Strange as it may seem not all universities and colleges have actual rules with teeth in(consequences) them about sexual relationships with students. In fact until the feminist project made a case against the power inequity in this sort of exchange, too many male professors thought of it as one of the "perks" of their careers, tenuous without tenure, often low paying work,,,some thought why not? It is all about power! Broach the topic with the EOE officer, or the director of Women's Studies.
Strange as it may seem not all universities and colleges have actual rules with teeth in(consequences) them about sexual relationships with students. In fact until the feminist project made a case against the power inequity in this sort of exchange, too many male professors thought of it as one of the "perks" of their careers, tenuous without tenure, often low paying work,,,some thought why not? It is all about power!
Fraternize is the word you were looking for Diva. No fraternization policies are a big deal at a lot of work places, and student-teacher relationships are a NO NO at ANY INSTITUTION. He is out of line! And I don't think this was his first time trying to date a student cuz he was just forthcoming with his feelings.
Hey Girl, I accidentally clicked onto ur video and watched a few,, luved it, luved it, ur so natural in front of the camera. Anyway I was wondering if ur girl had been giving the professor the wrong message, as women we use what we have to benefit ourselves. There is a big age gap but there are girld in their 20's that love older mnature men, they are already established and financially secure (not that I am condoning his actions). She needs to nip it in the bud before it goes too far....
Yea, I think she should be straight forward and tell him how she feels. If possible tranfer out of his classes, indeed keep a copy of the e-mail in case of trouble.
Unless dinner is code word for assignment please do refrain from emailing me again- as a proffesor you should lead by example and know that it is highly innapropriate to try and solicit your students as it is unfair on the other students and damages the teacher/student respect that already exists- I will be forwarding your email to your wife and all other members of staff- HOWEVER bump my assignment up to an A and we can forget this ever happened,
What she needs to do is write down ALL the dates in which he has been doing this with full description of what he is wearing etc so that when she presents it to her school board they will be forced to take her seriously.
The dirty proffesor needs to stop giving his students the looks and start teaching them the books. you know
I had a professor like that, always had this weird vibe.. a lot of staring and smiling. THen I notice he had tons of female groupies. It was weird, hes like short, in his 50... I guess its his personality. I think he reels females in just to prove he still got it.
She need to email the professor and let him know he's making her feel very uncomfortable and she do not see him in the same light as he see her. Like April said be professional, respectful and handle it with dignity. She should also print the email with her response as well, so if the shit hit the fan, she has proof.
She should keep the emails, tell a friend (so she can have someone to corroborate her story if necessary), and keep everything professional. She doesn't need to be alone with him and even after grades come out she still needs to stay away. As a woman, you have to work harder than men, and you don't want a relationship with a college professor coming up in your future career. Stay away and keep it moving. He is reckless and you don't want to be anywhere near the scandal when it blows up.
uh, yea! he wants some azz and control. if he had any good intentions, he would have came at her when the class was over. i agree with the person who said that he already acting like ya'll got something to hide. April is right, print out that e-mail and directly & professionally tell him no, that situation is too messy! i know im late, but somebody in the same situation might be looking at this video so i wanted to add my two cents!
She needs to at least hold off on any kind of personal contact until her class is over with him. that way she can make sure her grades dont get affected negatively. She does need to keep things professional and keep copies of all the emails, letting him know that she is busy or whatever and that once class ends then maybe they can conversate. he may honestly be interested in her and doesnt have an ulterior motive but he needs to do it the right way...
There is not an ethical issue to be raised. He was respectful in his approach to her. Just because a man ask you out to dinner, it is not always a prelude to sex. People go to lunch or dinner to get better acquainted with each other. These are adults and adults interact with one another-to varies degrees on university campuses. Yes, you are there to obtain your degree-but that time is also for socializing with a myriad of individuals on a multitude of degrees and levels.
As a matter-of-fact-yes, I am right. Lakishia, (Love the name) you are of the opinion that everything time a man interacts with you, the end game is sex? Are you speaking from experience? Is this what you and your girlfriends go through?
I agree with you April. Trisha should save that email he sent to her and she should respond to his email in a professional manner. She should not get involved with dating him. If she notices that her grades are dropping or any other usual things going on then she should report that to the dean. I am a college student myself so I believe that it is best to treat college as a business.
I really do not like that the prof. said he had to act a certain way in front of the other people in the hallway, as if she and the professor already have some little secret they have to hide. WTF? is he dreaming? Very manipulative. Say "no thank you" and steer clear!
tell him to wait until after the class is over because you don't want to deal with that while you guys have a teacher-student relationship. then dead him after you get your A.
Good advice April, you should keep us updated on this situation. I really wanna know how everything goes down. I remember having a HUGE crush on my academic professor in college, that man know he was FINE and VERY attractive. We flirted a LOT but it never went anywhere (unfortunately...lol). At the time I was 23 and he was 28, so the age difference wasn't bad at all.
I would say to make sure you are not giving missed signals. Your smiling back at him could have made him think more was going on. Confront him and let him know that you are not interested in anything that doesnt concern your education. He should understand. I dont think he would try to treat you any differently from other students if you are honest with him on how you feel. By all means, do not date him, you will be giving him too much control.
Hi diva. I like those curls. April, you are right. Keep it professional at all times. Send him an email acknowledging who he is so that it will be no question if she has to use it as evidence in a complaint. Send the email and make it clear to him but put in detail so that you can use that as evidence. Then if he gives you a hard time you can use as evidence.
In appropriate behavior he should know better... it is all about sex with this professor, he wants a young thang, he proberly married and not happy, but that should not be her problem.
leave your hair alone. i would not mix business with pleasure. get your education and damn the professor. he need to keep it professional. she need to check him.
Report him to the dept chair. I have never had a professor like that. Ole freaky professor, he probably get down with tons of students because I know people who have sexed their teacher. Or you can just ignore the email and if he keeps sending them, then report him. He is jeopardizing his job he is nuts!
