shyness can sometimes be the product of mental conditions like aspergers, ocd, or parinoya. Shyness is actually quiet uncommon and most people grow out of it by the time they are 10, if your shy beyond that you should see a psychiatrist.
im kinda shy. after i say hi to someone sometimes my mind goes blank. I also feel like theres like a huge wall between me and some people. its annoying! i hate it! but the messed up thing is im usually alright when I have to speak in front of people. I wasnt even shy when i was younger. Then like 4-5 grade it started. its so annoying!
Thanks for sharing this, sick of these so called 'Helpers' who then want a fee for sharing their own techniques on overcome issues you may have. They are making a buck out of your insecurities.
i used to think i was shy. shyness is a mentality. practice confidence and shyness will be no more. no one is always confident. no one is always shy. there are no shy people. people are shy because they feel lack. have the frame of mind that you have abundant confidence and your actions will reflect it. everyone is courageous. good luck to you all.
I've had a lot of trouble making friends in college. Like the video mentions, I realize it has a lot to do with the frame of mind i have. I get so terrified that it gets awkward. But ive become able to talk to others at school and a new problem has arisen which is i feel so emotionally drained that i will literally have to walk away from the situation to escape a feeling of fainting. I dont know what to do to overcome this. I've even had to leave rudely, like in mid sentence. any suggestions?
I normaly can't really talk to girls or people ive first met with because I always think they see fear or shyness in me.Basicly I can't talk to people I don't know even if a friend interduces him/her to me....I sometime just say "hi" and thats basicly keep silent for a little bit. I saw the whole video but still feel nervous around new people
@nursepatient build trust in yourself by keep being yourself. And how you do that is whenever you have that fearful selftalk that wants to edit what you think, or are, or what has transpired due to what you think is socially safe to others, what you do is not listen to it & try giving love to yourself in the form of letting out who you are mistakes and all. Because the converse is letting fear of what others think literally control you, & you life, a fearful existence is not a happy existence.
The explanation of replacing self esteem with self acceptance (as a goal to work on) just made my day. Self esteem is always an up and down game, while self acceptance I can fix once and for all, as it's not dependent of external factors :)
here my experience........i feel shy sometimes but when ever i read a book of my interest {like for me its biology book} i get confidence and cheerfulness to talk wid people.....so conclusionly u have to find work that make u happy deeply so atleast u will feel confident n happy atleast for some time
i cant do presentation in front of people, my legs and hand are shakes and my heart goes crazy and i cant even say a word this is a terruble feeling the worst thing is that i dont know how to overcome this;( im going to apply to university but Im so scared about presentations that I'll have to do in front of class that put me down to apply to uni
I've been shy my whole life. My mom has taken me to many psychologists throughout my whole life to help me with my shyness...and I'm still too shy at the age of 19! My mom even told me that she had to see a psychologist and when she told him that she worries about what others think of her, he said, "So what? What makes you think that everyone has to accept you?" Now, she doesn't even care what others think of her. But I'm still working on it. Your video gave me another boost to try harder!
I'm a very shy person...I try to approach people but I always get the feeling that they'll think I'm weird...Usually, when people approach me and try to strike a conversation with me, I start talking...I'm not as shy around people when they get to know me...but no one ever even tries to talk to me...
I feel that many misuse the defination, shyness. Its written many places that this a common "mental desease". But As all people I Know. (sure like 60 people) is it only 2 other people than me who is shy. Many people have a little hard for talk to f.eks. ladies and stuff. That is not shyness.
This guy is amazing. But i wonder what he(and other psychologists/psychiatrists) think about Neil Strauss, Ross Jeffries, Erik Marcovich(Mystery), etc..
i have fear of approaching women other than my own mother :), sister and other relatives because i feel uncomfortable to talk to them and i feel that i dont have anything interesting to say to them. It is not because i want to date every single attractive girl i meet. I feel nervous every time i do so and i have a hard time making eye contact. So afraid of rejection like being ignored and made fun of. Was Dr Albert Ellis suffers the same problem like me during his teens?
