my parents. we fight everday and the only thing keeping me from going completely beserk are my friends and this one girl ive been talking to. without them, well i dont know. woldnt be pretty
I just don't know how to approach her for another date.I don't know when the right time would be to take it to the next level. I want to take it slow, but not too slow. I've been manifesting my own reality consciously since March 2011. I've gotten this far, and normally I'm good with intense thought process. It's big fork in the road. I want to go the direction to obtain her as my life mate. Thank you for listening, Sean. If you feel the urge to reply personally, I humbly accept a chat with you.
Also, I've recently [Oct 2011] fallen out of a relationship that has lasted 9 years. Things have happened after the breakup that rip me apart. However, I have met an amazing woman several days ago, and she feels like the one. A complete twin. Someone who seems to understand me, but we've only been on one date. I've never dated before. All my other relationships just kind of started out of nowhere. I want to be with this woman. I've not felt this way before. I have never felt so sure......
It isn't life that is hard, it is figuring it out that is difficult. I'm an intellectual mind who, often, gets questioned about how I do things. I'm never just left alone in that regard. However, I do not want to be left alone entirely. There are a few factors that play into some sort of confusion. I'm a musician and a poet. I often get told by my peers that I am excellent. I've often heard "why aren't you famous yet??". I don't know the answer.......
My pain comes from feeling bad about myself and putting much importance on others' opinions & behaviour.I know that all is okey rationally,but i fell bad anywas;after that i know that im feeling this way again so it gets worse. What helps me is to do what I want to do despite the bad feeling, even thou it stops me from being my true self.However,this doesnt happen always.One day im totally okey,talking to anyone etc,and another totally not,not even at home.Such contrast and that confuses me.
My pain is being rejected. I feel rejected in most areas of life: relationship (husband withdrawing emotionally), in my work (unemployed), in my artistic ambitions (I know I can write, publishers just don't believe in my stories because they are not dramatic enough) etc.
I always try to help and love, but wind up rejected.
I am aware that I'm magnet for rejection, but I just can't figure out how to stop it and turn it around. I am tired, but don't want to give up on life. I hope you can help.
:) hey sean. about pain hmmm. i have problem within my self and it makes more complicated. i don't know how to start but the pain in heart is like uhmm, The problem is that i don't know how to release the pain in my heart before. But now im trying things step by step, i hope it would be nice :) my problem is, i take all little things in my heart that's why im hurted easily... and its hard to sleep...
But my problem is that I expect physical changes in my bodies appearance to happen too quickly when it in fact, takes time and you need to keep at it and it will happen. I get depressed easily because of it.
1. Learning disability - I don't understand numbers. I can't tell time and I can't count money. This is keeping me from getting my first job....I'm 20 and turning 21 on Christmas. This sets me back a lot and makes me stuck.
2. Self image - I really hate my body. Overall, I'm healthy but....I don't like how my looks. I'm underweight but have excess fat and I jiggle a lot. I'm working out to become toned and to burn that fat that's so gross looking on my body.
The greatest source of pain is within myself. I'm a college student who just feels like the weight of the world has been crashing down. What started it all is starting math classes. After lots of hard work and determination I passed online Algebra and Trig. However, next semester I start my last math class, Basic Statistics. I just don't have any confidence in myself to pass. I know I am pushing people away because I'm so scarred of failing. College now feels like a prison and it makes me sad :(
First thing i love you Sean, you are great inspiration and i wish you all the best!
as for you vid, my greatest source of pain is really more then one, i've no money because i pay for collage and rent all by myself, there is zero help since my mother is broke and my father does time and i dont talk with him, i barely have friends and due to my situation i cant open up and social much, girls stay away from me due to my bald head and lack of money, there is no hope for me down the line,
I live alone, im 28 yo, and im so drained out, there i lost motivation to move out and fix my situation, i thought about finishing it all, but i dont want to cause my mother more pain then she already suffered, the day she dies i promised to kill myself, i have no regret about this decision, its rational thinking, there is no point for me to live, and dont get me wrong, im not sad nor depresed, i just had enough :]
ill go with a huge smile on my face, it will be the best feeling.
My greatest source of pain is not to be able to face my emotions and accept myself as I am. I don't feel good enough, perfect enough and that's giving me a hard time sometimes because I procrastinate, have low self-esteem or get depressed.
Thank you for your wonderful and uplifting videos :)
I used to have some major social anxiety back when i was a kid ... i was so insecure that i'd always ask myself "what would others think about this?? is there any way i can get more approval from them ??" i endured years of incredible pain just to please anyone around me and be approved. Now that has changed, i've grown psychologically to become a leader, but the change was so sudden, that those painful memories still come back and make me feel SO ashamed for those times, i just cant stand it
My pain is not being able to use my gifts the way I know they need to be used. I have ADD and although I have a lot of great ideas to put in book form, I have a very difficult time organizing. Right now I am searching for balance in my life and that's how I came across you. Man, I love your way. You're easy and funny and bright and uplifting. And you're helping people. That's what I want to do. Help others with the life experience I have. Especially kids who are struggling inside themselves.
I would think that my greatest sticking point in life at this moment is that I hear voices daily, usually all day, almost every moment. I have delusions, a huge sense of fear, and sometimes a random feeling of anxiety.
