LOL of course they're not selfish for not dating single black mothers.. Think about it who wants to be reminded of someone's ex-boyfriend/thug everytime they look @ their step child?
not to mention everytime they look @ their step child they will also be reminded of what a nasty whore that women used to be..
are black man "selfish" because he chooses to not date single mothers? No black men should not feel guilty about dating single mothers it is of no advantage for a male to raise another man child.
I don't feel like supporting someone else's kid. I'm sorry. Some men are better at handling that sort of thing. There are plenty of men who have kids themselves who are more open to that sort of thing. I have no kids so I have no obligation to support a family. I agree with you 100%.
Dude, we see eye to eye. You've stated your reason's, which are pretty much the same as mine. So you are not selfish. Besides, you are not obligated to take care of someone else's child. People who don't understand your reasons or chose to ignore them are selfish.
I have to speak on this. I'm in the same boat as this brotha. I went to college, started my biz and don't have any kids. I've been the guy that wasn't want by the female when she didn't have kids, then wanted when knocked up by some loser. So, since she didn't consider me when she didn't have any kids, why should I take on her shit? As the little brats will tell you in a minute, "You're not my daddy!" This is not my bloodline, but I have to accept this b/c of why? Please explain?
i feel the same way, its not my fault u have a kid, i dont have any, im not gonna be some random baby daddy, and most of these girls have babies by bum ass dudes that anit got shit going for them,
Good video and very true indeed. I'm a single black male 39 yrs old and I must say as you get to be in your 30's black women have already have 2 or more kids by differernt men. And its a damn shame trying to find positive single woman with no kids,no drama,& love you for you is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
I'm in college studying medical.Why would I date a single mother when I graduate? Does that make any since? I can meet a single woman with no kids. I won't be worried about extra baggage. I won't have to worry about watching her kids. No time for women with kids because I want the best not an already made family. Plus I DON'T WANT KIDS
@Dbailey ...thx! But u know wat...? After all of this, bad relationships,being a single mom, and everything else that has occurred in my life, I have no regrets! I've learned that life is to short and that situations like this tend to take us away from "IT"! My advice to all and to myself would be ...Live and love will find u! Love and happiness will find u! Cry... and peace will find! Once again "life" is too short so embrace every moment of it!! ;)
we all make mistakes we all have faults, but those as big as children are huge and life long, U coulda had him wrap it up or pull it out or what ever U needed 2 do 2 not be in this situation in tha first place, so take responsibility 4 ur own actions and blame no one but ur self, adapt a better mind frame and thought and hopfully U will catch someone who dosent mind ur extra baggage no one wants 2 B singe forever
especially when U have multiple children by multiple men shows that you've consistintantly been making bad choices besides a first initial baby ops, so asking a man 2 bear that fault of ur consistant bad decisions is extremely selfish
and yeah we can cry it takes two to tango all day, but really if U feel ur grown enough 2 take part in those actions be grown enough 2 take part in the responsibilities that come w/it, how about be a wife first then a mother might decrease ur chances of becoming a singe mother
its not selfish point blank period, I feel tha same way about single dads, and tha concept U werent checkN 4 me then but now U wanna check 4 me now is right, its not that mans fault ur a single mother its only ur own especially if ur not also an ex wife, c'mon ladies we really need 2 start taking responibility 4 our own actions and our own destinity
I can't have a relationship with a single mother.The most I can do with a single mother is have sex with her or just be friends.I strongly prefer women with no kids.Everytime I've dated a single mother it never went right.
It's not just someone else's child...it's all too often a thug's child...(or children.) You have the right to expect yor woman to be loyal and committed to you...and how can a single mother be committed to you when she's already committed to several men who came before you because that is the kind of man that she went out of her way to get? And her choices aren't suppose to carry consequences? Not quite. She made her choices...and now she's the one who's stuck with them...good, bad or otherwise.
i don't think it is selfish for a single man with no kids to refuse a date with a woman who has children. all you brothas do is add to the single womans load. if i were a man with no kids i would choose a woman childless like myself. men are not responsible for all the babies a woman chooses to have with other men. im a woman and i do not want a man with small children... if his children are grown and out of the house then i can deal.
this is bullshit my uncle marry black woman who has two sons and she ain’t cute either lol i just keep it real but she is not hoe, don’t doing porno, have sex outside of her race so this is just was perfect to him that’s why he marry her. so this is not true about black men being selfish, materialistic and arrogant this is just bullsh’t!
It depends,for me to wanna take a single mother seriously I have to get what I want not being selfish I don't wanna waste my time..and @macadon you forgot to mention the single mothers who get a man and neglect their kid/s,I seen it happen too many times where a single mother will recycle the attitude of jodi's mom from the movie baby boy "moma gotta have a life too"
@Terrealimthetruth its tru 2oo, tha only difference is jody was grown, but there is nothing less atractive than a person who doesn't own up and take care of their kids and put them first man or women either way
U know what ur not selfish but it sounds very mean. I happen to be a single mother with 3children and I'm holding it down by myself! I've been single for 3 yes now and it gets lonely but what ur saying boils down to a mindset and experience! Everyone has a story! It's not fair either way! We lose as single black woman in our on way. And u guys lose in y'all on little way. Sigh.... ;(
yeah you do got it hard bs all yall do is sit back and get that government check if you did not have that you woued make better choice of men we have it harder sorry for ya quit trying to be the victim we all know nice guys finish last!
your not being selfish beacuse u dont know if the last person they had sex with could have aids our std i wounld date a single mother my self beacuse she wounld put her child frist before you and trust me if u marry her i bet the marriage will fall apart quick it wount last
i find this topic interesting... knowledge increases with time... many have made wrong choices (i make some everyday).. i find it interesting that the thought process of many men is the above. it is disheartening. what happened to knowing the character of a person.. i agree that a lot of bw have a mindset that is not conductive to a productive relationship with any person. but for those who have the correct mindset... they are under the bus too.. i dont understand...
@jaja7171 see tha thing about dating ppl w/kids is U dont only jus get them, U get a package, tha kids and tha babymomma/daddy and tow, so it no longer is about jus getting 2 know tha chacter of that person alone, you have a whole lot of other stuff on ur plate 2 deal w/other than just that person, 4 sum ppl its 2oo much 2 deal w/for sum its not, keep ur head up hopefully you'll find tha right one 4 you
@Dbaiely i remember the feeling i had when i heard this video and read the comments attached to it. no hope could be found within me. coming back to this site, i'm ok. i realize that my happiness doesn't depend on the comments of a select few. i truly thank the lord that he is not as condemning as the people who posted these comments. I am ok. not perfect, but ok.
Considering most black men are single fathers that is an interesting question....since it takes a man to get a bw pregnant.....most bm I meet have kids too. I prefer to date men without children. If that is your preference, nothing wrong with that. I just don't want a man with baby mama drama. No thanks.
I am a woman and I'm not interested in men with children or one child. When I start my own family I only want my kids with my partner and not other children and a baby mama attached. But if I end up as a single mother with minor children for any reason (divorce, partner dies, abuse, etc..) I would still want love. I wouldn't date a single parent, but if I end up as a single parent I would want to date. Crazy, I know.
If things don't work out with my fiancee, I will not date another single mother. It one point, I said those exact words. But I met my fiancee and she changed my mind. She took care of her son and didn't expect me to be "daddy" to him. It wan't until later on in years that she decided to expect more from me.
@soulfulman1971 You should just dump the broad. Don't be whipped like a capt save a ho. Lets face it: if you're complaining online, then its really bugging you. Fine a woman who made right choices and make a family with her. Don't reward single moms for their stooopid decision. We can't let these kinds of people and their baby daddies breed.
@Superseadragon I have to say that my fiancee is getting it together now. She FINALLY called the people on her son's father. I used to feel like if that man was a brother, she would've called a long time ago. Now I'm seeing thing a little differently.
@soulfulman1971 So the baby daddy is non Black, presumably a White man? Oh shit. I know she's your fiancee and all, but that's got ghetto gagger all written over it. Tariq Nasheed just made the podcast on mack lessons called negro wench syndrome. You need to check it out. Peace!
His mother is white and his father is Mexican and Pacific Islander. My fiancee used to get on me about dating white women (before I met her). I'd retaliate by saying your son's father isn't a brother. They were in their teens, BTW.
@soulfulman1971 So your fiance is Black, and her ex is Mexican and Pacific Islander? Dude, we can't build a community with females like that. You know this. She has a kid with a non Black man, calls you out for dating out is like calling the kettle black. No pun. You can do much better than that. Its now or never, reclaim your freedom and start your own. I live in Atlanta, almost the whopping majority are single mothers. I would rather stay single, than play daddy to them.
Like Lyfe Jenning said in his song, She Got Kids, "Would he be wrong for loving his own flesh and blood a little more"? I feel you, bruh. My fiancee has a son and the boy's dad is not in his life. My fiancee doesn't push the father to be be a part of the boy's life but she totally pushes me. I don't mind, However, she's now saying she doesn't want more kids but is content for me to raise hers. How is that fiar? What if we do have kids? I'm gonna love mine just a little bit more. Sorry.
@kimmie6209 The only reason I stated that widowed/divorced single mothers are exeptions to rule because it shows that the women was trying to do things right. I'm not talking about the ones who get pregnant or married in a feeble attempt to make a no-good nigga to stay with them. Me, on the other hand I chose not the date single mothers PERIOD! To avoid all that unnessesary drama all that excess baggage left by some bum ass negro.
