Ask Arden: #2 FRIEND ZONE

[20bdl00]

Trust me when i say move on..That cancer will eat at you forever.The biggest weight has been lifted off my chest and the healing can begin.

[holls0713]

Ask Arden: how do you feel about friends with benefits? Do you think there is a chance that it could become something more?

[2009elvin]

Ask Arden:does jeremy lin fits your ideal boyfriend?

[Braxbug5]

Umm I've know this girl for like 4 years she flirts with me like hits me and stuff I've asked her if she like me but it's always "just friends" and she falls for all of my dude friends I literally mean all of them even my brother... Any ideas???

[Epiccoopertime]

OMFG my friend is in the friend zone

[downdiving]

How can I say"no" to a guy nicely?

[SupremeCourtFudge]

I love how you have a guitar and a cello case o_o

[blathers]

hahaha guys dont listen to her lmao. Shes trying to hype you up by making you think life was created by Walt Disney himself by saying "hey maybe somewhere along the line she might be attracted to you someday" lollollol. From now on if a girl is hot dont even think of being friends with her unless you've told her you were interested first and she tells you she has a genuine interest in you from the start, it doesnt take long for girls to decide this kinda shit anyway haha.

[KalvyntheSexyBoy]

Hi Arden, what if you like someone but you don't know if they like you. Is there any signs letting you know if they like you?

[BrickLaya100]

this woman knows more than I expected. she is excused from being outside the kitchen.

[feliciazhu555]

This bitch is crazy. I pretty much did wat she was talking about and that shit just screwed me harder

[SASJKL]

hi, how do you get out of the "youtube" zone? this is something i made up when i watched a video of a girl explaining how to get out of the "friend" zone and i'm super attracted to her. how do i get her number?

[Zypnick]

@SASJKL epik question!

[Benjefwil]

If there is not chemistry you are not meant to be. Interesting, because being too nice is usually what kills chemistry. It's not about being a jerk it's about being assertive. Think of dating like dancing with a girl. Girls don't like guys who are dicks and push them down but they also don't like guys who are unwilling to "lead" the dance. Because they think being nice is letting the girl lead. Big mistake. It is not helpful to tell someone who wants to solve a problem, it is not meant to be.

[Kilomanjaro11]

im a jerk cause i don't wanna be friends is it working? :)

[MilkyWBar]

Shouldn't be too hard to answer :).

This is directed toward asian guys: What kind of hair do you like on them?

[daikon64]

Here is a quickie question I am just curious about. Are women as drawn to (misleading) thumbnails as much as guys are? If so, which ones?

[RilyReally]

What if you're a guy and your crush is older than you ? I'm 18 and she's 20 =S

[qjtrinh]

Thanks.. this helps :)

[dre857]

Friendzone is a great way to vet the girl you're actually interested in. See if she's actually worthy of being your gf. Take advantage of your position and find out who she really is: the guys she dates, her family, personality.

[junkeith1991]

Hey Arden, Since nice guys like myself haven't really been in a relationship before, because of this friendzone thing.. should i be less nice and more cocky =| i find that cocky guys usually get girls, so i don't know what the 'crap' are in girls mind! please help

[bohubohu]

@junkeith1991 theres a middle ground bro between cocky and humble

[sorry to intrude on ur question for Arden]

be confident in things u do but like she [arden] said take a step back let them feel what life is like when ur not around as usual when they break down thats when u "attack" but be a man about it girls/women don't like boys boys=friends

[frogdu]

kind of easy for girls to get friends, to some boys especially geeks it is very difficult to make friends...

[juicystar111]

ASK ADREN #3 What are some good ways to feel good about yourself?

[grahamabarnes]

Hey Arden. i think your totally right, I liked this asian girl who is older than me but only by a few yrs and she told me she didn't like me that way and I said ok I accept it, she is now getting married but I don't feel hurt by rejection as Im still her friend although not like we once were, but no one knows what the future may hold, i hope me and her have as good friendship as we had before.

