Hey Check out my channel, I break down social anxiety and stigmas. We can make this world wide acceptable just like more serious illnesses like Cancer, and its curable, you just gotta look for answers
Oh hey! Have you considered anxiety zero technique (It is at anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my cousin pretty much cured anxiety with it.
Holla! Have you heard about anxiety zero technique (Go to anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my buddy pretty much cured worries with it.
Oh hello! Have you heard about anxiety zero technique (I think its at anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my sister pretty much cured worries with it.
Have you tried meditation, yoga or mental exercises? You become more in tune with your environment and reduced your insecurities. Google them or contact me as a last resort!
what have u done?? why are so so thing now?? u are driving me crazy!!! i see you fat, then i see u thin!!! how do u do that??? always with the waterfast???
what have u done?? why are so so thing now?? u are driving me crazy!!! i see you fat, then i see u thin!!! how do u do that??? always with the waterfast???
I know how yuu feel:) But you are funny, great lookinq, and fun to listen andd I hope thatt uer problem goes away. But i have a questionn.. Do yuu have social anxiety if you have it during just CERTAIN situations like a teacher talking to you?
Hey I really like your Social anxiety blogs on here. I just ordered a video camera because I too suffer from a couple forms of anxiety, and I want to be my old self again, so I figure i'll post my journey on youtube in a few days when i start it, so not only can I show myself i can change, but I want to give hope to everyone else out there so I won't give up. I hope when I do that you will follow it, because I know how you feel and we all could use a helping hand sometimes :)
thank you for doing this. I have the opposite problem, my anxiety is worse around the people i care about and know well, yet in front of strangers I am extremely confident....
but its good to know there is some one who also seems completely confident and sane, but deals with these problems...
everyone has social anxiety to a certain extent, when it becomes social anxiety disorder is when it something serious and life crippling. The disorder part is the difference between being able to still move forward in everyday and not being able to. From what youve said and how you appear, you dont have social anxiety DISORDER ...aka stop crying.
@Anonymoustube1 No. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard someone day! Everyone has social anxiety to an extent? Haha...No. First of all, social anxiety and social anxiety is the SAME THING. Social anxiety is a shortened term. They mean the same things. They come with the same territory. It is easy peasy to talk to your camera. Your camera is not tons of eyes looking at you. Your camera is not judging you. You have no idea clearly. It's okay, not many do.
@DESERVANT Ill say it again. A bit of anxiety in certain situations, whether it be social, when driving etc...is completely normal. But when those anxieties stop you from going places, from doing things, and living your life in general, thats when it is considered a disorder. No it is not a shortened version of it. To people on youtube maybe, but to professionals its called social anxiety DISORDER because having a disorder is very different.
@Anonymoustube1 You're being EXACTLY the type of person she's talking about in her video. Did you even bother watching it? You're one of those people who take pride in saying "OMG no, you don't have social anxiety! No way! I know you don't because obviously I know more about yourself than you do!!!1!!" How do you know her life isn't affected by her anxiety? How do you know she doesn't struggle everyday? Because she's pretty? Because she has friends? Because she can talk on camera?
@DESERVANT Hah, pshh. Why dont you ask her if shes unable to do things, or go places. Ask her if her anxiety has stopped her from working or going out on friday night...psh haha. laughable. When social anxiety becomes a disorder, it is exasperatingly hard to do these things. I have no idea? hmm, ive only had the DISORDER for 20 years. but nah, this stuff is foreign to me.
@Anonymoustube1 So just because YOU don't have a job and YOU stop going places means that EVERYONE else with social anxiety shouldn't and can't do those things?
I've always thought that those with SA were understanding of one another. They had compassion and empathy. Though I have run across other people like you who enjoy being the lowest of the low. Who enjoy being more 'sick' than everyone else. It's sad. I go to school every year. So does that mean I don't have social anxiety...
@Anonymoustube1 Because I have the courage to go to school? Because I'm not afraid to show my face on youtube? How do you know how social anxiety affects anyones life when you're not a part of it? When you don't know them?
I know exactly how you feel! I find it very hard to talk about because when I do people tend to joke about it because the side of me that they see is very outgoing and upbeat. But I have tremendous difficulty with great crowds or small crowds where I don't know anyone. I have actually driven through the parking lot of a store and because it is too crowded with cars I get too anxious to even go in and so I just go home.