@soulfulman1971 Unfortunately u are a Beta Male who will avoid risk at all cost. Ur fiancee senses this & that is why she chose u. The Alpha males generally spread their seed & leave it up to pussy wimps like u to take care of their seed, a seed that cannot even carry your bloodline. U are only enabling the Alpha male to thrive while u punk out. Her baby daddy has the charmisa & confidence to get the lady's while guys like u ride the bench & only get in after they make the winning shot. Dumb!
@soulfulman1971 What the hell is wrong with you? I'm usually a cool guy and don't like being an asshole toward people, but bro, you need to be slapped back to reality. A women tells you she doesn't want a kid with you but wants you to raise her kid. Your exact quote "she totally pushes me" My advice to you is simple - Do not marry this women!
SOME OF U WOMWN NEED TO GET OFF U TUBE AND GET A JOB AND BECOME PRODUCTIVE.. TRUTH HURTS AND IF IT DOES CHANGE YOUR STYLE! AND QUIT COMPLAINING I DO NOT BLAME THIS BROTHER WHY SHOULD HE NOT WANT WHAT HE WANTS> FIND UR BABIES DADDY AND TAKE ACTION
I feel you bruh!. Im 31 years old with no kids and I have tried dating single mothers and that shit is like trying to beat a dead horse. Im not going down that bumpy, tore up road again! The only exceptions to that rule in my book are single mothers who are widowed or divorced.
@natturnerX Why would single mothers who are widowed/divorced be an expection? Those situations do not make the kid disappear they will still be in the picture & you will have all the hang ups & headaches of a family except that Oh, the kids aren't yours, & it's not worth it. If you don't want to date single moms, don't date single moms if doesn't matter why she's a single mom, the dynamics of a family will still apply. If you don't date fat girls, it doesn't matter how she got fat, she's fat!
@cgiwattgrrl99 What your saying about men here is generally true but it always has been. So what's changed?
Before feminism brought about the sexual revolution the "bull shit" your eluding to rarely went on. Don't you know why?
Women withheld sex until marriage... Consequently they had a degree of devotion from men to them and family that has now become rare. Think about it. Men get casual sex from many women without committing to or really even caring about any of them.
I do not feel like women should be angry because there are men that do not want to have a relationship with a single mother. I feel that is their personal choice and it is okay to make your own family, but to categorize women into a shell with other stereotypical "babymamas" is what irritates me!! I am a single mother and it is not because I am ignorant or innocent but because I had sex outside of marriage and it could happen to anyone who does the same!!
@neic1406 Well you actually categorized yourself in that one. You had sex, out of marriage, with a man whom you're no longer with. Unless he put a gun to your head, a man didn't force you to have sex without a form of contraception. If you're going to try to toss out the "no-good man" excuse realize that if you actually took the time to get to know him, and protect yourself if you still chose to have sex with him, you really wouldn't be a single mother. What makes your situation any different?
O Lord they Exiled us from the dating Scene!! I cannot comment on this in a sophisticated manner because to me you must be ignorant if you feel that this is a woman's issue. There had to be a man that stepped away from his family to leave the woman as 'single" even if it is outside of being a widow.. If a woman is single it must be for a reason or issue. If a man can leave and still go out and date and mingle, a woman is left to pick up the pieces of the broken family!! Give some Respect.
@neic1406 Oh really? What about the women who step away from their man? I love how women toss this little tidbit out, but fail to realize that in fact 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Also, you can't comment at all if you 1.) Had children out of wedlock and 2.) try to toss out the "it must be a reason" excuse. Well there must be a reason for a man to step away from what he already has unless he is in fact a "no-good man" but if you took the time to get to know him you'd already know that.
@neic1406 Last but not least, for every hypothetical man that has "stepped away from his family" there's a hypothetical woman who probably 1.) had children to keep them, 2.) drove the man away, or 3.) stepped away from the man for the same reasons as you may try to claim. Now, again I'm not excusing the fact that some men are cunning or "no-good" and in fact give a bad name to all men, however I'm not going to put it out like every single mother has dealt with a man like this.
@neic1406 I understand where you're coming from. But a single guy like me with no kids. I dont want an already made family. Not only that I have to deal with the fact that I will never be #1. I have tried to date single mothers and i way too much baggage for me the even handle. Better women make better choice as well as better men.
Why do you feel that a woman who has children wasn't trying to have a relationship with a good guy, just because she is now alone? It is important that you stay away from women with children, because they are going through enough taking care of their kids alone!!
@neic1406 Because women who usually have children in this manner typically have their priorities mixed up, make poor decisions off of those priorities, and in the long run have children by guys they really don't know. Outside of being in an abusive relationship or one where the husband cheats on her, there isn't really a GOOD excuse to be a single mother nowadays, especially with the fact that there is a substantial amount of contraception for both sexes.
@neic1406 Now, not excusing the fact that she in fact wanted a "good guy", but in any scenario outside of being a widow or escaping a infidelity-filled or abusive relationship means that they were doing what they wanted to at the time, and therefore unfortunately it's a consequence of their own actions if a single childless father chooses to not date her in exchange for starting a family of his own.
We have to take into account that women aren't as innocent/ignorant as many try to portray.
@cgiwattgrrl99 Women throw themselves at ain't shit niggas all the time... That is what women need to be focused on... I know you want to be an adult until some shit goes down... and then use a man as a scapegoat
@cgiwattgrrl99 Tell me yourself, what excuse would a single mother have, outside of the father's death or infidelity/abusive relationship (seeing as these are the only valid excuses)? Most single mothers I've seen have gotten pregnant by guys they've been seeing for less than 2 years, not using protection (which in itself is risky behavior, if you can't trust a man to be a father then how in the hell can you trust a man with your life?) or simply chasing men who they KNOW aren't father material.
@cgiwattgrrl99 I don't judge single mothers harshly, but being the product of one plus the brother of another one, unless the father died, or the dude just cheated on her after being in a LONG relationship (long being 5-10 years) then all those single moms fall into the "foolish woman" category simply because women NOW have the ability to use protection for themselves.
You cannot excuse this, and you very well know that both macadon and the men here aren't labeling ALL single moms like this.
@cgiwattgrrl99 I don't judge single mothers harshly, but being the product of one plus the brother of another one, unless the father died, or the dude just cheated on her after being in a LONG relationship (long being 5-10 years) then all those single moms fall into the "foolish woman" category simply because women NOW have the ability to use protection for themselves.
You cannot excuse this, and you very well know that both macadon and the men here aren't labeling ALL single moms like this.
@cgiwattgrrl99 People judge, that's something that's never going to change though. People have reasons why they don't date X, and in many cases it's due to judgmental reasons (Not pretty, got kids). Women do it all the time, go on craigslist, I'm sure you can find an ad talking about they don't want to date a man who "has no car, no job, got kids, or no money" (I just found one in my area, it was the first posting! AND she's a single mom!!!).
@cgiwattgrrl99 For instance, I'm a 24 year-old Black dude graduating from Ohio State this March. I have no children, and pride myself for not falling into the stereotypical trap. I've worked hard to keep myself protected by not sleeping around, with or without protection, making myself great husband/father material.
Are you saying I'd be hypocritical for not wanting to date a single mother; am I hypocritical for wanting a woman of equal merit to start my own family with?
@cgiwattgrrl99 (cont'd) Privileges aren't a right. If a single mom gets a childless man, then she's lucky, but it isn't her right. Why should a woman who got to sleep around, have her fun, and overlook those good guys, now deserve a good guy?
What about those guys who became successful males and/or have no children? Do they NOT have a choice? Again, is it selfish for a man to not want to date a single mother, but not selfish for a childless woman to not want to date a man with children?
@OmniDaAngel What makes You certain childless men, good guys?? I don't really see it from the comments left here on YouTube!! The fact of the matter is, it is not a privilege and by stating that dating you is a privilege you put your selves above us as single mothers. You are a weaker human being, if not only in the fact that you don't have the capacity to love beyond circumstance . I don't ask you to join in any struggle with me or to help me, only respect me as a stronger vessel.
@neic1406 Don't get me wrong, I don't downplay single mothers as being inferior or place them as superior for taking care of a child on their own. However you made the choice to have children.
Love beyond circumstance is only applicable when those circumstances that made you a single mother are out of your control. You sleeping around and having children, out of wedlock, with a man you don't really know is not one of them.
@neic1406 Now, to address your question, what makes us "good guys"? The fact that we aren't running around fathering children for the simple sake of doing so while knowing full well we may not be ready emotionally or financially to do so is a good start for an answer to that. Wanting to be actual providers in a family we can truly call our "own" doesn't make us "weaker" either. You made your choice, why can't men have theirs? (Cont'd)
@neic1406 I myself put myself through college and told myself I wouldn't have children until I was able to support them and my wife (keyword: wife). What makes me a good guy? Many of the girls in my generation aren't looking for the guy like me, and in fact slept around with "prettyboys" or "thugs" a.k.a. men who they know weren't father/husband material, got pregnant by them.
Are you saying I'm weaker because I refuse to take on the consequences of a now single mother's poor choice-making?
@neic1406 To put the final nail in the coffin, take accountability of your own actions but don't sit there and try to shift blame on the men you sleep around with. Like you say, there has to be a man who stepped away from his family. However there was a woman who slept with and got pregnant these so-called "evil men".
And to quote a single mother, "if you're having sex with someone who isn't worth being around or is a deadbeat, what does that say about you?" (Continued in next post)
@neic1406 (Cont'd from last post) Protect yourself until you're sure he's capable of starting a family. If you aren't doing that, that speaks volumes about you, thus is a perfectly good reason for a man without children to probably stay away.
Maybe you did have to deal with a worthless man, or maybe you weren't looking for an intrinsically valued man. In any case, like @cgiwattgrrl99 said about men making better choices, women need to make better choices about the men they lay down with.
