Great advice... I just noticed i had a drama magnet and the same piece shit person trying to be my best friend. lmao..... thank goodness i saw you vid. =]]]]]
dude fuck you my moto is they fuck with you then you fucking kick there ass and im only in middle school but im small though people think just because im small they can pick on me well they found out yesterday that they cant this boy went to go hit me and i took his arm and bent it behind his back i almost broke his arm i nearly got suspended i dont like to tell on people my mom said dont hit punch so there she didnt say sart a fight but she said quote "dont start a fight finish it"
okayy i need advice and i loved this video so i thought i wouldd come tew yhu: people r telling my bestt friendd thatt im sayyingg stuff about her whenn im not. the girl is like a sister to me and we've been through a lot but nomatter wahtt i saidd she wouldnt believe me and we got into a big fight adnd now she wont talk tew me. wahtt should i do cuz i need to get my bestie backk.! plz helpp me buck.!!!!!!!
Thats gay.Dont listen to him.If someone talks crap behind u,u just go there and beat the crap outta them.Trust me ull feel much better.And theyll never talk behind ur back again.
@Creevie Dont fool ur self.We all know that civilized ways dont work on all people.About creation...yes theres a creation involved in it.U create the foundations of a peacefull future.
haha this happened to me. i likied this guy and he said he liked me i had my first kiss with him. the day after we kissed he wented out with someone else. yeah. 2 weeks later he wanted me 2 date his best friend.
What about what they say behind your back are all hurtful lies? Or someone you found out was doing and saying horrible things to you. That is NOT a true friend. Clean house don't surround your self with anyone negative. Just end your friendship with haters. My advice is to surround your self with people with simular interest who have goals and don't do drugs. Drugs suck! You deserve the best!
@ILuVyOu1234100 The only thing that is worth while is cronic weed it is good for people who are sick or to relive stress. Everthing ele sucks belive me I've been their and done that. You don't want to get caught up in speed or anyother drugs besides weed. Please listen to an old man who's been their and done that. And it's almost impossable to quit.
To summermusic--google free therapy sources in your area and/or tell yours/his guidance office so they can bring him in for a talk and possibly find him some services. Hang in there--just be there for him--it's all you can do beyond seeking help for him.
I agree with you completely about not going and telling someone.when some one says something like that. i have a friend who dose that all the time and i think its better just not to know. its onl gonna hurt them. i mean they could advise not torust that person but theres no need to tell them something thats gonn upset them.
My brother had a friend, they were very close, now when he went back to school his friend wont talk to him. He's talking about suicide and how pointless his life is, we cant afford theropy or anything fancy, and I worry about him so much. He comes home crying everyday, and we all love him and are very concerned and scared. And he has a hard time making friends bcause they kepp on teasing and bullying him. WHAT CAN I DO or WHAT CAN HE DO?!?!? PLEASE HELP ME!
i dont agree about the person that conveyed the information- they might ahve their heart in the right place, wanting to protecting you from placing your trust in somebody that is false to you- id consider that loyalty.
I have one "freind" who is too immature to understand a serious conversation, she CONSTANTLY talks about everyone, even her closest friends. So, I tend to not talk to her or tell her anything now, if someone tells her a secret, she'll shout it out infront of everyone the second you're done talking. -.-;
Then she'll keep talking about it to everyone else, then that person will become a target for bullying.
Hi buck I have a question I am 11 and I like this boy and he likes me but he has a girlfriend that he only sees once a week I know its wrong to break them apart for my own good but I love him to much is what I am doing wrong?
@sarahbieber3399 you are 11. You don't need a boyfriend. Certainly not one that's going to cause you grief. You're never going to find someone you want to be with forever at that age. Be 11. Be a kid. There's plently of time for dumb boys later. :P
Captcha took over, and I lost most of what I needed to explain about clever sociopathy, and warning signs! (You really suck Youtube - FIX THIS NOW!)
New friends and even old ones may develop a personality change during their life, When you notice something amiss and confirm they are clever, deceptive, hateful, and sane!: Avoid them as soon and as much as possible!
Get video evidence that proves this, and call out their behavior anonymously online with the evidence! Then contact an attorney!
Have a lot of bad experiences of really bad people/selfish/brainwashed/etc. pretending to be friends.
Some new friends, and even friends who have changed in their character or personality. They hide their true selves with false personalities (pretending to be a good person, but act much differently when they feel they can get away with it!
@ncpreed3 If you have so called "Friends" Who talk behind your back: THEY ARE NOT FRIENDS AT ALL-THEY ARE YOUR ENEMY! They are not ever worthy of contact with you in any form ever again in your lifetime if they do this to you!
People who talk behind your back negatively, can never be trusted! You should never contact them again in any form, they have proven themselves to be completely untrustworthy!
And may use any information they learned about you against you repeatedly from now on!
Honestly, I have a friend who talked behind my back. She's one of those who I kinda want to drift away from. But at the same time I want to say something, because it angers me. It's something she's done so many times. Especially after we've fought, and she goes and calls me bad names behind my back. It's between me and you, don't drag someone else into this please!
If you confirmed they are talking about things said in private/confidence, and is telling anyone/everyone about what you said, true/false, they are criminals now officially! They violated your privacy , and with solid video evidence and or witnesses, you can sue AND file criminal charges against them for disclosure/slander/libel in court, if your life was ruined in any way!
I have lost all but 1 friend, my neighbors and entire family don't trust or believe me! I wasn't prepared!
Good advice :). i had the same situation and apoligized like a mature person when i didnt do anything to begin with, and just realized she was a piece of crap because she is so full of herself she just ignored me. i dont want that in a friendship.
