i just listened to 5 videos and then theres no more? wtf im so mad lol you were telling my whole life story. i found the second video most helpfull, i thankyou
BPD is a very sad disorder. It's where a person has been so severely abandoned and neglected emotionally. It's like a person without a skin. They try in vain with many methods to put up false skin and protect themselves. When they act out it's because they don't know any better. People normally react harshly but that is the worst manner in dealing with BPD. THey best method is instead to give more love and more compassion. Once they realize you will not abandon them they will start to heal.
@goingplaces11 part 2: The idea is they react in a combative manner in order to test your staying power. They might test you numerous times. If each time you turn out reliable, they will start trusting you. But rememebr there are very very few people that they will ever trust. So you will always be held to a higher level of expectation. Sometimes even the slightest move toward the exit or abandonment can bring back old wounds.
@goingplaces11 part 3: As more and more people around the person with BPD start to shower the person with extra love and care, that remember they did not receive as a child, the person with BPD will heal and learn to adapt better methods. That person will also open up and come out of that turmoil. It's surprising that BPD patients have the most compassion to give someone. That's where the frustration stems. They want to GIVE love because it's also what they CRAVE. They are NOT selfish people.
@goingplaces11 part 4: But they simply need to know that the person they shower their love on is truly worth it. Some children grow up in an atmosphere where the parents continually fought or used stinging remarks. Sometimes this constant attack drains a vulnerable person aka child. It's like wearing headphones all day and going deaf years later. They also don't need to be looked as as lab animals as they are highly intelligent human beings.
@goingplaces11 part 5: I've seen many patients. Though I'm not a therapist nor psychiatrist, I am a physician. And I have to admit that single therapies will not work, if the environment or the people they are in constant contact with continue to be harsh and brutal. As with any mental disorder the success to any therapy relies on the effort of the people surrounding the patient. It takes a village....
I am a veteran trauma-recovery therapist. BPD is NOT a "mental illness" It is a symptom of up to six specific psychological wounds from early-childhood trauma. These wounds can best be reduced by "inner-family" therapy. For info, see "Lesson 1" in the YouTube "gercacn" channel and sfhelp.org/gwc/links.htm
@TSMYF1 No, it's a personality disorder, not exactly the same thing. You have no education or understanding other than your bizarre book of fables. Please leave the discussion to people with an above room temperature iq. "God" indeed.
@TSMYF1 Not at all my dear... What makes you think that Christians don't suffer from mental illness?.... That's a very unchristian like thing to reply. Take a ride through an impoverished neighborhood where the people can't affort mental health care and let us know what you find. Other than that... keep your ignorant comments... locked in that box you call a brain. Just because you can't see it doesn't mean its not there!
when I first met her i was working through my own attachment disorder but I got through that & when i started peeling off my layers of protection instead of being happy for me that i was more emotionally available to the bpd she just got more rattled that i was seeing her more clearly now as my shit had cleared to see others very well now. I guess she preferred me being in my own fog so i couldn't see hers. How do you fix bpd? It comprises split personality disorder. What does pet scan show?
1 how is bpd created? ie a narcissistic mum + an abandoning father? The daughter cant stand the abandonment & thus shields herself from any future intimate relationships & when they get close starts rattling her cage ie she wants to get close to feel comfortable but then if she doesn't deal with her crap will then start taking it out on u. 2 What is the pet scan of the BPD? is there abnormal neurotransmitter frequency? or is it that dif parts of the brain are being used & vital ones blocked?
@universalstudios13 if your kids are in the wake of the destruction then get out. If you didn't have kids to think of and you felt you could withstand it then that is your decision, but a word of the wise - they are your main decision maker now - if it is ruining their life then get out. Or you will end up with dysfunctional kids from them dealing with the chaos :( (((hugs))))
@universalstudios13 RUN LIKE HELL. RUN. LIKE. HELL. I grew up in a household with an alcoholic mother with severe bpd and I will never fully recover from what I've seen and felt. It's kinda weird. She lived life as two people and I feel like only half of one. Do whatever you have to. Break the law and skip trial if you need to, but get your kids the hell out now.
Omg thanks soo much! I suffer with inattentive ADD and as a result have extreme difficulties reading books. But listening to them being read is much easier =)
@verman9 If you had read her previous posts she doesnt have BPD she is trying to HELP others which shows alot better person than someone like you who puts others down!
@verman9 Why thank you for being so negative. I DON'T HAVE BPD. i am reading it to help people! *gasp* is that so unfathomable. Please take your negativity elsewhere.
@sweetsmile1 Well then I hope you never pass on your poor reading skills to your children. You're actually at a pre-high school reading level, I'm serious.
I gather you are way better. If you do not like the way she is reading, there is an easy way to push a button on your computer, so you do not have to listen to this.
Maybe you could be nicer to people around you, or say what you think in a friendly way.
Never too late to be more friendly.
And if you respond to this with being rude again, that says it all.
@lydibeau Actually it IS too late to be friendly. Because I've been blocked and all of my comments are just going to get deleted. I didnt mean to be rude, because I really appreciated this video.
I should have been more constructive in my criticism, and rather than be an asshole, I might just do my own video reading of this. I bet this comment will last no longer than 12 hours, but here's hoping!
@AsSomedayItMayHappen Why would you want to put someone down who is trying to help people. Shows the type of person you are. The first 3 letters of your name says it all ASS
@MissFirtyFree Yeah! Just hold it all in! That's emotionally healthy. It's attitudes like yours that CAUSE this horrible malady and you should be ashamed for passing that off as legitimate.
Bipolar Disorder is like being possessed and is embarrassing as hell and scary and BPD is a fancy term for someone who throws tantrums to manipulate people.
