Single Parents & Single mom dating (why I dont do it)

[imabusysinglemom]

Relationships should never be about what you can do for me. It should be about wanting to share a life together - the bad with the good and doing your best to reduce the bad.  Other than that I agree with most everything you said. Finding a good man to accept the situation of a single mom is hard. Many men have been used and don't want to even try again and many more are just see single moms as easy targets. Today's men and women in general are too self centered to make any relationship work.

[imabusysinglemom]

You have a lot of valid points. I think you are a bit self centered but it comes with youth. But, you are right. But some of what you call obstacles we call test. Because we don't have the luxury of wasting time it is good to see how a man will respond to your kids asap. I agree women should be upfront with having a kid and also agree not to introduce that kid to the man right away but don't wait too long. But also believe n no sex until you have past that point of the man accepting the kid.

[Stingfan200010]

that r not mine

[Stingfan200010]

im same way i like kids to but dam i don't wanna raise 3 kids

[lizzasexit11]

You are ignorant about some of your arguments. I was raised in home with a stepdad. My mother ran away from my biological father because he was abusive. I don't remember anything really up until the age of 7. I thought my step father was my real father until they revealed to me he was not when I was 12. I would not look at my mother with any less respet if she was dating a bunch of guys. First off the child at a certain age won't even remember and second off the child really doesn't care.

[lizzasexit11]

@lizzasexit11 respect*



[lizzasexit11]

@lizzasexit11 i know for a fact because i was that mother's child. Let the single moms do their thing. If she didn't date I wouldn't have my stepfather right now. He raised me, gave me his last name, bought me everything, paied for my college, EVERYTHING. He is superman. Men who are superman exist they are called responsible men who have balls. He doesn't have any other child except me. He chose not to have another child with my mother and only to raise me; another man's seed so you call me.

[vincent15641]

My biggest fear of dating a single mom would be if/when the mother or kids got mad at me and made a false accusation of abuse out of spite. No one would believe this ex-convict has been lied on. So considering this would always be a potential risk in such a relationship, the advantage of being a single mom's Plan B guy means I would get plenty of practice singing "Dangerously in Love" for the next talent contest in prison.

Sorry for keeping it real like the children of Israel are suppose to.

[TrueW0man247]

Just keep in mind that because a couple is together doesn't mean they are happy! It's very unhealthy to be in an uncommitted relationship raising children. That's not good! God is good and He loves me, so I don't have to wonder if love from a man will find me because I don't need a man! God is my love and the best Father anyone can have!

[TrueW0man247]

SINGLE MOTHER and PROUD of it!! I don't DATE!!

[WesleyPipes2838]

I support single mothers!!!!!!! but I just don't date em...

[Randy2020]

@thedreadman sometimes no man wants to deal with another man child ifeel u on that one but also the father of the kids could of died

[ImNotRacistImBias]

I am a woman and I'm not interested in men with children or one child. When I start my own family I only want my kids with my partner and not other children and a baby mama attached. It is just my preference. Call it crazy but it is what it is.

[ROCEMPOWERMENT]

love it.....

[Observer112011]

I totally agree with you. Good observation, TheDreadMan!  Dating single parent is tough, their kid is always the core, and you are just supplements...

[TheDreadMan]

@Observer112011 yea & they SHOULD be the main focus & keep in mind there WILL be times when u have to take the backseat, it comes w/ the territory

[seethesvt]

Depends on the girl I guess. Mines easy. Kids great...

[seethesvt]

I listened, and hated it... nice dreads though.

[TheDreadMan]

@seethesvt yeah, but regardless of wether u agree w/ me or not, would u say single parent dating isnt for everyone?

[seethesvt]

You should keep your pig headed opinion to yourself. Im dating a beautiful single mother with a 5 year old. Its wonderful. The babies father died. She doesn't force the kid on me, she told be right away... you should start dating better women... or go back to one of your babies mamas.

[TheDreadMan]

@seethesvt (sigh) how is My opinion "pig headed" & I said I understood if the baby's father died & I even said just because a woman is a single mom doesnt make her a bad person or undatable. listen to the rest of the video before you judge me

[chiefnavarro1]

@seethesvt its not a pig headed opinion but you do sound stupid

[MissEbo1985]

I'm a 26 year old woman with no kids and I will NEVER EVER DATE MEN WITH KIDS AGAIN!! Don't get me wrong, there are good single parents out there, but I want to be with someone who I can go places with and don't have to worry about nothing, its too much for me u know.....