In terms of shyness, I think I've been working out well; I've been forcefully thrusting myself into any opportunity I come across to have a conversation. If I'm rejected, I don't really stress it. If I'm not rejected (which is the case with most of the people I approach), I end up having short, but meaningful conversations. That said, I still do feel mighty uncomfortable when my friends take me to dance parties or clubs.
I had a revelationary moment when I was forced in my job to approach people to sell them something. But of course, they kept saying no, not interested... but I felt pretty good, ok they don't want one, move on to the next one :)
I have that thing about rejection. If a person does not respond well to what ever I have to say. I get upset about it, which I shouldn't ... I don't have to make everyone happy, not everything has to go well.
Ellis used to say, "Rejection means something about the rejector because they have something in their head about you such as your too tall or too short or too brown-eyed or too blue-eyed, whatever the hell it is, but you're thinking it means something about you." The same holds true about acceptance; it means something about the acceptor, that they have an idea in their head, that you have some arbitrary worth to them.
@jguterman Dr. Guterman, Thank you. Thank you very, VERY much. Your advice is great. Your reasoning makes perfect sense, Dr. I can't thank you enough. This is GREAT stuff! It's logical, straightforward and helpful. You -- only you -- gave me hope. Bravo! You saved my life by instilling hope in me through logical advice. You, sir, are a wise, wise man.
I've been shy all my life but I have forced myself to try not to be. It has worked only halfway. I like the things this Dr. says about us "demanding" to be accepted. Maybe this will help me achieve the other half.
I don't have a problem starting and carrying on a conversation with someone (especially strangers) so long as it's an individual but not a group... but I find it impossible to visit other people in their homes or let others come to mine (especially if I know there will be other people there) and for that matter I don't even want to visit others or have them come to mine (it seems like a "waste of time", "pain in the butt" and whatever) but in my country it's like a social must...
What has worked for me is to approach, smile, say "hi," and make a statement or ask a question. It really doesn't matter what the statement or question it. It can be about the weather, a book you read, or about a new movie. Just start to start a conversation. The idea is to practice, practice, practice, especially the experience of rejection and, in particular, gettng over it; that is disputing that it is awful.
Again, what has worked for me is to approach, smile, say "hi," and make a statement or ask a question. As for very specific contexts, people typically "deal" witih it okay if they are self-accepting regardless of the outcome. Even if they are not self-acepting, they can then work on accepting themselves after they put themselves down: on that level. That's the beauty of being reflexive, of being human.
I tried to appraoch many people at school, a few times each. but they show no interest in approaching me later? all ive done, was go up to them while we were waiting outside class(and didnt interrupt any conversation), said hi and smiled, and asked a question/statement.and they were friendly when i talked to them.
did i do something wrong? because usually, i hear, that if you approach someone and if it goes well then they will approach you too sometime.
It is not true that if you approach someone and it goes well that they will definitely approach you. There is no guarantee that if you approach they will reciprocate. Sometimes people with be unfriendly, and be prepared for that, too. You did just fine. Eventually, people might approach you. But even if they don't, it is not necessary! If you persist, then you might make friends and that will be fine. Again, it is hardly a must to feel you are worthwhile or to be happy in life. Keep it up!
you hit on the points exactly, I also have the problem. Like among friends that im familiar with, I am like the life of the party but when its newer people i just met at school or something i cant really relate and pick up with how they talk with their group. I really need help on basically communicating with new groups and also a little more confidence in talking to girls. Like im not trying to modest or anything, but I am a pretty good looking guy...all I need is confidence.
that is so me! always demanding perfection of myself, thinking I'm the only one in the world who perpetually screws up everything. and everyone else always seems to be unfallible
I always get flustered when I meet beautiful women. I also get flustered when I have to talk to certain people regardless of sex, or when I have to talk to more than person and I´m the center of interest. I blush too much.
I feel like you have taken words directly out of my mouth! I am way too shy and withdrawn and care way too much about what others think of me. I even feel awkward around my family a lot of the time because I fear they judge me about my shyness. I'm 18 years old (male) and never had a long term relationship with a girl. I'm not bad looking either, or am I!?