@cgiwattgrrl99 Nobody said single moms don't have the right to date like childless women, however many people agree that they shouldn't expect to get that guy with no children either and feel bad when he doesn't want to date her because she has children.
One thing you're forgetting is that there are just as many women sleeping with those deadbeats and manwhores and getting pregnant by them. Why should "those few men" have to pick up the slack? Why do those women sleep with those "deadbeats"?
@cgiwattgrrl99 In any case, a woman, our equal, needs to choose wisely who she sleeps with, especially without protection. Men can be dismissive because women have the absolute power to dismiss a man (tell him 'Yes' or 'No' in regards to sex) and/or if contraception is to be used. Women who become single moms simply need to make better choices about men they're sleeping with; if they actually slept with actual father/husband material instead of 'sperm donors' then this wouldn't be an issue.
@cgiwattgrrl99 For instance, a mother by default has custody during a joint custody situation unless she's deemed unfit to be a mother (not the case for fathers). Or how about children being used to get child support from the biological father when the father is doing the right thing but the mother is preventing him from doing so, that way she can keep getting her check (There's a Judge Judy case here on Youtube where a girl does do that). I'm not being sexist, but not being delusional either.
@cgiwattgrrl99 You can't really speak on the issue of double standards...they actually play in favor for women not men. Us men without children can be dismissive towards single mothers because a lot of them get pregnant by men who they KNOW aren't shit or going to be fathers. Men can't impregnate a woman without her say-so, or again, that's rape. Women must take account for her own actions, a man can't sleep with a woman without her consent, anything a woman lets a man do to her is her fault.
@cgiwattgrrl99 (cont'd) After they got pregnant, suddenly I'm the hottest thing on the market. It really sucks, even a girl who dated me, cheated on me and got pregnant told me she regretted what she did and wishes I took her back >.> Men and women suck, just wish both made better choices with the people they lay up with.
@cgiwattgrrl99 Then we're actually in agreement :) It's just that when it comes down to it, a man cannot father a child with a woman without her consent, otherwise it's rape. That being said, I just wish those ladies wouldn't lay up with a dude without a rubber, especially if those dudes aren't "men" per se. I mean, I'm an educated Black dude (and decent looking) graduating from OSU this year; I know at least 4 women who've overlooked me, got with a thug dude, and got pregnant.
@cgiwattgrrl99 Not to mention, birth control and forms of contraception in this day and age isn't just now placed on a man's shoulders anymore. A woman has female condoms, IUDs, abstinence, normal condoms just in case the dude she wants to sleep with isn't carrying his own (in this case this dude is a lame anyways), etc. Any woman who puts herself in the single mother category has nobody to blame but themselves. Women in general need to respect themselves at least, by protecting themselves.
@cgiwattgrrl99 Yeah but under normal circumstances you could really figure out if those black men are or aren't father material before even laying up with them. Most girls, who I've known who falls under the single mom category here in Ohio, generally sleep with thug-ass dudes who really don't have anything going for themselves. Those same dudes, who probably don't really care for the girl outside of her being a piece of ass when he wants it, probably won't care about the children she has or had
As a woman I won't date men with children - I want to be the only mother of his children. Not selfish at all. You want what you want and I think it is natural for people to want families of their own.
@macadon Sounds like @CGIWATTGRRL99 hit the nail on the head to me, how can anyone expect to sleep around and still want a woman that is "pure" just as you choose to run through women I am sure there is a million other males that choose to do the same, while promising everything, down to his life just for the chance. Not all men, but some men, and since my Sin is no longer hidden but a daily reminder I have to then Earn Your Approval....LAUGHABLE!!
As being married with two kids & my occupation is working for the military. I would hope if something was to ever happen to me that later down the road that black man would come into my family life & be a great father that he can be to my kids. My wife has a stepfather that step up to the plate & her biological father was murdered on duty (Cop). Its not fair to make these generalization about black women but I know where this shit stems from media encouraging black women to put us under the bus!
Who want an outdated woman, who was passed in and out like an used wet blunt? Who can wife'd an single mother, when she was already disposable unit aka cum-dumpsters. Tell me why in America, got an HIGHEST RATE of being an single mother, instead of somebody's wife. P.S. I aint mentioning of women: who were legitimate molested or widow. Just say NO to single useless moms. Thank you
Who want an outdated woman, who was passed in and out like an used wet blunt? Who can wife'd an single mother, when she was already disposable unit aka cum-dumpsters. Tell me why in America, got an HIGHEST RATE of being an single mother, instead of somebody's wife. P.S. I aint mentioning of women: who were legitimate molested or widow. Just say NO to single useless moms. Thank you
Mac stick by your guns. I don't care what anybody say on here. It is always the women with kids or the dude that is dating or married to a woman with kids who tell you to date them. If you want your own family then get your own family. It is hard to find but there are women out there in there 30's without kids. I tried to make it work myself but it is not worth it.
These bitches let the bad boys bust that nut when their young, and then want nice guys who they wouldn't give the pussy to back in the day to step in and help them raise them. Fuck these bitches. Let them drown.
No brother you are not selfish. If a man does not want to date a single mother that is just his preference. Those people are trying to lay a guilt trip on men. Just like women who try to pass the irresponsible guy(she cheated with or slept with while you were broken up) child off on the good guy because she knows he will be there. And then gets upset when the good guy asks for a DNA test because he has sense. Choose the childless women you prefer and good luck in it.
Not being with a particular person is not selfish. You should be with someone you love (kids or no) and in a relationship that works for both and the kids. My dad married (she had kids to) just because he wanted someone to take care of us and she was HORRID to me and my sister. He didnt love her, and it was bad for us kids and caused me to leave home at 16. I agree, it's selfish to be with someone just for them to help with your kids and then it not work. That hurts everyone in the situation.
No, not selfish at all. It's just that most black females are gonna go for the wrong guy, as usual. The thugs, idiots and scumbags. It's a never ending trend, and by the time she finds out that she is wrong she suddenly wants a decent guy after she had 7 kids with a crack dealer that cares about nothing. Black women need to educate themselves, and I'm talking a deep and structured education about men, kids and all that before jumping ahead not knowing anything. It's crazy.
I am agree with you and i don't think it's selfish. And there is plenty of single girls without kids even in their 30's. If you will start your own new family God bless you.
Lol@ did I sign up for this? I agree with you...as a gay female I'm now questioning being with a female that has a kid. That's a big step I'm 22 and she seem like a good girl but...in Now looking at reality of her having a child. He comes first I can't come between that and wouldn't. I feel like I'm being looked at in a different light. I want a girl and it's me and her now I'm being told it's "us". And yea single moms shouldn't be "shunned" from the dating scene but someone without a child may
See sometimes I feel like I don't wan't a sexually experienced women with kids, I wan't a woman like me. Now I can choose..lolol...that's soo funny to me when I think about it
I have changed, I have matured from a nice boy to a grown man seeking righteousness in ever aspect of his life. I went from a boy not sure of his self worth to a Man who now can fully see and love himself for who he is. I look at some of them that I used to love and still do with kids and struggling and all I can say is I would of loved for those kids to be mine. I would of loved them and never ran off on you and our family.But all I can think is you should of loved me and apreciated me then
It's sad because I see all of these women that settled for the thug or bad guy in high school now single parents and on their own. I see all these guys I went to high school with struggling to pay child support or not paying at all. These men and women are still falling for the same thing. See,The Most High looks out for his own. I know my self worth and will no longer settle.These women try to talk to me now and when I turn them down they say that I have changed.lol.their right in an aspect
I'm a virgin, I was raised by my mom and dad to respect and honor women and wait until marriage. When I went to school with this attitude I was ran over. I then started to loose my self confidence because I thought something was wrong with me. My mom seemed to prepair me for a woman that no longer seemed to be in existence. I now thank my parents so much. I thought something was wrong with me but I now know the Most High was protecting me from this crap.
Also I have single parent friends who refuse to date while their children are still with them. They want the dating to be about them and that person and not them, that person and their children. They are waiting for their kids to grow up so they can go back the single market again.
Sounds like self preservation. It is your choice and your right to choose how you want to live your life. If you want your own family that is your right to pursue and not give it up because someone else thinks otherwise. As a gainfully employed black woman, I do not want date any man with children. Also I think the scenario you described was about money. Single people have to be careful, because pity can be a potent killer in your own future. If you want to help help as a friend.
yeah i understand you. single black fathers approach me all the time and im tired of it. Sometimes i feel bad for turning them down because a lot of them are really good guys, but im just not the stepmother type. i don't even won't kids of my own. im happy with babysitting my neices and nephews because you can always give them back.
Why is there a pressure to date single black Mothers? I am a black man without Children, I would love to meet a single black woman without Child with an ultimate 'meeting of minds.' Starting my own family is important to me - as it will be with a single black Childless woman.
It's like you said. I want to start a family of my own one day, period point blank. We should never be made to feel selfish for someone else's lack of sexual responsibility. I've heard the same thing and even caught flack from a couple sisters because of my stance but I feel holding my position is worth it.
It's not selfish, don't even sweat it. I'm a single bf and I completely feel you. I dated two single men with children and both relationships didn't work because of the same reasons that you mentioned! So it's not just a gender thing only, it works both ways for single male and single female parents.
on the flip side of this was women chasing you or trying to be a partner with you when you was in the process of getting yourself together or when you was coming up or when money was low...even though you had heart or skills..most women want guys who have their self together..the finished product and they're justified with that decision ...but when black men or men in general want women who doesn't have kids or have preferences we should be ashamed..it's like they want us to accept the minimum
Its not easy especially if the child's father is still in his life and only started calling about his son because another man came into the picture... Sorry excuse for a man and father. Even though it was WAY before I met my women he cheated on his wife 8 times each one got pregnant. I say that because this is why there are so many single moms, ladies keep your legs closed or wrap it up...yall say no any other time.
