A Pause and Food for Thought...Regarding Amelia Massagegoddess

[bbolam72]

food for thought janie

support is the key

-barry

[MissJanieHere]

Thanks! I appreciate everything you said.

[MyLifeInDogYears]

I think the saddest thing about this whole situation is that .. It makes people afraid to express themselves for fear of being hurt.

[MissJanieHere]

that's what i'm saying exactly!

[MyLifeInDogYears]

You are absolutely right!

We need to be building one another up. And realize that Amelia is enjoying her hard work.. we will all get there too!

I was sad to see you upset :(

[MissJanieHere]

sorry about that...it just took me aback that there were people that would actually keep a person from celebrating their accomplishments.

cuz you can tell that it bothered amelia and that is what upset me..she was looking foward to her anniversary and somebody had to throw cold water on it! not right at all!

[gastricRose]

Great video and your food for thought is a great way of saying all that you said.. I have such a hard time expressing my self and you said it all for all of us.. Thank you (Gracias)..rosemary

[MissJanieHere]

thanks. hope you feel better soon!

[bookyroony]

Hi Jane, Great video! I agree completely, very well said.. People just get jelous, and just because she is feeling good about herself and looking gorgeous, people want to tear her down. It's a shame! Becky

[MissJanieHere]

YOu're right, Becky! Absolutely!

[3foldutopiandream]

i've been here over a year & there's been drama since day one. & there'll be even more drama to come. delete it. this is a great video. you're way too sweet. =)

i do have an issue with the fat thing though. not for myself, but thinking about other ppl. someone that weighed 500lbs and had surgery might only get to amelia's pre-op weight. and they'll still be considered "fat". even after WLS and all the hard work. i can only imagine how hurtful that is.

can't wait to see you next week!

[MissJanieHere]

yeah, there will always be drama, but sometimes you have to speak out when you believe in something strong enough. I see what you mean by the word fat, but I am not calling anyone by that but myself and I prefer that word to obese. (i can't stand that word! lol) can't wait to see you too! omg..i am getting sick with excitement!

[kaseypb]

Janie,

Well said.

Thank you so much for all of your support.

Your amazing.

Take Care & God Bless!!

Peace,

Kasey

[MissJanieHere]

Thats so sweet of you to say!

[1cruisedirector]

Some people are just miserable and their own worst enemies.We have our community and each other.Unfortunately,we cannot change the world.Good job Janie. See you next week Diana

[MissJanieHere]

Thanks, Diana! See ya next week!

[cutsiegirlz]

Great Video Janie! I love your common sence!

[MissJanieHere]

thanks!

[sixxmoongirl]

yeah! good points there! people can be mean, i´m trying to keep my journey for myself and for just a few close friends because many people judge me and say cruel things to me cause i´m fat, and when i´m dieting some of them laugh at me cause they think that i can´t do it...es dificil cuando no tienes el apoyo de los que te rodean y creo que este viaje te muestra a tus verdaderos amigos...i think that everybody who is in this journey wants to succeed like Amelia, right? cause i want it too.

[MissJanieHere]

es lo que you pienso. por eso estamos aqui, para el apoyo porque ya recibimos suficiente ataces afuera en el mundo. buena suerte! jane

[weealia]

Very articulately put - I couldn't have said it better myself!!!

[MissJanieHere]

you are very good at saying things, so i take that as a big compliment.

[Astarrbm1]

You rock Janie!

[MissJanieHere]

aww.thats sweet!

[rockybabes1234]

hi janie...why do people watch videos they dont like?i dont understand it...i see this as a big family and loads of friends to turn to...its heartbreaking the troubles and stress u all go thru to be happy and then to be treated this way!!digracefull...maybe they have something in there lifes there not happy with?they turn to TRYING to make others feel low..sorry for this rubbish,ur not full of urself at all...ur enjoying ur new bodies and enjoying life!hugs,annie xxxx

[MissJanieHere]

that's exactly how i feel..i don't know why they just don't watch something else or just not comment if you can't say something nice. everyone here is going thru changes and it isn't right not to let someone celebrate their acheivements. hugs,jane

[LiLtinee]

Thanks, Janie. I go through this not on You Tube, believe or not .. but in REAL life. My sister, who should be a major support person, tells me that I act as if "it's all about me" and calls me "self centered", etc., etc. I have stopped celebrating my victories in front of her because of her comments. I don't see myself as self centered. I'm still struggling with the emotional baggage of years of dieting, even below goal. And in my head, I'm still VERY "fat" and always will be.

Dena

[MissJanieHere]

Dena, I am so sorry that is happening to you. I know exactly what you are talking about. The emotional part is what i am having issues with too. funny how we stay fat in our heads..

[YogiUToo]

Amen! Five stars for you!

[MissJanieHere]

lol! Thanks! We're on our way to SC!! woo hoo!

[avalongirl72]

Great video Janie :) I sometimes think that doing update videos when I am so close to goal may come across as being egotistical so I don't update much anymore. I would like to think that we could support and celebrate our successes but unfortunately there are haters out there :( Can't wait to see you in SC!! Thanks for doing such a great video!

[MissJanieHere]

i noticed that your updates had slowed down and i totally hate that! come back and face the music! lol! cant wait to see you too...just a few more days...can't believe it!

hugs,jane

[eparker0015]

I could not have put it better myself - and I'm a preop. There's nothing wrong with the word "fat"... that's what we are. More than likely, the person who's having such a fit about it is fat but doesn't want to admit it. Maybe they need a 12 step program... Who knows?