@HerrSpieldose BPD is not a fancy term for someone who 'throws tantrums to manipulate people'. It is a very complex disorder and is a struggle for a lot of people. I was very offended by your comment and think maybe you should think twice before basically spoiting SHITE next time.
@HerrSpieldose BPD is not a fancy term for someone who 'throws tantrums to manipulate people'. It is a very complex disorder and is a struggle for a lot of people. I was very offended by your comment and think maybe you should think twice before basically spouting SHITE next time.
@m2mfan4eva you have to be an adult to be diagnosed but symptoms can show as a child. BPD is caused by trauma kind of like post traumatic stress syndrome
@Morbiddez yeah, but I'm 16 years old, how do I get treatment? I really need it, and I can't get therapy because therapists only see adults (over 18) and those with children only treat up to 16, so I'm too late.
I really appreciate that you took the time to read this. I personally find this very interesting. I have also been told that there is another book out there entitled: Stop Walking on Eggshells. I myself am living with someone with this disorder. My wife has recently entered counseling but has not found anything as powerful as DBT. I hope that by educating myself, she will feel free to seek what she needs.
My ex has borderline, and these people are fucked up!! And I don´t believe in such a crap as borderline!!! These people are not sick they just like to use a excuse and call it borderline ;) fuck them all!!!
@hhhhaj It can be very hard to be close to anybody with a personality disorder and it's even harder when that disorder is borderline disorder. I would say it is near impossible to hold on to the knowledge of what it is and what it does to your loved one. I haven't been in the situation myself but I have seen it from the side line. I can fully understand how a loved one of a borderline patient would lose faith in the fact that indeed most of the crap is caused by the disorder.
@hhhhaj, I was diagnosed with Borderline early in my childhood, and kept back for excessive sensitivity (I didn't find out until I was 17), so what excuse did I have? I have no excuse for who I am. I am within the top 10% of my entire college academically, volunteer at Sloan Kettering, and a full-ride to school. At a distance people love my intensity, however, I have zero relationships outside of superficiality. I can't let people in. I cry each night when I take off the mask, sometimes more.
...I'd just like to add that BPD is an interuption of personality that occurs during early childhood that is thought to be caused by severe and prolonged emotional deprivation/abuse, neglect & sexual abuse of a child by a parent or caregiver. People suffering with this disorder are in a constant state of emotional or inner turmoil & know more about feelings of despair than you would about being an arrogant pig... & i'm sure that's telling !.
Thankyou for sharing this with the worl sweetsmile1:)
@ButterflyMumma While this may be true, it does not justify the often destructive paths and wakes they leave. I love my wife to death,and she knows me so well, but her feelings of dispair drive her to lash out at me when she is uncomfortable. I think instead of focusing on how hard it is to be bpd, it would be moer productive to focus on how to create a support network or help manage your symptoms.
@ethernetstd More productive? I don't think you fully understand the hell we have to go through just LIVING with this disorder, let alone dealing with it? Maybe instead of bitching about your wife on youtube videos, help her be more productive? Just a suggestion
@ButterflyMumma IMO it's oversimplifying to say that BPD is "caused by severe and prolonged emotional deprivation/abuse, neglect & sexual abuse of a child by a parent or caregiver". What about people like my teen BP who havven't experienced this? I've read about new brain research that says that BPs' amygdala, which governs emotions, is larger than normal while the prefrontal cortex, which governs executive decision making, is smaller than normal. Thus BP trbl w/ emotions and impulsivity.
Dogterd press can go suck a fat one ! Do you not have anything better to do than sit on the internet making rediculous immature comments directed towards mentally ill individuals? How sad for you:/.
BPD is not understood in the same way by any two clinicians/therapists and not by any two clients who end up with the diagnosis. It's confusing and exasperating. Especially, when you figure out that you are not Borderline. Each person can take their time in figuring out how to approach life in a way that works peacefully. The book is appreciated, just the same, because the diagnosis exists by dint of the psychiatric profession's great power.
Growing up and adopting traits and characteristics which a society considers beneficial in order for its own survival and not necessarily your own, copying celebrity's on tv, remembering where you are supposed to laugh rather than where you consider it funny, attempting to define something (you) which is in constant state of flux and then compounding it by trying to maintain what is essentially a fiction or idea of what you think others want you to be, by definition a "personality" IS a disorder
Ive often thought about what you replied. I tried to be part of that fake culture personality, but it wouldnt except me so i withdrew and found myself!
The same authors of "I Hate You / Don't Leave Me!" have a newer book out called "Sometimes I Act Crazy", and it's a really excellent update on BPD and breaks down the various components of the disorder as it has become more clearly understood. I think you'll enjoy it.
Thank you for reading this book to us. It's a brilliant Idea. I usually listen to Cd (spoken word) but this is excellent. Looking ofrward on finding the rest of it now. Take care.
Mood swings in bpd are usually triggered, while with bipolar disorder they're usually not. In diagnosis for any type of bipolar disorder, how periodic highs and lows come is taken into consideration.
@translationwiz That's completely understandable. Borderline and Bipolar are commonly mixed up and many BPD patients (myself included) were misdiagnosed with bipolar. But there are differences.
@translationwiz, Bi Polar Disorder is marked by the characteristic of "Mania" - frenzy of self-intoxication similar to a cocaine high (fast paced speech, racing thoughts, delusions of grandeur, hyper-sexuality, extreme euphoria). Think of those with Bipolar taking longer to travel from Pole of depression to Pole of euphoria, where as those on the Borderline can switch from emotion to emotion within a few moments. Characteristics if those borderline emerge in childhood, and are everlasting.
@bluddy666 Wow; I was just thinking about the condition today(borderline) b/c I think I do suffer from this condition. I lived w/someone for several yrs. whose symptoms were very obvious. I blamed myself. I blamed her. I then blamed myself again for not leaving her. And felt guilty when I finally had enough of the pain.it traumatized me. I think I care too much about ppl. while others say we need to think more of others and less of ourselves. What another nice contradiction for us..huh?
