Self image (women & men)

[speed0spank]

I think it is more sad that women's beauty is based on the current male standard. Back when, the reason more voluptuous women were the in thing was because males were into voluptuous women. Now most men are interested in seeing skinny big boobed women and thus media shoves that image down our throats. If the world keeps basing beauty on the male standard, things will never change. Men's opinions dominate most everything.

[Stardweller1]

I have seen Tough Guise, am reading Odd Girl Out, and agree completely with this video. My philosophy is to try to see other people as human beings before I see them as anything else.

[mar7iah]

God made us all different just be yourself and I'd rather be poor then rich anyday

[tiwita]

I totally agree with everything you said. And you have probably seen it already but to anyone who hasn't I completely recomed the documentary Killing us softly, it's on youtube.

[Dis3nchanted89]

Your 'thick women' being beautiful theory is probably true to some extent, but it also has to do with reproduction. Back then, women who were curvier were seen as more appealing because to men of the time, big hips and breasts meant that they would make better baby factories because their body was more adapted to it. I totally agree with you though, and I love your videos! :)

[Hauler24]

What about a person getting fit and in shape for self gain? That has nothing to do with any of the materialistic things your talking about. I agree that people can be whatever they want and if they're bigger then what is normal, but your making it seem as if it's bad to get in shape and look fitter. I think you rethink what your saying because looks does play a role in life and while I don't think that is right, that is the way the world is. I think that it is perfectly ok to go to the gym.

[deliciousnesss]

I completely agree.

And also, women always try to bring down other women who - how shall I put this? - they feel is a *threat* to them.

By eliminating that person whom they see as a potential threat's self-esteem, or trying to somehow .. manipulate, their friends to turn on them: They are breaking that person down. Eliminating that threat.

And gaining.. what?

0,1 % more chance to charm the pants off that cute guy??

Worth it?

Not even a bit. We should be supporting each other.

[su12qc]

everyone wants 2 change sumthin about themselves, and we want 2 feel good about ourselves so that is y we exersize

[Bongtasia]

i love my persian =X

[trickychicksoda]

it's easy to be comfortable in your body when you are average/thin, can shop for clothes in the mall, are considered attractive by the opposite or same sex. when you don't have any of those things going for you it's a lot harder. nearly impossible. it's like fighting a constant headwind to get anywhere emotionally/mentally. even in the workforce.

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

I understand why you would think that but it's not always the case. I know quite a few people (not just women, but men too) who have difficulty finding clothes that don't just hang on them, girls who are embarassed because their boobs won't fill out a shirt or dress like they're "supposed to" and people do make comments about thin people too "omg did you see that girl had no ass!" "Wow, does she/he ever eat?"

- All I'm saying is that it goes both ways.

[KrisMTL]

@trickychicksoda I agree with Tricky, 100%.

[kbenge89]

Women competing is completely retarded. I've mentioned that to my boyfriend before. That's honestly why I don't have many female friends.

[artandvictoria]

Primavera!!!!!! The painting!!!!!!!

[lalagoaway12345]

girls try 2 put other girls they r jealous of down all the time.

[flowerpower213456]

I wish society changed the perception of beauty. Today I feel kind of stupid because when I was only 11.. still in elementary school, I already had several issues with myself and my body. I never had an eating disorder, but the things going through my head were soo wrong and awful.

[cherkas009]

but what you dont touch upon is image is crucial to make money, find a mate friends etc for your self. The difference between a freind and sex partner is the sexual attraction(looks image). So ya grooming cleanliness are all part of image. I dont think your advice works in the real world!

[jamestube12]

you are talking crap

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

Didn't see this comment until now but sexual attraction isn't only based on looks. Haven't you ever met someone who you initially thought was BEAUTIFUL (physically), but they turned out to be such a bitch/asshole, that it just turned you off completely to the point that you don't even see their beauty? Or someone who society may not see as strikingly beautiful, who is so sweet, so good natured, that your perception of their level of attractiveness shifts?

[cherkas009]

@HippyL0ngst0cking Well the last part of what you said. In order to have sexual attraction to someone different than friendship--you have to have the physical attraction. The other person doesnt have to be pretty, but there is a physical attraction. Otherwise personality etc just means you are friends.

