Fantasia you keep your head up don't look back and have no regrets because if their marriage was all that then he would not have stepped out of his marriage to be with you or anyone else.You can't take something that is already gone if it wasn't you then it would have been someone else. Good Luck Fantasia I love you as a great singer and I see how you take care of your daughter so I know you will be great with this one
Fantasia you keep your head up don't look back and have no regrets because if their marriage was all that then he would not have stepped out of his marriage to be with you or anyone else.You can't take something that is already gone if it wasn't you then it would have been someone else. Good Luck Fantasia I love you as a great singer and I see how you take care of your daughter so I know you will be great with this one God Bless!!!!
I love this video I was in this situation & it is nothing but pain4 the unsuspecting woman, Its a pain no body understands its happened 2 me, all i can say is wow the game has gotten thick, it happened 3 times I never purpously dated any of them they all lied, & I really think after this I was a Doctor n FOOLOLIGY,& Cheatathonology, & im so thankful 4 God 4 finding out & letting them go, I have been married 4 5years now, Im thankful that I was not condemed by those who knew what happened
There are plenty of people who walk around married. Some people dont get a divorce for many reason. I know women who are legally married but still say they are single. Same thing with men. Being married is more than just a document. Marriage nowadays doesn't mean they are still together. Being honest everyone cant afford to get divorce.
So glad I found your page; do people forget the principle of karma...... I had to put that out there., but I will be tuning in. And true it could happen, but still, unless he's sep from the wife w his own apt or house, I'd step away. I learned the hard way myself!
We live in such a greedy society I always believed it was a set up. I believe Antwuan and his wife saw an opportunity to get paid and jumped ship. Fantasia needs to protect her heart and her bank account.
It wasn't hard for to drop the married man I met, we went out on one date and he told me he was married. I'll make this short and sweet. I left his ass in the restaurant to pay the damn bill. He told me he was married and I was oh later and walked out. He was calling me and I told him, if he calls me again, I will have his ass kicked and he never called me again. He knew I wasn't playing.
Uhhh no this CANNOT happen to any woman. I have NOT and will never ever will date a married man because I have too much respect for marriage. The only way I will date a married man is if I don't know he's married. I met a man who was married and dropped his ass like a bad habit and told him to f-ck off because if a man will cheat on his wife he'll cheat on you. Nuff Said!
I agree with everything she said me i ask all type of quetions like first last middle name i look at their id i ask who is they friends where they hang out etc because i don`t wanna get caught up in nobody bullshit im not jugding fantaisa we all make mistakes but it`s what you do with them do you learn from them or continue making the same one`s don`t regret them learn from them
I went true this same situation..with an african man he believes he could have more than one wife..i forgive myself and him..moving on is the hadest part of all..until today I still cannot trust a man..even if he was an angel..but @ the same time I feel relieved that he is out of my life..i yake it as expirience but not regret! God bless u diva
But what if the guy already told her that he was married, and she falls for him ANYWAYS?! Whose fault is it then?! If dude laid all the cards on the table, and the girl is STILL down to f***?
Hi I'm 27 yrs & there's a nice guy who is 21 yrs & we have been spending alot of time together, but he's on facebook & asking other females if he can get to know them better.
if he cant show where he lives and all you have is his cell number and dont leave out if you only know his first name ........um ladies please run to the nearest exit!!!
Good video. So true. Same happened to me however I dumped the guy FIRST BEFORE I found out he had a wife overseas. Thank god it was only a few months. I dumped my ex when his behavior started to change and he wasn't dependable. I broke things off. I later found out on FB he was married with a wife overseas. It was devastating. He lied about being single and never married. BUt karma is Biatch so he better watch out. I'm glad I have my self respect.
Dammmmm Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight....LEAVE fantasia a-lone......Could appen 2 any 1 any time...its gradual......Forgive yourself Fantasia...U blrssed gurl! Cut an go tru wid GOD inna u heart....BiiiiiiiG love Lady
Dammmmm Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight....LEAVE fantasia a-lone......Could appen 2 any 1 any time...its gradual......Forgive yourself Fantasia...U blrssed gurl! Cut an go tru wid GOD inna u heart....BiiiiiiiG love Lady
Everyone is so focused on how "wrong" Fantasia is/was....what about the guy who was stepping out on his wife....women, like some who have commented here, always want to bring the claws out and confront the other woman and what not...face it....yes Tasia was wrong for continuing the relationship and trying to end her life but DUDE was wrong as hell for stepping out on his wife in the first place....so why bash her and not have a word to say about him?? Shay you are right...cud happen 2 any1!
I actually felt sorry for Fantasia when I learned of the situation. I went through something very similar and learned a lot about myself in the process. Ladies we have to do our homework when dating and more importantly listen to that inner voice that ALWAYS let's you know when something is not right!!!! Pls subscribe to my page...
Shay usually Im with you but not so much on this one. I hope you not letting up just because shes Fantasia Barrino. Suicide attempt or not, at some point she knew that he was married, and if she would have walked away then, she wouldn't be in this mess now. I too have heard the saying "Never say never" but I disagree because if you know yourself then you know what you would or wouldnt do. However if you happen to slip up because no one is perfect, then at least you know that it wasnt intended.
@chawlatthai I never said that it was acceptable to mess with a married man. I have about five videos telling women not to and how that can avoid this trap. As I have stated before, the point of education is to make people aware of potential mistakes of certain choices. Unfortunately, you can walk the straight and narrow and make all of the best decisions and trouble is still waiting around the corner so to "teach" you what you need to ..
@chawlatthai cont... learn and maybe what others need to learn from your mistake. With all of the advice I give and people I help, I see tons of mistakes and I dont judge, I only try to teach with love.
OMG!!! Shay you are so, so, so on point ! You are so right when you stated basically you have to walk in thoses shoes before you can judge someone else for this. There are so very many women who would have never ever thought they would have any involvement with a married man, but trust me it can happen because unfortunately some men are so very dishonest. And you are so right when you made the riding in a car anology. Thank you from all of us who have been through this and survived!
Wtf shay! She knew he was married, he didn't trick her. You women stick together no matter what. What happened to the bible and all that judge not talk when you went in on tiger woods? You women are hypocrites.
@TheBlackAlBundy first off, speak what you know because he has spoken to the media and admitted to "tricking" her. He told her that his marriage was over when it wasnt, he was still going home to his wife. Tiger Woods on the other hand is a different story,I said clearly that he was very sloppy and why cheat w/ women who have nothing to lose and that cheating was wrong let alone with almost a 100 women.If it was one, maybe two but 100 plus? Also, if you followed my FB page I said that we ...
i agree....people get caught up in emotions and when you care about someone youll believe what they say even though it was a lie. I never been in that situation but i think the main person at fault is the husband, he's the one that said the vows, not fantasia. he is the one fully to blame. However, i dont think thats a good enough reason to try to kill yourself. She had a daughter and that lets you know where her mindset was and it wasnt on her girl. thats extreme
wah wah wah! 'm so tired of folks crying, "don't judge....he who is with out sin...." BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! The bottom line is every ADULT knows that is wrong to screw around with someone who is married. Many have committed adultery but that does not justify what she has done. Men cheat because a lof of us welcome the opportunity. How hard is NO really? Foolish decisions usually have harsh consequences. I don't pitty Fantasia or her adulterous man. She set herself up for this humiliation.