Buck with all due respect.What makes you think your capable of giving examples of behaviour/setting examples when all you do is making fun of people on"what the buck".Haven't you thought that there might be some young people out there who would have learn this sort of behaviour from you
Buck with all due respect.What makes you think your capable of giving examples of behaviour/setting examples when all you do is making fun of people on"what the buck".Haven't you thought that there might be some young people out there who would have learn this sort of behaviour from you.
Wow, Hitting the target with this video. I wish I could tell everybody to come watch this video. This is great advice. Congratulations for giving the most real advice through youtube. Thumbs up is an understatement. Also about the person that told you, I think that it completely depends on the circumstance and the reason this person has to come tell you about this. Anyways again great video.
I totally agree it's important not to overreact. There is a real problem, especially on the internet, with people posting friendship problems to the Twitterverse or Facebook that they should really be bringing up with one specific person in a private way. Social networking is giving people an easy way to blow off steam without learning to handle confrontation in an adult, positive way. Relationships are all about communication, and people who can't be communicative with you are not good friends.
the twelve that didnt like this do not understand what you are trying to say, LOVED THIS! it was something i deffinately needed to hear. thanks Buckly. ♥
great advice (: except wen sum1 talks shit at my skewl u get punched in the face and get ur shit knocked so no one really talks shit about me cuz they will get there shit knocked :)
i relise that you probably won't even notive this comment, but your advice couldn't have come at a better time for me. Sometimes i just wish everyone could be loyal and get along and as much as your advice is helpful sometimes life just sucks and shit just hurts
I like honesty. If someone says something bad about me, don't see how I could be upset by it. thats there opinion. it could be mostly true, or a b.s lie. if its a b.s lie then even more a reason not to care.
why must people yearn for others approval so badly? in life, some people will like you, some won 't. simple as that. and if it is an honest opinion, such as "his clothes look like horse shit and I hate the way he ties his tie!", how could one be upset over that? again, thats there opinion.
I used to have a "best friend", and we had a mutual agreement to be honest with each other. Except she couldn't take the honesty, and she got mad so she talked about me behind MY back. (I'm an Aspie. To me, honest = honest. To her, honest = sugar-coat it. I didn't know that then.) What really made me mad was when she ditched me and then spread rumors about me. She turned all of my "church friends" against me. (Ironic? No, a lot of church people are judgmental.)
I feel I need to qoute means girls. "If someone said something bad about you would want me to tell you right?" "No" "What if it was someone you thought was your friend" As a pro at being talked about behind my back I always want to know whats being said, secrets and gossip can be very dangerous now a days its not just simple "Oh janis is a dike" Anymore it can really start some trouble and get people hurt though your point is a valid one.
@gimgurl437 I have almost the exact same problem. My plan is to just avoid her until she catches on, but in a nice way because i dont want drama or a confronation or anything, im just done with this person
Oh yeah. And my best friend (my only female friend right now^^) had this problem for years with her male best friend. He always told people about things she told him as a friend and he told lies about her. Now she finally got rid of him and her life is much easier than before
Thanks for this vid. All my life I had the problem, that my female friends talk behind my back or try to steal my boxfriend and stuff. What led to the fact, that now my circle of friends consists almost completly of boys. And it works just fine
I kind of disagree with one point of your advice. I don't know the whole situation, but if a "friend" is constantly talks smack about you behind your back even though you aren't doing anything to provoke them, I would think a mutual friend clueing you in would be a good thing. I'd want someone telling me what is going on, so I could make decisions on the friendship. However, if the trash talker is just blowing off steam and venting, then you're right - dump the drama queen. Just my 2 cents.
@WHATTHEBUCKSHOW I completely agree. It just depends on the context of the situation. If your friend is being a true friend and watching your back, that's one thing, but stirring up cr*p for the sake of stirring it up...dump 'em!
Yeah unfortunately I've had a lot of friends that treated me like that. So eventually like you said I just kept a tight nit group of friends instead of a crap load lol. It always just bugged me that people would pretend to be a friend.....I mean who does that?
PS: I really like your outfit Buck. It looks great :D
I'm trying to create a an anti-child abuse channel, and need to promote it if possible could you help, by doing a vid- response on what you think about it?
it's funny how in in that situation right now. Thank you so much for this cause no one's been telling me this advice. Your honestly the best person ever, and thank you for this cause now im going to move on from drama. <3
When people cut you down and talk behind your back, just remember they took time out of their pathetic lives to think about you. I love your message, Michael!
every child between the ages of 12-16 need to watch this video. saying something on facebook or to a friend is just lame on their part, and insults them rather than you since they don't have the balls to be actually upset about it and tell you to change! wtf everyone!
Actually I don't think that you should say to your friend "why did you do this?" if you did not actually hear them say it. Stick to the "I heard you said something negative about me, IF you did say this stuff could you tell me why? As I don't know what I did wrong or even if I have done something. Sorry if I offended/upset you." That way it's less confrontational and you're saying if showing that you don't quite believe they did it but you wanted to check just in case you'd done something wrong.
