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  • Im not trying to be rude, but is it gay if i think u are totally hot and never would of thought u were a dude( im totally straight bitches,ha).

  • One of your very best!  Hope all is well with you! Thank you for sharing!

  • Thank u

  • I find you wonderful Candy...best wishes You have helped me....kisses

  • i know youre happy with yourself so you wont care but..why are you only wearing one earring?

  • Thank you.

  • I like how you said to reinvent yourself during transition. What a wonderful phase for any transition in life. Whether it is career, relationship, sobering up or sex change. Borrowing a pharse from Rocky Horror: Don't dream it, be it!!

  • I want to see candi as heroin in film, you are very cute :)

  • u give a tiny bit of hinge of jetly n brad pitt i guess , specially when u smile

  • Why do you have on 1 earring?

  • okay, one question; if you look gross like me (nonpassable)could you still be happy and love yourself ? could you really ? you have alot going for you in your personality, and apperance

  • A lot of "material" things are other people's self expression; for example if i own an action figure of an interesting anime character someone thought up, or express myself through my choice of dress. While I've never been one to fawn over fast cars and bling, I think there is not such a binary division, at least for everyone.

    Anyway sorry for flooding your comment box, but I hope it gives you something to think about and so glad you found happiness within yourself.

  • Of course, people who are self sufficient won't always realise it straight away which is why you have these epiphanies. But it's different for everyone.

    As for materials, it depends. As you've guessed, I play guitar. Now I'm looking for a new guitar, and I think it will make me "happier". Why? I've started playing live electronic sets, I want to work guitar into it, and my current guitars are not very stable. Having one good reliable guitar will open new experiences for me.

  • I think people are like this. You have the "classic rock" people who need the "wider" experience of the smooth sounding power amp and the modern metal heads who get the rough sound of the preamp alone.

    People have an internal and external component, but some people are designed in such a manner that the internal is more self sufficient, like those motherboards that have everything built onto them. People who require external "happiness" can't really just switch over like that.

  • This is a weird example, but guitar amplifiers have both a "pre amp" and a "power amp". Pre amp colours the sound the most and brings it up to line level, power amp is what makes it loud enough to go through a bit speaker.

    Traditionally older, vintage amps, got their sound from overloading the "power amp". It had a particular distinctive sound, however it was impractical for bedroom jamming since it had to be loud. Many more modern amps try to get this tone from the "preamp" alone.

  • If I can't get where I want to go in life because of this, it's going to be upsetting and a positive attitude won't always remedy this. I think if anything the reason a lot of people are depressed is that they went into life holding out with a positive attitude for as long as they could, and it didn't work out for them.

    Some people are more complete "in themselves". In reality, a person is again partially a social construct. Some people inherently rely more on the external.

  • Ah allow me to elaborate a bit. I think excessive materialism is almost universally bad but I don't think everyone can "let go". I think people are different and it's good that they are. Unfortunately I can't be as happy in myself because I am not near as attractive a transperson as you, there are a lot of things I can't really change. You can say other people's opinions don't matter, but that's not true. A "man" or a "woman" is a social construct more than anything.

  • Oh well guess I'm fucked then haha. It's very hard to change how you feel about things unfortunately. 

  • Candi you're awesome :)

  • Ever be the lover that you long for,

    Doing as you would the other do.

    Often you're the person that you're wrong for. Resisting what would make one out of two. Everyone displays diminished passion,

    Becomes unbearable, if given time, Disappoints the dreams that are in fashion,

    Does what would intentions undermine.

    Acceptance of your love and need for love, and of yourself, above all, and your lover, and of what is, which shall sufficient prove.

    To bring you lifelong joy from one another:

    Such lov

  • Any horny girl like to meet for sex encounter?

  • Im rubbing my Hot Latina Booty on Webcam.

  • I have some hot Sex videos of myself;)

  • Not into material things? What happened to that girl who loved her power tools? Yeah I still remember you with that cordless drill from an earlier vid. Get your mind out of the gutter guys it wasn't like that LOL.

    Seriously though you are right on Candi.

  • Make a date with sexy wife *lushfmlk.info*

  • i would have never know u were male before,if i had not read ur bio. congrats on ur happines

  • do you have male parts?

  • Any cute guys like to meet a Sexy funny girl for Intimate encounter.

  • ur so right. im revamping my personality with my transition. im gettin more confident and beautiful inside along with my physical changes

  • Your persistent positiveness is so unfathomably astonishing and enormously inspiring - it blows my mind. I find it a source of encouragement when I begin to feel hopeless.. thank you for being awesome. >3<

  • Today had an "experience" with an office and well, when I left all PO'd, this video came to mind about three~four weeks ago. And while I couldn't remember the specific content, the message of being positive and happy came through and let me calm down when I was driving away.

