Another Dating Question from Dave and Ethan (and Chris)

[ellevans710]

two things. 1) <3 the song in the back ground! 2) i think its a combination.. dont be a creeper but dont try and be vague. If i have to side with one it'll be keeping it real and saying how you feel. Don't play games!

[AmandaToLondon]

I'm with Dave-Devil on this one.

[turnturn41]

mr. f...arrested development?

[DaveAndEthan]

ha, yes!

(and also, coincidentally, my last name.)

[summershap]

1 of 2 things here: 1-usually, it's the story we make up about that person that we get super into. affection thrown at this story freaks peeps out... take time to see them OR 2-there's a truly authentic connection that has tons of potential - the pitfall here is to come from scarcity, like "holy shit this is all there is i better jump in." Sweetness, it's all a reflection and throw some of that adoration back at yourself. As long as you're stoked on you, you can be as stoked as you like on her.

[sharonisarockstar]

Chris-dating is like investing/ the stock market. You wouldn't put all your money into one stock right away? But if you put in 5 dollars and it does well, go up to 20! If that does good, go up to 100! It is the same with girls. Ease into the compliments and the gifts etc and if she takes to it you can feel free to do it more and more. I've had the same problems in the past and trying this helped ALOTTT!!!

[snoopy745]

men with big hair, oh why aren't there more of thoes around?!

[TomahawkImprov]

i don't know. what would alfalfa or spanky do?

[egonzalez6]

This time I'm going to have to side with Dave.

Ugh.... nothing can make me run away faster than a needy guy who wants to get serious right away. Don't show all your cards at once. Reveal yourself a little bit at a time and keep her wanting more.

It's important to be yourself, but too much at once is over doing it! Good luck! :o)

[terrajen]

buy her tequila, have her drink some and then she'll be expressing her feelings.

[drewshugart]

do act to needy, but still act into the girl. girls get freaked out by to much emotion to quick. which is kinda ironic in many ways becasue ive seen way to many girls get very emotional very quickly. oh well keep up the good work guys

[woohoosnoosnoo]

I agree with Dave--be open, but in moderation... but be careful, playing it TOO cool is also a turn off--you don't want her to think you aren't into her.

btw, you aren't fooling anybody, you're obviously a hot guy in a crazy wig, lol

[Xtina505]

I wouldn't necessarily express all of your [what may be] deep emotions for the girl, because she might think you're crazy and not want to hang out with you anymore. If I was barely dating a guy and he expressed how much he liked me and I hardly knew him, I would get a little freaked out. It's definitely flattering, but way too soon. Being yourself is always key, though.

[asourcedivine]

I agree with Ethan.

it's not laying all your cards out on the table, it's being open and honest. you should never "play it cool" just be yourself and let the girl know how you feel. she probably won't care because she'll know there's a 99% chance you'll change your mind next week and turn into an asshole, so let her enjoy it while she can.

[Jatzia]

Depends on the type of girl. If she's very warm and loving, I'd let her know. If she's distant and colder, I'd be less open.

[Zpopprincess13]

I agree with Dave....you don't want to get too clingy or too needy at first, that turns a lot of girls off. Maybe a cute text once in a while, but not all day every day kind of stuff, you know?

[CRYSonline]

don't play games and don't be afraid to be yourself. If being yourself means being more open about your feelings and laying it all out on the table, then by all means, lay it out on the table. if you're honest with yourself, and honest with her, the relationship's going to go where it's going to go. You should find a girl who appreciates you for you.

[susybeltz]

Showing all your cards at once isn't necessarily needy as it is intimidating. While honesty is refreshing, laying it all out there too quickly can just be too much.