I agree that she should print out his e-mail, but I also believe that she should print out her response to his e-mail just to cover herself also. You are on the money Diva!!! Keep doing the thing.
u said what i was thinking, print the e-mail and all e-mails that he my send.. because i am almost sure he will e-mail again.. and if it becomes to be too much switch classes, you should always keep it professional @ work, school, etc..e-mail him back but be nice and also keep dates & times..etc.. I am so sick of teachers either in high school ,collage etc.. they are there to do Dam job not to flirt with the students, he needs to get some one his own age.. takecare and becareful ..god bless
Diva I think she should drop the class becuase he might try to fail her and its just an uncomfortable setting ... but she should definetly print it out
April by the way, love the hair curled. I have to say that I could not have put it better myself. By the time your vid was over with, everything you said I agreed with. I would state, "Dear Professor, I received your email in regards to dinner, since you are my professor, I would not feel comfortable going out to dinner with you and would prefer we keep this professional. If at any time you need to speak with me about my grades please do contact me". Please keep it short and to the point.
Great advice for her. She should definitely print out all convos where he is being forward with her, and have them on hand. If he crosses 1 more boundary though, I would report him. He is a teacher, and should be acting accordingly. She is there for a education and does not need to be harassed and stressed by him. Her reporting him might save another girl down the line he might prey upon!
April you gave her great advice. She definitely needs to print and save that email for evidence. She truly does not need to engage in anything beyond school-related things with this unprofessional professor. It is just a disaster waiting to happen. If he tries to get crazy or cross the line again, she needs to report him.
Id she prints it out and saves it in case he does start to give her bad grades....that could BACKFIRE on her because the school would probably say "well if you were offended or uncomfortable why didnt you report this immediately" why would u wait until he starts to change ur grades.
KEEP the email bc you may need it later if things get sticky. If you print it out make sure theres something on the print out that shows it came from him.
He is dumb as a professor and I would feel uncomfortable if I was in her shoes....She could easily report him and use that email as proof to get him in trouble, they're all grown so its not the typical teacher hitting on the student case but he could start to give her bad grades and treat her differently if she turns him down but as a teacher vs student he is WRONG is so many ways
yes I agree with khiema that she feels flattered and nothing bad towards him I just think we should keep our relationship just as student and teacher but thanks for the offer. Yes print it out and save it too on your pc. It COULD get ugly ya never know. Just keep your guard up now and eye open for strange behaviour on his part in the class too. It really sorta in a way disrespectful on his part to put you in this situation knowing as common sense you dont mixed student teacher even college.
I think she should tell him she is flatter by the offer to go out but you have to refuse. I don't feel it's appropriate to go out with you or any professor.
I was in a situation where a professor liked me and often made admiring comments.I didn't want to get involved with him and I don't think he wanted to either. Even if he wanted to I wouln't have dated my teacher or even a married man. but I did use it to my advantage to get a passing grade. no we did not have anything sexual or anything close to it, but he was sweet on me.
This is pretty self explanatory seeing as though I have been a college student and am still attending for an advanced degree. As the old cliche' goes you dont mix business with pleasure. She should keep it professional and stay focused on her studies. She should email him back to be professional since he is not doing that and let him know that she wants to keep it strictly professional and focus on the class. Save all emails if he starts acting shady that way you will have evidence also!
I agree ..Why is it that women want to protect the man ? He is in the wrong ..I f his behind was bad enuff to send an email ..he ought to be bad enuff to suffer the consequences. If she pauses for a minute she gives him power to manipulate the situation in his favor . He's done it before ,first red flag was his behaviour in the hall way if it were as innocent as he says he need not explain his actions and it suggest that he's been acting inappropiately
okeeyy.. if she didn´t respond. She could ignore it.. and just keep cool and smiling.. back.. .. like you´ve changed you email adres or somthing.... And then.. just start talking about `your boyfriend or boy you like `so he can hear it. So if he asks you about the email. Say. O u did.. i have a another email i changed it.. and i have a new one. havent been on the old one for a while.. But just ignore his ass and talk in his presence about another Boy::...! so he knows he doesnt have a chance!
I think she should lead him on. She should just keep smiling at him in the hall and etc. If she emails him back just say I would l prefer to wait until the class is over and we can see where things go. She need to see what he says in the next email. Then she will have at leas two emails.
This reminds me of the friends episode where Ross wants to date a student. The situation is definitely frowned upon. But then again weirder things happen! My advice: don't date him while your taking HIS classes. If you do decide to date him keep in mind that this might not be the first time he's dated students!
I disagree, it needs to be reported right now. It's not the student's job to deal with inappropriate behaviour of stupid unprofessional faculty. How lame is that, the guy is such a loser that he has to ask her on a date by email? the weasel doesn't have good judgment. I would go to the Dean right now. No first chances! I work in a University and I know (personally) they don't take no for an answer. The guy is completely bang out of order. Don't wait for retaliation, take action now.
I agree ..Why is it that women want to protect the man ? He is in the wrong ..I f his behind was bad enuff to send an email ..he ought to be bad enuff to suffer the consequences. If she pauses for a minute she gives him power to manipulate the situation in his favor . He's done it before ,first red flag was his behaviour in the hall way if it were as innocent as he says he need not explain his actions and it suggest that he's been acting inappropiately
I say try to ignore it and behave professionally. If he questions why you didn't reply, tell him that you don't feel comfortable in the situation as his student. Your main focus is on school & you wouldn't want to jepordize it, or make it seem like you didn't "earn" your grades. Turn it on yourself, so he doesn't feel rejected. Once class is over & you have your grade, if he makes an advance again, tell him you're just not feeling him. Save everything!
you are absolutely correct Sister Girl, if Sister Girl feels that the professor is stepping over his boundaries and it is starting to reflex into her grades and what nots, she would need to report him to the school board and so on. Its a touch touchy situation. your right APril about saving the email in case she needs it to back up her story when and if she has to report him. Good advice Sister Girl... Have a wonderful weekend... Smooches
DON'T DO IT! DON"T DO IT! Ignore it at first for akwardness sake. If he try it again, politely and professionally address it and YES SAVE EVERYTHING. If you have to address, in the most polite way possible, be clear and firm. Peace! OH and April, love ya Diva. U r my friend in my head. I feel like I know u. LOL!!!Keep up the great work. Peace & Blessings Diva!!!