Good advice :)

[Zypnick]

here is a simple question: can you pleeeeease make another video..any topic lol

[Snaptress]

Arden has great advice (and she's BEAUTIFUL) I just made a video giving advice on the same topic of the Friend Zone, so if you guys still need some help (and maybe some comedy relief too), click my channel to find the vid.

[xxxaznomegaxxx]

Yep, friend zone does suck. How do you recover from an intimate moment which was abruptly denied?

[mtthwprk021730]

hey Arden i like someone, but idk if they like me and i don't wanna go to her and like tell i like her i don't want to ruin things we are really good friends. We go on vacation all the time too so what do i do

[Elohite]

If you're not honest, and don't try to share your feelings, you've already told yourself no! Go for it!

[finalfantasy82]

Can someboby show Arden the survey done in University of Utah: only female says "We can be friends", all the guys say "No way!". Period.

[PorcelainxDynamite]

You're the first girl I've seen thats called Arden too, I thought I was one of the only ones! haha <3

[Schliing123]

Oh, do you have a cello behind there? :D

[WhatTheFuckII2oV3]

4:55 That is the reason why you are actually afraid of. xD

[WhatTheFuckII2oV3]

2:20 and how do you notice this?

[ArchZell]

This really helped me. Thanks!

[kamakazi2o6]

Nice recovery from the physical aspect...not :[ 

[mymothersmeatloaf]

This advice has got to be the biggest crock of bullshit I have ever heard, It's useful because it's the kind of typical advice given from any kind of person but it's bullshit because it's such terrible advice. I shit you not I followed this same kind of advice and wound up losing a best friend. The entire being more then friends thing doesn't ruin a friendship because it just doesn't I went out with one of my friends for about a week and we found out it wasn't right, but we are STILL friends..

[godarm14]

have you ever been in love?

[lorrahoxoxo77]

When did u start dating? How did you get over someone that u had a crush on or someone that broke ur heart?

[TheSilviepie]

Yeah...my mom went to visit the city where she was born recently and one of her guy friends who still lives there decided to tell her 20 years later that he liked her in college and for a long time (possibly still??). Apparently his wife even looks like her. >.>

[menomineepride90]

OMG I am so going to try this xD thanks lol

[golfmaniac007]

male and female cannot be friends.....unless the male is gay.

[mformorris]

Hey Arden, what should I do if I have a crush on my friend's friend. PS my friend has a crush on me.

[ZhongBot]

@mformorris three way

[deathbytheblade]

be honest and come out?? (shoots myself)

[LoiDash]

If you have resorted in asking someone if they're interested in you; they're not. Because if she was, she would have already given you the opportunity to make a move.

[zerotherm]

Hi Arden,

I am a graduate student (in this case within the health sciences field), and I am somewhat fustrated about dating. I find it harder with age, and higher education to meet someone that is a good match. In general, do you think that it's harder to meet decent guys/girls once you are older, graduated college, and have started working?

[MrPunkscout1]

Dear Arden, if someone had a crush on more than one person (but they know better not to cheat,) what would he/she do?

[PisangGilaaa]

you play cello?

[chimelty]

I want a Asian boyfriend!!!!!!! So bad, but I am wight and they only date other Asians. :(

[dmathov]

@chimelty noooottt true. I'm an Asian and most of the girls I find attractive are white. Keep your head up. You never know what might happen. :)

[boomboxproductions93]

heyy arden, I made a video recently called

"Why Girls Should Give Dating Asian Guys A Chance"

thought you might agree? call me if you do? haha :)

[LayzeeNpRoUd]

Being honest is the best way to go. Even if you've been turned down, if your love is genuine, the other person will eventually come to appreciate it. Also, if your love is genuine, you shouldn't be discouraged by the fact that you've been rejected. It takes true love to be able to say, oh, even though I've been rejected, it's okay because I want so-and-so to be happy, because their happiness makes me happy. Love unconditionally like a mother does her child, don't expect anything in return. :D

[DanixTenn1s]

is it possible for peoples feelings to change??

[glutaminepowder]

to get out the friedn zone u need to get her super drunk while you are drunk as well then tell her " listen lets cut the bullshit here " then whip your cock out. and she will jump on it like an animal. trust me.