Single black mothers are most selfish women on earth. They want babies, baby daddies, boyfriends and husbands. What about the few sisters that don`t have kids outta wedlock and who wants a man too. Plus single mothers have no taste in men, are fat, have stretch marks, are mad at strangers because they single, used up, wore out, still dealing with their baby daddies, etc... Dating single moms arent worth it, this is what they wanted so this is what they got. Btw, the sex is always nasty anyway.
Macadon, how old are you? because if your in your 30's like I believe you to be, its going to be very hard for you to find a woman(of any race)thats without kids. I'm married with two kids that (both) belong to my husband, so I'm not trying to persuade you in any way to date single mother's. However, women in their 20's who may possibly not have kids are sorta picky. They are quick to call a dude ugly. So, if your not attractive, it pushes u back to BW in their 30's w/kids.
@passionateOne32 Disagree, the pickings are not slim because I am also color blind and u also have women who would date older men. And also beauty is in the eye of the beholder so if one woman find me unattractive their another that won’t and also I’ve had compliments, I’ve been called handsome, cute, attractive. The pickings are not as slim as it is for women. U can look at the media and your surrounds to see for yourself. So I beg to differ about it being very hard from my perspective.
@macadon Damn right. A man with money and even reasonably good looking has women of ALL ages droppin out of the sky. I can't get 'em off me with a crowbar.
I'm 8 years single due to the traumatizing relationship I had with my last girlfriend/single mother. It seems most single woman around my age have kids, and I'm 37. This relationship went on for a very Rocky 2 years, in my late 20's.. At first I tried to do like she asked, and help be an influence in the Childs life who was already in his young teens at the time.. The problem with that was, the father was still in the teen boys life, and his methods of teaching his son how to be a man, contrad
AMEN to this video! I am a single, childless, Black female and Im going through the same thing. It is soooooo sickening and frustrating! WHERE ARE THE SINGLE, CHILDLESS, BLACK MEN? I am starting to believe they have been taken away by all of the holy pro-life hypocrits! Ugh! Single men with kids need to stop looking at childless women to "WIFE" up. Marriage should have been on your mind before you knocked up...THAT GIRL! I planned for my future, didn't you? I want MY OWN unattached man and kids!
@afamqueen05 The single and childless Black men are out and about bettering themselves because they have seen the ugly side of dating a woman with child and/or children. They have seen all of the issues and agendas that permeate the minds of a large percentage of single mothers, and the end result is that it deters men from dating women- even if they don't have kids.
Sure, it sounds like a noble effort in theory, but when confronted with the harsh realities, it's just a bad idea all around.
No, black men are not selfish for dating single black mothers. Any man that dates a single mother interferes with the child-father relationship. Single mothers trade sex with NearByGuy #7 or NiceGuy#13 for a dose of paternal culture, such as an afternoon of baseball.
Women think they can swap out fathers when they lapse in income or however it bests suits the mother. Modern American family culture, white or black, is : what is good for mom is good for everyone. Selfish.
No one is selfish with this topic. It is strictly a preference, no more, no less. Is it selfish for Human Resources to pick the person with the college degree over the high school diploma? Of course not.....Think about it.
i can totally agree to what he's sayin... obviously he's talking from an experience not jus from a perference... its a free world we should do as we please... your gonna be with the person not the world so the world should not have a shit to say...
Hey man- im an caucasian white man on 35-im in the same situation as u are- and i totally agree with u- its my thougts exactly-YOU ARE NOT SELFISH- you hear ur genes talking-its natural for us- to feel and think that way- DONT feel bad ok- when u agree to take care of another mans kid -paýing and razing u are doing somthing- really generous- dont forget that and the woman should requnice that- end of that.
Nothing selfish about it. Everybody has preferences. I for one don't want ANY kids and I was lucky enough to find a woman who felt the same. 2nd, even if I did..Id want them to be MY kids. That whole "a REAL man would step up and take care of my kids" or "You're just selfish" is just bullshit pushed around by bitter single mothers. Sadly, the sons of said mothers will have to listen to her bash men..and they will become "manginas" aka an alpha male by THEIR standards.
A man is only selfish if his only interest in the single mother is sex or just doesn't want anything to do with the child but yet date the single mother.
@TheHRchannel True. I see alot of men sleeping with the woman that has kids, but don't want the relationship with her child. Thats bullshit. If you don't want to date women that have kids, then stop sleeping with them too. This topic really goes both ways. I didn't want to date or marry a man who had kids, am I being selfish?
99% of black women are ghetto gaggers,,they will drop on their knees and let white men rape their mouths for anything.BLACK WOMEN THAT DATE INTERRACIALY ARE DEAD TO ME, TAKE WITH YOUR WHITE OR ASIAN MASTERS, DONT COME BACK.
It seems like the reason you don't want to date a single mother (excluding a divorcee or widow) is because of the insecurities and neuroses that underlie the behavior that got them into that situation in the first place where they have a baby daddy who is a deadbeat/is in jail/whatever. Just because she is now seeking out someone who has it to together to take care of her children doesn't mean that she has changed in her heart and mind to want what is good for her personally.
I would hate to lay beside a good man that in all trueness I didnt love. If I cant appreciate that he's a good man. my loss but i'm still not happy. I'm trying to do what I thought was right. 'love and man thats not in the streets.....find a man that will treat me with respect and my children. And do it quick cause there arnt alot of men who will want me now, so says my mama'. I am not a single mom. And im not saying its right to 'trick' someone. Just look at it from their view.
LOL of course they're not selfish for not dating single black mothers.. Think about it who wants to be reminded of someone's ex-boyfriend/thug everytime they look @ their step child?
not to mention everytime they look @ their step child they will also be reminded of what a nasty whore that women used to be..
StreamerVideo 7 hours ago
are black man "selfish" because he chooses to not date single mothers? No black men should not feel guilty about dating single mothers it is of no advantage for a male to raise another man child.
theabomation 1 day ago
I don't feel like supporting someone else's kid. I'm sorry. Some men are better at handling that sort of thing. There are plenty of men who have kids themselves who are more open to that sort of thing. I have no kids so I have no obligation to support a family. I agree with you 100%.
Thanks for this!
unak78 2 weeks ago
U sound so damn stupid
mimipetals1 2 weeks ago
@mimipetals1 Only idiots would say that b/c they choose to ignore the reality of it.
macadon 2 weeks ago
Dude, we see eye to eye. You've stated your reason's, which are pretty much the same as mine. So you are not selfish. Besides, you are not obligated to take care of someone else's child. People who don't understand your reasons or chose to ignore them are selfish.
theephraimite 2 weeks ago 4
I have to speak on this. I'm in the same boat as this brotha. I went to college, started my biz and don't have any kids. I've been the guy that wasn't want by the female when she didn't have kids, then wanted when knocked up by some loser. So, since she didn't consider me when she didn't have any kids, why should I take on her shit? As the little brats will tell you in a minute, "You're not my daddy!" This is not my bloodline, but I have to accept this b/c of why? Please explain?
shotta625 3 weeks ago
i feel the same way, its not my fault u have a kid, i dont have any, im not gonna be some random baby daddy, and most of these girls have babies by bum ass dudes that anit got shit going for them,
thabg007 3 weeks ago
Good video and very true indeed. I'm a single black male 39 yrs old and I must say as you get to be in your 30's black women have already have 2 or more kids by differernt men. And its a damn shame trying to find positive single woman with no kids,no drama,& love you for you is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
mrspot45 1 month ago
The whole idea of someone calling a black man "selfish" because he chooses to not date single mothers is ridiculous.
checkmateforever 1 month ago 7
@checkmateforever REAL TALK
pacedeli24 2 weeks ago
I'm in college studying medical.Why would I date a single mother when I graduate? Does that make any since? I can meet a single woman with no kids. I won't be worried about extra baggage. I won't have to worry about watching her kids. No time for women with kids because I want the best not an already made family. Plus I DON'T WANT KIDS
aero398 1 month ago
@Dbailey ...thx! But u know wat...? After all of this, bad relationships,being a single mom, and everything else that has occurred in my life, I have no regrets! I've learned that life is to short and that situations like this tend to take us away from "IT"! My advice to all and to myself would be ...Live and love will find u! Love and happiness will find u! Cry... and peace will find! Once again "life" is too short so embrace every moment of it!! ;)
lillypooh83 1 month ago
we all make mistakes we all have faults, but those as big as children are huge and life long, U coulda had him wrap it up or pull it out or what ever U needed 2 do 2 not be in this situation in tha first place, so take responsibility 4 ur own actions and blame no one but ur self, adapt a better mind frame and thought and hopfully U will catch someone who dosent mind ur extra baggage no one wants 2 B singe forever
Dbaiely 1 month ago
especially when U have multiple children by multiple men shows that you've consistintantly been making bad choices besides a first initial baby ops, so asking a man 2 bear that fault of ur consistant bad decisions is extremely selfish
Dbaiely 1 month ago
and yeah we can cry it takes two to tango all day, but really if U feel ur grown enough 2 take part in those actions be grown enough 2 take part in the responsibilities that come w/it, how about be a wife first then a mother might decrease ur chances of becoming a singe mother
Dbaiely 1 month ago
its not selfish point blank period, I feel tha same way about single dads, and tha concept U werent checkN 4 me then but now U wanna check 4 me now is right, its not that mans fault ur a single mother its only ur own especially if ur not also an ex wife, c'mon ladies we really need 2 start taking responibility 4 our own actions and our own destinity
Dbaiely 1 month ago
I can't have a relationship with a single mother.The most I can do with a single mother is have sex with her or just be friends.I strongly prefer women with no kids.Everytime I've dated a single mother it never went right.
pineboy23 1 month ago
It's not just someone else's child...it's all too often a thug's child...(or children.) You have the right to expect yor woman to be loyal and committed to you...and how can a single mother be committed to you when she's already committed to several men who came before you because that is the kind of man that she went out of her way to get? And her choices aren't suppose to carry consequences? Not quite. She made her choices...and now she's the one who's stuck with them...good, bad or otherwise.
