Your doing a wonderful job mom and dad please dont listen to the ignorant small minded people on here they are so ridiculous and stupid. They go on all these kid videos just to spew there nonsense because they are insecure about there own parenting skills or because they are old lonely bitter angry losers. They are nobodies so dont even comment back to them. They love the attention they get so feedback is only feeding there ugly asses more reasons to do it.
I am 52 and in my day there was no such thing as autism. I think kids are given too many labels today. Jr wont listen...he has ADD.....Jr disrupts the class ...he has ADHD.....Jr is hitting everyone ......he's bipolar. It's amazing my generation survived without all these labels. God knew I couldn't one of these kids.....boy did he know!
Nobody here has the right to judge this man, I too have a child with autism, However my beliefs about autism are diffrent than that of a bland term. Doctors diagnose behavorial issues with "autism" however I think she is add, Anyways I too deal with this, I hope it gets better and good luck, just remember no hitting and always talk nicely to your child, As they grow they become calmer and more relaxed, remember not talking is reason enough to scream and kick! nobody understands what u want <3
first of all this was two years ago when I didnt know much about Autism and i was just learning about it. My son is wonderful and loving. Ive taught myself and read and did everything I need to do to understand more and to help my son. my son is different but truly the most loving child ever! God bless.
I am in love with a beautiful man who has high functioning Autism. This video is HORRIBLE. What parent in their right mind would torment a child who is already trapped in his own brain??? People with autism KNOW they are different. The rage is their own frustration with their inability to communicate properly. In addition to a special school for autism you might want to get coaching on how to be a good parent. Disgusting.
my son throws tantrums like this, and he's not autistic, being tired is usually the culprit. and wen he looks at u and knocks something off the dresser, he is waiting for your reaction. u didn't give him one so he went and found mom, who is usually the comfort. Need to learn better techniques for your own parenting and to help him gain self control.. he is quite a lovely boy =] i bet he is a sweetheart under his rough exterior,
People who want to put stupid comments r really sad but I will pray for u guys. You guys forget he is a child with your cold hearts. I'm better and that why I leave it on to show how small minded some people really are! Thanks stupid people.:)can't break someone who thinks everything about herself and family and nothing of you. Get educated on autism or don't leave a comment! Thanks for watching everyone else Jaylen is doing great. He still doesn't talk but he much happier now. God bless!
God bless you for posting Jaylen's videos. Like Samantha, we are going through the same thing with our 4 year old son. He doesn't have tantrums like Jaylen's but there are times when he would cry for no reason. His neurologist said that it may be because he is starting to realize that he is different or he is frustrated that he can't express himself better. I just hug him to try to comfort him when he's going through his crying spells.
I have Asperger's Autism. Here is a trick that my mom used when I was little. I still use it now when I feel like having a meltdown. I sit in my room with my favorite soft toy(in your case it can be a stuffed animal, blanket, favorite pillow, etc) and watch a lava timer(the one's that look like a lava lamp but the lava liquid doesn't come back up). After doing that for a few minutes I start to feel a lot better. I hope this piece of information helps. God Bless.
all you guys who are being very mean about this is probably worse than any autistic child. they don't mean it. Its absolute hell for them, and all you csn do is snigger. I would strangle you and punch you real hard if you said that in front of me.
I was viewing your video on your son. I am so glad to see that I am not alone in this matter and I am not a bad parent. I have twin boys and one has Autism.
He can be off the chain when he does not get his way. Can't even take him to Church because he screams and his new word in trying to talk is HELP....
I was viewing your video on your son. I am so glad to see that I am not alone in this matter and I am not a bad parent. I have twin boys and one has Autism.
He can be off the chain when he does not get his way. When we go out he is running around and will not set. Can't even take him to Church because he screams and his new word in trying to talk is HELP....
he does this because he can't communicate with you or anybody. if people couldn't understand what you were saying no matter how hard you tried, wouldn't you go mad too?
How is Jaylen doing now? My son is 4 and does not nap. He has the same kind of meltdowns after school. Its like he holds himself together at school, overwhelmed by all the stimulus, then when he gets home, he's safe and get let go. Try talking out loud saying mirror words. Ex:what a good job he's done keeping it together allll day. Let him take his shoes off and kick, yea? your boy brings a smile to my face, even in a tantrum.
I wanted eveyone to know that This video is an old one. Jaylen has been a doing a great improvement on everything. He is in a better school for Autism. NO MORE tantrums either. I give him pressure and massages. I help him with everything he needs. He still doesnt talk. He just turned five in July. Still in pampers but we are working on it. He lets me know alot from signing and it helps. I will send another video soon. thank you for the ones who have support us and the one who didnt well God Bles
Cont. 7. If distraction fails, maybe he needs to feel more security. Tell him you are going to hold him tight. Take a sheet and wrap him up firmly in it, talking calmly as you do it. When he can't kick, or punch you, either rock him or sit and stroke him. The all-over pressure of being firmly wrapped has a very calming effect. Later on, just putting the wrap around himself, may be enough.
