@zerohumour You're very welcome...I'm glad it was helpful. Just remember that our "old me's" have always been there, just waiting to return :) They way to get there is to undo the choices that got us away from ourselves.
@UnificationDotCom I think I've been drinking to get buzzed-but eventually leads to me falling asleep. And that's the only time I do sleep(after consuming alcohol). The friends that I hang with manage their alcohol consumptionn far better than I. But I am trying to stay away from those friends and alcohol since it's the only time I get wasted.
@lemmieatit That sounds like a good idea to avoid your drinking friends until you're feeling healed. Eventually, if you allow yourself to detox and work on underlying emotional issues, you'll sleep great when sober.
@lemmieatit It is time for you to gain new friends who are not into drinking. It can help you with your sobriety. Good thing that you share this. There are people in this world who can help you.
@UnificationDotCom This past weekend I went on a 3 day drinking binge. I hung out with friends and a cousin drinking alcohol and partying. When it was all over I felt lousy and scared. Afraid that I'm engaging in high risk behaviour that will not have a happy end. I want to stop. I think dropping my circle of friends will be key since we all drink.I have a beautiful family that needs me alive and healthy. Any suggestions?
@lemmieatit If you'd like to find healing and be healthy for your family, it may help to get support from counseling, AA or other support groups. I think that if friends are "triggers" for binge behavior, it's best to take a break until you get your life under control...and in some cases permanently if they're not healthy people. Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we turn our life around. This past weekend was partly you teaching yourself what no longer works. Watch Celebrity Rehab.
Thank you so much man!! I have been an alcoholic and a drug addict for many years now. I now realise that by takingh alcohol and drugs I am just supressing the reality of life by taking thigns to make me "high" this video has changed my life. I love you man!
@Cryptokronik You're welcome...I'm glad to hear it was helpful! Funny synchronicity: as I type, "Cold Turkey" by John Lennon is playing :) I've been sober (don't do nicotine or caffeine either) for a couple years now, and I feel much more attuned to "natural highs". I enjoy connected breathwork to get a regular, purifying "high" (I've done some vids on that too. If we're living the life we're meant to live, we don't need to escape it.
i love ur insight. r u a doctor? i never looked at it that way; that by shoving a substance in2 my body, im actually keeping myself from responding 2 my negative emotions && making positive changes in my life. i really love the way u put that. im glad i came across this video bcuz im struggling with something, && ur video has given me the push that i need 2 stop doing what im doing. its true that people r always seeking to change their emotions && not their life
@natschaeffer I'm glad this was helpful for you. No, I'm not a doctor. I used to work as a therapist but am now a writer. Kudos for taking care of yourself in a positive way.
I'm starting to have "user dreams" as their called i had a dream i was chugging a bottle of Jack Daniels it freaked me out when i woke up cause it felt so real i thought i had broken my sobriety but a good friend tells me they go away
Tonight will be the 12th night i've been sober i once went 104 days without alcohol but i fell back into that trap i'm gonna try like hell this time to make it a year and if i can do that i'll try to keep going i've been drinking sense my 21st birthday there was a time where i drank for 2 years straight every night i'm talking black out drunk i don't wanna live like that anymore i wanna be able to look back on my life and be proud of the things i've acomplished
@neighsmitty Congrats on your 12th night of sobriety. It sounds like you're committed to living a more healthy life. I've found that dealing with grief, unfinished business in relationships, and not putting myself around negative people have all helped me live a sober life the last 2 years.
@UnificationDotCom Thanks i'll keep you up to date on how my progress is going with that and if i feel the urge to drink or break down i'll talk with you
But you NEED to see a doctor to detox! Believe me, it may suck not drinking at first, but I can tell you that the longer I stayed sober, the more I started enjoying things and people again. IT GETS BETTER.
@bndkllr2 Although not not everyone needs a doctor, it can certainly be helpful to have a professional's assistance. Many counselors are not doctors. Also, some people are able to quit with 12 step programs, a strong will, or "divine intervention."
I CANT stop.. this is a problem the I've had for sometime.. I dread detox.. I've been thru it many times and every time I feel like I'm dying. I wish alcohol would just disapear and become un-attainable.. I cant do this anymore.. I want sobriety and happiness...
@KylesWalk2Fame Yes, the pain of detox can be scary. But it's really a choice between short term suffering and long terms self-destruction. It may feel like detox is dying, but avoiding it is more likely to lead to death.