@translationwiz, I thank you for your compassion. It is a daily, hourly struggle. Caring for others is normal, but when it becomes a hurdle or concern for them becomes mistranslated it can be detrimental. In fact, always thinking of others can cause you to shut out-those like me can self-isolate, and thus, I feel like an outsider looking in. Hopefully you will take the right steps. You seem responsive and sensitive and it is a remarkable quality, never change.
Bipolar is abnormal brain behavior involving nerotransmitters
Borderline is abnormal behavior
Kind of think of it like Incredibly attractive vs Incredibly attractive and narcassistic. One can cause the other, but does not neccisarily cause, and is not necissary to cause.
yeah, i don't hurt myself. i just have self-deprecating thoughts about what i should do to myself. i can't stand needles, the thought of knives cutting my flesh, or anything like that. i just push people away or if we get into a disagreement, i assume they hate me automatically. there is no "i'm angry with you" on their end. i take it as "i f*cking hate you bitch"
@lindseydickey fuck me!!!!! that sounds just like my wife, she outright hurts me on purpose when we argue or she is uncomfortable. It is quite hard to live with. On the opposite side though, you can be quite a caring individual if you can manage your symptoms.
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don't get me wrong i love a good book.....but you kind of killed it straight away when you said...i'm gonna read this book to you...sorry babes already bored :D...have fun everyone else who watches, and let me know if its fun?....if you dont fall asleep...haha kidding......xx
I'm reading "Walking on Eggshells" for NonBP's who are dating or involved with a BP. I am currently (somewhat) dating a BP and am having the hardest time keep the relationship together. She wont admit shes BP is what bothers me.
I appreciate the recommendation for the vids but am still left in the dark bout a BP's train of thought or intentions? I have nothing personal against dating BP's just left in aww sometimes lol
My experience in a similar situation has shown me that the only way to survive, is to not play the game. There are certain behaviors, or triggers, that this population uses to manipulate others. Any response, negative or positive, is reinforcement. I have found it helpful to simply not respond at all to such behaviors. It can seem odd, and it really infuriates them, but it is the only way to stay in the relationship. BPD is about a compulsive hunger for control. God be with you.
thank you for reading this book!! I was just diagnosed with this. I am 52 and have some hope that the rest of my life doesn't have to be lived this way. Are you planning to read more? I found up to the beginning of Chapter 2 of I hate you don't leave me but no more. I so enjoy your reading this for me. Many blessings to you. Maybe my kids will listen to you too.
AMEN. Truth is spoken here. I can attest to this personally!! Praise God! The pain of not realizing this must be greater than the fear of denying that the problem exists!!! Only then can a person truly change. Most of the time what we avoid at all costs (eg: Christ) is what we have needed (true healing that baffles doctors and clinicians with all their books and degrees).
the most annoying symptom is the constant shield you carry,strangers become potential opponents, those close to you become your enemies in a second and your favourite song can make you sick from the memories it creates. its just one symptom i cant seem to shake
true. I getcha but try ur best not to look at it from a negative point of view if possible, I know I know easier said than done but try. I try to look at it this way: No Ones PERFECT WE ALL make Mistakes. Im a TBI survivor & take my disability in stride. On the outside i look fine but inside i suffer from my own battles of depression & being inadequate to others. But HEY! NO ONES Perfect and you shouldnt feel the need to fit in to plz everyone
@bgre4011, it's so true. It hurts the most that I have closed doors...My brother hasn't spoken to me in two years. My sister (whose supposed to be my roommate, only comes home for a half hour 2Xmonth) My father left my mother and I when I was young. She too has BPD. He was an abusive alcoholic, and has been gone for years. There hasn't been one week I didn't lay awake at night crying that, as an 8 year old, I drove my father away. Now, I use homework as my companion-it will never reject me.
@bluddy666 I admire your honesty and courage to share this. I think we can lick this thing if only a few moments at a time by exposing this demon w/in us. I know I am older........but I still think LOVE is the medicine. And taking care of ourselves. Accepting ourselves. Our experiences and the reactive things we did b/c of this condition DO NOT define us. We are a lot more, way more than this. I do mindfulness meditation. That helps me a lot. Just being aware of how&what I am feeling.
@translationwiz I agree, with you that love and stability is so important to all kinds of people, but especially those who are intense. I tried just medication alone and my conditions worstened. Therapy has done wonders from me.. Reading helps me a lot essays like "The Importance of Restlessness and Jagged Edges" by Kay Redfield Jamison keeps me grounded. Awareness and sharing experiences with make the exhaustion and struggle foreseeable.
i have read this book it has helped me understand myself a lot i realized a lot about myself and my boyfriend who also has it so if your borderline this is a good read honestly you'll realize stuff about your self you will want to denie but it helps
what i do helps so much i make sure i dont forget everyday i wake up fuck people and fuck bpd but im proud to have bpd sees trough the corrupt it sees everything self defense from all people try to hurt you. got to remember 95% of America is corrupt in sin and money and laughing at the weak and feed off the weak bpd is war against evil
bpd is way to be Free from the government thats why they want to plant that chip in peoples brains
thank you so much for doing this. you don't even know how much you are helping ppl in need. thank you for sharing your compassionate heart with others.