Its sad....I ve been in the same shoes only that His wife and his Child work @ the same place and it didnt make him no nevermind ..he would find ways to be where I was...TO TOUCH ME and once he got a hold of my personel info.. he demanded to come over..it's scary.. I think you should have someone youre close to in class buddy up and have them to verify your teachers actions in class..keep your proof because it saved my job in the end cause he would write notes and I had my proof...
I would make it related to the grades/school work. "I would like it to keep our interactions to remain focused on my school work. I really enjoy your class and want to make sure that I remain focused" I would add something to this affect (after what you already recommended) because it makes it easier for the professor grasp (and it's true). His ego is going to be hurt and I would hate for the young lady's hard work in school to be compromised.
Whooo girl I can never have enough of you! I'm always looking for updates! Love the advice and she should really print both emails out just for her safety..You're a gem, get em girl!
my point is people are gonna find out and if he wants to get w/ you chances are your not the only one. like april says approach him like a student KEEP THAT EMAIL it may come in handy ;}!!!!!!!!!!
IGNORE HIM N DONT DO IT. i was in the same situation (sorta) from May-Sept i was dating my new boss(sneaking it from the owner and co-workers) and everything was good then he quit and moved and shortly i cut him off . turns out last week this girl calls my job and tells me HE GOT HER PREGNANT(!) and asked if i was seeing HER man! of course i SNITCHED on him but everyone at work found out about us and im so ashamed of dating my cheatin boss thats 13yrs older than me -_- got a bad rep now.
there are laws that schools have to follow when handling situations like this. the school needs to find out asap. hire a lawyer and sue him for sexual harrassment. he needs to be fired because he probably has done it to students in the past and will keep doing it.
Good ish girl! Save the e-mail, and let him know it's a no go. You said it best. And I noticed you don't smoke as much anymore! lol I aint have a problem with it, but I just noticed.
i don't get tired of you girl! I can't get enough. I'm on here everyday lookin' for updates. You should get your own talkshow or somethin' or be on that 'internet stars' thing
i agree 100% ALWAYS keep proof, bc you never know, things could turn ugly, he might be ok and understand after you let him down and things will probably be akward for a lil bit, but if he was a stand up guy and followed the rules, he wouldnt be approaching you in the first place, so somethings seems fishy to me, reminds me of lifetime movies that always go wrong lol, but yes i would email him back and save or dont delete anything!
Another thing diva, make sure to get written statements from others in your class that you trust that he asked for all of your personal email addresses because the Dean or whoever may start asking well why or how does he have your personal email address, so make sure you do that as well if you decide to report his ass.
Great advice I would have said the same thing. SAVE THAT E-MAIL!! He just busted his damn self. I would only report him if things start changing, he doesn't want to help you, bad grades, etc. But you be sure to be as friendly as possible in your response cause you WILL DAMAGE HIS EGO. But if you feel THAT uncomfortable about it go straight to the Dean of the department he teaches as well as the Dean of your major and report his ass with evidence in hand. And get a refund if you must withdraw
Those codes of conduct that exist in the university setting as well. Its clear that teacher/student relationships are a NO NO. But I would suggest you return his email and tell him that you dont feel comfortable with his advances and you want to keep it professional. Hopefully he understands and drops it. If he continues to pursue you, keep a record and be prepared. You may have to present the info to a higher authority. Hope it works out for you Diva. Let us know!
He needz to stop!! I'm not paying my tuition EVERY SEMESTER to have an affair with a damn professor!!! Of course she's not a little girl BUT if she'z not interested, then she'z just not interested. It just shows you how some ppl will use their "power" to gain thingz...even sex. I agree, she should print that email for "insurance" and let him know the deal professionally. Smh. I feel for her. Thank God my professors say I look mean LOL
Save the email. This way, no one can say your are lying. Report him immediately. The school is obligated by law to protect you no matter what. If you don't report him, you will only be helping him to hurt someone who does not desirve it. Good luck and God bless.
@5:55 Why should she CARE if he feels awkward with her response of not wanting to go to dinner with him? He makes her feel awkward EVERYDAY. She should keep it REAL, REPORT him and care LESS about his feelings. HE'S A PEDOPHILE and has probably propositioned and/or had sex with other girls in the school and just hasn't gotten caught YET. She's probably one of MANY young girls that he's asked out. THIS HAS TO STOP AND SHE MUST REPORT HIM BEFORE HE TRULY SCARS ONE OF THOSE YOUNG GIRLS FOR LIFE.
I agree with u. Keep the e-mail, be cordial and let him know how she feels. In a situation like this, I would email him instead of confronting him in person because the emails are documentation. If she is getting good grades now and the script flips after the fact and her grades go down then she'll know why.
So that Ms. College Diva remains feeling like a student and keep a relationship of student/professor she should email him back and say "oh thank you for the number i'm sure if i have any questions over class material i can def reach U, but i do have a special friend in my life and i'm not sure if my special friend would like if we took our student/professor relationship for more than what it is"...and she should also say i'm sorry if i came off in any other way than just a friendly student
oh LAWD! Dont do it!!!!!!!!! most ppl that old only want one thing from sum1 that young. AND she is probably not the1st one he tired to pull this mess on. TRUST ME!
He may have done this before and if things get crappy . eg extreme, negative feedback, unwanted attention report it!. Be professional with your response.
This is a trainwreck in the making
be carefull !!!!! He may have done this before!!! ps Diva good advice & cute curls!!
Good advice. She definitely needs to save all her documentation and let him know outright she is not interested. I hope he doesn't take it out on her and retaliates against her.
Great advice! Save the email...and tell the professor it's not a good idea to date. I like shawnise311's comment: "do the sandwich; good, bad, good." I love it!
I totally agree with you April and make sure you save those emails is vital!!! And please be careful if you are around him alone because you never know if he crazy and may try something just be safe honey please be safe!!! Besides he is your damn teacher he should know better than be pullin some mess like that!
I think she should save the email and then pull him to the side and ask him IN PERSON what exactly he meant by the email. If he start tripping talking about fucking with the grades, go report his ass and make sure u take the email with you. I wouldn't email him back simply because if yall end up in front of the dean, he WILL turn that shit around and make it look like u was leading him on or something.
Make sure you cover your ass... I already see this situation going in a bad direction.