@KylesWalk2Fame Have you seen your Doctor? If you are going through detox, you need medical assistance, ie a prescription for Ativan or something similar to ease the withdrawl symptoms. ALCOHOL WITHDRAWL CAN BE DEADLY WITHOUT MEDICAL SUPERVISION because it screws with a chemical in your brain that regulates your heart-beat. I know. I tried quitting a while back, and by the 5th day, my heart was beating irratically and I went to the ER thinking I was about to have a heart attack. I'm fine now
@KylesWalk2Fame Dude get a hold of your self i suppose some people can get "addicted" to alcohol but trust me u should thank god your not a heroin addict NOBODY can help you if your addicted to heroin.
Im 21 years old and ive been using alcohol as a ‘social lubricant’ probably since I was 18, now anytime I go out and do anything with other people I immediately feel the need to drink, I cant remember the last time I met up with people without making a beer run or a trip to the liquor store. I also enjoy drinking by myself, I try to be sober for days in between but I feel the urge to drink everyday.
@Scone54 Thanks for sharing. I can relate to what you wrote as I used to use substances to make social interactions more interesting. Now I'm more selective about my social interactions so they're naturally stimulating.
Alcohol really bad thing, don't care what anyone sayd, there is someone dying of Drunk Driving or an Alcohol related illness right now as i'm typing this, & thats the truth
This dude is wise and I'm pretty sure he hit the nail right on the head. I think all of us who have had a problem with drinking know what he said is true.
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u r or u r not an alcoholic,point blank people,places and things have made some hard drinkers but an alcoholic has lost the choice to drink,working the 12 steps and finding a power greater than urself is the solution.this also works on drugs,anything else is up to u .the problem is lack of power(GOD)has all power may u find him now!
@spazmoso There is no such thing as losing a choice to drink Alcoholics are alcoholics because it's what they chose to do. It's not cancer, it's not AIDS, it's not leukemia, it's a choice. Addicts are people who have no self control. You don't need to live a life without alcohol, you need to live a life with discipline.
@chucklewis1082 then u r not a real alcoholic,u have forged the need to drink because of some trivial excuse,daddy beat u or some molestation whatever.i dont expect u to understand the only ones that do are the others with the reak affliction.and btw thanks for pointing that out theres only room in AA for real alcoholics,its the only treatment that works for the garden variety 100%proof hopeless alcoholic
@spazmoso Wonderful comments from such a good human being. I'm sure your 12 steps teach you to try and dredge up your vision of somebody's traumatized past (daddy beat u or molestation..., you're a class act...). Tell you what daddy did do, he drank himself to death before he was 55 years old. He made excuse after excuse as to why he drank and it was all bullshit. He had no discipline. I have no sympathy for alcoholics or any addicts for that matter. It's all a choice. Quit your crying.
@chucklewis1082 ur teachings work with alot of people im sure and im not saying the AA way is the only way for problematic drinkers,but the real alcoholic has lost the power to choose whether hell drink or not hell go to the bitter end,drinking is but a symptom but without a higher power of ur understanding and the 12 steps life on lifes erms is too much for us
@chucklewis1082 inorance and arrogance are ugly my friend,just i say THERE ARE ALTERNATIVES TO AA,so u should say theres alternates to ur methods?jmo player
3:02-3:24=So true. I remember sitting in a science class one semester. I was totally zoned out, and I decided to take a look at the posters on the wall. One of them said, "Nobody cares if you're miserable, so you might as well be happy". WTF?!
amazing video. u just summed up what ive been thinking for the last few months. im 19 going on 20 and ive come really close to drinking myself to death already. like literally ive drank so much that ive spit up blood and have gotten rushed to the hospital. i wanna go sober until my 21st b-day and get my life in check. thanks again.
@hypnotize221 Thanks for sharing about your experience and keep up the good work with taking care of yourself. Life can be great without escaping it :)
What are some suggestions to keep yourself busy while staying sober? I work enough hours already. What can I do for personal enjoyment? I do not like hanging around the house either. Appreciate your reply! Thanks!
@giaisbomb Yes, I definitely wouldn't working more. I'm personally comfortable with stillness so you'll have to find what you enjoy without alcohol. For example, some people really enjoy exploring nature. Some enjoy travel, walking, or exercise. Everyone is different. I personally enjoy being creative, working on my home, facebook, communicating on the net, reading, movies, tv, video games. But again...everyone's different. Take your time in finding what you love!
I think this is dead on. Strength is the ability to withstand pain. And we need courage to gain strength. Question- if we are week to withstand pain and lack courage, then how do we find the courage to gain the strength to withstand the pain?
