My little brother came out to me when he was 12 ( he's 17 now) and He is still not comfortable telling our Parents and I told him, don't tell them if your not ready. Even though our Parents would be so relaxed and cool about it. In time he will tell them but only when he's ready. I shown him this video and he gave you the thumbs up! Thanks for posting
It's not easy, but it is easier today than when I was a teen and later in college. We were all in the closet and terrified to come out. Thank God those days are mostly over.
...doesnt understand it, i seriously gonna slap here in the face to make sure she knows im not joking(i often wonder if she realy understands annything about me and my way of thinking)
i realy wonder how she woud react if i tell here im not looking for a boyfriend and i probably never will because i know im lacking the social skills for that, i (now) kinda dislike most company of other people and i just want to be left alone and most important of all, being alone is not hurting annymore for real
i came out to my dad, and he asked if he coud tell mom
its not realy that they where hating or shit, they love me to death and beyond, but mom told my gay uncle i was gay then next moment we all where at the sam table a few months later
each time this sort of stuff is hapening again, my uncle tells me i shoud go out and shit, and last my mother even told me he asked my email adres
friendly guy, but he seriously shoud stfu and let me live like i want it
My coming out story is a little different. I went and got my nipples pierced. Came home from it and my mum saw them and she just looked at me and said "Your gay aint you?" and I just said "Yeah mum I am hence the nipples". Even though I didn't want to come out then my mum knew that I was gay so I did just come out and luckilly she was O.K with it. Don't come out just because you want to, come out because you feel it is the right time :) Also will you marry me? You are just so hot :)
As far as the "you should come" trope goes, I think it's mostly reserved for adults who are self-suppporting. At least it's been in my experience. And for those people, I would think that the constant self-censoring would take so much effort and inconvenience that comming out would really lift a burden; if it doesn't, I would speculate that there are larger issues of self-acceptance at work. But generally I agree that no one should be outed -- unless teh take publically homophobic positions.
@CLRWATRPRODUCTIONS If that's what floats your boat go right on ahead doing it, personally I don't like surrounding myself with lies. I find it's easier to live with myself by being open and honest with everyone.
Hey i agree 100% on the subject. it takes time to come out but I have came across this vid and wondered what you would think.. Personally I understand his intension but he has to really understand the process more... well thats just me....
I was forced out by my sister becuz she found out I kissed a guy. She gave me the ultimatum, "you tell mom and dad or I will" and I ended up telling them. It was the worst feeling in the world. I mean, life is pretty good now, my friends accept my sexuality and I'm trying to show my friends that not all gays are the stereotypical sassy "bitch"-let's go shopping kinda guys. But when I first came out, I wasn't ready. Most people think coming out is so easy, you just tell them your gay. it's a lot
also if you sit and talk to a member of the older generation of what they had to go through when they were younger and dealing with who they are they can tell you stories that would shock the hell out of you.i know someone who came out in those days who was told if they didnt change who they were that god would kill them.that being gay was a sin punishable by death.that scared alot of people back then to stay in the closet
while i do agree that coming out and accepting yourself for who you are is a great feeling also remember that the older generation chooses to wait till later in life to come out because they were raised in an enviroment where being gay or lesbian was considered a sin.my mother when i was growing up used to tell me that being gay was a sin.families disowned thier loved ones that came out.it is easier for the younger generation these days cause being gay,lesbianis alot more acceptable.
I could not agree more with you on this subject. For a lot of people coming out is tramatic. It can be difficult enough to accept who you are without having to do what is right for "the cause". If a person is "forced" out it could hurt them on many levels and I don't see how that would help anyone's cause.
The thing with the coming out whole thing, is how practical it makes your life at the end of the day. People in the closet will find so many problems through their life It will be annoying (the less) or nervecracking (the most) So I believe coming out is the healthiest option, of course once you feel the appropriate moment have come.
i got forced out because of my buddy's GF thought that i needed to. She told the whole school...this was freshman year and i still get mesed with. other than that great video and you should HMU
Your comments are spot on. I know when I came out I thought it was going to improve my sex life and other people will just have to deal with it. It doesnt work that way. U have to deal with it more than anyone else. If you think its stylish or socially acceptable now to come out you've missed the point. It's a "now what" moment. Guess what u have to fill in the blanks all by yourself. I'm not saying not to but I agree with you think about how you will fit into the new world. Bill
thought i would revisit this vid, cuz ive been in arguments / discussions / debates about this lately. Coming out (& to who) is a deeply personal decision that should not be pushed in any way. Sometimes i see young (just out) guys pushing it on their vids, not realizing for some it makes others feel pressured. There is no excuse for outting anyone UNLESS they are religious republicans hellbent to destroy the gay community & all the advancements we fight so hard for...
keeping your sexual orientation a secret is best if you don't want to be kicked out of your house because you know you parents don't want you to come out to them? I think this is what you said......
If people don't want to come out, they shouldn't ever be in a relationship then. You don't need to announce it to people on the street, but you need to be comfortable just being yourself with your partner and when you're closeted you can't. It's extremely unfair. You have to watch what you do and say when you do things that normal couples do. You have t distance yourself if a co-worker spots the closeted partner.
You can't even send holidays with family and your partner. It's stupid.
It is no one's business to speculate about another's orientation, let alone when and or to whom another should tell. It is a private matter until one chooses to make it public. whether coming out serves a 'social good'.is not the question. The question is whether one is able to do more harm to others living the presumptive lie. Unabashed public homophobes have no right to protection from truthful allegations..
Wow, comparing apples and oranges --- whether an adult who should be able to handle his own life should come out, versus a teenager coming out. Of course teens need to choose their timing. Adults, too, to some extent, unless they're using the closet to hurt other gay people. Then THEY need to be exposed, so lose their power to hurt. Otherwise, ya, an individual decision.
The gay community is like any other community and it can often self empower itself.
Personally, I believe that one should live for him or herself first. It's your life, not anybody else's. Live your life for yourself.
If a society, religion, culture, person, or anyone or anything tries to pressure you, then they are attempting to take your power out of your own life. They can only do that if you let them.
What this world tells you from the get go, is that you're not in control of y
My advice, don't come out just for the sake of coming out. Coming out shouldn't be a part of the process of "accepting yourself for who you are" — it's only sharing another part of who you are with somebody you're already comfortable with. Don't do so if it's going to put you at risk of physical harm and don't expect an immediate acceptance. Remember, it took you a while to come to terms with who you are; give others the same opportunity to process your being gay. Yes, a weight will be lifted!
Just don't be 26 and not know how to come out and feel cornered and that there's no way "out" I would like to come out but I have no way of being depended on my-self. I truly feel cornered. It sucks.....