From this day on this is going to stop. Good luck to you as well. We only live once right?
yeah i don't know why but i have a really have a hard time meeting new people. I wouldn't know any of the people i know if i hadn't met them through my friends.
Most people don't know others except through their friends. Even extroverted people have trouble approaching strangers and they often stick with the familiar relationships they've had. It never hurts to reach out to someone though :)
You have a very beautiful scenery from your office. And your video was very inspirational and insightful. Indeed, I will have a ball the next time I go out and meet women and I won't give a crap about what they think of me, however I will continue to act according to my principles.
The only one thing that I found spooky about this video was the sound-bit in the beginning and ending of this video. It sounds and looks like "this is where someone was lost at sea and never found" sort of image..
I'm trying to overcome my shyness but it's a hard battle,I'm 16 and every other 16 year old where Im from has lots of friends but I dont(not coz im an asshole,it's coz of my shyness)
The feeling of shyness is only present within you because you are caring too much about what other people will think about you. You see yourself through other people's eyes. Free yourself up and see through your own eyes! This method helps me tremendously!
I really enjoyed your video on "Overcoming Shyness". I have suffered with this problem for most of my life. I am 32 and still have not met Mr. Right yet, because of the very same things that you speak about in your video (fear of rejection, wondering if they like me, etc). I majored in psychology in college and have come to the realization that you are right, we are not all flawless and it is okay if some people do not like us. I am still a work in progress.
Thanks Dr.....This is a very great video with a lot of useful information. I have been a shy person since I was a young boy, and it's caused a HUGE amount of disruption in my life. It's been a battle to overcome. But I'm glad I came across this video...Thank you!
this is amazing! thanks Doctor Guterman! i just wish now i could get over my fear and do something like what you and Dr. Ellis did to get over your shyness.
Thanks, Dr. Guterman for this video which is really helpful. Interesting themes whould be also "stress and burnout" and, for instance, floccinaucinihilipilification (nice word :-)
Stress and burnout is a very good topic and one I will consider doing. Floccinaucinihilipilification? Interesting word, but I am not sure it would be a topic I would cover.
Wow thanks i really needed to hear that.
JeiBabi 2 months ago
very insightful video thank you!
ProdigalSon222 3 months ago
this is amazing.
gonegolfn07 4 months ago
shyness can sometimes be the product of mental conditions like aspergers, ocd, or parinoya. Shyness is actually quiet uncommon and most people grow out of it by the time they are 10, if your shy beyond that you should see a psychiatrist.
mrh112 4 months ago
@mrh112 That's demonstrably false. Please leave that nonsense elsewhere. Illiterate goof.
MrGrevy 4 months ago
im kinda shy. after i say hi to someone sometimes my mind goes blank. I also feel like theres like a huge wall between me and some people. its annoying! i hate it! but the messed up thing is im usually alright when I have to speak in front of people. I wasnt even shy when i was younger. Then like 4-5 grade it started. its so annoying!
tdawg191 4 months ago
Thanks for sharing this, sick of these so called 'Helpers' who then want a fee for sharing their own techniques on overcome issues you may have. They are making a buck out of your insecurities.
davewinst1 5 months ago
i used to think i was shy. shyness is a mentality. practice confidence and shyness will be no more. no one is always confident. no one is always shy. there are no shy people. people are shy because they feel lack. have the frame of mind that you have abundant confidence and your actions will reflect it. everyone is courageous. good luck to you all.
triplights 6 months ago
I've had a lot of trouble making friends in college. Like the video mentions, I realize it has a lot to do with the frame of mind i have. I get so terrified that it gets awkward. But ive become able to talk to others at school and a new problem has arisen which is i feel so emotionally drained that i will literally have to walk away from the situation to escape a feeling of fainting. I dont know what to do to overcome this. I've even had to leave rudely, like in mid sentence. any suggestions?
tearsandcrimson 6 months ago
Great video, thank you for posting ~PG~
PaganGlade 7 months ago
really sir your logic had a calming effect over me. This made my day thanks.
sakealex 7 months ago
Shyness is a bitch
3moejoe 8 months ago 7
I normaly can't really talk to girls or people ive first met with because I always think they see fear or shyness in me.Basicly I can't talk to people I don't know even if a friend interduces him/her to me....I sometime just say "hi" and thats basicly keep silent for a little bit. I saw the whole video but still feel nervous around new people
KingLizard107 10 months ago
I'm not sure about the idea of going to a park and approaching every attractive woman thats come along....???
