narcissistic personality disorder part 3 www.menwhoareabused.com

[jjames93fly]

i really do need help. i have this disorder

[LainOutOnTheFloor]

I see Part 4 coming up, where are parts 1 and 2? Because everything you've said here is TRUE!!!!!

[ainanor]

Oh my God this is everything I have experienced............

[ked1107]

@begood4000 once a narcissist is diagnosed, what do they do? They can never have communication or get married or have kids. Can narcissism be prevented?

[begood4000]

@ked1107 narcissism is rarely diagnosed because the person that might have it rarely if ever will go to the doctor.

[ked1107]

@begood4000 it really isn't good. I could go live with my older brother though. Also what is the most dangerous type of nArcissists?

[begood4000]

@ked1107 narcissist in general are toxic, but the only one that can diagnose them is a true doctor.

[ked1107]

@begood4000 thank you for replying:) and taking the time to make this. I could not get the comment directly to you because I am on my phone. I am a 15 year old girl and I think my dad might be a narcissist. I can't leave because I am only 15

[begood4000]

@ked1107 sorry to hear that. I can not directly give advice to someone that is a minor. Hopefully someone you know that is an adult can help you out. I hope you understand.

[ked1107]

What would happen if two narcissists were in a relationship? Please answer this

[begood4000]

@ked1107 they more than likely will have a very dysfunctional, volatile relationship because they are always plotting against each other.

[charkee1]

I was married to one for 22 years. I finally figured out it does no good to talk to them. I ignored her for the last year. She could no longer control me, therefore she divorced me. I had no idea how great it feels to be rid of this monster.

[begood4000]

@charkee1 I'm so glad you are free

[Nelson10125]

No wonder how hard I explained my views are non-sense to them and really it is pointless to argue with them.

[Bronwardie]

thanks for all your time on making your vid.

[begood4000]

@Bronwardie you are very welcome. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

[lovely9161]

Thank you so much for sharing these videos!! I didn't know what was wrong with my relationship until i saw this. My narcisist left me for someone else and just came back to try and get me back. I totally love him and want to go for it, but I know what's going to happen. I just can't do it anymore. Should we even try to be their friend? This person left me for a narcisicist and got a taste of their own medicine and now plays the victim. :(

[begood4000]

@lovely9161 these people have the same capacity for friendship as they do for dating relationships. They only see people as objects to be used and munipulated. Even if you were friends, I can see them being sweet and nice for a while. Only to use your kindness as a way to munipulate you into more drama. I wouldn't do it, but that's just me.

[BringBack500s]

Excellent series James thx.

Your website is also very worthwhile reading, concise and informative.

Get educated men, learn about:

Gaslighting.

Projection.

Narc supply and rage.

How to get them out of your life, permanently.

How to get strong and healthy, emotionally and physically.

If you stay around a narc for long enough you may need to work hard to undo the toxic patterning, do these hard yards please, you will become fully human again.

Remember you may have male narcs in your life too.

[begood4000]

@BringBack500s thank you and you are absolutely correct. Narcs are every where. They can be your male buddys ,or a woman's female friends, or your spouse. That's why it's imortant to know the red flags and be able to keep these people at arms length completely out of ones life is possible. Yes the work to undo the harms these types do is major. I'm glad you like my site and channel. I really appreciate it.

[SaintsWillMarch]

This [is] my x girlfriend.

[begood4000]

@SaintsWillMarch I'm glad she's an ex.

[madcell]

these videos have been extremely enlightening. thankyou for making them!

[begood4000]

@madcell yw. and thank you for watching them and finding they have value. I really am glad you find them enlightening. Please share them with everyone you think that might need them.

[ayemaya75]

EXCELLENT!!! It sounded like you were describing my relationship to a "T". Thank you very much for creating and producing this!

[begood4000]

@ayemaya75 thanks so much for finding my video of having value.

[imstricken06]

jesus, where the fuck where these video's years ago?