You're really smart. You act all mailbox-y on AGAD, but you're pretty smart and have well-thought out opinions when you choose to express them. And when you do express them, it's always in an intelligent, respectful manner. Make more personal channel videos :)
I agree. For some, coming to terms with his or her homosexuality is overwhelming. Someone can "come out" whenever he or she is ready to do so. On the other hand, some closet case who is actively working against the gay community and our equal rights is a completely different issue. For those, show no mercy.
i understand and agree with what you are saying, but take in mind that if people dont come out then the world will never realize that we are normal people, and even if people reject you who cares? its better to bet yourself and have true friends that love you no matter what
... now coming out to your parents is a different thing, because you actually depend on them
Why is Justin Bieber hated? Because he's suspected of being Gay. Is he? Maybe. I hope, for his sake, he isn't. If he is, he will have a sad life, despite riches. I could have faked straightness. But, I felt it wasn't worth using a girl that way. I went out with girls in the closet, and hated every minute of it.
No one should come out unless protected. We don't diss Anne Frank for hiding for 3 years, and most wish she stayed longer. Well, for some kids, coming out is just as dangerous. People still get killed for being Gay. And, like Nazi's, some straights hunt down and attack Gays. When there is no official help, as is the case some places, Better to live and fight another day. We are greatly outnumbered. Our enemies our well financed, organized, numerous, viscious, ruthless, and desperate.
@BranWilder. GROW THE FUCK UP YOU STUPID DUMB ASS CUNT BITCH TALKING SHIT ON THE COMPUTER, BEING A LITTLE PUCCI ASS HOMOPHOBE YOU SEARCHED FOR SOMETHING GAY AND YOU GOT IT SO SHUT THE FUCK UP SIT YOUR UGLY ASS DOWN AND WATCH THE MOTHER FUCKING VIDEO YOU STUPID ASS DOUCHEBAG!
Yep, had many question me on my channel but who knows what their intentions are along with my growing car channel which I know many of the subscribers are phobies & so I pretty much keep zipped about it there. Off Youtube, Im in a situation where those who are important to me aren't yet ready handle it, only told my Mom & a few select friends earlier this year. Lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. Im slowly progressing with it until it hopefully becomes more obvious to those I havent told.
I disagree. Visability is what the homophobes fear most. With it, their eventually dead. Without it, we're dead. We need as much visability as we can get. We need it from everyday LGBTs just as much as we need it form celebrities and TV shows and Movies. If you're over 18 and and are able to financially support yourself (i.e: Houseing, Food, etc) then it's almost your duty to comeout.
I totally believe in outing people who are in the public and who do things that perpetuate the negative stereotypes of homosexual people (i.e. politicians who vote against bills that give us equal rights yet take it up the chuff on weekend getaways)
fuck that
not saying rick welts was of that ilk - just saying there are times when i support outing people
also, there is nothing wrong with being queer, so we should not encourage anyone to be ashamed of who they are
Your view is probably one of the smarter ones I've heard. I waited for years, but when I did start telling people, I started feeling a lot safer. Now I joke about it with my brother and his girlfriend on a daily basis. It's just nice having supportive people. If you don't have that environment, you may just want to wait.
Good Views.... I came out late and I felt it was the right time for me and the people around me. I was very nervous, but actually not one person has changed their attitude towards me, in fact I have become closer to a lot of people in my life.
I think that people should eventually come out for their own well-being. I agree that when someone is younger and still living with marginalizing parents, it might not be the time. But from a personal, psychological standpoint, I think it's good for to be honest with themselves. Many times, these people don't realize just how much better they'll feel, so they may say they're happier staying in the closet. It's a difficult situation, but I believe, when it's safe, people are better off out.
Brandon..your posting here about people who are "forced out" before they are ready. The thing I think your missing is that simply you are too young to know what it used be like for all Gay people, I am 33 and I have some clue, but even older people lived the history that we were ignored, discounted, and generally disregarded until AIDS got us angry in the 80s and made us stand up and come out or we knew we would all just die. People were dropping and we needed to show our numbers then & NOW
i think the point you are really trying to make at the end there is dont come out if it will hurt you, much better wording than if it will help you. and i totally agree, if coming out hurts a person ie parents still pay for everything because you r in school and they r bible thumping evangelicals that have said gays will burn and should be stoned (they have made it clear not down with the gay even alittle) it would be irresponsible to come out to them well anyway great vid good points
I agree. Social & political movements are there to improve lives demanding civil rights or human rights. Putting pressure on people to do something they are not ready to do yet, public or private, seems to me to be contrary to the purpose in the first place. These movements are worthy but they are not the reason I was born. Telling people how they should live their lives is what we are fighting against is it not? Don't put the horse before the cart as the saying goes.
i came out recently like 2 months ago to everyone. i am 13 which is pretty young. but it did make me feel a lot better and comfortable. my friends are very nice to me about it. i thought it was going to be a dramatic turn in my life. and it was.... a good turn. i am glad i did(;
Excellent points! Very insightful. I used to feel a bit bitter toward the other gay guys in my school because I was the ONLY out guy in the entire school, which sucked. Yeah, maybe it would've been a lot easier to deal with if I'd had uncloseted gay friends, but how can I know what the consequences would have been for those guys? Maybe it would've made family life a living hell, or worse—they could've been disowned and kicked out on the street. It's not my place to choose the right time for them
Coming out no matter what day and age we are in does have its risks. It isn't easy and you should be prepared for some friends and family to have a negative reaction. If and when you come out make sure you have the inner strength to deal with both the positive and negative response. I didin't find it easy and still don't 20+ years later. Don't force yourself to come out do what you need to do to be a healthy and happy person. For me coming out was the best thing.
the only betrayers are people like Ken Mehlman and other closeted individuals who use their positions to actually betray us by writing, voting or enacting legislation that denies, restricts and/or strips us of our equal rights. i have no problem as to when, where or how they come out, but I can not forgive someone who tries to throw others of the scent by turning against their own.
Interesting point. Meanwhile, I've noticed something. I have looked at a lot of coming out stories on Youtube. And I see a HUGE gender divide. Almost every girl/woman seems to have come out at a very early age: many at 12/13 - some even refer to elementary school. And the process sounds upbeat, positive. Boys/men, however, make very different videos. Most seem to have been considerably older when they came out. Many report problems, fears, dangers. And some are out only to a few people.
@jarabaa Coming out of the closet is a dangerous thing for young men to do in America, and there is a very decisive disparity between a guy coming out in the US and a guy coming out in Europe, for instance. Sadly, it is not terribly unusual for young men to have to "prove" their sexuality in high school these days before he is let off the proverbial hook by his peers. It is a multifaceted issue to be sure, but the main constituent contributing to the disparity is the sexual repression that...
...has been ever-present in this country. Americans have been so ensconced in the desire to know what their neighbors are doing in their bedroom that sexual identity has become as much of an issue amongst heterosexuals as it is an issue for homosexuals. My preceding generation was raised in an America where any talk of sex was taboo and completely off the radar. The generation I was born into has been quite a bit more liberal in this respect, but sexuality was still very rocky ground...
...when it came to talking about it, dealing with it, and reconciling it with sociogenic standards. Now that I am in my early thirties, when I was teaching, my students (and indeed the overwhelming majority of youth in America) were bombarded with sex from every source in their lives, from movie and magazines to television and the Internet. The US is slowly coming out of its repressed shell, and it is young men like Brandon who should be applauded for their efforts to remove the stigma, or at...
