Hi it's seems like your talking bad about women but I can relate to a lot of what your saying it's not you talking bad it's the women's actions that they do and we accept but at the end of the day it's like the Bishop said in order to control her body you first have to control her mind. Thanks
Mr. Dating Coach, I know that "john smith" is a man's name, but I am a woman, and I want to address something - don't worry I'm not trying to tell you off. I think you should caution men to "plowing through" it if a woman says she has a boyfriend, because this EXACT THING has happened to me so many times and it's really frustrating when the guy refuses to take the hint. I don't interrupt them and I'm not rude at all, but when the man keeps pushing, I actually find it very disrespectful.
@JohnSmith3870 Thanks for the insightful comment. I understand your frustration and I'm not advocating guys to plow through a woman who truly is not interested. This should also answer the question for women, "How do I stop guys I'm not interested in from pursuing me." So many women have this problem and the main reason is answered right in your post. "the guy refuses to take the hint." The key is to be firm and direct about not being interested. Men don't pick up on hints.
@JohnSmith3870 You can't smile flirtatiously and say, "I have a boyfriend." or even smile when you say it. I'm not saying to be a bitch, but you can't give him mixed signals or be nice about it. Simply look at him with a serious, but respectful face and say, "Thanks for the compliment but I'm not interested because I have a boyfriend and love him." If he continues to persist... well now you have a right to start being a bitch to him. :) Maybe I'll do a future video on this.
@MiamiDatingCoach thank you this actually really helped me understand alot! Im a young man by the way and I have a "good friend" whom I care about like a sister, and I am also attracted to her. But she does have a boyfriend, and she does understand I care about her alot, so she wont answer all my calls or texts. I always wondered why but now I see. Because shes with her boyfriend.... and she loves and cares alot more about him obviously. So I dont want to get too involved, I just want her happy.
@JohnSmith3870 The main problem is, women sometimes are too friendly with guys (not that you shouldnt be friendly), but 90% of the time when a guy you see often (like a classmate or college), you have walked up to him and said something really friendly. I know from personal experience how easy it is to mistake a friendly girl for a girl whos interested in you.
I'm a girl and I watched this to see what guys think about relationships and yeah! I believe this was sooo right on! I love your advice, and I totally agree with most of what was in this video because I have seen it in my own life with people I have known. Awesome, caring advice ( and the sound level was tops too)! There are some pints I may refute, but for the most part I found this vid truthful and informative! Good job!
i mean.. Everyday i get into class and i hear "JAMESEY!!!!" (My name is james)
And im like "Yesh?" She says come here.. And gives me a hug everyday. The reason i like her so much is because she's so down to earth and so sweet and beautiful. I don't wanna mess things up with us. But more importantly i don't wanna mess things up with her and her Boyfriend.. (if she has one)
And i realize that i can't be selfish here.. Her happiness always comes first. PLEASE HELP ! :) I'd appreciate it
Hey dude. I'm kinda having an issue... My life is REALLY messed up right now. but im not going to go into that. I'm going to just tell you what's going on with this girl only..
Okay so, I like this girl.. i'm crushing on her hardcore.. She gives me hugs and she always wants to talk to me.. But i'm 99% sure she has a bf. And i don't wanna ask if she's single because she's somebody that i'm slowly becoming close to. i don't want to make it akward.. yknow?
i was talking to her and then "oh i have a boyfreind" like she just realized i thot um that was wierd but ok and sadly i can tell she likes me aswell but then "i hav a bf" so it kinda sucks to be me but i may try some of the stuff you say
I was with a girl that had a boyfriend and she was gonna break up with him soon and i needed this sort of advice I made many of the mistakes you mentioned but now that i know what i did wrong i would probably do beter if i ever meet a girl that has a boyfriend again . Thank you .
Jung, I said these reasons are average. There are many times when a woman has a boyfriend and truly loves and appreciates him. You can tell by the way she talks about him. If this is the case, it would be terrible to try and mess that up.