I hope you react, i found the truth, the religion of Islaam, but its so hard to follow that religion in this world, because everything is so attractive and anything what the religion asks is in a conflict with this world, but deep down inside i know, and i feel, and i wouldnt change this feeling, even if they gave me the world, i just feel that this is the right PATH, but its hard to practice.. should i go start living in the mountains? farms? help me get this feeling over with
My pain comes from the painful reality that life will eventually end. There are so many religions and possibilities of what happens in the after life that, even though i was raised catholic, I don't know what to believe. I'm only 15 and I realize I shouldn't be worried about something like this at my age, but I can't help thinking about it. I've managed to repress it for the most part, and conclude that I need some activity in my life to relieve this stress. thank you.
I'm writing my M.A. thesis and I'm stuck. I'm supposed to defend my thesis almost two years ago. Half year ago I end important relationship for me and it still affects me. I'm stuck and I don't feel alive. I'm feeling dying. I know that is effect of my decisions and living unhappy is my decision too but changing my decision is not helping because I don't know how to convince myself that I'm worth anything and I have rights to live. But I'm on therapy so I care about myself.
People rarely try to deal with other peoples' problems. Not because they're selfish, but simply because they're overwhelmed with their own problems. I find this blog very useful. Sean Stephenson, you are a good person.
One of my greatest sources of pain comes from the fact that I've had quite a few people tell me that they could help me with all my problems, but never comes through. I talked to this guy I really trusted about personal problems that I was going through and before he allowed us to go on, he told me that he Would help me.. So far nothing has changed. And we've stopped seeing each other for sessions or whatever you want to call them. I've wanted to but he hasn't been pulling through.
my pain is being in love with someone who has rejected me, but the thing is , i work with him, and i have to see him everyday and i dont know how to move on. every time i see him my heart falls to the floor. i hate him for not loving me and i hate him for enjoying his life in front of me not caring that im hurt. i have to go through this every single day. i cant quit sean, ive been there 17 years and i need the money. how do i maintain? :(
I don't want to die. It's simple, but this is my biggest source of pain. It is a real pain too. I don't see how can feel better about it though because I'm going to die. How can I cope with this problem?
dear sean, i have bad relationship problems. i recently broke up with my girlfriend. the reason why is because she cheated on me. thats two girls in a row. my question is why cant i keep a girl from cheating on me. and how do i change myself so that they dont.
I have to run for indurance in dance class, I'm a little over weight and its really hard for me to run the same ammount as the other girls(skinnier girls) I dont know what to do because we have to run for like 15 mins straight and its sooooo hard for me to. It hurts my chest mostly. I feel like I'm under water, and I can't help myself, No one can. I feel like I want to quit dance class because of this... and I dont want to quit becuz Ive worked so hard and Its a stupid reason to quit, Any Help?
I have to run for indurance in dance class, I'm a little over weight and its really hard for me to run the same ammount as the other girls(skinnier girls) I dont know what to do because we have to run for like 15 mins straight and its sooooo hard for me to. It hurts my chest mostly. I feel like I'm under water, and I can't help myself, No one can. I feel like I want to quit dance class because of this... and I dont want to quit becuz Ive worked so hard and Its a stupid reason to quit, Any Help?
i know this is an old video, but I havent really ever been loved or much and have always been into the whole self improvement thing, though i never really got anywhere. then, in july, when i was 16 i met this 14 year old who was the sweetest most compasionate person i have ever met. she hasnt had it really easy either, and we connected really well. she lives an hour away and has strict foster parents who WONT even let us speak at all. they took her phone and everything...
@davisxmonster . they threatened me quite alot and havent even ever met me. I tried to ask if i could even be her friend and they went off on me, calling me a terrible person and a pedophile. now, right now, i just turned 17 and she is about to turn 15. I know there isnt anything wrong with that age difference... she has been we tried to give other people a chance, but we cant really get the same feeling. she texts me every other week or so... but i really want this to work tho. nothing else has
My pain comes from certain insecurities such as the belief that people may get bored when in my company because I often go silent in social situations. I do however understand that this is often unfounded because there are times when I can be quite talkative. A most pressing insecurity that comes up some times is the feeling of seeming insecure (body language, voice etc) I guess you might say that my greatest fear is the prospect of being afraid.
My pain comes from weight. For the past 5 years i have gained a lot of weight. I feel self-concious about it very much. I am very scared to show my self to all my friends from my counrty because they dont really know how i look like. They saw my pictures but only my face they dont get to see the rest of me. I try to loose weight i really do its just that i cant seem to do it. I have lost my self esteem, and everytime i accually look preety or even beautiful I tell that my self but then i look
My pain comes from dealing with my children condition of autism. I have 3 boys , one of which is so sever, that he doesnt even speak yet at the age of 7. We have to do things that other people dont for their children. Every door must be locked, because they have no safety sense. It comes from not being able to afford the therapies they need to live a better life. It comes from shame of having to get Social security , so some therapies would be covered , because my regular insurance wont pay.
And with social security comes limits. You are told how much you can make, if you go over that, you lose all benefits. And those limits well they make it hard to afford to raise a family, especially children that have special needs. But even with all that , I love my kids and want the best for them. Bugs me that sometimes we cant afford things, but we got a lot of love. And that is all that matters.
My pain comes from my lack of confidence, especially around women. I basically have only one friend I can hang out with that isn't socially awkward, so it's hard to network and meet new people. I find I am shy and I have trouble making new friends sometimes. Today I missed another opportunity to talk to a girl I like at school. Even though I know regret is worse than the fear of approaching people, I still freeze up.