Gunnabee 10 months ago
This sounds a lot like CBT! I wish I cared less about what people think, but it's much harder to overcome in practise than it sounds.
nursepatient 10 months ago
@nursepatient build trust in yourself by keep being yourself. And how you do that is whenever you have that fearful selftalk that wants to edit what you think, or are, or what has transpired due to what you think is socially safe to others, what you do is not listen to it & try giving love to yourself in the form of letting out who you are mistakes and all. Because the converse is letting fear of what others think literally control you, & you life, a fearful existence is not a happy existence.
marksamuelsoncable 10 months ago
Awesome channel, I subscribed.
The explanation of replacing self esteem with self acceptance (as a goal to work on) just made my day. Self esteem is always an up and down game, while self acceptance I can fix once and for all, as it's not dependent of external factors :)
firuinthehouse 11 months ago
here my experience........i feel shy sometimes but when ever i read a book of my interest {like for me its biology book} i get confidence and cheerfulness to talk wid people.....so conclusionly u have to find work that make u happy deeply so atleast u will feel confident n happy atleast for some time
shailukala 1 year ago
i cant do presentation in front of people, my legs and hand are shakes and my heart goes crazy and i cant even say a word this is a terruble feeling the worst thing is that i dont know how to overcome this;( im going to apply to university but Im so scared about presentations that I'll have to do in front of class that put me down to apply to uni
AmoreEMorto 1 year ago
I have shyness,and agoraphobia.I heard lots of agoraphobics also are very shy people.
MsLovecats1 1 year ago
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aliensintheloft 1 year ago
So very helpful. Just started reading more of Ellis's work and have been loving it. Changed so many aspects of my thinking.
KarlaTheK 1 year ago
Thank you! I'd like to change
Wolveslad 1 year ago
I've been shy my whole life. My mom has taken me to many psychologists throughout my whole life to help me with my shyness...and I'm still too shy at the age of 19! My mom even told me that she had to see a psychologist and when she told him that she worries about what others think of her, he said, "So what? What makes you think that everyone has to accept you?" Now, she doesn't even care what others think of her. But I'm still working on it. Your video gave me another boost to try harder!
xHOTxCHOCOxFUDGEx 1 year ago
I'm a very shy person...I try to approach people but I always get the feeling that they'll think I'm weird...Usually, when people approach me and try to strike a conversation with me, I start talking...I'm not as shy around people when they get to know me...but no one ever even tries to talk to me...
xHOTxCHOCOxFUDGEx 1 year ago
Thanks v much for this. I feel this helped me a little, I suppose I gotta put it into practice now!!
richbdd01 1 year ago
Holey moly that was some good stuff. It really helped me a lot. Thanks so much.
poshko41 1 year ago 2
im going to try and talk to more people. thanks for the advice
Hummers222 1 year ago
i think being relaxed, positive and being urself would be good for killing shyness
boringamer 1 year ago
I feel that many misuse the defination, shyness. Its written many places that this a common "mental desease". But As all people I Know. (sure like 60 people) is it only 2 other people than me who is shy. Many people have a little hard for talk to f.eks. ladies and stuff. That is not shyness.
lalabEsjen 1 year ago
This guy is amazing. But i wonder what he(and other psychologists/psychiatrists) think about Neil Strauss, Ross Jeffries, Erik Marcovich(Mystery), etc..
alvisc2002 1 year ago
Stop giving a crap - best advice ever, for any situation.