@srbumblediva Chile please. When she found out the truth did she shut it down and send him packing? No. She chose to stay "Caught Up". Now look at the situation she is in. Now instead of everyone being excited about her come back all the focus is on this huge mistake. All because she chose to live the lie even after the truth. He may have lied at first but she had plenty of time to make the right choice and leave that married man alone. Being lied to doesn't justify adultery.
@binkybaby007 Sweetie, I like to stay out of back and forth discussions of people's opinions but after working with hundreds of women or people in general, I have learned that no one "chooses" to stay caught up. When you get caught up it's like your mind is now under the influence of that oxytocin. This is why I do what I do so to teach and warn women of the pitfalls because when one is aware, getting "caught up" becomes less likely. We have all gotten got- ALL of us:)
@lovein30days hello hun, I applaud your research and efforts to make the blind aware. However, I disagree with no one "chooses" to stay caught up. I realize that it feels difficult and painful to be in that state of mind but it doesn't change the fact that she remained in a relationship with someone else's husband after finding out the truth. That is wrong no matter what "caught up" frame of mind you are in. Folks just refuse to own their ish.....................
@lovein30days ....Unless you have discovered in your research that the human brain turns to mush leaving the "caught up" victim incapable of determining right from wrong then she had a choice. If you can prove that please share your resources. I would be completly intrigued enough to learn more about the effect of oxytocin. Unless he held her hostage tied to the bed with a gun to her head she had a choice. It doesn't matter if ALL of us have gotten "got" she was wrong. Unjustified.
@binkybaby007 Well hello sweetie, thanks for your feed back. There is research that suggest that when we fall in love that our "rational" mind is minimized and our behavior is on auto pilot and driven by the "high" of the love experience. When you fall in love your body releases high amounts of Seretonin and endorphins. These are the same chemicals present in high quantities of Obsessive Compulsive patients. Which means that you can literally become "obsessed" with the object of your ...cont
@binkybaby007 affection and no longer are you thinking rationally. This is why it is important that you do your research and guard ur heart until you confirm who it is that you are falling for.Research shows that this effect wears off after the first 6 months to two years but in ill patients those hormones are present in high quantities at all times.The point is that you can say what a person "should" do all day and they can also blame and beat up on themselves once they are in the mess. cont.
@binkybaby007 There is no point in doing this. The best most effective course of action is to learn and do better and understand the "whys" instead of the "shoulds."
@lovein30days Hello again hun, thanks for your reply. I am always open to opportunities of enlightenment. In this case what I hear are excuses. There is always reasons for our decisions but it does not mean we should not be held accountable. Our choices have either good or bad results. When it ends badly we must own the that we played. Many of our emotions can leave our minds in an altered state such as being "irrational". Being irrational does not make you exempt of consequences. ...........
@lovein30days .......Being irrational will not prevent a thief, murderer, or rapist from having to take responsibility for their actions. It is possible that there was a mental reason why they stole, killed and raped but they were still wrong for doing it. It is Mister's fault for hurting his family when he committed adultery but when Fantasia found out the truth and continued the relationship she then gets 50% of the blame. My point was and is "ownership of ones actions".............
@lovein30days ..... Should Fantasia learn, heal and move on from this experience. Absolutely. Perhaps what she is going through will show people that adultery should not be taken lightly just because so many do it. It causes so much damage to all that are involved, especially the spouse and children who had no choice at all in the matter, "irrational", "high" or otherwise. Thank you for your time. I don't see how I can be anymore clear on my view so this is my last reply. Many blessings,Toodles
@binkybaby007 Indeed, it can be very difficult to let go of someone that you have become emotionally attached to BEFORE you find out that he is married.. I have been there. In my case the guy LIED about being married.. even when I asked him when we first started dating.. damn that crap was hard to get out of.. it is emotionally torturous.. but I WOULD NEVER EVER even deal with a man who says he is separated. Married is married until divorce papers are signed.
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen Our suffering does NOT make our wrong choices right. Most women love hard and that is not something you can turn off like a light switch but that still does not make our wrong doing acceptable. Separated does not equal divorce. It's a shame that Mister doesn't have to suffer to the extent that Fantasia does. He started this mess with his lies. I pitty the wife and kids for their loss. I am so glad that you removed yourself from your situation. U r right married is married.
@binkybaby007 I never said that it made a bad choice right. I also said that separated did not equal divorced. He only does not have to suffer because;
1. He is NOT in the limelight, so therefore not subject to as much criticism
2. It is acceptable in this culture that men will "be men" and cheat
3. Some people are giving him props for being able to get with a celebrity, etc.etc. and his wife may even capitulate & take him back - it is madness and utter confusion- man oh man!
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen I KNOW you didn't say "it made a bad choice right". That was me expressing how I felt about people being in this type of situation. All of your points have previously been addressed in my other comments. I actually agreed with what you stated. I am not sure why you are replying as if I said you were wrong?? Perhaps if you read my comment(s) again it will be clear. Anyway, I am over this topic. Be blessed. Toodles
@binkybaby007 If you know I didn't say it, then why type it?
My eyes are bleeding looking through the comments that people have left me..so I really am not in prime condition to.. nor do I want to spend time reading back through the comments on here. Hopefully all is well with Fantasia & her Auntie has talked her into making a better choice in a man than one who was deceptive. I can't stand lying men that get women caught up in sichee ay shuns with lies about their status. Later. Take care.
OK if this fantasia girl did do wat she did ..shes no different from any other who did it u think she gives fuck Wat y'all think shes doing her y don't u go do u.....wat she doing is personal oh wat cuz she n tha spotlight n she a so called role model she must b tha perfect life lady well that's bullshit..... if want to b a whore who cares if she want a married man then go do that ..its her fuckin life not your so stop bitchin ...tha only mistake here is ppl thinks every1 should b perfect .
The bottom line we are all human. He who have not sin cast the 1st stone. Folks need to stop judging people. She made a mistake, DONT WE ALL!!! Stop judging Fantasia. How many sins have you commented? (Think about it). Love you Shay, Love you Fantasia...
I don't have much sympathy for Fantasia. She's stupid. She knew he was married, she didn't care, so neither should we. Then she tried to kill her life, which is even more stupid. If she didn't know he was married, it would be a different story...
Blah, Blah, Blah!!! Woe is me! You reap what you FUCKING sow! I believe in the power of a woman's intuition. She was FULLY aware that this man was married, Like many women, She didnt give a FUCK!!! There are consequence's to everything we as human's do. I believe her suicide attempt was a cry for (Pitty me) attention. O.Ding on Asprin and sleeping pills. (CHILE BOO)!!! I'm so not falling for the hype! I know better! I wont be suprised if she does this again...
@joyariffic Probably because her now husband was separated from his wife while they were dating, whereas Fantasia was dating a man who was still with his wife, and she knew it. For her to call the man's wife and tell her he didn't want her anymore was low class. Her situation is nothing like Alicia Keys and her situation.
One thing that urks me about this whole thing with the media is that they were relentless with their attacks on Fantasia even though she obviously didn't realize this dude was still very married, yet they gave Alicia Keys a pass on wrecking a home and being pregnant by her still married man. WTH?! Anyway, women are the most intuitive beings on the planet. They can sense when a guy is full of crap without much effort. Women have to start trusting their feelings again and leave the dogs alone.
@greenizDAnublaque Don't get me wrong, I think her and Alicia were dead wrong for being with married men but the way the media just jumped all over Fantasia but gave Alicia a pass just is not right at all. They even hyped up her pregnancy and her wedding to Swiss as if he was not married when they were messing around to get pregnant in the first place. You know what I mean?