[spinnerman247]

Dear Arden,

the person ive been inlove with is also my bestfriend. i watched this video. I decided to tell her yesterday how i felt abour her. I was friendzoned with the dreadful words of "we can still be friends".... my friend said not to give up and show her that i want her to like me. Do you think it would work?

Sincerely,

a fellow fan

[dawtcin]

Ask Arden: #3 : How do you get out of a rough relationship?

Confused

[endwarler]

man, i miss being single. so many range of emotions, makes you feel alive!

[godzilla101188]

@XXX7301, uhh dude what kind of question is that. Every person is different giving timing different fir each girl. To ask one out, u aim more for how you feel, a form of instinct. And nothing is perfect because love ain't perfect. If anything I wuld ask if love is the acceptance of who they are, should one still change and give up things in their life for the other person.

[MrToyum]

Arden please marry me :)

[Purplekngz]

@MrToyum I don't think so buddy, unless you want David So to hunt you down XD

[Shopacholic0428]

When would be the best time to tell your crush that you like them? :(

[SwTJoEPiNoY408]

yup... i will forever b stuck in the friend zone...

[MrBananamatic]

I love your sincerity and openness.

Being in "The Friend Zone" is being in an unhealthy place. The Friended probably approached the relationship incorrectly from the start. However, "just accepting it" and hoping for a future opportunity does not resolve the issue,

Checking 'The Source(s)' of knowledge and wisdom:

Wikipedia: "Friend Zone"

Urban Dictionary: "Friend Zone"

Great neutral, third party, definitions and advice. This is definately not a gender neutral topic.

[hammersmith2010]

being honest and straight forward is good advise i guess...

but the friend zone is some where you never want to be

unless you really want to just be friends...

very unlikely that ppl can still stay friends after feelings have been expressed...

it would most likely be a one sided friendship... ppl can move on... but the relationship would not be the same.... (not saying its not possible... just saying its unlikely...)

[MrBananamatic]

Trying to think of something really clever to say... check back later, just in case I come up with something.

[Mrspieapplepie]

I'm really sorry but I just need to say that when she talks she just keeps looking somewhere else. It's kinda hard for me to concentrate on any of the advice when I'm just stuck wondering "What is she looking at?!?". However really good advice when I clicked play and closed my eyes this time :)

[JaeMinChun1]

imm to just shy to sigh...lol

[tonykung20]

This is a great video Arden!

[maylovesnarwhals]

15 dislikes? This is good advice!!!!!!!!

[maylovesnarwhals]

u should have told this to kevjumba lol

[ohnoudidntSNAP]

@maylovesnarwhals you're referring to the 'friend zone' video he made with JAMIE CHUNG, yes? i don't know if like many others you confuse these two too but this is Arden, that's Jamie.

[trangttuong1]

Dear Arden: Got dumped with a p/s:" please, still be a friend!" Heart broken yet madly in love, now what?

[BlackFlashDrive]

0:13 SOMEBODY is in the friendzone...

[FanTACKsic]

Looks like I'm stuck in the 'subscriber-zone'.

[PointerRyan]

lmao so you've been attracted to people for their perosnailty and not their looks? DAVIDSO anyone? :D

[babyb0ogwen]

@PointerRyan

David So is Cute! How dare you..

[Briguy1027]

I want to be in Arden's Friendzone *wink wink*

[leong162]

Ask Arden #3: Is there something common that girls look for in guys?

My theory is that girls look for maturity, that's why they date guys older than them to find somebody more mature... but what if you're that guy that's been stuck at the age of 5 after all these years? #foreveralone? LOL

[KaseyLullaby]

okay, advice noted..so when should we meet?

[ridiguluz]

thanks Arden :)

[asianshortieo7]

ask arden #3: thoughts on dating someone your parents/grandparents don't approve of? not because of their personality but because of something they can't help - for example, their race or how much money their parents make. (in my case, their race!)

