black men like they r just the worst the point of the matter is THEY ARE MEN and they're suppose to be speaking for the men its not always about race damn grow the fuck up and quit being so shallow... personally i found this very entertaining because its nice to hear how men possibly think
miracia18 6 months ago
this has nothing to do w/this but where did u get those earrings they are HOTT!!
pinkknique 6 months ago
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curlygurl85 6 months ago
I would never even talk to either of these guys in any other matter than 'acquaintance" maybe not even that. because they don't have the love of Christ! NO WAY! If you think that you are worth a woman's body without paying the price of marriage YOU ARE CRAZY i'm done i'm done
VictorynJESUS4 6 months ago
Taren, your awesome, I even love the video on your son. I hope that God continues to bless you and that you find someone who will treat you well.
Klass761 6 months ago
diggin' this series
concedenothing 6 months ago
"sexual compatibility" is a bunch of b.s. take a man and a woman with working parts and sexual attraction bam sexually compatible! Im pretty sure "sexual compatibility" doesn't determine whether or not a one night stand is gonna happen. You can't base sex off of a relationship cause guess what eventually sex with the same person will get boring but if you truly love that person you can make it work through meeting each other's needs and communication!
myssreceb 6 months ago
Taren where did you get your earrings?
LLDBHB 6 months ago
9:07 you should know what you partner likes and dislikes..especially if you are experienced in having sex even if you havent had sexual intercourse with each other and I'm not saying you will not learn about each others afterwards but you need to start somewhere.
KidDNecy 6 months ago
These two guys are "Typical Ghetto Guys" with that Black man mentality. These are the type of Black men that are about "themselves" and focus their time sexing different women withou taking any commitments.
I wish Taren found some successful BM who are married, have a family and love their wives. The Player mentality is to prevelent in the Black community
Klass761 6 months ago
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@Klass761 Preach, these fools were a hot mess " I wish Taren found some successful BM who are married, have a family and love their wives."
couldubeloved1 6 months ago
Whether I agreed or disagreed with either guys response I like the fact that they were honest and didn't try to give these "picture perfect" answers for us viewers. It helps give us as women a better outlook and to recognize that there are men out there with similar views to both. This vid reminds us to be cautious and precise of what we are looking for in a male and also allows us to reflect on how we present ourselves to them. Thanks Taren! This was a great idea
shugalippz 6 months ago 2
@shugalippz OMG!!! You couldn't have said this any better!! 20 thumbs up (if I could LOL!) I'm sick of men who when you ask them what type of women they're attracted to, they say a natural woman w/ no make up.. But when a female passes by w/ weave & make up like Bey or Kim.. They're breaking their necks trying to get her number.. -___- So I always appreciate honesty (whether I agree w/ them or not)..
mimi504 6 months ago 4
@mimi504 True..............I see BM doing that all the time and then when BW are gone they say they don't want any "Nappy Headed Hoes" simpliar to what Imus said. To be honest; Imus got those remarks from Black men. I gree with your remarks; their liars on short hair. Taren is beautiful with short hair or long hair but many BM seem to have problems and say they don't want be with a man if your hair is short!
Klass761 6 months ago
i didnt like ever. i dont like men like him. i will give him a 2nd chance in the next vid.
phreedomphighter 6 months ago
P2, Now with that said, "no waters" are getting tested until their's a ring on my finger with a wedding date. Even with that my celibacy will not get blown to pieces but I would break it to see how sexually compatible my future husband is or isn't.
Icooka4u 6 months ago
Adult Single Mom *shook* into practicing celibacy. 1st & only child in 30's 1 of the most traumatic exp of my life & I NEVER want to repeat it, so I wanted a 100% guarantee not to get pregnant EVER again unless it was by my husband! HOWEVER, as a grown women knowing better, I need to experience my pre-husband sexually to know what I'm working with, because a healthy sex life is equally as important as mental, physical & emotional well being. I will not be married to a sexually unskilled man.P1
Icooka4u 6 months ago
@Icooka4u I don't even date Black men anymore because most of them don't have anything and lots like to "Live off women". I'm currently engaged to a White man. I simply moved on, I was sick of running into the "Promiousious Player Black Man that's broke always coming up with excuses. You won't experience these behaviors from "other men" which have more to offer. If you havenn't looked on the back end of Black men's lives most of them die alone because of how they lived.
