The Fuck is everyones problem it does get better... Have you lived your entire life? no so why not just shut up and enjoy the ride. Amazing video by the way
@jacklaren these videos are made for u to let u know that u'll never be alone and that there are others just like u. U have to make u better life an not wait for it make a change in ur life that is positive
well im 35 so when does it get better? kid! i grew up in the south and i attempted suicide but i got caught. Im still waiting to experiance the happy side of being gay. beleive me if their was a magic pill i could take to make me str8 i would. FOR ME BEING GAY SUCKS!!!!! Im much better being alone.
I had the worst time in high school. I came out to a few friends, and some of them didn't like it and told others who didn't like it either. I had tried to kill myself several times because of all the harassment and bullying I went though
Now, I just finished my 1st year of college and found amazing people, I just gathered the confidence to tell my parents and told them this is the reason for the suicide attempts. They love and support me.
Things really do get better. Thank you for the vid
I used to think that my sexuality was a big deal, until you have something so much more horrible happen to you, and you realize how of little importance what you are attracted to is. I have fibromyalgia, and when you have something happen to you that is so bad, it puts things into perspective. I didn't know life could be so horrible, or how bad one could feel... be thankful for everything you have
Good video, I hope things do get better... cuz it's so hard right now.
I feel like my experience in life is similar to yours; i've never been hated on, and being out has been a tremendously fantastic adventure. It's not fair that others should have to go through such trauma in high school when there are oases of non-homophobia in this day and age.
I'm gay and I did think that it was the biggest deal, but I was wrong. I've only been out for going on 2 months now. I started to struggle being someone I wasn't and I was fast slipping into depression .. so I thought to myself , NO enough is enough. 2 months on I am now a changed person, I'm so much happier and it feels like the weight of the world is finally off my shoulders.
Well done for spreading the word Couver87 .. very inspirational video
i am lesbian and it did seem like the biggest deal in my head and i did think and attempt suicide but once i couldnt hold it in any more and told my closet friend things started to get better and better the more people i knew. Im still not out to my biological parents but that doesnt matter because my adoptive dads know and thats all that matters, really i guess in short the more people that you have around you and that accept you the better off things are.
It really does get better. I was bullied all throughout my early years and called a f*g. Once I left high school and went to college I met some great people who love me for who I am. I'm now a police officer and have an amazing life partner who I am very happy with.
I wish I could go back and tell that younger version of me, who spent so many nights crying alone in my room because I had no friends, that everything will work out.
People who die because they are gay is so sad. Thank you for your video John' they DOES HELP A LOT!!! even me who likes my sexuality find them helpful!
LOL everyone knows I am gay because of the way I walk and talk and act and stuff. Yep, Im a feminine one! :D I love it soo much because it is awesome I can be who I wanna be and NO ONE can change that.
I'm from Sri Lanka and just in case you wonder what on earth that is, it's the tiny island right below India. Just before i watched this video, i too had suicidal thoughts which i'm wise enough not to act on. I'm SO thankful to you because thanks to this video, you took my sorrows away. I thought it's far better in the states the gay scene but it seems like it's uniform world over. <3 you.
i would like to know that your videos has help me thought this different time of my life, it has been a hard and lonely time for me because i have told only one firend i'm gay and this has made turn to the wrong people (people online) to comfort me which had just trun my world to even bigger of a mess. in a world where i have been trying to be what it want me to be it nice to hear someone to say be yourself no matter who you are and again i would like to thank you and hope you all the best.
Hey John gotta say love the videos. Very inspiring. I subscribed yesterday :). My position is this: I am lucky enough not to have been picked on throughout college or university. (I'm in the UK). I'm now 22, my parents found out at 16 and have never mentioned it since. So do I mention sexuality again? (I'm single still live at home and have never brought a guy home). I think they would be cool about it. Thanks x
I would kick myself in the ass. If you don't know anyone out there that is willing to talk to you about you being gay and need to just talk, there are MANY websites out there and hotlines. Every gay community in every state is willing to help you. It is a few clicks away to find what you are looking for and call them to talk. Be strong and be smart. Don't let someone very low lower you from who you are. You are all loved and awesome people. GO GAYS! I love you all and i'm here and queer
You are not the only one and most of all you are no different then anyone else. Not worth killing yourself over words from others that don't know any better and who don't love themselfs anymore then they don't like you. Those people will learn later on they did wrong. I am really good friends with the ones who bullyed me and its kinda funny to look back and see everyone that was said and done. I can be proud that I didn't do anything because if I did and seen the future where I am now.....
