VIDEO RESPONSE - Why Black Men Don't Date Black Women

[tlaney29]

No 1 has THE RIGHT to be angry, C'mon! If anything the black man has been and continues to be ostracized by society. Hell I'm a 6'2" 260 lb black man, and people wont even ride the elevator with me (not even you!). The Black man is the only 1 expected to be his natural self, the only 1 judged on his manhood by a hyper masculine standard, EXPECTED to be a FAILURE in school, and constantly labeled as an unfit father, abuser, drug dealer,(see any Tyler Perry Movie). And u think u got it bad GTFOH

[damndisplace07]

Well........you say "black women have a reason to be angry". Cry me a fuckin river. I get tired of people playing the race card. You are what you individually put out to the world. Everyone has a so called reason to be angry. Indians have a reason to be angry because whites took over America, hispanics have a reason to be angry because they are stereotyped as fence jumpers, etc...... Black women are the only ones who use that as a reason to be loud and rude; which is why 70% sistas can't marry.

[tlaney29]

@damndisplace07 PREACH!!!

[Fusion2222]

well.. its just should be like this:

Black men should marry white women,

Black women should be alone, lesbians or whatever,

White men should be alone too and drink or work or whatever.. its simple.

Then we will have no black, no white and everyone will be happy.

[TheGiggles1989]

I say if black men want to go they can go. If you feel as though a women can emasculate you then you're not much of a man in the first place

[genefury75]

I love black women but they are just so cold no man likes a cold woman.

[infraball]

i don't think anyone should feel pressured into dating anyone because of race alone. just forget about race when it comes to relationships, find a guy that likes you, whether he is black or not.

and it isn't anyone else's fault if a black woman does pay attention to the bullshit that natural isn't beautiful, you prove them wrong by being yourself. there isn't anything wrong with a change of hairstyle or clothing but when people go to extreme lengths (bleaching, surgery) then it has gone too far

[caramelking2000]

The bible is a black man's book. Black Women are Spiritually Programmed for Evil after Slavery. You can't help it.

[caramelking2000]

Black Women = The ENEMY It's Biblical ~ ecclesiates 25:24 and isaiah 3:16

[demetriavlogs]

@caramelking2000 and of course the bible wasn't written by a white man... *eye roll*

[CpsLock3]

@demetriavlogs Choo choo the eye train is comming.

[Odakufilms]

He said not all, so how is it generalizing?

[AfroCuban78]

I Think that certain Black men are doing black women a favor, by not dating us. The reason I say this, Is because I get so sick of some of these ignorant ass black men, who tries to come up with a reason to date outside of their race. If you wanna go who cares! My mother is a black woman and my father is Cuban, and do you think she cared about why black men don't date black women hell no! The problem is some of these black men are full of shit! Not all but some.

[SharinganUchiha28]

baby mama bullshit pushing out the guys who want to be fathers of theirs kids,and all because they can't put aside sour feelings.choosen deadbeats okay screw them I myself grow up without a dad but I hold my values up there.

[SharinganUchiha28]

Im know for sure there are many good black women out there who prefer to be different,and hold themselfss to a higher standard then sit there and be angry for no reason.too many times I've tried to be noticed by black women in the past yet it comes down too what kind work do are you into.thats another issue right there.many are seen as money first I know its not right but its the truth in our culture.

nothing wrong with getting to know a black men for who he is instead of his paycheck.

[SharinganUchiha28]

I do agree with what you said here but at the same time many of these women you speak of who choose to put themselfs on display body parts and all on magazine you can pick up anywhere on the street and online.not only that but shows like MAURY who daily help create the problem even more.come on tv lots of times proving the ghetto stereotype.which for me as a black man pisses me off.cause I've never even had a chance to date a black women.

[LYRICALLYCORRECT]

If a Black Woman chooses to be Angry then a Black Man can choose to not date them...