@madefrom9 Yeah, my sister and I talked about this and she seems to think its a "light skin/ dark skin" issue... I say, forget the mistress, the husband, and wife..... What about the children?
@greenizDAnublaque I think so too. You have no idea how sick and tired I am of the light/dark skin issue. I think people only think of themselves in these cases and the kids are just an after thought. Imagine how they must feel. With the media all up in the mix, you know other kids are picking at them and stuff too. Sad.
@madefrom9 Alicia is the magic mulatto who took a black woman's husband.. big difference in the system of racism (white supremacy).. Fantasia is a black female who got more than they want her to have based on her color.. but is still exploitable as the illiterate tragic, messy black female. Yes we can sense when a guy is full of crap! But when you are having sex with someone it SCREWS up your intuition.
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen I see you are well educated on this issue. I can't do anything but respect your perspective. I knew it was the Willie Lynch mentality but I didn't want to be the one to say it here. I am so glad you cleared up the whole thing with women's intuition for me too. I have often wondered why so many women allow themselves to fall for so many obviously bad choices in men when they have such an amazing power at their disposal. No one ever explained it to me. Thanks.
@madefrom9 Sex attaches you to a man emotionally. Unless a woman has turned off her sensitive element deciding to use sex as a means to gain some sort of delusional "power" over a male ( like many of the prostitutes & porn stars claim they do), she wants the man that she is intimate with to love her, care for her, BE THERE for her & make a permanent bond with her. We are not like men who often just want to get rid of some "frustration". I think that the chemicals released in that act turn .
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen, Believe it or not, sex attaches a man to a woman emotionally also. But ONLY if he is in love with her. Once a man is in love with a woman, there is NOTHING he wouldn't do for her. This is why it is imperative that a woman is very careful to make sure she is not getting played to begin with. That means allowing her instinct to guide her when first meeting a man and not her emotions. A no good man is a predator that knows how to appeal the emotional side of women. (continued)
(2) He has mastered the art of deception and the only way to unveil his lies is to wait him out. Most of them are impatient and can't wait more than a couple of months to get what they want from a woman. The longer you wait, the more transparent his true motives become. It's sad how many good women have been damaged by these types of men. Then when a truly good man comes along, they often can't even recognize it and end up taking out all their frustrations on him. Trust me, I know. Lol.
@madefrom9 I believe you! My grandmother taught me to be quiet and wait him out. That is not always easy when you are excited about someone, and unfortunately with the low standards in today's cultural climate, many females feel that "if I don't give him what he wants, he will leave & find someone else"- but they don't realize that when they DO give him what he wants right away, he is certainly going to move on to another easy conquest. I have found that by waiting and seeing, I save myself.
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen That is great advice. Wait him out. You are totally right about the climate today. Although I think it's more social than cultural. Years ago, you would never have a woman approach a man. She may give a little eye contact or a warm smile but the man had to take it from there. He had to put in a lot of effort to even get the woman's phone number. Sex for the first six months to a year was out of the question so he didn't even expect it. By the time the dating process (cont)
(2)was six months old, the couple was usually totally in love with each other. People naturally stayed within their age groups also. Now days I get approached 5to6 times a week by females from high school age to ones in their 60's! Some of the vulgar things they say in attempt to attract me are mind boggling. Things are totally out of order now. This climate is ripe for the no good men. They don't have to work for nothing. It is all given to them so freely. For a good man today, finding (cont)
(3) a truly good woman is very hard. The mentality of people these days just does not support genuine relationships in my opinion. I truly believe that if women would rise up, shake themselves off and return to their rightful place on their thrones, this situation would right itself overnight. The men would have no choice but to follow suit. We are supposed to work hard for the hand of a woman. There are so many wonderful aspects to a woman. To experience them all, you must love her and she you.
@madefrom9 true indeed.. I am also shocked at the way that I see females carrying themselves and disappointed with the lack of integrity with which many males carry themselves. Men DO seem VERY lazy these days.
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen Not only are they lazy but they don't even know how to court a woman anymore. So many expect the woman to take care of them now days. It is so backwards now. Wow.
@madefrom9 I have to wonder myself, why so many females are not taught these things by their parents and grandparents. I really do think that we would all be better off if we waited until we were married. We would make better decisions in partners, because it would be based on intellectual decisions, like, is a provider, is he patient, responsible? Is she loyal? Discreet? Loving? - BEFORE we became romantically involved. We would be nation building, having FAMILY UNITS- all beginning w COUPLES
@madefrom9 something on for us...especially if it is with a man that we did actually like or care about or "love" or entertain an idea of there having been a possibility of having a relationship or future with him. It is pretty difficult to accept the possibility that you may have been used or played by someone for sex - and let it go and bounce. We often fall for the lies because we don't want to accept the reality that we were fooled. SO we keep fooling ourselves to avoid the painful reality.
@PRTYTHICK Absolutely! There are very few things as powerful as a woman's instincts. They are God given and 100% on point. If women started to trust in their intuition again, the no good guys(dogs) wouldn't stand a chance. They use the same old tired schemes over and over with success only because women have dropped their guard. Get back on your thrones ladies. Please.
@madefrom9 That's that Light skin vs dark skin syndrome. Fantasia is full lips and full nose and chocolate they want Alicia to be on top. But I got Fantasia back. I lost all respect for Alicia. she was with a man at 22 and he was 35 I knew that wouldn't last but that is to old to be messing with.
@rahim4411 Yeah and that light vs darkskin stuff is all bull too. A right is a right and a wrong is a wrong. The media is run by wealthy Jews whose views on darkskin people have always been negative so it is easy for them to show Fantasia as the dumb Black woman who can't keep her legs closed while Alicia is still portrayed as the beautiful and talented princess with the fairytale love story ending in a fairytale wedding. That's some bull right there.
@madefrom9 Exactly! I am glad someone understands who runs the media and they aren't Jews the original Hebrew/Jews are Dark living in Ethiopia this day. Those Caucasians Zionist were put there in 1948 but it's about to end real soon! I love Fantasia because she at least came out and discussed what happened which if she didn't I would still respect her. Alicia just faded in the back and Mashonda handled it well, Swizz and Alicia will get theirs!
@rahim4411 Oh yeah, I was not talking about the real Judahites but the fake Arab Jews. The imposters. Alicia is probably already "getting hers" behind closed doors. You don't wreck a home like that and not have it come back around to you. The same way he cheated with her and left his wife, he will cheat on her and leave her also. I think she will cheat on him too. Their foundation is unstable therefore it will fall. I heard that Fantasia is now pregnant by that dude. She should be careful.
@madefrom9 The original Dark Arabs and Dark Hebrews are from Kush they come from the same stock, I have background studies on this and have documentation so they are not fake persay. The Caucasian Zionist who are the Ashkenazi Khazars that were put in Israel in 1948 are imposters they have no bloodline realation to the Hebrew Israelites.
@rahim4411 I will support Tasia as well. She just needs to be careful of the men she chooses. She seems to be a very nice person and a lot of men will take advantage of that fact if she's not careful.
@madefrom9 Exactly I hope Tasia isn't prego she don't need that right now she need to focus on her and forget a man right now. Well I care nothing for Swizzy he was with Alicia and got a chick in Germany prego, that's bananas. Moshanda talking about having all the children meet because they are family. I am like leave that negro alone and don't worry about that Chick in Germany. Sometimes I dont know what people are on.