Cont.6. Strategy- Do something repetitive that is NOT part of Jaylen's repetoire. Sit on the edge of the bed with his slippers and say "Flip! Flap! Flip! Flap! Flip! Flap!" incessantly until he is so intrigued by the flip-flapping game that he has to stop and see what you are doing. Something that you can do co-operatively like flapping your alternate knees is particularly good.
Games where you say "Whizzy! Whizzy!" or "Woop! Woop! Woop! Woop!" on an ascending scale are also irresistable.
Cont.5. Video strategy: "Oh, I'm just going get a nice cool drink and sit down and watch "Toy Story" (or other favourite). Have the drink ready for Jaylen as well. Once you start it running, DON"T pause the video. Whatever he misses is missed. Drop back to his room to see how he's going, but don't plead with him. Say "To infinity and beyond!" or some such, so he is well aware that something fascinating is going on without him.
Watch it every afternoon for a month if that's what it takes.
I realise that this reply is 10 months down the track, but it may be useful, not just to Jaylen's parents but to others.
Firstly, an explanation: Jaylen has been to Pre-School all day, and all day he has worked on restraining himself in an environment that is less secure than home. Every bit of trauma he has felt in the day is coming out. What he is screaming about is the frustration of trying to conform. Learning to conform is very important for an autistic child, but harder than normal.
Cont. For Jayden and Co. having to sit on the mat at storytime, rather than rolling in the corner is learning to conform. This happens all day, at Pre-School. All day he hears "Come now", "sit here", "Don't snatch", "Share toys", and every bit of it is a challenge. What a lovely secure place the corner of his own bed is, to let out all his frustrations!
Cont.2. One strategy that often works is to totally ignore him but do something that he really enjoys doing calmly. Don't look at him or speak to him. Say to yourself "I'm going to build a really tall tower!" get the blocks and start building it in the middle of his bedroom, talking out loud as you do it. "Now a yellow one, now a red one" or whatever. He may jump off the bed and knock it down! Say "BANG!" and start again. It might just get off the bed and start stacking. Either way is good.
Cont.3. Stategy 2. Ignore Jaylen. Talk to yourself or partner, in his room, (or corridor). Say something like "I'm going to run Jaylen's bath now. I wonder if he'd like his Muppet jamas or his race-car jamas? Maybe we could have bubble bath tonight. Yes, that's what we'll do." Something nice, safe and orderly is happening that he can take part in. Go back and forth several times. "Oh where are his slippers?" When he calms down ignore the tantrum and go on with the activity as planned.
Cont.4. Post tantrum ignore. There's a tendency to want to praise the child when it stops its dreadful behaviour. Don't! It rewards the tantrum. You can acknowledge what has taken place by saying "I'm glad you have calmed down." But don't praise him or pet him for STOPPING something that is negative. When he calms down, find something postive to praise and reward, like "That's a beautiful tower!" or "What a big heap of bubbles you made!" Call your partner in to praise the "positive" activity.
The best way is not to talk to your son face to face what he needs is indrect talking like talking about him like an infant that is unable to speak. your son does not understand eyes or hearing like you do talk about him not to him don't look at your son with eye contact he doest like you in his face kissing him after school and asking how his day was.I understand your sons world.
I've been looking for vids like this because I'm having such a terrible time coping with my son - how do you manage to stay so calm when your house is being destroyed? I feel so angry, especially when he is attacking me. Would love to know how you cope so well, thank you :)
Poor baby - just breaks my heart to watch. I really feel for him bc I have a 4 year old autistic son of my own who occasionally has tantrums. It looks like Jaylen has some pent up things from school - anything from too much stimulation to the possibility that he is of an age to notice his differences from his peers and may be feeling a little left out - so he's saving all of those pent up emotions and has to get them out somehow once he's safely at home. Just a thought I had after watching...
I have a son that is autistic as well. And when he came home from school i noticed it was when he had a bad day at school teachers complaining so forth! But i understand my son destroys things to when he dont get attintion so on! But the more attention i give the better! Sometimes it still dont work! And he does it! But it wont be as bad the more love he gets! But there is a way to heal him! Watch some vids on here. By jenny mackartney. Her son was autistic!
Anyone consider that possibly, just maybe he is too overstimulated during the day at school, and home being his safe place, is the perfect place to let go of all frustration. My son used to stand out in the front yard and just scream bloody blue murder! It seemed to be his way of releasing.
poor baby, he doesnt understand why he feels so upset ;( god bless him, as i am a bit of an austie but i dont throw tantrums, i have very very mild autism
I am a CABAS rank one autistic teacher and work with severely autistic children. please look into applied behaviour techniques to help him. as he looks at you and moves the toy off the chest, he needs to be planned ignores. he needs to also be verbally praised constantly for quiet behaviour and non self injurious behaviour. Please be aware this is not severe. He is not running at you and biting you are head banging on the stone floor. Have faith. This is not a bad tantrum at all.
Jaylen use to hit his head. He is alot better now. He does bit and pinches really bad. He bites himself as well. This video was when I was just learning and trying to teach myself more everyday. He hasnt had a tantrum anymore but acts out other ways. Thanks for the advice and believe me Im doing the most I can with him with therapy and stuff. And of course with God's help. ...God Bless.