My Pain stems from my fathers dissaproval of some of my actions... He tells me he wants me to further my education to go to school. I wanted to quit my job because they werent working with me to go to school and I had sat down with him to discuss this and he just said I wANT YOU IN SCHOOL! so I said i might have to leave work he said go ahead. When I go to do this he gest aggrivated because he doesnt understand I believe he needs more help than me because of the fact that he will say one thing
My pain usually comes from my past and how I could change those mistakes. Sometimes, I feel that I don't that I don't do much or just enough to make any extreme sort of success. I wonder that Am I doing enough to succeed in business and dating. I am supposed to know these things but I am supposed to do something more.
my pain is based around interacting with my friends and other relationships. I also get the feeling that I'm not as close to my immediate circle of friends as they are with each other - and there are times when i feel left out of what's going on. I'm also struggling with interacting with new people and forming a relationship with them, particularly with women, I never know how to get the ball rolling. This probably is linked to people at school in the past treating me like trash. :'(
I'm currently struggling in my education. I can't seem to focus on my school work. Every year I tell myself that I should focus harder, I should stop being distracted, I should do my homework, listen in class.. Ect.. I know I'm smart and I know I'm capable of getting into honour role and academic recognition, but I "slack" too much. And whatever I try doesn't work. I really need help. :(
I can't seem to make up my mind on what do do about my personal relationships . I have a big heart and love to help people and then when i help them they keep taking from me almost like i am being used and then when i stop im made out to be so mean and then told i never cared .. now mixed into that i feel always so bad about my self . Others think im so confident and sexy but i dont feel it at all and hate myself . And on top of that i don't know how to deal with my past being sexually abused
I just want to stop procrastinating and live my life to the best of my abilities. All my teachers and peers would tell me that i was clever and should have taken my a levels, that was now 4 years ago and ive just spiralled more and more into depression ever since. I felt pathetic and useless. Even now i stil have major problems organising my time effeciently.
I like how, by posting this video and asking people to post comments, Sean doesn't even need to answer anything. The comments show that everyone has painful problems, and that you're not alone. You're equal, it's your situation and not everyone is out being better than you. What I think Sean is, is that symbol of hope, that things can get better no matter what your challenges are.
My source of pain is a mix of physical and emotional. I'm 17 years old and for two years now I've been in constant pain. I have a headache that doesn't go away. I've had 5 surgeries on my head two of which were major. One of those two were botched, causing more pain. To this day no one can tell me where the pain is coming from. I've even visited doctors at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota. That wasn't very helpful. I guess I just wish someone could tell me what causes the pain.
The source of my pain is never being loved or knowing how to love. For many years I confused love with everything else but love. Till a moment in time when I just stopped. I went into seclusion and haven't ventured out since. I have been hurt to my core and there the pain resides.
Pain in my life stems from my own love and acceptance of myself. It stems from me validating myself-and realizing that sometimes it's difficult to find such acceptance from others. I have autism. I do not need to be "cured" or "fixed" because I'm not broken. In fact, if you took away my AS, I'd no longer be myself. I simply think and experience things differently. Now, one day I hope, truly, that I can a mate who loves that part of me-and understands it. I sometimes fear that I won't.
I read of two people here who suffer from panicattacks and so do I. I got UF (Urticaria Factitia) and I´m a very massive case. My skin and tissue is extremly oversensitive to pressure and warmth, even through normal clothes or shoes and that sets me on panic everytime I go out, cause I know I have to pay for it with psyical pain, swellings and fever. This is isolating me so much, cause usualy I am a social butterfly who loves to meet people, but I can´t enjoy this anymore. Thanks for listening
Hi Sean I discovered you by accident, trying to figure out were my life stands. I live with alot of pain, I was on life support last yr. my husband of 23 yrs was having an afair with his 1st cousin for on and off for 30 yrs. I have been lied too, health is down hill and about to lose home cos he wants it for him and girly. I am keep having thoughts about my life that are not what I want to be, I am having trouble dealing with everything. can't sleep , can't function all I do is cry.
Hey Sean, first of all let me say that you are a incredible inspiration for me. I am a 25 year old guy who suffer from a depression and Social anxiety. After reading your book allot of my own questions were answer. I am always perceive as the weird extremely passive guy. All my life i have tried to make everyone like me but now i see that iyts not the way it works. Yes im different
I've been struggling with both (lack of) love issues and financial tough times (and I take responsibility for both), but my BIGGEST pain is this:
for SEVEN years now, I don't know what my purpose is. Reading N. Hill and D. Deida helped a bit bot not a lot. How do I approach the lack of clear path ahead of me that has been torturing my soul over the past SEVEN YEARS!?
Best regards Sean. I hope one day we both live at the cause...
Hi. It is so nice to have found your blog. Thanks so much for that! Well, I am frustated as I can not seem to find my true call, or passion in this life and being able to turn that into a profession...
Woah. Well first off, Sean you're the man, I've leant alot already. But cutting to the chase. I just lost my girlfriend and it's cutting me up. I want her back, but I know if I get her back, which doesn't feel likely, I may be angry at her for all the pain she's caused me.
I don't feel very wanted right now. I also have a false belief that my ex is the only and best girl for me. I wish either things could go back to when things were awesome between us, or that I could move on already!
Watching you is inspiring enough to make my problems meaningless by comparison. Watching you grab the best of what you are handed and making something out of it, (in particular your never ending quest in helping others) make a fine example for me. As long as other's problems are my focus, it is hard to fell sorry for myself, it helps me 'get out of my head. You have an amazing story and I wish you all the best.