@rahim4411 Money makes some people crazy. I have a cousin who married a wealthy man that treats her like shhhh. No matter what he does, she tries to justify it instead of admitting that she made a bad choice based on money as apposed to truly loving the man. She won't even let me or my other male cousins step in to help. Although I did tell him once at a family get together that I would beat the brakes off of him if he ever hit her. Lol. I think Mashonda is like my cousin. Money and status.
@madefrom9 Did you say beat the breaks off him? blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah lmaooooooooooo lol I am in tears lol hahahahaha You just hurt my whole chest with that lol hahahah Question now how in the heck are you going to beat breaks off a dude? LOL ahahahahahahah I am sitting here afraid of the answer Ima get now lol hahaha oh my gawd lol
@rahim4411 LMAO!!! I don't know but I'd at least beat some change out of his pockets. Lol. At least 85 cents or so. Enough to buy myself a gator ade after I whip him up. You know, to replenish my fluids after all the sweating. LMAO!!!
@madefrom9 WTF Gator aid? lol hahaaaaaaaaaaaaaa lol blaaaaaaaaah lol Man something is wrong with you you know that right? LOL Have you been evaluated? LOL Beat the change off him lol hahahahah I aint never heard no ish like that ................. lol
@rahim4411 Lol, no I have not been evaluated yet. I'm scared that they might decide to keep me if I let them do that. LMAO! I trip all day man. Sometimes the things that come out of my mouth crack me up too. Lol!
@rahim4411 Never have and never will do drugs man. I don't even drink. Lol. I definitely have a natural high brotha. I have fun most of the time or at least try too.
@madefrom9 Good thing bro. Me either, I don't drink, smoke non of that never did. man I am a salmon and kosher chicken guy . I don't even touch red meat. Man last time I had a shot of liquor was when I was about 12 and I asked my mother what that was man she gave me vodka and I was running real fast in one place jumping around like a native american lol My moms and her friends were dying laughing. That was the first day I ploted to kill my moms lol I told her that she started laughing lol
@rahim4411 LMAO!!! I did the same thing back in the day with my father's liquor. He called it his "tea". I love tea and couldn't understand why he wouldn't let me have any of his tea. So one day I was pretending to be Batman, robe tied around my neck and everything, and crawled behind the sofa that was against the wall and found his "tea". I was so excited. I opened it and took the biggest gulp expecting the sweet taste of Lipton. Set my little bird chest on fire! I turned that sofa over(cont)
(2)trying to get to the sink for water. In the meantime, I had left the top off of the liquor and had knocked it over when I jumped up and it spilled all over my mama's new carpet. I tried everything to clean it before she got home but couldn't. So I just sat there in the middle of the floor and cried because I knew my beating was gonna be biblical. Lol. Setting there 9yrs old smelling like Ned the wine-o from Good Times. LMAO!!! My daddy beat the brakes off me. LMAO!!!!!!
who give a flyin fuck ...dumb women talk y'all talk about is ho's, bitches ,wat your man is doin , gettin your hair done , nail done or watchin lifetime tha fuck up
@gabriellefreedom2001dealin wit women is like child birth ..naggin bitchin we put up wit .....because were not marring ya'll or dont want a relationship..i dont want a god damn baby tha min u hit 16 ........or 18 ... stop playin wit doll ...n ya'll wouldn't want to hav babes so bad ..not sterotypical its real
@airwolfwwf Ok. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. But what I don't understand is if we women nag so damn much and we are only good for making babies, why in the hell are you watching a video about a women "nagging"? Did you just need to vent about how much you hate women so you found a video and decided to leave a negative comment? And it is sterotypical because not all women are the way you saying. Some women could practically be men considering they do everything a man does.
@gabriellefreedom2001 here u go wit that women shit ...i dont need to vent ....its not that deep this is just general talk here .. n choose this video cuz i wanted to ....n its not stereotypical its real talk like i said .....its not hate u just cant handle tha truth about yourself ..if i hated women i would b on a hate women video shit but not tha case
@joyariffic please dont bullshit yourself ..so u dont watch lifetime ..or read relationship books ..n your man says nothing 2 u about it ...but let him go turn on a video games on ...here u come... your puttin tha video games over me ..n who 1st n your life not tha video game ....bullshit like that
@airwolfwwf no i HATE lifetime, ive never read a relationship book in my ENTIRE life, i dont mind if my man plays video games because i like to watch anyways. and i understand that men like their alone time with their games or friends so thats not me
@joyariffic look tha only y u watch lifetime is cuz they say its 4 women if it didnt say that u give 2 shit ...generic movies n generic show ...n y do i no cuz my mom watch that bs n female i no
AMEN, AMEN, AMEN, ... AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
shavaughng 7 hours ago
I agree 100%. Never judge only God has that right. This can happen to any of us,
VocalEyez 4 days ago
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Fantasia you keep your head up don't look back and have no regrets because if their marriage was all that then he would not have stepped out of his marriage to be with you or anyone else.You can't take something that is already gone if it wasn't you then it would have been someone else. Good Luck Fantasia I love you as a great singer and I see how you take care of your daughter so I know you will be great with this one
MrMrsjay2009 2 weeks ago
Fantasia you keep your head up don't look back and have no regrets because if their marriage was all that then he would not have stepped out of his marriage to be with you or anyone else.You can't take something that is already gone if it wasn't you then it would have been someone else. Good Luck Fantasia I love you as a great singer and I see how you take care of your daughter so I know you will be great with this one God Bless!!!!
MrMrsjay2009 2 weeks ago
Wow I'm impressed how old are you and whats your education level
Harrahshow 1 month ago
I love this video I was in this situation & it is nothing but pain4 the unsuspecting woman, Its a pain no body understands its happened 2 me, all i can say is wow the game has gotten thick, it happened 3 times I never purpously dated any of them they all lied, & I really think after this I was a Doctor n FOOLOLIGY,& Cheatathonology, & im so thankful 4 God 4 finding out & letting them go, I have been married 4 5years now, Im thankful that I was not condemed by those who knew what happened
angelblue37w 1 month ago
tell it girl..
jerseytoman1212 1 month ago
There are plenty of people who walk around married. Some people dont get a divorce for many reason. I know women who are legally married but still say they are single. Same thing with men. Being married is more than just a document. Marriage nowadays doesn't mean they are still together. Being honest everyone cant afford to get divorce.
mem4 1 month ago
So glad I found your page; do people forget the principle of karma...... I had to put that out there., but I will be tuning in. And true it could happen, but still, unless he's sep from the wife w his own apt or house, I'd step away. I learned the hard way myself!
ENYPolyglot 1 month ago
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ENYPolyglot 1 month ago
We live in such a greedy society I always believed it was a set up. I believe Antwuan and his wife saw an opportunity to get paid and jumped ship. Fantasia needs to protect her heart and her bank account.