OverReacting is Hard Not to do. People's automatic response is to "react." It is best to think about it first and then reasonably respond. Just had that happen on YouTube/Twitter. But hey, I let that person be negative and they can keep it. Let the Hate boil in them and I Move on! Be a Good Buck!!
awww your the sweetest buck, i know what you mean about bad people pretending to be your friends, a few months back i recently told someone a don't want to be her friend because she was always taking her problems out on me, she has become so obsessed with losing weight that she cant see happiness even if it hit her in the face, she has a boyfriend but still isn't happy with herself. I tried talking to her and she said she was stressed out because of work and her weight (she ain't really that big
@emmabee11 She just likes to stir up drama and to make other people feel sad to make her feel better, even when i talked to her she still took it out on me and being stressed out isn't a good enough reason to be horrible to someone.
ppl jus need to stop bein mean to start wiv, last night a v close friend ov mine sed sumthin really harsh to my face n it hurt like hell n in sum ways i think it less jerky coz he sed it 2 my face bt then i feel like it makes it arkward wiv the friends we have in common coz they dnt kno wot a bitch hes bin n its very sucky wen sum1 u trust sez sumthin dat they kno will hurt u especly wen its uprovoked :( meh y r ppl like this ?
i have the same problem. i have some real friends but in my school there is many people who talk about me stupid things,but i still talk with them,smile to them, but i don't trust them and i just don't help them when they need help.
and if someone is talking behind your back,that could mean two things: A- you should think,maybe you do somethink what really anoys people, B- they are jelous.
Awww.. The end was super sweet <3 Actually today wasn't such a good day and I wanted to cry a while ago, after the end of this video, I really want to cry.. <3 It's a bit weird, you don't know your the people who are watching your videos, but you say that you are here for us so easily, but it really feels like you mean it with all your heart.. Now this kind of people I admire.. I wish you luck and you know that we'll always be here for you too .
What if someone talked shit about you to your best friend? You expect your best friend not to tell you? Because if you find out that your best friend didn't tell you, you'd lose two friends, right?
this girl i thought was my friend had a crush on this guy at our work. he turned her down.
then he started talking and hanging out with me. we had a connection, but i have a boyfriend and refused to cheat, so we are just friends.
one day the girl and i got in to an argument and it came out that she was spreading rumors that i was the 'store whore' when i have done nothing with anyone at work.
i didn't care but now she won't even talk to me. oh well
From experience, I don't recommend emailing to "talk it out" because there's so much missing from the conversation like body language and connotation. But I totally agree with you about not worrying so much about the smack talker as the person who planted the drama seed and is sitting by the sidelines watching it grow.
You really do give amazing advice. I needed someone like you in my life growing up, I had to learn all these lessons the hard way . . then again, maybe that's the only way to truly learn them.
Omg buck I was just crying about my friends talking behind my back not 5 minutes ago and then I say, "I need some of Buck's spunk to cheer me up!" and look at the topic of the video! We're so in sync! I love you <3
@cheeseyLOLer Maybe you should nudge the friend in the right direction. Tell them, that you don't think it's a good idea to talk that way, but don't make a huge fuss & if they continue it, go semi with what Bucks saying: Distance yourself, b/c that's not the friend you need. I'm not sure about telling the other friend. It'll make things worse. IMO if the shittalker keeps doing what they do even after you told to no, that may be a good time to inform the other? Just don't quote me on everything.
i've had very close friends talk shit about me plenty of times, the worst was when we weren't friends anymore they posted all these personal things about me mixed in with lies they made up, it was terrible :( i'm glad you're giving out such great advice to all of us, we love you buck :)
My best friend of 6 years and I just had a conversation about her talking shit about me. She does it to my face because she thought I could handle it. Our friendship has not always been like this but since she has been with her boyfriend of about 8 months it's changed. I'm not throwing away a friendship because of this so we talked about it and everything has been good since. :)
i totally agree with what you said at the end. It's nice to be friendly with everyone but you shouldnt actually be good friends with everyone, b/c it's just not possible. I feel like someone who tries to be bff's with everyone is kinda fake
@AmyPond2010 whoever you are i think you need to calm yourself down. i was just asking him something that could have been related to another youtuber's video that was posted last night! have a drink and relax. make some vidoes. join in on youtube instead of going beserk on me. or do i know you under another account? so what if i'm over 30 and single. i known alot of people from here in my past on youtube. relax! please!!
this video makes me feel really bad, because i was the person who said some things about a friend that i was somewhat close with, and i feel bad. but then again i realized who was a real friend because the person whom i told, i thought i could trust, and the friend who got mad at me, definitely over reacted wayyyyyyy too much. idk if i should try to mend this friendship, or just get over it.
If they would say it to your face, they would never have done so. You should feel flattered that you are so interesting that people want to talk about you!
2:47 NO SHIT!!! Do they just want to make you upset and make your frenemy look bad? Some people are hooked on drama. GREAT advice--don't cast your friendship net too wide. You'll catch too many fair-weather friends.
Your speaking is so good that you care of your grammar :=)
piloooogen 2 weeks ago
I fucking hate bitches you gossip behind everyone's back. MUTHAFUCKA SAY IT TO MY FACE
thumbs up if you agree.
asdfkie 2 months ago
This Is what you do if you are talking about anyone behind their back.
watch?v=l0Hd251u6vE
diamonddonut 2 months ago
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atstewtewt 9 months ago
Love your videos, haven't seen all of them yet, but your videos are very interesting and so true.
lostubos2 10 months ago
Thanks Buck you really helped me get over my problems with my current friends thanks -chata
chatarulez 1 year ago
Good advice! Thx make more videos about stuff like this it will help alot of people
risenshine1000 1 year ago
Great advice... I just noticed i had a drama magnet and the same piece shit person trying to be my best friend. lmao..... thank goodness i saw you vid. =]]]]]
NeNa2686 1 year ago
I'm going to post this to everyone on my Facebook, they need to watch this. It will do them good! Thanks Michael!