I hurt physically. I am a non surgical candidate with chronic pain. (It is like an ice pick in my back 24/7/52.) Of course the fear of providing for those I love at he same time catches up with me occasionally).
I have been suffering from panic attacks since 1996, chronic depression was added to that in 1999, have been in a wheel chair since 2001, compulsive eating disorder all my life and NO self-esteem whatsoever.
My biggest area of problem is relationships and maintaining those relationships. There are other issues as well, like financial resources and weight problems, but they stem from this main issue. I feel stuck, like I am not good enough or worhty for any interaction with anyone. I am unemployed- I am a full time student, and I am 100 pounds overweight. I get to a point where I don't know what to say to create attraction with a women.
insecurity about my intelligence,character and personality, which I probably have plenty of ,but in a social situation, on a phone call I'm self conscious about this. Even around my own teenage children and other family, around old friends or new friends. The weird thing is I know about the power of thought,of our imagination ,yet I have a poor self image that's being triggered by something I cant seem to control. I don't think I've ever admitted this quite so bluntly until know.
Why is our collective reality built on a construct that has so many experiencing suffering and pain. What grand purpose could be based on an endless loop of suffering here in this reality. We see a very polar nature to this reality where negative and positive create the space to live between(or play an elaborate soul game within). Why is it necessary to "transcend" the struggle that this creates? Who or what benefits from this "negative" energy?
My single greatest pain is not being very good at being comfortable among other people in everyday situations. This has been a bigger problem than it is right now thanks to a few self-help books and stuff (much of it your book and your talks at david d's). Since I started using new ways of thinking about myself (and OTHERS) I've become much more confident.
Change doesn't come right away, it takes time. But it really is possible!
I want to know more about being attractive to others
Right now my biggest pain is in the social/dating area. I am in college right now, and I feel like I don't have the kinds of friends I want. I wish I had close friends who really knew me, and people who were really mature and want to challenge themselves in life to be the best they can. But I wish they could have a good time too!
Right now I am working on fixing my dating life too, but its tough to go to bars and clubs all alone, I wish I had some good guy friends to go with me.
My personal pain is failure in terms of life and relationship. I fear it so much i sometimes go out of my way to avoid such confrontation whether i know deep down i wont fail at that task i cant seem to shake of the what if that hold me back.
My Biggest pain is the constant eternal battle with myself and anxiety problems thinking i will fail at everything so i just dont try. Even though i see right before my eyes im surpassing things i will sometimes withdraw back into myshell.
My pain comes from the lack of social contact. I feel very much alone. I have some friends that I talk to and that I see every now and then, but they rarely call me. There are many weekends where I'm alone and I know my friends are out having fun. But I don't want to call them. Why must it always be me that takes the first step? Why can't I be invited to a party now and then? It really sucks being alone. It gives you to much time to get stuck in your head.
@Pradiip79 I totally know how you feel. I know a good amount of people and I know I can't be everyone's best friend and I don't intend to. But I feel the same, its a lot of unfullfilling relationships. It should go both ways but it seems like I only hear from people when I contact or say hi to them. Its draining.
I'm having some difficultly overcoming my fear of communicating with people. Be it with the opposite sex or even business matters. How do I gain control over my social anxiety?
The area of my life I have the most trouble with is dating. I have a disability and have a very hard time with self confidence and shyness. Although my life would not become perfect with the resolution of this issue, it would help immensely
my parents. we fight everday and the only thing keeping me from going completely beserk are my friends and this one girl ive been talking to. without them, well i dont know. woldnt be pretty
MsDude4196 1 month ago
I just don't know how to approach her for another date.I don't know when the right time would be to take it to the next level. I want to take it slow, but not too slow. I've been manifesting my own reality consciously since March 2011. I've gotten this far, and normally I'm good with intense thought process. It's big fork in the road. I want to go the direction to obtain her as my life mate. Thank you for listening, Sean. If you feel the urge to reply personally, I humbly accept a chat with you.
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Also, I've recently [Oct 2011] fallen out of a relationship that has lasted 9 years. Things have happened after the breakup that rip me apart. However, I have met an amazing woman several days ago, and she feels like the one. A complete twin. Someone who seems to understand me, but we've only been on one date. I've never dated before. All my other relationships just kind of started out of nowhere. I want to be with this woman. I've not felt this way before. I have never felt so sure......
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It isn't life that is hard, it is figuring it out that is difficult. I'm an intellectual mind who, often, gets questioned about how I do things. I'm never just left alone in that regard. However, I do not want to be left alone entirely. There are a few factors that play into some sort of confusion. I'm a musician and a poet. I often get told by my peers that I am excellent. I've often heard "why aren't you famous yet??". I don't know the answer.......
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My pain comes from feeling bad about myself and putting much importance on others' opinions & behaviour.I know that all is okey rationally,but i fell bad anywas;after that i know that im feeling this way again so it gets worse. What helps me is to do what I want to do despite the bad feeling, even thou it stops me from being my true self.However,this doesnt happen always.One day im totally okey,talking to anyone etc,and another totally not,not even at home.Such contrast and that confuses me.
tehlastavatar 1 month ago
My pain is being rejected. I feel rejected in most areas of life: relationship (husband withdrawing emotionally), in my work (unemployed), in my artistic ambitions (I know I can write, publishers just don't believe in my stories because they are not dramatic enough) etc.