Straight talk makes for straight understanding. Email him letting him know that you are not interested. This is way you have paper trail showing that his feelings toward are not mutual. Definitely do not ignore it because if you do decide to report him, he can always say that the 'relationship' was consensual. Be cordial in your response, and if it persists, report him.
I agree... save the email.. let him kno that u don't wanna take it there with him.. and if he acts funny with u after that.. then u might have to do what u gotta do.. trust me ur most likely not the first student he's tried this with...
I totally agree with you, Ms April. Definately save it and print a copy (just in case the email gets deleted by accident, you have proof.) What a nasty position for him to put you in Diva! Hugs!!
Hey Ms. April! i think u gave Trish really good advice. However, as a sophmore in college myself, she is in a really tough situation. if it were me, i may ignore the email and see if he pulls me aside to say something. then, i would respond over the weeked. i know this isnt the right thing to do becuase my mom would say the same thing you did. however, my mom isnt the one in the weird situation. Trish, whatever u decide, let him know that he is a great professor. do the sandwich; good, bad, good
cuz keepn her mouf shut is jus stringn his ass along and it culd only get worst...
aint nothing wrong with a little harmful flirtn cuz thats normal.. but wen u flip tha script and use sumbody's email for personal reasons (and u they fuckn teacher) u wayyyyyy out of fuckn line..
so she need ta put his ass back in place.. and if that dont wrk u can take that email he sent to the head office and they can deal with his ass....
This is tricky. It depends on how far she wants to take it. I just graduated from college and I would have to say if your going to report him make sure that you can get into another course. If you can report him, but be sure that you can get into another class. Remember teachers talk and once you open pandoras box you may have more than you bargained for. So try to add another class and just avoid him or if u r ready to report him then do so
I have a professor just like that, he gave us his cell number, email and had us give him the same.
Trish i would would start being a PI, and see if he is acting like that to other female students. And yes save that email cause if he was bold enough to come at you like that, he seems to be an ass and do some shade things to your grade.
Oh and if your college has a rate my professor, go see what others have been rating him.
Girl I had a Teacher's Assistant in college who would give me the 'eye'. Made me low key uncomfortable. Nothing ever came of it though and he didn't like harass me with it.
Look. I'd hit it, if he gives me a good grade.
NTonks1 17 hours ago
Strange as it may seem not all universities and colleges have actual rules with teeth in(consequences) them about sexual relationships with students. In fact until the feminist project made a case against the power inequity in this sort of exchange, too many male professors thought of it as one of the "perks" of their careers, tenuous without tenure, often low paying work,,,some thought why not? It is all about power! Broach the topic with the EOE officer, or the director of Women's Studies.
ebonywahine 7 months ago
Strange as it may seem not all universities and colleges have actual rules with teeth in(consequences) them about sexual relationships with students. In fact until the feminist project made a case against the power inequity in this sort of exchange, too many male professors thought of it as one of the "perks" of their careers, tenuous without tenure, often low paying work,,,some thought why not? It is all about power!
ebonywahine 7 months ago
Fraternize is the word you were looking for Diva. No fraternization policies are a big deal at a lot of work places, and student-teacher relationships are a NO NO at ANY INSTITUTION. He is out of line! And I don't think this was his first time trying to date a student cuz he was just forthcoming with his feelings.
crgcja 1 year ago
damn i wish this one professors would email me something like that....i looovvveeee a older men! id say go for it! IM PLAYIN....
0119alt 1 year ago
the personal email was a red flag lmao! none of my professors respond to personal email addresses, only student accounts.
priscille123 1 year ago
Hey Girl, I accidentally clicked onto ur video and watched a few,, luved it, luved it, ur so natural in front of the camera. Anyway I was wondering if ur girl had been giving the professor the wrong message, as women we use what we have to benefit ourselves. There is a big age gap but there are girld in their 20's that love older mnature men, they are already established and financially secure (not that I am condoning his actions). She needs to nip it in the bud before it goes too far....
ebonyladee 1 year ago
Bloody print the e-mail and give it to the police!
Lightbundence 1 year ago
Yea, I think she should be straight forward and tell him how she feels. If possible tranfer out of his classes, indeed keep a copy of the e-mail in case of trouble.
pritcute 2 years ago
"Dear Proffesor
Unless dinner is code word for assignment please do refrain from emailing me again- as a proffesor you should lead by example and know that it is highly innapropriate to try and solicit your students as it is unfair on the other students and damages the teacher/student respect that already exists- I will be forwarding your email to your wife and all other members of staff- HOWEVER bump my assignment up to an A and we can forget this ever happened,
kind regards
Trish"
houseofbenjamin1 2 years ago 29
@houseofbenjamin1 This was real talk!!
rihannawillowlover 1 year ago
What she needs to do is write down ALL the dates in which he has been doing this with full description of what he is wearing etc so that when she presents it to her school board they will be forced to take her seriously.
The dirty proffesor needs to stop giving his students the looks and start teaching them the books. you know
houseofbenjamin1 2 years ago
That professor probably does this every semester
I had a professor like that, always had this weird vibe.. a lot of staring and smiling. THen I notice he had tons of female groupies. It was weird, hes like short, in his 50... I guess its his personality. I think he reels females in just to prove he still got it.
Ellexis88 2 years ago
She need to email the professor and let him know he's making her feel very uncomfortable and she do not see him in the same light as he see her. Like April said be professional, respectful and handle it with dignity. She should also print the email with her response as well, so if the shit hit the fan, she has proof.
jaylin40 2 years ago
She should keep the emails, tell a friend (so she can have someone to corroborate her story if necessary), and keep everything professional. She doesn't need to be alone with him and even after grades come out she still needs to stay away. As a woman, you have to work harder than men, and you don't want a relationship with a college professor coming up in your future career. Stay away and keep it moving. He is reckless and you don't want to be anywhere near the scandal when it blows up.