@DragonGemini88 Glad this resonated. To answer your question, our mind can trick us into believing we can't "stand" the pain, but we can. None of those Chilean miners thought they could spend over 60 days trapped, but they all did. If people are locked in a jail cell, they can detox without dying or going crazy. The only way we can prove our strength to ourselves is to move through the fear and discomfort. I'm limited in characters. Write me directly if you want to process this.
Thanks Bud! Ive been struggling back and forth with Alcohol. The part about feeling the pain or anxiety is totally true ...it means you need to change.
This is very wise and has been very helpful to me,I decided to quit drinking and this has reinforced exactly my reasons. Thanks for posting.
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@121inspired You're welcome. I'm glad you found this useful on your journey away from drinking :)
UnificationDotCom 3 weeks ago
Thank you for this, it really helps, feeling pretty low but determined to get through this, I would love to have the old me back!
zerohumour 1 month ago
@zerohumour You're very welcome...I'm glad it was helpful. Just remember that our "old me's" have always been there, just waiting to return :) They way to get there is to undo the choices that got us away from ourselves.
UnificationDotCom 1 month ago
@UnificationDotCom I think I've been drinking to get buzzed-but eventually leads to me falling asleep. And that's the only time I do sleep(after consuming alcohol). The friends that I hang with manage their alcohol consumptionn far better than I. But I am trying to stay away from those friends and alcohol since it's the only time I get wasted.
lemmieatit 8 months ago
@lemmieatit That sounds like a good idea to avoid your drinking friends until you're feeling healed. Eventually, if you allow yourself to detox and work on underlying emotional issues, you'll sleep great when sober.
UnificationDotCom 8 months ago
@lemmieatit It is time for you to gain new friends who are not into drinking. It can help you with your sobriety. Good thing that you share this. There are people in this world who can help you.
Intoactionrehab 4 months ago
Thank you so much for this message. It is EXACTLY what I needed to hear!!!
JCBeloved3 3 months ago
@UnificationDotCom This past weekend I went on a 3 day drinking binge. I hung out with friends and a cousin drinking alcohol and partying. When it was all over I felt lousy and scared. Afraid that I'm engaging in high risk behaviour that will not have a happy end. I want to stop. I think dropping my circle of friends will be key since we all drink.I have a beautiful family that needs me alive and healthy. Any suggestions?
lemmieatit 8 months ago
@lemmieatit If you'd like to find healing and be healthy for your family, it may help to get support from counseling, AA or other support groups. I think that if friends are "triggers" for binge behavior, it's best to take a break until you get your life under control...and in some cases permanently if they're not healthy people. Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we turn our life around. This past weekend was partly you teaching yourself what no longer works. Watch Celebrity Rehab.
UnificationDotCom 8 months ago
Thank you so much man!! I have been an alcoholic and a drug addict for many years now. I now realise that by takingh alcohol and drugs I am just supressing the reality of life by taking thigns to make me "high" this video has changed my life. I love you man!
Cryptokronik 8 months ago
@Cryptokronik You're welcome...I'm glad to hear it was helpful! Funny synchronicity: as I type, "Cold Turkey" by John Lennon is playing :) I've been sober (don't do nicotine or caffeine either) for a couple years now, and I feel much more attuned to "natural highs". I enjoy connected breathwork to get a regular, purifying "high" (I've done some vids on that too. If we're living the life we're meant to live, we don't need to escape it.
UnificationDotCom 8 months ago
i love ur insight. r u a doctor? i never looked at it that way; that by shoving a substance in2 my body, im actually keeping myself from responding 2 my negative emotions && making positive changes in my life. i really love the way u put that. im glad i came across this video bcuz im struggling with something, && ur video has given me the push that i need 2 stop doing what im doing. its true that people r always seeking to change their emotions && not their life
natschaeffer 9 months ago
@natschaeffer I'm glad this was helpful for you. No, I'm not a doctor. I used to work as a therapist but am now a writer. Kudos for taking care of yourself in a positive way.
UnificationDotCom 9 months ago
hey im 21 im an alcoholic and i cant stop. no really. death seems like the only answer
DfektRiskProductions 10 months ago
@DfektRiskProductions I'd suggest seeing a counselor. Your willingness to share your frustration indicates you'd rather heal than give up.
UnificationDotCom 10 months ago
I'm starting to have "user dreams" as their called i had a dream i was chugging a bottle of Jack Daniels it freaked me out when i woke up cause it felt so real i thought i had broken my sobriety but a good friend tells me they go away
neighsmitty 10 months ago
@neighsmitty Yes, it's almost like a "rite of passage" to move through such unconscious cravings...but it does get easier.