Thanks so much for taking the time to inform others about BPD. I had heard about this book and had wanted to read it. As someone who has recovered from mental illness I know how true it is for people to accept a physical illness but not a mental one. Thank you again.
i just listened to 5 videos and then theres no more? wtf im so mad lol you were telling my whole life story. i found the second video most helpfull, i thankyou
justaddwater091 23 hours ago
help me!!
gummynumberone 2 weeks ago
BPD is a very sad disorder. It's where a person has been so severely abandoned and neglected emotionally. It's like a person without a skin. They try in vain with many methods to put up false skin and protect themselves. When they act out it's because they don't know any better. People normally react harshly but that is the worst manner in dealing with BPD. THey best method is instead to give more love and more compassion. Once they realize you will not abandon them they will start to heal.
goingplaces11 2 weeks ago
@goingplaces11 part 2: The idea is they react in a combative manner in order to test your staying power. They might test you numerous times. If each time you turn out reliable, they will start trusting you. But rememebr there are very very few people that they will ever trust. So you will always be held to a higher level of expectation. Sometimes even the slightest move toward the exit or abandonment can bring back old wounds.
goingplaces11 2 weeks ago
@goingplaces11 part 3: As more and more people around the person with BPD start to shower the person with extra love and care, that remember they did not receive as a child, the person with BPD will heal and learn to adapt better methods. That person will also open up and come out of that turmoil. It's surprising that BPD patients have the most compassion to give someone. That's where the frustration stems. They want to GIVE love because it's also what they CRAVE. They are NOT selfish people.
goingplaces11 2 weeks ago
@goingplaces11 part 4: But they simply need to know that the person they shower their love on is truly worth it. Some children grow up in an atmosphere where the parents continually fought or used stinging remarks. Sometimes this constant attack drains a vulnerable person aka child. It's like wearing headphones all day and going deaf years later. They also don't need to be looked as as lab animals as they are highly intelligent human beings.
goingplaces11 2 weeks ago
@goingplaces11 part 5: I've seen many patients. Though I'm not a therapist nor psychiatrist, I am a physician. And I have to admit that single therapies will not work, if the environment or the people they are in constant contact with continue to be harsh and brutal. As with any mental disorder the success to any therapy relies on the effort of the people surrounding the patient. It takes a village....
goingplaces11 2 weeks ago
thank you for reading this. i have bpd and i will not give up. never give up.
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I am a veteran trauma-recovery therapist. BPD is NOT a "mental illness" It is a symptom of up to six specific psychological wounds from early-childhood trauma. These wounds can best be reduced by "inner-family" therapy. For info, see "Lesson 1" in the YouTube "gercacn" channel and sfhelp.org/gwc/links.htm
gercacn 4 months ago
@gercacn Your stupid DSM "bible" claims it IS a mental illness! Psychiatry is the biggest scam made up of non believers in God and HIS way.
TSMYF1 2 months ago
@TSMYF1 No, it's a personality disorder, not exactly the same thing. You have no education or understanding other than your bizarre book of fables. Please leave the discussion to people with an above room temperature iq. "God" indeed.
MrGrevy 1 month ago
@TSMYF1 Not at all my dear... What makes you think that Christians don't suffer from mental illness?.... That's a very unchristian like thing to reply. Take a ride through an impoverished neighborhood where the people can't affort mental health care and let us know what you find. Other than that... keep your ignorant comments... locked in that box you call a brain. Just because you can't see it doesn't mean its not there!
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i would love your feedback on borderline empathy
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invidiata22 5 months ago
I think I will convert this to mp3 so i can listen to it liek an audiobook thank you
hyperactive609 5 months ago
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hyperactive609 5 months ago
This is so great of you to share this book:) Thank-you so much!!! God bless:) xxoo...
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when I first met her i was working through my own attachment disorder but I got through that & when i started peeling off my layers of protection instead of being happy for me that i was more emotionally available to the bpd she just got more rattled that i was seeing her more clearly now as my shit had cleared to see others very well now. I guess she preferred me being in my own fog so i couldn't see hers. How do you fix bpd? It comprises split personality disorder. What does pet scan show?
uncreativeranter 7 months ago
1 how is bpd created? ie a narcissistic mum + an abandoning father? The daughter cant stand the abandonment & thus shields herself from any future intimate relationships & when they get close starts rattling her cage ie she wants to get close to feel comfortable but then if she doesn't deal with her crap will then start taking it out on u. 2 What is the pet scan of the BPD? is there abnormal neurotransmitter frequency? or is it that dif parts of the brain are being used & vital ones blocked?
uncreativeranter 7 months ago
My partner is destroying my life. Im afraid for my kids. I feel like im living in a prison.
universalstudios13 9 months ago 2
@universalstudios13 if your kids are in the wake of the destruction then get out. If you didn't have kids to think of and you felt you could withstand it then that is your decision, but a word of the wise - they are your main decision maker now - if it is ruining their life then get out. Or you will end up with dysfunctional kids from them dealing with the chaos :( (((hugs))))
sweetsmile1 9 months ago 4
@universalstudios13 send him to a doctor if he doesnt want to than say goodbye daddy
gusto1978 7 months ago
@universalstudios13 RUN LIKE HELL. RUN. LIKE. HELL. I grew up in a household with an alcoholic mother with severe bpd and I will never fully recover from what I've seen and felt. It's kinda weird. She lived life as two people and I feel like only half of one. Do whatever you have to. Break the law and skip trial if you need to, but get your kids the hell out now.
jesuschristsupermart 4 months ago
@universalstudios13 Than leave your partner. Dont act like a victim. You are choosing to stay with him.
Sminieify 4 months ago
for love and support for those with bpd, check out my channel<3
help4bpd 9 months ago
Thanks
gbernard23 10 months ago
I have BDP. its so difficult for because im tryin to self help
laniasmith07 1 year ago 6
Omg thanks soo much! I suffer with inattentive ADD and as a result have extreme difficulties reading books. But listening to them being read is much easier =)
Globodyne 1 year ago
Thankyou Sweetmile for doing this - God bless you
cornwallsteve 1 year ago
thanks GOOD READING
bakeal 1 year ago
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I heard you cry like a big baby lastnight,
STjoes824 1 year ago
leave the phone books alone and stay away u sadistic freak, I dont like you anymore...