Just want people to know that this is when I just started learning more about Autism. He use to wake up after every nap and cry and scream. After learning and reading and therapy for him, he has been a great boy. This was just a recording of him to let people know and see there are more children out there like this. He hasnt had anymore tanturms like this thank god. I have help him in was that have been rewarding for the whole family. Those who believed thank you and God Bless.
There's a distinct difference between simple bratty behavior and an autistic tantrum. Autistic people don't think the same way. Some will act like they're being killed when they touch water, or are in physical contact with another person. Physical, visual, and auditory stimulus of nearly any kind or magnitude can send them into screaming, raging upset.
Find out what sets him off. Help him. I understand you are at your wits end. But you can learn to help get that behavior down! ITs probably the transition from school to home. Transitions are really hard for autistic kids. ITS NOT FOR ATTENTION!!!!! READ A BOOK!
hey , trust me im not hear to condemn anyone it just seems like they might not know certain things like the fact that transitioning from school to home may be triggering the behavior and they may be able to help him find ways to calm himself down. Also it is really important to understand this behavior is not the same kind of fit a normal child has (like trying to get attention or just being bad) BTW i have lived with 2 severely autistic children. Thanks for the advise tho
Um, why? People are entitled to opinions. I have an opinion, and it just happens to be a little different from the ones all you suck-ups have. If the owner of this video removes my comments, it just shows that they can't take a pinch of criticism.
I was in shock and awe, how can you find this funny? you had a rough childhood didnt you? let me guess, you find it amusing because you cannot see what autism really is, I happen to know someone whose bro is autistic and believe it, thats rough, even for me and I watch freakin zombie flicks for fun now you cannot say thats a thing you should laugh about.
In case you didn't notice, it's kind of funny (actually, VERY funny) to see some kid have a hissy fit. This one is funny, it's kind of like that "kids playing halo" video.
And, I could care less if the kid's autistic. It's still funny.
its not all that funny to be honest, now shaun of the dead was funny, this is just something that could be avoided and flaming me is not very smart, its a good way to end up with my foot up your ass.
come on up to detroit sometime if you think I wont do it, you might even end up with your first ever nosebleed or a tattoo and a bill for a new pair of boots. if you think I am all talk then your really fucking stupid.
Poor kid, I really feel for him (and you guys) but he's only doing this because he is distressed. It's NOT for attention, Dad! He wants you to help him, he doesn't like the way he's feeling or behaving. Auties don't meltdown for no reason - too much noise, light, too many people ... is he like this on weekends and holidays?
I'd guess that he hates his school because this seems to be like a release of stress. I'm familiar with Autie meltdowns and that's what this looks like to me - a meltdown in order to release stress.
try a body sox. It worked wonders for my daughter for after school meltdowns. my son wil sleep for hours after one of these. So sad that they CAN"T help it. Eventually we figure that part out
Something is doing neurological damage to our children and the government needs to find out what and stop blaming genetics. There is no such thing as a genetic epidemic.
I got your comment. Try to film him doing something good instead, talk about the good thing he is doing, and show that to family and friends in front of him. Every child wants to hear they are good and has their parent's positive attention and approval. Think of the times in your life when you failed and goofed and made mistakes, would you want someone to follow you with a camera and talk about it?
Why do you want to film your child when he is most vulnerable and show it to the world? You should shelter and protect your child when he is like this, not film him for all to see.
I understand and my heart goes out to parents with autistic children, but text saying a child screams at the top of their lungs in a very high pitch and flaps their arms would be enough. I feel so badly for these children and I don't want them to be exhibited Jerry Springer style. Just my opinon.
hi there i work as a special aid in classrooms, and i work with kids on all spectums of Austim. Have you ever tryed a pressure vest, or maybe a chew tube? Some times having a place where all items can be limited and just let him have his tantrum. It also helps just to leave him alone and when he is claiming down, talk to him in a claim voice. If he cant handle loud music, turn it down a bit. If it is for attention. let him sit down in a chair, and walk away. if he gets up, set him back down.
You said this is his behavior when he gets home from school. Have you visited the school to see if something there is causing the reaction considering he can't verbally express his feelings to you? Also, some kids have sensetive ears- the music seemed a bit loud and was reverberating against the tile floors and walls. I wish you and your family the best.
I suggest you get information on Catholic priests who in the Name of GOD can stop attacks on your child.Ii think that if you do a deep search also on the internet you will find them. Please absolutely do not attempt asking to non-Catholics. Pray GOD to address you to the right priest, I am convinced he will be of help. I wish you all the best and my prayers are also for your child and for you.
but we know that HE can permit these sufferings as very important for the salvation of very many souls in the world, many saints have received these sort of attacks, some for all their lives, some for just a period, only GOD decides.
Some people who have these attacks can be cured and they can return to normal life and be completely free from these sufferings. We do not know always exactly why GOD permits these sort of sufferings (terrible illnesses and\or these sort of attacks)
please let me give you this advice, which is to start thinking about bringing him to a Catholic priest who in the Name of GOD JESUS CHRIST can eliminate his pain if for example is caused by specific attacks.I am not certain this is the case of your child but from the video i've seen i wouldnt exclude it completely.