SnapshotNTime84 2 years ago 4
uh, yea! he wants some azz and control. if he had any good intentions, he would have came at her when the class was over. i agree with the person who said that he already acting like ya'll got something to hide. April is right, print out that e-mail and directly & professionally tell him no, that situation is too messy! i know im late, but somebody in the same situation might be looking at this video so i wanted to add my two cents!
lovechrissmag 2 years ago 2
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hk11580 2 years ago
she needs to go to board of her school.
they will deal with it.
she shouldnt email him back or even speak with him.
ilovejayceon 2 years ago
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bunnyisafatfat 2 years ago
She needs to at least hold off on any kind of personal contact until her class is over with him. that way she can make sure her grades dont get affected negatively. She does need to keep things professional and keep copies of all the emails, letting him know that she is busy or whatever and that once class ends then maybe they can conversate. he may honestly be interested in her and doesnt have an ulterior motive but he needs to do it the right way...
SadiquaP 2 years ago 3
Hey Ms. April,
What wig is that in your intro, the crimpy curly one where you are looking up? Its gorgeous
Coretta23 2 years ago
There is not an ethical issue to be raised. He was respectful in his approach to her. Just because a man ask you out to dinner, it is not always a prelude to sex. People go to lunch or dinner to get better acquainted with each other. These are adults and adults interact with one another-to varies degrees on university campuses. Yes, you are there to obtain your degree-but that time is also for socializing with a myriad of individuals on a multitude of degrees and levels.
blazzwhizz71 2 years ago
yeah right....
Lakishia 2 years ago
As a matter-of-fact-yes, I am right. Lakishia, (Love the name) you are of the opinion that everything time a man interacts with you, the end game is sex? Are you speaking from experience? Is this what you and your girlfriends go through?
blazzwhizz71 2 years ago
Excuse the typo-on my conference period and doing too many things at once.
blazzwhizz71 2 years ago
I agree with you April. Trisha should save that email he sent to her and she should respond to his email in a professional manner. She should not get involved with dating him. If she notices that her grades are dropping or any other usual things going on then she should report that to the dean. I am a college student myself so I believe that it is best to treat college as a business.
jnellegirl 2 years ago 2
Your advice to her was absolutely correct.
sladariusc 2 years ago 11
totally make copies. not save on computer, really make a hard copy until you leave that school.
fedicia1 2 years ago 3
girl plz keep us updated on dis 1 i wanna kno da drama dats goin dwn..plz i begg
ownit143 2 years ago 3
I really do not like that the prof. said he had to act a certain way in front of the other people in the hallway, as if she and the professor already have some little secret they have to hide. WTF? is he dreaming? Very manipulative. Say "no thank you" and steer clear!
LydiaJoy82 2 years ago 2
tell him to wait until after the class is over because you don't want to deal with that while you guys have a teacher-student relationship. then dead him after you get your A.
onegreenenvy 2 years ago 4
Date him and get an A+!!! lol
brokensky84 2 years ago
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Honestly I wish one of my professors would come onto me. That would be really hot! As long as they weren't scary looking...
vikingaprinsessan 2 years ago
been there! she may need to xfer out of his class if it gets too awkward.
lfutrell82 2 years ago
April you are so on it he is a teacher and the school is for an education it is not a pick up place so what you told her is the best advice
58cocopuff 2 years ago
Good advice April, you should keep us updated on this situation. I really wanna know how everything goes down. I remember having a HUGE crush on my academic professor in college, that man know he was FINE and VERY attractive. We flirted a LOT but it never went anywhere (unfortunately...lol). At the time I was 23 and he was 28, so the age difference wasn't bad at all.
GeorgiaGirl678 2 years ago 3
I would say to make sure you are not giving missed signals. Your smiling back at him could have made him think more was going on. Confront him and let him know that you are not interested in anything that doesnt concern your education. He should understand. I dont think he would try to treat you any differently from other students if you are honest with him on how you feel. By all means, do not date him, you will be giving him too much control.
desirim 2 years ago
Hi diva. I like those curls. April, you are right. Keep it professional at all times. Send him an email acknowledging who he is so that it will be no question if she has to use it as evidence in a complaint. Send the email and make it clear to him but put in detail so that you can use that as evidence. Then if he gives you a hard time you can use as evidence.
shehasavoice2 2 years ago
In appropriate behavior he should know better... it is all about sex with this professor, he wants a young thang, he proberly married and not happy, but that should not be her problem.
iiiiixxxx 2 years ago
Great advice.
thyckshawtii 2 years ago
LMAO @ Ruler ! hahahahah
hourglas39 2 years ago
And NO, we never get tired of you Diva !
At least I don't!
I look forward to your videos :)
hourglas39 2 years ago
She should keep a copy of the email and save it as proof if needed at a later time.
Don't delete it at all. Save it on a disc.
Sounds like he is not keeping it professional. If it gets uncomfortable switch classes. Good advice too April.
ps - the hair looks cute curled.
hourglas39 2 years ago
leave your hair alone. i would not mix business with pleasure. get your education and damn the professor. he need to keep it professional. she need to check him.
greenrmytears 2 years ago
Report him to the dept chair. I have never had a professor like that. Ole freaky professor, he probably get down with tons of students because I know people who have sexed their teacher. Or you can just ignore the email and if he keeps sending them, then report him. He is jeopardizing his job he is nuts!
AtlantaAngel84 2 years ago
I agree that she should print out his e-mail, but I also believe that she should print out her response to his e-mail just to cover herself also. You are on the money Diva!!! Keep doing the thing.
1krzypraz 2 years ago 2
Great advice!
chisellecouture 2 years ago
u said what i was thinking, print the e-mail and all e-mails that he my send.. because i am almost sure he will e-mail again.. and if it becomes to be too much switch classes, you should always keep it professional @ work, school, etc..e-mail him back but be nice and also keep dates & times..etc.. I am so sick of teachers either in high school ,collage etc.. they are there to do Dam job not to flirt with the students, he needs to get some one his own age.. takecare and becareful ..god bless
ladyluv1000 2 years ago
Diva I think she should drop the class becuase he might try to fail her and its just an uncomfortable setting ... but she should definetly print it out
adoremedbeauty 2 years ago
I love your hair. I wish you did a tutorial on how you curled it.