MrSchultzstaffel 1 month ago
@MrSchultzstaffel its tru
Dbaiely 1 month ago
i don't think it is selfish for a single man with no kids to refuse a date with a woman who has children. all you brothas do is add to the single womans load. if i were a man with no kids i would choose a woman childless like myself. men are not responsible for all the babies a woman chooses to have with other men. im a woman and i do not want a man with small children... if his children are grown and out of the house then i can deal.
dragonpat666 1 month ago
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this is bullshit my uncle marry black woman who has two sons and she ain’t cute either lol i just keep it real but she is not hoe, don’t doing porno, have sex outside of her race so this is just was perfect to him that’s why he marry her. so this is not true about black men being selfish, materialistic and arrogant this is just bullsh’t!
swagboi7 1 month ago
It depends,for me to wanna take a single mother seriously I have to get what I want not being selfish I don't wanna waste my time..and @macadon you forgot to mention the single mothers who get a man and neglect their kid/s,I seen it happen too many times where a single mother will recycle the attitude of jodi's mom from the movie baby boy "moma gotta have a life too"
Terrealimthetruth 2 months ago
@Terrealimthetruth its tru 2oo, tha only difference is jody was grown, but there is nothing less atractive than a person who doesn't own up and take care of their kids and put them first man or women either way
Dbaiely 1 month ago
@Dbaiely yes, that's very true, i agree you all the way....
Terrealimthetruth 1 month ago
U know what ur not selfish but it sounds very mean. I happen to be a single mother with 3children and I'm holding it down by myself! I've been single for 3 yes now and it gets lonely but what ur saying boils down to a mindset and experience! Everyone has a story! It's not fair either way! We lose as single black woman in our on way. And u guys lose in y'all on little way. Sigh.... ;(
lillypooh83 2 months ago
yeah you do got it hard bs all yall do is sit back and get that government check if you did not have that you woued make better choice of men we have it harder sorry for ya quit trying to be the victim we all know nice guys finish last!
santiagodananperry 2 months ago
@lillypooh83 stay positive and jus try staying doing tha right things, and hopefully sooner than later that right man will come, stay up gurl
Dbaiely 1 month ago
your not being selfish beacuse u dont know if the last person they had sex with could have aids our std i wounld date a single mother my self beacuse she wounld put her child frist before you and trust me if u marry her i bet the marriage will fall apart quick it wount last
Randy2020 2 months ago
its not going to work out if u date somebody who has kids trust me beacuse marriage can fail so fast trust me
Randy2020 2 months ago
i find this topic interesting... knowledge increases with time... many have made wrong choices (i make some everyday).. i find it interesting that the thought process of many men is the above. it is disheartening. what happened to knowing the character of a person.. i agree that a lot of bw have a mindset that is not conductive to a productive relationship with any person. but for those who have the correct mindset... they are under the bus too.. i dont understand...
jaja7171 2 months ago
@jaja7171 see tha thing about dating ppl w/kids is U dont only jus get them, U get a package, tha kids and tha babymomma/daddy and tow, so it no longer is about jus getting 2 know tha chacter of that person alone, you have a whole lot of other stuff on ur plate 2 deal w/other than just that person, 4 sum ppl its 2oo much 2 deal w/for sum its not, keep ur head up hopefully you'll find tha right one 4 you
Dbaiely 1 month ago
@Dbaiely i remember the feeling i had when i heard this video and read the comments attached to it. no hope could be found within me. coming back to this site, i'm ok. i realize that my happiness doesn't depend on the comments of a select few. i truly thank the lord that he is not as condemning as the people who posted these comments. I am ok. not perfect, but ok.
jaja7171 3 weeks ago
Considering most black men are single fathers that is an interesting question....since it takes a man to get a bw pregnant.....most bm I meet have kids too. I prefer to date men without children. If that is your preference, nothing wrong with that. I just don't want a man with baby mama drama. No thanks.
tuxu14 2 months ago
I am a woman and I'm not interested in men with children or one child. When I start my own family I only want my kids with my partner and not other children and a baby mama attached. But if I end up as a single mother with minor children for any reason (divorce, partner dies, abuse, etc..) I would still want love. I wouldn't date a single parent, but if I end up as a single parent I would want to date. Crazy, I know.
ImNotRacistImBias 2 months ago
Women make the final choice in sex though people,Men just ask.
1makaylacoffman 2 months ago
You are very smart kimmie6209,Men like you do not act like mangina filled cowards.
1makaylacoffman 2 months ago
as far as I see it, this issue has no colour difference what so ever my brother
benhorinfreedom 2 months ago
isn't having a fatherlwss child selfish, & stupid??
benhorinfreedom 2 months ago
If things don't work out with my fiancee, I will not date another single mother. It one point, I said those exact words. But I met my fiancee and she changed my mind. She took care of her son and didn't expect me to be "daddy" to him. It wan't until later on in years that she decided to expect more from me.
soulfulman1971 2 months ago
@soulfulman1971 You should just dump the broad. Don't be whipped like a capt save a ho. Lets face it: if you're complaining online, then its really bugging you. Fine a woman who made right choices and make a family with her. Don't reward single moms for their stooopid decision. We can't let these kinds of people and their baby daddies breed.
Superseadragon 2 months ago
@Superseadragon I have to say that my fiancee is getting it together now. She FINALLY called the people on her son's father. I used to feel like if that man was a brother, she would've called a long time ago. Now I'm seeing thing a little differently.
soulfulman1971 2 months ago
@soulfulman1971 So the baby daddy is non Black, presumably a White man? Oh shit. I know she's your fiancee and all, but that's got ghetto gagger all written over it. Tariq Nasheed just made the podcast on mack lessons called negro wench syndrome. You need to check it out. Peace!
Superseadragon 2 months ago
His mother is white and his father is Mexican and Pacific Islander. My fiancee used to get on me about dating white women (before I met her). I'd retaliate by saying your son's father isn't a brother. They were in their teens, BTW.
soulfulman1971 2 months ago
@soulfulman1971 So your fiance is Black, and her ex is Mexican and Pacific Islander? Dude, we can't build a community with females like that. You know this. She has a kid with a non Black man, calls you out for dating out is like calling the kettle black. No pun. You can do much better than that. Its now or never, reclaim your freedom and start your own. I live in Atlanta, almost the whopping majority are single mothers. I would rather stay single, than play daddy to them.
Superseadragon 2 months ago
..THE OBVIOUS ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION IS..NO!
omahni2 3 months ago
dating single women is like ordering a steack thats been half eaten at a diner
capnhands 3 months ago
Like Lyfe Jenning said in his song, She Got Kids, "Would he be wrong for loving his own flesh and blood a little more"? I feel you, bruh. My fiancee has a son and the boy's dad is not in his life. My fiancee doesn't push the father to be be a part of the boy's life but she totally pushes me. I don't mind, However, she's now saying she doesn't want more kids but is content for me to raise hers. How is that fiar? What if we do have kids? I'm gonna love mine just a little bit more. Sorry.
soulfulman1971 3 months ago
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kimmie6209 3 months ago
@kimmie6209 The only reason I stated that widowed/divorced single mothers are exeptions to rule because it shows that the women was trying to do things right. I'm not talking about the ones who get pregnant or married in a feeble attempt to make a no-good nigga to stay with them. Me, on the other hand I chose not the date single mothers PERIOD! To avoid all that unnessesary drama all that excess baggage left by some bum ass negro.
natturnerX 2 months ago
@soulfulman1971 Unfortunately u are a Beta Male who will avoid risk at all cost. Ur fiancee senses this & that is why she chose u. The Alpha males generally spread their seed & leave it up to pussy wimps like u to take care of their seed, a seed that cannot even carry your bloodline. U are only enabling the Alpha male to thrive while u punk out. Her baby daddy has the charmisa & confidence to get the lady's while guys like u ride the bench & only get in after they make the winning shot. Dumb!
kimmie6209 3 months ago 2
@kimmie6209 You're right. However, you are wrong if you think I'm a pussy wimp. Don't act tough on the Internet.
soulfulman1971 2 months ago
@soulfulman1971 What the hell is wrong with you? I'm usually a cool guy and don't like being an asshole toward people, but bro, you need to be slapped back to reality. A women tells you she doesn't want a kid with you but wants you to raise her kid. Your exact quote "she totally pushes me" My advice to you is simple - Do not marry this women!
rjhome1 2 months ago
@rjhome1 You weren't outta line. In fact, you may be right.
soulfulman1971 2 months ago
SOME OF U WOMWN NEED TO GET OFF U TUBE AND GET A JOB AND BECOME PRODUCTIVE.. TRUTH HURTS AND IF IT DOES CHANGE YOUR STYLE! AND QUIT COMPLAINING I DO NOT BLAME THIS BROTHER WHY SHOULD HE NOT WANT WHAT HE WANTS> FIND UR BABIES DADDY AND TAKE ACTION
kashaherum 3 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99
Who chose those men to get pregnant with?