Hello,I am very sad that your child suffers so much, like when he is kicking on walls and screaming very often, i have read that you trust in GOD and this is very good, what everyone should do! Thus i believe you pray alot for your son,
maybe he is upset about the transition from school to home, and the fact that the father is talking about him as if he doesn't exist is probably why he is acting this way, also the house is very loud, he probably needs quiet time by himself
he loves music and in my other videos you can tell. It helps he calm down and play. When the music is on he smiles and jumps on the bed and runs around the house. This was just one of his day after school and he has gotten alot better now. Thanks to therapy and patients with him and God.
Believe me I give my son love everyday. This was just a video to help others to understand about Autism and how to cope with tantrums. He helps me be strong and understanding and patient for him.
Sounds like you are a great parent - no one else can really understand what it's like for you or your child, unless they have a special needs child of their own. My son is amazing in every way, good moments and bad, and I appreciate you taping to try and show others who may be in a similar situation that this is actually a pretty common trait in autistic kids. Take care! :)
he throws things down to attract attention, LOVE from you, as best as he can, i suggest put your camera down and speak to him with Love, tell him not to worry because evrything is all right. i can immagine your feelings as parents having to deal with this disease evry day, Love is always the best cure. i know this.
Does he have issues with his sensory perception? Most children on the autism spectrum do. I don't have autism. But I do have problems with sensory integration. And I do have meltdowns like this. I noticed he's holding his teeth, if he's doing that maybe you should give him something soft to chew on.
Hi. My son used to come home from school having meltdowns like that. Something about that particular school/teacher did not work for him. We changed him to another school where he attends a "self-contained" classroom. There are other children with autism with him and the teacher and assistants are prepared and knowledgeable on how to redirect and manage their outbursts. He now LOVES school. When we do get tantrums, it helps to hug him and rock him until it passes.
Your doing a wonderful job mom and dad please dont listen to the ignorant small minded people on here they are so ridiculous and stupid. They go on all these kid videos just to spew there nonsense because they are insecure about there own parenting skills or because they are old lonely bitter angry losers. They are nobodies so dont even comment back to them. They love the attention they get so feedback is only feeding there ugly asses more reasons to do it.
UtubeDuDeDuh 1 week ago
There was autism in your day ahole but they got locked up in an institution because of people like you.
marshallrobin99 1 month ago
I am 52 and in my day there was no such thing as autism. I think kids are given too many labels today. Jr wont listen...he has ADD.....Jr disrupts the class ...he has ADHD.....Jr is hitting everyone ......he's bipolar. It's amazing my generation survived without all these labels. God knew I couldn't one of these kids.....boy did he know!
rainnken2000 2 months ago
Nobody here has the right to judge this man, I too have a child with autism, However my beliefs about autism are diffrent than that of a bland term. Doctors diagnose behavorial issues with "autism" however I think she is add, Anyways I too deal with this, I hope it gets better and good luck, just remember no hitting and always talk nicely to your child, As they grow they become calmer and more relaxed, remember not talking is reason enough to scream and kick! nobody understands what u want <3
VictorAUlloa 3 months ago
he needs to be punched in the face!
multisnootylives1 8 months ago
first of all this was two years ago when I didnt know much about Autism and i was just learning about it. My son is wonderful and loving. Ive taught myself and read and did everything I need to do to understand more and to help my son. my son is different but truly the most loving child ever! God bless.
vaniachicago 9 months ago
I am in love with a beautiful man who has high functioning Autism. This video is HORRIBLE. What parent in their right mind would torment a child who is already trapped in his own brain??? People with autism KNOW they are different. The rage is their own frustration with their inability to communicate properly. In addition to a special school for autism you might want to get coaching on how to be a good parent. Disgusting.
nikkicamiso71 9 months ago
God bless you and family.
I understand how hard it is for family with autism children.
We're experiencing it right now.
It's so tired as he grows older.
tsekyid 10 months ago
my son throws tantrums like this, and he's not autistic, being tired is usually the culprit. and wen he looks at u and knocks something off the dresser, he is waiting for your reaction. u didn't give him one so he went and found mom, who is usually the comfort. Need to learn better techniques for your own parenting and to help him gain self control.. he is quite a lovely boy =] i bet he is a sweetheart under his rough exterior,
christabella81 1 year ago
Poor thing. I understand the struggles he faces. Ps, He's soooo cute!
India1234ize 1 year ago
@multisnootyundead your so predjudicee
comedybenj 1 year ago
@multisnootyundead mate your being horrible i have autism to
comedybenj 1 year ago
People who want to put stupid comments r really sad but I will pray for u guys. You guys forget he is a child with your cold hearts. I'm better and that why I leave it on to show how small minded some people really are! Thanks stupid people.:)can't break someone who thinks everything about herself and family and nothing of you. Get educated on autism or don't leave a comment! Thanks for watching everyone else Jaylen is doing great. He still doesn't talk but he much happier now. God bless!
vaniachicago 1 year ago
Glad to hear Jaylen is doing much better and you found a school that is helping him make progress. That is wonderful! God bless you!
k8jcr 1 year ago
JESUS CHRIST!!! I am scared of him!! I rather send him away 2 kids jail in alaska!!!