Klass761 6 months ago
@Klass761
why are you happy with a white man but still dedicate so much time to bashing black men and broadcasting your IR relationship? I've seen your posts on other videos as well talking about the same stuff. The more people do this, the more their claims of IR dating look suspect. I'm mean no disrespect but you don't come off as someone who's happy.
kuunami 6 months ago
@kuunami. Don't make me laugh! BM tell you they don't want you all the time and don't do a damn thing for you or the children you conceive with them. Their always telling you that WW/other races are better so don't play DUMB! LMAO I guess your offended when a BW says they don't date BM? Why.........MOST BM get on nationall media and say they don't want BW all the time and give their money and time to WW! LMAO Notice now that BW are doing the samethings to BM!
Klass761 6 months ago
@Klass761
What national TV programs have BM been doing this on? Can you give me an example or a link? I'm not "playing dumb", I honestly haven't seen black men doing this on national TV. I doubt that the media would air that anyway. Anyway, all I'm saying is that for a happy person you come off as very bitter. It's the internet so people can only judge your character by what you put out there. I honestly hope that I'm wrong about that and I wish you the best. Good luck and God bless.
kuunami 6 months ago
@kuunami Oh come on now! They do special programs on how BM treat BW and the rift that's going on. CNN did a special on Black community which was spathetic but true. As well as the media, newspapers, Radio, Forums, church.......always talk about Black men horrible stats.
Im simply tellig you that MOST BM on average treat BW with disrespect the same way their used your Mothers, Aunts and Grandmothers! Black men USE MOST BW including yourself!
Klass761 6 months ago
@Klass761
"MOST BM get on nationall media and say they don't want BW all the time and give their money and time to WW! LMAO Notice now that BW are doing the samethings to BM! "
That's the comment that I'm asking about. I can say that I saw space aliens in my backyard but people will expect me to prove it. Give me specific examples these of programs you're talking about where black men say they don't want black women national tv. If I've missed these show's prove me wrong.
kuunami 6 months ago
@kuunami Yes, look at the examples around of most BM. You sounds like some BM who say they don't anything wrong and they don't understand why BW are angry at them! LMAO
Klass761 6 months ago
@kuunami , No I'm not wrong; its just that BM make you look like a fool! Watch Maury, Divorce Court, Read the newspapers, Watch the crime channesl if its back; its mostly Black men!
As I said its not all BM but most BM and i refuse to overlook what they say or do! Too many don't do a damn thing for BW or children or the Black community; the bulk of hte responsbility is left on Black women and chiildren to do alone. Then these "Nigs' have the nerve to demand good women! Kiss my Arse! LMAo
Klass761 6 months ago
@Klass761
You're trying to distract me from my question by turning it into a who's worse than who debate when everyone knows that black women have just as many issues as black men in the black community.
So I'll repeat the question. What national TV shows have black men gone on and said that they don't want black women as you claimed in your original comment? I need specific examples, the name of the shows, links to videos or something that proves this is happening or else it didn't happen!
kuunami 6 months ago
@kuunami, You've never heard a Football star, Rapper or Celbrity say they don't like and don't date BW? Your a liar! One rapper said he doesnt date "Dark Butts"only WW, Football stars that say they don't deal with BW to date or marry and select WW? What about Kenya West, Lil Wayne, Bird Man, Tank and 50 cents? Haven't they all been/are with WW? Yes.........!!!!! Most of them say, "I don't date dark butt or Biggens BW". You see the same drama on talk shows like Maury, Divorce Court, Steve Wilkos
Klass761 6 months ago
@Klass761
I've heard dumbass uneducated black people both men and women say all kinds of stupid stuff in interviews. But I'm not dumb enough to think that rappers, athletes those idiots represent blacks, nor do I let what I see on TV dictate my view on life. That's how racist white people think. I've never seen a group of black men get on a national TV show, especially a respectable show and say that they don't want black women. Never. So like I said, if you've seen it I'd like to see proof.
kuunami 6 months ago
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@kuunami ......................................I'm not wasting my time on Black men!