UnificationDotCom 10 months ago
Tonight will be the 12th night i've been sober i once went 104 days without alcohol but i fell back into that trap i'm gonna try like hell this time to make it a year and if i can do that i'll try to keep going i've been drinking sense my 21st birthday there was a time where i drank for 2 years straight every night i'm talking black out drunk i don't wanna live like that anymore i wanna be able to look back on my life and be proud of the things i've acomplished
neighsmitty 10 months ago
@neighsmitty Congrats on your 12th night of sobriety. It sounds like you're committed to living a more healthy life. I've found that dealing with grief, unfinished business in relationships, and not putting myself around negative people have all helped me live a sober life the last 2 years.
UnificationDotCom 10 months ago
@UnificationDotCom Thanks i'll keep you up to date on how my progress is going with that and if i feel the urge to drink or break down i'll talk with you
neighsmitty 10 months ago
@neighsmitty Sounds good. Keep up the good healing work you're doing.
UnificationDotCom 10 months ago
@neighsmitty i commend you for being so open and & honest...keep up the good work man....
tkirtsey 7 months ago
But you NEED to see a doctor to detox! Believe me, it may suck not drinking at first, but I can tell you that the longer I stayed sober, the more I started enjoying things and people again. IT GETS BETTER.
bndkllr2 10 months ago
@bndkllr2 Although not not everyone needs a doctor, it can certainly be helpful to have a professional's assistance. Many counselors are not doctors. Also, some people are able to quit with 12 step programs, a strong will, or "divine intervention."
UnificationDotCom 10 months ago
I CANT stop.. this is a problem the I've had for sometime.. I dread detox.. I've been thru it many times and every time I feel like I'm dying. I wish alcohol would just disapear and become un-attainable.. I cant do this anymore.. I want sobriety and happiness...
KylesWalk2Fame 10 months ago
@KylesWalk2Fame Yes, the pain of detox can be scary. But it's really a choice between short term suffering and long terms self-destruction. It may feel like detox is dying, but avoiding it is more likely to lead to death.
UnificationDotCom 10 months ago
@KylesWalk2Fame Have you seen your Doctor? If you are going through detox, you need medical assistance, ie a prescription for Ativan or something similar to ease the withdrawl symptoms. ALCOHOL WITHDRAWL CAN BE DEADLY WITHOUT MEDICAL SUPERVISION because it screws with a chemical in your brain that regulates your heart-beat. I know. I tried quitting a while back, and by the 5th day, my heart was beating irratically and I went to the ER thinking I was about to have a heart attack. I'm fine now
bndkllr2 10 months ago
@KylesWalk2Fame Dude get a hold of your self i suppose some people can get "addicted" to alcohol but trust me u should thank god your not a heroin addict NOBODY can help you if your addicted to heroin.
masterkush4x 10 months ago
i was going to change the chanel. but the video was good. thanks man
420herbs 10 months ago
Im 21 years old and ive been using alcohol as a ‘social lubricant’ probably since I was 18, now anytime I go out and do anything with other people I immediately feel the need to drink, I cant remember the last time I met up with people without making a beer run or a trip to the liquor store. I also enjoy drinking by myself, I try to be sober for days in between but I feel the urge to drink everyday.
Scone54 10 months ago
@Scone54 Thanks for sharing. I can relate to what you wrote as I used to use substances to make social interactions more interesting. Now I'm more selective about my social interactions so they're naturally stimulating.
UnificationDotCom 10 months ago
Alcohol really bad thing, don't care what anyone sayd, there is someone dying of Drunk Driving or an Alcohol related illness right now as i'm typing this, & thats the truth
phillosophy21still 10 months ago
But how do we find out what changes we need to make in our life?
marshalljimduncan 11 months ago
@marshalljimduncan I don't usually read comments so write me directly if you'd like to explore this.
UnificationDotCom 11 months ago
@marshalljimduncan In a nutshell, we have to examine what is working and what isn't, and continue to try new directions until life is in harmony.