WakkoLuver39 1 year ago
God bless you for posting Jaylen's videos. Like Samantha, we are going through the same thing with our 4 year old son. He doesn't have tantrums like Jaylen's but there are times when he would cry for no reason. His neurologist said that it may be because he is starting to realize that he is different or he is frustrated that he can't express himself better. I just hug him to try to comfort him when he's going through his crying spells.
Jilcobames 1 year ago
ha ha
popeel2 1 year ago
I have Asperger's Autism. Here is a trick that my mom used when I was little. I still use it now when I feel like having a meltdown. I sit in my room with my favorite soft toy(in your case it can be a stuffed animal, blanket, favorite pillow, etc) and watch a lava timer(the one's that look like a lava lamp but the lava liquid doesn't come back up). After doing that for a few minutes I start to feel a lot better. I hope this piece of information helps. God Bless.
yokosbride 1 year ago
lol this kid has problem
popeel2 1 year ago
@popeel2 you really dont have a clue do you? go do some research before you pass judgement on something you know absolutely NOTHING about will u
KiZZyKatCuTie 1 year ago
all you guys who are being very mean about this is probably worse than any autistic child. they don't mean it. Its absolute hell for them, and all you csn do is snigger. I would strangle you and punch you real hard if you said that in front of me.
TycoonQueenie01 1 year ago
Hi
I was viewing your video on your son. I am so glad to see that I am not alone in this matter and I am not a bad parent. I have twin boys and one has Autism.
He can be off the chain when he does not get his way. Can't even take him to Church because he screams and his new word in trying to talk is HELP....
So, I am at my ends rope with him.
Do you have any suggestions.
Loving Mother of Autism
Santiago
SamathaSantiago 1 year ago
Hi
I was viewing your video on your son. I am so glad to see that I am not alone in this matter and I am not a bad parent. I have twin boys and one has Autism.
He can be off the chain when he does not get his way. When we go out he is running around and will not set. Can't even take him to Church because he screams and his new word in trying to talk is HELP....
So, I am at my ends rope with him.
Do you have any suggestions.
Loving Mother of Autism
Santiago
SamathaSantiago 1 year ago
Wow, man this is exactly what we are going through.
SamathaSantiago 1 year ago
He Is A Demon Autistic Child!
gabofhearts 1 year ago
what a retard
MultiSnooty 1 year ago
@MultiSnooty if ur refering to the child in the video then that just shows ur mentality doesnt it and proves that ur the retard go do some research
KiZZyKatCuTie 1 year ago
he does this because he can't communicate with you or anybody. if people couldn't understand what you were saying no matter how hard you tried, wouldn't you go mad too?
pokeruler100 1 year ago
that first screaming there is a girl in my school who does that. and it is horrible!
ceciliafan1 2 years ago
How is Jaylen doing now? My son is 4 and does not nap. He has the same kind of meltdowns after school. Its like he holds himself together at school, overwhelmed by all the stimulus, then when he gets home, he's safe and get let go. Try talking out loud saying mirror words. Ex:what a good job he's done keeping it together allll day. Let him take his shoes off and kick, yea? your boy brings a smile to my face, even in a tantrum.
momofautismx2 2 years ago
my cousin does this, it's very stressful. i just want to administer a horse tranquilizer to calm him down.
scuzzlebutt 2 years ago
Please look into dieting. It helped our son tremendously!
dugmaze 2 years ago
I wanted eveyone to know that This video is an old one. Jaylen has been a doing a great improvement on everything. He is in a better school for Autism. NO MORE tantrums either. I give him pressure and massages. I help him with everything he needs. He still doesnt talk. He just turned five in July. Still in pampers but we are working on it. He lets me know alot from signing and it helps. I will send another video soon. thank you for the ones who have support us and the one who didnt well God Bles
vaniachicago 2 years ago
try the gfcf diet autism is an immune system disorder check it out it helps my son
freejrock2008 2 years ago
Cont. 7. If distraction fails, maybe he needs to feel more security. Tell him you are going to hold him tight. Take a sheet and wrap him up firmly in it, talking calmly as you do it. When he can't kick, or punch you, either rock him or sit and stroke him. The all-over pressure of being firmly wrapped has a very calming effect. Later on, just putting the wrap around himself, may be enough.
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
Cont.6. Strategy- Do something repetitive that is NOT part of Jaylen's repetoire. Sit on the edge of the bed with his slippers and say "Flip! Flap! Flip! Flap! Flip! Flap!" incessantly until he is so intrigued by the flip-flapping game that he has to stop and see what you are doing. Something that you can do co-operatively like flapping your alternate knees is particularly good.
Games where you say "Whizzy! Whizzy!" or "Woop! Woop! Woop! Woop!" on an ascending scale are also irresistable.
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
Cont.5. Video strategy: "Oh, I'm just going get a nice cool drink and sit down and watch "Toy Story" (or other favourite). Have the drink ready for Jaylen as well. Once you start it running, DON"T pause the video. Whatever he misses is missed. Drop back to his room to see how he's going, but don't plead with him. Say "To infinity and beyond!" or some such, so he is well aware that something fascinating is going on without him.
Watch it every afternoon for a month if that's what it takes.
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
I realise that this reply is 10 months down the track, but it may be useful, not just to Jaylen's parents but to others.