[sophisticatcovergirl]

I can completely agree that we really do get "Tired" of the drama and craziness that we as Black Woman have to deal with

[caramelking2000]

Isaiah 3:16 ~ nuff said

[326Ka]

to me all this sound like is excuses,excuses,excuses.theres no reason to walk around angry at people who've done nothing to you.maybe if bw look for a bm of good character in stead of some thug,player,pimp type maybe they would more then baby mamas.

[rjhome1]

You articulate your points well, but what you have to understand is YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM! The women most black men put on blast should be apparent by now. The loud, rude, obnoxious, ghetto acting, baby mama having, drama queens. Although, I can't reasonably judge you by a 9 minute video, but my first impression of you doesn't fit the the criteria of what most brathas are talking about. But keep making videos, I prefer intelligent view points over ranting.

[spainishgirl]

Well spoken.. SISTER!!

[LavynderSylk]

I hear you but there is a HUGE difference between being politically angry because of injustices and stereotypes in society as opposed to being uniformly angry and catching an ATTITUDE. Getting angry doesn't mean you have to get loud or IGNORANT, which at times "some" Black women do. I may have things to be angry about, but I don't walk around angry, I make a sound decision to do something about it instead of complaining and getting loud about it. To me that is being a productive Black woman!

[DevinDCEG]

This video needs more white women.

[hairpolice1189]

Or for that matter, because ANYBODY has taken care of a whit family... Not in my lifetime, mymom, my gma, or even my great g ma... And I know for a long time.. Wth?

[hairpolice1189]

Yea.. Because you have taken care of a white family??

[usher33]

The problem with the black community is simple lack of knowledge black people need to get educated instead of worrying about stupid things the only way to improve the black community is to get educated clearly you don't fit the stereotype of women Kevin was talking about in his video.

[trajackson22]

I don't think he was talking about all black women, but I understand both sides to both you all's stories.

[xNearDarkx]

You're fat. You don't count.

[99711856]

Thank You for making this video! I was also so offended by his Video as well. There is IGNORANCE everywhere. And i'm a black woman and never demonstrated the qualities he described all the time. I never been a bad woman in general. But i get abused mentally all the time by black men but never said or said even the majority they are like that. I would say thats just a few not all.

[demetriavlogs]

@99711856 Thank you for watching the video and commenting :) Generalizations are never the way to go... I just wish people would realize that... And stating "some" here and there, does not make it okay.

[99711856]

@demetriavlogs your welcome! I just wanted to someone shed some light to this. The negativity needs to stop Us black women should stand together and join together to stop the hate to stop this negative aspects . From watching you and hearing you talk you are educated just like myself. And they get on me cause the way I speak is "white" which is a carrying on this slave mentality. We have to wake up and see what's going on and not allow any generalization seriously should consider a movement

[MrEndlessly]

i think B-women NEED TO SHUT THE FUCK UP! ! he was stating alot of points he's right, you BItches still not listening!

[demetriavlogs]

@MrEndlessly Not that your comment deserves a response ... but I think it's interesting that Kevin makes a video and says anything he wants. However, when someone has a difference of opinion, they're not allowed to express it? Stop being so ignorant, and perhaps listen to a different opinion and engage on an intellectual level. Thank you.

[MillieSince1995]

I don't know.. I'm finding it harder and harder to respect black men who makes this type of videos. And to his defense he made it just to get some attention, it's obvious. But you know what the most disheartening part of it all is these "ghetto" women will STILL get the most attention from these men. They don't pay attention to the quiet black girls or the black girls who don't go to clubs every friday, no, they rather give all their attention to the loud and ignorant ones, then complain.

[demetriavlogs]

@MillieSince1995 I hear you girl. It's frustrating. Thanks for commenting :)

[DaDarkProphet2012]

@MillieSince1995 Why doesn't anybody talk about the "Nice Quiet" girls who are thug and gangster chasing. I've seen it more than once, the good, studious quiet black women who dissed the black men who are also "Nice and Quiet". They like the thug as much as the ghetto chicks you just mentioned. It's very interesting how that Caveat is "Left Out" of the conversation.