Here you go: online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424053111903454504576486492588283556.html
Klass761 6 months ago
@kuunami True............Anything other than a BM will do these days. to be honest BM disrespect BW too much so I can't support them like they don't support us! It goes both ways now.
Klass761 6 months ago
Great videos! Both guys had good points of views! But honestly a lot of guys do think the way Ever thinks. I loved Marks response on waiting till marriage..but it is very rare to find a guy that is mature enough to think that way! I pray that God sends me a guy like Mark..matter fact is he available! Hahaha lmbo!
MissLoloy 6 months ago
This is probably just me, but I feel like if you're in a monogamous, relationship, you wait until you're married to have sex, and you don't want t do anything without your husband, there was something missing from that bond in the first place. I think actions in the bedroom display the nature of trust. You're not gonna go all out for someone you question. Plus, even if you're not having sex, u still need to talk about it, what's okay, what's not, what u expect, and want to experience.
OhStMidofnite 6 months ago
lacefronts are disgusting imo esp the ones with the hairline like barbie
monsweet16 6 months ago
The guy in the white shirt is so much more mature than the guy in the black shirt. This is why a lot of black relationships don't flourish, the selfish Black male ego! So what, you've been unresponsively been "having sex"(that's absolutely all you've been doing) all your life, as you say. Where is the maturity of selflessness? Then, at the end of the discussion, he wants to change his tune. Deadbeat Bum!
sal3s3 6 months ago 28
i belive in keeping yourself till u get married, if a man loves u ,he should love u 4 who u r n not cos of sex n should be able to wait unit u guys get married. what if u get infected with HIV or become preganant would he admit dat he is responsible n tk care of u n d baby or he will just denial n run away, this is my personal opinion, LADIES KEEP URSELF 4 UR HUSBAND u dnt hv a man to achieve what u want in life all u need is GOD.
oromaoroma1 7 months ago 4
@Diva4Less eww wackkk. are you fo real? i dont even need to make an educated comment aside from those two statements.
thatsodiesel 7 months ago
Loooove this video lol "If they move, it's a wig!" lol I'm going to laugh about this for the rest of the day.
1234wrwr4 7 months ago
If she moves its a wig..lol
ddavenp1 7 months ago
@Diva4Less dont hate taren boobs looks great!
OfficialDjViper 7 months ago 2
i hate lace fronts too
14CandyLady 7 months ago
and the comment made at the end of video..there isn't a set age where a woman knows who she is.to be honest there are older woman who still don't know who they are. whether a woman choose to have sex on the first date or not is a personal value. hasn't really anything to do with knowing who you are. in my opinion.
loveisbeauty011 7 months ago
spiritual connection is suppose to be the base of any relationship. sex is just a way of expressing that connection.
loveisbeauty011 7 months ago 3
@loveisbeauty011 oh I love this comment. I never thought of that before
jazzybee445 7 months ago
thanks Taren love the guy in the white shirt comment on waiting until marriage because i plan on doing that and I was worried about how a guy would react its good to know that some guys are ok with waiting
jaurre2007 7 months ago 4
Taren you are so prettty i love your earnings :) <3 !!!
marygold50 7 months ago
Great video!
aunaturalebelle 7 months ago
yeah the wigs with the hairline 4:01....it's better when u use your own hairline or make bangs
cedricrlongreen 7 months ago
So if u got married to a girl who didn't have sex with you....but you LOVED her to the point were u 2 got married... y should the sex matter?? If you knew her as a person n u found her attractive... u would leave her if the sex was not up to your standards??
NaturallyDaria 7 months ago
dude in the middle is a good man lol
misscarriebabii 7 months ago 6
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missbigazzbooty 7 months ago
"If you want me not to cheat on you, you're sex has to be great"?? Really? It is not a woman's job to jump through hoops to please a man sexually in order to keep him faithful. If bad sex is a deal breaker and you are not willing to work with her to fix the problem, then just move on. There's no need to cheat and treat someone poorly. Try growing up.