SimplyAdiva 1 month ago
preach!!!!!!GIRL
JIMYLLE34 2 months ago
I get approached by married men all the time they get the deuces
eb7348 2 months ago
It wasn't hard for to drop the married man I met, we went out on one date and he told me he was married. I'll make this short and sweet. I left his ass in the restaurant to pay the damn bill. He told me he was married and I was oh later and walked out. He was calling me and I told him, if he calls me again, I will have his ass kicked and he never called me again. He knew I wasn't playing.
honeegrrl 2 months ago
Uhhh no this CANNOT happen to any woman. I have NOT and will never ever will date a married man because I have too much respect for marriage. The only way I will date a married man is if I don't know he's married. I met a man who was married and dropped his ass like a bad habit and told him to f-ck off because if a man will cheat on his wife he'll cheat on you. Nuff Said!
honeegrrl 2 months ago
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I agree with everything she said me i ask all type of quetions like first last middle name i look at their id i ask who is they friends where they hang out etc because i don`t wanna get caught up in nobody bullshit im not jugding fantaisa we all make mistakes but it`s what you do with them do you learn from them or continue making the same one`s don`t regret them learn from them
slimgoody291 2 months ago
On point! Accurate information!!!!! Everything she said was the truth.
tammyrollins1 2 months ago
I went true this same situation..with an african man he believes he could have more than one wife..i forgive myself and him..moving on is the hadest part of all..until today I still cannot trust a man..even if he was an angel..but @ the same time I feel relieved that he is out of my life..i yake it as expirience but not regret! God bless u diva
qweenviola 2 months ago
I would rather be the insecure wan than the other one who falls for stupid.
bartkid18 4 months ago
But what if the guy already told her that he was married, and she falls for him ANYWAYS?! Whose fault is it then?! If dude laid all the cards on the table, and the girl is STILL down to f***?
autismpete 4 months ago
Hi I'm 27 yrs & there's a nice guy who is 21 yrs & we have been spending alot of time together, but he's on facebook & asking other females if he can get to know them better.
kindadreamer 6 months ago
shhhhhhh
imcrazy85 6 months ago
Amen sista!!!
if he cant show where he lives and all you have is his cell number and dont leave out if you only know his first name ........um ladies please run to the nearest exit!!!
tobohagen 7 months ago
@tobohagen Amen sista. When I meet a man. I try to find out everything I ask questions and If I catch his ass lying, I will drop his ass.
honeegrrl 2 months ago
Good video. So true. Same happened to me however I dumped the guy FIRST BEFORE I found out he had a wife overseas. Thank god it was only a few months. I dumped my ex when his behavior started to change and he wasn't dependable. I broke things off. I later found out on FB he was married with a wife overseas. It was devastating. He lied about being single and never married. BUt karma is Biatch so he better watch out. I'm glad I have my self respect.
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Dammmmm Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight....LEAVE fantasia a-lone......Could appen 2 any 1 any time...its gradual......Forgive yourself Fantasia...U blrssed gurl! Cut an go tru wid GOD inna u heart....BiiiiiiiG love Lady
ElleBeeisme 1 year ago
Dammmmm Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight....LEAVE fantasia a-lone......Could appen 2 any 1 any time...its gradual......Forgive yourself Fantasia...U blrssed gurl! Cut an go tru wid GOD inna u heart....BiiiiiiiG love Lady
ElleBeeisme 1 year ago
"I hope she cheat on you with a basketball player"LOL.
cilwaycofe 1 year ago
PAPERS!!! PAPERS!!! Ready, Ready, Ready!!! I love that song!!!
DJDREXTV 1 year ago
wow.....u broke it down to the base mama.
elementblaster 1 year ago
Amen!!
mrsktg50 1 year ago
Besides all that, what about her daughter? Thats what needs to be of concern. Not the money, the man, or tasia herself...I'm just sayin'
BIGHEAD3232 1 year ago
missed you too shay.
cfG21 1 year ago
@cfG21 I missed you all too:)
with Love
Shay Your Date Diva
lovein30days 1 year ago
@cfG21 I wish she could be on the air in place of Tom Joyner (sorry Tom), but her content is substantiative!
ENYPolyglot 1 month ago
Everyone is so focused on how "wrong" Fantasia is/was....what about the guy who was stepping out on his wife....women, like some who have commented here, always want to bring the claws out and confront the other woman and what not...face it....yes Tasia was wrong for continuing the relationship and trying to end her life but DUDE was wrong as hell for stepping out on his wife in the first place....so why bash her and not have a word to say about him?? Shay you are right...cud happen 2 any1!
starr6ixty9ine 1 year ago
I actually felt sorry for Fantasia when I learned of the situation. I went through something very similar and learned a lot about myself in the process. Ladies we have to do our homework when dating and more importantly listen to that inner voice that ALWAYS let's you know when something is not right!!!! Pls subscribe to my page...
MsNJohnson 1 year ago
Well said. Way to be neutral and not judge!
Phenomenalwon 1 year ago
Dat married dude playin her n after her money n life style
madant22 1 year ago
Appreciate you fairness on poor Tasia Mae's unfortunate circumstance.
madika1 1 year ago
Shay usually Im with you but not so much on this one. I hope you not letting up just because shes Fantasia Barrino. Suicide attempt or not, at some point she knew that he was married, and if she would have walked away then, she wouldn't be in this mess now. I too have heard the saying "Never say never" but I disagree because if you know yourself then you know what you would or wouldnt do. However if you happen to slip up because no one is perfect, then at least you know that it wasnt intended.
chawlatthai 1 year ago
@chawlatthai I never said that it was acceptable to mess with a married man. I have about five videos telling women not to and how that can avoid this trap. As I have stated before, the point of education is to make people aware of potential mistakes of certain choices. Unfortunately, you can walk the straight and narrow and make all of the best decisions and trouble is still waiting around the corner so to "teach" you what you need to ..
lovein30days 1 year ago
@chawlatthai cont... learn and maybe what others need to learn from your mistake. With all of the advice I give and people I help, I see tons of mistakes and I dont judge, I only try to teach with love.
lovein30days 1 year ago
Fantasia isn't beautiful and vivacious... nor is it something that she needs to be given a pass on.
MatlasX 1 year ago
I won't judge, I'll just pray for Fantasia and all the other women involved with married men...
MommyReporter 1 year ago
Amen!
betterthaneverbeen 1 year ago
OMG!!! Shay you are so, so, so on point ! You are so right when you stated basically you have to walk in thoses shoes before you can judge someone else for this. There are so very many women who would have never ever thought they would have any involvement with a married man, but trust me it can happen because unfortunately some men are so very dishonest. And you are so right when you made the riding in a car anology. Thank you from all of us who have been through this and survived!
wardkare 1 year ago
I don't think its judging to say that someone was wrong. It is what it is. I'm still a fan, but separated still means married to me.
scgirl791 1 year ago 14
@scgirl791 exactly. I totally agree.
binkybaby007 1 year ago
Wtf shay! She knew he was married, he didn't trick her. You women stick together no matter what. What happened to the bible and all that judge not talk when you went in on tiger woods? You women are hypocrites.
TheBlackAlBundy 1 year ago 3
@TheBlackAlBundy first off, speak what you know because he has spoken to the media and admitted to "tricking" her. He told her that his marriage was over when it wasnt, he was still going home to his wife. Tiger Woods on the other hand is a different story,I said clearly that he was very sloppy and why cheat w/ women who have nothing to lose and that cheating was wrong let alone with almost a 100 women.If it was one, maybe two but 100 plus? Also, if you followed my FB page I said that we ...
lovein30days 1 year ago
@TheBlackAlBundy should not judge Tiger, the man made a mistake and we should handle our own business instead of judging!
lovein30days 1 year ago
@TheBlackAlBundy fuckin real 1000 %..this is wat iam talkin about ..they say on sum nut ass shit
airwolfwwf 1 year ago
what bout alicia keys?
fee20luv 1 year ago
i agree....people get caught up in emotions and when you care about someone youll believe what they say even though it was a lie. I never been in that situation but i think the main person at fault is the husband, he's the one that said the vows, not fantasia. he is the one fully to blame. However, i dont think thats a good enough reason to try to kill yourself. She had a daughter and that lets you know where her mindset was and it wasnt on her girl. thats extreme
0119alt 1 year ago
wah wah wah! 'm so tired of folks crying, "don't judge....he who is with out sin...." BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! The bottom line is every ADULT knows that is wrong to screw around with someone who is married. Many have committed adultery but that does not justify what she has done. Men cheat because a lof of us welcome the opportunity. How hard is NO really? Foolish decisions usually have harsh consequences. I don't pitty Fantasia or her adulterous man. She set herself up for this humiliation.
binkybaby007 1 year ago 2
@binkybaby007 I guess no one has ever lied to you and you believed them?
srbumblediva 1 year ago
@srbumblediva Chile please. When she found out the truth did she shut it down and send him packing? No. She chose to stay "Caught Up". Now look at the situation she is in. Now instead of everyone being excited about her come back all the focus is on this huge mistake. All because she chose to live the lie even after the truth. He may have lied at first but she had plenty of time to make the right choice and leave that married man alone. Being lied to doesn't justify adultery.