JackBlair2 1 year ago 5
i have fear of approaching women other than my own mother :), sister and other relatives because i feel uncomfortable to talk to them and i feel that i dont have anything interesting to say to them. It is not because i want to date every single attractive girl i meet. I feel nervous every time i do so and i have a hard time making eye contact. So afraid of rejection like being ignored and made fun of. Was Dr Albert Ellis suffers the same problem like me during his teens?
JustObserves 1 year ago
really interesting, help me realized a lot.. thanks :)
preciousmuysic 1 year ago
Great advice! The music was a little creepy though.
y2knoproblem 1 year ago
That's a hell of a view.
ClamCrunchy 2 years ago
Once I speak. Most People start laughing at me. I have it so easy. I need more challenge. Nothing is gonna bring me down.
rod1231 2 years ago
Very interesting exercise, I will definitely give it a try! Thank you for the video!
mikeyskywalker 2 years ago
What a view
carnage101 2 years ago
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Wolfdude387 2 years ago
You want to help people break out of their shell? Stop treating shyness like a disease.
Not EVERYONE feels the need to talk to everybody about everything, every second.
RLove99 2 years ago
I've noticed we
Are all thinking we are the victims and the ones who are being judged but were
All the same no one
Is judging no one it's only ourselves
harmonizethelord9 2 years ago 5
thank you so much. I feel so fortunate to see this useful one.
crazybarbies 2 years ago 4
In terms of shyness, I think I've been working out well; I've been forcefully thrusting myself into any opportunity I come across to have a conversation. If I'm rejected, I don't really stress it. If I'm not rejected (which is the case with most of the people I approach), I end up having short, but meaningful conversations. That said, I still do feel mighty uncomfortable when my friends take me to dance parties or clubs.
Caqui 2 years ago 4
tomorrow, i'm going to force myself to talk to someone and smile. thank you for the encouragement!!
jackbemineLove 2 years ago 10
Loool approach woman is this guys answer i lovee this dude hahaa
01thrilla 2 years ago
I had a revelationary moment when I was forced in my job to approach people to sell them something. But of course, they kept saying no, not interested... but I felt pretty good, ok they don't want one, move on to the next one :)
TheSophist2007 2 years ago
I have that thing about rejection. If a person does not respond well to what ever I have to say. I get upset about it, which I shouldn't ... I don't have to make everyone happy, not everything has to go well.
TheSophist2007 2 years ago 4
You are the man! Thanks for sharing this information. Incredibly useful!
norgeforkristus 2 years ago
I wish I had seen this years ago...
TheSophist2007 2 years ago
Most helpful overcoming shyness video I've seen so far.
cucumbermoisturecrem 2 years ago
this is great
dagrosap 2 years ago
I really enjoyed this video. Thank you Dr. Guterman....This really helped to put things in perspective in relation to my shyness problem.
AnthonyJ74 2 years ago 3
I'll take your advice. I shouldn't give a crap what people think!
RumbleM0NKEY 2 years ago
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mrmike9959 2 years ago 2
Ellis used to say, "Rejection means something about the rejector because they have something in their head about you such as your too tall or too short or too brown-eyed or too blue-eyed, whatever the hell it is, but you're thinking it means something about you." The same holds true about acceptance; it means something about the acceptor, that they have an idea in their head, that you have some arbitrary worth to them.
jguterman 2 years ago
@jguterman Dr. Guterman, Thank you. Thank you very, VERY much. Your advice is great. Your reasoning makes perfect sense, Dr. I can't thank you enough. This is GREAT stuff! It's logical, straightforward and helpful. You -- only you -- gave me hope. Bravo! You saved my life by instilling hope in me through logical advice. You, sir, are a wise, wise man.
ESJAY5150 2 years ago
wow nice office
ljk1991 2 years ago 14
excellent video, thanks
k796812 2 years ago
I've been shy all my life but I have forced myself to try not to be. It has worked only halfway. I like the things this Dr. says about us "demanding" to be accepted. Maybe this will help me achieve the other half.