...least mitigate it to a level where kids are feeling more comfortable (and safe) to be who and what they are. There has been great progress made in the US, but much remains to be done. As an ally of the LGBT community, it is exceedingly difficult for me to watch some of the other popular gay YouTubers who have no interest in addressing the fundamentals behind what it is to come out, so instead they ACT out. Their fan base is not comprised of as many gays as it is of passersby hoping to spy...
...a little activity coming from gay dudes (and they are overwhelmingly male) who have seen fit to throw the premise of responsible accountability out the window as long as they can get a rise out of people, for whatever reason. The problem with this is that it gives rise to the development of what we all recognize in this country as the typical stereotypes associated with gay men, and while I suspect they do not care, these gay men are serving to set the whole community back with their antics.
This is the sole reason behind why I support responsible young gay men like Brandon and absolutely abhor his counterparts who would rather make a scene than further the premise of inclusion and acceptance of the gay community in this country. It would be hella easy for me to list names of gay YouTubers who I just wish would shut down their channels, but I imagine people can decide for themselves if it means anything to them. Fear is bred from ignorance, and ignorance is fueled by abject...
...endorsement of the very behavior that leads to the stereotypical standards that are so prevalent in the minds of all Americans. Comments like "Brandon doesn't ACT very gay" or "[blank] is so gay" are the kinds of remarks that just perpetuate a problem that is easily solved by becoming informed and doing a little thinking over taking in the rubbish that is so frequently peddled through mediums like YT. Kids are still being dumped by their families for coming out, so I understand the fear;...
...however, that fear is amplified tenfold by the negative messages coming from those gay men and women who purport to have the best interests of the gay community at heart, but demonstrate through their words and actions the exact opposite, and I have no patience for that shit. Nor should the gay community, but is allowed to let slide for whatever reason. I have always been a proponent for acceptance and inclusion. I have no time for tolerance; tolerance is for cowards of heart and mind,...
...and can quickly change to resentment and hatred if the fair-weather nature of tolerance is not kept up nice and pretty. If one cannot accept and include another person for whom and what he or she is all about, then it is a reflection on the people spouting how tolerant they are, not on those people looking for acceptance and inclusion. I accept, include, and love my sister who happens to be a lesbian. I can tolerate rap music in small doses, but I will talk shit about it if asked. Full stop.
@MageSutek ... I see... My point was about the way in which coming-out experiences seem to vary according to gender: males report a lot of suffering, ambivalence, and threat; but women's videos are very upbeat by comparison. Meanwhile, I haven't encountered the gay men on Youtube whom you "abhor" who "make a scene" and whose YT channels you would "shut down". I've watched many coming-out and "it gets better" videos made by young men and boys and I've been impressed by their powerful testimony.
@jarabaa I would agree that there is a disparity between the coming out of men and the coming out of women, but that should not be a big surprise. There is a gender disparity in most aspects of life, from the role of parenting and the stay-at-home dads to the "all-American-woman" and her metrosexual subordinates. Why should coming out be any different in our society? If there were not a gender disparity, I fear the social climate would descend into anarchy. As far as the gay men on YouTube...
...that I have come to "abhor" because of their predilection for making scenes rather than sending wholesome messages, perhaps you have not come across the people to whom I refer because you are not looking. Alternatively, maybe you have a higher degree of tolerance for the behavior exhibited by some of the people of whom I write. It is entirely probable that I am referencing people of whom you have no knowledge, for whatever reason. Unless I sit and list them by name, which I shall not be...
...doing for various reasons, I fear we might be at an impasse. If you are interested and diligent in your search for gay YouTubers, I am sure you will come across a few that will rub you the wrong way. Who knows? But since you mentioned the coming out videos and the "It Gets Better" videos (a campaign I spearheaded and funded in the form of a local chapter in my residential district), I agree that they do indeed represent impressive and powerful testimonies. DADT was repealed today. Good times!
Coming out too early could also cause you to mislabel yourself. I came out in middle school and was fighting with my sexuality. I was going back and forth from bi and gay. It was hard because I wanted to be normal, fit in, and not get made fun of. But today, I'm glad to be out.
I'm not even 100% comfortable with the way people refer to gay people as the "gay community", it sounds very us-and-them to me. If you're gay, even if all your friends are gay you still walk amongst the masses of diverse groups. Two people being gay could have incredibly different experiences and different perspectives and where one person could come out rather easily, another might not have the chance. So whenever "the gay community" makes a unanimous statement, I'm always suspicious.
I want to come out so bad, but where I'M from... people judge and they are harsh. How do I come out to all these people who have so many expectations of me. I feel like I'm missing out on so many things. How do you face people who you know will recent you for it?
@logimage2 make sure that you have a safety net just in case when you come out things will turn bad, but most probably things will be very positive. probably those people who you think that won't accept you, will accept you and thing will get much better then you thinking. believe me. I've been in that situation once. now i am a very happy person. gdluck mate xx
You're absolutely right, it's all about timing. No 2 cases can be compared, we are all in different situations. I never understood this "out and proud", not so proud if you end up living on the streets! Each individual should use wisdom concerning their own situation.
I'm right now on the process of "coming out little by little", and I think like some people who have given their opinions here: I don't need to tell everybody I'm gay, cuz I wanna prevent bad consecuences due to the society I live in (Chile). What has made me happy is that some friends and sister, whom I've told the truth, have taken it on very well. I knew they were going to react like that, that's why I did it. Now there are just few important people who must know it, like my mom,
I totally agree. Some people really don't want to come out in the traditional way. My view has always been, straight people don't have to tell everyone they are straight, why should I tell people I am gay. I told those who need to know and anyone else can just find out in other ways, I don't hide it, but I don't announce it to everyone.
I agree, I'd never force someone to come out. It's all about when you feel ready and it's great that nowadays people can come out so young but not everyone is in an environment where that's practical. I even had a straight guy ask me if I wish I came out sooner and I was just like "I came out at 15/16 how much sooner did you want me to do it?"
Well im 14 and ive only came out to 1 person . Shes my bestfriend and I trust her sooo much. And I think later on ill get to the point of telling everyone but for now I think ill wait a little while ;)
It really bothers me that gay people have to "come out" as gay, but that straight people don't have to "come out" as straight. I wish people wouldn't make assumptions about sexuality and I wish that people didn't make such a big deal out of it. It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight. All that being said, we live in a society where most people do assume that everyone is straight until they say otherwise and I think that people should only come out when they feel comfortable enough to do so.
but what about he Prejudgment of others at the later time. IE: like U came out to others and now the ppl that you knew are angry at u cuz they fee betrayed. cuz you liied to them all that time.
You have to wait until you feel it's right.Younger gay people today forget that we live in a more tolerating society than,say,10 years ago,so just picture what it must have been like 40 years ago.----------So what I'm saying is it is much easier today for people to come out and thinking about how hard it was for people in the past,should make it easier.
Nice video. I agree 100%. I came out late in life (33) because that's when it made sense for ME. Could I have done it earlier? Maybe. But it wasn't a mistake to wait until I was ready and felt like it was my time. Wait for your time, too.