NewYorkHeiress180 2 years ago
April by the way, love the hair curled. I have to say that I could not have put it better myself. By the time your vid was over with, everything you said I agreed with. I would state, "Dear Professor, I received your email in regards to dinner, since you are my professor, I would not feel comfortable going out to dinner with you and would prefer we keep this professional. If at any time you need to speak with me about my grades please do contact me". Please keep it short and to the point.
melbourne300 2 years ago
Great advice for her. She should definitely print out all convos where he is being forward with her, and have them on hand. If he crosses 1 more boundary though, I would report him. He is a teacher, and should be acting accordingly. She is there for a education and does not need to be harassed and stressed by him. Her reporting him might save another girl down the line he might prey upon!
juiicyxoprincess 2 years ago
lol "his ruler"
Nakayla88 2 years ago 2
April you gave her great advice. She definitely needs to print and save that email for evidence. She truly does not need to engage in anything beyond school-related things with this unprofessional professor. It is just a disaster waiting to happen. If he tries to get crazy or cross the line again, she needs to report him.
srramsey51 2 years ago
Id she prints it out and saves it in case he does start to give her bad grades....that could BACKFIRE on her because the school would probably say "well if you were offended or uncomfortable why didnt you report this immediately" why would u wait until he starts to change ur grades.
ESBEAUTII 2 years ago
KEEP the email bc you may need it later if things get sticky. If you print it out make sure theres something on the print out that shows it came from him.
munsjvc 2 years ago
He is dumb as a professor and I would feel uncomfortable if I was in her shoes....She could easily report him and use that email as proof to get him in trouble, they're all grown so its not the typical teacher hitting on the student case but he could start to give her bad grades and treat her differently if she turns him down but as a teacher vs student he is WRONG is so many ways
ESBEAUTII 2 years ago
u said the words right out my mouth... i would do the same thingu said though... but she should keep that email as a safe haven 2 bag herself up.
86quinta 2 years ago
yes I agree with khiema that she feels flattered and nothing bad towards him I just think we should keep our relationship just as student and teacher but thanks for the offer. Yes print it out and save it too on your pc. It COULD get ugly ya never know. Just keep your guard up now and eye open for strange behaviour on his part in the class too. It really sorta in a way disrespectful on his part to put you in this situation knowing as common sense you dont mixed student teacher even college.
chrissys31 2 years ago
I think she should tell him she is flatter by the offer to go out but you have to refuse. I don't feel it's appropriate to go out with you or any professor.
khiema 2 years ago
I think she needs to turn him in. She prob. isn't the first and won't be last. No fratinizing with the students.....ever!
PunkinLPN 2 years ago
I was in a situation where a professor liked me and often made admiring comments.I didn't want to get involved with him and I don't think he wanted to either. Even if he wanted to I wouln't have dated my teacher or even a married man. but I did use it to my advantage to get a passing grade. no we did not have anything sexual or anything close to it, but he was sweet on me.
khiema 2 years ago
This is pretty self explanatory seeing as though I have been a college student and am still attending for an advanced degree. As the old cliche' goes you dont mix business with pleasure. She should keep it professional and stay focused on her studies. She should email him back to be professional since he is not doing that and let him know that she wants to keep it strictly professional and focus on the class. Save all emails if he starts acting shady that way you will have evidence also!
msprettynurse83 2 years ago
I agree ..Why is it that women want to protect the man ? He is in the wrong ..I f his behind was bad enuff to send an email ..he ought to be bad enuff to suffer the consequences. If she pauses for a minute she gives him power to manipulate the situation in his favor . He's done it before ,first red flag was his behaviour in the hall way if it were as innocent as he says he need not explain his actions and it suggest that he's been acting inappropiately
711wildflower 2 years ago
okeeyy.. if she didn´t respond. She could ignore it.. and just keep cool and smiling.. back.. .. like you´ve changed you email adres or somthing.... And then.. just start talking about `your boyfriend or boy you like `so he can hear it. So if he asks you about the email. Say. O u did.. i have a another email i changed it.. and i have a new one. havent been on the old one for a while.. But just ignore his ass and talk in his presence about another Boy::...! so he knows he doesnt have a chance!
aylalina 2 years ago
I think she should lead him on. She should just keep smiling at him in the hall and etc. If she emails him back just say I would l prefer to wait until the class is over and we can see where things go. She need to see what he says in the next email. Then she will have at leas two emails.
Play the professor.
Mrsjackie1 2 years ago
April you said exactly what i was thinkin!!!!!
therawestbraider1 2 years ago
This reminds me of the friends episode where Ross wants to date a student. The situation is definitely frowned upon. But then again weirder things happen! My advice: don't date him while your taking HIS classes. If you do decide to date him keep in mind that this might not be the first time he's dated students!
suripopje 2 years ago
Bottom line..you are 23 and his student.. keep it professional like April said, but keep your proof just in case things go left!.
rgoldsby 2 years ago
I disagree, it needs to be reported right now. It's not the student's job to deal with inappropriate behaviour of stupid unprofessional faculty. How lame is that, the guy is such a loser that he has to ask her on a date by email? the weasel doesn't have good judgment. I would go to the Dean right now. No first chances! I work in a University and I know (personally) they don't take no for an answer. The guy is completely bang out of order. Don't wait for retaliation, take action now.
lisabella00 2 years ago
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I agree ..Why is it that women want to protect the man ? He is in the wrong ..I f his behind was bad enuff to send an email ..he ought to be bad enuff to suffer the consequences. If she pauses for a minute she gives him power to manipulate the situation in his favor . He's done it before ,first red flag was his behaviour in the hall way if it were as innocent as he says he need not explain his actions and it suggest that he's been acting inappropiately
711wildflower 2 years ago
I say try to ignore it and behave professionally. If he questions why you didn't reply, tell him that you don't feel comfortable in the situation as his student. Your main focus is on school & you wouldn't want to jepordize it, or make it seem like you didn't "earn" your grades. Turn it on yourself, so he doesn't feel rejected. Once class is over & you have your grade, if he makes an advance again, tell him you're just not feeling him. Save everything!
katweety 2 years ago
you are absolutely correct Sister Girl, if Sister Girl feels that the professor is stepping over his boundaries and it is starting to reflex into her grades and what nots, she would need to report him to the school board and so on. Its a touch touchy situation. your right APril about saving the email in case she needs it to back up her story when and if she has to report him. Good advice Sister Girl... Have a wonderful weekend... Smooches
Miss Q
missqc3333 2 years ago
Loving the hair!!!!
Trampth2260 2 years ago
Good advice, she needs to keep it moving
he's twice her age. That's a no,no And, he's maybe married with kids, focus on school. He's really putting her on the spot.
