Farewell to a Father

[koregreen]

Very nice video. How brave of you to make this as you were going thru your grief. I would really like to see this with the sound. If you change the song they will leave your audio alone!

[RPGcollector1980]

Damn, I cried like a baby. Death is necessary but so sad. I'm sorry for your loss.

[indigoblue555]

This brings back loads of memories....

I know what it means,I went through it twice,

that's why I can say you are a brave guy,

in facing death and the deepest sorrow fearlessly but respectful though.

Heartily hugging you and your family.

[micgriddle69]

my mom passed in 06 of cancer, it does get better babe Michelle in Texas

[sunshinelover69]

this video touches my heart. my brother died almost 20yrs ago, he was just 2. i miss him terribly. i was just 7 myself at the time. it feels like yesterday though. they say time heals all wounds, i find that untrue, it just makes the wounds disappear for a while. my mmother died 4yrs ago. wish i was there for her, i was a continent away.

[missmarie273]

Wow, this video was... well, I can't even find the words. I'm so terrified right now. My sister-in-law is 28 and in her third trimester of pregnancy and just found out she has invasive bladder cancer. She is my best friend.

[nateboytwo]

that was really tough to watch..thankyou for posting it...im really sorry for your loss , my father passed away 7 years ago and i miss him alot...im glad though that you were there with him...i wish i had been for my dad..take care...........nate

[atourdeforce]

im very sorry to see this!! cancer is terrible.

[spartacus6839]

My Mother was diagnosed with advanced Bladder cancer only 4 days ago.

[MiniGoofyGoober]

@spartacus6839 I know your comment was written 2yrs ago but did she beat it?

[Yadiluv81]

Thank U for sharing..it helped me alot. Thank U

[Rpzzz]

See this thing thousand times you could never get use to it.

[GabesGurl2006]

OMG Im so sorry! I just went through that today! My mom died in Arizona, Im here in Washington, and my dad wanted me to to tell her goodbye, and I heard her take her last breath! OMG I so know what your going through. She was 49 and had Lung, bone, and recently stomach and blood cancer! Amen, he is in a much better place now, I told my mom this morning, I will meet her again in Heaven! God Bless you and your family!

[WeirdGirlCyndi]

This is the most powerful thing I have ever seen in my life.

[Astrid270718]

My heart really goes out to you!

My prayers aqre with you!

God bless you!

[heng84]

i understand how u feel mate, ive been through this as well, almost exact situation like yours just that he much more thinner thats it, my dad passed away on 56, kidney cancer, i rather let him go peacefully than seeing him suffer, hope u have a good road to recovery and spent more time with your family.

[curtier1]

Thank You SOOOO MUCH. My father went out the same exact way. The nurses told me soon as I heard the marble sounds he will pass. I left the hospital for one hour and I got the call from my brother and he said he heard the marbles. I wanted to hear so I rush back and it was too late. Thank you for filming this video. Although the man in this video is not my father it gave me a chance to envision how my father passed away. Now I know what the marbles sound like. Thank You SOOOOOOO. MUCH.

[How5by5]

My Dad had Lung Cancer. Went down hill in 3 months. I wish they would find a cure for this.

[russianwifey]

I was having a very hard day. I was depressed but after I saw this video, It made me realize that I have so much to be thankful for. I am healthy my dad is healthy and I have all of my family. Thank you, this video made me realize that I have so much to live for.

[padude64]

My guess is that family had their loved one cremated. That is the wish of the family and their wishes are to be respected in the funeral industry.

[padude64]

Many of my relatives had died with that awful death rattle!

[EnglishNowTV]

You have my love and prayers. My father just died 9 days ago from a brain tumor. I'm on the other side of the world and can't get to his funeral. My half brother told me of his death and how he died. Words fail at a time like this.

God bless.

[disgruntledgoatiam]

Brings back bad memories of my father. (Colon Cancer)

[xashleyxisxhardcorex]

That was very beautifully done. I'm sorry you had to go through with that. that would be a good way to go. not the whole suffering part, but being surrounded by people who love you.

[3DaySonRise]

Thank you for sharing this with us. Take care, God Bless.

[roughdiamond91]

a very good and touching video, shows everyone how hard cancer can hit a family when there is no cure. its a long suffering and painfull disease, when my grandfather died from cancer he was in pain for months before finally slipping away in his sleep.

[beckyuk2001]

xoandre what was the book your mother was reading to you?

[beckyuk2001]

A beautiful loving family, so close. He died surrounded by eternal Love. God Bless xxx

[nickha0]

that was freakin hilarious

[xoandre]

The reason this is a video response to Nickelback - Never Again is because (up until the gun is introduced in the song) my father was exactly as described in the song. Never Again strikes me on so many levels... It takes me back to the physical and emotional savagery my father wrought on myself, my siblings, and my mother... Listen to the song and you will get the idea...

