My narcisist when farther that just devaluing me. When he changed into a girl (and changed his name), she said, "I understand you must hurt over the loss of James (he had become a gay transexual" the perfect woman?) but it was OK because she had lost "her DeLyla" And she was right. She has.
If I can't stop my abuser treatment because I don't recognize it as abuse ,then if I "moved on" I'm sure that in my next relationship I would end up being treated the same way. If I created my car because I don't know how to drive it , getting a new car is not going to solve the problem ! Right ? I need to learn how to recognize abuse and how to refuse to be treated that way. If he can't accept that he can move on.
Giving me a choice between a rock and a hard place is what I said "NO" to this weekend , but I didn't think of it as torture I thought of it as "him being mean" and that is ,I guess in my mind, is okay ? Not !!! I did not think of it as torture until I heard you describe my weekend : (( .Sam , your words are proof of my pain ,thank you for explaining it so well so that anyone could understand .
I think it is important to tell the painful stories, the horror stories, but people often live and breathe their horror stories and become wounded and angry when other people shy away because they don't want to keep hearing them. The survivor is making themselves and others re-live the horror over and over again. We need to remember and tell good stories too while never forgetting the bad stories.
My narcisist when farther that just devaluing me. When he changed into a girl (and changed his name), she said, "I understand you must hurt over the loss of James (he had become a gay transexual" the perfect woman?) but it was OK because she had lost "her DeLyla" And she was right. She has.
LylaPierson 3 weeks ago
This is me.... I feel a bond with my abuser(s). I crave pain sometimes... Just to feel that I'm alive.
JenniferPHendrix 1 month ago
Damn auto correct , if i crashed my car,is what I meant to
Kathydrel 1 month ago
If I can't stop my abuser treatment because I don't recognize it as abuse ,then if I "moved on" I'm sure that in my next relationship I would end up being treated the same way. If I created my car because I don't know how to drive it , getting a new car is not going to solve the problem ! Right ? I need to learn how to recognize abuse and how to refuse to be treated that way. If he can't accept that he can move on.
Kathydrel 1 month ago
I appreciate your videos. They have given me some very precious understanding.
singerofsilence 1 month ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths 4
Giving me a choice between a rock and a hard place is what I said "NO" to this weekend , but I didn't think of it as torture I thought of it as "him being mean" and that is ,I guess in my mind, is okay ? Not !!! I did not think of it as torture until I heard you describe my weekend : (( .Sam , your words are proof of my pain ,thank you for explaining it so well so that anyone could understand .
Kathydrel 1 month ago
That's me in a nutshell. Very well spoken.
depress0r 1 month ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths
This is an almost incredible exposition. We are at the outer edges of human introspection here.
galacticious 1 month ago 3
This pretty much sums up my many transfers in high school.
95688kage 1 month ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths
I think it is important to tell the painful stories, the horror stories, but people often live and breathe their horror stories and become wounded and angry when other people shy away because they don't want to keep hearing them. The survivor is making themselves and others re-live the horror over and over again. We need to remember and tell good stories too while never forgetting the bad stories.
Pippisongbird 1 month ago 6
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tinyctlo 1 month ago