I always try to help and love, but wind up rejected.
I am aware that I'm magnet for rejection, but I just can't figure out how to stop it and turn it around. I am tired, but don't want to give up on life. I hope you can help.
Elmailona 2 months ago
:) hey sean. about pain hmmm. i have problem within my self and it makes more complicated. i don't know how to start but the pain in heart is like uhmm, The problem is that i don't know how to release the pain in my heart before. But now im trying things step by step, i hope it would be nice :) my problem is, i take all little things in my heart that's why im hurted easily... and its hard to sleep...
YvanRoxas 3 months ago
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DjKDM7000 3 months ago
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But my problem is that I expect physical changes in my bodies appearance to happen too quickly when it in fact, takes time and you need to keep at it and it will happen. I get depressed easily because of it.
Lexandreax 3 months ago
I have two:
1. Learning disability - I don't understand numbers. I can't tell time and I can't count money. This is keeping me from getting my first job....I'm 20 and turning 21 on Christmas. This sets me back a lot and makes me stuck.
2. Self image - I really hate my body. Overall, I'm healthy but....I don't like how my looks. I'm underweight but have excess fat and I jiggle a lot. I'm working out to become toned and to burn that fat that's so gross looking on my body.
Lexandreax 3 months ago
The greatest source of pain is within myself. I'm a college student who just feels like the weight of the world has been crashing down. What started it all is starting math classes. After lots of hard work and determination I passed online Algebra and Trig. However, next semester I start my last math class, Basic Statistics. I just don't have any confidence in myself to pass. I know I am pushing people away because I'm so scarred of failing. College now feels like a prison and it makes me sad :(
Kuwabara888777 4 months ago
First thing i love you Sean, you are great inspiration and i wish you all the best!
as for you vid, my greatest source of pain is really more then one, i've no money because i pay for collage and rent all by myself, there is zero help since my mother is broke and my father does time and i dont talk with him, i barely have friends and due to my situation i cant open up and social much, girls stay away from me due to my bald head and lack of money, there is no hope for me down the line,
Hadasengel 4 months ago
@Hadasengel
I live alone, im 28 yo, and im so drained out, there i lost motivation to move out and fix my situation, i thought about finishing it all, but i dont want to cause my mother more pain then she already suffered, the day she dies i promised to kill myself, i have no regret about this decision, its rational thinking, there is no point for me to live, and dont get me wrong, im not sad nor depresed, i just had enough :]
ill go with a huge smile on my face, it will be the best feeling.
Hadasengel 4 months ago
My greatest source of pain is not to be able to face my emotions and accept myself as I am. I don't feel good enough, perfect enough and that's giving me a hard time sometimes because I procrastinate, have low self-esteem or get depressed.
Thank you for your wonderful and uplifting videos :)
Love from Norway <3
Skoglys 5 months ago
I used to have some major social anxiety back when i was a kid ... i was so insecure that i'd always ask myself "what would others think about this?? is there any way i can get more approval from them ??" i endured years of incredible pain just to please anyone around me and be approved. Now that has changed, i've grown psychologically to become a leader, but the change was so sudden, that those painful memories still come back and make me feel SO ashamed for those times, i just cant stand it
Doika86 5 months ago
My pain is not being able to use my gifts the way I know they need to be used. I have ADD and although I have a lot of great ideas to put in book form, I have a very difficult time organizing. Right now I am searching for balance in my life and that's how I came across you. Man, I love your way. You're easy and funny and bright and uplifting. And you're helping people. That's what I want to do. Help others with the life experience I have. Especially kids who are struggling inside themselves.
GorillaUzzi 5 months ago
Isolation knaws at my soul......I have tried for years but a true sense/connection with a higher power, It illudes me....
I have everything going for me and such a lot of love to offer and I so crave a deeply caring intimate relationship with a good man.
There is a loneliness so deep that I hear myself thinking that ' Not even God wants Me'. It is not rational.
You are one heck of an angel in this world Sean. Thank you for your beautiful generosity. YOU ARE SO LOVED.....GOD BLESS YOU
zac72003 9 months ago
I would think that my greatest sticking point in life at this moment is that I hear voices daily, usually all day, almost every moment. I have delusions, a huge sense of fear, and sometimes a random feeling of anxiety.
hazmatac 9 months ago
I hope you react, i found the truth, the religion of Islaam, but its so hard to follow that religion in this world, because everything is so attractive and anything what the religion asks is in a conflict with this world, but deep down inside i know, and i feel, and i wouldnt change this feeling, even if they gave me the world, i just feel that this is the right PATH, but its hard to practice.. should i go start living in the mountains? farms? help me get this feeling over with
ssens 10 months ago
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EmaaDarling 11 months ago
My pain comes from the painful reality that life will eventually end. There are so many religions and possibilities of what happens in the after life that, even though i was raised catholic, I don't know what to believe. I'm only 15 and I realize I shouldn't be worried about something like this at my age, but I can't help thinking about it. I've managed to repress it for the most part, and conclude that I need some activity in my life to relieve this stress. thank you.