[begood4000]

@imstricken06 thanks for checking out my videos and channel. I'm glad you like them and see them helpful.

[niverent]

I think its important to add that narcissists are completely unware that they are gaslighting or projecting.

[ANANTASky]

Very helpful for a recent experience with someone.

[begood4000]

@ANANTASky thanks so much for watching and finding it useful

[fellacutie]

A little knowledge is a dangerous thing. @begood4000 seems to be confusing NPD with Borderline Personality Disorder. Don't listen to anyone who is not a licensed psychologist. Why does this so called "expert" here keep getting into relationships with these so called Narcissists? I call BS.

[begood4000]

@fellacutie If you heard the begining of this video you would notice I stated that I'm not a DR. Also any DR will tell you that you have to use good judgement in dealing with such people. Such as looking for common red flags. Why ? Because these people (narcissists and borderlines) rarely if ever seek professional help. All I'm doing is helping others see if they've been treated this way it's wrong and there are things they can do to help themselves. I do also recommend victims to seek therapy.

[MrMindShifter]

@fellacutie "I call BS"? What a stupid little packaged saying. Just shows you have no thoughts of your own. btw, He stated he was not an expert nor a Dr. So if you don't like it, go somewhere else.

[toscadonna]

This is just like my ex-boyfriend, and I think he "caught it" from his mother. Ugh.

[DonnaUtubefan]

I know someone like this as soon as I figured it out

I ran far from the nutcase

to bad she still marred to my brother

[blueguise23]

Yes, they do know what the truth is. They believe that your staying with them proves you as a pathetic worthless person. They de-value you in their minds. They are flipped upside-down in the thinking process. They take all acts of kindness as weakness. I have also seen one that will "cower" in the face of a domineering woman...to the point of being pathetic, but will bully the heck out of his spouse. He will lessen the actions of anyone who bullies him, and loathes the kindness from his spouse.

[begood4000]

@blueguise23 you are so correct in this is how they act.

[Renathra]

My mom has this and she was so terribly abusive to my sis and I as kids. Took many years to get over. Glad to see some info on this thanks!

[begood4000]

@Renathra Your welcome. Besides my ex having this, my mother does have it too. So, I can identify. Thanks so much for watching my videos and commenting. I'm glad the healing process is going well for you and your sister.

[ruby2411]

I laughed so hard because what you have said has hit the nail on the head with what I had gone through being subjected to a narcissist (ex-partner) . I am so happy to hear all the things you have said that it made so much sense and has freed up my past pain. The pain of not knowing what had happened and blaming myself . When you said gaslighting, it all made sense to me. Thank you so much. I also noticed my mother has been doing it all her life.

[begood4000]

@ruby2411 yw and thank you so much for your kind words. I'm glad these video were a help you found the info good. Yes, gaslighthing sucks because it can make the victim feeling they're the crazy one. It is freeing to find out it wasn't our fault. Have a good one.

[ruby2411]

I laughed so hard because what you have said has hit the nail on the head with what I had gone through being subjected to a narcissist (ex-partner) . I am so happy to hear all the things you have said that it made so much sense and has freed up my past pain. The pain of not knowing what had happened and blaming myself . When you said gaslighting, it all made sense to me. Thank you so much.

[terryraypeck]

Wow. Thank you for posting this. I was in a 12 year relationship with a narcissist. The only thing that came out good in our relationship was our children. I began exploring NPD 3 years ago to help manage myself since we still share custody of our kids. Whats difficult is the gaslighting and projection from my ex to our kids. It has really injured all three of them. I wish there was some way that this emotional abuse could help out in court. I have documented her actions and their impact.

[begood4000]

@terryraypeck yw, and I'm glad you found the video useful. Yes the gas lighting with the children by the ex can be extremely damaging. It might be useful to speak to an attorney to find out when in your state a child can choose where they want to live. Maybe they might choose to live with you an a more healthy situation if they have that choice. Also therapy is something I highly recommend due to the damage this can cause. It's truely a hard situation to be in.