Firstly, an explanation: Jaylen has been to Pre-School all day, and all day he has worked on restraining himself in an environment that is less secure than home. Every bit of trauma he has felt in the day is coming out. What he is screaming about is the frustration of trying to conform. Learning to conform is very important for an autistic child, but harder than normal.
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
Cont. For Jayden and Co. having to sit on the mat at storytime, rather than rolling in the corner is learning to conform. This happens all day, at Pre-School. All day he hears "Come now", "sit here", "Don't snatch", "Share toys", and every bit of it is a challenge. What a lovely secure place the corner of his own bed is, to let out all his frustrations!
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
Cont.2. One strategy that often works is to totally ignore him but do something that he really enjoys doing calmly. Don't look at him or speak to him. Say to yourself "I'm going to build a really tall tower!" get the blocks and start building it in the middle of his bedroom, talking out loud as you do it. "Now a yellow one, now a red one" or whatever. He may jump off the bed and knock it down! Say "BANG!" and start again. It might just get off the bed and start stacking. Either way is good.
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
Cont.3. Stategy 2. Ignore Jaylen. Talk to yourself or partner, in his room, (or corridor). Say something like "I'm going to run Jaylen's bath now. I wonder if he'd like his Muppet jamas or his race-car jamas? Maybe we could have bubble bath tonight. Yes, that's what we'll do." Something nice, safe and orderly is happening that he can take part in. Go back and forth several times. "Oh where are his slippers?" When he calms down ignore the tantrum and go on with the activity as planned.
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
Cont.4. Post tantrum ignore. There's a tendency to want to praise the child when it stops its dreadful behaviour. Don't! It rewards the tantrum. You can acknowledge what has taken place by saying "I'm glad you have calmed down." But don't praise him or pet him for STOPPING something that is negative. When he calms down, find something postive to praise and reward, like "That's a beautiful tower!" or "What a big heap of bubbles you made!" Call your partner in to praise the "positive" activity.
MandyJMaddison 2 years ago
just like my ex only no beer bottles being thrown and my ex was a complete psycho and most of the time she was drunk.
Napalmxxx2 2 years ago
The best way is not to talk to your son face to face what he needs is indrect talking like talking about him like an infant that is unable to speak. your son does not understand eyes or hearing like you do talk about him not to him don't look at your son with eye contact he doest like you in his face kissing him after school and asking how his day was.I understand your sons world.
iws2epaul 2 years ago
Just like my son....
miresly7777777 2 years ago
@miresly7777777 I do that a lot!!!
ilovepolice1 2 years ago
I've been looking for vids like this because I'm having such a terrible time coping with my son - how do you manage to stay so calm when your house is being destroyed? I feel so angry, especially when he is attacking me. Would love to know how you cope so well, thank you :)
carriebuk 2 years ago
Poor baby - just breaks my heart to watch. I really feel for him bc I have a 4 year old autistic son of my own who occasionally has tantrums. It looks like Jaylen has some pent up things from school - anything from too much stimulation to the possibility that he is of an age to notice his differences from his peers and may be feeling a little left out - so he's saving all of those pent up emotions and has to get them out somehow once he's safely at home. Just a thought I had after watching...
melwe4 2 years ago
Bless your little kiddo - aside from the tantrums, I'm sure he has so many other wonderful qualities that you wouldn't change for the world :)
melwe4 2 years ago
It's a sensory thing.
suekosa 2 years ago
I have a son that is autistic as well. And when he came home from school i noticed it was when he had a bad day at school teachers complaining so forth! But i understand my son destroys things to when he dont get attintion so on! But the more attention i give the better! Sometimes it still dont work! And he does it! But it wont be as bad the more love he gets! But there is a way to heal him! Watch some vids on here. By jenny mackartney. Her son was autistic!
jmvar1 2 years ago
Anyone consider that possibly, just maybe he is too overstimulated during the day at school, and home being his safe place, is the perfect place to let go of all frustration. My son used to stand out in the front yard and just scream bloody blue murder! It seemed to be his way of releasing.
NKKPPAS 2 years ago
May consider the fact he doesn't like being home.. if it always happens after school, when he gets home..
xithbaby 2 years ago
poor baby, he doesnt understand why he feels so upset ;( god bless him, as i am a bit of an austie but i dont throw tantrums, i have very very mild autism
kaylinsvlog 2 years ago
I am a CABAS rank one autistic teacher and work with severely autistic children. please look into applied behaviour techniques to help him. as he looks at you and moves the toy off the chest, he needs to be planned ignores. he needs to also be verbally praised constantly for quiet behaviour and non self injurious behaviour. Please be aware this is not severe. He is not running at you and biting you are head banging on the stone floor. Have faith. This is not a bad tantrum at all.
leelouballoo 2 years ago
Jaylen use to hit his head. He is alot better now. He does bit and pinches really bad. He bites himself as well. This video was when I was just learning and trying to teach myself more everyday. He hasnt had a tantrum anymore but acts out other ways. Thanks for the advice and believe me Im doing the most I can with him with therapy and stuff. And of course with God's help. ...God Bless.
vaniachicago 2 years ago
LOLOLOL!! that reminded me when i was making a manga where my antagonsit threw a tantrum like this.
masterkill107 2 years ago
Fag.
supaproman2 2 years ago
i would dicipline him. yu need to teach him not to do that damnit
skipsht1 2 years ago
Odds are you're older than me, right? Yet you can't even spell "dammit"? It's not "damnit", it's "dammit".