Drakebro101 11 months ago
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kataliceb 11 months ago
I'm writing my M.A. thesis and I'm stuck. I'm supposed to defend my thesis almost two years ago. Half year ago I end important relationship for me and it still affects me. I'm stuck and I don't feel alive. I'm feeling dying. I know that is effect of my decisions and living unhappy is my decision too but changing my decision is not helping because I don't know how to convince myself that I'm worth anything and I have rights to live. But I'm on therapy so I care about myself.
igeariana 11 months ago
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saryka123 11 months ago
People rarely try to deal with other peoples' problems. Not because they're selfish, but simply because they're overwhelmed with their own problems. I find this blog very useful. Sean Stephenson, you are a good person.
Thatbelgianchick 1 year ago
One of my greatest sources of pain comes from the fact that I've had quite a few people tell me that they could help me with all my problems, but never comes through. I talked to this guy I really trusted about personal problems that I was going through and before he allowed us to go on, he told me that he Would help me.. So far nothing has changed. And we've stopped seeing each other for sessions or whatever you want to call them. I've wanted to but he hasn't been pulling through.
Ambkn1 1 year ago
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SlashDamage 1 year ago
my pain is being in love with someone who has rejected me, but the thing is , i work with him, and i have to see him everyday and i dont know how to move on. every time i see him my heart falls to the floor. i hate him for not loving me and i hate him for enjoying his life in front of me not caring that im hurt. i have to go through this every single day. i cant quit sean, ive been there 17 years and i need the money. how do i maintain? :(
oz22verizon 1 year ago
I don't want to die. It's simple, but this is my biggest source of pain. It is a real pain too. I don't see how can feel better about it though because I'm going to die. How can I cope with this problem?
cozzycovers 1 year ago
dear sean, i have bad relationship problems. i recently broke up with my girlfriend. the reason why is because she cheated on me. thats two girls in a row. my question is why cant i keep a girl from cheating on me. and how do i change myself so that they dont.
RogueReaperHunter 1 year ago
I have to run for indurance in dance class, I'm a little over weight and its really hard for me to run the same ammount as the other girls(skinnier girls) I dont know what to do because we have to run for like 15 mins straight and its sooooo hard for me to. It hurts my chest mostly. I feel like I'm under water, and I can't help myself, No one can. I feel like I want to quit dance class because of this... and I dont want to quit becuz Ive worked so hard and Its a stupid reason to quit, Any Help?
Rainb0wPoptart 1 year ago
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I have to run for indurance in dance class, I'm a little over weight and its really hard for me to run the same ammount as the other girls(skinnier girls) I dont know what to do because we have to run for like 15 mins straight and its sooooo hard for me to. It hurts my chest mostly. I feel like I'm under water, and I can't help myself, No one can. I feel like I want to quit dance class because of this... and I dont want to quit becuz Ive worked so hard and Its a stupid reason to quit, Any Help?
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TommieFIN 1 year ago
i know this is an old video, but I havent really ever been loved or much and have always been into the whole self improvement thing, though i never really got anywhere. then, in july, when i was 16 i met this 14 year old who was the sweetest most compasionate person i have ever met. she hasnt had it really easy either, and we connected really well. she lives an hour away and has strict foster parents who WONT even let us speak at all. they took her phone and everything...
davisxmonster 1 year ago
@davisxmonster . they threatened me quite alot and havent even ever met me. I tried to ask if i could even be her friend and they went off on me, calling me a terrible person and a pedophile. now, right now, i just turned 17 and she is about to turn 15. I know there isnt anything wrong with that age difference... she has been we tried to give other people a chance, but we cant really get the same feeling. she texts me every other week or so... but i really want this to work tho. nothing else has
davisxmonster 1 year ago
hey sean,
My pain comes from certain insecurities such as the belief that people may get bored when in my company because I often go silent in social situations. I do however understand that this is often unfounded because there are times when I can be quite talkative. A most pressing insecurity that comes up some times is the feeling of seeming insecure (body language, voice etc) I guess you might say that my greatest fear is the prospect of being afraid.
cromwell99 1 year ago
My pain comes from weight. For the past 5 years i have gained a lot of weight. I feel self-concious about it very much. I am very scared to show my self to all my friends from my counrty because they dont really know how i look like. They saw my pictures but only my face they dont get to see the rest of me. I try to loose weight i really do its just that i cant seem to do it. I have lost my self esteem, and everytime i accually look preety or even beautiful I tell that my self but then i look
Natka1469 1 year ago
@Natka1469 at my whole self in the mirror, my smile turns upside down!! ='(
Natka1469 1 year ago
You see, words are like bullets...
csxtrainwreck 1 year ago
My pain comes from dealing with my children condition of autism. I have 3 boys , one of which is so sever, that he doesnt even speak yet at the age of 7. We have to do things that other people dont for their children. Every door must be locked, because they have no safety sense. It comes from not being able to afford the therapies they need to live a better life. It comes from shame of having to get Social security , so some therapies would be covered , because my regular insurance wont pay.
sock916 1 year ago
And with social security comes limits. You are told how much you can make, if you go over that, you lose all benefits. And those limits well they make it hard to afford to raise a family, especially children that have special needs. But even with all that , I love my kids and want the best for them. Bugs me that sometimes we cant afford things, but we got a lot of love. And that is all that matters.
sock916 1 year ago
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musicmylife101 1 year ago
Hey Sean My biggest pain is loneliness not feeling loved
dharmapunx36 1 year ago
My pain comes from my lack of confidence, especially around women. I basically have only one friend I can hang out with that isn't socially awkward, so it's hard to network and meet new people. I find I am shy and I have trouble making new friends sometimes. Today I missed another opportunity to talk to a girl I like at school. Even though I know regret is worse than the fear of approaching people, I still freeze up.