MyJoey90 1 year ago
shut up u sadistic freak...your a stalker with bad feeling...psycho
MyJoey90 1 year ago
@verman9 You're a disgusting person.
singandnevertire 1 year ago
@verman9 If you had read her previous posts she doesnt have BPD she is trying to HELP others which shows alot better person than someone like you who puts others down!
MissFirtyFree 1 year ago
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MissFirtyFree 1 year ago
Ignore that verman9 freak, they have been writing the same thing on all the mental health sites...
Thank you for enlightening us sweetsmile, I have wanted to read this for awhile.
georgiapeaches100 1 year ago
Ignore that verman9 freak, they have been writing the same thing on all the mental health sites...
Thank you for enlightening us sweetsmile, I have wanted to read this for awhile.
georgiapeaches100 1 year ago
@verman9 Why thank you for being so negative. I DON'T HAVE BPD. i am reading it to help people! *gasp* is that so unfathomable. Please take your negativity elsewhere.
sweetsmile1 1 year ago
@sweetsmile1 Well then I hope you never pass on your poor reading skills to your children. You're actually at a pre-high school reading level, I'm serious.
AsSomedayItMayHappen 1 year ago
@AsSomedayItMayHappen Fuck YOU! i will be blocking you and deleting your comments. Get a life.
sweetsmile1 1 year ago
@sweetsmile1 Dont give in to his mean comment, your reading skills are fine. Thanks for trying to help people. :)
TopJimmyWinn 1 year ago
@AsSomedayItMayHappen
I gather you are way better. If you do not like the way she is reading, there is an easy way to push a button on your computer, so you do not have to listen to this.
Maybe you could be nicer to people around you, or say what you think in a friendly way.
Never too late to be more friendly.
And if you respond to this with being rude again, that says it all.
lydibeau 1 year ago
@lydibeau Actually it IS too late to be friendly. Because I've been blocked and all of my comments are just going to get deleted. I didnt mean to be rude, because I really appreciated this video.
I should have been more constructive in my criticism, and rather than be an asshole, I might just do my own video reading of this. I bet this comment will last no longer than 12 hours, but here's hoping!
AsSomedayItMayHappen 1 year ago
@AsSomedayItMayHappen
thank you:)
Thanks for your open an honest reaction.
Hope this post is not deleted.
To be honest, if I were to read a book on line, I would not have the patience to do so. LOL
lydibeau 1 year ago
@lydibeau Finally someone with some sense. Thanks lydibeau you made my day =D
Chances are that post WILL be deleted.
AsSomedayItMayHappen 1 year ago
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MissFirtyFree 1 year ago
@AsSomedayItMayHappen Why would you want to put someone down who is trying to help people. Shows the type of person you are. The first 3 letters of your name says it all ASS
MissFirtyFree 1 year ago
@AsSomedayItMayHappen Well atleast if she has children she will teach them "If they have nothing nice to say dont say it at all"
MissFirtyFree 1 year ago
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AsSomedayItMayHappen 1 year ago
@MissFirtyFree Yeah! Just hold it all in! That's emotionally healthy. It's attitudes like yours that CAUSE this horrible malady and you should be ashamed for passing that off as legitimate.
AsSomedayItMayHappen 1 year ago
Bipolar Disorder is like being possessed and is embarrassing as hell and scary and BPD is a fancy term for someone who throws tantrums to manipulate people.
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago
@HerrSpieldose BPD is not a fancy term for someone who 'throws tantrums to manipulate people'. It is a very complex disorder and is a struggle for a lot of people. I was very offended by your comment and think maybe you should think twice before basically spoiting SHITE next time.
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@HerrSpieldose BPD is not a fancy term for someone who 'throws tantrums to manipulate people'. It is a very complex disorder and is a struggle for a lot of people. I was very offended by your comment and think maybe you should think twice before basically spouting SHITE next time.
misspsychosheep 1 year ago
@HerrSpieldose someone has sociopathic tendencies ;) Looks like you're on the same line.
Also, it's something about a chemical imbalance in the brain and an impairment on this part of the brain that affects emotion.
m2mfan4eva 1 year ago
I'm 13.
I am diagnosed With BPD.
I have this book, and it is reallyy hard for me to understand.
My therapist recommended I read it but I'm just not getting it.
Are there any other books you might recomend in a younger age group..?
Thanks. (:
x3mOxBaMbIx 1 year ago
@x3mOxBaMbIx I thought you had to be at least like 20 to be diagnosed?
m2mfan4eva 1 year ago
@m2mfan4eva you have to be an adult to be diagnosed but symptoms can show as a child. BPD is caused by trauma kind of like post traumatic stress syndrome
Morbiddez 1 year ago
@Morbiddez yeah, but I'm 16 years old, how do I get treatment? I really need it, and I can't get therapy because therapists only see adults (over 18) and those with children only treat up to 16, so I'm too late.
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Thank you, dear.
podx990 1 year ago
normally I'm not a fan of american accents but yours is really nice, you have quite a soft sweet voice. keep it up
lecypage 1 year ago
I really appreciate that you took the time to read this. I personally find this very interesting. I have also been told that there is another book out there entitled: Stop Walking on Eggshells. I myself am living with someone with this disorder. My wife has recently entered counseling but has not found anything as powerful as DBT. I hope that by educating myself, she will feel free to seek what she needs.
nandjs 1 year ago
I'm reading the second book by those guys! It's just as great. It's called 'Sometimes I Act Crazy."