[maidwithluv]

god, living with a narcissistic stepdad does things to you. I hope I don't become someone who abuses.

[begood4000]

@maidwithluv best thing is to seek counseling early to not repeat the cycle.

[chrisman737]

Gaslighting -- my sister does this, too. When I finally had the courage to confront her with her yelling, and even detailed instances over the course of years where she yelled at me for no reason, she simply answered that I was being disruptive, and that I need to cooperate with her. She has never, ever acknowledged that she has yelled at me -- she has never even used the word `yell``, she has never even denied her yelling. She simply acts like it never happened.

[begood4000]

@chrisman737 Gaslighting is another tool in their tool belt they use on a regular basis to keep you off kilter..

[fawnknudsen]

I lived with a narcissist roommate. I had to get away. He was never responsible for anything, it was always me, according to him. He would say sarcastic and abusive things and I would get angry and he would laugh. It was the only time in my life when I actually wanted to pummel someone into the ground. So I calmed down and learned how to talk to him. In the end I would just walk away during his manic/sarcastic episodes that "I" was responsible for. Never again. Stay away from these people.

[begood4000]

@fawnknudsen living with such a person can be a horrible ordeal as you just described. I'm glad you're keeping clear of these type of people.... they are emotional vampires...

[sarahgwenable]

What you explain is just so right, I can`t get over it ;-). The first narcissistic partner I`ve been with, for seven years, at a young age, used to abuse me mostly mentaly sometimes he was physical abusive as well (it wasn`t to bad, after a while I was wishing that he would rather, hit, bite or rape me, instead of breaking me from the inside), I had great trouble dealing with this, always thought, I couldn`t leave him, because I saw a very beautiful, sensitive person in him as well, that needed

[armandgetagun]

Maybe your "lots of experience" results that way because you were also. Usually both parties are both this way and then it turns in to a War of Roses. I can see that narcissist attract each other, (or because the whole country is this way, it seems that way.). Nationalism is narcissistic also.

Taoist Zen Buddhism seems the only healing process for humanity.

[begood4000]

@armandgetagun hey there. thanks for the comments. Actually someone like me would be considered co-dependent. Basically co-dependents try to see the best in and help these people out to their own fault. What helps this is to recognize the red flags of a toxic individual and develop healthy boundries to not deal with such a person... because Narcissist also seek out co-dependents as they see them as good victims.

[gypsy1961]

I'm concerned about my son. I'm sure if he landed in the hospital she'd just go find someone else because he wouldn't be around to give her money. When my daughter was in the hospital, loosing her baby, my son got in an accident driving to the hospital. While he and my other son were being checked out at the hospital, the D-I-L called screaming at him for not being at work making money! Cold!

[apolloex00]

Your videos are soooo helpful. Makes me feel relieved that you given examples that are very accurate. esp the begining with gifts, being very nice, and later they show their true colors. If you can answer my question. do they use methods against you such as, " I bought/did all these nice things for you and you're treating me like this?" i didn't do anything wrong or had knowledge, she wanted me to mind read her and she would atk me with things like "people who have common sense would know this!"

[badgirlloulou77]

me ex used to gaslight and project all the time!

[edwardtang1977]

hi How many "enemies" can they take on at once? I feel like the archenemy!

They constantly step on the line and cross it a little bit....I find them stupid and annoying..they have no idea everyone knows how they are....have you tried confronting them?

very good videos...liberating just listening to it

[begood4000]

Hello edwardtang1977. My experience with confronting them makes them go in to revenge mode, and on a smeer campaign. Because "some" not all but "some" are very skilled liars they can at least get a some people to beleive their lies. The best thing I've found is either "trick" them away from you and keep your distance there after. Or if you aren't in a long term relationship with them to just walk away and stay away.

[mrglenn2166]

this is exactly the life i was trapped in. you could not have described my life any better. it is interesting that the behaviour is not similar, it is identical in all these women

[begood4000]

mrglenn2166... yes I felt the same thing when I read about others problems on different sites. I thought I was the only one this was happening to.  I soon found out I wasn't alone. Living like this was the most difficult thing I've done ever... i don't wish this on anyone.