Trampth2260 2 years ago
DON'T DO IT! DON"T DO IT! Ignore it at first for akwardness sake. If he try it again, politely and professionally address it and YES SAVE EVERYTHING. If you have to address, in the most polite way possible, be clear and firm. Peace! OH and April, love ya Diva. U r my friend in my head. I feel like I know u. LOL!!!Keep up the great work. Peace & Blessings Diva!!!
scentsations75 2 years ago
The email is GREAT!! she has proof!! keep the email and report him if you have to
Muffin gave perfect advice!
Supersoni13 2 years ago 2
if that doesn't work drop the class
lolagloss 2 years ago
and i agree 100% because he is trying to be funny hunny
myshowTVDIVA 2 years ago
Its sad....I ve been in the same shoes only that His wife and his Child work @ the same place and it didnt make him no nevermind ..he would find ways to be where I was...TO TOUCH ME and once he got a hold of my personel info.. he demanded to come over..it's scary.. I think you should have someone youre close to in class buddy up and have them to verify your teachers actions in class..keep your proof because it saved my job in the end cause he would write notes and I had my proof...
koreankiss08 2 years ago
love u gurl and we are never tired of hearing u talking ur a wonderful spirit
myshowTVDIVA 2 years ago
I would make it related to the grades/school work. "I would like it to keep our interactions to remain focused on my school work. I really enjoy your class and want to make sure that I remain focused" I would add something to this affect (after what you already recommended) because it makes it easier for the professor grasp (and it's true). His ego is going to be hurt and I would hate for the young lady's hard work in school to be compromised.
omega7373 2 years ago
Whooo girl I can never have enough of you! I'm always looking for updates! Love the advice and she should really print both emails out just for her safety..You're a gem, get em girl!
One luv
cmuzita 2 years ago
Hit forward and sent it to the department head. This is inappropriate and who knows how many other times he has done this...
missp2513 2 years ago
my point is people are gonna find out and if he wants to get w/ you chances are your not the only one. like april says approach him like a student KEEP THAT EMAIL it may come in handy ;}!!!!!!!!!!
catepillarmiss 2 years ago
IGNORE HIM N DONT DO IT. i was in the same situation (sorta) from May-Sept i was dating my new boss(sneaking it from the owner and co-workers) and everything was good then he quit and moved and shortly i cut him off . turns out last week this girl calls my job and tells me HE GOT HER PREGNANT(!) and asked if i was seeing HER man! of course i SNITCHED on him but everyone at work found out about us and im so ashamed of dating my cheatin boss thats 13yrs older than me -_- got a bad rep now.
catepillarmiss 2 years ago
We NEVER get tired of u DivaApril! Luvin this wig & makeup on u!!
Blessings!
B.
mustlose20pds 2 years ago
Btw...Love your hair..!~
MercedesGames 2 years ago
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MercedesGames 2 years ago
there are laws that schools have to follow when handling situations like this. the school needs to find out asap. hire a lawyer and sue him for sexual harrassment. he needs to be fired because he probably has done it to students in the past and will keep doing it.
miiindyyy 2 years ago
Good ish girl! Save the e-mail, and let him know it's a no go. You said it best. And I noticed you don't smoke as much anymore! lol I aint have a problem with it, but I just noticed.
KoolGirlsDoThis 2 years ago
i don't get tired of you girl! I can't get enough. I'm on here everyday lookin' for updates. You should get your own talkshow or somethin' or be on that 'internet stars' thing
diamondsfanj 2 years ago
Love the hair!
i agree 100% ALWAYS keep proof, bc you never know, things could turn ugly, he might be ok and understand after you let him down and things will probably be akward for a lil bit, but if he was a stand up guy and followed the rules, he wouldnt be approaching you in the first place, so somethings seems fishy to me, reminds me of lifetime movies that always go wrong lol, but yes i would email him back and save or dont delete anything!
trouble7043 2 years ago
Another thing diva, make sure to get written statements from others in your class that you trust that he asked for all of your personal email addresses because the Dean or whoever may start asking well why or how does he have your personal email address, so make sure you do that as well if you decide to report his ass.
HvnsLilQT 2 years ago
your intro's are so cool how you do that
thickgirlmegan 2 years ago
Great advice I would have said the same thing. SAVE THAT E-MAIL!! He just busted his damn self. I would only report him if things start changing, he doesn't want to help you, bad grades, etc. But you be sure to be as friendly as possible in your response cause you WILL DAMAGE HIS EGO. But if you feel THAT uncomfortable about it go straight to the Dean of the department he teaches as well as the Dean of your major and report his ass with evidence in hand. And get a refund if you must withdraw
HvnsLilQT 2 years ago
Those codes of conduct that exist in the university setting as well. Its clear that teacher/student relationships are a NO NO. But I would suggest you return his email and tell him that you dont feel comfortable with his advances and you want to keep it professional. Hopefully he understands and drops it. If he continues to pursue you, keep a record and be prepared. You may have to present the info to a higher authority. Hope it works out for you Diva. Let us know!
ammurphy 2 years ago
He needz to stop!! I'm not paying my tuition EVERY SEMESTER to have an affair with a damn professor!!! Of course she's not a little girl BUT if she'z not interested, then she'z just not interested. It just shows you how some ppl will use their "power" to gain thingz...even sex. I agree, she should print that email for "insurance" and let him know the deal professionally. Smh. I feel for her. Thank God my professors say I look mean LOL
mzcherry04 2 years ago 2
damn you look fabulous!!
gunnerchel 2 years ago
Save the email. This way, no one can say your are lying. Report him immediately. The school is obligated by law to protect you no matter what. If you don't report him, you will only be helping him to hurt someone who does not desirve it. Good luck and God bless.
Speechy75 2 years ago
@5:55 Why should she CARE if he feels awkward with her response of not wanting to go to dinner with him? He makes her feel awkward EVERYDAY. She should keep it REAL, REPORT him and care LESS about his feelings. HE'S A PEDOPHILE and has probably propositioned and/or had sex with other girls in the school and just hasn't gotten caught YET. She's probably one of MANY young girls that he's asked out. THIS HAS TO STOP AND SHE MUST REPORT HIM BEFORE HE TRULY SCARS ONE OF THOSE YOUNG GIRLS FOR LIFE.