I am so glad you made this video because i feel the same way. Its hard to meet new people or be around new people because I dont know how to act around people. Being socal has always been a challenge for me. I cant talk or eat with people comfortably unless its someone i really trust or am around quite often. But that is no one not even my family sometimes. Its so hard to couquer ive dealt with it for so long, its so bad that i binge when im alone because i dont eat when im with them.
What an interesting subject, and one I understand. How brave of you to approach the subject! I agree that it's necessary to be aware of the condition of social anxiety before one can overcome it. The feelings of shame and guilt are very powerful, and for me, fade rapidly when I am in control of how much socialising I do. It's worse when I socialise because it's expected of me, because some social situations are not good experiences, and best avoided!
this is a good topic and glad you are talking about it I think many of us have trouble with this and are too afraid to do any thing about looking forward to more on this
I do not fit in with people who are of the Elite rich or who don't beleive in God. I'm a poor, Christian woman and only feel good when I am within my own social circle. I feel comfortable there and have no desire to mix with those who would mock my beliefs or my lack of money. I do have social anxiety when I have to mingle with those types. Mama used to say, "Don't get proud and get above your raising, child"...still good advise.
I really like this topic and hope you talk more about it. It's a hard thing to get over for me too and would love to see how you get past it. Thanks for sharing :-)
Sushi, U must see all the EFT videos that come up under the "Related Videos" heading. It really, really works. I've mentioned it b4 in a response and I've seen other people suggest it also. I like this guy's demo, plus he's cute. ;-)
(I don't know if this format allows me to post the url for even another YT video in these comments so I did the substitutions. I'm sure u can figure it out, u just can't click on it! LOL)
Funny(ironic) because I feel the same way EVERY time I am in a social situation UNTIL I begin my interaction. When u SINCERELY ENGAGE w/ someone else the focus is of necessity taken OFF yourself, then, "self-consciousness" disappears, evaporates, is supplanted, etc. U get OUT of yourself when u TRULY engage (open yourself) to embrace the experience of some1 else.
1 would THINK my anxiety would pass since I have experienced this in each case, but it always STARTS off w/me being anxious, UNTIL...
Here is what I have to say...I agree that you look great.. You have to not care how you looked before. I think you looked pretty. Yeah you looked like you just woke up, but who are they to judge you. Just shallow humans looking to take out their anger on the weakest link becuase they have nothing better to do.....Its whats inside that matters, and inside in the past, you were abeautiful person. Trying to change and better yourself. I am (not trying to sound like your ma) but I am PROUD of you..
I'm always feeling very awkward and uncomfortable when meeting new people and I seem standoffish or bored, but I'm just trying to not make any huge social faux pas!
ugh i have awful anxiety problems. for the last year of my life and being so young (16.5) it is VERY difficult cause i face a lot of social situations (job interviews, starting to become more and more independant) and then highschool itself is like :O.
first off id like to commend you for having the courage to admit here with us all that you are feeling this way and showing us ure true self. I think thats great!!! Also, dont let the opinions of others get in the way of how u feel or look. I think you look great, and it shouldnt matter whether ure alone or not. As long as you are Happy, thats what counts!!! People can be very opinionated and judge others very easy. But dont let them,
Love this vlog! I am going through the same thing. It gets very lonely sometimes because I want to meet other people but have anxiety about it. I think you have amazing courage to open up about it. I have lost 25lbs and seem to be very uncomfortable be thinner for some reason. I, too, hid behind being overweight because it draws less attention to yourself. Here's to overcoming social anxiety!!
I wonder if you act that way because you are concern about how people will judge you. If so, you might want to consider that since you cannot control what people will think/say/do you might as well be yourself and stand for what you believe in, and if anyone wants to come along for the ride great. If they don't even better....Better to be alone than in bad company. Be yourself. Don't worry, be happy!
I'm so glad you had the courage to do this video...I go through the same thing on an everyday basis...most people don't believe me. Youtube is great for this.
Thanks for sharing, Sharon! I always felt so alone with this issue. Now I have someone to relate to. --My friends wonder why I never go out or even talk to them but they are used to it by now. My parents and brother think something is wrong with me because I am not very social. I have always been very shy/lacking confidence, but I started noticing anxiety after a few negative social experience.
you're definately not alone with this. mine comes up at the strangest times too. i would have never guessed this about you from your videos, i actually have thought total opposite, i have thought while watching your videos that you must be a very outgoing and gregarious person. i hope you find solutions for this and keep sharing with us what you find out. thank you.