[jirahnissi219]

@begood4000 I want to thank you for putting up these videos. My ex-boyfriend has this and is in denial because in his mind he's a great man. People like this make you feel like the walking dead.

[aaaflooddrying]

You could not described my life any better than if you had led it for me. I thought i was the one who was crazy. It is so freeing to know that i am not the only one. I need help.

[begood4000]

I think we all at one time or another thought we were alone. The more this problem is know the more we can help each other so this doesn't happen again.

[walkaboutwithme]

I agree with 95% of what you are saying but if you referance a text on psychodynamics/psychoanalysis you will see that people with NPD have little to no selfawareness! Most of us can step back and examine something we did or said or our defensive/reactive patterns but not those with NPD.

[begood4000]

thanks walkaboutwithme for the commet. True these people with NPD aren't aware they have a problem. However, they are aware they are scamming people. They see themselves as cunning, and smart. If they find a willing target they see them as week and dumb. So they aren't aware of their problem persay, but they are aware of their dishonesty to a degree.

[begood4000]

the other thing to keep in mind is though they are aware of the dishonestly, cunning behavior, and lying. They aren't aware of it's devistation to the person they do it to. Reason being they have no way of feeling another pain. So, there for the pain doesn't exist and they aren't awarea. So they spend their lives scamming people knowing it's wrong but not being aware of it's damage, nor caring.

[edwardtang1977]

@begood4000 that is why I consider them evil.

[walkaboutwithme]

Wow! Thank you once again for taking the time to put together this information. I would give it 10 stars if I could. Our brothers (and sisters) out there in the world of dating and relationships need to become aware of NPD.

[begood4000]

thanks for the good words on the vid...and any help you can do by spreading the word !

[winstondinesh]

Begood4000, It is one of the best videos I have seen. To be very honest, it is generally much better than than most (in fact, one of the best). Thank you for taking the time & effort in putting it together. :)

[begood4000]

anytime ! I'm currently working on more vids to release very soon !

[begood4000]

Thanks winstondinesh for the kinda words and I'm please you like the vid good and useful... Thanks so much.

[winstondinesh]

These people are not comfortable under their own skin. That's why they have to make others feel bad about themselves. They just want to drag you down to their level of misery.

[begood4000]

yes winstondinesh you are correct. Their self esteem is so low they have to tear you down to their level to feel good .. the problem is they never feel good so they keep destroying the person that's closest around them because it's all they know how to do.... these people are truely sick and their treatment is destructive.

[KillerAngel47]

If I ask her what the hell are you laughing at? she would just laugh at me some more (as if Im totally insane) and say I wasnt laughing at you!. She tries the whole projection thing a lot too. She often tries to convince me that Im the cruel and selfish one! Well sis, I wised up to that one a LONG time ago, long before I learnt about narcissism. Thanx for the upload! XD

[KillerAngel47]

It's so annoying that narcissists try the gas lighting tactic on you about something that happened 20 seconds ago! My sister often laughs at me like Im a complete freak over everyday and normal things that noone else will find remotely amusing (she even laughed at me about how I made myself a cup of coffee! Something about me having such a look of concentration on my face while I was simply being careful not to spill milk everywhere coz I just opened the bottle and it was completely full!).

[begood4000]

hey killerangel47... one thing i found NPD do as you described is laughing or smiling at things that don't make sense. Such as you making coffee... or it can be something else such as you in pain or showing how what they are doing is affecting you. I've had this happen to me.. I would share how I feel and she would be standing there with a grin... sick sick sick... watch out guys.

[4thtroika]

At the factory me and my so-called wife worked at, I hit my head on a machine and had to be taken to the nurse's station. They told her I 'd been injured. She came into the station to see me and she had this big smile on her face like she was about to burst out laughing.

[KillerAngel47]

Yeah, they're a bunch of total freaks! :-(