Bereavement counselling

[onlinecounselling]

Thanks for posting the video. Although grief and loss is one of the most common and strongest emotions we will ever have to bear, we are not taught how to prepare for the death of someone close to us or losing something of importance to us.

[christianlennon1979]

I hope I did not offend in anyway towards you with what I say, I just find to be honest medication and keeping busy and not to think ! I emphasis on the word thinking about, especially about my partner whom committed suicide. I let it go, as soon as I start to think, guilt, anger, betrayal takes over. So I simply close my mind off, and I take your advice as I know it to be true, I never got over the suicide, then losing another partner years years later, I don't want to come over as feeling sor

[christianlennon1979]

Thanku 4 the video.This has helped. you need, I think which I found out

that I wanted 2 be on my own & I could'nt 4 reasons I won't go in2,. It's only now after 6 years, that the anger is starting 2 come out and rise.,Very aggressive, frustrating, so maybe this msg can help other's. It's took me 6 years after losing my wife of 10 years, for my anger 2 start rising & it's not good, so what I am saying is.It can take weeks, months or in my case years 4 anger...I hope this post helps someone!

[dgs772]

@christianlennon1979 Thanks a lot. Similar situation afer I lost my father 5 years ago. My advice: take time off to grieve, don't push it under the carpet because it will come back later I guarantee

[OrientalIndianRose]

I lost my mum nine weeks ago. I lived with her. I have lost my best friend. This space that counselling provides is invaluable. It's interesting that someone posted that the Muslim point of view states it's absurd to grieve beyond four days. That's not what Islam teaches. The usual Muslim way is to talk about it, not ignore it. Which is the counselling approach too. Unfortunately people do say stupid things about the death, and my family cut me off and won't see me, her own daughter.

[nickyact1]

@OrientalIndianRose what a terrible thing. i lost my mum last week and its unbearable in any language or concept. xx

[MissesD123]

@OrientalIndianRose My dad passed a few weeks ago. He was an alcoholic & drank himself to death. His family didn't tell me about his passing or funeral. I found out a week later. I cut my dad off when he was alive because of his alcoholism and I would've experienced periods of isolation were it not for the people I decide as my family (husband, best friend). You can't chose who you're related to, but you can chose who you relate to. Find good counsel/support groups and know you aren't alone.

[SurviveYourGrief]

Yes, the space for feelings is vitally important, but many people avoid counseling and support groups because they don't want to talk about what they're feeling. They want to talk about the death, the person who died, the stupid things people say etc.

[salahuddin786]

Death is a certainty. Just as in birth the mother rejoices but at death she is grieved with sadness.

Based on belief this is also a period to be glad after initial sadness as life has gone into the next phase which will be the Day of Reckoning from a Muslim view.

To wail or grieve for more than 4 days is pure foolishness - pure patheticness.

[nr900]

i wonder how the counsellorfeels during this

[Charlymaumushi]

Intresting. It's sad. We must all endure this though.