Bell Bajao - Got Milk? (English)

[priteshdagur]

And that makes no difference. We ALL need to say No to violence, irrespective of gender. :-)

[priteshdagur]

I personally do not think bringing it to a 'halt' is a permanent solution, a temporary one, maybe. Educate boys about violence right from their childhood. Grown up men are harder to educate. Ingrain the "respect for women" values right from childhood. Educate the girl child to say NO to any form of abuse. Only awareness can bring a big and irreversible change in the right direction

[SYLFan2008]

You do make a good point about educating boys from childhood. However, a lot of domestic violence is a result of misplaced rage, often stemming from similar abuse experienced at the hands of parents, family members, or school-teachers. If we want to educate our kids about physical (or mental) abuse, maybe we ought to stop using such methods as punishment, don't you think?

[priteshdagur]

That is precisely my point too. We need to break the cycle through awareness. Or else, it will just continue. Parents ought to be given lessons etc about how to 'punish' children in a non-violent manner. Only then can we hope to break this vicious circle we are caught in

[SYLFan2008]

Glad you agree. I hope you don't hit your kids if you have any :)

[priteshdagur]

I sure plan to have kids and my husband and I have already discussed it at length. Spare the rod and spoil the child is just not our philosophy at all. Reasonable discussions are a much better option......

[SYLFan2008]

Oh....you're a woman? :D I thought you were a guy...no offence.

Cheers.

[AksheeShadow]

Well I am a female and i have been beaten up when i was a kid but frankly speaking that was not abuse. Sometimes it is what u need to do else we r not far away when like west children will start demanding parents to mind their own business when they r doing drugs and having babies at 15 yrs of age :). Domestic violence is not beating ur kid . My parents never hit me hard enough to even leave a sting later but yes they dd it so i am scared and know drugs is bad enough reason for them to hit me.

[SYLFan2008]

Sorry...but I disagree. My fiancee, who's Indian like I am, has never been beaten by her parents while growing up and she's done just fine. BTW, the whole "having babies at 15 yrs" is another stereotypical outlook of the west. It's bad parenting, i.e. not giving their child attention, that leads to such things, not the practice of sparing the rod.

[AksheeShadow]

Well I am in Indian and i have lived in US for quite some time to see the difference :). I am not glorifying the fact that u should but it is a cultural difference and to each his own. Ur gf may be born and brought up in west. There is a way to raise ur child and to each his own but not all child beating is doemstic abuse was wat was my point. I am not here to discuss on what is right or wrong as it is perceptive. But yes if there is bad parenting it can be anywhere.

[SYLFan2008]

Child beating sends a message that violence can be used as a disciplinary tool. Whether you smack your child on his/her bottom or hand or (worse) across the face, it is an act of violence.

[AksheeShadow]

Good to know ur view now please let the discussion be about the video and not ur views and personal messages. To each his own. Live and let live. Good luck

[AksheeShadow]

Yah u r right completely but wat about the men who are right now grown up and are beating their wives behind doors and the children who r grown in their house will tend to think it is okay to beat up or be beaten up?? In india it is very hard if u a social outcast and i think we should use this to our advantage to atleast make them realize we know wats going on and u r a disgrace so atleast for now they stop wat they r doing. Yes men need to to be bought up differently and i guess we r trying :)

[OrunitaVivi]

God damn, that was like a horror film