that you leave all that behind you and you never have to deal with those people ever again. I met someone finally right after school. I never got to date any guys while I was in highschool. There were a few but nothing big but I found my love and I am very happy. I been with him for 6 in a half years and I am able to walk around proud to be gay and proud to have friends and family to support me and to all the gays out there that feel alone...you are not alone.....
before a blink of an eye, you are out of school, living in the real world and being able to be or do whatever you want to do. High school is all drama and you are someone stuck inside a small world and honestly, you might feel that is your world in which it is, but that world gets much bigger. I graduated and walking up on stage grabing my diploma, I was called a "Fag" while walking across there. It was a bad feeling and sucked, but I smiled and felt AWESOME to know....
You did an amazing job on this video and I hope this is shown to everyone. i am posting your video on my facebook to all my friends to see this. I am openly gay and have been since 14. I was open with friends in school and came out to family after graduation. My father was the only one who doesn't know since he is a gay basher but life does go on and life does get better. I was picked on my whole life in school and I took baby steps and took it slow and sooner or later.....
I KNOW ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS WHO IS GAY TRIED TO KILL THEM SELVES 6 DAYS AGO AND NOW HE IS IN THE HOSPITAL AND HIS LIFE IS RUINED SO DONT DO IT THERE ARE ALWAYS PEOPLE WHO WILL LOVE YOU AND PEOPLE WHO WONT LOVE YOU JUST LOOK PAST THE HATERS AND TOWARDS THE PEOPLE THAT LOVE YOU.
Thanks for posting John. Your story is very similar to my own, and I just wanted you to know that your videos helped me accept who I am too. I'm 20 and I've only been out for a year and a half and it def gets better every single day.
this video made smile, thanks a ton john:) i showed this to one of my friends who recently came out and i think it really helped him cope because he is called queer and a fag everyday:(
Uhh well this is just another way to say gays aren't gonna be accepted. Though it's fighting for the opposite, let's get real we're just making society hate us even more with all this stuff.
@miklo1811281 I can agree with you so much but thinking that way is what isn't helping either. We all have to fight together and be there for one another and one day it will get better for all of us. I do hope you don't give up anymore then what you have. Gays are accepted already but still not enough we should. Society will be broken down and they will learn we are poeple who wanna be happy too and all of this stuff here is whats making things happen.
I don't mean to be one of those people that get's a comment to be thumbs up-ed a ton of times for saying something stupid about the people who disliked the video,
but seriously, how could you not like this?
I'd make a video response, but my parents are right upstairs and I don't want them to hear. >_<
1) Dan Savage (not David) is a sex columnist who covers LGBTQ issues and topics.
2) As much as I appreciate the "It Gets Better" campaign and all the work it is hoping to accomplish. It does not "get" better, we have to MAKE it better. That means sticking it out and fighting for your life.
3) The "It Gets better campaign was on YouTube and Dan Savage ran out of space for video responses on the second day of having it up. He is supposed to set up a website. No word yet on when it is happening.
1) Dan Savage (not David) is a sex columnist who covers LGBTQ issues and topics.
2) As much as I appreciate the "It Gets Better" campaign and all the work it is hoping to accomplish. It does not "get" better, we have to MAKE it better. That means sticking it out and fighting for your life.
3) The "It Gets better campaign was on YouTube and Dan Savage ran out of space for video responses on the second day of having it up. He is supposed to set up a website. No word yet on when it is happening.
That's a very powerful message, to stay strong. I've never been through any toughts of suicide or depression, mostly because I look straight and I can "hide" myself easily. Now I'm at the point which I have assummed my sexuality and I don't fight with myself, but still I'm "afraid" to tell family or friends that I'm gay. I think this is like an evolutive process where you reach better and better stages when finally, you are ready to come out. Dealing with my own self was the hardest part. Thanks
@Streamliner009 =( I am very sorry you have to go through that and I wish the best for you. I know everything will come through for you and when you tell your family and friends, they may exept it a lot better then what you would think.