Tigwig5495 1 year ago
dude fuck you my moto is they fuck with you then you fucking kick there ass and im only in middle school but im small though people think just because im small they can pick on me well they found out yesterday that they cant this boy went to go hit me and i took his arm and bent it behind his back i almost broke his arm i nearly got suspended i dont like to tell on people my mom said dont hit punch so there she didnt say sart a fight but she said quote "dont start a fight finish it"
bratney1223 1 year ago
Thanks Buck, I needed to hear that ^_____^
arris1314 1 year ago
Thanks.
westernys 1 year ago
okayy i need advice and i loved this video so i thought i wouldd come tew yhu: people r telling my bestt friendd thatt im sayyingg stuff about her whenn im not. the girl is like a sister to me and we've been through a lot but nomatter wahtt i saidd she wouldnt believe me and we got into a big fight adnd now she wont talk tew me. wahtt should i do cuz i need to get my bestie backk.! plz helpp me buck.!!!!!!!
joeyq99 1 year ago
I love the way you say shit.
Lol, I love you Buck. <3
amberdenise44 1 year ago
I have always heard that it is best to "only say something behind someone's back that you would say in front of their back."
MadeofAwesome4ever 1 year ago
Buck, I feel like you and i would be great friends IRL! :)
greengirllover 1 year ago
Love your friends with all your heart!
If it works out, it's heaven.
If it's fake, rejoice that a false relationship has just ended!
Amen!
Creevie 1 year ago
I like it when you talk with your hands, Buck ^__^
tensaibishonen 1 year ago
Buck, i wish you were my dad!
AndreyZidaneTM 1 year ago
Thats gay.Dont listen to him.If someone talks crap behind u,u just go there and beat the crap outta them.Trust me ull feel much better.And theyll never talk behind ur back again.
MrMethadrine 1 year ago
@MrMethadrine Yeah, sure! Try doing that on Mike Tyson!
AndreyZidaneTM 1 year ago
@AndreyZidaneTM i have other ways of dealing with uneven situations..
MrMethadrine 1 year ago
@MrMethadrine Ok, let's hear it...
AndreyZidaneTM 1 year ago
@MrMethadrine My god, u animal haha!
Animals react, humans create.
Harmony man!
Creevie 1 year ago
@Creevie Dont fool ur self.We all know that civilized ways dont work on all people.About creation...yes theres a creation involved in it.U create the foundations of a peacefull future.
MrMethadrine 1 year ago
I am a middle school girl in 7th grade but my cousins wont talk to me they always go off another way
douliketacos241 1 year ago
haha this happened to me. i likied this guy and he said he liked me i had my first kiss with him. the day after we kissed he wented out with someone else. yeah. 2 weeks later he wanted me 2 date his best friend.
Vampgirlrules 1 year ago
buck, you are so great! i hope you know that! :)
essi135 1 year ago 23
The whole overreacting-chain-reaction-thing totally happened to me and my friend. It was awful. You are so right, Buck :)
hottiepatattie 1 year ago
buck, will you adopt me as well? :) i think you need to know your so amazing words cant describe it :)
katherinejklo 1 year ago
So true life is to short for that shit!
silkehaller4 1 year ago
The camera looks good Buck! :)
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO!<3
legallyblonde514 1 year ago
People say: "Tell that to my face!" to have the opportunity to respond.
Cupro666 1 year ago
so true!
theLeonilla 1 year ago
i did tht once i felt like i screwed up on my part :L hey but screw her right lol
ILuVyOu1234100 1 year ago
What about what they say behind your back are all hurtful lies? Or someone you found out was doing and saying horrible things to you. That is NOT a true friend. Clean house don't surround your self with anyone negative. Just end your friendship with haters. My advice is to surround your self with people with simular interest who have goals and don't do drugs. Drugs suck! You deserve the best!
StaunchComic 1 year ago
@StaunchComic ok i agree but not all drugs suck ;] keep tht in mind
ILuVyOu1234100 1 year ago
@ILuVyOu1234100 The only thing that is worth while is cronic weed it is good for people who are sick or to relive stress. Everthing ele sucks belive me I've been their and done that. You don't want to get caught up in speed or anyother drugs besides weed. Please listen to an old man who's been their and done that. And it's almost impossable to quit.
StaunchComic 1 year ago
I need a friend like you!
badchopstix 1 year ago
To summermusic--google free therapy sources in your area and/or tell yours/his guidance office so they can bring him in for a talk and possibly find him some services. Hang in there--just be there for him--it's all you can do beyond seeking help for him.
shamubabe 1 year ago
I agree with you completely about not going and telling someone.when some one says something like that. i have a friend who dose that all the time and i think its better just not to know. its onl gonna hurt them. i mean they could advise not torust that person but theres no need to tell them something thats gonn upset them.
EmoBella101 1 year ago
Hey Buck, can you help me?