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@binkybaby007 Sweetie, I like to stay out of back and forth discussions of people's opinions but after working with hundreds of women or people in general, I have learned that no one "chooses" to stay caught up. When you get caught up it's like your mind is now under the influence of that oxytocin. This is why I do what I do so to teach and warn women of the pitfalls because when one is aware, getting "caught up" becomes less likely. We have all gotten got- ALL of us:)
With Love
SYDD
lovein30days 1 year ago
@lovein30days hello hun, I applaud your research and efforts to make the blind aware. However, I disagree with no one "chooses" to stay caught up. I realize that it feels difficult and painful to be in that state of mind but it doesn't change the fact that she remained in a relationship with someone else's husband after finding out the truth. That is wrong no matter what "caught up" frame of mind you are in. Folks just refuse to own their ish.....................
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@lovein30days ....Unless you have discovered in your research that the human brain turns to mush leaving the "caught up" victim incapable of determining right from wrong then she had a choice. If you can prove that please share your resources. I would be completly intrigued enough to learn more about the effect of oxytocin. Unless he held her hostage tied to the bed with a gun to her head she had a choice. It doesn't matter if ALL of us have gotten "got" she was wrong. Unjustified.
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@binkybaby007 Well hello sweetie, thanks for your feed back. There is research that suggest that when we fall in love that our "rational" mind is minimized and our behavior is on auto pilot and driven by the "high" of the love experience. When you fall in love your body releases high amounts of Seretonin and endorphins. These are the same chemicals present in high quantities of Obsessive Compulsive patients. Which means that you can literally become "obsessed" with the object of your ...cont
lovein30days 1 year ago
@binkybaby007 affection and no longer are you thinking rationally. This is why it is important that you do your research and guard ur heart until you confirm who it is that you are falling for.Research shows that this effect wears off after the first 6 months to two years but in ill patients those hormones are present in high quantities at all times.The point is that you can say what a person "should" do all day and they can also blame and beat up on themselves once they are in the mess. cont.
lovein30days 1 year ago
@binkybaby007 There is no point in doing this. The best most effective course of action is to learn and do better and understand the "whys" instead of the "shoulds."
With Love,
Shay Your Date Diva
lovein30days 1 year ago
@lovein30days Hello again hun, thanks for your reply. I am always open to opportunities of enlightenment. In this case what I hear are excuses. There is always reasons for our decisions but it does not mean we should not be held accountable. Our choices have either good or bad results. When it ends badly we must own the that we played. Many of our emotions can leave our minds in an altered state such as being "irrational". Being irrational does not make you exempt of consequences. ...........
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@lovein30days .......Being irrational will not prevent a thief, murderer, or rapist from having to take responsibility for their actions. It is possible that there was a mental reason why they stole, killed and raped but they were still wrong for doing it. It is Mister's fault for hurting his family when he committed adultery but when Fantasia found out the truth and continued the relationship she then gets 50% of the blame. My point was and is "ownership of ones actions".............
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@lovein30days ..... Should Fantasia learn, heal and move on from this experience. Absolutely. Perhaps what she is going through will show people that adultery should not be taken lightly just because so many do it. It causes so much damage to all that are involved, especially the spouse and children who had no choice at all in the matter, "irrational", "high" or otherwise. Thank you for your time. I don't see how I can be anymore clear on my view so this is my last reply. Many blessings,Toodles
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@binkybaby007 Indeed, it can be very difficult to let go of someone that you have become emotionally attached to BEFORE you find out that he is married.. I have been there. In my case the guy LIED about being married.. even when I asked him when we first started dating.. damn that crap was hard to get out of.. it is emotionally torturous.. but I WOULD NEVER EVER even deal with a man who says he is separated. Married is married until divorce papers are signed.
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen Our suffering does NOT make our wrong choices right. Most women love hard and that is not something you can turn off like a light switch but that still does not make our wrong doing acceptable. Separated does not equal divorce. It's a shame that Mister doesn't have to suffer to the extent that Fantasia does. He started this mess with his lies. I pitty the wife and kids for their loss. I am so glad that you removed yourself from your situation. U r right married is married.
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@binkybaby007 I never said that it made a bad choice right. I also said that separated did not equal divorced. He only does not have to suffer because;
1. He is NOT in the limelight, so therefore not subject to as much criticism
2. It is acceptable in this culture that men will "be men" and cheat
3. Some people are giving him props for being able to get with a celebrity, etc.etc. and his wife may even capitulate & take him back - it is madness and utter confusion- man oh man!
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen I KNOW you didn't say "it made a bad choice right". That was me expressing how I felt about people being in this type of situation. All of your points have previously been addressed in my other comments. I actually agreed with what you stated. I am not sure why you are replying as if I said you were wrong?? Perhaps if you read my comment(s) again it will be clear. Anyway, I am over this topic. Be blessed. Toodles
binkybaby007 1 year ago
@binkybaby007 If you know I didn't say it, then why type it?
My eyes are bleeding looking through the comments that people have left me..so I really am not in prime condition to.. nor do I want to spend time reading back through the comments on here. Hopefully all is well with Fantasia & her Auntie has talked her into making a better choice in a man than one who was deceptive. I can't stand lying men that get women caught up in sichee ay shuns with lies about their status. Later. Take care.
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen No worries. Thanks. You do the same. Toodles
binkybaby007 1 year ago
OK if this fantasia girl did do wat she did ..shes no different from any other who did it u think she gives fuck Wat y'all think shes doing her y don't u go do u.....wat she doing is personal oh wat cuz she n tha spotlight n she a so called role model she must b tha perfect life lady well that's bullshit..... if want to b a whore who cares if she want a married man then go do that ..its her fuckin life not your so stop bitchin ...tha only mistake here is ppl thinks every1 should b perfect .
airwolfwwf 1 year ago
The bottom line we are all human. He who have not sin cast the 1st stone. Folks need to stop judging people. She made a mistake, DONT WE ALL!!! Stop judging Fantasia. How many sins have you commented? (Think about it). Love you Shay, Love you Fantasia...
mstyana 1 year ago
I really appreciated your level headed perspective. No judgement is the best way to give advice.
Lauriette31 1 year ago
I don't have much sympathy for Fantasia. She's stupid. She knew he was married, she didn't care, so neither should we. Then she tried to kill her life, which is even more stupid. If she didn't know he was married, it would be a different story...
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JRock005 1 year ago
Yes yes women please do your research, protect yourself.