Owloween88 1 year ago
This was such a good idea!
cate2728 1 year ago
My ex has borderline, and these people are fucked up!! And I don´t believe in such a crap as borderline!!! These people are not sick they just like to use a excuse and call it borderline ;) fuck them all!!!
hhhhaj 1 year ago
@hhhhaj hmm sounds to me like YOU'VE got borderline? or maybe something more serious?
misspeet 1 year ago
@hhhhaj ur so naive
amytriptalene 1 year ago
@hhhhaj It can be very hard to be close to anybody with a personality disorder and it's even harder when that disorder is borderline disorder. I would say it is near impossible to hold on to the knowledge of what it is and what it does to your loved one. I haven't been in the situation myself but I have seen it from the side line. I can fully understand how a loved one of a borderline patient would lose faith in the fact that indeed most of the crap is caused by the disorder.
PaganLayla 1 year ago
@hhhhaj, I was diagnosed with Borderline early in my childhood, and kept back for excessive sensitivity (I didn't find out until I was 17), so what excuse did I have? I have no excuse for who I am. I am within the top 10% of my entire college academically, volunteer at Sloan Kettering, and a full-ride to school. At a distance people love my intensity, however, I have zero relationships outside of superficiality. I can't let people in. I cry each night when I take off the mask, sometimes more.
bluddy666 1 year ago
got this book
jennifer8187 1 year ago
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How funny,but sad title. Can BPD say I LOVE YOU and I leave you?
mmkitty74 1 year ago
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mmkitty74 1 year ago
...I'd just like to add that BPD is an interuption of personality that occurs during early childhood that is thought to be caused by severe and prolonged emotional deprivation/abuse, neglect & sexual abuse of a child by a parent or caregiver. People suffering with this disorder are in a constant state of emotional or inner turmoil & know more about feelings of despair than you would about being an arrogant pig... & i'm sure that's telling !.
Thankyou for sharing this with the worl sweetsmile1:)
ButterflyMumma 2 years ago 3
@ButterflyMumma right on the money. also they are very strong people to live with such costant despair, it takes a strong will to survive. good luck
6VaLeNtInE6MaSSaCrE6 2 years ago
@ButterflyMumma While this may be true, it does not justify the often destructive paths and wakes they leave. I love my wife to death,and she knows me so well, but her feelings of dispair drive her to lash out at me when she is uncomfortable. I think instead of focusing on how hard it is to be bpd, it would be moer productive to focus on how to create a support network or help manage your symptoms.
ethernetstd 1 year ago
@ethernetstd More productive? I don't think you fully understand the hell we have to go through just LIVING with this disorder, let alone dealing with it? Maybe instead of bitching about your wife on youtube videos, help her be more productive? Just a suggestion
misspeet 1 year ago
@ButterflyMumma IMO it's oversimplifying to say that BPD is "caused by severe and prolonged emotional deprivation/abuse, neglect & sexual abuse of a child by a parent or caregiver". What about people like my teen BP who havven't experienced this? I've read about new brain research that says that BPs' amygdala, which governs emotions, is larger than normal while the prefrontal cortex, which governs executive decision making, is smaller than normal. Thus BP trbl w/ emotions and impulsivity.
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ButterflyMumma 2 years ago
Dogterd press can go suck a fat one ! Do you not have anything better to do than sit on the internet making rediculous immature comments directed towards mentally ill individuals? How sad for you:/.
ButterflyMumma 2 years ago 3
Dogterd press has just released a new book called "How to feed your BPD Psycho Girlfriend to Pigs and get off on a Manslaughter Plea Bargain"
with a foreword by Defense Attorney Hyme Dershowitz. This an indespendable aid for anyone dealing with BPD.
dogterd 2 years ago
BPD is not understood in the same way by any two clinicians/therapists and not by any two clients who end up with the diagnosis. It's confusing and exasperating. Especially, when you figure out that you are not Borderline. Each person can take their time in figuring out how to approach life in a way that works peacefully. The book is appreciated, just the same, because the diagnosis exists by dint of the psychiatric profession's great power.
13abbitt 2 years ago
Growing up and adopting traits and characteristics which a society considers beneficial in order for its own survival and not necessarily your own, copying celebrity's on tv, remembering where you are supposed to laugh rather than where you consider it funny, attempting to define something (you) which is in constant state of flux and then compounding it by trying to maintain what is essentially a fiction or idea of what you think others want you to be, by definition a "personality" IS a disorder
bredrin1 2 years ago 2
Ive often thought about what you replied. I tried to be part of that fake culture personality, but it wouldnt except me so i withdrew and found myself!
imsuckingwind 2 years ago
OK OK I'll call you the story book lady !
raymondbuz 2 years ago
What made you want to read that book? Let me guess, you know someone with the disorder and wanted to understand their behavior more?
TestifyNation 2 years ago
I've read that book...I can relate
Alora666 2 years ago
The same authors of "I Hate You / Don't Leave Me!" have a newer book out called "Sometimes I Act Crazy", and it's a really excellent update on BPD and breaks down the various components of the disorder as it has become more clearly understood. I think you'll enjoy it.
BaronDixon 2 years ago 2
I LOVE LOVE LOVE that you took the time to do this!!!!! Thank you so much!
donandpj 2 years ago 3
dont worry - good reading.
thx.<3
howtwosave 2 years ago 5
i just got this book and gave it to my girlfriend. i can't believe there's a vid!
thaconnextion111 2 years ago
i got this book when i was diagnosed in 1998. it was like i was reading parts of my life in there, great book
dark000soul 2 years ago
i have bi polarism, borderline personality, ocd, ptsd, I dont have this book.. I have outhers,, thank you for taking your time out to do these vid's
be safe always
MissBorderlinemind 2 years ago
"bi polarism"?