My brother had a friend, they were very close, now when he went back to school his friend wont talk to him. He's talking about suicide and how pointless his life is, we cant afford theropy or anything fancy, and I worry about him so much. He comes home crying everyday, and we all love him and are very concerned and scared. And he has a hard time making friends bcause they kepp on teasing and bullying him. WHAT CAN I DO or WHAT CAN HE DO?!?!? PLEASE HELP ME!
summermusic14 1 year ago
i dont agree about the person that conveyed the information- they might ahve their heart in the right place, wanting to protecting you from placing your trust in somebody that is false to you- id consider that loyalty.
vivianmari 1 year ago
YES TO THIS. <3:)
goflickamonkey 1 year ago
I have one "freind" who is too immature to understand a serious conversation, she CONSTANTLY talks about everyone, even her closest friends. So, I tend to not talk to her or tell her anything now, if someone tells her a secret, she'll shout it out infront of everyone the second you're done talking. -.-;
Then she'll keep talking about it to everyone else, then that person will become a target for bullying.
hyperninja200 1 year ago
@hyperninja200
Friend*
hyperninja200 1 year ago
Your so sweet and smart! u
Soma9393 1 year ago
what kind of glasses are those? they are really cool.
goldieknox03 1 year ago
Hi buck I have a question I am 11 and I like this boy and he likes me but he has a girlfriend that he only sees once a week I know its wrong to break them apart for my own good but I love him to much is what I am doing wrong?
sarahbieber3399 1 year ago
@sarahbieber3399 you are 11. You don't need a boyfriend. Certainly not one that's going to cause you grief. You're never going to find someone you want to be with forever at that age. Be 11. Be a kid. There's plently of time for dumb boys later. :P
pdlbean 1 year ago 19
Captcha took over, and I lost most of what I needed to explain about clever sociopathy, and warning signs! (You really suck Youtube - FIX THIS NOW!)
New friends and even old ones may develop a personality change during their life, When you notice something amiss and confirm they are clever, deceptive, hateful, and sane!: Avoid them as soon and as much as possible!
Get video evidence that proves this, and call out their behavior anonymously online with the evidence! Then contact an attorney!
nohophil 1 year ago 4
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nohophil 1 year ago
Have a lot of bad experiences of really bad people/selfish/brainwashed/etc. pretending to be friends.
Some new friends, and even friends who have changed in their character or personality. They hide their true selves with false personalities (pretending to be a good person, but act much differently when they feel they can get away with it!
nohophil 1 year ago 3
Thank's Buck! I needed advice for this!
TechnoBox22 1 year ago 2
this made me cry because i dont wanna give up my best friend
ncpreed3 1 year ago
@ncpreed3 If you have so called "Friends" Who talk behind your back: THEY ARE NOT FRIENDS AT ALL-THEY ARE YOUR ENEMY! They are not ever worthy of contact with you in any form ever again in your lifetime if they do this to you!
People who talk behind your back negatively, can never be trusted! You should never contact them again in any form, they have proven themselves to be completely untrustworthy!
And may use any information they learned about you against you repeatedly from now on!
nohophil 1 year ago
Honestly, I have a friend who talked behind my back. She's one of those who I kinda want to drift away from. But at the same time I want to say something, because it angers me. It's something she's done so many times. Especially after we've fought, and she goes and calls me bad names behind my back. It's between me and you, don't drag someone else into this please!
Cuttiiee2 1 year ago
@Cuttiiee2
If you confirmed they are talking about things said in private/confidence, and is telling anyone/everyone about what you said, true/false, they are criminals now officially! They violated your privacy , and with solid video evidence and or witnesses, you can sue AND file criminal charges against them for disclosure/slander/libel in court, if your life was ruined in any way!
I have lost all but 1 friend, my neighbors and entire family don't trust or believe me! I wasn't prepared!
nohophil 1 year ago
O.o I see your shadow. hehe
abbymcfarland1 1 year ago
Good advice :). i had the same situation and apoligized like a mature person when i didnt do anything to begin with, and just realized she was a piece of crap because she is so full of herself she just ignored me. i dont want that in a friendship.
michelle027girl 1 year ago
This has been flagged as spam show
Buck with all due respect.What makes you think your capable of giving examples of behaviour/setting examples when all you do is making fun of people on"what the buck".Haven't you thought that there might be some young people out there who would have learn this sort of behaviour from you
lyngdohlisa 1 year ago
Buck with all due respect.What makes you think your capable of giving examples of behaviour/setting examples when all you do is making fun of people on"what the buck".Haven't you thought that there might be some young people out there who would have learn this sort of behaviour from you.
lyngdohlisa 1 year ago
As always, great advice. I <3 you Mr Buckly.
LadyDamascus 1 year ago
Wow, Hitting the target with this video. I wish I could tell everybody to come watch this video. This is great advice. Congratulations for giving the most real advice through youtube. Thumbs up is an understatement. Also about the person that told you, I think that it completely depends on the circumstance and the reason this person has to come tell you about this. Anyways again great video.
Enfrik13 1 year ago
I totally agree it's important not to overreact. There is a real problem, especially on the internet, with people posting friendship problems to the Twitterverse or Facebook that they should really be bringing up with one specific person in a private way. Social networking is giving people an easy way to blow off steam without learning to handle confrontation in an adult, positive way. Relationships are all about communication, and people who can't be communicative with you are not good friends.
JunetheHomemaker 1 year ago
the twelve that didnt like this do not understand what you are trying to say, LOVED THIS! it was something i deffinately needed to hear. thanks Buckly. ♥
RoxieXReal 1 year ago
great advice (: except wen sum1 talks shit at my skewl u get punched in the face and get ur shit knocked so no one really talks shit about me cuz they will get there shit knocked :)
Sk8erDude449 1 year ago
i relise that you probably won't even notive this comment, but your advice couldn't have come at a better time for me. Sometimes i just wish everyone could be loyal and get along and as much as your advice is helpful sometimes life just sucks and shit just hurts
kylieLrumble 1 year ago
I love your advice!
drappleguy1 1 year ago 2
I like honesty. If someone says something bad about me, don't see how I could be upset by it. thats there opinion. it could be mostly true, or a b.s lie. if its a b.s lie then even more a reason not to care.
why must people yearn for others approval so badly? in life, some people will like you, some won 't. simple as that. and if it is an honest opinion, such as "his clothes look like horse shit and I hate the way he ties his tie!", how could one be upset over that? again, thats there opinion.