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

Image *is* crucial to make money...if you're a model. But even then - there are "ugly" or odd looking models - and 9 times out of 10, those are the ones that progress the furthest in the industry, because it's not all about image, but about presence.

[cherkas009]

@HippyL0ngst0cking I have to agree!

[geoffreyah]

Gracilous or robustous-or veriations in between Is what evolution gives us. Capitalist dogs are vultures to the dumb puplics worthlessnes-

[STARDORKS]

hello friend,

i must say you almost understand the universe,

but you are still missing the big picture.=)

[MakeupByRisa]

which would be...? :)

[STARDORKS]

We come from God.

oh and you were talking about how the makeup industry "brain washes" girls into things.

Thats propagandagh!

The satanic one world commuist fascist governemtn is doing that also!!!

its ALL the devil.

you probably think i am dumb, i get that all the time.

But GOD is real!!!!!!

AND JESUS WAS THE SAVIOR!!!!

The T.V. is always trying to destroy God and the True History, becasue they want everyone to be SLAVES!!!!

People back in those times lived for 100's of years!!!!

[DanielForkbeard]

Yet YOU have a make up channel. Hm, all about money?

[justlikeEmma]

makeup is art :)

[GingerXofXsnap]

Yeah?

and?

Can't a person have more than one opinion?

[MakeupByRisa]

Makeup is an art. Especially the type of makeup I do, and enjoy creating. I'm not about covering "flaws" The face is a canvas and makeup can be used to "play". Makeup, if one desires to use it, should be fun, but not a necessity. And actually working in the industry is the reason I can see things for how they are. Cosmetics companies and media manipulate a consumers idea of "beautiful" is. This is why I cannot work for companies anymore and I only freelance. I can't stand the BS they shove

[MakeupByRisa]

down women's throats and the way in which they prey on any insecurities.

[DanielForkbeard]

Someone TRULY asked you to talk about something. HAHAHAHAHA. We live in such a broken world. Oh the dark ages are upon us.

[MakeupByRisa]

You're right, they are indeed. We will continue to live in the dark ages as long as condescending, sexist assholes like you still exist.

[youngnewtonian]

The thing is that you can be whatever you want, but everyone around you is also getting bombarded by media. So if you look like even a tad bit fat, everyone around you laughs.

[MakeupByRisa]

Yes but like I said, it has to start somewhere. If each of us start with ourselves - we can change our mentality. Also, when you are confident in who you are as a person and truly love yourself, people may laugh, but you don't even notice because their laughter doesn't matter or affect you.

[rootuesdayx]

I 100% agree with you.

I'm a curvy girl, and I LOVE my curves; if only society saw them as beautiful too! there used to be a day when women were celebrated for being curvy and vuluptuous, the media need to recognize that not everyone can be 5'11" and stick thin, and give women the confidence to love their bodies.

it's so sad.

[beasst94]

good vid- great points made

[rawwwrrr1]

You're not rambling; everything you have to say is important and I love hearing it :) I agree with you so much. Thanks for posting this vid XD

[xosarahelizabethxo]

Risa, you are amazing.

[Colleenchi15]

Agree with you 100%. Risa you are inspirational, love you girl! xxx

[alb885]

I totally agree with you. Also you bring up a good point about history and image, it's kinda scary when you look at how image has progressed/degressed. I remember in history talking about the same things you touched on and also how the higher class it was sought after to be fair skinned/pale because it ment you didn't work. Now being tanned is the trend. Like you said change must start with us and we need to stop judging others and embrace and love the diffrences.

[SuperSoph666]

I really couldn't agree with you more on everything you said to be honest.

Curvy girls all the way, skinny isn't attractive infact size 0 is disgusting and most men prefer curves :)

& that whole catty sneaky way that girls fight is so annoying and thats why i prefer hanging around with lads as they are fun and don't bitch.

You're a star Risa.