Thanks for putting this out there. You are a funny, articulate, intelligent person. I think you may just be halfway there. I mean think about it. I haven't put up a video for fear of judgement. You have at least taken some steps to put your self out there. This medium is perfect because there is some anonymity I suppose even though it may seem contradictory.
Life is just too short not to be real, and if someone doesn't like you being real than they can kiss your @ss. I come from an anti-social family too....I guess that's why I always think people can kiss my @ss...ha, ha, ha *laughing at myself*
Thank you for bringing this subject to light. I do think about the fact that if I look thin and younger I will have more social interaction, but I don't want that. So that may be why I don't ever lose the weight.
I have found that if I have self-confidence in my appearance, then I can be more open to meeting new people. Being fat (as I am now) makes anti-social and I have become hermit. I can't even look at myself in the mirror - so who else would either? I take anxiety meds for difficult social moments. It just helps me deal with anxiety easier. It doen't cure the problem. Obviously, this is a problem for many many people - thanks for bringing up this subject.
In the past, once people got to know me they would tell me that I came off as snobbish or stand offish. Whenever someone introduced me to someone I would say hi and immediately turn away and focus on something else. I had no self esteem. Since losing weight I forced myself to change and now I am rarely that way.
I have social anxiety sometimes, and I hate it. I know it is a mental thing and it is stupid but I can't figure out how to control it but I'm working on learning how to control it..
is there anything YOU yourself would read out of your appearance or mannerisms. it is a difficult exercise coz you know when you're right or not. or just look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if this person were walking toward me (you can even trying walking slowly toward the mirror) what you your subconscious thoughts be.how would i rank them on the social scale? what else could i say about them just by what i see. so only focus on what you SEE and be brutally honest with yourself.
well, i think it depends on what you think the other person is thinking. if you think they think you're stupid, you probably would act stand-offish and use that demeanour as your shield against what you think their thoughts are. if you think they are enjoying listening to you you ramble on and speak more freely and openly. so it really all just comes down to you. try pretending you are the person you are talking to and ask yourself, if i didn't know this person, what would my first thoughts be?
i totally understand you... I have a very hard time talking or meeting new people.. not because I don't want to, but because it really scares me...and I do think I come off stand-offish too...I have spent the last year going to meet ups for that reason, to face my fears.. I still get the heart racing, but I take a deep breath and jump in.. very very hard, but so worth it afterwards.
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stripthatfatweightlo 5 months ago
Hey Check out my channel, I break down social anxiety and stigmas. We can make this world wide acceptable just like more serious illnesses like Cancer, and its curable, you just gotta look for answers
TheResurrectedLight 7 months ago
Oh hey! Have you considered anxiety zero technique (It is at anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my cousin pretty much cured anxiety with it.
akshrestha02 7 months ago
Holla! Have you heard about anxiety zero technique (Go to anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my buddy pretty much cured worries with it.
MrRujesh 7 months ago
Oh hello! Have you heard about anxiety zero technique (I think its at anxiety0.info)? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my sister pretty much cured worries with it.
MrRanura 7 months ago
thank u for sharing
tioikfffffff 7 months ago
Have you tried meditation, yoga or mental exercises? You become more in tune with your environment and reduced your insecurities. Google them or contact me as a last resort!
crudhousefull 8 months ago
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Good on you! You're being so brave to talk about it! You will overcome!
mixong62 8 months ago
Good on you! You're being so brave to talk about it! You will overcome!
mixong62 8 months ago
I want to kiss your lips.
parsizaban 9 months ago
I love your voice :D
katelynfulify 9 months ago
soooooo attractive..
MICKEYISLOWD 10 months ago
your shy, you dont have social anxiety...
cintrik 1 year ago
what have u done?? why are so so thing now?? u are driving me crazy!!! i see you fat, then i see u thin!!! how do u do that??? always with the waterfast???
adegiovi 1 year ago
what have u done?? why are so so thing now?? u are driving me crazy!!! i see you fat, then i see u thin!!! how do u do that??? always with the waterfast???
adegiovi 1 year ago
eyes like Julia Roberts
mark28105 1 year ago
I know how yuu feel:) But you are funny, great lookinq, and fun to listen andd I hope thatt uer problem goes away. But i have a questionn.. Do yuu have social anxiety if you have it during just CERTAIN situations like a teacher talking to you?