ScreamingLibraries 1 year ago 3
Michael I love you
MMBNWINNER 1 year ago
I used to have a "best friend", and we had a mutual agreement to be honest with each other. Except she couldn't take the honesty, and she got mad so she talked about me behind MY back. (I'm an Aspie. To me, honest = honest. To her, honest = sugar-coat it. I didn't know that then.) What really made me mad was when she ditched me and then spread rumors about me. She turned all of my "church friends" against me. (Ironic? No, a lot of church people are judgmental.)
We are no longer friends.
ageeksrevenge 1 year ago
@ageeksrevenge wow im sorry that sucks. yeah she does not sound like she was a good friend whatsoever
krazykat763 1 year ago
I feel I need to qoute means girls. "If someone said something bad about you would want me to tell you right?" "No" "What if it was someone you thought was your friend" As a pro at being talked about behind my back I always want to know whats being said, secrets and gossip can be very dangerous now a days its not just simple "Oh janis is a dike" Anymore it can really start some trouble and get people hurt though your point is a valid one.
Buttrent 1 year ago
where is the intro?
Modelcola 1 year ago
@gimgurl437 I have almost the exact same problem. My plan is to just avoid her until she catches on, but in a nice way because i dont want drama or a confronation or anything, im just done with this person
hannah8pie 1 year ago
Oh yeah. And my best friend (my only female friend right now^^) had this problem for years with her male best friend. He always told people about things she told him as a friend and he told lies about her. Now she finally got rid of him and her life is much easier than before
PetitEule 1 year ago
Thanks for this vid. All my life I had the problem, that my female friends talk behind my back or try to steal my boxfriend and stuff. What led to the fact, that now my circle of friends consists almost completly of boys. And it works just fine
PetitEule 1 year ago
I kind of disagree with one point of your advice. I don't know the whole situation, but if a "friend" is constantly talks smack about you behind your back even though you aren't doing anything to provoke them, I would think a mutual friend clueing you in would be a good thing. I'd want someone telling me what is going on, so I could make decisions on the friendship. However, if the trash talker is just blowing off steam and venting, then you're right - dump the drama queen. Just my 2 cents.
starlightstarbirght0 1 year ago
@starlightstarbirght0 i agree in retrospect but if friend a said something to friend b about friend c in confidence that is not good
WHATTHEBUCKSHOW 1 year ago
@WHATTHEBUCKSHOW I completely agree. It just depends on the context of the situation. If your friend is being a true friend and watching your back, that's one thing, but stirring up cr*p for the sake of stirring it up...dump 'em!
starlightstarbirght0 1 year ago
That is good advice.
Pyischan 1 year ago
wonderful video! Thank you Buck for telling it like it is! AMEN!!!!
assninjalolo 1 year ago
I have to agree. i just went thru this with my friends o.O
ChristaBugg 1 year ago
I thought that was good advice.
Haven't we learned anything from Jersey Shore? "Anonymous" note or not, drama-starters are never good friends.
emilylime88 1 year ago
I agree. People will always talk about others to each other - it's part of life. The time to start worrying is when no-one is talking about you!
ktswing88 1 year ago
Don't email them, talk them in person!
aGaMeOfHiDeNSeEk 1 year ago
Yeah unfortunately I've had a lot of friends that treated me like that. So eventually like you said I just kept a tight nit group of friends instead of a crap load lol. It always just bugged me that people would pretend to be a friend.....I mean who does that?
PS: I really like your outfit Buck. It looks great :D
wweleah 1 year ago
@sorryarnold or even better, they have 8 good friends left because all the other ones were backstabbers. :) #justsaying
gingerstar04 1 year ago
This is like The Two Gentlemen of Verona! Thumbs up for life lessons by Buck!!
Dermatillomaniac 1 year ago
I LOOOOOOOVE YOU. :)
GlitterGurl213 1 year ago
I'm trying to create a an anti-child abuse channel, and need to promote it if possible could you help, by doing a vid- response on what you think about it?
jewallover 1 year ago
i've lost 2 of my best friends because of that... i wish they would have done it before i wasted 2 years of my life with lies
JUBERCAKE2 1 year ago
ooooh Buck, you looks so crisp in1080p O_O
CHRiSEYdheqreat 1 year ago
i want to cradle you in my arms. in a non creepy way of course.
Xander550 1 year ago 2
Buck,will you adopt me? :)
FaradayCagefight 1 year ago 97
This was very good advice Buck, and I actually needed this advice today, so thank you very very much ^_^
XxX
ChloeHeartNerds 1 year ago 2
it's funny how in in that situation right now. Thank you so much for this cause no one's been telling me this advice. Your honestly the best person ever, and thank you for this cause now im going to move on from drama. <3
redlipsskinnyhips 1 year ago
LOVE THIS! Hearts for buck!!!
lindseymarie18 1 year ago
LOVE THIS!
lindseymarie18 1 year ago
When people cut you down and talk behind your back, just remember they took time out of their pathetic lives to think about you. I love your message, Michael!
moitlezmess 1 year ago
WAY TO KEEP IT REAL!
rockerdude0910 1 year ago
Soon as I read the title I thought Kurt! I'm not sure if I was dissapointed :/
IrisOsirI 1 year ago
@charlesfootballrules quite, and both: homosexually and happilly gay :)
IrisOsirI 1 year ago
@charlesfootballrules yep. but that doesn't matter. he is still awesome.
waverlyplacefanful 1 year ago
@charlesfootballrules is that a joke?