Speechy75 2 years ago 3
I agree with u. Keep the e-mail, be cordial and let him know how she feels. In a situation like this, I would email him instead of confronting him in person because the emails are documentation. If she is getting good grades now and the script flips after the fact and her grades go down then she'll know why.
Teema09 2 years ago
So that Ms. College Diva remains feeling like a student and keep a relationship of student/professor she should email him back and say "oh thank you for the number i'm sure if i have any questions over class material i can def reach U, but i do have a special friend in my life and i'm not sure if my special friend would like if we took our student/professor relationship for more than what it is"...and she should also say i'm sorry if i came off in any other way than just a friendly student
sandgoddessketurah 2 years ago
you look Beauitful april and No we never get tierd of you! LOL
Latoya47 2 years ago
oh LAWD! Dont do it!!!!!!!!! most ppl that old only want one thing from sum1 that young. AND she is probably not the1st one he tired to pull this mess on. TRUST ME!
KellyGreene08 2 years ago
Save the e-mail in a locked folder .
He may have done this before and if things get crappy . eg extreme, negative feedback, unwanted attention report it!. Be professional with your response.
This is a trainwreck in the making
be carefull !!!!! He may have done this before!!! ps Diva good advice & cute curls!!
love your Real Talk ; ).
nappylala 2 years ago
Good advice. She definitely needs to save all her documentation and let him know outright she is not interested. I hope he doesn't take it out on her and retaliates against her.
MakeupByStephanie 2 years ago
great advice.. i was saying the exact same thing.. love the curls
xxxMzDivaxxx 2 years ago
luv you April i'm hookes to ur channel
mel33184 2 years ago
Great advice! Save the email...and tell the professor it's not a good idea to date. I like shawnise311's comment: "do the sandwich; good, bad, good." I love it!
angelagraves83 2 years ago
I totally agree with you April and make sure you save those emails is vital!!! And please be careful if you are around him alone because you never know if he crazy and may try something just be safe honey please be safe!!! Besides he is your damn teacher he should know better than be pullin some mess like that!
BabyTigga23 2 years ago
good advice april.
i know if i was in that situation i would feel awkward i would report his ass print out the email and switch to another class
and like April said if he gets rejected then he's gonna mess her up grades and what not
he just shouldn't have put her in that position thats messed up man
jaydasmama1 2 years ago
I think she should save the email and then pull him to the side and ask him IN PERSON what exactly he meant by the email. If he start tripping talking about fucking with the grades, go report his ass and make sure u take the email with you. I wouldn't email him back simply because if yall end up in front of the dean, he WILL turn that shit around and make it look like u was leading him on or something.
Make sure you cover your ass... I already see this situation going in a bad direction.
enviablytalented 2 years ago 2
he could go all creepy stalker. save all the emails and your replies. gracefully back out.
SistaSledge101 2 years ago
ignore the email.. a response, kind or not, can cause serious issues.. it all depends on his mentallity..
aartiaga02 2 years ago
Straight talk makes for straight understanding. Email him letting him know that you are not interested. This is way you have paper trail showing that his feelings toward are not mutual. Definitely do not ignore it because if you do decide to report him, he can always say that the 'relationship' was consensual. Be cordial in your response, and if it persists, report him.
pewterpink 2 years ago
I LOVE UR REAL TALK VIDEOS
kiya01 2 years ago
As a college graduate myself, I understand how crazy some professors can be and totally agree with the advice that you gave. Two thumbs up!
oneswtl8y 2 years ago
I agree... save the email.. let him kno that u don't wanna take it there with him.. and if he acts funny with u after that.. then u might have to do what u gotta do.. trust me ur most likely not the first student he's tried this with...
lady2584 2 years ago
I totally agree with you, Ms April. Definately save it and print a copy (just in case the email gets deleted by accident, you have proof.) What a nasty position for him to put you in Diva! Hugs!!
serenitylady60 2 years ago
Hey Ms. April! i think u gave Trish really good advice. However, as a sophmore in college myself, she is in a really tough situation. if it were me, i may ignore the email and see if he pulls me aside to say something. then, i would respond over the weeked. i know this isnt the right thing to do becuase my mom would say the same thing you did. however, my mom isnt the one in the weird situation. Trish, whatever u decide, let him know that he is a great professor. do the sandwich; good, bad, good
shawnise311 2 years ago
she need ta be honest with his ass...
cuz keepn her mouf shut is jus stringn his ass along and it culd only get worst...
aint nothing wrong with a little harmful flirtn cuz thats normal.. but wen u flip tha script and use sumbody's email for personal reasons (and u they fuckn teacher) u wayyyyyy out of fuckn line..
so she need ta put his ass back in place.. and if that dont wrk u can take that email he sent to the head office and they can deal with his ass....
jus keepn it real <3
mzlaina1 2 years ago
I agree toally with what you said. He is too old for her and they are in a professional setting.
tori790 2 years ago
love ur hair and great advice this one was a hard 4 me 2 say
imthickardenasnicka 2 years ago
i had this problem in high school....so i would not know... college is different
lexyladybug81 2 years ago
ignore the email...wait till u pass the class 1st and then report him
blkjackieo 2 years ago
This is tricky. It depends on how far she wants to take it. I just graduated from college and I would have to say if your going to report him make sure that you can get into another course. If you can report him, but be sure that you can get into another class. Remember teachers talk and once you open pandoras box you may have more than you bargained for. So try to add another class and just avoid him or if u r ready to report him then do so
danioverton1 2 years ago
I have a professor just like that, he gave us his cell number, email and had us give him the same.
Trish i would would start being a PI, and see if he is acting like that to other female students. And yes save that email cause if he was bold enough to come at you like that, he seems to be an ass and do some shade things to your grade.
Oh and if your college has a rate my professor, go see what others have been rating him.
jJoNah916 2 years ago
girl i love watchin your videos!
PiNkLaDyFaB 2 years ago
Girl I had a Teacher's Assistant in college who would give me the 'eye'. Made me low key uncomfortable. Nothing ever came of it though and he didn't like harass me with it.
KellyJelly9976 2 years ago