However, it is concerning that you don't have male and female friends and don't socialize and neither does your boyfriend. That is very unhealthy and results in codependency. It is great to love each other a lot, but not at the expense of your independence.
This is good video. Lots of issues in one movie. Personally if girl tells me she has boyfriend she is lost forever in my mind... I never give her next chance even if she cry, starting to be rude, talking gay or walking around... I never allow and will never allow girl to play with first emotion and desire !!! Moreover I think it is unacceptable to cheat a boy who have strong emotional desire and laughing behind his back with other girls or fight, arrange with other girls to be the one...
And Neil Strauss got it from David Shade. I first learned of this 6 years ago way before The Game came out. And if you don't know who David Shade is, I highly recommend him. The man is brilliant and understands female psychology and sexuality deeply.
what if she's your friend for a while and u've had a thing for her ever since u met but some other guy who lives 5 hours away got to her first?
could u see that (bullshit) long distance relationship working? i need advice man.
what do i do? because she said she only liked me as a friend but we have so much in common that it's actually scary and she might have only said that because she's already with the other guy (like u said)
PLEASE give me advice. I'm getting really pissed off.
The reason why she LJBFed you (Lets Just Be Friends), is because you never made your move. If you attract a girl, there is only a certain window of opportunity you have to escalate. You haven't done shit... so she went after another guy.
Long distance relationships rarely, if ever, work unless it is only temporary. But almost always, they fail.
From this point, I would recommend you move on. That's the only way to salvage this. She will see you dating other girls and get jealous for that validation you used to give her and she'll start chasing again.
well the first time we ever chilled i made my move and she said she didn't know me well enough to be in a relationship.
she has mentioned a couple times that she thinks "i'm undatable, i'm just not interesting enough" and so on but i was too chickenshit to tell her how i feel and now she's with somebody else.
actually were still close friends, and i have a fuck buddy who i'm thinking of turning into my girlfriend because i'm getting lonely....but i LOVE this other girl...and i ONLY get horny from kathryn (girl #2)
Wow, that's fucked up. Well, gee, I feel so bad for you. Poor guy has two girls that he's seeing. One is even fucking him... poor guy. That really sucks... ;)
I've never met a girl who was that hot and had so much in common with me who was my friend before. I've never actually loved anybody before, but i've been so messed up over this girl for a year straight, and now she'd rather be with some fucker who lives in toronto than be with me who's right here :(
If you really need the help then lets set up a phone consultation. You can make a deposit by going to my website and then go to the phone consultation section. Shoot me an email.
Man, i would love to have a phone consultation..... but i recently lost my job and don't have the money to pay you on your website.... and i hate owing people money so i make sure i never have debt.
If you would be willing to continue this conversation via Youtube email I would really appreciate it but i guess your asking for money and that I don't have... at all.
Hi it's seems like your talking bad about women but I can relate to a lot of what your saying it's not you talking bad it's the women's actions that they do and we accept but at the end of the day it's like the Bishop said in order to control her body you first have to control her mind. Thanks
youmademethisway5 1 month ago
the fuck? did he just say jesse kastopolis? uncle jesse from full house
amouralizee 2 months ago
I'm feelin like shit.
SuckMyKintama 5 months ago
Mr. Dating Coach, I know that "john smith" is a man's name, but I am a woman, and I want to address something - don't worry I'm not trying to tell you off. I think you should caution men to "plowing through" it if a woman says she has a boyfriend, because this EXACT THING has happened to me so many times and it's really frustrating when the guy refuses to take the hint. I don't interrupt them and I'm not rude at all, but when the man keeps pushing, I actually find it very disrespectful.
JohnSmith3870 7 months ago
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Dankauf 7 months ago
@JohnSmith3870 Thanks for the insightful comment. I understand your frustration and I'm not advocating guys to plow through a woman who truly is not interested. This should also answer the question for women, "How do I stop guys I'm not interested in from pursuing me." So many women have this problem and the main reason is answered right in your post. "the guy refuses to take the hint." The key is to be firm and direct about not being interested. Men don't pick up on hints.