And to @whosaysBrad - people who think they don't know anyone who's gay are wrong. Everyone knows someone who is gay.
@Wyat5150 what u said made me cry cuz it's the same thing with me. I wished that I wouldn't disgust my friends cuz I'm gay or embarrass them cuz I'm gay or not like me cuz I'm gay. And not accept me. Or disappoint my parents there is just too many homophobes around me and I'm
Scared to come out cuz I'm going to loose friendships with people I love. And I don't want any one talking behind my back and talking crap. It's tuff bought I guess we have to do it someday like my moms says the truth alwa
also if you feel it's not safe to come out, then you shouldnt. the younger you are the more you should think about coming out, and what it could be like for you after you do. I have seen too many kids who are totally unprepared for the reactions they get from ppl they fully expected to support them. Yes, these days ppl are more open to it, but you cant depend on that. Make sure you have another place to stay if things go really south, be positive, but also be prepared for the worst. 1 LIFE
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Because the Gay Rights Movement mostly on the heels of Harvey Milk proved to be true, we have to be Out for it to go forward. No one should be forced out though. (FYI, I am only 27 so it's not a "oh I remember when moment") Also, it's because of those who started taking that advice to come out early, allowed you and I to come out earlier than it used to be.
Good measured advice. BTW, Brandon, like the soft blue background on your vids. Are you actually green-screening your image onto it? Or, are you really videoing in front of a blue wall?
i came out when i was 16, felt great and I felt like i was "free" lol but here recently it seems like the gay community is getting hated on more than it used to, which is putting stress on the people who want to come out. so idk im glad i came out. i just ignore the ignorant tards and keep on swimming :] lololol
I didn't come out of the closet, the closet was ripped down from around me so my sentiments on the matter are to each his own, if you want to wait until you're 60 to come out more power to you. Nowadays I don't have come out I simply exist and let the world come to their own conclusions.
In my personal opinion the "gay community" is one big sham. I've tried to get to know this supposed community and all I've encountered is vapid, selfish, conceited, and even sometimes racist SoB's who think they are the shit. Just a bunch of hive-minded queens who have nothing better to do than tear people down and be whores.
not for me my family are homophobes
samgregson3121 18 hours ago
My little brother came out to me when he was 12 ( he's 17 now) and He is still not comfortable telling our Parents and I told him, don't tell them if your not ready. Even though our Parents would be so relaxed and cool about it. In time he will tell them but only when he's ready. I shown him this video and he gave you the thumbs up! Thanks for posting
dragonfirefoxx 1 day ago
Love it. I hate when people forced other people to come out... I should know; I was 1 of the victims. It sucks & I'm still angry.
VincentJTran 1 day ago
It's not going to feel more comfortable....it really isn't supposed to but once you do it....well, it changes your life.
legendarysim 1 day ago
It's not easy, but it is easier today than when I was a teen and later in college. We were all in the closet and terrified to come out. Thank God those days are mostly over.
CarlosFinch 1 day ago
Thank you for posting this video, very true. By the way you are pretty attractive
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...doesnt understand it, i seriously gonna slap here in the face to make sure she knows im not joking(i often wonder if she realy understands annything about me and my way of thinking)
i realy wonder how she woud react if i tell here im not looking for a boyfriend and i probably never will because i know im lacking the social skills for that, i (now) kinda dislike most company of other people and i just want to be left alone and most important of all, being alone is not hurting annymore for real
13thmistral 1 week ago
, spending time on pc verry much, and walk in the weekend and vacation 10-18km distances
sorry if its not dramathic enough and shit compared to most stories, but i realy wished i never did came out
i mean, i shoud have known better
a coming out woud never make me sudenly more social, and mother likes talking about sertain shit often to much
kind mother, but holly fuck, if she makes a mistake like that again or she is talking shit about why i dislike what she did and she just...
13thmistral 1 week ago
i came out to my dad, and he asked if he coud tell mom
its not realy that they where hating or shit, they love me to death and beyond, but mom told my gay uncle i was gay then next moment we all where at the sam table a few months later
each time this sort of stuff is hapening again, my uncle tells me i shoud go out and shit, and last my mother even told me he asked my email adres
friendly guy, but he seriously shoud stfu and let me live like i want it
associal, non outgoeing, playing on ps3,...
13thmistral 1 week ago
My coming out story is a little different. I went and got my nipples pierced. Came home from it and my mum saw them and she just looked at me and said "Your gay aint you?" and I just said "Yeah mum I am hence the nipples". Even though I didn't want to come out then my mum knew that I was gay so I did just come out and luckilly she was O.K with it. Don't come out just because you want to, come out because you feel it is the right time :) Also will you marry me? You are just so hot :)
ricardopiskorz 1 week ago
My god, will you marry me?
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As far as the "you should come" trope goes, I think it's mostly reserved for adults who are self-suppporting. At least it's been in my experience. And for those people, I would think that the constant self-censoring would take so much effort and inconvenience that comming out would really lift a burden; if it doesn't, I would speculate that there are larger issues of self-acceptance at work. But generally I agree that no one should be outed -- unless teh take publically homophobic positions.
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The impetus is on those of us who can come out to come out and change society so that there will be fewer people who can not safely be themselves.
SpeedyBruin 2 weeks ago
You're related to Archmc2012, I can tell in your voice and face.
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I totally agree with you.
sitges39 1 month ago
wanna fuck?
taylor420nielsen 1 month ago
Very clever advice all thru and true. You are a wise young man.
antonio01lima 1 month ago
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CLRWATRPRODUCTIONS 1 month ago
@CLRWATRPRODUCTIONS Do you really want to surround yourself by biggots?
juushy 4 weeks ago
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CLRWATRPRODUCTIONS 4 weeks ago
@CLRWATRPRODUCTIONS If that's what floats your boat go right on ahead doing it, personally I don't like surrounding myself with lies. I find it's easier to live with myself by being open and honest with everyone.
juushy 3 weeks ago
@CLRWATRPRODUCTIONS Honestly, I don't give a shit lol I was just asking a simple question.
juushy 3 weeks ago
Dude...your really hot. Too bad your gay:(
Anyway, I agree with you 100% on the subject. Good job
sad19977 1 month ago
Hey i agree 100% on the subject. it takes time to come out but I have came across this vid and wondered what you would think.. Personally I understand his intension but he has to really understand the process more... well thats just me....
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Stylah3001 1 month ago
I was forced out by my sister becuz she found out I kissed a guy. She gave me the ultimatum, "you tell mom and dad or I will" and I ended up telling them. It was the worst feeling in the world. I mean, life is pretty good now, my friends accept my sexuality and I'm trying to show my friends that not all gays are the stereotypical sassy "bitch"-let's go shopping kinda guys. But when I first came out, I wasn't ready. Most people think coming out is so easy, you just tell them your gay. it's a lot
TheJimJamJamie 1 month ago
also if you sit and talk to a member of the older generation of what they had to go through when they were younger and dealing with who they are they can tell you stories that would shock the hell out of you.i know someone who came out in those days who was told if they didnt change who they were that god would kill them.that being gay was a sin punishable by death.that scared alot of people back then to stay in the closet
stacyinsane 1 month ago
while i do agree that coming out and accepting yourself for who you are is a great feeling also remember that the older generation chooses to wait till later in life to come out because they were raised in an enviroment where being gay or lesbian was considered a sin.my mother when i was growing up used to tell me that being gay was a sin.families disowned thier loved ones that came out.it is easier for the younger generation these days cause being gay,lesbianis alot more acceptable.