SiliconBlake 2 years ago 4
I don't have a problem starting and carrying on a conversation with someone (especially strangers) so long as it's an individual but not a group... but I find it impossible to visit other people in their homes or let others come to mine (especially if I know there will be other people there) and for that matter I don't even want to visit others or have them come to mine (it seems like a "waste of time", "pain in the butt" and whatever) but in my country it's like a social must...
Velcory53 2 years ago 3
shit is boring
geobreezy 2 years ago
you must be a very smart human being. i would like to thank you for everything you have contributed to society. thank you
senorcardgage678 2 years ago 6
My main problem is that i can say hi then my mind goes blank and can't think of anything else to say.
cereberus4756 2 years ago 41
What has worked for me is to approach, smile, say "hi," and make a statement or ask a question. It really doesn't matter what the statement or question it. It can be about the weather, a book you read, or about a new movie. Just start to start a conversation. The idea is to practice, practice, practice, especially the experience of rejection and, in particular, gettng over it; that is disputing that it is awful.
jguterman 2 years ago 5
what do I do if i want to talk to someone and they always have a group of people talking to them already?
cereberus4756 2 years ago 8
Again, what has worked for me is to approach, smile, say "hi," and make a statement or ask a question. As for very specific contexts, people typically "deal" witih it okay if they are self-accepting regardless of the outcome. Even if they are not self-acepting, they can then work on accepting themselves after they put themselves down: on that level. That's the beauty of being reflexive, of being human.
jguterman 2 years ago
thanks i'll try it
cereberus4756 2 years ago 2
@cereberus4756 talkto them and make yourself stand out, so that she will switch her attention to you instead of the other people
Ryan94Iam 4 months ago
I tried to appraoch many people at school, a few times each. but they show no interest in approaching me later? all ive done, was go up to them while we were waiting outside class(and didnt interrupt any conversation), said hi and smiled, and asked a question/statement.and they were friendly when i talked to them.
did i do something wrong? because usually, i hear, that if you approach someone and if it goes well then they will approach you too sometime.
pixelated111 2 years ago 5
It is not true that if you approach someone and it goes well that they will definitely approach you. There is no guarantee that if you approach they will reciprocate. Sometimes people with be unfriendly, and be prepared for that, too. You did just fine. Eventually, people might approach you. But even if they don't, it is not necessary! If you persist, then you might make friends and that will be fine. Again, it is hardly a must to feel you are worthwhile or to be happy in life. Keep it up!
jguterman 2 years ago 2
you hit on the points exactly, I also have the problem. Like among friends that im familiar with, I am like the life of the party but when its newer people i just met at school or something i cant really relate and pick up with how they talk with their group. I really need help on basically communicating with new groups and also a little more confidence in talking to girls. Like im not trying to modest or anything, but I am a pretty good looking guy...all I need is confidence.
roughryder5 2 years ago 9
I have found if you can enter a situation expecting to be accepted, then people generally will. Easier said than done though!
yousurfer2 2 years ago
@cereberus4756 Me too!
twilightrocks122 1 year ago
there's nothing wrong with being shy.
adikhan1212 2 years ago 5
Excellent video! I really enjoyed it!
CountDOODOO 2 years ago
Excellent Advice :)
Realityseekers 2 years ago
that is so me! always demanding perfection of myself, thinking I'm the only one in the world who perpetually screws up everything. and everyone else always seems to be unfallible
sn3192 2 years ago 19
you remind me of myself
ugh i hate being shy but its so me
Candeeta4u 2 years ago 7
@sn3192 i think that too
kurtanglerocks555 1 year ago
This video is very encouraging, thanks a lot!
Shortmandesigner 2 years ago 4
This dude is COOL.
detriplea 2 years ago 3
I always get flustered when I meet beautiful women. I also get flustered when I have to talk to certain people regardless of sex, or when I have to talk to more than person and I´m the center of interest. I blush too much.
Life is so tough!
chinchonchinchon 2 years ago 34
I feel like you have taken words directly out of my mouth! I am way too shy and withdrawn and care way too much about what others think of me. I even feel awkward around my family a lot of the time because I fear they judge me about my shyness. I'm 18 years old (male) and never had a long term relationship with a girl. I'm not bad looking either, or am I!?
