Embracing Kids' Failures

[ThePhoenixamazing]

This so weird you are bitches

[bfreeume]

The key thing said is "learning to enjoy the process". Does it really have to be 'harder' or is it about focus and "enjoying" the process. There are NO mistakes just greater learning & expanding.

[barteklistwan]

Please produce more episodes! So far you've managed to bring out really informative stuff! Thank you so much!

[mstreeby1]

The videos your organization are producing are brilliant and i hope they get the audience they deserve.

It's a real pity that western society places such a strong emphasis on performance outcomes as apposed to processes that actually lead to good performance (e.g., strategy revision upon failure, effort, planning etc).

[paws333]

It is so great to have a strategy for dealing with our kids' failures! I never know whether to deny the failure or to help them feel OK about failure. This advice is perfect -- embrace it, learn from it, don't run from it.

Should we ever point out what repeated failure (especially in school) can do to their life chances?

[blogversations]

This is a GREAT comment that points out something key: we aren't talking about repeated failure here, and we are addressing a particular tendency to want to protect our kids from mistakes or mediocre performance at all costs. True failure, when repeated, can be a real disaster for kids' later outcomes. The idea is to help kids learn from their failures and improve rather than prevent them from stumbling in the first place. -- Christine Carter

[lankdangle]

yes yes, just like Steven Tyler said, "you've got to lose to know how to win" Thank you so much for having a realistic view of our society's inflated expectations.