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stacyinsane 1 month ago
Dude, you're WAAAYYY beyond hot!!!!
crazy8100 1 month ago
I could not agree more with you on this subject. For a lot of people coming out is tramatic. It can be difficult enough to accept who you are without having to do what is right for "the cause". If a person is "forced" out it could hurt them on many levels and I don't see how that would help anyone's cause.
beefree2003 1 month ago
you are an ideal boyfriend to be... ;)
djkulit02ryanvin 1 month ago
I hear what your saying, but all I can think is, "God your cute."
Hitman5464 1 month ago 56
@Hitman5464 Same here, but with better spelling. ;p
geerttgh 2 weeks ago
The thing with the coming out whole thing, is how practical it makes your life at the end of the day. People in the closet will find so many problems through their life It will be annoying (the less) or nervecracking (the most) So I believe coming out is the healthiest option, of course once you feel the appropriate moment have come.
xkyousukex 1 month ago
You sound so mature ! Haha I love watching this but it's still soo hard. :(
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Yewon2001 1 month ago
Yess!!! Omg I have to add you on FB ^-^
SuperGagamonster 1 month ago
i agree with you. funny about the3 staying in school though. fuck no :P
keg10609 1 month ago
You're a bright kid. You are way ahead of some adults on this. I agree with you. Well done.
TheAmazingWatsoni 1 month ago 13
Oh so true!
chaucer555 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
i got forced out because of my buddy's GF thought that i needed to. She told the whole school...this was freshman year and i still get mesed with. other than that great video and you should HMU
instantRegicide 2 months ago
Your comments are spot on. I know when I came out I thought it was going to improve my sex life and other people will just have to deal with it. It doesnt work that way. U have to deal with it more than anyone else. If you think its stylish or socially acceptable now to come out you've missed the point. It's a "now what" moment. Guess what u have to fill in the blanks all by yourself. I'm not saying not to but I agree with you think about how you will fit into the new world. Bill
BillyboyCowboy3 2 months ago
Religion likes to condemn people for doing others in the ass. I'd like to condemn it for doing society's intelligence in the ass.
Yeah, I went there...
SSJkiller 2 months ago
thought i would revisit this vid, cuz ive been in arguments / discussions / debates about this lately. Coming out (& to who) is a deeply personal decision that should not be pushed in any way. Sometimes i see young (just out) guys pushing it on their vids, not realizing for some it makes others feel pressured. There is no excuse for outting anyone UNLESS they are religious republicans hellbent to destroy the gay community & all the advancements we fight so hard for...
sleekcartim 2 months ago
Brandon for president!
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karezza6 2 months ago
keeping your sexual orientation a secret is best if you don't want to be kicked out of your house because you know you parents don't want you to come out to them? I think this is what you said......
9erjoeclo 2 months ago
I came out last year. Ur hot
tpatt1996 2 months ago
@tpatt1996 me too... he is hot i was like dayum haha
aslfreek01 2 months ago
I have to say, smart talking!!! also i have to say that u're one of the rarest beautiful things.
pnovevski 2 months ago
I kinda forced myself out.... coming out late at 43. The older the harder.
velezan2010 2 months ago
Wether you're bie or straight or gay, you'd get ANY person you want! SEXY
breezytrees4443 2 months ago
If people don't want to come out, they shouldn't ever be in a relationship then. You don't need to announce it to people on the street, but you need to be comfortable just being yourself with your partner and when you're closeted you can't. It's extremely unfair. You have to watch what you do and say when you do things that normal couples do. You have t distance yourself if a co-worker spots the closeted partner.
You can't even send holidays with family and your partner. It's stupid.
elvickRULES 2 months ago
Im completly in lve with what you say and you,re beauty;)
jujogus 2 months ago
Personally, I need it up the axx, any takers?
bobbyknight1970 2 months ago
It is no one's business to speculate about another's orientation, let alone when and or to whom another should tell. It is a private matter until one chooses to make it public. whether coming out serves a 'social good'.is not the question. The question is whether one is able to do more harm to others living the presumptive lie. Unabashed public homophobes have no right to protection from truthful allegations..
BTURNER1961 2 months ago
Wow, comparing apples and oranges --- whether an adult who should be able to handle his own life should come out, versus a teenager coming out. Of course teens need to choose their timing. Adults, too, to some extent, unless they're using the closet to hurt other gay people. Then THEY need to be exposed, so lose their power to hurt. Otherwise, ya, an individual decision.
olyguy2000 2 months ago
In the weird/gay part of youtube going back to home page...................
thatguru877 2 months ago
OMG you're so cute :)
PepitaK 2 months ago
Dang, I wrote too much, don't think it posted it all. Anyway, I agree!
TheArkaven 2 months ago
I agree,
The gay community is like any other community and it can often self empower itself.
Personally, I believe that one should live for him or herself first. It's your life, not anybody else's. Live your life for yourself.
If a society, religion, culture, person, or anyone or anything tries to pressure you, then they are attempting to take your power out of your own life. They can only do that if you let them.
What this world tells you from the get go, is that you're not in control of y
TheArkaven 2 months ago
Agreed ^^
JaggLion 2 months ago
My advice, don't come out just for the sake of coming out. Coming out shouldn't be a part of the process of "accepting yourself for who you are" — it's only sharing another part of who you are with somebody you're already comfortable with. Don't do so if it's going to put you at risk of physical harm and don't expect an immediate acceptance. Remember, it took you a while to come to terms with who you are; give others the same opportunity to process your being gay. Yes, a weight will be lifted!
n1spirit 2 months ago
the awkward moment when "this video is most popular with Male 45-54".. yikes!
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Dear god please don't be gay ur so cute
hanny96kitty 2 months ago
You=Justin Bieber+a sexy voice.
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DontBeABadLock 3 months ago
Your so cute!
lisamjfan92 3 months ago
i was curious are you and alec together :)
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gayandpeace 3 months ago
so much respect for you.
lifesaDORAble 3 months ago
Just don't be 26 and not know how to come out and feel cornered and that there's no way "out" I would like to come out but I have no way of being depended on my-self. I truly feel cornered. It sucks.....