[Fromchicago100]

I love black woman

[demetriavlogs]

@Fromchicago100 And we love you :)

[CpsLock3]

@demetriavlogs I don't :3 untill they stop being feminists.

[55DRed]

@demetriavlogs now that i agree w/ but its up us as a indiviual and as a race 2 know the difference, we shouldve learned along time ago that the media only show what they wanna show. I also think that more women should speak out against the ignorance that other project the message would sound better from a woman in my opinion. Just like us men need 2 speak out against the "no good men", if we dont speak against it not only will it never change but it will get even worse

[demetriavlogs]

@55DRed i agree with you here :). I would add though that it's the responsibility of men work with women to take a stand against this ignorance. When you're in a marginalized position, it's always harder to defend yourself because the argument becomes "well of course you're gonna say that, you're biased"... so by black men taking a stand with black women and vice versa, I think we can do a lot of good for the future generations :)

[55DRed]

@demetriavlogs how is he degrading the black community? the ppl the act in the manner the he described are the ones degrading, all he did was put it out there. I think him saying "some" made his statement 100% factual. No need 4 him 2 get negative comment 4 telling the truth. If a person isnt apart of the group of woment that act that way then its no need 2 get offended bcuz he wasnt refferring 2 you. every woman know a female that act exactly the way he described... he told the truth

[demetriavlogs]

@55DRed ok, but these individualized solutions (i.e., don't get offended, if you're not apart of the group) are the types of answers and rationales that come from black women and men as a result of this type of thing. In my experience, at least, this whole 'look out for yourself and do you' type of mentality is exactly what we need to avoid. Are there 'ghetto' 'loud' 'black' girls out there? For sure. However, putting them on blast like that does nothing but create more drama.

[demetriavlogs]

@55DRed the media also shows us that it doesn't matter if we say 'some' or not...people only hear the generalization for the whole race or gender or community. a key example is 9/11 and how quickly the media made people believe that they had to fear muslim and arab-looking individuals. but that's a whole other thing.

[MY2BITCH3Z]

Iloooooovvveeeee herrrrrr!!!!

[demetriavlogs]

@MY2BITCH3Z aww :) thanks so much!!

[knockssudwn33]

u sound very educated thats a plus!!! and ur super pretty :)

[demetriavlogs]

@knockssudwn33 thank you so much :) i appreciate it

[godsheals90]

@demetriavlogs I totally agree with you on Black men need to hold Black women down, because in the history of America the Black man has not been the backbone for the woman/family, it's always been vice versa. During slavery strong Black men were used as mules, taken from plantation to plantation for the sole purpose of producing strong Black children. Blacks weren't allowed to marry etc. I think that Black women are so tired of not being protected by the Black man and they are angry with him.

[demetriavlogs]

@godsheals90 I couldn't have said that better myself... thanks for sharing your thoughts. :)

[stanisha213]

For some of you saying that if you don't fit the description of a black women kev was bashing on then you shouldn't be mad. Not once in his video did he said some or congratulated the few that didn't fit his description so it comes off as him generlizing black women as a whole and for that we are upset. Please stop with the generalizations and stereotypes. If black men want respectable women then they need to act respectable themselves. You reap what you sow.

[demetriavlogs]

@stanisha213 The problem for me is not whether or not I feel attacked by Kevin.. I know I don't fit the stereotype he's talking about. The problem for me is that these comments facilitate the degradation of the black community because what it does is it pins black women against one another, and pins black men against black women. This isn't healthy.

[demetriavlogs]

@stanisha213 Also, thank you for your comment :)

[inounvme1]

This is a very cogent response to an idiotic post by real blah, blah Kev. If a male wants to date outside his culture fine but stop trying to us African American women as an excuse to do so. If you are truly a "black man" then stand on your own two feet and stop trying to justify your choices by using black women! It works both ways, black women also date outside of their culture. It's rare however, that you find black women blogging about it and denigrating black men!