Xox

[MissCherryLiciousQT]

Ok I may be out of line but think about how you would feel if you were say a size 20 and you saw somewhere it saying its disgusting to be a size 20. In fact I'm sure you've seen it because there's shit like that everywhere but i digress. We are ALL beautiful regardless of our pant sizes. We are ALL worthy of love & respect. And there's someone out there for everyone.

[MissCherryLiciousQT]

That was for the girl's name that started with Sophie :)

and before you think that I'm a bitter size 0 girl, I'm a 20 lol.

[SuperSoph666]

I was just stating that i don't think a size zero is healthy or attractive.

[Polkendotts]

HEY HEY HEY!

I am naturally a size zero, and i used to be really self conscious about it because i HATED how stick i was. I wanted curves.

You have to understand that saying this "zero is disgusting" is pretty offensive and in fact it is quite catty.

Calling someone "too skinny" can be just as offensive as calling people "too fat"

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

I agree with you (@Polkendotts) whole heartedly. A lot of people I have known who most people deem as "too skinny" dont want to be that skinny - its equally trying to attempt to fill out dresses or shirts or pants or whatever.

[katiebrookeee]

so yah i pretty much love this channel, ur such a real person!

[AwesomeMandy]

I am so glad you made a second channel because I like hearing what you have to say. You are an intelligent, beautiful lady. :3

[inezcaroline]

the painting is called "the birth of venus" :)

[leccah]

i don't think that being skinny is a sign of money. but i do believe that being overweight/obese is a sign of poverty. fat is cheap. the cheaper cuts of meats always have more fat. there are more Maccas in lower socio-economic areas, because the business is there for it. there is a demand for it.

just my thoughts. i did my 'childrens study' for year 12 (final year of high school in australia) on this topic. - so i'm not an expert, but the research was eye opening.

[fmnisar]

well its a long debate but i agree with you 100%

[b4bym3liss4]

I wish women would be more curvy.

I wish I could be, but that's just not the body type I was born with.

[poli35uk]

I believe that the size "0" mentality is dangerous - and that woman should have curves

[Sara140384]

You have everything spot on, I couldn't agree with you more.

[kyuubified]

Risa, you are such a beautiful person inside and out. I think you discussed this issue perfectly.

[xFunshine]

You're so intelligent, Risa. I love hearing your thoughts and opinions, and I hope you keep making videos like these! :)

[unknowninsanity00x]

you should become a youtube partner and just ramble about stuff for hours, k? lol i love the way you think about things. it's so interesting to me :)

[claire0147]

I will never do plastic surgery ! Hell no ! I am like I am, that's all.

I do think that if you have an accident, surgery can help and I will do it if something happen to me, but I hope not of course.

Beauty is from the inside and pop out on the outside. I know beautiful person on the outside who are not on the inside. And they are damn boring and are not beautiful from the outside anymore.

If I change, I'll change for me. Not for anyone else. And nobody should change for someone else.

[LisaTwamley08]

The birth of venus

[macmaniaca]

beauty myth from naomi wolf is a great book about this topic!

[nanushka]

I'm 1.77m and weigh around 70 to 73kg. Healthy enough. Plus, I look not fat nor thin, just normal. I had a thrombosis a few years ago, when I was 20. A few doctors studied my case and one of them said (and obviously was a woman) that I probaby had that illness 'cause: " you have a very important overweight issue"...that's what she told me. I live in Spain, in Barcelona to be precise. Everyone has to be thin, really thin, even a big boned girl like me...

[nanushka]

The shocking thing is that a DOCTOR told me that... Spain has the leadership on cosmetic surgery of all Europe and is one of the top places in the world. Whereas the nature of spanish women is to be curvy, fashion dictates otherwise and women over here are obsessed with it. There are even stores which only sell from 32 till 38 sizes (I think is sizes 6 up to 10 in America). This world is crazy, when is all this gonna stop?!?! Greetings from Barcelona..Thank you Risa!

[0misspumpkin]

Oh how I understand this! I'm from Valencia (Holaaa!!) and I suffer so much because everyone in this city is OBSESSED with image and looking skinny, and I'm definitely not. I have the hardest time accepting the way I look :(

[recapitulation]

Word Risa!