Leecpc33 7 months ago 99
@Leecpc33 he's talking about a WILLING woman. like for a guy like him, if she DOESNT give oral sex bc of her beliefs or whatever the case may be then there are women that are willing to do so. of course he CAN move on and avoid going behind her back to cheat but there r those instances where a guy wants to be faithful but a thirsty female comes along and ruins his intensions. the mind is willing but the flesh is weak. guys r alot weaker than females in sexual situations. Sex IS important to them
melisaj1212 6 months ago
@melisaj1212 I understood what he meant, and I sincerely stand by my original comment. I don't believe there is any excuse for cheating. Regardless of a "thirsty" female. Being a man does not give a person an excuse to cheat because they have a high sex drive. A woman can't ruin his intentions on her own if HE made the selfish choice to cheat. Sex is important to women as well. They don't get a free pass just for having a Y chromosome.
Leecpc33 6 months ago 6
I think a good sex question for them, especially the one in the Yankee cap, would have been, What if your wife becomes incapcitated and can't have sex, would you leave her?
scampbell04 7 months ago 6
they had me cracking up with the wig comment. I agree the lacefronts that looks like caps...completely straight hairline is terrible.
scampbell04 7 months ago
First, LOVED this video Taren! The guys remind me of some of my guy friends. If you wait and get married and find that the man refuses to do certain things you like, there will be issues. What's wrong with a man saying the same? The non-negotiables should be discussed beforehand to avoid the problem altogether. For the immature and un-enlightened, you can be cool with dudes without having slept with them or wanting to sleep with them. Sheesh! Quit assuming nonsense, mmmkay?!
cocofiere 7 months ago
This is a really great video. Love your show!
christylbenford 7 months ago
@curlychristina88 What does that have to do with her being a Mom? What you said was down right disrespectful and childish toward everyone you basically pre-judged. We all have our opinions but it's another thing when you automatically judge someone based on their appearance. Do you KNOW any of these people personally? I'm just saying, if someone made an accusation about you that you know isn't true, how would you feel abou that. I think we should think before we speak..that's what wise people do
7lyrique 7 months ago
People who make stupid ass comments like that are effin haters!!! Go get u sum MFN bizness hater...she looks nice and ur just jealous. U must not have breast or ur insecure in ur own skin. I hate women who always have something negative 2 say.
@Taren, thanks 4 the video luv...good to hear a man's point-of-view on these subjects(:
TheMainSho 7 months ago
Unlike some of the other people commenting...
I actually LOVE BOTH of these guys. Love it or hate it, each of their opinions represent the views of men in our society (in which I'm sure that other men would agree with their views).
-It's nice to hear what men REALLY think and not just what we want them to think.
kkshontane 7 months ago 2
Maybe the reason a woman doesn't want to have sex on the first night is not because she is worried about what the guy will think of her, but its because of how she would view herself. Maybe she holds herself to a higher standard for sharing her body with someone.
vanorris1908 7 months ago 7
To Mark, if a woman is not important enough to you to wait for her or move toward marriage faster, then you're right, you are not the one for her. And yes, sex is important to a marriage-- it is the deepest connection for a man and wife designed by God. But, if ALL you are looking for to fulfill your marriage is sex, which will never be amazing all the time, then you don't understand the true purpose of marriage.
vanorris1908 7 months ago 2
@vanorris1908 I ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH YOU I AM HAPPILY MARRIED TO MY WIFE FOR TEN YEARS NOW. SEX IS IMPORTANT BUT ITS DONT DETERMINE YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER
ailori 7 months ago 2
I'm curious about Ever's opinion that a relationship/marriage would end because the woman isn't willing to do what he needs to have done on the sexual front. Question to him: Does he take the time out to make sure that the woman is getting what she needs sexually? Sexual compatibility is important, but if he thinks that he only needs "to get his" & too bad for the woman if she doesn't get hers, that's lame as hell. & Mark, bless his heart! He was working overtime with his crafted responses. :-D
sadah79 7 months ago
To Ever: relationships/marriages aren't based solely on sex. So if a marriage doesn't work out after a few months, it wasn't just because the woman didn't want to have sex, or didn't agree to do what her husband wanted, there are deeper relationship issues between them. You're not telling the whole story :)
hade1hade 7 months ago
ooo good question with waiting for sex till marriage. I had decided to wait, and then I met my now boyfriend and we've been together for almost a year. Still waiting...I think it's great, it has made us closer. you have to be strong but it is possible and worth it :)
Rebekah7713 7 months ago
The guy in black makes me sad with his views on sex. Everyone's entitled to their opinion. But still it makes me sad.