[TheKDsensation34]

Shut yo ass up ! you know damn well that black girls be running around like the own shit. Kevin was speaking da real...wana blame slavery for yall damn ghetto personalities

[55DRed]

so the fact that he said "Some black women NOT all" means nothing 2 you huh? can u honestly say that you dont know any black women that fit the description the he described? he said SOME so if you dont fall in the category why be upset

[demetriavlogs]

@55DRed no, because if 'some' made any difference, his views wouldn't have had as many hits and comments as it does. kevin is not the first to express his opinion about 'black women' or 'some' black women and he won't be the last. my issue lies with the fact that his generalizations regardless of whether he said some or not, work to degrade the black community rather than build it back up. if he delivered the video in a more intellectual and thoughtful way, he wouldn't have received the backlash

[crucial201]

Wtf look at you, your Fat af and you got fake hair, Thats why we dont date black women

[MiiSSAmandablue11]

@crucial201

one of the most idiotic comment iv seen on here, THERE ARE WHITE WOMEN THAT ARE FAT, THERE ARE OTHER RACES THAT WEAR WEAVE/EXTENSIONS etc...so what is your fucking point?..im guessin you are a black male, the least you can do is not live up to the sterotype of low intellectual ignorant black males.

maybe thats why you can't date black women.

[crucial201]

@MiiSSAmandablue11 wtf dont nobody want no black girl thats 80% of black women are single ugly ass doodoomamas with 5 different colors in there head

[demetriavlogs]

@crucial201 i appreciate your comment. thank you for proving my point.

[Preci101]

My original video response for this was too long to post so I will simply just say THANK YOU, I couldn't have said it better myself.

[demetriavlogs]

@Preci101 aww :) thanks for the comment. happy new year!

[lilmohawk15]

You saying that black woman dont make as much income as a white woman. white man or black man , that is soo not true it depend where you wanna go in life , hell if u wanna become a lawyer then ur gunna make more income then an average white man gets .. it depend if u try and not give up ... look at oprah she one of the most sucsessfull black woman out there .. but when she first starts she was being hated on and discriminated .. now look at her shes super rich .

[Preci101]

@lilmohawk15 Calm down sweetie. She definitely said "in the same position." As far as Oprah goes, no I will never down play success but know that many whites will. She will always be seen as "an exception" to the black community in their eyes as opposed to being another successful talk show host. Honestly, many blacks see her as an exception to the black community as well and it simply shouldn't be that way.

[demetriavlogs]

@Preci101 thank you for replying :) I couldn't have said it better myself.

[guyvens2000]

The world can be cruel against certain type of people, race or gender. At the end of the day everyone is responsible for their own actions.

[demetriavlogs]

@guyvens2000 no arguments there... but we do need to recognize and help our communities recognize where some of their internal and communal anger may be coming from.

[adriannaxshanae]

I don't think that black women who don't fit what Kev was describing in his video should be offended..be proud that you are a black woman who can prove that wrong. Don't defende the black women who do act like that. I watched two black women assault an elder on a subway once, simply because she was "looking at them wrong." If that's not you, then be proud. Kev was just saying that the ghetto thing, isn't cute. Kev is not wrong in any way.

[shanekagroom62]

I think that Kevins video was full of so much ignorance...black women face so many challenges daily from being belittle...the african american community in general has dealt with the most struggle to overcome so much poverty being looked down upon for decades and so on its difficult to be someone who society doesn't want you to be...I know plenty of ignorant black men but I would never fix my mouth as a black woman that was birthed from black parents to totally wash my hands with a black man.

[demetriavlogs]

@shanekagroom62 Thank you for your comment :). I agree with you completely.

[crzune]

@shanekagroom62 Ha "african american" vast majority of them don't know any thing about where they came from they're just black americans imo that have lost their culture.

[shanekagroom62]

@crzune I can't speak for anyone but myself and i am not along with the "most" I know my background & where my heritage lies... Regardless of what anyone has to say about black women we aren't all the same.... i'm not.

[aydiallo]

I'm like you...a black woman who doesn't fit those stereotypes and it's frustrating to listen to his rant. I think it's too bad that Kev's video has thousands of hits and yours only a few hundred. It just goes to show that people respond to negativity with much more energy than positivity. Thanks for putting something different than that.