[TheDreadMan]

@MissEbo1985 yea I hear u its more of a LIFESTYLE CHOICE & if u feel like you're settling down for a single parent & feel like its somethin you HAVE to do versus something you WANNA do, then dont to it, it aint for everybody

[Brivonn3]

@TheDreadMan I'm so glad that you cleared up the difference in the beginning between women who became single mothers like me due to unfortunate circumstances such a divorce, an end in an engagement from a long-term relationship or a tragic loss of the spouse vs the women who became single mothers due to making the wrong choices in the selection of men they chose to get pregnant by because not all single mothers are the same :-)

[Leco070]

@MissEbo1985 I completely agree with you. Just try to keep that in mind if you ever have a kid of your own and can't seem to find a date...just saying.

[brianabucket1]

ummm- yeah ok but i could have sworn it was "do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars"lol y are we listening to this guy, he doesnt even read monopoly instructions lol . ps. educated, georgia peach, single mom ;)

[TheDreadMan]

@brianabucket1 Im throwin my own twist on it & Im speakin my opinion on it, & opinions are like assholes everybody's got one.... & Im not bashing at all

[luvingbeingme]

Education and isn't emotionally and financially stable. You can't judge a woman because she is a single mom. Everyone makes mistakes... It's all in how you learn and recover from them.

[luvingbeingme]

I respect your opinion. But as a single mom with advanced education and a great career, I believe that dating good mothers who are strong women has some benefits that other women don't have. You can tell what type of woman she is and how she handles her business. Which would u rather have a single mom who owns her own house, spends time and allows her child to experience new things ( dance, sports, traveling, creative arts) and does things in the community vs the girl with no kids who has no

[ElegantlyBrown]

Wheres daddy at folks? Thats the real question. its not about the woman or weather she is this or that. Wheres daddy at? why do so many kids have no FATHERS? the mothers are not the ones who left the kids.. think about that my dears....and then laugh as much as u want cuz u know there aint no father in ur lives and u gonna become just like them unless u change ur ways of thinking but if it makes u feel better blame the girl. I dont see why a grown ass man should be sleeping with a 17yo anyways

[TheHRchannel]

I tried to go on a date with a single mother but it was never official because she never had time. I decided that I'm going to date a childless woman because they tend to have time. I may be shallow but I'm not selfish. If you women are going to say I'm selfish then I think you women are selfish for only wanting good looking men.

[FreeBlago1]

What's with the fitted sweatshirt dude?

[FreeBlago1]

@wewomantv I don't have to eat a piece feces to know I won't like it, dig?

[brianna123456]

the benefits are we have our life together, we are grown up and don't play kiddie games, we know responcibility, and we take care of who's in our lifes

[brianna123456]

you're an asshole, you need to grow up

[TheDreadMan]

@brianna123456 Im an asshole for speaking what I feel... nice & as far as "people like me" the fact that you're a single mom doesnt give u the right to judge somebody's character that you dont even know..

[TheHRchannel]

@brianna123456 Name calling someone just for how he feels shows who really needs to grow up. This man has every right to have a preference in a woman just like you have the right to have a preference in a man.

[brianna123456]

it's people like you who stereo-type single moms when we should be held higher than that! we want a family just as much as anyone else out there. we can't help what life hands us.

[brianna123456]

well to some of us who are single moms deserve someone. I was married and tried to make it work, but he beat me, cheated on me and I worked and paid for a house not an appartment! that's not fair that you men feel that way! single mothers deserve more respect than women without children because they've grown up and have worked hard and HATE drama. as for the dads that aren't there for their kids (like mine! he hasn't seen my son but four months of his whole life) are peices of shit!

[Babyc1015]

@brianna123456 "single mothers deserve more respect than women without children because they grown up and have worked hard and hate drama" I WORKED HARD NOT TO HAVE KIDS BY A DEAD BEAT!! N since when is all women without kids have drama. Seems like its the other way around, ur starting this drama on this young man's video < ----where he clearly says is his opinion!! Obviously u got some personal problems going on, so take yo drama free ass to a counselor!

[BabyCatz29]

I feel its the same for man with kids, i want 2 b the only woman that has his kid and not have 2 share him with he's others kid and there moma.Dating nowadays is just hard and fuck up. Y try just GIVE UP !

[princessacristina30]

How do you feel about people that don't date black men? you are a Moron!

[MyrandaLuv1]

hunn you are a better person because you were raised in a 2 parent household....i was too, and i feel the exact same way...and people want to make you feel guilty about it...to me, its a blessing..

[HoneiiDiiva]

Smart man.