ThePY74656 3 months ago
You're really smart. You act all mailbox-y on AGAD, but you're pretty smart and have well-thought out opinions when you choose to express them. And when you do express them, it's always in an intelligent, respectful manner. Make more personal channel videos :)
MzCheshireKat 3 months ago
I agree. For some, coming to terms with his or her homosexuality is overwhelming. Someone can "come out" whenever he or she is ready to do so. On the other hand, some closet case who is actively working against the gay community and our equal rights is a completely different issue. For those, show no mercy.
ev0lv3n0w 3 months ago
i understand and agree with what you are saying, but take in mind that if people dont come out then the world will never realize that we are normal people, and even if people reject you who cares? its better to bet yourself and have true friends that love you no matter what
... now coming out to your parents is a different thing, because you actually depend on them
xaminika 3 months ago
Why is Justin Bieber hated? Because he's suspected of being Gay. Is he? Maybe. I hope, for his sake, he isn't. If he is, he will have a sad life, despite riches. I could have faked straightness. But, I felt it wasn't worth using a girl that way. I went out with girls in the closet, and hated every minute of it.
unabnats 3 months ago
No one should come out unless protected. We don't diss Anne Frank for hiding for 3 years, and most wish she stayed longer. Well, for some kids, coming out is just as dangerous. People still get killed for being Gay. And, like Nazi's, some straights hunt down and attack Gays. When there is no official help, as is the case some places, Better to live and fight another day. We are greatly outnumbered. Our enemies our well financed, organized, numerous, viscious, ruthless, and desperate.
unabnats 3 months ago
I'm the 40,000th view :D
thesecretmii 3 months ago
Im bi but i dnt want my famliy to know my famliys friends know but my famliy will never hear it from me
KkarlitosVega23 3 months ago
you know the people who post stupid ass comments and mean shit are between the ages of 12 and 14. (insecure little bitches)
KidCatCrazy 3 months ago
@BranWilder. GROW THE FUCK UP YOU STUPID DUMB ASS CUNT BITCH TALKING SHIT ON THE COMPUTER, BEING A LITTLE PUCCI ASS HOMOPHOBE YOU SEARCHED FOR SOMETHING GAY AND YOU GOT IT SO SHUT THE FUCK UP SIT YOUR UGLY ASS DOWN AND WATCH THE MOTHER FUCKING VIDEO YOU STUPID ASS DOUCHEBAG!
jam3sramir3z 3 months ago
how old are you? ur voice is a little too mature for your face.
asexyjock 3 months ago
Yep, had many question me on my channel but who knows what their intentions are along with my growing car channel which I know many of the subscribers are phobies & so I pretty much keep zipped about it there. Off Youtube, Im in a situation where those who are important to me aren't yet ready handle it, only told my Mom & a few select friends earlier this year. Lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. Im slowly progressing with it until it hopefully becomes more obvious to those I havent told.
Intechdude300 3 months ago
I disagree. Visability is what the homophobes fear most. With it, their eventually dead. Without it, we're dead. We need as much visability as we can get. We need it from everyday LGBTs just as much as we need it form celebrities and TV shows and Movies. If you're over 18 and and are able to financially support yourself (i.e: Houseing, Food, etc) then it's almost your duty to comeout.
chris812125 4 months ago
Good advice. Nice channel. You are wise beyond your years. Keep it up!
MrMusiclover41 4 months ago
Have I ever seen you in shirt? (Probablly you would look gud!)
AdityaEHansis 4 months ago
I totally believe in outing people who are in the public and who do things that perpetuate the negative stereotypes of homosexual people (i.e. politicians who vote against bills that give us equal rights yet take it up the chuff on weekend getaways)
fuck that
not saying rick welts was of that ilk - just saying there are times when i support outing people
also, there is nothing wrong with being queer, so we should not encourage anyone to be ashamed of who they are
2dboy 4 months ago
Well said!
Other than that, you're really cute...
ShatteredSlowly 4 months ago 66
Your view is probably one of the smarter ones I've heard. I waited for years, but when I did start telling people, I started feeling a lot safer. Now I joke about it with my brother and his girlfriend on a daily basis. It's just nice having supportive people. If you don't have that environment, you may just want to wait.
bnugentkarate 4 months ago
Good Views.... I came out late and I felt it was the right time for me and the people around me. I was very nervous, but actually not one person has changed their attitude towards me, in fact I have become closer to a lot of people in my life.
Keep it up...
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vincetheworldly537 4 months ago
I think that people should eventually come out for their own well-being. I agree that when someone is younger and still living with marginalizing parents, it might not be the time. But from a personal, psychological standpoint, I think it's good for to be honest with themselves. Many times, these people don't realize just how much better they'll feel, so they may say they're happier staying in the closet. It's a difficult situation, but I believe, when it's safe, people are better off out.
PickThisCar 4 months ago
Brandon..your posting here about people who are "forced out" before they are ready. The thing I think your missing is that simply you are too young to know what it used be like for all Gay people, I am 33 and I have some clue, but even older people lived the history that we were ignored, discounted, and generally disregarded until AIDS got us angry in the 80s and made us stand up and come out or we knew we would all just die. People were dropping and we needed to show our numbers then & NOW
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chaddy60 4 months ago
i think the point you are really trying to make at the end there is dont come out if it will hurt you, much better wording than if it will help you. and i totally agree, if coming out hurts a person ie parents still pay for everything because you r in school and they r bible thumping evangelicals that have said gays will burn and should be stoned (they have made it clear not down with the gay even alittle) it would be irresponsible to come out to them well anyway great vid good points
thecajundso 4 months ago
I agree. Social & political movements are there to improve lives demanding civil rights or human rights. Putting pressure on people to do something they are not ready to do yet, public or private, seems to me to be contrary to the purpose in the first place. These movements are worthy but they are not the reason I was born. Telling people how they should live their lives is what we are fighting against is it not? Don't put the horse before the cart as the saying goes.
ctp2067 4 months ago
Yes! Totally agree, you are wise for your age :)
justinbobby20 5 months ago
I continue to feel pressure to come out
TheMrfeminist 5 months ago
i came out recently like 2 months ago to everyone. i am 13 which is pretty young. but it did make me feel a lot better and comfortable. my friends are very nice to me about it. i thought it was going to be a dramatic turn in my life. and it was.... a good turn. i am glad i did(;
KidCatCrazy 5 months ago
Wise beyond your years.
MadeMeMyself 5 months ago
Also what if you want to come out as Straight? I know a girl who did that.
redsmas 5 months ago 45
@redsmas lol, never heard of that, cool.
dana123xena 2 months ago
I came out at 19 most people say they come out at 15, only come out if you think its the best thing to do.
redsmas 5 months ago
have you come out yet Brandon?
DaxJackson 5 months ago
Excellent points! Very insightful. I used to feel a bit bitter toward the other gay guys in my school because I was the ONLY out guy in the entire school, which sucked. Yeah, maybe it would've been a lot easier to deal with if I'd had uncloseted gay friends, but how can I know what the consequences would have been for those guys? Maybe it would've made family life a living hell, or worse—they could've been disowned and kicked out on the street. It's not my place to choose the right time for them
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You are sooo insightful and inspirational...I just discovered your channel and I just keep watching video after video!!!
julesbobules 5 months ago
Coming out no matter what day and age we are in does have its risks. It isn't easy and you should be prepared for some friends and family to have a negative reaction. If and when you come out make sure you have the inner strength to deal with both the positive and negative response. I didin't find it easy and still don't 20+ years later. Don't force yourself to come out do what you need to do to be a healthy and happy person. For me coming out was the best thing.