[XXX7301]

@movifreek

I'm really happy that my comment has this many likes for the first time:) Hope it will be answered, check out my channel guys if you have time:) it's comedy vids!

[movifreek]

must say this is true; tough to accept sometimes (had that happen to me) but hey it turned out for the best :D

[NeeNerzifee]

Do you have a religion? And if not are you interested in it?

[ilyTiffanyXOXO]

@NeeNerzifee Shes wearing a cross....

[LtotheIce]

Or you can just pull out your penis. 

[customcruise]

Hello, How do you ask a girl like you for a date ?

customcruise x

[republicfalcon]

"But at least you're a friend...."

I'd rather not be a friend than go through the torture of being so close yet so far away.

[Walysonnaves]

Ask Arden: #3: How do I get out of the FANzone? Having a really hard time here.

[boybibimbap]

worst advice ever...

[kayzeechu]

Yeaa I think my 'he' needa cool down a little bit cause his intension is way to obvious.. hope his will read this lol

[bmoney869]

great vid arden!

[officialandrea71]

Ask Arden: Do you think its okay to be friends with your ex again?

[lotzatron]

You are beautiful. I wish there were more people like you in the world. Honest and compassionate.

[Jessluv7]

your hair *0*

[tofucyborg]

horrible advice. just be mean and funny

[Neji4681]

Ask Arden#3 How do I get you to have dinner with me?

[Szekler11]

@Neji4681 become rich and famous, than ask her out

[AnonymousFLo]

You look a lot like Jamie Chung

[kowq2]

Hey Arden, Will you ever make an official version of Love Divine? I love that song!

[freestylr04]

He Arden, what's your stand on dating you're bestfriend's ex? ^^

[theazn07]

@freestylr04 DON'T! that's an unspoken rule...

[REGNARTS00]

Hey Arden: How do I get stuck in your friend zone?

[joycee532love]

Ask Arden: What does beauty mean to you? =)

[kris2flip]

Ask Arden: How do you deal with stress that is always growing??? And how can you get over your ex?

[KennyLeung2011]

EVERYONE!*** ARDEN'S ENGAGED! LOOK AT HER FOURTH FINGER. LIKE THIS POST SO EVERYONE ELSE CAN SEE. 2:55

[allenson4]

@KennyLeung2011 that's her right hand.....

[pinkcray0n]

@KennyLeung2011 She said she was single a few recent videos back. You can wear a ring on that finger doesn't always signify that you are engaged or married..

[msanimeluver0926]

Ask Arden: Your makeup/hair routine? :D

[msanimeluver0926]

I ask Arden.. : Any tips on how to start a convo? Whether it be with a guy I like or just trying to make new friends? I'm a super shy person (at times) and then I could super .. noicy (around ppl I know..). Thanks(:

[lettyliu01]

press 4 over and over and it will fart lol

not mean way =]

[Rilakkumaland]

She seems to be talking about David So. :D

[VDroid711]

2:40 IS SHE REFERING TO DAVID SO? :D

[swamidude]

Crap today it's 5 year ago that I met her, so a bit late.... :p But she already knows, the problem was actually that she had a relationship and it was 3.5 years later before she was single again and we where already close friends.. Doesn't really matter now, the friendzone isn't that bad, but back then it was like hell and still you can't help wondering what if...

[ch0ngy]

Thank you Arden its nice to hear what you just said. Its funny cuz i was having that same conversation with my coworkers. Hearing you explain it makes a lot of sense and shows how much you know yourself as well as others. Good job and keep it up and hope you find someone who understands you as much as you understand them one day. Dont ever feel lost because no one understands. As long as you understand them. :)

[Sinzblade]

Is this David So a christian too?

[MrBananamatic]

Too much effort. I'll try sending a link to your video and see how that works.

[touchblue13]

that was the best advice anyone could give on a topic like that. not surprised it came from arden!

[kaynedavis]

I am the king of getting friend zoned, thank God for roofies.

[RYANMOW]

omg u are so attractive....

[XXX7301]

Ask Arden: #3 When will be the perfect time to ask your crush for a date? :)

[movifreek]

@XXX7301

+100000000000!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!­!