    (I'm gonna skip most of the part where I bought donuts and cookies).

    But I also noticed that letting one's mood get pulled around really puts a damper on the voice. Couldn't maintain any other personality for a while.

  • I have to agree, happiness isn't about stuff....don't get me wrong stuff is nice but it will never make you happy and you can't take it with you.....some lucky guy is gonna end up with a very cool woman in their lives.....keep it up :D I love your attitude :D

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  • can you reccomend a breats hormone?

  • Life Changing!! Thank you:)

  • LOL the bucs had a good draft yea they did.

  • Awesome advice Candi :) I agree so much! I am a very positive woman and was not so positive before transitioning. I love life now that I can be myself, and I believe people can see that and feel it from me and it affects them too. I tend to avoid other transfolks only because there seems to be such a huge tendency towards depression, resentment, jealousy, and other negative emotions from the bulk of them. It is like you said, we have this awesome opportunity to remake ourselves. Do it! :)

  • I have always got so much from your videos.... thanks so much for sharing with us hugs xx

  • thank you for sharing ^.^

  • Thanks for all your great videos and sharing your experiences with us :)

  • Smart and funny

  • This vlog is the most enjoyable one for a very long time. Thanks very much Candi. ^_^

  • Where have you been? I have missed your videos for the past few months. So nice to see your smile again. You are always the girl I wish I could be.

  • Good point. I decided long ago to concentrate on the inward transition. Better yet, I decided to use that strength to tackle some basic personality issues. Actually...still am. Always growing, always learning. :)

  • I learned something new from watching this video. Thanks.

  • Such a true to the point video! Some people may never understand. You cant take stuff with you when we pass. Material stuff is not what's important. Who are we as people when all the stuff is stripped away? Sometimes it takes losing everything to find ourselves. Appreciate everything.

  • You hit the nail on the head. Be who you are, don't give a sh*t what other people have to say about it unless it is to point out legitimate weaknesses, and develop yourself. Follow your instincts, they're usually right. And remember that cultivating happiness in others will reward you with more happiness.

  • yesssss finally someone that has the same attitude nice . i;m happy too very content

  • Good to see you happy and looking beautiful. Kiss

    No Boobies today? ;-))

  • I love you positive attitude on life... And by the way you are very beautful

  • Nice Video, glad you are happy :-)

  • 52 is absolutely wonderful. I hope people listen to it.

  • i don't know what to say.you blow me away every time.i try (successfully) this same technique but backwards since i am ftm or more like gender queer.If it wasn't for you i would have never made it.

  • your a very pretty and wise person i like the vids keep them coming

  • Devil Rays?!?!?!? DEVIL RAYS!?!?!?!?! Oh mY GoSh Candi!!!!!!!!!!! It's so on! It is sooooooooo on!!!!!!!!!!!! I've got one word for you: B.R.A.V.E.S.!!!!! (Yeah, I know they're in last place but it's still very very early and they just swept the Astros! Different leagues? Doesn't matter anymore! LOL! Anyway, I do love how spontaneous and "I don't care what people think of me" funny you are!!!! You're right! Just BE like the people you look up to! No one's ever said it so clearly to me before! TY

  • i just got a Daniel Defense M4......i want to keep my things.....

  • love you CANDY !! you just put a much needed smile back on my face  : ] thanks..

  • I had my place robbed and ransacked/destroyed while I was out of town once. I lost almost everything. BUT... I found it very liberating. Now, I dont NEED possessions. I still have things, and of course, my EXTENSIVE weapons collection. But I have a LOT less now than I had before, and I am ok with that. And I dont run a rat race to acquire new stuff.

    I am happy cause it is better to laugh, than to cry.

  • Great video!  Maybe these words can help me pep talk myself into cleaning out all of the junk I've accumulated in the house...

    Is there a reason why you only had one earring though? That bugged me the entire time XD

  • nyuu~ *3*

  • hello. did you win the lottery?????? if you did , you should share some with me......it will make you more happy!!!!!!!

  • Is all OK? Why now? Why so deep? Its not like you.

  • kool. hey random question, do you have any pictures of yourself befor transitioning, like a year book or something that you could post?

  • I have a happy life too. I learned to be content with what I have. Suddenly more things came my way, even though I didn't want them and tried my best to decline them. I learned to appreciate the little wealth I have. Suddenly I find wealth coming my way, even though I do nothing to pursue it. I just want to live a simple life. Thankfully the mental and physical challenges I have keeps my mind stable.