You're cool and I like that you sent me to see the It Gets Better video cause it's a great idea and I pray it helps to save lives. I hope you have a great and wonderful Happy Birthday!!
Except that people do care if your gay or not and its not a small something to a lot of people, myself included, yes its great that you haven't experienced hate directed at who you are but truth is that these people who commit suicide aren't people who are "picked on" by one or two people but are assaulted daily by the world they live in, often with on one to turn to including their families. No i do not condone suicide but fact of the matter is that it can be a long time before it gets better.
I decided that lying to myself and further hurting myself was much worse than anything anyone else can do, so slowly but surely I've been coming out. Coming out to myself was the best thing I've ever done. You don't have to proclaim your sexuality to the world if its not the best thing for you, but you have to at least be yourself to yourself. Now my friends, and my immediate family know and even if some of them don't understand, they accept it and I don't have to act a part that isn't me :D
I'm 19, and have been out for only half a year, and really the only thing that made me want to come out was my attempted suicide, about half a year ago. I don't know whether the internalized stigma I had was the only thing that led up to it or not, but I know it was a main contributer. The rural Mississippi delta is a hard place to live as a gay male, even if you aren't out, because the attitude that is unfortunately prevalent in this area. But I survived my depression and after getting help
I had bullying issues when I was younger, but I grew up into a somewhat imposing looking guy and people don't fuck with me now. The only thing that makes me upset is how alone I feel. I know very few people who are like me. I have moments where I wish there was place where there were no straight people... but that's both illogical and supporting of segregation, which I disagree with.
Leviticus 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it [is] abomination
Romans 1: 26 For this cause YHVH gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
Im openly gay, Friday was national coming out day in Canada. I was talking to my parents about it and we realized that there is no one left for me to come out to! Im a grade 10 student, I have never been depressed or bullied by the fact that I'm gay. I am very fortunate and happy to be in the life I have been given.
Nice video. Glad you finally got around to making it :) Been thinking of doing one myself but there are so many great ones on already, I think I might just refer people to them.
On another note, HAPPY BDAY John! Much love and here's wishing you many happy years to come :D
I didn't know you were gay... Darn it! You dont look or act like it. I still love you! This actually probably made me love you more cause I just love gay guys but really I love all guys! Hehe but man it's kinda weird thinking you were hot now.. But anyway... Love you!
You should still make the cool video with editing and friends and family in it. ;-) PS- I loved this, and I want to make one too, but I have a feeling I'll just mumble around what to say... ha ha.
This is how i see the whole hater thing. If I could give you the world On a silver platter Would even matter You'd still be mad at me If I can find in all this A dozen roses That I would give to you You'd still be miserable Cause in reality I'm gon' be who I be And I don't feel no faults For all the lies that you bought You can try as you may Bring me down but I say That it ain't up to you Gonna on do what you do [Chorus:] Hate on me hater Now or Later Cause I'm gonna do me You'll be mad baby
Im not trying to sound rude but people do care..maybe where you live,its more accepting but in a highly conservative town(like where i grew up) alot of people do care..I think you should edit that part out or change it to people do care but its up to you to love yourself and remember that there are people out there who accept and love you..
i've been openly gay since i was 18 and i love my life and everyone in it. things in fact DO get better and i wouldn't choose to live my life another way
and even if you're still in highschool, things can still get better. for every bully, theres an ally (or two). all you have to do is seek those allies out :)
thank you so much john for all your videos, you are truly a one of a kind inspiration! lots and lots and lots of love <3
I came out when I was 14 and had a large extended Gay family to replace the one I lost. That was 40 years ago and things aren't like that today. People are much more accepting now & most people just plain don't care WHAT one is as much as WHO one is. All that one has to remember is that there are many many gay people out there that will help to make life as great as it can be. So don't ever let being different get one down as we are ALL there for support when you need us.
i'm half-openly gay in mi school.......i said that i'm bisexual because they just don't give a damn so i can say that a boy is hot in mi school whitout my classmates becoming insane, the truth is that i'm 100% gay but in my school i run the risk of being rape if i say the truth (not know why the difference but don't give a damn). and for my family, well my sister knows but my mom well she just say me once, no homosexual have the right to live in this house.....so you can guess.