[crueltyvictim]

Arden is clearly a good advisor! <3

[zpalqmxoskwn]

HAHA maybe this video is directed to David So!! :p

[yohanimo]

ask arden: how bout if the friend i like already had a boyfriend? should i still be honest and tell her that i love her? pls answer this arden, i will really appreciate it. thanks :)

[chaumiien]

david so has confidence

[Icecreamconification]

Ask Arden: Would you be able to show us your hair routine (ie in the mornings) :D

[poopieLSY]

how do you initiate a conversation with someone you dont know?

[tanj19]

@poopieLSY Just say HI! Confidence is key, seriously, I do it all the time and I get lots of friends this way :P And I know you didn't ask me.. sorry XD

[porkboii]

Why are people pouring their feelings into youtube comments?

[ragemydream]

@porkboii especially to Arden....

[tankzar]

How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck would chuck wood, Arden?

[wondergurl727]

really good advice :)

[WJNEWTON1]

It's funny every time i liked a girl she wasn't interested in me.

Then, when i'm over them they told me they liked me...

Man girls confuse me >.<

[peterrpham]

sighh... i wish she would understand.

[st3vielypi3]

arden do you think i'm attractive :D

[haschung]

2:45 are you talking about David So? I personally think he's good looking ;D

[baeksi34]

GET DRUNK AND TELL THE TRUTH

if it doesnt work out

DRINK SOME MORE AND FORGET ABOUT IT

[aznboitop93]

How about being taking a break, and trying to get back together? because it feels weird =/

[canadianhakka]

acceptance is important, good point arden!

Question: how do you deal with bad break-ups?

THANKS :)

[brucebalderas]

arden it's so hard to say to that girl I LIKE because last time i told a girl that I like her she didn't talk to me until now

[glitterattio]

Stop making up rumors....David So hasn't said anything about liking Arden more than a friend or anything. -___- He supports Arden because he is more popular on Youtube and can bring more viewers to her...not neccessarily because he likes Arden....

[uxot]

That moment when you dont to try to approach a girl cuz of friendzone or other hurting feelings,feels bad man.... "friendzone because ur supposed to be friends" guys dont work like this sorry.if i get friendszoned by the girl of my dream (or so) the feeling is that i want a bullet to my head or almost,mostly for unlucky guys like me that lives on another planet,Forever Alone

[ddoubleyyou]

I guess David So is just supposed to be in the friend zone poor David... :(

[leesungjun]

ARDEN!!!! 당신을 굉장히 사랑합니다... Can i friend zone you if we dont work out =D

[kevin4free]

@leesungjun wow. you obviously translated that lol..

[leesungjun]

@kevin4free just using proper old school korean... i could just be like... 너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무너무­너무너무사랑해...

[kevin4free]

@leesungjun bud, i know ur not korean. get over it noone talks like that especially on the internet

[ILoveTNTFireworks]

Arden, I'M READY!!!

[ILoveTNTFireworks]

you said it right Arden.

[superannyliu]

Ask Arden # 3

How to get over a guy who rejected you?

[henryz0r]

@superannyliu move on. simple.

if he rejects you, then it's his lost. if you're gonna sit there and be sad, nothing's gonna change. it's up to you to move on and talk to other guys.

[calzoee]

i wasn't going to watch this because i've heard enough about the friend zone, but i ended up still watching it. well said, Arden!

[jamiekang]

Ask Arden #3: I, like a lot of other teenage girls, am very insecure about myself. Any advice on how to get out of this shlump? Do you get insecure? How do you deal with it?

[bobberman09]

Ask Arden: #3 What do you think of Papa Jumba?

[JRCrowley]

Let's hear you play that guitar, cutie :)

[irferf]

How do you know someone is interested in you or likes you?

[TheBlazinfury]

Ask Arden: #3 How do you know the right time to makeout with a girl thats into you?

[briannaecho]

Older sister advice <3

[TheDaniSaki]

How do you know if a girl likes you

This is no help...only talking about how girls take advantage of ni