[michelleintech]

right on chicky u hit it right on the head lol perfect...if u live this everyday the world will change !!

[angelmouse432]

Also...i met a guy on the net just over 6 months ago...we talked on Skype and MSN everyday for hours and i realised i was falling in love with him and we had never even seen each other. We have that connection and have now seen each other. He is gorgeous (to me) but i wouldn't care if he wasn't. We just click and have so much in common.

We are a 6 hr flight apart but plan on meeting next year. Thats the beauty of the net i guess. But how he looks is incidental to me :)

[angelmouse432]

Totally agree Risa, we place so much value on looks and appearance...

What happened to being a nice person?!

[emilylengriffin]

You are so right Risa. You are incredible.

[damnchan36]

I completely agree. Honestly I;m really worried about the generations to come because it;s only getting worse. :(

[xbatsxx]

i agree: plastic surgery is bullshit.

love ya, risa!

[stlz07ruby]

FINALLY!

[MelloJel312]

I totally agree with you. More videos like this! : )

[mullett52]

it would be more fun if the media tried to make us fat.. and promoted food!

sorry that was a really dumb comment. i understand you meaning and i agree... but i do love food.

i loveeee your make up videos!

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

LMFAO!! That really made me smile and *lol* in real life. That would be funny. But the thing is, they do!!! In a sense...because if they can market mcdonalds as healthy, so we think we're eating healthy, yet still gaining weight - then they can market the pills, surgery etc etc

[yoyocanary]

The Birth of Venus.

I feel that you would be interested in Mary Leapor's "An Essay on Woman." and "The Lady's Dressing Room" by Jonathan Swift, for historical perspectives.

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

Ooohhh! Thanks for the reccomendation! I'm always looking for new books :)

[Sassafras72]

I totally agree with you. I use to have very bad self esteem and I use to see myself poorly and not how others saw me. I use to use my disability as a way or a reason to push people away. I thought it a curse instead of a blessing. Now I have learned to embrace me and all my flaws or what others see as flaws cause I dont see flaws, God made me exactly the way I am suppose to be--disabled and all. Its a blessing not a curse. It has made me strong and outspoken and who I am. I dont like labels and

[Sassafras72]

never have. I will not let society tell me who I am suppose to be and how I am suppose to look. I dont let others dictate my life. It is as you said very sad that people fall into these traps and the only way "I" could learn to pull myself from them was to tell myself over and over again that God doesnt make junk" and I am exactly what I am suppose to be. Once I really believed that and knew where I was spiritually everything else fell into place. I believe you do have to something to believe

[Sassafras72]

in no matter what that is because it gives you a foundation. :) Thank you for this video. I love hearing what you have to say.

[JessKoeh88]

Well said, Risa. I totally agree that we need to accept ourselves. Personally, I have curves, and I like being curvy! While I am trying to lose some weight for health reasons, I don't want to lose so much that I lose my curves because I wouldn't be me.

[elementalone75]

Preach!

[rockerchick2719]

I love these vids!! more please

[stlxprincess]

In terms of how kids interact these days, I feel like they are under even more scrutiny and pressure than we were. They live in a hyper-celebritized society, and constant streams of information from digital media through tv and internet.

I know my son, who is 10, has been called "fat" since first grade, and he has never been fat. It's a scare word the kids know to use on one another, even at that early age! They hear it in media and from their siblings and parents as an insult, so they use it.

[HippyL0ngst0cking]

I heard a 4 year old in target telling her mom she didnt like the shirt she was wearing because it made her look fat. WTF?!? FOUR YEARS OLD. Hello world!!! WE HAVE A PROBLEM.

[shewhoishappyinpants]

This isn't completely related, but in the school district that I graduated from has a Body Mass Index system that is mandatory. And in the elementary school if the kids score a certain amount of BMI showing they are overweight, or what have you, their report card won't be sent home and their parents have to come have a talk. I can see from a purely bureaucracy stand point on how it makes sense, but emotionally I don't see it as anything more then just another way to lower self esteem.

[SarbuttX3]

I definately agree with you!

[clandestinecoherence]

love your opinions :]