[vampatlantiss]

im a woman with no kids. and it goes both ways. you right about when u said why should i date a person with kids versus a person with no kids. less headaches,drama,i would think. i mean when u date a single parent ,you have to be wiling to except them for who they are and not to mention you have to be willing to build a bond with those kids or kid. is it worth it? im not sure..any how after hearing your video it made me rethink about dateing a person with kids. i dont know what else to say.....

[ApollosInsight]

I just love it whenever ppl defend single moms. The most common attitude about this is "it shouldn't matter that a woman has kids, the man should love her anyway and she deserves a good man". What these folks who say stuff like this is that they fail to see that women who're single moms do so by CHOICE. They CHOOSE to be that way, to be irresponsible and stupid w/ their actions. Also, they tend to have baggage and are often immature, thus making them unsuitable for a relationship.

[ElegantlyBrown]

@ApollosInsight some grown ass men prey on this innocent immature ladies. Just look at men getting 12 yo pregnant. fathers raping their girls. Men dont know what it is to be a man anymore ...and to cover up they blame women for everything. Deep inside they feel guilty and that is why they run because they dont know how to be a good father. where is the role model in their life. This kind of thoughts keep the spiral going. No respect for women= single moms. ...no excuse for leaving ur child man

[ApollosInsight]

@ElegantlyBrown No, men don't run from their responsibilities. The mother is backed by the court system to rid him and to financially exploit them.

And for you to tell me that men who prey 12y-o girls as if it's a common thing is complete b/s!!!! You black women are supposed to be the "backbone of the black community", yet you let shit like that happen?! Where's the "strong, independent, intelligent" black woman at now? Nowhere to be found when b/s happens!

[ElegantlyBrown]

@ApollosInsight my dear ...I never made this a race issue. And why so much anger in your voice. i am a single mom and definetly dont blame anybody for my mistakes. thats what i stress people to do. what is your reason for being so angry?? may i know. what is your connection to this situation? have u experienced either being a single mom or a single dad or has the court told u u couldnt see ur child? please tell us. as jesus said.....u can throw the stone if u are without sin. ....go ahead

[ApollosInsight]

@ElegantlyBrown What I'm upset about is how there are BW such as yourself who love to deflect and pass the buck rather than to face reality and take personal accountability for your own actions. When you brought up that there are men who impregnate 12y-olds and abandon them, you made it seem as if it was the de facto of our society. I'm sure that you weren't 12y-old when some man knocked you up.

Now I hope that you actually have the ability to open your mind and not selectively perceive info.

[ElegantlyBrown]

@ApollosInsight Once again you come again with the race issue. Please dont make it a black woman issue because i didnt make it a race issue..... It seems your problem is with black women..? May I ask why you hate them so much? Maybe this will enlighten the situation ...IF u need to talk i am here for you! I hate seeing people venting anger in the wrong way. sometimes you need to talk about someone or something that hurt you. everyone gets hurt sometimes. Its normal. Let me know ok ...

[ApollosInsight]

@ElegantlyBrown Honestly, this isn't a race issue, but a GENDER issue!!! Once again, I'm just sick of BW such as yourself (note that I didn't say ALL BW) who're constantly ignoring reality and believing AND promoting nominal, opinionated issues as factual material. And no, I don't need any1 to talk to-there are plenty of like-minded individuals like me who would agree w/ what I say.

And if you wish to stop seeing me angry, then OPEN YOUR MIND TO REALITY!

[ElegantlyBrown]

@ApollosInsight my dear apollo.. you are absolutely right! I am indeed an illminded bw. I do indeed use opinionated issues as factual material. its really sad u know. my life and i are a mess u know. i am really just a bw ignoring reality and not taking responisbility for my mistakes and action....oh dear..

So dr...what advice do u give this bw? Since u know the problem so well, you should know the solution. tell me what bw like me should do? please do tell. what is this reality exactly?

[wewomantv]

with all do respect, your passing judgement. Have you ever dated a single mother? You haven't given it a try to say you don't want to date a single mom.

[TheDreadMan]

@wewomantv far be it from me 2 knock something before I try it, but I never got dating a single mother I always thought the mother & father of a child should stay together, but I tried it recently & it didnt work out the way I wanted it to. butto what I said in the last part of the video, what do u think a single mother has to offer a guy like me that a woman w/out kids doesnt? it doesnt make me closed minded or stuck up, thats jus how I see it. but if she has her life in order thats a plus.

[wewomantv]

@TheDreadMan well men who don't date single mothers seem arrogant. When you fall in love with someone it doesn't matter if they have kids or not. How could you say what you said on the video? A single mother deserves a good man too. You know just by you saying that I think GOD will send you a woman who has kids and you will fall in love with her.