XsoEmiXD 1 year ago
what the hell? you're naturally gorgeous. i can't imagine you not looking good even if you jjust rolled out of bed! cool blog
procrastin8r89 1 year ago
Hey I really like your Social anxiety blogs on here. I just ordered a video camera because I too suffer from a couple forms of anxiety, and I want to be my old self again, so I figure i'll post my journey on youtube in a few days when i start it, so not only can I show myself i can change, but I want to give hope to everyone else out there so I won't give up. I hope when I do that you will follow it, because I know how you feel and we all could use a helping hand sometimes :)
celbii 1 year ago
One of the most admirable/respectable/sexy qualities a person can have is courage. You've got it.
jazzmatik 1 year ago
thank you for doing this. I have the opposite problem, my anxiety is worse around the people i care about and know well, yet in front of strangers I am extremely confident....
but its good to know there is some one who also seems completely confident and sane, but deals with these problems...
bcurik 1 year ago
everyone has social anxiety to a certain extent, when it becomes social anxiety disorder is when it something serious and life crippling. The disorder part is the difference between being able to still move forward in everyday and not being able to. From what youve said and how you appear, you dont have social anxiety DISORDER ...aka stop crying.
Anonymoustube1 1 year ago
@Anonymoustube1 No. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard someone day! Everyone has social anxiety to an extent? Haha...No. First of all, social anxiety and social anxiety is the SAME THING. Social anxiety is a shortened term. They mean the same things. They come with the same territory. It is easy peasy to talk to your camera. Your camera is not tons of eyes looking at you. Your camera is not judging you. You have no idea clearly. It's okay, not many do.
DESERVANT 1 year ago
@DESERVANT Ill say it again. A bit of anxiety in certain situations, whether it be social, when driving etc...is completely normal. But when those anxieties stop you from going places, from doing things, and living your life in general, thats when it is considered a disorder. No it is not a shortened version of it. To people on youtube maybe, but to professionals its called social anxiety DISORDER because having a disorder is very different.
Anonymoustube1 1 year ago
@Anonymoustube1 You're being EXACTLY the type of person she's talking about in her video. Did you even bother watching it? You're one of those people who take pride in saying "OMG no, you don't have social anxiety! No way! I know you don't because obviously I know more about yourself than you do!!!1!!" How do you know her life isn't affected by her anxiety? How do you know she doesn't struggle everyday? Because she's pretty? Because she has friends? Because she can talk on camera?
DESERVANT 1 year ago
@DESERVANT Hah, pshh. Why dont you ask her if shes unable to do things, or go places. Ask her if her anxiety has stopped her from working or going out on friday night...psh haha. laughable. When social anxiety becomes a disorder, it is exasperatingly hard to do these things. I have no idea? hmm, ive only had the DISORDER for 20 years. but nah, this stuff is foreign to me.
Anonymoustube1 1 year ago
@Anonymoustube1 So just because YOU don't have a job and YOU stop going places means that EVERYONE else with social anxiety shouldn't and can't do those things?
I've always thought that those with SA were understanding of one another. They had compassion and empathy. Though I have run across other people like you who enjoy being the lowest of the low. Who enjoy being more 'sick' than everyone else. It's sad. I go to school every year. So does that mean I don't have social anxiety...
DESERVANT 1 year ago
@Anonymoustube1 Because I have the courage to go to school? Because I'm not afraid to show my face on youtube? How do you know how social anxiety affects anyones life when you're not a part of it? When you don't know them?
DESERVANT 1 year ago
you do not seem like you have social anxiety disorder you seem very
outgoing and confident it seems hard to believe that you would have
this problem you kind of remind me of angelina jolie and look like her
Allstarzero 1 year ago
I know exactly how you feel! I find it very hard to talk about because when I do people tend to joke about it because the side of me that they see is very outgoing and upbeat. But I have tremendous difficulty with great crowds or small crowds where I don't know anyone. I have actually driven through the parking lot of a store and because it is too crowded with cars I get too anxious to even go in and so I just go home.
LizzieLouTx 1 year ago
You look Like u help people who have social anxiety but not have it
harmonizethelord9 1 year ago
Glad to see people brave enough to make videos on this topic. I have social anxiety myself and want to commend you, kudos.