    I also love watching your videos.

    EdElisea 05/14/10

  • I always enjoy your videos x

  • I would love to see more like this.

  • your awesome!

  • Awesome Buddhist wisdom! I love letting go...

  • Amazing how many people do not know that the choice to be happy in life is one that they have control over. We are each responsible for our own happiness in life. Many times, in order to make the changes for greater long term happiness, we must face the people who do not contribute to our own happiness. Good advice tho.

  • Amen sister. you've got the right mindset. wish I had that before my fiance left me. But I have learned from it. maybe i can be more positive like you now. :D

  • I love watching your videos. I'm straight, ish and not a chaser or anything but i find you so mesmerizing. You make a convincing cute woman and a great funny guy. Both of whom i think it would be a pleasure to know in real life. I've been subed to you for a while now and watching your vids for way longer. I can almost see you switching from left to right brain. When he shows up its like she never existed and vice versa. Absolutely fascinating to watch.

    Thank you

  • Absolutly right 1,000 % , awesome !!!! , your a great and wonderful person , I can feel your aura + vibe , + , I think you and I have very identical views , I'm not materialistic , lord knows that , I'm just a Lady on a fixed income , very thrifty , resourcefuly brilliant , etc. people eighter like me or they dont , where I live at there is alot on Lady Sierra haters , bitchy rep. ? maybe !!! anywho Cadi , luv ya , well done soo glad and happy too see !!!! Ciao

  • So good to hear such positivity on Youtube :) Glad you're doing good!

  • I totally agree with you :D I've dropped sooo many things didn't like about who I was before. I've only just got to the point of really changing how I see myself. :D

  • your missing an earring in your cute little ear, or did your lover ( i hope your single! ) nibble on it earlier & you forgot to put it back in.stay beautiful sweetie!

  • @99CUTEkisses ooh almost forgot you're so cool about being positive! you TOTALLY did an "ANTHONY ROBBINS" move! and about T-GIRL friends alot that i knew are VERY negative and katty so i had to let them go for good! all i do now is self improve & stay away from negative stuff as much as i can. i THANK YOU for this video!

  • Hi long time no comment. glad your doing good still :-)

  • youre so beautiful:) and the videos are great:P

  • girl you rock!! i just addid this video to my collection of your videos.. i love learning from you... tha way i be a batter person..? like you!! thank you.

  • As usual, one of the most interesting and circumspect people I've encountered on the Tube. Always a pleasure to listen. Peace to you and yours.

  • I've been watching your videos for quite some time and I've got to say that you are really unique and awesome!

  • Yeah

  • Dear Candi, you did some great videos. On the subject of this video, I think the most important is Love. It starts within and then works out to your environment. When you turn to Love, you will be a happy person. It will effect people around you. The "letting go" part from Buddhist teachings is also refered to "detachement" in some other teachings, but its a good one because that is where it starts. The thing to point out is that Love is always peaceful.

    Much Love

  • you should do a video on bullying

  • Yes! Your so right, transition sort of let me out of the box. Now I'm insufferably positive and sometimes people can't stand it, it's hilarious.

  • wise words from one so endowed in bosom , hmmm..I see ur kung fu is strong indeed ..lol.. seriously words to live by, Life is what you make it, great post.

  • But aren't those gigantic breasts you bought material things? I hate to lay this criticism on just you Candi but it does seem to me that some transexuals don't just want to change into the opposite sex but rather they want to be some super model porn star fantasy woman. Doesn't that seem to be a bit shallow and materialistic?

  • @jdbadboy

    What's wrong with wanting to look good? :)

  • I think the breat is something that she wanted to be more of a woman and have feautures that woman have.

  • Well said and 100% the total truth!

  • Candi, You speak great words and being happy is just being happy with yourself and not letting someone else dictate what happy is for you. ( As a side note I noticed that you said "your wife" are you married and have a wife as I did not expect that") I hope i did not offend you with that side note just first time hearing you say you had a wife.

  • If only these words could be truly understood by all of humanity...

    You are obviously a very secure person who has no negative feelings. I really do wish everyone could feel that way, the world would be such an amazing place.

  • I agree... I used to be so insecure & feel like I had to fit in with everybody & I was jealous, but over time I just let it go & now I dont give a crap what people think of me. I guess thats a part of why Im not materialistic... I don't care how people view me. I don't need to look a certain way for anyone else. That said I cant wait til my expensive camera arrives in the mail :D but Ive been waiting to buy it for years lol

  • *smile* ...there is really nothing more to say. Thank you, Candi and have good night! *hugs* :-)

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