He who has nothing to hide, it is not afraid of it
sherezadelink 1 year ago
Blah, Blah, Blah!!! Woe is me! You reap what you FUCKING sow! I believe in the power of a woman's intuition. She was FULLY aware that this man was married, Like many women, She didnt give a FUCK!!! There are consequence's to everything we as human's do. I believe her suicide attempt was a cry for (Pitty me) attention. O.Ding on Asprin and sleeping pills. (CHILE BOO)!!! I'm so not falling for the hype! I know better! I wont be suprised if she does this again...
Bronzstar 1 year ago 2
i see where ur coming from
joyariffic 1 year ago
why does fantasia get ridiculed but alicia doesnt
joyariffic 1 year ago
@joyariffic Probably because her now husband was separated from his wife while they were dating, whereas Fantasia was dating a man who was still with his wife, and she knew it. For her to call the man's wife and tell her he didn't want her anymore was low class. Her situation is nothing like Alicia Keys and her situation.
TJ347 1 year ago
@TJ347 oh ok
joyariffic 1 year ago
One thing that urks me about this whole thing with the media is that they were relentless with their attacks on Fantasia even though she obviously didn't realize this dude was still very married, yet they gave Alicia Keys a pass on wrecking a home and being pregnant by her still married man. WTH?! Anyway, women are the most intuitive beings on the planet. They can sense when a guy is full of crap without much effort. Women have to start trusting their feelings again and leave the dogs alone.
madefrom9 1 year ago 17
@madefrom9 i think its because alicia is mixed, thats why they let her slide
joyariffic 1 year ago
@joyariffic I think you're right about that.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 I am with you 100%
greenizDAnublaque 1 year ago
@greenizDAnublaque Don't get me wrong, I think her and Alicia were dead wrong for being with married men but the way the media just jumped all over Fantasia but gave Alicia a pass just is not right at all. They even hyped up her pregnancy and her wedding to Swiss as if he was not married when they were messing around to get pregnant in the first place. You know what I mean?
madefrom9 1 year ago 2
@madefrom9 Yeah, my sister and I talked about this and she seems to think its a "light skin/ dark skin" issue... I say, forget the mistress, the husband, and wife..... What about the children?
greenizDAnublaque 1 year ago
@greenizDAnublaque I think so too. You have no idea how sick and tired I am of the light/dark skin issue. I think people only think of themselves in these cases and the kids are just an after thought. Imagine how they must feel. With the media all up in the mix, you know other kids are picking at them and stuff too. Sad.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 Alicia is the magic mulatto who took a black woman's husband.. big difference in the system of racism (white supremacy).. Fantasia is a black female who got more than they want her to have based on her color.. but is still exploitable as the illiterate tragic, messy black female. Yes we can sense when a guy is full of crap! But when you are having sex with someone it SCREWS up your intuition.
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago 4
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen I see you are well educated on this issue. I can't do anything but respect your perspective. I knew it was the Willie Lynch mentality but I didn't want to be the one to say it here. I am so glad you cleared up the whole thing with women's intuition for me too. I have often wondered why so many women allow themselves to fall for so many obviously bad choices in men when they have such an amazing power at their disposal. No one ever explained it to me. Thanks.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 Sex attaches you to a man emotionally. Unless a woman has turned off her sensitive element deciding to use sex as a means to gain some sort of delusional "power" over a male ( like many of the prostitutes & porn stars claim they do), she wants the man that she is intimate with to love her, care for her, BE THERE for her & make a permanent bond with her. We are not like men who often just want to get rid of some "frustration". I think that the chemicals released in that act turn .
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago 2
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen, Believe it or not, sex attaches a man to a woman emotionally also. But ONLY if he is in love with her. Once a man is in love with a woman, there is NOTHING he wouldn't do for her. This is why it is imperative that a woman is very careful to make sure she is not getting played to begin with. That means allowing her instinct to guide her when first meeting a man and not her emotions. A no good man is a predator that knows how to appeal the emotional side of women. (continued)
madefrom9 1 year ago 3
(2) He has mastered the art of deception and the only way to unveil his lies is to wait him out. Most of them are impatient and can't wait more than a couple of months to get what they want from a woman. The longer you wait, the more transparent his true motives become. It's sad how many good women have been damaged by these types of men. Then when a truly good man comes along, they often can't even recognize it and end up taking out all their frustrations on him. Trust me, I know. Lol.
madefrom9 1 year ago 3
@madefrom9 I believe you! My grandmother taught me to be quiet and wait him out. That is not always easy when you are excited about someone, and unfortunately with the low standards in today's cultural climate, many females feel that "if I don't give him what he wants, he will leave & find someone else"- but they don't realize that when they DO give him what he wants right away, he is certainly going to move on to another easy conquest. I have found that by waiting and seeing, I save myself.
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen That is great advice. Wait him out. You are totally right about the climate today. Although I think it's more social than cultural. Years ago, you would never have a woman approach a man. She may give a little eye contact or a warm smile but the man had to take it from there. He had to put in a lot of effort to even get the woman's phone number. Sex for the first six months to a year was out of the question so he didn't even expect it. By the time the dating process (cont)
madefrom9 1 year ago
(2)was six months old, the couple was usually totally in love with each other. People naturally stayed within their age groups also. Now days I get approached 5to6 times a week by females from high school age to ones in their 60's! Some of the vulgar things they say in attempt to attract me are mind boggling. Things are totally out of order now. This climate is ripe for the no good men. They don't have to work for nothing. It is all given to them so freely. For a good man today, finding (cont)
madefrom9 1 year ago
(3) a truly good woman is very hard. The mentality of people these days just does not support genuine relationships in my opinion. I truly believe that if women would rise up, shake themselves off and return to their rightful place on their thrones, this situation would right itself overnight. The men would have no choice but to follow suit. We are supposed to work hard for the hand of a woman. There are so many wonderful aspects to a woman. To experience them all, you must love her and she you.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 true indeed.. I am also shocked at the way that I see females carrying themselves and disappointed with the lack of integrity with which many males carry themselves. Men DO seem VERY lazy these days.
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago
@BlackWomen4WhiteMen Not only are they lazy but they don't even know how to court a woman anymore. So many expect the woman to take care of them now days. It is so backwards now. Wow.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 I have to wonder myself, why so many females are not taught these things by their parents and grandparents. I really do think that we would all be better off if we waited until we were married. We would make better decisions in partners, because it would be based on intellectual decisions, like, is a provider, is he patient, responsible? Is she loyal? Discreet? Loving? - BEFORE we became romantically involved. We would be nation building, having FAMILY UNITS- all beginning w COUPLES
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago
@madefrom9 something on for us...especially if it is with a man that we did actually like or care about or "love" or entertain an idea of there having been a possibility of having a relationship or future with him. It is pretty difficult to accept the possibility that you may have been used or played by someone for sex - and let it go and bounce. We often fall for the lies because we don't want to accept the reality that we were fooled. SO we keep fooling ourselves to avoid the painful reality.
BlackWomen4WhiteMen 1 year ago
@madefrom9 - Great advice.. Trust our intuition..
PRTYTHICK 1 year ago
@PRTYTHICK Absolutely! There are very few things as powerful as a woman's instincts. They are God given and 100% on point. If women started to trust in their intuition again, the no good guys(dogs) wouldn't stand a chance. They use the same old tired schemes over and over with success only because women have dropped their guard. Get back on your thrones ladies. Please.
Pharaoh
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 That's that Light skin vs dark skin syndrome. Fantasia is full lips and full nose and chocolate they want Alicia to be on top. But I got Fantasia back. I lost all respect for Alicia. she was with a man at 22 and he was 35 I knew that wouldn't last but that is to old to be messing with.