MiamiDatingCoach 7 months ago
@JohnSmith3870 You can't smile flirtatiously and say, "I have a boyfriend." or even smile when you say it. I'm not saying to be a bitch, but you can't give him mixed signals or be nice about it. Simply look at him with a serious, but respectful face and say, "Thanks for the compliment but I'm not interested because I have a boyfriend and love him." If he continues to persist... well now you have a right to start being a bitch to him. :) Maybe I'll do a future video on this.
MiamiDatingCoach 7 months ago
@MiamiDatingCoach thank you this actually really helped me understand alot! Im a young man by the way and I have a "good friend" whom I care about like a sister, and I am also attracted to her. But she does have a boyfriend, and she does understand I care about her alot, so she wont answer all my calls or texts. I always wondered why but now I see. Because shes with her boyfriend.... and she loves and cares alot more about him obviously. So I dont want to get too involved, I just want her happy.
AaronWii1 4 months ago
@JohnSmith3870 The main problem is, women sometimes are too friendly with guys (not that you shouldnt be friendly), but 90% of the time when a guy you see often (like a classmate or college), you have walked up to him and said something really friendly. I know from personal experience how easy it is to mistake a friendly girl for a girl whos interested in you.
BrutalEST96 5 months ago
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bagdadexposure 8 months ago
I hav an idea, please do this for ur nxt bid but, how do u get a girl that doesn't like you but you like her
sdog290 8 months ago
I'm a girl and I watched this to see what guys think about relationships and yeah! I believe this was sooo right on! I love your advice, and I totally agree with most of what was in this video because I have seen it in my own life with people I have known. Awesome, caring advice ( and the sound level was tops too)! There are some pints I may refute, but for the most part I found this vid truthful and informative! Good job!
fembotprincess 8 months ago
The guy speaks the truth - The face that some of you don't like it can't be helped.
Uberlaser 9 months ago
ok thats the problem im not here to please other people
sysopkc 9 months ago
i mean.. Everyday i get into class and i hear "JAMESEY!!!!" (My name is james)
And im like "Yesh?" She says come here.. And gives me a hug everyday. The reason i like her so much is because she's so down to earth and so sweet and beautiful. I don't wanna mess things up with us. But more importantly i don't wanna mess things up with her and her Boyfriend.. (if she has one)
And i realize that i can't be selfish here.. Her happiness always comes first. PLEASE HELP ! :) I'd appreciate it
iiBitterzzxLJx 11 months ago
Hey dude. I'm kinda having an issue... My life is REALLY messed up right now. but im not going to go into that. I'm going to just tell you what's going on with this girl only..
Okay so, I like this girl.. i'm crushing on her hardcore.. She gives me hugs and she always wants to talk to me.. But i'm 99% sure she has a bf. And i don't wanna ask if she's single because she's somebody that i'm slowly becoming close to. i don't want to make it akward.. yknow?
iiBitterzzxLJx 11 months ago
@iiBitterzzxLJx Have you considered rape?
MultiHypocrisy 11 months ago
@MultiHypocrisy Have you considered growing a heart?
iiBitterzzxLJx 11 months ago
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MultiHypocrisy 11 months ago
now i understand. This guy is the shit! thanks
E3500 1 year ago
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Thescreensaverr 1 year ago
Understandable. Thanks Mate!
jun19020987 1 year ago
i was talking to her and then "oh i have a boyfreind" like she just realized i thot um that was wierd but ok and sadly i can tell she likes me aswell but then "i hav a bf" so it kinda sucks to be me but i may try some of the stuff you say
happymonkeyfish 1 year ago
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happymonkeyfish 1 year ago
reason 2 seems like a logical reason for the girl i like bringing him up
happymonkeyfish 1 year ago
Very good advice! This guy knows his shit.
llamount 1 year ago
I like how you use the divorce rate made me laugh
uberkewl19 1 year ago
I was with a girl that had a boyfriend and she was gonna break up with him soon and i needed this sort of advice I made many of the mistakes you mentioned but now that i know what i did wrong i would probably do beter if i ever meet a girl that has a boyfriend again . Thank you .