That doesn't really make any sense.
chloetheninja123 2 years ago
Thank you for reading this book to us. It's a brilliant Idea. I usually listen to Cd (spoken word) but this is excellent. Looking ofrward on finding the rest of it now. Take care.
ursred 2 years ago
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KhagarBalugrak 2 years ago
I get bipolar and borderline mixed up a lot.
translationwiz 2 years ago 16
Mood swings in bpd are usually triggered, while with bipolar disorder they're usually not. In diagnosis for any type of bipolar disorder, how periodic highs and lows come is taken into consideration.
occocooccoco 2 years ago
Yes, this makes sense. thank U.
translationwiz 2 years ago
@translationwiz That's completely understandable. Borderline and Bipolar are commonly mixed up and many BPD patients (myself included) were misdiagnosed with bipolar. But there are differences.
LadyPeacemaker20 1 year ago
@translationwiz, Bi Polar Disorder is marked by the characteristic of "Mania" - frenzy of self-intoxication similar to a cocaine high (fast paced speech, racing thoughts, delusions of grandeur, hyper-sexuality, extreme euphoria). Think of those with Bipolar taking longer to travel from Pole of depression to Pole of euphoria, where as those on the Borderline can switch from emotion to emotion within a few moments. Characteristics if those borderline emerge in childhood, and are everlasting.
bluddy666 1 year ago
@bluddy666 Wow; I was just thinking about the condition today(borderline) b/c I think I do suffer from this condition. I lived w/someone for several yrs. whose symptoms were very obvious. I blamed myself. I blamed her. I then blamed myself again for not leaving her. And felt guilty when I finally had enough of the pain.it traumatized me. I think I care too much about ppl. while others say we need to think more of others and less of ourselves. What another nice contradiction for us..huh?
thanks
translationwiz 1 year ago
@translationwiz, I thank you for your compassion. It is a daily, hourly struggle. Caring for others is normal, but when it becomes a hurdle or concern for them becomes mistranslated it can be detrimental. In fact, always thinking of others can cause you to shut out-those like me can self-isolate, and thus, I feel like an outsider looking in. Hopefully you will take the right steps. You seem responsive and sensitive and it is a remarkable quality, never change.
bluddy666 1 year ago
@translationwiz
Bipolar is a mood disorder
borderline is a personality disorder
Bipolar is abnormal brain behavior involving nerotransmitters
Borderline is abnormal behavior
Kind of think of it like Incredibly attractive vs Incredibly attractive and narcassistic. One can cause the other, but does not neccisarily cause, and is not necissary to cause.
GoblinsnHobbits 11 months ago
@GoblinsnHobbits uhm, thanks. I got the first part........but you lost me at "and is not necessary to cause."
what do you mean, that narcissism can cause bpd, but you dont need it to become bpd? in any event, i did get the difference between the two. gracias.
paz/peace/salam/shalom
translationwiz 11 months ago
@translationwiz
nah, narc. isn't related, i was using an anology.
basically, Borderline disorder is more complex than a mood disorder (bipolar)
GoblinsnHobbits 11 months ago
Do all BPD's self harm or is it often more concealed than that?
Timebandit720 2 years ago
Of course they don't ALL self harm.
alyssapanikkk 2 years ago
yeah, i don't hurt myself. i just have self-deprecating thoughts about what i should do to myself. i can't stand needles, the thought of knives cutting my flesh, or anything like that. i just push people away or if we get into a disagreement, i assume they hate me automatically. there is no "i'm angry with you" on their end. i take it as "i f*cking hate you bitch"
lindseydickey 2 years ago
I'm the same.
alyssapanikkk 2 years ago
@lindseydickey fuck me!!!!! that sounds just like my wife, she outright hurts me on purpose when we argue or she is uncomfortable. It is quite hard to live with. On the opposite side though, you can be quite a caring individual if you can manage your symptoms.
ethernetstd 1 year ago
@ethernetstd divorce her, you deserve better
mettabee 1 year ago
i'm a bordy :[
stephg729 2 years ago
me 2
shit happens..
:(
funkysugarbabe 2 years ago
I stole that book from the library....guess I have that disorder
mostlydead 2 years ago
hmm what else to look at.. this is.. huuuuuh
bleed756 2 years ago
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don't get me wrong i love a good book.....but you kind of killed it straight away when you said...i'm gonna read this book to you...sorry babes already bored :D...have fun everyone else who watches, and let me know if its fun?....if you dont fall asleep...haha kidding......xx
arcanebeauty 2 years ago
it's not suppose to be fun!! duh
starsfound 2 years ago
I'm reading "Walking on Eggshells" for NonBP's who are dating or involved with a BP. I am currently (somewhat) dating a BP and am having the hardest time keep the relationship together. She wont admit shes BP is what bothers me.
I appreciate the recommendation for the vids but am still left in the dark bout a BP's train of thought or intentions? I have nothing personal against dating BP's just left in aww sometimes lol
ty for introducing the book I'll look into it XD
SwiftJammer 2 years ago
My experience in a similar situation has shown me that the only way to survive, is to not play the game. There are certain behaviors, or triggers, that this population uses to manipulate others. Any response, negative or positive, is reinforcement. I have found it helpful to simply not respond at all to such behaviors. It can seem odd, and it really infuriates them, but it is the only way to stay in the relationship. BPD is about a compulsive hunger for control. God be with you.
VanDamage919 2 years ago
no, i don't. i am just reading it to help ppl.
sweetsmile1 2 years ago 4
thank you for reading this book!! I was just diagnosed with this. I am 52 and have some hope that the rest of my life doesn't have to be lived this way. Are you planning to read more? I found up to the beginning of Chapter 2 of I hate you don't leave me but no more. I so enjoy your reading this for me. Many blessings to you. Maybe my kids will listen to you too.
candicejoanne 2 years ago
Do you have BPD
UserNamePhilek 2 years ago
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I have a really good answer to what can heal Borderline Personality Disorder. His name is Jesus Christ. God Himself.
I was diagnosed with this disorder a few years ago then God saved me. The core issue is SIN.