KrisMTL 2 years ago
YOU LOOK GREAT!!!!
dk2000wk 2 years ago 11
I am so glad you made this video because i feel the same way. Its hard to meet new people or be around new people because I dont know how to act around people. Being socal has always been a challenge for me. I cant talk or eat with people comfortably unless its someone i really trust or am around quite often. But that is no one not even my family sometimes. Its so hard to couquer ive dealt with it for so long, its so bad that i binge when im alone because i dont eat when im with them.
liplylips 2 years ago
What an interesting subject, and one I understand. How brave of you to approach the subject! I agree that it's necessary to be aware of the condition of social anxiety before one can overcome it. The feelings of shame and guilt are very powerful, and for me, fade rapidly when I am in control of how much socialising I do. It's worse when I socialise because it's expected of me, because some social situations are not good experiences, and best avoided!
AArtyBird 2 years ago
this is a good topic and glad you are talking about it I think many of us have trouble with this and are too afraid to do any thing about looking forward to more on this
angienicholas 2 years ago
I do not fit in with people who are of the Elite rich or who don't beleive in God. I'm a poor, Christian woman and only feel good when I am within my own social circle. I feel comfortable there and have no desire to mix with those who would mock my beliefs or my lack of money. I do have social anxiety when I have to mingle with those types. Mama used to say, "Don't get proud and get above your raising, child"...still good advise.
evegpt 2 years ago
I really like this topic and hope you talk more about it. It's a hard thing to get over for me too and would love to see how you get past it. Thanks for sharing :-)
Iloveinsegnamento 2 years ago
Sushi, U must see all the EFT videos that come up under the "Related Videos" heading. It really, really works. I've mentioned it b4 in a response and I've seen other people suggest it also. I like this guy's demo, plus he's cute. ;-)
(I don't know if this format allows me to post the url for even another YT video in these comments so I did the substitutions. I'm sure u can figure it out, u just can't click on it! LOL)
h*t*t*p*/*/*w*w*w*dot*youtube*dot*com/watch?v=_jnlu1DaHLo&feature=related
imlivingandlearning 2 years ago
Funny(ironic) because I feel the same way EVERY time I am in a social situation UNTIL I begin my interaction. When u SINCERELY ENGAGE w/ someone else the focus is of necessity taken OFF yourself, then, "self-consciousness" disappears, evaporates, is supplanted, etc. U get OUT of yourself when u TRULY engage (open yourself) to embrace the experience of some1 else.
1 would THINK my anxiety would pass since I have experienced this in each case, but it always STARTS off w/me being anxious, UNTIL...
imlivingandlearning 2 years ago
wow..... it's like you're talking about me.
thankyou <3 x
yvettemadelaine 2 years ago 2
Here is what I have to say...I agree that you look great.. You have to not care how you looked before. I think you looked pretty. Yeah you looked like you just woke up, but who are they to judge you. Just shallow humans looking to take out their anger on the weakest link becuase they have nothing better to do.....Its whats inside that matters, and inside in the past, you were abeautiful person. Trying to change and better yourself. I am (not trying to sound like your ma) but I am PROUD of you..
B2BMami 2 years ago
so true, I'm the same way.
I'm always feeling very awkward and uncomfortable when meeting new people and I seem standoffish or bored, but I'm just trying to not make any huge social faux pas!
icebumblee2 2 years ago
same to me .. i know how u feel
ProAnaStarvingWorks 2 years ago
thank you very much.
ugh i have awful anxiety problems. for the last year of my life and being so young (16.5) it is VERY difficult cause i face a lot of social situations (job interviews, starting to become more and more independant) and then highschool itself is like :O.
Anyway thanks!
ReillyAJ 2 years ago
first off id like to commend you for having the courage to admit here with us all that you are feeling this way and showing us ure true self. I think thats great!!! Also, dont let the opinions of others get in the way of how u feel or look. I think you look great, and it shouldnt matter whether ure alone or not. As long as you are Happy, thats what counts!!! People can be very opinionated and judge others very easy. But dont let them,
jillybnz2379 2 years ago
Love this vlog! I am going through the same thing. It gets very lonely sometimes because I want to meet other people but have anxiety about it. I think you have amazing courage to open up about it. I have lost 25lbs and seem to be very uncomfortable be thinner for some reason. I, too, hid behind being overweight because it draws less attention to yourself. Here's to overcoming social anxiety!!
jennik444 2 years ago
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I wonder if you act that way because you are concern about how people will judge you. If so, you might want to consider that since you cannot control what people will think/say/do you might as well be yourself and stand for what you believe in, and if anyone wants to come along for the ride great. If they don't even better....Better to be alone than in bad company. Be yourself. Don't worry, be happy!
msbrazilianbombshell 2 years ago 2
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msbrazilianbombshell 2 years ago
I'm so glad you had the courage to do this video...I go through the same thing on an everyday basis...most people don't believe me. Youtube is great for this.