TheBri0907 1 year ago
coool mate !!!! good advice ...
ashwinisidhu 1 year ago
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JungfruFreja 1 year ago
Jung, I said these reasons are average. There are many times when a woman has a boyfriend and truly loves and appreciates him. You can tell by the way she talks about him. If this is the case, it would be terrible to try and mess that up.
However, it is concerning that you don't have male and female friends and don't socialize and neither does your boyfriend. That is very unhealthy and results in codependency. It is great to love each other a lot, but not at the expense of your independence.
MiamiDatingCoach 1 year ago
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JungfruFreja 1 year ago
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Dankauf 1 year ago
This is good video. Lots of issues in one movie. Personally if girl tells me she has boyfriend she is lost forever in my mind... I never give her next chance even if she cry, starting to be rude, talking gay or walking around... I never allow and will never allow girl to play with first emotion and desire !!! Moreover I think it is unacceptable to cheat a boy who have strong emotional desire and laughing behind his back with other girls or fight, arrange with other girls to be the one...
NiceTubeAccount 2 years ago
lol got the first part right outta the game! still like your vids though man
drjay182 2 years ago
And Neil Strauss got it from David Shade. I first learned of this 6 years ago way before The Game came out. And if you don't know who David Shade is, I highly recommend him. The man is brilliant and understands female psychology and sexuality deeply.
MiamiDatingCoach 2 years ago
@MiamiDatingCoach thanks ill deff look into it =] always eager to learn more from other who know more
drjay182 2 years ago
what if she's your friend for a while and u've had a thing for her ever since u met but some other guy who lives 5 hours away got to her first?
could u see that (bullshit) long distance relationship working? i need advice man.
what do i do? because she said she only liked me as a friend but we have so much in common that it's actually scary and she might have only said that because she's already with the other guy (like u said)
PLEASE give me advice. I'm getting really pissed off.
bearblaster420 2 years ago
The reason why she LJBFed you (Lets Just Be Friends), is because you never made your move. If you attract a girl, there is only a certain window of opportunity you have to escalate. You haven't done shit... so she went after another guy.
Long distance relationships rarely, if ever, work unless it is only temporary. But almost always, they fail.
MiamiDatingCoach 2 years ago
From this point, I would recommend you move on. That's the only way to salvage this. She will see you dating other girls and get jealous for that validation you used to give her and she'll start chasing again.
MiamiDatingCoach 2 years ago
well the first time we ever chilled i made my move and she said she didn't know me well enough to be in a relationship.
she has mentioned a couple times that she thinks "i'm undatable, i'm just not interesting enough" and so on but i was too chickenshit to tell her how i feel and now she's with somebody else.
bearblaster420 2 years ago
actually were still close friends, and i have a fuck buddy who i'm thinking of turning into my girlfriend because i'm getting lonely....but i LOVE this other girl...and i ONLY get horny from kathryn (girl #2)
bearblaster420 2 years ago
Wow, that's fucked up. Well, gee, I feel so bad for you. Poor guy has two girls that he's seeing. One is even fucking him... poor guy. That really sucks... ;)
MiamiDatingCoach 2 years ago
It is pretty fucked up lol actually.
I've never met a girl who was that hot and had so much in common with me who was my friend before. I've never actually loved anybody before, but i've been so messed up over this girl for a year straight, and now she'd rather be with some fucker who lives in toronto than be with me who's right here :(
I actually need advice from you. PLEEZe
bearblaster420 2 years ago
If you really need the help then lets set up a phone consultation. You can make a deposit by going to my website and then go to the phone consultation section. Shoot me an email.
MiamiDatingCoach 2 years ago
Man, i would love to have a phone consultation..... but i recently lost my job and don't have the money to pay you on your website.... and i hate owing people money so i make sure i never have debt.
If you would be willing to continue this conversation via Youtube email I would really appreciate it but i guess your asking for money and that I don't have... at all.
bearblaster420 2 years ago