Who allowed those men to bust a nut in them?
Who chose to overlook nice the nice guys just to get with a guy who didn't want to be a father at that time?
If you answered all women, then you are a rational thinker that knows that women themselves have to own up to their decisions.
Answering incorrectly or dodging the question only makes you look bad imo.
Tarikan5 4 months ago
No they are not. If I was single, I wouldn't date a man with kids.
AjahDawn 4 months ago
I feel you bruh!. Im 31 years old with no kids and I have tried dating single mothers and that shit is like trying to beat a dead horse. Im not going down that bumpy, tore up road again! The only exceptions to that rule in my book are single mothers who are widowed or divorced.
natturnerX 4 months ago
@natturnerX Why would single mothers who are widowed/divorced be an expection? Those situations do not make the kid disappear they will still be in the picture & you will have all the hang ups & headaches of a family except that Oh, the kids aren't yours, & it's not worth it. If you don't want to date single moms, don't date single moms if doesn't matter why she's a single mom, the dynamics of a family will still apply. If you don't date fat girls, it doesn't matter how she got fat, she's fat!
kimmie6209 3 months ago
@kimmie6209 lol...interesting and good point.
checkmateforever 2 weeks ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 What your saying about men here is generally true but it always has been. So what's changed?
Before feminism brought about the sexual revolution the "bull shit" your eluding to rarely went on. Don't you know why?
Women withheld sex until marriage... Consequently they had a degree of devotion from men to them and family that has now become rare. Think about it. Men get casual sex from many women without committing to or really even caring about any of them.
Brilliant ladies.
embracingreality 4 months ago
I do not feel like women should be angry because there are men that do not want to have a relationship with a single mother. I feel that is their personal choice and it is okay to make your own family, but to categorize women into a shell with other stereotypical "babymamas" is what irritates me!! I am a single mother and it is not because I am ignorant or innocent but because I had sex outside of marriage and it could happen to anyone who does the same!!
neic1406 4 months ago
@neic1406 Well you actually categorized yourself in that one. You had sex, out of marriage, with a man whom you're no longer with. Unless he put a gun to your head, a man didn't force you to have sex without a form of contraception. If you're going to try to toss out the "no-good man" excuse realize that if you actually took the time to get to know him, and protect yourself if you still chose to have sex with him, you really wouldn't be a single mother. What makes your situation any different?
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
O Lord they Exiled us from the dating Scene!! I cannot comment on this in a sophisticated manner because to me you must be ignorant if you feel that this is a woman's issue. There had to be a man that stepped away from his family to leave the woman as 'single" even if it is outside of being a widow.. If a woman is single it must be for a reason or issue. If a man can leave and still go out and date and mingle, a woman is left to pick up the pieces of the broken family!! Give some Respect.
neic1406 4 months ago
@neic1406 Oh really? What about the women who step away from their man? I love how women toss this little tidbit out, but fail to realize that in fact 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Also, you can't comment at all if you 1.) Had children out of wedlock and 2.) try to toss out the "it must be a reason" excuse. Well there must be a reason for a man to step away from what he already has unless he is in fact a "no-good man" but if you took the time to get to know him you'd already know that.
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@neic1406 Last but not least, for every hypothetical man that has "stepped away from his family" there's a hypothetical woman who probably 1.) had children to keep them, 2.) drove the man away, or 3.) stepped away from the man for the same reasons as you may try to claim. Now, again I'm not excusing the fact that some men are cunning or "no-good" and in fact give a bad name to all men, however I'm not going to put it out like every single mother has dealt with a man like this.
Be realistic.
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@neic1406 I understand where you're coming from. But a single guy like me with no kids. I dont want an already made family. Not only that I have to deal with the fact that I will never be #1. I have tried to date single mothers and i way too much baggage for me the even handle. Better women make better choice as well as better men.
natturnerX 4 months ago
Why do you feel that a woman who has children wasn't trying to have a relationship with a good guy, just because she is now alone? It is important that you stay away from women with children, because they are going through enough taking care of their kids alone!!
neic1406 4 months ago
@neic1406 Because women who usually have children in this manner typically have their priorities mixed up, make poor decisions off of those priorities, and in the long run have children by guys they really don't know. Outside of being in an abusive relationship or one where the husband cheats on her, there isn't really a GOOD excuse to be a single mother nowadays, especially with the fact that there is a substantial amount of contraception for both sexes.
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@neic1406 Now, not excusing the fact that she in fact wanted a "good guy", but in any scenario outside of being a widow or escaping a infidelity-filled or abusive relationship means that they were doing what they wanted to at the time, and therefore unfortunately it's a consequence of their own actions if a single childless father chooses to not date her in exchange for starting a family of his own.
We have to take into account that women aren't as innocent/ignorant as many try to portray.
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
I Can Relate Brother....THANK YOU !!
capricornkid89 4 months ago
Oh yeah, not to mention...
You will NEVER be FIRST PLACE. The child will always be first (as it should be), but you have the right to be first with a single childless woman.
I will NEVER again be second place to anyone in my woman's life unless it's my own seed.
RBG02005 5 months ago
Touchy my ass!
You aren't Superman. You are not here to save every single mother.
You will ALWAYS have problems with 1) the baby's father 2) her discipline with the child 3) the child realizing that you're not the father
Our feminist society has taught us wrongly. It's a PACKAGE DEAL, and you should not pay for HER POOR DECISIONS if you don't want the responsibility.
RBG02005 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 They need to deserve to swim at the bottom of the dating pool... Then hopefully she can break the cycle with her daughter
Justadonis20 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 Women throw themselves at ain't shit niggas all the time... That is what women need to be focused on... I know you want to be an adult until some shit goes down... and then use a man as a scapegoat
Justadonis20 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 Tell me yourself, what excuse would a single mother have, outside of the father's death or infidelity/abusive relationship (seeing as these are the only valid excuses)? Most single mothers I've seen have gotten pregnant by guys they've been seeing for less than 2 years, not using protection (which in itself is risky behavior, if you can't trust a man to be a father then how in the hell can you trust a man with your life?) or simply chasing men who they KNOW aren't father material.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
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@cgiwattgrrl99 I don't judge single mothers harshly, but being the product of one plus the brother of another one, unless the father died, or the dude just cheated on her after being in a LONG relationship (long being 5-10 years) then all those single moms fall into the "foolish woman" category simply because women NOW have the ability to use protection for themselves.
You cannot excuse this, and you very well know that both macadon and the men here aren't labeling ALL single moms like this.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 I don't judge single mothers harshly, but being the product of one plus the brother of another one, unless the father died, or the dude just cheated on her after being in a LONG relationship (long being 5-10 years) then all those single moms fall into the "foolish woman" category simply because women NOW have the ability to use protection for themselves.
You cannot excuse this, and you very well know that both macadon and the men here aren't labeling ALL single moms like this.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 People judge, that's something that's never going to change though. People have reasons why they don't date X, and in many cases it's due to judgmental reasons (Not pretty, got kids). Women do it all the time, go on craigslist, I'm sure you can find an ad talking about they don't want to date a man who "has no car, no job, got kids, or no money" (I just found one in my area, it was the first posting! AND she's a single mom!!!).
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 For instance, I'm a 24 year-old Black dude graduating from Ohio State this March. I have no children, and pride myself for not falling into the stereotypical trap. I've worked hard to keep myself protected by not sleeping around, with or without protection, making myself great husband/father material.
Are you saying I'd be hypocritical for not wanting to date a single mother; am I hypocritical for wanting a woman of equal merit to start my own family with?
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 (cont'd) Privileges aren't a right. If a single mom gets a childless man, then she's lucky, but it isn't her right. Why should a woman who got to sleep around, have her fun, and overlook those good guys, now deserve a good guy?
What about those guys who became successful males and/or have no children? Do they NOT have a choice? Again, is it selfish for a man to not want to date a single mother, but not selfish for a childless woman to not want to date a man with children?
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@OmniDaAngel What makes You certain childless men, good guys?? I don't really see it from the comments left here on YouTube!! The fact of the matter is, it is not a privilege and by stating that dating you is a privilege you put your selves above us as single mothers. You are a weaker human being, if not only in the fact that you don't have the capacity to love beyond circumstance . I don't ask you to join in any struggle with me or to help me, only respect me as a stronger vessel.
neic1406 4 months ago
@neic1406 Don't get me wrong, I don't downplay single mothers as being inferior or place them as superior for taking care of a child on their own. However you made the choice to have children.
Love beyond circumstance is only applicable when those circumstances that made you a single mother are out of your control. You sleeping around and having children, out of wedlock, with a man you don't really know is not one of them.
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@neic1406 Now, to address your question, what makes us "good guys"? The fact that we aren't running around fathering children for the simple sake of doing so while knowing full well we may not be ready emotionally or financially to do so is a good start for an answer to that. Wanting to be actual providers in a family we can truly call our "own" doesn't make us "weaker" either. You made your choice, why can't men have theirs? (Cont'd)
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@neic1406 I myself put myself through college and told myself I wouldn't have children until I was able to support them and my wife (keyword: wife). What makes me a good guy? Many of the girls in my generation aren't looking for the guy like me, and in fact slept around with "prettyboys" or "thugs" a.k.a. men who they know weren't father/husband material, got pregnant by them.
Are you saying I'm weaker because I refuse to take on the consequences of a now single mother's poor choice-making?
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@neic1406 To put the final nail in the coffin, take accountability of your own actions but don't sit there and try to shift blame on the men you sleep around with. Like you say, there has to be a man who stepped away from his family. However there was a woman who slept with and got pregnant these so-called "evil men".