John, just commenting as requested. I love my life and am openly gay. I am still dealing with one particular person who doesn't think I'm normal, my dad. But that doesn't change anything. I am happy with who I am, I love my life, and I am openly gay.
Changed. And now i wich i could change back but i don' t know how. This makes now problems with my love life. So if you have to change make shure you can change back as you where.
Hey from one libra to an other (10-02-87 & 10-10-1987 nothing mend by it) the people have to keep in mind that if some wone has sibelings that go to the same school. They must also don't know because when they get the oppurtunity they will .... You over and tell others. And that they don't take some thing to school that makes it obvios. Im talking out of the stuff that happend to me. Becaus that my secret came out i got down to a level that wold kill me and made an agremend with my self. I chan
you are a really good man John, and if these videos spare the life of one confused, directionless young person, or not so young person, then it will have been worthwhile. A very articulate spokesman for gay men and I thank you for it.
I am openly gay since the age of 19, started thinking I wasn't straight at the age of 16. I love this video. I have been through a lot in my life. Things do get better
wonderful vid. so true. high school for me wasnt too bad cuz i stuck with the ppl who loved me and never got bullied seriously. but things are amazing in college with our Lambda society on campus i have a whole family of amazing people and a boyfriend of 8 months now who treats me better then anyone. those days when i didnt like myself seem so far away and it really does get better. i hope teens learn that soon enough.
I was molested by my step-father in jr high, moved in with my father in high school and was picked on by classmates all through high school, I finally dropped out and took my GED, it was that bad. I would pray to GOD almost every night to take my life so I could escape the bullying. I'm 42 now and love life. If anyone can be living proof that it DOES get better, then I could be on the poster :-) for anyone watching this vid and having issues, do whatever u need to do to get through it and it wi
Hi John, His name is "Dan Savage" he started the "It Gets Better Project" he is a gay activist, journalist, editor and has a podcast on itunes called "Savage Love". He is also a regular contributor on "Real Time with Bill Maher" on HBO. Check out his video on Youtube. Thank You for all you do.
COOL message, Couver87! Happy pre-birthday to you, my fellow Libra! My birthday's today (33)! I never thought I'd live to see 16, let alone pass it twice! Today (and every day), is indeed a gift and a good day to be alive and gay!
Thank you so much John! <3 It was hard for me to hide my sexuality from my mother. It was rough when I came out to her, but over time our relationship has grown so much and were even closer now. It does get better. I attempted suicide so many times over the years, and even now it still wears on me, but I know things will get better if you give it time.
The history of this boys is so sad and tragic. Im not gay, but i suffered bullying for other reasons, and life suck back then, but you need to hold on, not only for your family or love ones, but for you, because it really gets better, and i wish i knew that this was true back them..
I'm a freshman in college and my life is so much better. Like I'm pretty sure highschool is hell for everyone...except that most gay kids are on that frozen level of hell (whatever Dante Alighieri called it).
i love ur videos there soo true but full of your personality and personal touch i was out before i watched your videos but im sure your helping loads and loads of closeted people :D
I didn't come out until age 30. I feel cheated that I lost my 20's but in 1991 there was no internet or other tools that people have today. My partner and I have had 19 AWESOME years together...my life started when I came out.
I have a friend who recently came out at age 52. He is married and has 4 grown children. At any age it is important to be who you are and be honest with YOURSELF. Great vid!
Focus, not on what religion and society say, but on loving yourself. Religion is a poison. Love yourself and discover the gifts WITHIN you that you were meant to share with the rest of us in the world. Be well.
i just feel like commenting even though i'm not gay.i support gay rights and everything and i've known people who are gay so i'm glad that people are finally address this,but it breaks my heart that this comes after many deaths.my question is,that i'm 18 and i'm stuggling with the one thing in my life right know which is my love of music,i feel like i won't be getting anywhere cuz i'm still learnin.do you think it gets better as long as i keep going or should i give up?
It is Dan Savage, not David Savage. He is a sex advise columnist and the host of the wildly entertaining sex advise pod cast "Savage Love" He uses his pod cast a lot to speak out about issues in the gay community.