Brboy88 5 months ago
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You are so handsome.
denzorsingular 5 months ago
I finally came out to my family...and they seem to be supporting me so all is good.
yukinari777 5 months ago
jajaja i think you're completelly right about it...
jemboist 5 months ago
Cum out when ur ready, dont be pressurised to come out early.
brencrack 5 months ago
DONT COME OUT!!!!!!!!
Worst thing i did
would hae liked to wait untill m age now to do it... if only i had a tme machine
aplaydohman 5 months ago
the only betrayers are people like Ken Mehlman and other closeted individuals who use their positions to actually betray us by writing, voting or enacting legislation that denies, restricts and/or strips us of our equal rights. i have no problem as to when, where or how they come out, but I can not forgive someone who tries to throw others of the scent by turning against their own.
bkm2431 5 months ago
Never gonna happen for me :( Not here in this community at least. Hmph...
ZirraAkuatic 5 months ago
I really loved your point. I agree with you 100% sir. There isn't a specific timeline that works for everyone. So true.
NCKyle1980 5 months ago
omg i cant take it he looks like Zac Efron 0.0
erwindertorres 5 months ago
Interesting point. Meanwhile, I've noticed something. I have looked at a lot of coming out stories on Youtube. And I see a HUGE gender divide. Almost every girl/woman seems to have come out at a very early age: many at 12/13 - some even refer to elementary school. And the process sounds upbeat, positive. Boys/men, however, make very different videos. Most seem to have been considerably older when they came out. Many report problems, fears, dangers. And some are out only to a few people.
jarabaa 5 months ago
@jarabaa Coming out of the closet is a dangerous thing for young men to do in America, and there is a very decisive disparity between a guy coming out in the US and a guy coming out in Europe, for instance. Sadly, it is not terribly unusual for young men to have to "prove" their sexuality in high school these days before he is let off the proverbial hook by his peers. It is a multifaceted issue to be sure, but the main constituent contributing to the disparity is the sexual repression that...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...has been ever-present in this country. Americans have been so ensconced in the desire to know what their neighbors are doing in their bedroom that sexual identity has become as much of an issue amongst heterosexuals as it is an issue for homosexuals. My preceding generation was raised in an America where any talk of sex was taboo and completely off the radar. The generation I was born into has been quite a bit more liberal in this respect, but sexuality was still very rocky ground...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...when it came to talking about it, dealing with it, and reconciling it with sociogenic standards. Now that I am in my early thirties, when I was teaching, my students (and indeed the overwhelming majority of youth in America) were bombarded with sex from every source in their lives, from movie and magazines to television and the Internet. The US is slowly coming out of its repressed shell, and it is young men like Brandon who should be applauded for their efforts to remove the stigma, or at...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...least mitigate it to a level where kids are feeling more comfortable (and safe) to be who and what they are. There has been great progress made in the US, but much remains to be done. As an ally of the LGBT community, it is exceedingly difficult for me to watch some of the other popular gay YouTubers who have no interest in addressing the fundamentals behind what it is to come out, so instead they ACT out. Their fan base is not comprised of as many gays as it is of passersby hoping to spy...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...a little activity coming from gay dudes (and they are overwhelmingly male) who have seen fit to throw the premise of responsible accountability out the window as long as they can get a rise out of people, for whatever reason. The problem with this is that it gives rise to the development of what we all recognize in this country as the typical stereotypes associated with gay men, and while I suspect they do not care, these gay men are serving to set the whole community back with their antics.
MageSutek 5 months ago
This is the sole reason behind why I support responsible young gay men like Brandon and absolutely abhor his counterparts who would rather make a scene than further the premise of inclusion and acceptance of the gay community in this country. It would be hella easy for me to list names of gay YouTubers who I just wish would shut down their channels, but I imagine people can decide for themselves if it means anything to them. Fear is bred from ignorance, and ignorance is fueled by abject...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...endorsement of the very behavior that leads to the stereotypical standards that are so prevalent in the minds of all Americans. Comments like "Brandon doesn't ACT very gay" or "[blank] is so gay" are the kinds of remarks that just perpetuate a problem that is easily solved by becoming informed and doing a little thinking over taking in the rubbish that is so frequently peddled through mediums like YT. Kids are still being dumped by their families for coming out, so I understand the fear;...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...however, that fear is amplified tenfold by the negative messages coming from those gay men and women who purport to have the best interests of the gay community at heart, but demonstrate through their words and actions the exact opposite, and I have no patience for that shit. Nor should the gay community, but is allowed to let slide for whatever reason. I have always been a proponent for acceptance and inclusion. I have no time for tolerance; tolerance is for cowards of heart and mind,...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...and can quickly change to resentment and hatred if the fair-weather nature of tolerance is not kept up nice and pretty. If one cannot accept and include another person for whom and what he or she is all about, then it is a reflection on the people spouting how tolerant they are, not on those people looking for acceptance and inclusion. I accept, include, and love my sister who happens to be a lesbian. I can tolerate rap music in small doses, but I will talk shit about it if asked. Full stop.
MageSutek 5 months ago
@MageSutek ... I see... My point was about the way in which coming-out experiences seem to vary according to gender: males report a lot of suffering, ambivalence, and threat; but women's videos are very upbeat by comparison. Meanwhile, I haven't encountered the gay men on Youtube whom you "abhor" who "make a scene" and whose YT channels you would "shut down". I've watched many coming-out and "it gets better" videos made by young men and boys and I've been impressed by their powerful testimony.
jarabaa 5 months ago
@jarabaa I would agree that there is a disparity between the coming out of men and the coming out of women, but that should not be a big surprise. There is a gender disparity in most aspects of life, from the role of parenting and the stay-at-home dads to the "all-American-woman" and her metrosexual subordinates. Why should coming out be any different in our society? If there were not a gender disparity, I fear the social climate would descend into anarchy. As far as the gay men on YouTube...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...that I have come to "abhor" because of their predilection for making scenes rather than sending wholesome messages, perhaps you have not come across the people to whom I refer because you are not looking. Alternatively, maybe you have a higher degree of tolerance for the behavior exhibited by some of the people of whom I write. It is entirely probable that I am referencing people of whom you have no knowledge, for whatever reason. Unless I sit and list them by name, which I shall not be...
MageSutek 5 months ago
...doing for various reasons, I fear we might be at an impasse. If you are interested and diligent in your search for gay YouTubers, I am sure you will come across a few that will rub you the wrong way. Who knows? But since you mentioned the coming out videos and the "It Gets Better" videos (a campaign I spearheaded and funded in the form of a local chapter in my residential district), I agree that they do indeed represent impressive and powerful testimonies. DADT was repealed today. Good times!
MageSutek 5 months ago
Coming out too early could also cause you to mislabel yourself. I came out in middle school and was fighting with my sexuality. I was going back and forth from bi and gay. It was hard because I wanted to be normal, fit in, and not get made fun of. But today, I'm glad to be out.