[ATENakaATON]

@wewomantv if god sent me a single mom to fall and love with I'd give him a big fuck you

[ElegantlyBrown]

@TheDreadMan yes indeed ...I think everybody has a right to chose who he should date. Some people are sometimes just not ready for certain things and therefor we shouldnt pressure them. I wouldnt date a smoker, drug addict or ex convict. I have that right...just like you have the right not to date a single mom if you dont wish. everyone knows themselves better. I think women should stop taking things too personal. I do dislike negative prejudgement on single moms though. nobody is the same.

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[farrahmsn]

Wow what kind of ladies you guys messing with? This is crazy.

[SERENAJANELOPEZ]

u r funny...but if that ur opinion.. then good for you i guess.

[MsFirestar21]

You are so real & funny! Where are you from?

[MrJayeWalk]

turn ya alarm off man!

[TheDreadMan]

@MrJayeWalk thats the feedback from my webcam

[blueBlackpurple]

I would much rather date a woman who does not have children. I want to get married and start a family of my own so this is probably why I prefer women without children.

I'm looking for my future wife to start a family with.

[TheDreadMan]

@blueBlackpurple yea & I dont get why SOME single moms think that just cuz a man wants that he's not being fair.

[415east]

@tazamack what planet are u 4rm??? all single moms babydaddy is not no killer or drug dealer thats just ignorant 2 say that..... but u are a right about how some of them bring it 2 theyselves because some of them had good men and ran em off or they knew that man was no good when they laid down with him... its a real shame im barely 21 and i cant find a woman my own age with no kids its crazy

[ElegantlyBrown]

@415east exxxxactly!!! its a shame!! look at the number of men who do not take responsibility. Being a drugdealer or whatever is no excuse. the society gives men a choice weather or not they want to raise their kids or not. Who doesnt like to fuck the bitch and run. Look at how young this girls are and then how old the men are. Its sad because mostly the fact that this girlz have no fathers around push them on this older men for confort, thus they are taken advantage of and the spiral continues.

[ApollosInsight]

@ElegantlyBrown And another thing, black women like you are so quick to point out how us black men are irresponsible, yet whatever happen to "I'm strong, I don't need a man" mentality?

Thanks so much for proving the silliness and hypocrsy of black women. Now I know not to put stock in what you all say.

[vfIskullangel]

Would I date a single mother? Hell no! Id rather be pussy less than pussy whipped.

[Vanesquick]

i have a single father and he told me that at his age it's more acceptable to date women with children since they're in their 30's and 40's and shit.

[RileyRichardz]

What is that annoying alarm sound in the background?

[ATENakaATON]

@Honeygirl1234 that's a lot of work for pussy stretched a mile wide

[deloshawty]

I am a single mother && ii must have to say ii really did enjoy this video :)

[mssquirrely]

cont'd...Just some things I threw out there however I know young ppl want to start out fresh with whomever they are dating and it makes perfect sense....PEACE

[mssquirrely]

cont'd...is trying to be productive, raising respectable, productive child/ren and knows how to balance being a single mom and dating then I'd say for one, you shouldn't have to worry about this person trying to trap you with a pregnancy, you get the chance to actually see what it is to be involved in a child/rens life and three you wouldn't have to worry about being smothered.....LOL!

[mssquirrely]

I can give you my take on the potential benefit of dating a single parent. As I stated before we have the right to our set standards in regard to relationships. I can say a single mom for whatever reason, if she's well rounded, made a mistake learned a valuable lesson, is however taking care of her responsibilities...

[mssquirrely]

Awesome Topic once again and it's "REAL TALK" Don't pass go, don't collect $250 dollars LMAO! In all actuality we do have the right to our own standards and you're insightful. You're preference is a woman without child/ren and there is nothing wrong with that. After all it's not your fault she's a single parent and we don't have to take on anymore than we can handle or want to deal with....PERIOD!.....PEACE

[EmoshunoSoldierMusic]

u should try it ...

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[realcypha]

Once again u brought up an ill ass topic, i was messing with a chick that had a kid already and while we were doing are thing she had a baby on the way. So that's two baby-daddies and i'm not either one (which i'm grateful for). Went thru mad ups and downs dealing with her and in the end it really wasn't worth it but i did learn alot about myself and females dealing with this issue... life lessons

[TheDreadMan]

@realcypha yea man, thats the point im tryin 2 get across, SOME single moms act like dating them isnt an obstacle wit the kids & baby daddy's. & single parent dating aint 4 everybody. but if u kno what u want its out there, u jus gotta look. but im worried about the single moms outnumberin the females who DONT have kids & I'll have 2 settle or be alone

[realcypha]

@TheDreadMan if worst comes to worst, go to europe or canada, i dnt think they have that issue but sadly enough i think we both still wanna give our home team a try, but if i find a UK broad by some miracle and that's good enough, i'm good to go

[SwaggKingGaminghd]

MILF rule lol ur funny bro. great vid. did u have sex wit a mommy before?

