Good point; it always flabbergasts me how many women I hear ASSUMING the man is exclusive when they start having sex. And here the women are supposedly the communicative ones, more often! This is something which OF COURSE should be discussed.
I am a big believer in communication and see no harm in DISCUSSING what is the "right first time", if it's not obvious.
And, of course, no woman should sleep with a man because she feels that's how to keep him.... duh?
After 2 nights of time spent together, talking & getting along; we held hands & we kissed; then things got heated. I stopped the situation after a while, even when I wanted to continue. I did this because I want to respect him( ice vera) & I want to be in a relationship with him. When I didn't want to because I like him and wanted more, he said he did too & that he was looking for a relationship. I still just felt like maybe he could have been caught up in the moment..
This is a tough one because it's a catch 22. From a man's perspective, if you have sex on the first date, he'll assume that you do that often and were only interested in a fling or worse, that you're desperate. If you wait too long, he'll assume that you're either a prude or that you simply don't find him desirable. The best thing in my opinion is to not have a set time and just let nature run it's course and wait until you're both caught up in the moment.
Good point; it always flabbergasts me how many women I hear ASSUMING the man is exclusive when they start having sex. And here the women are supposedly the communicative ones, more often! This is something which OF COURSE should be discussed.
I am a big believer in communication and see no harm in DISCUSSING what is the "right first time", if it's not obvious.
And, of course, no woman should sleep with a man because she feels that's how to keep him.... duh?
LastBastionOfTruth 1 year ago
After 2 nights of time spent together, talking & getting along; we held hands & we kissed; then things got heated. I stopped the situation after a while, even when I wanted to continue. I did this because I want to respect him( ice vera) & I want to be in a relationship with him. When I didn't want to because I like him and wanted more, he said he did too & that he was looking for a relationship. I still just felt like maybe he could have been caught up in the moment..
was that dumb?
anothersecondchance 1 year ago
great vid!!!! thx!!
KCalliope 1 year ago
This is a tough one because it's a catch 22. From a man's perspective, if you have sex on the first date, he'll assume that you do that often and were only interested in a fling or worse, that you're desperate. If you wait too long, he'll assume that you're either a prude or that you simply don't find him desirable. The best thing in my opinion is to not have a set time and just let nature run it's course and wait until you're both caught up in the moment.
locksmithite 1 year ago
LOVE it!
PlanetAbiola 2 years ago
Great Advice !
Men always say "they are exclusive" and then it turns out that their idea of exclusive is completely different from yours! LOL
As if it's ok to sleep with an X here and there with no no protection!
I'm so done with men !
I'm happy to be alone, well not really.
But men - at least the ones I'm meeting just can't be trusted so my "goodies and cookies" are on Lock Down !
hourglas39 2 years ago
You'll find one that you can trust, it just takes time. In the meantime, better on lock down than used and abused.
LuvemOrLeavem 2 years ago
Yes, you got that right on the used and abused part for sure ! That's what blow up dolls are for ! LMAO :)
hourglas39 2 years ago