And to quote a single mother, "if you're having sex with someone who isn't worth being around or is a deadbeat, what does that say about you?" (Continued in next post)
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@neic1406 (Cont'd from last post) Protect yourself until you're sure he's capable of starting a family. If you aren't doing that, that speaks volumes about you, thus is a perfectly good reason for a man without children to probably stay away.
Maybe you did have to deal with a worthless man, or maybe you weren't looking for an intrinsically valued man. In any case, like @cgiwattgrrl99 said about men making better choices, women need to make better choices about the men they lay down with.
OmniDaAngel 4 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 Nobody said single moms don't have the right to date like childless women, however many people agree that they shouldn't expect to get that guy with no children either and feel bad when he doesn't want to date her because she has children.
One thing you're forgetting is that there are just as many women sleeping with those deadbeats and manwhores and getting pregnant by them. Why should "those few men" have to pick up the slack? Why do those women sleep with those "deadbeats"?
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 In any case, a woman, our equal, needs to choose wisely who she sleeps with, especially without protection. Men can be dismissive because women have the absolute power to dismiss a man (tell him 'Yes' or 'No' in regards to sex) and/or if contraception is to be used. Women who become single moms simply need to make better choices about men they're sleeping with; if they actually slept with actual father/husband material instead of 'sperm donors' then this wouldn't be an issue.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 For instance, a mother by default has custody during a joint custody situation unless she's deemed unfit to be a mother (not the case for fathers). Or how about children being used to get child support from the biological father when the father is doing the right thing but the mother is preventing him from doing so, that way she can keep getting her check (There's a Judge Judy case here on Youtube where a girl does do that). I'm not being sexist, but not being delusional either.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 You can't really speak on the issue of double standards...they actually play in favor for women not men. Us men without children can be dismissive towards single mothers because a lot of them get pregnant by men who they KNOW aren't shit or going to be fathers. Men can't impregnate a woman without her say-so, or again, that's rape. Women must take account for her own actions, a man can't sleep with a woman without her consent, anything a woman lets a man do to her is her fault.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 (cont'd) After they got pregnant, suddenly I'm the hottest thing on the market. It really sucks, even a girl who dated me, cheated on me and got pregnant told me she regretted what she did and wishes I took her back >.> Men and women suck, just wish both made better choices with the people they lay up with.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 Then we're actually in agreement :) It's just that when it comes down to it, a man cannot father a child with a woman without her consent, otherwise it's rape. That being said, I just wish those ladies wouldn't lay up with a dude without a rubber, especially if those dudes aren't "men" per se. I mean, I'm an educated Black dude (and decent looking) graduating from OSU this year; I know at least 4 women who've overlooked me, got with a thug dude, and got pregnant.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@OmniDaAngel
At least you can look at the women and laugh at their face if they try to get back with you.
They chose men that didn't care for them that much, and allowed those men to screw up with their life.
Tarikan5 4 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 Well, I know you want to take the heat off of single moms, but they pick these guys to make babies with, over more responsible men
Justadonis20 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 Not to mention, birth control and forms of contraception in this day and age isn't just now placed on a man's shoulders anymore. A woman has female condoms, IUDs, abstinence, normal condoms just in case the dude she wants to sleep with isn't carrying his own (in this case this dude is a lame anyways), etc. Any woman who puts herself in the single mother category has nobody to blame but themselves. Women in general need to respect themselves at least, by protecting themselves.
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
@cgiwattgrrl99 Yeah but under normal circumstances you could really figure out if those black men are or aren't father material before even laying up with them. Most girls, who I've known who falls under the single mom category here in Ohio, generally sleep with thug-ass dudes who really don't have anything going for themselves. Those same dudes, who probably don't really care for the girl outside of her being a piece of ass when he wants it, probably won't care about the children she has or had
OmniDaAngel 5 months ago
As a woman I won't date men with children - I want to be the only mother of his children. Not selfish at all. You want what you want and I think it is natural for people to want families of their own.
ImNotRacistImBias 6 months ago 2
Black, white, purple or yellow with pink polka-dots - DO NOT DATE SINGLE MOTHERS
You hit the nail on the hammer in explaining the reasons, and I think all men of all races can relate to you.
hondacivic1992 6 months ago
15 Single Mom's disliked this video!!
G1theone 6 months ago 2
@cgiwattgrrl99 Wow your lack of understanding the main point is amazing
macadon 6 months ago 4
@macadon Sounds like @CGIWATTGRRL99 hit the nail on the head to me, how can anyone expect to sleep around and still want a woman that is "pure" just as you choose to run through women I am sure there is a million other males that choose to do the same, while promising everything, down to his life just for the chance. Not all men, but some men, and since my Sin is no longer hidden but a daily reminder I have to then Earn Your Approval....LAUGHABLE!!
neic1406 4 months ago
sounds like the beggining of a psa...''ima black man''....lol
you aren't selfish....youre smart.....
MyrandaLuv1 6 months ago
As being married with two kids & my occupation is working for the military. I would hope if something was to ever happen to me that later down the road that black man would come into my family life & be a great father that he can be to my kids. My wife has a stepfather that step up to the plate & her biological father was murdered on duty (Cop). Its not fair to make these generalization about black women but I know where this shit stems from media encouraging black women to put us under the bus!
lilrog0909 6 months ago
@kaos3124 Pay your own fucking bills.. and quit asking for a free ride.. You had your shot. You dumb hoe.
unrealed2211 6 months ago
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tonyaldorsey 7 months ago
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Who want an outdated woman, who was passed in and out like an used wet blunt? Who can wife'd an single mother, when she was already disposable unit aka cum-dumpsters. Tell me why in America, got an HIGHEST RATE of being an single mother, instead of somebody's wife. P.S. I aint mentioning of women: who were legitimate molested or widow. Just say NO to single useless moms. Thank you
UltraDOG17 7 months ago
Who want an outdated woman, who was passed in and out like an used wet blunt? Who can wife'd an single mother, when she was already disposable unit aka cum-dumpsters. Tell me why in America, got an HIGHEST RATE of being an single mother, instead of somebody's wife. P.S. I aint mentioning of women: who were legitimate molested or widow. Just say NO to single useless moms. Thank you
UltraDOG17 7 months ago
u arent selfish for not wanting a single mom, re realistic. and its sad how people in general cant appreciate someone good, men and women.
patriciacarrasco 7 months ago
Mac stick by your guns. I don't care what anybody say on here. It is always the women with kids or the dude that is dating or married to a woman with kids who tell you to date them. If you want your own family then get your own family. It is hard to find but there are women out there in there 30's without kids. I tried to make it work myself but it is not worth it.
mmou3878 7 months ago
These bitches let the bad boys bust that nut when their young, and then want nice guys who they wouldn't give the pussy to back in the day to step in and help them raise them. Fuck these bitches. Let them drown.
MrFuckyoubitch69 8 months ago 14
@MrFuckyoubitch69 You hit the nail on the head.
TheMoonGuy22 8 months ago
@MrFuckyoubitch69 you hit the nail on the head!!!
vanityrose12 4 months ago
@MrFuckyoubitch69 I totally agree with'ya. Let those bitch ass single mothers drown in their own water that they flooded up.
mjdc2505 3 months ago
No brother you are not selfish. If a man does not want to date a single mother that is just his preference. Those people are trying to lay a guilt trip on men. Just like women who try to pass the irresponsible guy(she cheated with or slept with while you were broken up) child off on the good guy because she knows he will be there. And then gets upset when the good guy asks for a DNA test because he has sense. Choose the childless women you prefer and good luck in it.
nichirenx 8 months ago
Not being with a particular person is not selfish. You should be with someone you love (kids or no) and in a relationship that works for both and the kids. My dad married (she had kids to) just because he wanted someone to take care of us and she was HORRID to me and my sister. He didnt love her, and it was bad for us kids and caused me to leave home at 16. I agree, it's selfish to be with someone just for them to help with your kids and then it not work. That hurts everyone in the situation.
TheMajikRuby 8 months ago
No, not selfish at all. It's just that most black females are gonna go for the wrong guy, as usual. The thugs, idiots and scumbags. It's a never ending trend, and by the time she finds out that she is wrong she suddenly wants a decent guy after she had 7 kids with a crack dealer that cares about nothing. Black women need to educate themselves, and I'm talking a deep and structured education about men, kids and all that before jumping ahead not knowing anything. It's crazy.
kltiswhoib 8 months ago
Single parents brings too much drama to a relationship plain and simple.
mrcharles007 8 months ago
I am agree with you and i don't think it's selfish. And there is plenty of single girls without kids even in their 30's. If you will start your own new family God bless you.