[xoandre]

ALSO..

A new version of this is in the works that will be even longer than this one... NEW soundtrack and more detailed imagery and pictures... Possibly with voiceover and interviews with my family...

[Lizzie361]

This is a heart breaking video, my poor husband has cancer this woman is so brave I hope i can be strong when the time comes....

[P3Piper77]

Wow! My condolences. This was a beautiful video about one of life's most tragic events!  I'm watching my mother go through this right now, so I definitely felt a connection with this video. Thanks for posting!

[cazybeast2]

RIP

[TVC17]

i watched along with my sisters and brother our mother die.The last 4 days at home with lung cancer.We told her it seems like a 1000 times how much we loved her yet oh how i wish i could have said it a 1000 more times....

[indy411]

why was there no casket?

[DriftyAlison0]

Financial reasons and the fact that he didn't want one.

[indy411]

I never knew that was an option. Thank you

[josbub]

what can I say?? that was so powerful..I felt a connection this clip has helped me realise what my brother may have gone through,I wasnt there when my brother died of cancer but the rest of my family were.I feel like a peace has come over me,Im so sorry for your loss...may your Father rest in peace and thank you so much for sharing.

[ACMDE]

my condolences, I also lost some familly members. to die because of cancer is really horrible. I was very toutched by this video. I hope he will be remembered when he was alive.

[lethaldeathgo]

You never think it's going to happen to someone you know.. My condolences.

[speedfreak111]

speechless...that gentleman must of been really loved, he must of been 1 in a billion to recieve a sending off in that way...see ya at the cross roads amigo (salute)

[demarcoggg]

sorry for your loss.

[omunhvilag]

Sorry now I sent my own sad memory, still so fresh, but I had to share it. I was moved by this more than any other video of its kind. I found affinity. Please do not be put off by my vid so early, so fresh, still living, and yet this is how it is.

[Borna909]

My father died on december 20th 06. He suffered an edema caused by leukemia wich he was afflicted to for 18 months. The way he breathed was exactly the same as shown in this video. It is hard to see but necessary for those who lived through such an experience. This video is couragous. Life is beautyful but we have to face death as a part of it. And we should love each other. Your father r.i.p.

[tinixoxo]

I can only begin to imagine how difficult this was for you, and your family. I know there are many people who would consider this morbid and unusual. I commend you for doing such a brave thing, and may his spirit always live on through the moments you have captured in his final hours, and the memories you and your family hold of him. Thank you, with all the deepest sincerities, for sharing it with everyone. Just as in life, there is also a sort of majesty and eternity in death.

[zapato]

It´s hard. I passed by a very similar xperience no long time ago and I think it´s the worst thing I´ve pased in my life. It was long and hurting. Hugs from here ({)

[iloveallecchianime]

I hate death...I hope I never get cancer cause I cant accept death!! I beleive (wish i didnt) that when we die we dissapear and become nothing...I want to beleive in god but just cant

[macabomb45]

why videotape this? I dunno if its just me but i'd rather not capture the darkest hour of one I loved. Instead i'd rather reflect on the happiness of a life well lived

[xoandre]

The new version of this will include pictures from Dad's youth and my siblings, mom, and I with Dad over our lifetimes... AND a different set of songs.

[KEITHCOURAGE2010]

WOW....YOu should get an award for this!! I love it, it is sad and yet is beautiful.

[samsman31]

This is very sad. I've watched it three times and still can't get it out of my head. I saw a similar documentary on Discovery or one of those channels years ago, and have been trying to find it without success. It had an interview with the man before he died, and as i recall he was an atheist, but unlike you, they didn't cut his final breath - they showed everything. This is a great video though, well done, and i really am sorry for the loss suffered. He seemed like he had an interesting life.

[northportman]

first of all yes i cried and I pray you are well. but man, what made you put this out on the net.

[xoandre]

I believe that there are people out there, like WOODSMOKE and NATHYI and MARIAHXC, among thousands of other people who can experience this video with a sense of connection. There are those who understand that death is a part of life. I was doing several things here, not the least of which is sharing a life experience with the world.

[cdh409]

Xoandre, You are much more stronger than i was when my dad died of cancer. He had lived a long life also...he was one of my best friends...i didn't take his death that well as you did so more power to you....God Bless.

[pennyloafer]

sorry to be an asshole, honestly. what did he do to go to jail? I have served time for shoplifting, and now buy what i need, instead of lifting it !!

[xoandre]

Dad was arrested several times. In the 70's it was possession of a controlled substance, then in 85 for Battery and Child abuse, then in 86 while on parole he was busted for grand theft and assault.