UnificationDotCom 11 months ago
This dude is wise and I'm pretty sure he hit the nail right on the head. I think all of us who have had a problem with drinking know what he said is true.
jakehorror 1 year ago
i think you're a commie. i fought in vietnam for americans to drink booze. it's a god given right to get drunk!
vet725 1 year ago
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mdcombs79 1 year ago
u r or u r not an alcoholic,point blank people,places and things have made some hard drinkers but an alcoholic has lost the choice to drink,working the 12 steps and finding a power greater than urself is the solution.this also works on drugs,anything else is up to u .the problem is lack of power(GOD)has all power may u find him now!
spazmoso 1 year ago
@spazmoso There is no such thing as losing a choice to drink Alcoholics are alcoholics because it's what they chose to do. It's not cancer, it's not AIDS, it's not leukemia, it's a choice. Addicts are people who have no self control. You don't need to live a life without alcohol, you need to live a life with discipline.
chucklewis1082 1 year ago
@chucklewis1082 then u r not a real alcoholic,u have forged the need to drink because of some trivial excuse,daddy beat u or some molestation whatever.i dont expect u to understand the only ones that do are the others with the reak affliction.and btw thanks for pointing that out theres only room in AA for real alcoholics,its the only treatment that works for the garden variety 100%proof hopeless alcoholic
spazmoso 1 year ago
@spazmoso Wonderful comments from such a good human being. I'm sure your 12 steps teach you to try and dredge up your vision of somebody's traumatized past (daddy beat u or molestation..., you're a class act...). Tell you what daddy did do, he drank himself to death before he was 55 years old. He made excuse after excuse as to why he drank and it was all bullshit. He had no discipline. I have no sympathy for alcoholics or any addicts for that matter. It's all a choice. Quit your crying.
chucklewis1082 1 year ago
@chucklewis1082 ur teachings work with alot of people im sure and im not saying the AA way is the only way for problematic drinkers,but the real alcoholic has lost the power to choose whether hell drink or not hell go to the bitter end,drinking is but a symptom but without a higher power of ur understanding and the 12 steps life on lifes erms is too much for us
spazmoso 1 year ago
@chucklewis1082 and you're right, I'm not an alcoholic. I drink, but I have discipline.
chucklewis1082 1 year ago
@chucklewis1082 inorance and arrogance are ugly my friend,just i say THERE ARE ALTERNATIVES TO AA,so u should say theres alternates to ur methods?jmo player
spazmoso 1 year ago
3:02-3:24=So true. I remember sitting in a science class one semester. I was totally zoned out, and I decided to take a look at the posters on the wall. One of them said, "Nobody cares if you're miserable, so you might as well be happy". WTF?!
Mrsbosom 1 year ago
I'M six months sober and i feel so good about myself working on the twelve steps going to AA meetings thank you 4 sharing
brenda1219621 1 year ago
amazing video. u just summed up what ive been thinking for the last few months. im 19 going on 20 and ive come really close to drinking myself to death already. like literally ive drank so much that ive spit up blood and have gotten rushed to the hospital. i wanna go sober until my 21st b-day and get my life in check. thanks again.
hypnotize221 1 year ago 7
@hypnotize221 Thanks for sharing about your experience and keep up the good work with taking care of yourself. Life can be great without escaping it :)
UnificationDotCom 1 year ago
What are some suggestions to keep yourself busy while staying sober? I work enough hours already. What can I do for personal enjoyment? I do not like hanging around the house either. Appreciate your reply! Thanks!
giaisbomb 1 year ago
@giaisbomb Yes, I definitely wouldn't working more. I'm personally comfortable with stillness so you'll have to find what you enjoy without alcohol. For example, some people really enjoy exploring nature. Some enjoy travel, walking, or exercise. Everyone is different. I personally enjoy being creative, working on my home, facebook, communicating on the net, reading, movies, tv, video games. But again...everyone's different. Take your time in finding what you love!
UnificationDotCom 1 year ago
Thanks for this. It is inspiring.
HmmYepHaha 1 year ago
@HmmYepHaha I'm glad you found it helpful :)
UnificationDotCom 1 year ago
I think this is dead on. Strength is the ability to withstand pain. And we need courage to gain strength. Question- if we are week to withstand pain and lack courage, then how do we find the courage to gain the strength to withstand the pain?
DragonGemini88 1 year ago
@DragonGemini88 Glad this resonated. To answer your question, our mind can trick us into believing we can't "stand" the pain, but we can. None of those Chilean miners thought they could spend over 60 days trapped, but they all did. If people are locked in a jail cell, they can detox without dying or going crazy. The only way we can prove our strength to ourselves is to move through the fear and discomfort. I'm limited in characters. Write me directly if you want to process this.
UnificationDotCom 1 year ago
absolutely
toneythetigerrr 1 year ago
Thanks Bud! Ive been struggling back and forth with Alcohol. The part about feeling the pain or anxiety is totally true ...it means you need to change.
pkzac 1 year ago
@pkzac Thanks for your kind feedback. I'm glad this resonated for you.
UnificationDotCom 1 year ago
@MrMindify Fuck you..
Clankl33t 1 year ago