Fantasia keep your head up!!!!
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 Yeah and that light vs darkskin stuff is all bull too. A right is a right and a wrong is a wrong. The media is run by wealthy Jews whose views on darkskin people have always been negative so it is easy for them to show Fantasia as the dumb Black woman who can't keep her legs closed while Alicia is still portrayed as the beautiful and talented princess with the fairytale love story ending in a fairytale wedding. That's some bull right there.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 Exactly! I am glad someone understands who runs the media and they aren't Jews the original Hebrew/Jews are Dark living in Ethiopia this day. Those Caucasians Zionist were put there in 1948 but it's about to end real soon! I love Fantasia because she at least came out and discussed what happened which if she didn't I would still respect her. Alicia just faded in the back and Mashonda handled it well, Swizz and Alicia will get theirs!
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 Oh yeah, I was not talking about the real Judahites but the fake Arab Jews. The imposters. Alicia is probably already "getting hers" behind closed doors. You don't wreck a home like that and not have it come back around to you. The same way he cheated with her and left his wife, he will cheat on her and leave her also. I think she will cheat on him too. Their foundation is unstable therefore it will fall. I heard that Fantasia is now pregnant by that dude. She should be careful.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 The original Dark Arabs and Dark Hebrews are from Kush they come from the same stock, I have background studies on this and have documentation so they are not fake persay. The Caucasian Zionist who are the Ashkenazi Khazars that were put in Israel in 1948 are imposters they have no bloodline realation to the Hebrew Israelites.
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 You are right about the Khazars. They are definitely the imposters I was referring to.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 I aint buying anymore of Alicia's music, I got Tasia album and Ima support her as long as she keeps it real and we know she can sing.
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 I will support Tasia as well. She just needs to be careful of the men she chooses. She seems to be a very nice person and a lot of men will take advantage of that fact if she's not careful.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 Exactly I hope Tasia isn't prego she don't need that right now she need to focus on her and forget a man right now. Well I care nothing for Swizzy he was with Alicia and got a chick in Germany prego, that's bananas. Moshanda talking about having all the children meet because they are family. I am like leave that negro alone and don't worry about that Chick in Germany. Sometimes I dont know what people are on.
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 Money makes some people crazy. I have a cousin who married a wealthy man that treats her like shhhh. No matter what he does, she tries to justify it instead of admitting that she made a bad choice based on money as apposed to truly loving the man. She won't even let me or my other male cousins step in to help. Although I did tell him once at a family get together that I would beat the brakes off of him if he ever hit her. Lol. I think Mashonda is like my cousin. Money and status.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 Did you say beat the breaks off him? blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah lmaooooooooooo lol I am in tears lol hahahahaha You just hurt my whole chest with that lol hahahah Question now how in the heck are you going to beat breaks off a dude? LOL ahahahahahahah I am sitting here afraid of the answer Ima get now lol hahaha oh my gawd lol
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 LMAO!!! I don't know but I'd at least beat some change out of his pockets. Lol. At least 85 cents or so. Enough to buy myself a gator ade after I whip him up. You know, to replenish my fluids after all the sweating. LMAO!!!
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 WTF Gator aid? lol hahaaaaaaaaaaaaaa lol blaaaaaaaaah lol Man something is wrong with you you know that right? LOL Have you been evaluated? LOL Beat the change off him lol hahahahah I aint never heard no ish like that ................. lol
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 Lol, no I have not been evaluated yet. I'm scared that they might decide to keep me if I let them do that. LMAO! I trip all day man. Sometimes the things that come out of my mouth crack me up too. Lol!
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 LOL Promise you won't do drugs because you are already crazy naturally lol lol
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 Never have and never will do drugs man. I don't even drink. Lol. I definitely have a natural high brotha. I have fun most of the time or at least try too.
madefrom9 1 year ago
@madefrom9 Good thing bro. Me either, I don't drink, smoke non of that never did. man I am a salmon and kosher chicken guy . I don't even touch red meat. Man last time I had a shot of liquor was when I was about 12 and I asked my mother what that was man she gave me vodka and I was running real fast in one place jumping around like a native american lol My moms and her friends were dying laughing. That was the first day I ploted to kill my moms lol I told her that she started laughing lol
rahim4411 1 year ago
@rahim4411 LMAO!!! I did the same thing back in the day with my father's liquor. He called it his "tea". I love tea and couldn't understand why he wouldn't let me have any of his tea. So one day I was pretending to be Batman, robe tied around my neck and everything, and crawled behind the sofa that was against the wall and found his "tea". I was so excited. I opened it and took the biggest gulp expecting the sweet taste of Lipton. Set my little bird chest on fire! I turned that sofa over(cont)
madefrom9 1 year ago
(2)trying to get to the sink for water. In the meantime, I had left the top off of the liquor and had knocked it over when I jumped up and it spilled all over my mama's new carpet. I tried everything to clean it before she got home but couldn't. So I just sat there in the middle of the floor and cried because I knew my beating was gonna be biblical. Lol. Setting there 9yrs old smelling like Ned the wine-o from Good Times. LMAO!!! My daddy beat the brakes off me. LMAO!!!!!!
madefrom9 1 year ago
who give a flyin fuck ...dumb women talk y'all talk about is ho's, bitches ,wat your man is doin , gettin your hair done , nail done or watchin lifetime tha fuck up
airwolfwwf 1 year ago
@airwolfwwf Thats so sterotypical. You don't know how much stuff women go through that you men couldnt handle like giving birth.
gabriellefreedom2001 1 year ago
@gabriellefreedom2001dealin wit women is like child birth ..naggin bitchin we put up wit .....because were not marring ya'll or dont want a relationship..i dont want a god damn baby tha min u hit 16 ........or 18 ... stop playin wit doll ...n ya'll wouldn't want to hav babes so bad ..not sterotypical its real
airwolfwwf 1 year ago 2
@airwolfwwf Ok. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. But what I don't understand is if we women nag so damn much and we are only good for making babies, why in the hell are you watching a video about a women "nagging"? Did you just need to vent about how much you hate women so you found a video and decided to leave a negative comment? And it is sterotypical because not all women are the way you saying. Some women could practically be men considering they do everything a man does.
gabriellefreedom2001 1 year ago
@gabriellefreedom2001 here u go wit that women shit ...i dont need to vent ....its not that deep this is just general talk here .. n choose this video cuz i wanted to ....n its not stereotypical its real talk like i said .....its not hate u just cant handle tha truth about yourself ..if i hated women i would b on a hate women video shit but not tha case
airwolfwwf 1 year ago
@airwolfwwf lol maybe thats the women you know
joyariffic 1 year ago
@joyariffic please dont bullshit yourself ..so u dont watch lifetime ..or read relationship books ..n your man says nothing 2 u about it ...but let him go turn on a video games on ...here u come... your puttin tha video games over me ..n who 1st n your life not tha video game ....bullshit like that
airwolfwwf 1 year ago
@airwolfwwf no i HATE lifetime, ive never read a relationship book in my ENTIRE life, i dont mind if my man plays video games because i like to watch anyways. and i understand that men like their alone time with their games or friends so thats not me
joyariffic 1 year ago
@joyariffic look tha only y u watch lifetime is cuz they say its 4 women if it didnt say that u give 2 shit ...generic movies n generic show ...n y do i no cuz my mom watch that bs n female i no
airwolfwwf 1 year ago
@airwolfwwf no i dont watch it because those movies are sappy and annoying
joyariffic 1 year ago