"Sexuality and Self-Control" - The Essence of the Bhagavad Gita Explained by Paramhansa Yogananda

[990jur]

Do not try to change society, but to change your thinking about the society. Sexuality is just a form. It comes not from God, because God as Oneness can´t creat the "sseming" separation. Sexuality is a desperate attempt of the separated ego to proove that the separatiion really occured. But this tiny mad idea of separation only seemed to occure in the mind of Gods Son. All solutions to avoid sexuality are just different forms of magic attempts to something that never happens in reality.

[neo1087]

see your mother in all women.. n the lust will no longer stay

[WasGibtsLeute]

What they love, they do not desire.

What they desire, they do not love.

Siegmund Freud

The word "what" stands for a human being.

[chey66]

yes-this is true and it's something I've always known too. People that look older and washed out have been around too many times. I see how that happens. you stay pure and you stay timeless. Thank you.

[EsotericMotion]

why no looking in the eyes or hugging, these show the other person you care for them, no?

[AnandaWorldwide]

There is an exchange of energy during these times. If you're trying to live a life of renunciation, it is helpful to avoid these things. If you're hugging someone you love and loves you, go ahead. Use your common sense. But listen inside. Do you feel uplifted by the encounter or pulled down? Use that as your barometer.

[EsotericMotion]

@AnandaWorldwide alright, thank you for your reply, I will give it some thought.

[xXShanestaXx]

@AnandaWorldwide It means a lot to me personally to see you care enough to answer individual questions.

[omadon7]

i want to be a total celibate, i have no kids, do u think its ok to have no kids thank u

[AnandaWorldwide]

Yes.

[24sandeepsingh]

@omadon7 No kids does not mean u are complete celibate. Infact the very idea of celibacy is unnatural. U dont need to be a celibate monk. Just enjoy urself on the rajor's edge.

[computermaster]

Abimanyu died as a result of passionate lust- he fought well but if he didn't make love the day before he wouldn't have been killed.

[DwayneBSapling]

The idea that I have been wasting my lifeforce in useless sexual activity is something that has been coming up alot lately in my contemplations. I take this video to be a sure sign that this is something I must address now! Thank you.

[Spiritualseeker86]

This is great. I had question though since I am a married man could I ever fully give up desires? Since ofcourse sex is part of a relationship

[knownneverb4]

For married men, the Hindu scriptures dictate: "Ek Naari, Sadaa Brahmchari..." meaning that if you treat all women, other than your wife, as either mother, sister, or daughter, then you are a perfect brahmchari. This is even if you have normal, healthy sexual relationship with your wife, which is essential in a committed marriage. Abstinence at mental level is tougher than at physical level. For better mental abstinence, you have to follow the instructions mentioned in this video.

[nicholasm5581]

Sex is part of a relationship but too many people these days put a high emphasis on that aspect. Sex is a wonderful and miraculous event, but we tend to degrade it with our obsession over it. Moderation is good, but a lot of society does not realize that. They do not see the "all" that is because they do not think about it. They act more than think. They absorb more than think. They are on cruise control headed nowhere. Their desires rule them. Some need to reach ultimate defeat to realize.

[nicholasm5581]

Some people need to be at the bottom of the barrel before they realize they threw their whole life away binging on the pleasures of the world. The end up burnt out and spiritless. The importance of sex in relationships is the result of belief; peer influence. A lot of people have become addicts. And when a person is addicted they are attached. Attachment creates suffering. It creates the feeling of not being able to survive without something.

[nicholasm5581]

Realize all of the war that is due to our attachment. People killing and emotionally damaging others to fulfill their desires. All the result of attachment. Life is about balance. Unfortunately, many women may leave if their sexual desires aren't fulfilled. But a person needs to realize that they are addicted. A person can't find balance until they admit to being addicts.

[jjhaywood]

This is something I'm desperately trying to get under control. I know that if I can control my sexual desires , I could probably double my life energy. But the whole thing about not shaking hands with the opposite sex? I think sometimes, in a business setting, it might come off as rude. But I've been trying it and will continue.

[frcarbonel]

Dear jjhaywood,

It's something I've been trying for a while too. While definitely a good idea, I don't think we can do it 100% of the time, at least not in the West, and also not always, as you say, in business settings. Still, it helps. Not making deep eye contact is probably easier.

Swami Kriyananda has said that he prefers not to hug people, but if they move to hug him it isn't like he pushes them away! He's very gracious and considerate, and I say this from personal experience.

[AnandaWorldwide]

Try at least not hugging, and not looking concentratedly into their eyes.

Swami Kriyananda

[neo1087]

@AnandaWorldwide

See the divine mother in all women and lust will depart..



[lucky7dragon]

I will reflect on your words. Thank you.

[crabbster21]

To add further weight to arguments for emotion control, I was impressed to recently learn of neurochemical dynamics, i.e., that emotions and desires cause the hypothalamus to release neuropeptides, which in excess can have deleterious effects first on the nervous system and then on other body cell systems, leaving their "fingerprints" on the entire mind-body system. An interesting tidbit of info that maybe someone else reading this will find useful to know.

[frcarbonel]

That is interesting! Thank you.

[joyiswithinyoudotcom]

This is an amazing and important talk.

Thank you!