From this day on this is going to stop. Good luck to you as well. We only live once right?
xxMrBaldyxx 2 years ago 6
Thanks. I have this problem. I'm quite messed up. I'm going to give it a try. It probably won't work, but your video is encouraging.
immortalknightjohn4 2 years ago 9
lol i feel you
n33daf1x1n 2 years ago
yeah i don't know why but i have a really have a hard time meeting new people. I wouldn't know any of the people i know if i hadn't met them through my friends.
ZaVaLaj90 2 years ago 7
Most people don't know others except through their friends. Even extroverted people have trouble approaching strangers and they often stick with the familiar relationships they've had. It never hurts to reach out to someone though :)
somethingtangy 2 years ago 3
being myself doesnt work out that well.
ImDino 2 years ago
You have a very beautiful scenery from your office. And your video was very inspirational and insightful. Indeed, I will have a ball the next time I go out and meet women and I won't give a crap about what they think of me, however I will continue to act according to my principles.
The only one thing that I found spooky about this video was the sound-bit in the beginning and ending of this video. It sounds and looks like "this is where someone was lost at sea and never found" sort of image..
flavorliciousbtg 2 years ago 3
hey man - let us know how it worked!
jogobonito1234 2 years ago
very good insight
jesswa4 2 years ago
I'm trying to overcome my shyness but it's a hard battle,I'm 16 and every other 16 year old where Im from has lots of friends but I dont(not coz im an asshole,it's coz of my shyness)
AnimeDreamer919 2 years ago 6
hey the only one that can cure that shyness is the love and miracle of jesus, dude pray, and dont forget whos up in the skiys.
resq123 2 years ago
Hang in there, we're all in the same boat, and you're young enough to eventually put all this behind you.
:)
Mike251 2 years ago 4
thank you very much for this video. Its helpful to hear you validate that shyness is an irratonial feeling above all.
JEXTC4EVA 2 years ago
The feeling of shyness is only present within you because you are caring too much about what other people will think about you. You see yourself through other people's eyes. Free yourself up and see through your own eyes! This method helps me tremendously!
Totyo3 2 years ago 9
Hi. Dr Guterman,
I really enjoyed your video on "Overcoming Shyness". I have suffered with this problem for most of my life. I am 32 and still have not met Mr. Right yet, because of the very same things that you speak about in your video (fear of rejection, wondering if they like me, etc). I majored in psychology in college and have come to the realization that you are right, we are not all flawless and it is okay if some people do not like us. I am still a work in progress.
sbr1976 3 years ago 2
I liked the part where being rejected shows "beauty in the eye of the beholder" part
youbananabuoy 3 years ago 2
Thanks Dr.....This is a very great video with a lot of useful information. I have been a shy person since I was a young boy, and it's caused a HUGE amount of disruption in my life. It's been a battle to overcome. But I'm glad I came across this video...Thank you!
AnthonyJ74 3 years ago 2
You are doing very very well.
I don't know you but I am already attached !
You are great
Now I understand my shyness
Which is a very important part of overcoming it.
Thanks a lot!
VeyaFromQC 3 years ago 2
Ohhh... I love you!
Thank you for this video!!
lilius777 3 years ago
Thank you. I found this video very useful.
jtlsuk 3 years ago
this is amazing! thanks Doctor Guterman! i just wish now i could get over my fear and do something like what you and Dr. Ellis did to get over your shyness.
januarycraziness 3 years ago
Excellent video. Very much appreciated.
two1127 3 years ago
Thanks, Dr. Guterman for this video which is really helpful. Interesting themes whould be also "stress and burnout" and, for instance, floccinaucinihilipilification (nice word :-)
Pepperspecialist 3 years ago 4
Stress and burnout is a very good topic and one I will consider doing. Floccinaucinihilipilification? Interesting word, but I am not sure it would be a topic I would cover.
jguterman 3 years ago
Nice format, great content. Thank you.
davius4321 3 years ago 3
This is a great video. What a nice office.
seIkIvad 3 years ago 4