JenLC262 2 years ago 2
Thanks for sharing, Sharon! I always felt so alone with this issue. Now I have someone to relate to. --My friends wonder why I never go out or even talk to them but they are used to it by now. My parents and brother think something is wrong with me because I am not very social. I have always been very shy/lacking confidence, but I started noticing anxiety after a few negative social experience.
applelove33 2 years ago
you're definately not alone with this. mine comes up at the strangest times too. i would have never guessed this about you from your videos, i actually have thought total opposite, i have thought while watching your videos that you must be a very outgoing and gregarious person. i hope you find solutions for this and keep sharing with us what you find out. thank you.
silyrabbit68 2 years ago
Thanks for putting this out there. You are a funny, articulate, intelligent person. I think you may just be halfway there. I mean think about it. I haven't put up a video for fear of judgement. You have at least taken some steps to put your self out there. This medium is perfect because there is some anonymity I suppose even though it may seem contradictory.
lalamazu 2 years ago
i have this too!
lilypads2008 2 years ago
Life is just too short not to be real, and if someone doesn't like you being real than they can kiss your @ss. I come from an anti-social family too....I guess that's why I always think people can kiss my @ss...ha, ha, ha *laughing at myself*
AL3236 2 years ago
Thank you for bringing this subject to light. I do think about the fact that if I look thin and younger I will have more social interaction, but I don't want that. So that may be why I don't ever lose the weight.
1Sunrose 2 years ago
I have a solution that maybe would help. give me a call and we'll talk about it over dinner.
TheParrillaCompany 2 years ago
I used to have this really bad, but then I forced myself to overcome it when I became a hair stylist and had to talk to strangers all day long!
CrynOut 2 years ago
I have found that if I have self-confidence in my appearance, then I can be more open to meeting new people. Being fat (as I am now) makes anti-social and I have become hermit. I can't even look at myself in the mirror - so who else would either? I take anxiety meds for difficult social moments. It just helps me deal with anxiety easier. It doen't cure the problem. Obviously, this is a problem for many many people - thanks for bringing up this subject.
okgirlygirl 2 years ago
I am the saaaaame way. I'm pretty sure that's what causes my binge eating too.
Melanie62389 2 years ago
In the past, once people got to know me they would tell me that I came off as snobbish or stand offish. Whenever someone introduced me to someone I would say hi and immediately turn away and focus on something else. I had no self esteem. Since losing weight I forced myself to change and now I am rarely that way.
Imskinnyinside 2 years ago 6
I have social anxiety sometimes, and I hate it. I know it is a mental thing and it is stupid but I can't figure out how to control it but I'm working on learning how to control it..
chrisficki 2 years ago
p.s. tis your 600th video this one! way to go!
stormbreezesunlight 2 years ago
is there anything YOU yourself would read out of your appearance or mannerisms. it is a difficult exercise coz you know when you're right or not. or just look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if this person were walking toward me (you can even trying walking slowly toward the mirror) what you your subconscious thoughts be.how would i rank them on the social scale? what else could i say about them just by what i see. so only focus on what you SEE and be brutally honest with yourself.
stormbreezesunlight 2 years ago
well, i think it depends on what you think the other person is thinking. if you think they think you're stupid, you probably would act stand-offish and use that demeanour as your shield against what you think their thoughts are. if you think they are enjoying listening to you you ramble on and speak more freely and openly. so it really all just comes down to you. try pretending you are the person you are talking to and ask yourself, if i didn't know this person, what would my first thoughts be?
stormbreezesunlight 2 years ago
i totally understand you... I have a very hard time talking or meeting new people.. not because I don't want to, but because it really scares me...and I do think I come off stand-offish too...I have spent the last year going to meet ups for that reason, to face my fears.. I still get the heart racing, but I take a deep breath and jump in.. very very hard, but so worth it afterwards.
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