MsNewNatural11 7 months ago
This is one ignoramous!!!!! This dude needs a strong spiritual mentor....now we see why its sooo necessary for the older to help and mentor the young this dude needs it NOW!!!
MsVintage007 7 months ago
Its truly sad to see the perspective of the dude in black how sad!!! Sex is such a small part of any relationship, the BEST part of any partnership is the powerful,spiritual, physical, emotional bond that is found in each other through Christ who gives us everything was need including great relations (sex) within the marriage. How ignorant and small this person is to think that sex can make or break anything!
MsVintage007 7 months ago 3
I want to know if you're still doing the 6 weeks body training. Looks like you gained some weight. Was that your aim? I only ask because you were trying to gain weight in the past. I enjoyed the comments about hair on this video.
101Corkscrews 7 months ago
The point the guy made at 9:04 is EXACTLY WHY people need to wait until the get married to have sex. The dude with the glasses does not realize that he has already set himself up with having elicit sex (in God's eyes) with multiple women. He's opening himself up to all of these "different women" so that if he ever decides to get marriage, he will never be able to just enjoy his wife--it's like a person who starts out smoking weed, sooner or later, they will graduate to crack or some other drug.
EnChristosEime4life 7 months ago 5
If a woman wants to show off her figure thats her right. It does not make her a slut or slutty. Your actions are the determining factor but also a woman does not have to go by what society deems "appropriate".
BeautybyBianca 7 months ago
hmm who is that guy in the white shirt...he is gorgeous
abbyquaye 7 months ago 2
@Diva4Less It was hot and it was a simple tank.... It was the way I was sitting that made them extra.. Had nothing to do with the men at all...
taren916 7 months ago 45
@taren916 Oh wow I can't believe how rude some of the ppl are on youtube you are a grown women do as u please I hope u aren't allowing ppl's negative comments get to u if u are please don't u looked fine to me
09ashleyb 7 months ago
the dude in black, said that sex is an important part of a relationship so abstinence doesnt work etc. to be honest with you yes sex is important, but why use this as an excuse to have sex before marriage, there are many important parts to marriage, sex in reality is only 5 - 10 percent of what makes a marriage tick. i think if the dude isnt in a marriage himself, or doesnt come from a background of what it successful marriages its (i'm not assuming) its pretty pointless to ask about marriage.
mrsmojet1 7 months ago 3
I think if the hair looks good on YOU, then rock it. If a guy doesn't like your hair and that makes him stray away, then he simply isn't for you. I've had guys tell me they don't like weave, and in the same breathe tell me they like my hair...lol but they never know if I am or if Im NOT wearing weave. and who is the guy talking loud on the phone in the background?! lmbo
onBACKWARDS 7 months ago
a man will live his life getting the same haircut every week--I am still confused as to why we really care how they feel about our hair? lol
onBACKWARDS 7 months ago 8
@onBACKWARDS that's a pretty good point. lol.. it's best to not care what anybody thinks these days... smh.
MysTaria87 7 months ago
@MysTaria87 right? lol A lot of guys have no real reason as to what they see as hair "do's and don'ts"...women take a lot of time and patience to deal with their hair and find out whats good and not good for it. Some of us find wigs and sew ins as a way of transitioning, adding length, or just to have a different hair style without physically manipulating our own hair.
onBACKWARDS 7 months ago
Awesome video.
millionairewebmodel1 7 months ago
i know this is wayy of subject but i loove that beginning beat
TheFashionguru44 7 months ago 2
@TheFashionguru44 RIGHT?! The beat was what grabbed my attention from jump lol
britneynichelle 7 months ago
Okay, dude on the left (black shirt) is a idiot. Taren, I'm going to need you to find a replacement for part two. Just saying. By the way, you looked gorgeous honey.