XXnixableXX 1 year ago
you really help me ...u say alot of things i really take advantage of these things :) i lobe you michael <3
Ay00y 1 year ago
every child between the ages of 12-16 need to watch this video. saying something on facebook or to a friend is just lame on their part, and insults them rather than you since they don't have the balls to be actually upset about it and tell you to change! wtf everyone!
oliviaK0 1 year ago 26
Actually I don't think that you should say to your friend "why did you do this?" if you did not actually hear them say it. Stick to the "I heard you said something negative about me, IF you did say this stuff could you tell me why? As I don't know what I did wrong or even if I have done something. Sorry if I offended/upset you." That way it's less confrontational and you're saying if showing that you don't quite believe they did it but you wanted to check just in case you'd done something wrong.
CriminalMinds89 1 year ago
OverReacting is Hard Not to do. People's automatic response is to "react." It is best to think about it first and then reasonably respond. Just had that happen on YouTube/Twitter. But hey, I let that person be negative and they can keep it. Let the Hate boil in them and I Move on! Be a Good Buck!!
Keep on YouTubin!
kiddsock 1 year ago
Your glasses match the screen
Awwwwww <3
billyboo102 1 year ago
awww your the sweetest buck, i know what you mean about bad people pretending to be your friends, a few months back i recently told someone a don't want to be her friend because she was always taking her problems out on me, she has become so obsessed with losing weight that she cant see happiness even if it hit her in the face, she has a boyfriend but still isn't happy with herself. I tried talking to her and she said she was stressed out because of work and her weight (she ain't really that big
emmabee11 1 year ago
@emmabee11 She just likes to stir up drama and to make other people feel sad to make her feel better, even when i talked to her she still took it out on me and being stressed out isn't a good enough reason to be horrible to someone.
emmabee11 1 year ago
Its hard to pick good friends... well its is for me. Ive had a butt load of bad friends :S
XxMarliesxX 1 year ago
I don't care when my friends talk about me behind my back .. they didn't say it to my face coz it's not that important to ! not caring is the key
sogino 1 year ago
Michael What happened to glasses free?
jssawyer1993 1 year ago
I Found Out 2 weeks Ago that My Mom Has Been Lying to me..
It hurt to find the person who taught me not to lie Has been Lying to my face :(
KanadianKrysanne 1 year ago
ppl jus need to stop bein mean to start wiv, last night a v close friend ov mine sed sumthin really harsh to my face n it hurt like hell n in sum ways i think it less jerky coz he sed it 2 my face bt then i feel like it makes it arkward wiv the friends we have in common coz they dnt kno wot a bitch hes bin n its very sucky wen sum1 u trust sez sumthin dat they kno will hurt u especly wen its uprovoked :( meh y r ppl like this ?
toripunkprincess 1 year ago
i have the same problem. i have some real friends but in my school there is many people who talk about me stupid things,but i still talk with them,smile to them, but i don't trust them and i just don't help them when they need help.
and if someone is talking behind your back,that could mean two things: A- you should think,maybe you do somethink what really anoys people, B- they are jelous.
rasme705 1 year ago
Awww.. The end was super sweet <3 Actually today wasn't such a good day and I wanted to cry a while ago, after the end of this video, I really want to cry.. <3 It's a bit weird, you don't know your the people who are watching your videos, but you say that you are here for us so easily, but it really feels like you mean it with all your heart.. Now this kind of people I admire.. I wish you luck and you know that we'll always be here for you too .
Mimijona 1 year ago
What if someone talked shit about you to your best friend? You expect your best friend not to tell you? Because if you find out that your best friend didn't tell you, you'd lose two friends, right?
suzanamarieXD 1 year ago
OMG this happened to me just recently.
this girl i thought was my friend had a crush on this guy at our work. he turned her down.
then he started talking and hanging out with me. we had a connection, but i have a boyfriend and refused to cheat, so we are just friends.
one day the girl and i got in to an argument and it came out that she was spreading rumors that i was the 'store whore' when i have done nothing with anyone at work.
i didn't care but now she won't even talk to me. oh well
kurenaiketsueki2 1 year ago
Buck, you're great. Fav'd this video. Oh and your HD set up is amazing. :D
xRandomShadowManx 1 year ago
Heh, almost thought you were talking to me for a minute, as I just lost some friends over this very same issue.
ScottyGrayskull 1 year ago
From experience, I don't recommend emailing to "talk it out" because there's so much missing from the conversation like body language and connotation. But I totally agree with you about not worrying so much about the smack talker as the person who planted the drama seed and is sitting by the sidelines watching it grow.
TheMilitaryLife 1 year ago
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I see your true colors shining through<3
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AlvaJeunet 1 year ago
BUCKLEY FOR PRESIDENT !
1000chief 1 year ago 241
@1000chief my last name's Buckley
Heartland4ever1 1 year ago
@1000chief
ur so frickin right buddy<3:3♥
SweetLOvixd 1 year ago
You are awesome.
Totally freaking awesome.
*cyberhugs*
Thank you!
MickyNL 1 year ago 4
what do you do if the betch dont reply back! and you dont want to move on!??