[xoandre]

Only recently, having experienced his mother (who I knew very little about in my innocent youth), I can begin to see where he got hie talents for deceit and abuse. When your own mother encourages you to start smoking at an early age and your father locks you in the kitchen cabinet for a full day for hitting your siblings... It became a way of life for my father. Every time he would try to go straight, he'd end up metting the wrong friends and getting caught up in illegal activities...

[xoandre]

Not that he didn't start some of those activities on his own... But he was my father. He gave me life and what I observed him doing has shown me what NOT to do...

[northportman]

I feel so sorry you had to go through the childhood thing. now all i can say is make it better for yourself going forward and dont repeat the mistakes. God Bless You.

[woodsmoke]

I watched my grandmother struggle with pancreatic cancer. She fought as hard as she could, but we lost her. A lot of days spent in the hospital, and finally a lot of days spent at home with her and hospice, and the end was very similar to what yours. The morphine, the sleeping, and for us, waiting for the inevitable with lots of questions and contemplating life and death. I'm sorry for your loss and I wish you and your family well.

[pennyloafer]

I honestly could not stop laughing throughout this. I mean, c'mon, abortion happens everyday, and those tiny beings never had a chance. This old cout lived a pretty good life...why all the fuss? Cry for those who cant speak out...the not yet born, but still alive!

[xoandre]

The irony of your words is too powerful for me not to reply. My father did NOT live a "pretty good life." He spent a majority of his life in prison and I only knew him when I was ages 8 - 10, and then after I had turned 21...

[xoandre]

Even then, he was not in the best of shape and no one in my family has lived a "good life" due to economical hardships and the debt of our grandparents in an economy that pushes those who are monetarily deprived into a tailspin every time we get a breath of air.

[xoandre]

Laugh all you want. I am a serious and sincere person. Enjoy your life and narrow minded attitudes. You are free to express your opinion and I respect that. Just know that my opinion and the opinions of millions of people do not reflect your own.

Thank you for your comment, however objectionable some people may believe it to be...

[ineedtodie]

omg whats wrong with u man, so his had a long life hes still a human being and u cant just laugh to this, If it wasnt for abortion babies would get dumped in a river or something, please think next time you post someting

[MARiAHxC]

this is very touching. i cry almost everytime. i can kind of relate. sorry for your loss.

[Airjordangirl07]

w0w..i cant believe people actually let u rent caskets...then what happens if you dont pay yr rent on it they take it back and rent it out again..very disturbing!

[xoandre]

I believe when renting a casket, they charge for re-upholstering, to cover the replacement of all of the fabric materials inside. Otherwise, the body is kept in a wooden case inside the coffin to protect the coffin.

[Nathyi]

And Xoandre, thank you very much to share this experience with us. I feel very sad to see how can someone fade away, and I had already experience it in my family in a similar way. Keep in touch... :)

[bjpan2001]

I also send my condolences to the family members. I hate to see a person go that way, but when it's over, it's all over. I had a lung transplant 7 years ago and only had a 50% chance of living 5. I'm back on oxygen 24/7 and I would imagine it won't be long now and that will be me. Thank you for making this film. It showed me to not be afraid because the suffering will end.

[Nathyi]

I am sure that the suffering will end someday to everyone, but I would like to tell you to live your live the most... do not wish the end, try to make your life worth every single moment. Be glad everyday and don't let this disease let you down! W/ Love, Nathy.

[Nathyi]

I am trully sorry for the family's loss... but I cannot help asking who was the director? How did you felt shooting this dying process? I study cinema and this things come to my mind...

Well... feel free to contact me, I would like to.

[xoandre]

I was the director. I recorded my mother and brother unobtrusively. When they saw the finished video, they were surprised at what I had caught and how well I had arranged it all together. I used many standard techniques of filming as well as a few "on-the-fly" techniques that my instructor was very surprised at.

[xoandre]

I let the music enhance the emotion of the moments without impeding the genuine feelings behind that time in my life and my family's life. I know that there are shaky moments and there are occasional bits of graniness, but I had to use the lighting available and enhanced the footage in Final Cut Pro, where I did 99% of the editing.

[xoandre]

I am pleased at how well it turned out, however do plan to recreate it using additional footage that I have yet to acquire as well as images from my father's life...

I was precautious while filming, as I did not wish to detract or intrude with the experiences of my family members.

[Madamx28]

It doesn't matter. How the service is done is up to the individual and/or the family and as long as no laws are being broken, it's not for us to judge. There's no need to explain.

Sorry for your loss.

[countblastula]

My condolences to the family members for their loss. But I think he should have had a coffin at the funeral instead of him just laying on a bed.

[xoandre]

The choice of no coffin was a financial one. No one in the entire family could have come up with any money for the coffin. Since he was never really employed, he had NO insurance or benefits. The VA paid for some of the costs of medical bills, Hospice helped out a lot and we got a great deal on the cremation. We did not want a coffin. He did not want a coffin. Even renting a coffin is expensive.