[SmokeChocolate]

@aydiallo you have a point about people responding to negativity. All black women aren't loud but as the old saying goes, "the squeaky wheel get's the oil". It's probably going to be a while before we have any change.

[jaegood89]

@demetriavlogs when Kev made his video, I doubt he was talking about women like you. Sure, there are plenty of eloquent, well-spoken black women like yourself, but there are definitely more of the obnoxious, loud-mouthed ones. And the same can be said about people in general. Intelligence and mild-manners are much less common than ignorance in my personal experience (throughout humans in general, not just races).

p.s. I'm black, so please don't take offense to me calling you articulate

[demetriavlogs]

@jaegood89 Thanks for your comment :) I appreciate the compliment and I definitely don't take offence to it.

[hotShitonDaNet]

yeah I am just saying we should be responsible for our own behaviors. People can understand us but they don't have to accept the attitude or behavior.

[demetriavlogs]

@hotShitonDaNet true. i agree with you there.

[SmokeChocolate]

@Demetriavlogs you have to understand that your type is not common. I'm a black man raised by a single mother, and have lived in 5 different states. I love brown skin to the fullest, but there's a lot of truth to what Kev said. And depending on where your raised really effects your perception. But this can also be flipped onto why NO OTHER RACE wants their daughters to date a black man. As a race, us black people have issues that we have to fix. But you seem to get it, but most others don't.

[demetriavlogs]

@SmokeChocolate Thank you for taking the time to watch the video and comment :) I appreciate your opinion and thanks for stating it in a classy way. I'm sorry that you've had negative experiences with some black women. I hope the positive have outweighed the negative though... Have a happy new year :).

[SmokeChocolate]

@demetriavlogs Same to you, and the negatives haven't scared me way, it just gave me preferences lol. I'm still only attracted to black woman (or anything that looks black) but i do get what Kev was saying. Take care.

[goofywelldone]

So basicaly black we are the problem ? black women have nothing to be blame for ? they're double discriminated against ? bla bla bla bla bla bla bla I don't mind black women but really this is way too complicated ....and I live in Montreal Canada...I can't imagine what it is in the states

[demetriavlogs]

@goofywelldone First, thank you for your comment. Second, the main point that I want you to take from my video is that we as a black community are always doing things to turn on one another. Calling each other out is one thing but doing it in such a way where we refuse as a community to acknowledge the reasons as to why we may or may not act a certain way is another way. We do more damage to the black community than good. And I'm speaking from a Canadian perspective as well; I live in Toronto.

[napturalkassie]

this girl has way more class thank kev. take notes.

[demetriavlogs]

@napturalkassie Aww, thanks :). I appreciate the comment.

[AsAAA51]

you are a perfect example of the type of women, i hope, that kev is NOT talking about. Black women do have a right to be angry but the majority of the time its not anger its more towards being rude allllll the timeeee. its hard to see the better side of a black women when they flip out over little things and treat us badly. but dont go off thinking that black men have it easy... we have problems of our own to deal with, but this is a good respectable video.

[demetriavlogs]

@AsAAA51 Thank you for your comment :) I agree with you 100% that black men do have their own problems to deal with and I think as a community we should be working towards uplifting y'all as well. By me expressing what it means for me to be a black woman and the stresses I face, does not mean that I don't recognize the issues that y'all face. I love me some black men :)

[RaiTheStrike]

what you are saying is true

[demetriavlogs]

@RaiTheStrike Thanks :)

[MrReman23]

8 minutes?pshh bye

[demetriavlogs]

@MrReman23 thanks for stopping by!

[MrReman23]

shutup hoe!

[demetriavlogs]

@MrReman23 awesome. thanks for telling me to shut up when you didn't even have the stamina to watch the video. have a wonderful new year!