[TheDreadMan]

@SwaggKingGaminghd LOL the whole MILF thing. but if u look @ a single mom as a MILF, u jus care about the sex & dont care about the kid. but nah I never have

[nanie913]

I come from a single parent home and I lived with my mom and brother and I deeply respect my mom because she decided not to date while she was raising us and honestly I think her choice was the right one. I think women should keep in mind that when you have smaller children and you decide to date that the quality of your relationships affect your children just as much as it affects you.im not saying dont date but just be careful who you intoduce to your childern

[JunebugObama]

I dated a woman once (years ago) and she didn't tell me that she had THREE KIDS. I didn't find out until I was at her house and all three entered the room. (She was 25 by the way.)

[TheDreadMan]

@JunebugObama yea findin out by suprise is 1 of the HUGE obstacles cuz its like bein put on the spot. an "out of the frying pan, into the fire." kinda thing. & ur 1 of the reasons I made this video & I wanted 2 add my 2 cents.

[shasanni]

@JunebugObama wow man. maybe she thought by telling u earlier u would RUN. and rightly so lol

[BigZeb5]

I know single mothers who still fuck there baby daddys on the regular. For me to continue a relatioship witha single mother. The father has to be almost non existent. Either that or she better be a solid woman. And good lookin. Non smoker or drinker. Maybe a lil drink is ok. I don't want a drunk bitch

[TheDreadMan]

@BigZeb5 yea like I said, THERES NO ESCAPING THAT, she gave birth 2 his child so he still SOMEWHAT has to be in the picture. thats y I have to jus nip it in the bud there

[KingSlayte]

i have dated a single mom n it wasnt that bad at all .. i already knew she had a kid n stuff but i didnt really meet lil man for a min which i commend her on that way her son wasnt introduced to a whole lotta dudes b4 she really got to know them. the down side to dating a single mother the most severe, atleast in my situation is that they mindset about dudes n not really trusting them and also she really cudnt deal with the fact that her baby daddies was bums

[JHook2dafullest]

I'VE ACTUALLY used to see a single mother.....but we lost contact.....I REALLY LIKED HER BUT HER PHONE GOT CUT OFF AND YEAH......it went down hill from there

[k5lta]

My Mom and Father broke up a while ago when i was like 5, i live with my Mom, but i still visit or talk to my Dad when ever i want.

[POINTDEXTADANERD]

i couldn't date a women with a child cause i don't want no baby daddy problems.when i have my shit together and i understand what its like to have the weight of the world on my shoulders then i will start a family of my own.

[soheny]

real talk id prolly just hit, i dont wanna mess wit the kid cause they gettin worse now a days lol

[Breshaun718]

honestly, yes, im young and im not ready to raise a child because with most single mothers, they think that when you start dating her, she somehow assumes you goin start taking care of her child, but u never know, it wouldnt hurt try, i would try it 1 time to see how it goes, but if it doesnt work out then thats it i wouldnt go through that stage again.

[mikebrandimarte]

I would never date a single mom to much baggee and drama maybe when am older just don't like their I deverse everything with no work attitude

[hisham175]

@same here man i dated a couple of moms lol and one thing i noticed from both relationships was baggage! Biological father "with his right" in the equation and interfearing all the time, from now onwards no more single moms for me please no offence but id rather date a girl with no kids involved. Btw i love children and would like to have children of my own but not somone elses children.

[YoungFlo90]

hahahahaha @4:39

[jaysoofly100]

i never been with one..but i would date a female with a kid..only if she has her shit together..job..house/apartment­..own money..car..knows what she's doing with her child and her life.now if you date a no good 'hood' as chick with 3 kids in expect you to do everythang cause you in there life's? you a dumbass..theres plenty where im from..even surburbs chicks to are grimey lol.i be seeing females with the brand new clothes on while they child rockin sketchers at the mall...then tryna holla smh

[Breshaun718]

i never dated a single mother, i honestly dont think i would

[TheDreadMan]

@Breshaun718 do any of these reasons apply to why u wouldnt?

[ThaMysteryMask]

psycho baby daddies LOL, never been with a chick with a kid but it would be strange at first but idk good vid dread!

[TheDreadMan]

@ThaMysteryMask thanks man