Seriously, you're doing a wonderful job just like the peeps you mentioned in your video. Take your pics and post them - it doesn't make you full of yourself. Be proud and show the haters how it's done!!!

[MissJanieHere]

lol! thanks, that is so sweet of you!

[w8loss4me]

Janie, you are so right. I am all for self-expression, but haters are just that...full of hate. We don't really need more hate in the world. Some of these hateful expressions are actually a manifestation of that person's own self-loathing.

[MissJanieHere]

I just feel that we are here supporting each other, but if that person is at a place that we don't get..then why say anything bad..just let it lie and know that this is a crazy journey and what we feel today may change tomorrow. did that make sense? lol

[winelover215]

A+ video Jane. I don't know why someone would even take the time to send hate mail like that. What is the point? I just ignore and not watch people that get on my nerves. YOUR NOT ONE OF THEM :) HUGS. Can't wait to see ya soon!! BTW you look sooooo healthy!!

[MissJanieHere]

I know! lol! you are too funny! can't wait either!!! just a few more days!

[MyLifeInDogYears]

One my favorite quotes is :

The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.

No one in the WLS community should ever be afraid to express themselves. Good, bad, or otherwise. We are all here for love and support.. I think the person who wrote those things, had noticed that Amelia was happy and free in expressing herself and took it the wrong way.

[MissJanieHere]

That's what I am hoping happened.

[Opendoors08]

There is always going to be drama on here...and miserable people that have nothing better to do..I think we are all going to change to a certain degree too...Well said -- miss ya! :)Amyxo

[MissJanieHere]

I think we do change, but gosh, can't we just roll with it?? lol! love ya! jane

[bratlee2u]

Great video, Jane. I could not agree more.

[MissJanieHere]

Thanks...! Next week is almost here!

[selaina48]

Well said, Janie. You're very wise in your words and ways.

[MissJanieHere]

Thanks...not too wise...just speaking my truth.

[ActionWords]

Great post.

Here is something to consider. Hurting people, hurt people. The haters on Youtube are sometimes just random miserable people who hate to see others succeed because it reminds them of their own failures.

Misery loves company. Then there are some people who are selfish, small minded, mean hearted evil people who just want to steal some of the joy and satisfaction away from those who have overcome great personal challenges. These people are haters. We must simply delete & ignore them.

[watchmegetskinny]

Quote of the day: "We must simply delete & ignore them." That is the way I have approached this topic. I was going to do a video as well on the exact same topic, but let's face it... It isn't going to change the mind of those type of people. Also, it isn't worth my time!

[MissJanieHere]

True...but there are times that when something bothers you enough you have to talk about it.

[MissJanieHere]

You are absolutely right!

[nubeginnings08]

Well said.... I agree wholeheartedly with you!!!

[MissJanieHere]

Thanks!

[Texaslovely99]

I could tell you were upset when you started your video girl, I think Amelia handled it very well with what she wrote back. Glad you made it home safe. Love ya, Monica

[MissJanieHere]

She did handle it well! We've got to talk, girl! Miss ya!

[YvesXMetamorphosis]

You are one of the most sincerest persons on you tube Janie! Well said my friend!

[MissJanieHere]

Thanks, Yvette!

[LapGyrl]

Hey Janie! I, too, was upset by the comment about Amelia. For you guys to open up and share such a personal journey...you should be thanked, supported, and encouraged. Not sent hate mail. Do some people change after weight loss? Absolutely, but it's not always bad. Of course your confidence and self esteem are boosted but poeple should applaud that. I'm with you, nobody I'm subscribed to has change once they reached goal. So I say just bump the haters b/c there are far more lovers! :-)

[MissJanieHere]

Exactly!

[ShrinkinPhotographer]

good points Janie. And I honestly thought the dogs in the background were here LOL I finally paused it and was all OHHHH ok. SHeesh. Anyway YOU have a great week too! ~ Nicol

[MissJanieHere]

lol! they were loud, right! ...just a few more days...

[reneluvsbeads]

You know what Janie, there are always the handful of idiots that try to ruin it for everyone else!I can't wrap my head or my heart around someone attacking her that way. They are just simply "JEALOUS" and mean spirited. Emile didn't deserve that comment and what we should do is wrap our hearts around her and continue to support eache other and show that person that that comment meant nothing!!!!!!

[MissJanieHere]

You are right.

[mark45acp]

spot on as always. thank you for nailing these issues PERFECTLY. I know I can't wait to get to my goal and be in the shoes of those that I was inspired by when I started blogging my own journey.

[MissJanieHere]

That's exactly how I feel!

[losinmyself2slow]

Well said Janie! That's all- you are so right! ~Betty

[MissJanieHere]

Thanks! We've got to keep supporting each other!

[xlolagolightlyx]

As always Jane you have amazing and valid points to share. I haven't seen it on youtube, but on some of the surgical weight loss boards once people get down to goal suddenly they're like lepers. It makes me sad, because no matter how much you lose, or how you learn to maintain there will always be that part of you that was the fat kid or how ever you want to say it. When I grow up can I be like you?

[MissJanieHere]

You are too cute! You will grow up to be a great YOU!

[xlolagolightlyx]

One can hope. You are just so honest and open and everything you say or do seems to be about being a good beautiful soul. You are so supportive of everyone around you and open with your care and love- and whoever I become, I would lucky to have half your amazing qualities, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

[allisonpacino]

Thank you for always supporting everyone Jane...The point is that Amelia and I were joking...I joke around a lot and people should know that by now.

[MissJanieHere]

I knew you guys were joking which is why it freaked me out that someone could say those things.