FlowerDesertRose 2 years ago
Just want people to know that this is when I just started learning more about Autism. He use to wake up after every nap and cry and scream. After learning and reading and therapy for him, he has been a great boy. This was just a recording of him to let people know and see there are more children out there like this. He hasnt had anymore tanturms like this thank god. I have help him in was that have been rewarding for the whole family. Those who believed thank you and God Bless.
vaniachicago 2 years ago
Autism or not, if the kid's acting bratty, it's acting bratty. It doesn't make them any sweeter just because they have autism.
LoveForBigCats 2 years ago
There's a distinct difference between simple bratty behavior and an autistic tantrum. Autistic people don't think the same way. Some will act like they're being killed when they touch water, or are in physical contact with another person. Physical, visual, and auditory stimulus of nearly any kind or magnitude can send them into screaming, raging upset.
autocon2002 2 years ago
last time I heard non-autistic children throw fits too.
what's so different about this one?
...that there absolutely needs to be an autism title and tag on this video?
also since he's autistic I'm sure recording him like so via meltdown is just adding more stress..
there's a reason auties like isolation.
nancyrellaallegro 2 years ago
Find out what sets him off. Help him. I understand you are at your wits end. But you can learn to help get that behavior down! ITs probably the transition from school to home. Transitions are really hard for autistic kids. ITS NOT FOR ATTENTION!!!!! READ A BOOK!
meghanscotti 2 years ago
maybe you should live with him for 1 hour and then judge
jayftzable 2 years ago
hey , trust me im not hear to condemn anyone it just seems like they might not know certain things like the fact that transitioning from school to home may be triggering the behavior and they may be able to help him find ways to calm himself down. Also it is really important to understand this behavior is not the same kind of fit a normal child has (like trying to get attention or just being bad) BTW i have lived with 2 severely autistic children. Thanks for the advise tho
meghanscotti 2 years ago
i bet his parents would like to help him too
jayftzable 2 years ago
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antiautism 2 years ago
I feel bad for you. Just hang in there and hopefully all will work out for the better.
travelplus1 2 years ago
please remove that comment.
lightsand110 2 years ago
Um, why? People are entitled to opinions. I have an opinion, and it just happens to be a little different from the ones all you suck-ups have. If the owner of this video removes my comments, it just shows that they can't take a pinch of criticism.
Kingcobrasaurus 2 years ago
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This is hilarious. I was cracking up and doubling over when I watched this! Pure entertainment. 5/5
Kingcobrasaurus 2 years ago
I was in shock and awe, how can you find this funny? you had a rough childhood didnt you? let me guess, you find it amusing because you cannot see what autism really is, I happen to know someone whose bro is autistic and believe it, thats rough, even for me and I watch freakin zombie flicks for fun now you cannot say thats a thing you should laugh about.
Napalmxxx2 2 years ago
In case you didn't notice, it's kind of funny (actually, VERY funny) to see some kid have a hissy fit. This one is funny, it's kind of like that "kids playing halo" video.
And, I could care less if the kid's autistic. It's still funny.
Kingcobrasaurus 2 years ago
its not all that funny to be honest, now shaun of the dead was funny, this is just something that could be avoided and flaming me is not very smart, its a good way to end up with my foot up your ass.
Napalmxxx2 2 years ago
I lol at insincere threats.
Kingcobrasaurus 2 years ago
come on up to detroit sometime if you think I wont do it, you might even end up with your first ever nosebleed or a tattoo and a bill for a new pair of boots. if you think I am all talk then your really fucking stupid.
Napalmxxx2 2 years ago
lol
Kingcobrasaurus 2 years ago
i have a son with autism i feel your pain my prayers for your beautiful son
greeneyedchul0 2 years ago 4
Our youngest son, Kaden, has autism. I feel your frustration. We deal with this behavior daily.
ltwar4Christ 2 years ago
Poor kid, I really feel for him (and you guys) but he's only doing this because he is distressed. It's NOT for attention, Dad! He wants you to help him, he doesn't like the way he's feeling or behaving. Auties don't meltdown for no reason - too much noise, light, too many people ... is he like this on weekends and holidays?
DemonaLlama 2 years ago
I'd guess that he hates his school because this seems to be like a release of stress. I'm familiar with Autie meltdowns and that's what this looks like to me - a meltdown in order to release stress.
DemonaLlama 2 years ago
try a body sox. It worked wonders for my daughter for after school meltdowns. my son wil sleep for hours after one of these. So sad that they CAN"T help it. Eventually we figure that part out
Sparrow1138 3 years ago
Something is doing neurological damage to our children and the government needs to find out what and stop blaming genetics. There is no such thing as a genetic epidemic.
Thanks for making this vid and raising awareness.
God bless u and your son.
sonia989 3 years ago
PS I'm so glad he is doing better... he is precious!