BakaMasters 1 year ago
oh, your so helpful.:) you should do more videos like this. =D
theandreashowrox 1 year ago
when i saw the title, i just immediately thought of kurt in glee season 2 ep 2. no? just me then? ok. :)
megan747 1 year ago
8 people don't have friends.
gingerstar04 1 year ago
i LOOVE the new camera, it looks soooo good, i just love when you give advice, keep up the good work <3
Barrientez91 1 year ago
lovin peron 75 in hd :)
guitargurl818 1 year ago
Buck, lots of love!
oshinsr 1 year ago
You really do give amazing advice. I needed someone like you in my life growing up, I had to learn all these lessons the hard way . . then again, maybe that's the only way to truly learn them.
eeli1 1 year ago 138
@eeli1
hey^-^
i saw ur comment:O
hey buddy if u need someone u can always come to me^-^
maybe u dont know me but, i dont care if u ever need someone u can always come and comment me, messeg what ever u want^-^♥
if u need to get things out yell at someone tell what u feel advice anything!O_O
im here to u:)<3
many of people come to me:D
so why dont u give me a Chance?:)♥
SweetLOvixd 1 year ago
Wow Buck...HD suits you!
Great advice too!
Skiffen 1 year ago
Wow, the hd looks great. (It's my first I've seen since you got the new camera :)
faerietaleredux 1 year ago
You are so right luv ya buck.
sarahk084 1 year ago
Omg buck I was just crying about my friends talking behind my back not 5 minutes ago and then I say, "I need some of Buck's spunk to cheer me up!" and look at the topic of the video! We're so in sync! I love you <3
iVictoriaProductions 1 year ago
What do you do if your friend talks shit about your other friend? You said it's not good to tell them so what are you supposed to do?!
cheeseyLOLer 1 year ago
@cheeseyLOLer Maybe you should nudge the friend in the right direction. Tell them, that you don't think it's a good idea to talk that way, but don't make a huge fuss & if they continue it, go semi with what Bucks saying: Distance yourself, b/c that's not the friend you need. I'm not sure about telling the other friend. It'll make things worse. IMO if the shittalker keeps doing what they do even after you told to no, that may be a good time to inform the other? Just don't quote me on everything.
ThePastryTreat 1 year ago
you are a beautiful person buck, inside and out!
oiat 1 year ago
please do more of theseee :)
melanieisverycoolx14 1 year ago
::hug:: the way you went about this was great, and very open loved the advice
tree1309 1 year ago
Thank you Buck : )
mrpatrolroll 1 year ago
Thanks, Buck!
CodedLockFilms 1 year ago
You are such a wonderful person :) You are like God's gift to youtube!
PS You are looking thin, glowy & fabulous!
NicTiffany 1 year ago
i've had very close friends talk shit about me plenty of times, the worst was when we weren't friends anymore they posted all these personal things about me mixed in with lies they made up, it was terrible :( i'm glad you're giving out such great advice to all of us, we love you buck :)
hbfriendsfan 1 year ago
My best friend of 6 years and I just had a conversation about her talking shit about me. She does it to my face because she thought I could handle it. Our friendship has not always been like this but since she has been with her boyfriend of about 8 months it's changed. I'm not throwing away a friendship because of this so we talked about it and everything has been good since. :)
MissMandee1 1 year ago
I Love You!
What The Buck! :P
DarkgeneralFTB 1 year ago
Hey Buck, what if you're a teenager and the person talking crap an immature teenager> Can you please respond to that for future references?
theAlchemistfox 1 year ago
I feel like this is your deep video for the week.
<3
Not that you're not ALWAYS deep =D <3
NineYearOldToddlers 1 year ago
Very good points.
ctso74 1 year ago
i totally agree with what you said at the end. It's nice to be friendly with everyone but you shouldnt actually be good friends with everyone, b/c it's just not possible. I feel like someone who tries to be bff's with everyone is kinda fake
vcbubblesz 1 year ago
i loooove your advice! listening to you talk is just really comforting lol, Im still not used to your hd vids, i love it tho
vcbubblesz 1 year ago
olive you! <3
tbonerchick 1 year ago
@AmyPond2010 whoever you are i think you need to calm yourself down. i was just asking him something that could have been related to another youtuber's video that was posted last night! have a drink and relax. make some vidoes. join in on youtube instead of going beserk on me. or do i know you under another account? so what if i'm over 30 and single. i known alot of people from here in my past on youtube. relax! please!!
johnswackyworld 1 year ago
dude ... totally on the same page about the whole pot-stirrer thing. (& everything else lol)
xoxalisonxox14243444 1 year ago
Great advice, Buck!
By the way, when is 'Dear Buck' coming back? : )
StandByMyLove 1 year ago
You are such an incredible person!
alwaystextback 1 year ago
I know this has nothing to do with what your video was about but, dang, the video quality looks so professional now =D
It definitely looks very awesome. I thank you so much for getting the new equipment for you viewers, Buck. It really shows your dedication.
Abravoset 1 year ago
man i wish i knew this earlier... :/
kristyinthesky7 1 year ago
you totally put this up at the perfect time for me :) Thanks, Buck <3
wizardoftoast 1 year ago
this video makes me feel really bad, because i was the person who said some things about a friend that i was somewhat close with, and i feel bad. but then again i realized who was a real friend because the person whom i told, i thought i could trust, and the friend who got mad at me, definitely over reacted wayyyyyyy too much. idk if i should try to mend this friendship, or just get over it.
DAGIRLEO 1 year ago
If I ever have a nationally syndicated television show, you're gonna be my Dr. Phil. Except not a tool bag :)
Splurge24 1 year ago
If they would say it to your face, they would never have done so. You should feel flattered that you are so interesting that people want to talk about you!
2:47 NO SHIT!!! Do they just want to make you upset and make your frenemy look bad? Some people are hooked on drama. GREAT advice--don't cast your friendship net too wide. You'll catch too many fair-weather friends.
mmr11027 1 year ago