From your friends in the United Kingdom, i just wanna say this is a totally beautiful video and i totally hope that someone watching this thinks about hope life will defo get better, and they learnt to just completely ignore the bullies and intolerant people
"No one cares." There is one factor that is not being addressed. The religious aspect. For the most part no one does care but add in the religious aspect and the bible abuse--abomination, shame--its a tough battle. I came out at 13 in middle school. Not bullied really, called faggot etc but nothing to extreme, Check out what the Mormons, Evangelicals and some Catholics are posting, couple that with the inner struggle, then its all out war.
Hi John, I am not currently openly gay BUT plan to come out to my best friend and sister on or around October 11 (coming up soon). It's a Coming Out Day apparently. I have you and other gay YouTubers to thank so much for helping me with this. Thanks so much, you can never know how much you have helped! :) <3 -James
You're so right. For every case we hear about gay suicide, there are many more that go unreported. It's horrible, and it's something people should remember.
I am 18, and I am openly, happily gay. It gets better. By the time I came out at 17, I was confident enough to not let bullying affect me. I am fortunate to have a loving family and group of friends, but nothing is more important than being okay with who I am. Learn to live with and love yourself. It gets better, I promise.
It does get better. I came out when I was 19 (now 23) and I must say, life got so much better after I came out. Although I refused to come out in HS, and was teased at times for it, but I look now at the people who did tease me, and realize that I am a better person because of me. I constantly thought about suicide, and swore up and down I never would come out. Now today, I couldn't imagine life not being out. It truly is amazing just letting it out and being true to yourself.
I don't think you can say that no one necessarily cares. There are a lot of people who get kicked out of their house for being gay by their parents, it just depends on where you live. Also, I don't think the whole gay-suicide thing is always to do with what others think. I mean, yeah, in a lot of cases it is, but for example, you said that you thought about killing yourself yet when you came out, no one really cared, which must have meant that where you grew up, being gay was ok,
Thank you for being such a strong and positive voice in this world, Im very quite about myself; but not a total closet case. I also hope you have a beautiful birthday. Keep the videos coming, they inspire me and many others.
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@aManOnaJourney 5?? I don't know any. I think that (unpopular opinion) class has a lot to do with it. I went to a kind of liberal private school, growing up I knew very few people who had anti-gay opinions, and it seems to me the more wealth and education you possess, the less likely you are to be gay.
I'm also surprised at the figure and that John says he's thought of suicide; I've never, ever, ever, ever contemplated suicide, despite my unusual and often fucked-up lifestyle
Happy Birthday! Many happy returns! You are correct in making this video. Many of your subscribers are like myself, unwilling or unable to make videos, so you speak for all of us. Thank you for expressing for me what I cannot express myself.
Ive alawys been the "Dont ask, Dont tell" type when it came to my sexuality. But I am openly gay and I thought it was pretty obvious in highschool, but I guess not because many former classmates are still surprised by it. My relationship with my family isnt the greatest so I have never told any of them and dont really see a need to do so but I am positive that they suspect I am but just dont want to say anything. John, do you think gay people SHOULD be so fully open or is there an extent to it?
@prithy There is an extent to anything. I think it depends on the person. If Jack feels hopeless and hurt that he cant be open with his sexuality with his family and because of this he feel less connected to them, then that sucks and Jack should try and come out to his family. However, if Jill feels that her lesbianism is no one freaking business and it doesn't effect her being at all whether or not her mom and dad knows then, well who is to say its a bill deal?
@Couver87 ..... That surprisingly made sense! I was wondering how you would have answered that one. But I think I am a Jill in this scenario. Their not knowing does not affect my behavior or attitude at all. I did feel kind of pressured with all these videos but you gave me some reassurance. Thank you!
@prithy i am exactly the same as you but i think of it like this: only tell the people that are close and you give a shit abt. the rest are irrelevant.
*John* ...... thank God you were chicken! thank God! that was "strength" and not weakness on your part my gay Brother! i celebrate your beautiful LIFE by wishing YOU *** Happy Birthday *** ....... and many, many MORE!!! hugs! :-)
if I ever see you when I'm in Phoenix I'm going to give you a huge bear hug, thank you for this video and your continued efforts to grow as a person & help others do the same
You look like Alex Pettyfer.