Gkiss3955 5 months ago
Is it just me or this guy looks a bit like zack efron?
mrcambridgegrad998 5 months ago
I'm not even 100% comfortable with the way people refer to gay people as the "gay community", it sounds very us-and-them to me. If you're gay, even if all your friends are gay you still walk amongst the masses of diverse groups. Two people being gay could have incredibly different experiences and different perspectives and where one person could come out rather easily, another might not have the chance. So whenever "the gay community" makes a unanimous statement, I'm always suspicious.
GlanceofGlory 5 months ago
I want to come out so bad, but where I'M from... people judge and they are harsh. How do I come out to all these people who have so many expectations of me. I feel like I'm missing out on so many things. How do you face people who you know will recent you for it?
logimage2 5 months ago
@logimage2 make sure that you have a safety net just in case when you come out things will turn bad, but most probably things will be very positive. probably those people who you think that won't accept you, will accept you and thing will get much better then you thinking. believe me. I've been in that situation once. now i am a very happy person. gdluck mate xx
E2704G 5 months ago
You're absolutely right, it's all about timing. No 2 cases can be compared, we are all in different situations. I never understood this "out and proud", not so proud if you end up living on the streets! Each individual should use wisdom concerning their own situation.
willbande 5 months ago
I'm right now on the process of "coming out little by little", and I think like some people who have given their opinions here: I don't need to tell everybody I'm gay, cuz I wanna prevent bad consecuences due to the society I live in (Chile). What has made me happy is that some friends and sister, whom I've told the truth, have taken it on very well. I knew they were going to react like that, that's why I did it. Now there are just few important people who must know it, like my mom,
thexpepino 5 months ago
I totally agree. Some people really don't want to come out in the traditional way. My view has always been, straight people don't have to tell everyone they are straight, why should I tell people I am gay. I told those who need to know and anyone else can just find out in other ways, I don't hide it, but I don't announce it to everyone.
mcknighty11 5 months ago 30
I liked this and completely understand your viewpoint. You are Amazing!!
JukeBoxHeroBuddy 5 months ago
I agree, I'd never force someone to come out. It's all about when you feel ready and it's great that nowadays people can come out so young but not everyone is in an environment where that's practical. I even had a straight guy ask me if I wish I came out sooner and I was just like "I came out at 15/16 how much sooner did you want me to do it?"
MrTwentington 5 months ago
You really have a great insight to life for such a young guy.Thank you for your vidz.
tnyscrface1 5 months ago
Well im 14 and ive only came out to 1 person . Shes my bestfriend and I trust her sooo much. And I think later on ill get to the point of telling everyone but for now I think ill wait a little while ;)
ROCKSMYSOCKSOFF28 5 months ago
It really bothers me that gay people have to "come out" as gay, but that straight people don't have to "come out" as straight. I wish people wouldn't make assumptions about sexuality and I wish that people didn't make such a big deal out of it. It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight. All that being said, we live in a society where most people do assume that everyone is straight until they say otherwise and I think that people should only come out when they feel comfortable enough to do so.
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Skittlz547 5 months ago
but what about he Prejudgment of others at the later time. IE: like U came out to others and now the ppl that you knew are angry at u cuz they fee betrayed. cuz you liied to them all that time.
chrisfcukz 5 months ago
Reminds me of a quote I like: "No cause is greater than the people who support it."
shawnisme11 5 months ago
i waiting till next year :p
oddnamera 5 months ago
You have to wait until you feel it's right.Younger gay people today forget that we live in a more tolerating society than,say,10 years ago,so just picture what it must have been like 40 years ago.----------So what I'm saying is it is much easier today for people to come out and thinking about how hard it was for people in the past,should make it easier.
brecans 5 months ago
Nice video. I agree 100%. I came out late in life (33) because that's when it made sense for ME. Could I have done it earlier? Maybe. But it wasn't a mistake to wait until I was ready and felt like it was my time. Wait for your time, too.
And to @whosaysBrad - people who think they don't know anyone who's gay are wrong. Everyone knows someone who is gay.
mkugs99 5 months ago
Like my mom says the truth always comes out. But i don't know when and if I'll ever be ready to come out :/
TheJesseOrtiz 5 months ago
@Wyat5150 what u said made me cry cuz it's the same thing with me. I wished that I wouldn't disgust my friends cuz I'm gay or embarrass them cuz I'm gay or not like me cuz I'm gay. And not accept me. Or disappoint my parents there is just too many homophobes around me and I'm
Scared to come out cuz I'm going to loose friendships with people I love. And I don't want any one talking behind my back and talking crap. It's tuff bought I guess we have to do it someday like my moms says the truth alwa
TheJesseOrtiz 5 months ago
As Harvey Milk said, if everyone was out then there would be no homophobia, only love. Everyone would know someone gay.
whosaysBrad 5 months ago
nice video :)
goliath92738 5 months ago
also if you feel it's not safe to come out, then you shouldnt. the younger you are the more you should think about coming out, and what it could be like for you after you do. I have seen too many kids who are totally unprepared for the reactions they get from ppl they fully expected to support them. Yes, these days ppl are more open to it, but you cant depend on that. Make sure you have another place to stay if things go really south, be positive, but also be prepared for the worst. 1 LIFE
sleekcartim 5 months ago 2
Well, another great video Brandon.
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comingoutnowtogether 5 months ago
Yeah I agree <3 it's none of other peep's business <3
CyrusFun 5 months ago
When do you go to college?
niqbailey 5 months ago
Because the Gay Rights Movement mostly on the heels of Harvey Milk proved to be true, we have to be Out for it to go forward. No one should be forced out though. (FYI, I am only 27 so it's not a "oh I remember when moment") Also, it's because of those who started taking that advice to come out early, allowed you and I to come out earlier than it used to be.
thehunt098 5 months ago
Finnaly someone said this tnx hope too see more of u soon
kadacians 5 months ago
Good advice
au17100 5 months ago
Good measured advice. BTW, Brandon, like the soft blue background on your vids. Are you actually green-screening your image onto it? Or, are you really videoing in front of a blue wall?
evan1276 5 months ago
i came out when i was 16, felt great and I felt like i was "free" lol but here recently it seems like the gay community is getting hated on more than it used to, which is putting stress on the people who want to come out. so idk im glad i came out. i just ignore the ignorant tards and keep on swimming :] lololol
whosebilly 5 months ago
I didn't come out of the closet, the closet was ripped down from around me so my sentiments on the matter are to each his own, if you want to wait until you're 60 to come out more power to you. Nowadays I don't have come out I simply exist and let the world come to their own conclusions.
PoeticPoppa 5 months ago
I know that Brandon is Gay but sometimes I like to think he is straight and he's just teasing us, but I love him anyway d:)
paris0000up 5 months ago
This should be our motto guys:
"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not"
paris0000up 5 months ago
In my personal opinion the "gay community" is one big sham. I've tried to get to know this supposed community and all I've encountered is vapid, selfish, conceited, and even sometimes racist SoB's who think they are the shit. Just a bunch of hive-minded queens who have nothing better to do than tear people down and be whores.
dustinthewind2u 5 months ago
Excellent, so mature and wise. Ciao.