AlexaSophie 2 years ago
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AMEN. Truth is spoken here. I can attest to this personally!! Praise God! The pain of not realizing this must be greater than the fear of denying that the problem exists!!! Only then can a person truly change. Most of the time what we avoid at all costs (eg: Christ) is what we have needed (true healing that baffles doctors and clinicians with all their books and degrees).
youwillpayforyoursin 2 years ago
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borderline and depression are caused by torturing your brain with masturbation.
Medical business makes thousands of billions
on promoting masturbation as normal and healthy.
This is why we have now an epidemic of borderlines and depressions.
It takes less than 8 weeks without sex/masturbation to fully recover.
The truth is the medicine, drugs just lower libido or make you numb.
brainheal 3 years ago
the most annoying symptom is the constant shield you carry,strangers become potential opponents, those close to you become your enemies in a second and your favourite song can make you sick from the memories it creates. its just one symptom i cant seem to shake
bgre4011 3 years ago 21
true. I getcha but try ur best not to look at it from a negative point of view if possible, I know I know easier said than done but try. I try to look at it this way: No Ones PERFECT WE ALL make Mistakes. Im a TBI survivor & take my disability in stride. On the outside i look fine but inside i suffer from my own battles of depression & being inadequate to others. But HEY! NO ONES Perfect and you shouldnt feel the need to fit in to plz everyone
SwiftJammer 2 years ago
@bgre4011, it's so true. It hurts the most that I have closed doors...My brother hasn't spoken to me in two years. My sister (whose supposed to be my roommate, only comes home for a half hour 2Xmonth) My father left my mother and I when I was young. She too has BPD. He was an abusive alcoholic, and has been gone for years. There hasn't been one week I didn't lay awake at night crying that, as an 8 year old, I drove my father away. Now, I use homework as my companion-it will never reject me.
bluddy666 1 year ago
@bluddy666 I admire your honesty and courage to share this. I think we can lick this thing if only a few moments at a time by exposing this demon w/in us. I know I am older........but I still think LOVE is the medicine. And taking care of ourselves. Accepting ourselves. Our experiences and the reactive things we did b/c of this condition DO NOT define us. We are a lot more, way more than this. I do mindfulness meditation. That helps me a lot. Just being aware of how&what I am feeling.
peace.
translationwiz 1 year ago
@translationwiz I agree, with you that love and stability is so important to all kinds of people, but especially those who are intense. I tried just medication alone and my conditions worstened. Therapy has done wonders from me.. Reading helps me a lot essays like "The Importance of Restlessness and Jagged Edges" by Kay Redfield Jamison keeps me grounded. Awareness and sharing experiences with make the exhaustion and struggle foreseeable.
bluddy666 1 year ago
@bluddy666 Yeah, me too. medication alone doesnt go too far. Keep up the good work . And feel free to IM me anytime.
best wishes
fellow bpd'er. LOL.
translationwiz 1 year ago
i have read this book it has helped me understand myself a lot i realized a lot about myself and my boyfriend who also has it so if your borderline this is a good read honestly you'll realize stuff about your self you will want to denie but it helps
unicorns406 3 years ago
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borderline and depression are caused by torturing your brain with masturbation.
Medical business makes thousands of billions
on promoting masturbation as normal and healthy.
This is why we have now an epidemy of orderlines and depressions.
It takes less than 8 weeks to fully recover.
The truth is the medicine.
fun69stein 3 years ago
what in the world? plz explain..u dont make any sense.
lisaray4444 3 years ago
what i do helps so much i make sure i dont forget everyday i wake up fuck people and fuck bpd but im proud to have bpd sees trough the corrupt it sees everything self defense from all people try to hurt you. got to remember 95% of America is corrupt in sin and money and laughing at the weak and feed off the weak bpd is war against evil
bpd is way to be Free from the government thats why they want to plant that chip in peoples brains
mnomeph 3 years ago
You re absolutely right. I have bpd to and sometimes i think the same.Maybe its human evolution, i dont now but it feels like that.
lpoi7 3 years ago
thank you so much for doing this. you don't even know how much you are helping ppl in need. thank you for sharing your compassionate heart with others.
THATwierdo 3 years ago 3
thank you so much for posting/sharing this. You're an angel.
JoanofArkham 3 years ago 2
i also have bpd, worst thing that could happen to anyone :(
scottishflame1 3 years ago 3
Thanks so much for taking the time to inform others about BPD. I had heard about this book and had wanted to read it. As someone who has recovered from mental illness I know how true it is for people to accept a physical illness but not a mental one. Thank you again.
12211977 3 years ago
cause fuckin technology and computers control people and future will increase this cause
i'm fucked cause i have bpd i dont need the math
or science to tell you that
only way to heal this bullshit you need love!
true love beats it!
mnomeph 3 years ago 3
wow you nailed it mnomeph thumbs up
sykotoy 3 years ago
I suffer from bpd too. Ur soooo right when u say only love can heal this crap. Good luck in finding love, 4 all of us. Can't take this 4-ever. Grtz
kejetwitjewel 3 years ago 2
i actually own this book. This book is good
koalastephanie 3 years ago
Thank you so much!!!! i've been really wanting to read this book. thanks again.
crnogora 3 years ago
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vintagebeware 3 years ago
Thanks so much for the reading. How many more chapters have you read? I would like to download your videos for my clients. RZ
rzahn6 3 years ago 3
i am going to be reading more of the book very soon ok? i am just on the first chapter
sweetsmile1 3 years ago
thanks a lot, i am listening to all of your audios. Thank you a lot
7530kitty 3 years ago 2
woooo. thanks so much..
but dont reead in such poor light
LOL. thanks
roberdancer 3 years ago
Thanks sooo much for reading that.
I have heard of this book before but not read it.
I have to admit I shed a few tears. There is so much truth in that.
I have started a vlog on my experiences with BPD.
Eriksaidit 3 years ago