Blainnesque 2 months ago
your hot
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Before I came out, the idea of doing so was such a massive deal to me. Tbh though its not :) Things do get better they really do
KRAZYKIERAN4U 3 months ago
The Fuck is everyones problem it does get better... Have you lived your entire life? no so why not just shut up and enjoy the ride. Amazing video by the way
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@jacklaren these videos are made for u to let u know that u'll never be alone and that there are others just like u. U have to make u better life an not wait for it make a change in ur life that is positive
taibasco 5 months ago
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taibasco 5 months ago
Life doesnt get better, it gets worse. The highlight of everyones life is their years as a child. Sorry to burst your little bubble.
sgtsnakeeyes11 5 months ago
openly gay & pretty darn happy. :)
great video !<3
aplaney 6 months ago
well im 35 so when does it get better? kid! i grew up in the south and i attempted suicide but i got caught. Im still waiting to experiance the happy side of being gay. beleive me if their was a magic pill i could take to make me str8 i would. FOR ME BEING GAY SUCKS!!!!! Im much better being alone.
jacklaren 7 months ago
Such a good message**
JoseKalai 7 months ago
Sucks
JoseKalai 7 months ago
5 a day should be the amount of gays you can beat down in the street legally
LEGENDLEN 8 months ago
your such a strong person, you have me in awe I just found your channel
lightpinkmommy 8 months ago
in the soviet russia closet comes out of you
isobodari1 9 months ago
you're truly wonderful! Beautiful video <3
theviolinist88 9 months ago
what's that shirt you're wearing? a husband beater?
multiplayerreport 9 months ago
@multiplayerreport LMFAO... No.
Smurvil 8 months ago
I had the worst time in high school. I came out to a few friends, and some of them didn't like it and told others who didn't like it either. I had tried to kill myself several times because of all the harassment and bullying I went though
Now, I just finished my 1st year of college and found amazing people, I just gathered the confidence to tell my parents and told them this is the reason for the suicide attempts. They love and support me.
Things really do get better. Thank you for the vid
abbinormal77 9 months ago
I used to think that my sexuality was a big deal, until you have something so much more horrible happen to you, and you realize how of little importance what you are attracted to is. I have fibromyalgia, and when you have something happen to you that is so bad, it puts things into perspective. I didn't know life could be so horrible, or how bad one could feel... be thankful for everything you have
Good video, I hope things do get better... cuz it's so hard right now.
renerdrat 9 months ago
bullying is something horrible. why people cant take that NOT ALL OF US think or believe the same way? not all of us want the same things!
I believe we should love whoever we want to. love is something beautiful, everyone deserves it.
gay people, you've got my support.
Peace.
msscrazybuthappy 9 months ago 2
Ur def. Really hot ur brains and looks in one :) thx fur this video btw
megaeve505 10 months ago
u r hot
mossaicify 11 months ago
I feel like my experience in life is similar to yours; i've never been hated on, and being out has been a tremendously fantastic adventure. It's not fair that others should have to go through such trauma in high school when there are oases of non-homophobia in this day and age.
oh, and it's DAN savage, not david, btw
/watch?v=7IcVyvg2Qlo
karatepaperclip 11 months ago
Im gay to but i disagree me being gay has been a death sentence. its not ok otherwise it would be easy for us as for straights
familymatters2012 1 year ago
I'm gay and I did think that it was the biggest deal, but I was wrong. I've only been out for going on 2 months now. I started to struggle being someone I wasn't and I was fast slipping into depression .. so I thought to myself , NO enough is enough. 2 months on I am now a changed person, I'm so much happier and it feels like the weight of the world is finally off my shoulders.
Well done for spreading the word Couver87 .. very inspirational video
VWMobs 1 year ago 2
i am lesbian and it did seem like the biggest deal in my head and i did think and attempt suicide but once i couldnt hold it in any more and told my closet friend things started to get better and better the more people i knew. Im still not out to my biological parents but that doesnt matter because my adoptive dads know and thats all that matters, really i guess in short the more people that you have around you and that accept you the better off things are.