[IamMusic247]

Yes we find ways to separate our selves from each other which is not good. We have people out side of our race who already stereotype us so we dont need to do that to our brothers and sisters. For a black man to make a video like that when there are all types of people saying black men are thugs and ect is very shocking to me its like you know what they are saying about you so you should know how it feels. Its sad its like we will never win because there are so many people against us. =(

[ugachick2014]

what she is saying is correct. whether or not his video was a joke, its still dumb that black men and women have discrepancies with each other because we are similar and many ways. in my opinion some men don't think they have anything to do with the wrath of black women because some of them never want to take full responsibility for their actions. if you don't like black women ok who cares, move on to the next race just don't insult black women in the process because thats ignorant.

[demetriavlogs]

@ugachick2014 Thanks for your comment :)

[MrReman23]

@demetriavlogs suck my fucking dick u slut. Until you gag and choke

[ginlover92545]

@vanessat00 LOL that cracks me up Im a black woman I didnt get offended I thought that kevin video was funny! and I tell white women all the time do not take that as a compliment if a black men only dates white women that is letting you know he is only interested in you for a shallow ignorant reason! not all black men just those ignorant kind! LOL

[usher33]

Nice video what Kevin point out in his video a lot of black women (not all) are angry and the anger is mainly toward black men in general. The reason why a lot of black men agree with him is because we all experience the same thing from black women the anger and the verbal assault. It gets to a point now more and more black men are dating even marrying outside of their race more than ever Kevin is not alone more and more black men do feel that way they just don't post videos on youtube.

[St1kyFinguz]

Alright sister, I get what you're saying. the loudness and hostility is a defense mechanism to a fucked up world but, there's sometimes when females want to get offensive for stupid McDonald's type mess.

[demetriavlogs]

@St1kyFinguz lol, I hear you. I definitely know some girls like that. I'm just saying we need to try to understand one another before we jump the gun and start calling each other out and perpetuating and validating stereotypes that have been used to rip us apart. Thank you for your comment :) I really appreciate it.

[missmemorable]

@vanessat00 It doesn't matter that there are several (I'm sure millions) of black women that fit the description that Kevin described. This problem is that we (as black women) are systematically targeted by EVERYONE for EVERYTHING that they see wrong in a few.We are the only group that people can't seem to get enough of degrading and censuring. You are entitled to your opinion, but do us all a favor and STFU about things where you have no realm of experience. 

[imadori1010]

@vanessat00 its different when another race stereotypes you than when your own race stereotypes you. I do agree that if it doesn't apply people she get off it.

[Pomaori]

A large majority of black people are so apathetic and think that they are owed something by society. The society promotes victimization whilst being reluctant to change. They blame everyone else for their problems

[CoOlTy3000]

Wow, this was interesting...

[hotShitonDaNet]

I understand you but I have to say your explaination is kind incoherent to Kevin. He is talking about black women who get mad so quick for so long.

When you are pissed off it doesn't help for you to take your anger out. I may not fully understand to be in your shoes, black women should not take it out on black men.

KNow how to handle your situation and don't take it out on the black men. Controlling you anger can help you and future black women.

[demetriavlogs]

@hotShitonDaNet Thanks for the comment :) What I was trying to get at is that there are a lot of things for black women to get angry about and when some women get mad about something that seems so insignificant it could just be that anger festering and coming out at the wrong time. Some people are better at dealing with anger than others, and others not so much. Also, it can depend on how you're socialized, if you have a hot tempered family, chances are you will be too.

[MichelleHsinger]

Thank you for making this video really great!

[demetriavlogs]

@MichelleHsinger Thanks :)

[erroljarrett1974two]

You made of gd point, thx for sharing this with me. Its seen to me we all need some help in find out how to understand each other. Nice vid x

[demetriavlogs]

@erroljarrett1974two Thanks hun :) I agree with you - I do think we (as a community) need to come together and spend more time trying to understand where we are all coming from. This divide and conquer mentality needs to stop.

[OfficialKohieArts]

I love your video, Our generation of men and women needs some work done.

[demetriavlogs]

@OfficialKohieArts Thanks :) I definitely agree with you.