MattBaumann777 1 year ago 4
My Pain stems from my fathers dissaproval of some of my actions... He tells me he wants me to further my education to go to school. I wanted to quit my job because they werent working with me to go to school and I had sat down with him to discuss this and he just said I wANT YOU IN SCHOOL! so I said i might have to leave work he said go ahead. When I go to do this he gest aggrivated because he doesnt understand I believe he needs more help than me because of the fact that he will say one thing
kzaryckiproductions 1 year ago
My pain usually comes from my past and how I could change those mistakes. Sometimes, I feel that I don't that I don't do much or just enough to make any extreme sort of success. I wonder that Am I doing enough to succeed in business and dating. I am supposed to know these things but I am supposed to do something more.
EWil313 1 year ago
my pain is based around interacting with my friends and other relationships. I also get the feeling that I'm not as close to my immediate circle of friends as they are with each other - and there are times when i feel left out of what's going on. I'm also struggling with interacting with new people and forming a relationship with them, particularly with women, I never know how to get the ball rolling. This probably is linked to people at school in the past treating me like trash. :'(
SuperSHlT 1 year ago
Sean u c all these people asking u questions u should be really proud of your self
ExperimentalAss 1 year ago
I'm currently struggling in my education. I can't seem to focus on my school work. Every year I tell myself that I should focus harder, I should stop being distracted, I should do my homework, listen in class.. Ect.. I know I'm smart and I know I'm capable of getting into honour role and academic recognition, but I "slack" too much. And whatever I try doesn't work. I really need help. :(
auuudreeeeey 1 year ago 2
@auuudreeeeey i feel the same:( its caused by a factor of different things though. so difficult to overcome -.-
8889 1 year ago
I can't seem to make up my mind on what do do about my personal relationships . I have a big heart and love to help people and then when i help them they keep taking from me almost like i am being used and then when i stop im made out to be so mean and then told i never cared .. now mixed into that i feel always so bad about my self . Others think im so confident and sexy but i dont feel it at all and hate myself . And on top of that i don't know how to deal with my past being sexually abused
staciaj89 1 year ago
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staciaj89 1 year ago
I just want to stop procrastinating and live my life to the best of my abilities. All my teachers and peers would tell me that i was clever and should have taken my a levels, that was now 4 years ago and ive just spiralled more and more into depression ever since. I felt pathetic and useless. Even now i stil have major problems organising my time effeciently.
Jdillafied 1 year ago
I like how, by posting this video and asking people to post comments, Sean doesn't even need to answer anything. The comments show that everyone has painful problems, and that you're not alone. You're equal, it's your situation and not everyone is out being better than you. What I think Sean is, is that symbol of hope, that things can get better no matter what your challenges are.
KleineTash 1 year ago 9
My source of pain is a mix of physical and emotional. I'm 17 years old and for two years now I've been in constant pain. I have a headache that doesn't go away. I've had 5 surgeries on my head two of which were major. One of those two were botched, causing more pain. To this day no one can tell me where the pain is coming from. I've even visited doctors at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota. That wasn't very helpful. I guess I just wish someone could tell me what causes the pain.
theycallmeeggs 1 year ago
The source of my pain is never being loved or knowing how to love. For many years I confused love with everything else but love. Till a moment in time when I just stopped. I went into seclusion and haven't ventured out since. I have been hurt to my core and there the pain resides.
adamatova 1 year ago
Pain in my life stems from my own love and acceptance of myself. It stems from me validating myself-and realizing that sometimes it's difficult to find such acceptance from others. I have autism. I do not need to be "cured" or "fixed" because I'm not broken. In fact, if you took away my AS, I'd no longer be myself. I simply think and experience things differently. Now, one day I hope, truly, that I can a mate who loves that part of me-and understands it. I sometimes fear that I won't.
TVSheShe 1 year ago
I read of two people here who suffer from panicattacks and so do I. I got UF (Urticaria Factitia) and I´m a very massive case. My skin and tissue is extremly oversensitive to pressure and warmth, even through normal clothes or shoes and that sets me on panic everytime I go out, cause I know I have to pay for it with psyical pain, swellings and fever. This is isolating me so much, cause usualy I am a social butterfly who loves to meet people, but I can´t enjoy this anymore. Thanks for listening
T97Frida 1 year ago
Hi Sean I discovered you by accident, trying to figure out were my life stands. I live with alot of pain, I was on life support last yr. my husband of 23 yrs was having an afair with his 1st cousin for on and off for 30 yrs. I have been lied too, health is down hill and about to lose home cos he wants it for him and girly. I am keep having thoughts about my life that are not what I want to be, I am having trouble dealing with everything. can't sleep , can't function all I do is cry.
latineyes50 1 year ago
Hey Sean, first of all let me say that you are a incredible inspiration for me. I am a 25 year old guy who suffer from a depression and Social anxiety. After reading your book allot of my own questions were answer. I am always perceive as the weird extremely passive guy. All my life i have tried to make everyone like me but now i see that iyts not the way it works. Yes im different
windex1234 2 years ago 2
hey Sean
I've been struggling with both (lack of) love issues and financial tough times (and I take responsibility for both), but my BIGGEST pain is this:
for SEVEN years now, I don't know what my purpose is. Reading N. Hill and D. Deida helped a bit bot not a lot. How do I approach the lack of clear path ahead of me that has been torturing my soul over the past SEVEN YEARS!?