CrystalMoonShadow 1 year ago
love this. thank you!
theycalledmestephen 1 year ago
I love my life and I am bisexual. And no one picked on me because of my orientation, so that's good. John, you are awesome.
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Lmao no way your gay! Lies your a pussy eating mother fucker your a fucking stud! I bet you fucked lots of hot chicks!!!!
jasonmildward34 1 year ago
Great video ^.^
MrJason300 1 year ago
Great video John!
It really does get better. I was bullied all throughout my early years and called a f*g. Once I left high school and went to college I met some great people who love me for who I am. I'm now a police officer and have an amazing life partner who I am very happy with.
I wish I could go back and tell that younger version of me, who spent so many nights crying alone in my room because I had no friends, that everything will work out.
I really does get better, be strong.
allst4rm3 1 year ago
John.
Yes! It does get better
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bdcello1 1 year ago
People who die because they are gay is so sad. Thank you for your video John' they DOES HELP A LOT!!! even me who likes my sexuality find them helpful!
conscious4 1 year ago
LOL everyone knows I am gay because of the way I walk and talk and act and stuff. Yep, Im a feminine one! :D I love it soo much because it is awesome I can be who I wanna be and NO ONE can change that.
NomNomCookies000 1 year ago
Happy b-day!!!!
capuano1234 1 year ago
Hi John! =)
I'm from Sri Lanka and just in case you wonder what on earth that is, it's the tiny island right below India. Just before i watched this video, i too had suicidal thoughts which i'm wise enough not to act on. I'm SO thankful to you because thanks to this video, you took my sorrows away. I thought it's far better in the states the gay scene but it seems like it's uniform world over. <3 you.
wickrev 1 year ago
John! you are amazing! everytime i watch just ONE of your videos, i see my life in a new way!!! thanks so much dude!
that1cubankid 1 year ago
i would like to know that your videos has help me thought this different time of my life, it has been a hard and lonely time for me because i have told only one firend i'm gay and this has made turn to the wrong people (people online) to comfort me which had just trun my world to even bigger of a mess. in a world where i have been trying to be what it want me to be it nice to hear someone to say be yourself no matter who you are and again i would like to thank you and hope you all the best.
goiowago 1 year ago
I thank you for being a voice for those who need to know that they are not alone. Let's make it clear, it gets better...
darkal13 1 year ago 14
Happy Birthday, John!
magicpandora 1 year ago
Hey John gotta say love the videos. Very inspiring. I subscribed yesterday :). My position is this: I am lucky enough not to have been picked on throughout college or university. (I'm in the UK). I'm now 22, my parents found out at 16 and have never mentioned it since. So do I mention sexuality again? (I'm single still live at home and have never brought a guy home). I think they would be cool about it. Thanks x
jsphcyl 1 year ago
short n simple- you're great.
eNARV1 1 year ago 15
:] From Australia - we do things differently here, so it's 20 days until I finish high school, turn 18 and can drive.
It's so close to getting better :D
nathface10 1 year ago
you've never been hated on? good on you =) but it's a shame that so many of us do on a daily basis...
jasonchu82 1 year ago
I would kick myself in the ass. If you don't know anyone out there that is willing to talk to you about you being gay and need to just talk, there are MANY websites out there and hotlines. Every gay community in every state is willing to help you. It is a few clicks away to find what you are looking for and call them to talk. Be strong and be smart. Don't let someone very low lower you from who you are. You are all loved and awesome people. GO GAYS! I love you all and i'm here and queer
marktheman2003 1 year ago
You are not the only one and most of all you are no different then anyone else. Not worth killing yourself over words from others that don't know any better and who don't love themselfs anymore then they don't like you. Those people will learn later on they did wrong. I am really good friends with the ones who bullyed me and its kinda funny to look back and see everyone that was said and done. I can be proud that I didn't do anything because if I did and seen the future where I am now.....
marktheman2003 1 year ago
that you leave all that behind you and you never have to deal with those people ever again. I met someone finally right after school. I never got to date any guys while I was in highschool. There were a few but nothing big but I found my love and I am very happy. I been with him for 6 in a half years and I am able to walk around proud to be gay and proud to have friends and family to support me and to all the gays out there that feel alone...you are not alone.....