4891love 8 months ago
Why is it so hard to find a female in her early twenties without kids...??
chalant08 8 months ago
Lol@ did I sign up for this? I agree with you...as a gay female I'm now questioning being with a female that has a kid. That's a big step I'm 22 and she seem like a good girl but...in Now looking at reality of her having a child. He comes first I can't come between that and wouldn't. I feel like I'm being looked at in a different light. I want a girl and it's me and her now I'm being told it's "us". And yea single moms shouldn't be "shunned" from the dating scene but someone without a child may
chalant08 8 months ago
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See sometimes I feel like I don't wan't a sexually experienced women with kids, I wan't a woman like me. Now I can choose..lolol...that's soo funny to me when I think about it
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
I have changed, I have matured from a nice boy to a grown man seeking righteousness in ever aspect of his life. I went from a boy not sure of his self worth to a Man who now can fully see and love himself for who he is. I look at some of them that I used to love and still do with kids and struggling and all I can say is I would of loved for those kids to be mine. I would of loved them and never ran off on you and our family.But all I can think is you should of loved me and apreciated me then
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
It's sad because I see all of these women that settled for the thug or bad guy in high school now single parents and on their own. I see all these guys I went to high school with struggling to pay child support or not paying at all. These men and women are still falling for the same thing. See,The Most High looks out for his own. I know my self worth and will no longer settle.These women try to talk to me now and when I turn them down they say that I have changed.lol.their right in an aspect
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
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I'm a virgin, I was raised by my mom and dad to respect and honor women and wait until marriage. When I went to school with this attitude I was ran over. I then started to loose my self confidence because I thought something was wrong with me. My mom seemed to prepair me for a woman that no longer seemed to be in existence. I now thank my parents so much. I thought something was wrong with me but I now know the Most High was protecting me from this crap.
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
@YahcobYsrael wow that is awesome and a rare in this age. a gift truly to any woman.. JUST BEAUTIFUL
jaja7171 2 months ago
Also I have single parent friends who refuse to date while their children are still with them. They want the dating to be about them and that person and not them, that person and their children. They are waiting for their kids to grow up so they can go back the single market again.
MsTigerseye77 8 months ago
Sounds like self preservation. It is your choice and your right to choose how you want to live your life. If you want your own family that is your right to pursue and not give it up because someone else thinks otherwise. As a gainfully employed black woman, I do not want date any man with children. Also I think the scenario you described was about money. Single people have to be careful, because pity can be a potent killer in your own future. If you want to help help as a friend.
MsTigerseye77 8 months ago
yeah i understand you. single black fathers approach me all the time and im tired of it. Sometimes i feel bad for turning them down because a lot of them are really good guys, but im just not the stepmother type. i don't even won't kids of my own. im happy with babysitting my neices and nephews because you can always give them back.
lonialee90 9 months ago
@lonialee90
I am a 37 year old woman. I agree with 100%
L281173 8 months ago
Why is there a pressure to date single black Mothers? I am a black man without Children, I would love to meet a single black woman without Child with an ultimate 'meeting of minds.' Starting my own family is important to me - as it will be with a single black Childless woman.
samms2007 9 months ago
It's like you said. I want to start a family of my own one day, period point blank. We should never be made to feel selfish for someone else's lack of sexual responsibility. I've heard the same thing and even caught flack from a couple sisters because of my stance but I feel holding my position is worth it.
obatron1 9 months ago
It's not selfish, don't even sweat it. I'm a single bf and I completely feel you. I dated two single men with children and both relationships didn't work because of the same reasons that you mentioned! So it's not just a gender thing only, it works both ways for single male and single female parents.
Randyrita80 9 months ago
on the flip side of this was women chasing you or trying to be a partner with you when you was in the process of getting yourself together or when you was coming up or when money was low...even though you had heart or skills..most women want guys who have their self together..the finished product and they're justified with that decision ...but when black men or men in general want women who doesn't have kids or have preferences we should be ashamed..it's like they want us to accept the minimum
704Hustle 9 months ago
Its not easy especially if the child's father is still in his life and only started calling about his son because another man came into the picture... Sorry excuse for a man and father. Even though it was WAY before I met my women he cheated on his wife 8 times each one got pregnant. I say that because this is why there are so many single moms, ladies keep your legs closed or wrap it up...yall say no any other time.
wadelone23 9 months ago
Single black mothers are most selfish women on earth. They want babies, baby daddies, boyfriends and husbands. What about the few sisters that don`t have kids outta wedlock and who wants a man too. Plus single mothers have no taste in men, are fat, have stretch marks, are mad at strangers because they single, used up, wore out, still dealing with their baby daddies, etc... Dating single moms arent worth it, this is what they wanted so this is what they got. Btw, the sex is always nasty anyway.
LACraig621 9 months ago 3
Macadon, how old are you? because if your in your 30's like I believe you to be, its going to be very hard for you to find a woman(of any race)thats without kids. I'm married with two kids that (both) belong to my husband, so I'm not trying to persuade you in any way to date single mother's. However, women in their 20's who may possibly not have kids are sorta picky. They are quick to call a dude ugly. So, if your not attractive, it pushes u back to BW in their 30's w/kids.
passionateOne32 9 months ago 3
@passionateOne32 Disagree, the pickings are not slim because I am also color blind and u also have women who would date older men. And also beauty is in the eye of the beholder so if one woman find me unattractive their another that won’t and also I’ve had compliments, I’ve been called handsome, cute, attractive. The pickings are not as slim as it is for women. U can look at the media and your surrounds to see for yourself. So I beg to differ about it being very hard from my perspective.
macadon 9 months ago 9
@macadon Damn right. A man with money and even reasonably good looking has women of ALL ages droppin out of the sky. I can't get 'em off me with a crowbar.
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Dilani56 10 months ago
I'm 8 years single due to the traumatizing relationship I had with my last girlfriend/single mother. It seems most single woman around my age have kids, and I'm 37. This relationship went on for a very Rocky 2 years, in my late 20's.. At first I tried to do like she asked, and help be an influence in the Childs life who was already in his young teens at the time.. The problem with that was, the father was still in the teen boys life, and his methods of teaching his son how to be a man, contrad
hookerboys 10 months ago
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Mackdxn22 10 months ago
I like single fathers... So...
yannajata 10 months ago
How harsh.
yannajata 10 months ago
In nature it is abnormal for the male of any species to nurture another male’s offspring.
DONDIVA1969 10 months ago
AMEN to this video! I am a single, childless, Black female and Im going through the same thing. It is soooooo sickening and frustrating! WHERE ARE THE SINGLE, CHILDLESS, BLACK MEN? I am starting to believe they have been taken away by all of the holy pro-life hypocrits! Ugh! Single men with kids need to stop looking at childless women to "WIFE" up. Marriage should have been on your mind before you knocked up...THAT GIRL! I planned for my future, didn't you? I want MY OWN unattached man and kids!
afamqueen05 10 months ago
@afamqueen05 The single and childless Black men are out and about bettering themselves because they have seen the ugly side of dating a woman with child and/or children. They have seen all of the issues and agendas that permeate the minds of a large percentage of single mothers, and the end result is that it deters men from dating women- even if they don't have kids.
Sure, it sounds like a noble effort in theory, but when confronted with the harsh realities, it's just a bad idea all around.
MyJunior1975 10 months ago 3
No, black men are not selfish for dating single black mothers. Any man that dates a single mother interferes with the child-father relationship. Single mothers trade sex with NearByGuy #7 or NiceGuy#13 for a dose of paternal culture, such as an afternoon of baseball.
Women think they can swap out fathers when they lapse in income or however it bests suits the mother. Modern American family culture, white or black, is : what is good for mom is good for everyone. Selfish.
feministsAreCorrupt 10 months ago
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MRbossman1982 10 months ago
No one is selfish with this topic. It is strictly a preference, no more, no less. Is it selfish for Human Resources to pick the person with the college degree over the high school diploma? Of course not.....Think about it.
029752551 10 months ago
Dude got a point but u can't say that about all the ladies
452830 10 months ago
i can totally agree to what he's sayin... obviously he's talking from an experience not jus from a perference... its a free world we should do as we please... your gonna be with the person not the world so the world should not have a shit to say...
rkerone 11 months ago
Hey man- im an caucasian white man on 35-im in the same situation as u are- and i totally agree with u- its my thougts exactly-YOU ARE NOT SELFISH- you hear ur genes talking-its natural for us- to feel and think that way- DONT feel bad ok- when u agree to take care of another mans kid -paýing and razing u are doing somthing- really generous- dont forget that and the woman should requnice that- end of that.
anandajidasa 11 months ago 2
its bad luck to date a black women with kids
sonicftw420 11 months ago
Nothing selfish about it. Everybody has preferences. I for one don't want ANY kids and I was lucky enough to find a woman who felt the same. 2nd, even if I did..Id want them to be MY kids. That whole "a REAL man would step up and take care of my kids" or "You're just selfish" is just bullshit pushed around by bitter single mothers. Sadly, the sons of said mothers will have to listen to her bash men..and they will become "manginas" aka an alpha male by THEIR standards.
DeadSleepers 11 months ago 2
A man is only selfish if his only interest in the single mother is sex or just doesn't want anything to do with the child but yet date the single mother.
TheHRchannel 11 months ago
@TheHRchannel True. I see alot of men sleeping with the woman that has kids, but don't want the relationship with her child. Thats bullshit. If you don't want to date women that have kids, then stop sleeping with them too. This topic really goes both ways. I didn't want to date or marry a man who had kids, am I being selfish?
passionateOne32 10 months ago
@passionateOne32 Yea it does go both ways but no you are not being selfish.
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MRbossman1982 11 months ago
It seems like the reason you don't want to date a single mother (excluding a divorcee or widow) is because of the insecurities and neuroses that underlie the behavior that got them into that situation in the first place where they have a baby daddy who is a deadbeat/is in jail/whatever. Just because she is now seeking out someone who has it to together to take care of her children doesn't mean that she has changed in her heart and mind to want what is good for her personally.
DarthVreda 11 months ago
I would hate to lay beside a good man that in all trueness I didnt love. If I cant appreciate that he's a good man. my loss but i'm still not happy. I'm trying to do what I thought was right. 'love and man thats not in the streets.....find a man that will treat me with respect and my children. And do it quick cause there arnt alot of men who will want me now, so says my mama'. I am not a single mom. And im not saying its right to 'trick' someone. Just look at it from their view.
MsParkersmile4me 1 year ago