LindaMBrooks 3 years ago
I got your comment. Try to film him doing something good instead, talk about the good thing he is doing, and show that to family and friends in front of him. Every child wants to hear they are good and has their parent's positive attention and approval. Think of the times in your life when you failed and goofed and made mistakes, would you want someone to follow you with a camera and talk about it?
LindaMBrooks 3 years ago
Why do you want to film your child when he is most vulnerable and show it to the world? You should shelter and protect your child when he is like this, not film him for all to see.
LindaMBrooks 3 years ago
Well how will other people be able to know how an autism tantrum is if no one films it?
chritting 3 years ago 4
I understand and my heart goes out to parents with autistic children, but text saying a child screams at the top of their lungs in a very high pitch and flaps their arms would be enough. I feel so badly for these children and I don't want them to be exhibited Jerry Springer style. Just my opinon.
LindaMBrooks 3 years ago
True.
chritting 3 years ago
hi there i work as a special aid in classrooms, and i work with kids on all spectums of Austim. Have you ever tryed a pressure vest, or maybe a chew tube? Some times having a place where all items can be limited and just let him have his tantrum. It also helps just to leave him alone and when he is claiming down, talk to him in a claim voice. If he cant handle loud music, turn it down a bit. If it is for attention. let him sit down in a chair, and walk away. if he gets up, set him back down.
Aroura619 3 years ago
You said this is his behavior when he gets home from school. Have you visited the school to see if something there is causing the reaction considering he can't verbally express his feelings to you? Also, some kids have sensetive ears- the music seemed a bit loud and was reverberating against the tile floors and walls. I wish you and your family the best.
Saguaro24 3 years ago 2
I am an ABA therapist....Look at your son he is doing these things for a reaction..trust me ABA therapy is what you need
pangle22marissa 3 years ago
Your son doesn't need a priest he is autistic! Look into ABA therapy
pangle22marissa 3 years ago
I suggest you get information on Catholic priests who in the Name of GOD can stop attacks on your child.Ii think that if you do a deep search also on the internet you will find them. Please absolutely do not attempt asking to non-Catholics. Pray GOD to address you to the right priest, I am convinced he will be of help. I wish you all the best and my prayers are also for your child and for you.
lightsand110 3 years ago
but we know that HE can permit these sufferings as very important for the salvation of very many souls in the world, many saints have received these sort of attacks, some for all their lives, some for just a period, only GOD decides.
lightsand110 3 years ago
Some people who have these attacks can be cured and they can return to normal life and be completely free from these sufferings. We do not know always exactly why GOD permits these sort of sufferings (terrible illnesses and\or these sort of attacks)
lightsand110 3 years ago
please let me give you this advice, which is to start thinking about bringing him to a Catholic priest who in the Name of GOD JESUS CHRIST can eliminate his pain if for example is caused by specific attacks.I am not certain this is the case of your child but from the video i've seen i wouldnt exclude it completely.
lightsand110 3 years ago
Hello,I am very sad that your child suffers so much, like when he is kicking on walls and screaming very often, i have read that you trust in GOD and this is very good, what everyone should do! Thus i believe you pray alot for your son,
lightsand110 3 years ago
maybe he is upset about the transition from school to home, and the fact that the father is talking about him as if he doesn't exist is probably why he is acting this way, also the house is very loud, he probably needs quiet time by himself
writeonyourhand 3 years ago
he loves music and in my other videos you can tell. It helps he calm down and play. When the music is on he smiles and jumps on the bed and runs around the house. This was just one of his day after school and he has gotten alot better now. Thanks to therapy and patients with him and God.
vaniachicago 3 years ago
he is probably going insane from listening to that music...
connocr 3 years ago
Believe me I give my son love everyday. This was just a video to help others to understand about Autism and how to cope with tantrums. He helps me be strong and understanding and patient for him.
vaniachicago 3 years ago
Sounds like you are a great parent - no one else can really understand what it's like for you or your child, unless they have a special needs child of their own. My son is amazing in every way, good moments and bad, and I appreciate you taping to try and show others who may be in a similar situation that this is actually a pretty common trait in autistic kids. Take care! :)
melwe4 2 years ago
he throws things down to attract attention, LOVE from you, as best as he can, i suggest put your camera down and speak to him with Love, tell him not to worry because evrything is all right. i can immagine your feelings as parents having to deal with this disease evry day, Love is always the best cure. i know this.
machepassword 3 years ago
Does he have issues with his sensory perception? Most children on the autism spectrum do. I don't have autism. But I do have problems with sensory integration. And I do have meltdowns like this. I noticed he's holding his teeth, if he's doing that maybe you should give him something soft to chew on.
suekosa 3 years ago
Hi. My son used to come home from school having meltdowns like that. Something about that particular school/teacher did not work for him. We changed him to another school where he attends a "self-contained" classroom. There are other children with autism with him and the teacher and assistants are prepared and knowledgeable on how to redirect and manage their outbursts. He now LOVES school. When we do get tantrums, it helps to hug him and rock him until it passes.
Best wishes.
JRoque250 3 years ago
Poor baby, i really hope you can find a way to calm him. Mi son also has tantrums when he wakes up...(he has autism)
I give you a big hug, i know were going to find the way.
adrishelton 3 years ago