Best regards Sean. I hope one day we both live at the cause...
roosvelt1984 2 years ago
Hi. It is so nice to have found your blog. Thanks so much for that! Well, I am frustated as I can not seem to find my true call, or passion in this life and being able to turn that into a profession...
lorellagino 2 years ago
Woah. Well first off, Sean you're the man, I've leant alot already. But cutting to the chase. I just lost my girlfriend and it's cutting me up. I want her back, but I know if I get her back, which doesn't feel likely, I may be angry at her for all the pain she's caused me.
I don't feel very wanted right now. I also have a false belief that my ex is the only and best girl for me. I wish either things could go back to when things were awesome between us, or that I could move on already!
headoyster 2 years ago
Watching you is inspiring enough to make my problems meaningless by comparison. Watching you grab the best of what you are handed and making something out of it, (in particular your never ending quest in helping others) make a fine example for me. As long as other's problems are my focus, it is hard to fell sorry for myself, it helps me 'get out of my head. You have an amazing story and I wish you all the best.
dogscout 2 years ago
I hurt physically. I am a non surgical candidate with chronic pain. (It is like an ice pick in my back 24/7/52.) Of course the fear of providing for those I love at he same time catches up with me occasionally).
dogscout 2 years ago
I have been suffering from panic attacks since 1996, chronic depression was added to that in 1999, have been in a wheel chair since 2001, compulsive eating disorder all my life and NO self-esteem whatsoever.
melanie1anne 2 years ago
Lost love.
Cubehead666 2 years ago
My biggest area of problem is relationships and maintaining those relationships. There are other issues as well, like financial resources and weight problems, but they stem from this main issue. I feel stuck, like I am not good enough or worhty for any interaction with anyone. I am unemployed- I am a full time student, and I am 100 pounds overweight. I get to a point where I don't know what to say to create attraction with a women.
jeremy9641 2 years ago
insecurity about my intelligence,character and personality, which I probably have plenty of ,but in a social situation, on a phone call I'm self conscious about this. Even around my own teenage children and other family, around old friends or new friends. The weird thing is I know about the power of thought,of our imagination ,yet I have a poor self image that's being triggered by something I cant seem to control. I don't think I've ever admitted this quite so bluntly until know.
TheIoannouShow 2 years ago
Why is our collective reality built on a construct that has so many experiencing suffering and pain. What grand purpose could be based on an endless loop of suffering here in this reality. We see a very polar nature to this reality where negative and positive create the space to live between(or play an elaborate soul game within). Why is it necessary to "transcend" the struggle that this creates? Who or what benefits from this "negative" energy?
Are you familiar with the term Loosh?
MichaelDovenGray 2 years ago
Hey sean!
My single greatest pain is not being very good at being comfortable among other people in everyday situations. This has been a bigger problem than it is right now thanks to a few self-help books and stuff (much of it your book and your talks at david d's). Since I started using new ways of thinking about myself (and OTHERS) I've become much more confident.
Change doesn't come right away, it takes time. But it really is possible!
I want to know more about being attractive to others
Lindelldesign 2 years ago
rsd
serafcaine 2 years ago
Right now my biggest pain is in the social/dating area. I am in college right now, and I feel like I don't have the kinds of friends I want. I wish I had close friends who really knew me, and people who were really mature and want to challenge themselves in life to be the best they can. But I wish they could have a good time too!
Right now I am working on fixing my dating life too, but its tough to go to bars and clubs all alone, I wish I had some good guy friends to go with me.
eddy10188 2 years ago
My personal pain is failure in terms of life and relationship. I fear it so much i sometimes go out of my way to avoid such confrontation whether i know deep down i wont fail at that task i cant seem to shake of the what if that hold me back.
PhenomL37 2 years ago
My Biggest pain is the constant eternal battle with myself and anxiety problems thinking i will fail at everything so i just dont try. Even though i see right before my eyes im surpassing things i will sometimes withdraw back into myshell.
Hookha69 2 years ago
My pain comes from the lack of social contact. I feel very much alone. I have some friends that I talk to and that I see every now and then, but they rarely call me. There are many weekends where I'm alone and I know my friends are out having fun. But I don't want to call them. Why must it always be me that takes the first step? Why can't I be invited to a party now and then? It really sucks being alone. It gives you to much time to get stuck in your head.
Pradiip79 2 years ago 31
I really wish that I had more friends that actually called me or actually invited me to do something. Almost just the same as Pradiip79.
1ot23 2 years ago
@Pradiip79 Know the feeling bro, I got the same problem!
musiclog321 4 months ago
@Pradiip79 I totally know how you feel. I know a good amount of people and I know I can't be everyone's best friend and I don't intend to. But I feel the same, its a lot of unfullfilling relationships. It should go both ways but it seems like I only hear from people when I contact or say hi to them. Its draining.
rowsdower12 2 months ago
I'm having some difficultly overcoming my fear of communicating with people. Be it with the opposite sex or even business matters. How do I gain control over my social anxiety?
CitrusPeppercorn 2 years ago
The area of my life I have the most trouble with is dating. I have a disability and have a very hard time with self confidence and shyness. Although my life would not become perfect with the resolution of this issue, it would help immensely
jewishavenger 2 years ago
Health- I think I have it under control. I work out often.
Money-Could use some help on that. Biggest problem is finding what I want to do and sticking with it.
Relationship - could also use some help on that. Don't even know where to start.
kwak76 2 years ago