TrialBlazer2k9 7 months ago 5
Not true, I dip my head when people try and reach for my hair or face because I have problems with people touching anything above my neck. I feel like I have to wash or fix my hair or face asap.
Chynese0010100 7 months ago
Most of us ladies know how important sex is to most men. That being said, the guy on the end told a big fat LIE. He knows good and well, no matter how good the sex is with your current partner, if something new comes along, he will hop on that train, even if it's its once or twice. I didn't enjoy this video. I hope part 2 includes interviews with men who are straight forward and HONEST..On a side note.......I know it's hot Taren, but I agree with covering up the girls!
YouMessinUp 7 months ago 2
This was an interesting piece. I can't wait to see more. The guy in the middle with the grey shirt was killing me with his "if she moves it's weave" but, I still liked his two analogies. Good stuff.
beyoutifulAshley 7 months ago
hey Taren what happened to part 2 of this video?
blenper 7 months ago
They are so shallow. Neither one of them come off as marriage material. And the one on the end knows good and well sex has nothing to do with the reason why men cheat. A woman can have her man screaming from the mountain top BUT let a brand new chick come through and he'll get it if he can. Men don't care about feelings. it's about the chase and something new. That being said, I hope in the future you consider not having half your boobs hanging out. Not a good look.
IamSheLock 7 months ago
What it seems like is the men they spoke of are super selfish. Instead of being concerned over their partner's feelings and what not they were more concerned with doing some ol Luke type stuff. They need to grow up a lil bit
StylezzPetro 7 months ago
Ummm...the one in the black lost me when he went to talking about his friend that waited and then got married and it lasted 3 months because of the sex. I'm going to assume there is more to that story because he made his friend sound real shallow! And nobody talks about God's intentions for us when it comes to that topic. Interesting video, I look forward to part 2.
Niqui36 7 months ago 3
wow..interesting...real stuff...keep em' coming Taren Guy!!!!
trinityizreal 7 months ago
Ever is a hypocrite you tell your daughter to wait but you can not wait on a girl that is right for you to for sex......sex I just sex not the basis of a relationship!
ralicia921 7 months ago 5
I think i know Mark lol..from many moons ago..he just looks older
MixedOreo09 7 months ago
lol at the person in the background talking hahaha!
MixedOreo09 7 months ago
I call them hair hats! And I hate them too.
mxb9083 7 months ago
hey taren, i just wanted to tell u that my mom loves ur videos, she saw me watching ur videos and she was like wow, i like her personality and spirit, you are actually the one who inspired her to continue her natural hair journey, she big chopped 2 months ago.!! ur camera is awesome, it looks like im watching cable, what brand and model is it.
leienabeth630 7 months ago
This was fun :) Part 2 plz? :D
chittybang123 7 months ago
any woman that has sex on the first night is a skank slut hoe, whatever other name there is. this is why hiv/aids, herpes, etc is so rampant in the black community.
AtlantaAngel84 7 months ago
rofl...that dude on the end is so corny...mostly because he doesn't realize it
ihavenotalent 7 months ago 5
@ihavenotalent lol Yessssss!
AshleighPaige11 7 months ago
Dude in the black keeps talking about the girl not willing to do what her guy wanted and so they divorced, but you should have that conversation before getting married. Just because you abstain from sex while dating, doesn't mean you don't have "the conversations". Having the conversations is a must. It's how you find out if you are compatible or not. Especially is you are deciding to wait.
trpd123 7 months ago 9
@trpd123 i completly agree. some ppl put too much religion into it and think that even TALKING about sex is dirty and sinful. u sould never go into any kind of commitment blindly
morgalda 7 months ago
the guy in the black was making me mad lolss great video !!!
100FabuloCity 7 months ago
Ah I love this, I hope you continue to do many more of these..and great panel! (:
KelseyStarTV 7 months ago