marktheman2003 1 year ago
before a blink of an eye, you are out of school, living in the real world and being able to be or do whatever you want to do. High school is all drama and you are someone stuck inside a small world and honestly, you might feel that is your world in which it is, but that world gets much bigger. I graduated and walking up on stage grabing my diploma, I was called a "Fag" while walking across there. It was a bad feeling and sucked, but I smiled and felt AWESOME to know....
marktheman2003 1 year ago
You did an amazing job on this video and I hope this is shown to everyone. i am posting your video on my facebook to all my friends to see this. I am openly gay and have been since 14. I was open with friends in school and came out to family after graduation. My father was the only one who doesn't know since he is a gay basher but life does go on and life does get better. I was picked on my whole life in school and I took baby steps and took it slow and sooner or later.....
marktheman2003 1 year ago
I am out. Living on my own it does get better. Truth
Clikkoman 1 year ago
thanks so much for your video,
ii am a lesbian, not completely open yet, but it really does get better every single day.
katyperryluva 1 year ago
Well said, cutie pie!
phoenison 1 year ago
I KNOW ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS WHO IS GAY TRIED TO KILL THEM SELVES 6 DAYS AGO AND NOW HE IS IN THE HOSPITAL AND HIS LIFE IS RUINED SO DONT DO IT THERE ARE ALWAYS PEOPLE WHO WILL LOVE YOU AND PEOPLE WHO WONT LOVE YOU JUST LOOK PAST THE HATERS AND TOWARDS THE PEOPLE THAT LOVE YOU.
DON'T HATE, DONATE
njw198 1 year ago
belated happy birthday couver87...
stan5557 1 year ago
No extra emphasis on "BACK with another video"? Who are you, and where is the real Couver87?
nikorichie 1 year ago
Thanks for posting John. Your story is very similar to my own, and I just wanted you to know that your videos helped me accept who I am too. I'm 20 and I've only been out for a year and a half and it def gets better every single day.
Thanks for posting and keep them coming!
caafion 1 year ago
@JaapMatthijs ur rite dude
micheshawn 1 year ago
this video made smile, thanks a ton john:) i showed this to one of my friends who recently came out and i think it really helped him cope because he is called queer and a fag everyday:(
crayonFUmo 1 year ago
Uhh well this is just another way to say gays aren't gonna be accepted. Though it's fighting for the opposite, let's get real we're just making society hate us even more with all this stuff.
miklo1811281 1 year ago
@miklo1811281 ...what stuff? Telling people not to kill themselves?
That makes no sense...spreading love and positive messages doesn't make people hate anyone, does it?
PrairieBoy78 1 year ago
@miklo1811281 I can agree with you so much but thinking that way is what isn't helping either. We all have to fight together and be there for one another and one day it will get better for all of us. I do hope you don't give up anymore then what you have. Gays are accepted already but still not enough we should. Society will be broken down and they will learn we are poeple who wanna be happy too and all of this stuff here is whats making things happen.
marktheman2003 1 year ago
I don't mean to be one of those people that get's a comment to be thumbs up-ed a ton of times for saying something stupid about the people who disliked the video,
but seriously, how could you not like this?
I'd make a video response, but my parents are right upstairs and I don't want them to hear. >_<
XxFrAzZxX01 1 year ago
please check out thisisoz.com.au its really good for this kinda stuff
Justice2333 1 year ago
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1) Dan Savage (not David) is a sex columnist who covers LGBTQ issues and topics.
2) As much as I appreciate the "It Gets Better" campaign and all the work it is hoping to accomplish. It does not "get" better, we have to MAKE it better. That means sticking it out and fighting for your life.
3) The "It Gets better campaign was on YouTube and Dan Savage ran out of space for video responses on the second day of having it up. He is supposed to set up a website. No word yet on when it is happening.
morpheus814 1 year ago
1) Dan Savage (not David) is a sex columnist who covers LGBTQ issues and topics.
2) As much as I appreciate the "It Gets Better" campaign and all the work it is hoping to accomplish. It does not "get" better, we have to MAKE it better. That means sticking it out and fighting for your life.
3) The "It Gets better campaign was on YouTube and Dan Savage ran out of space for video responses on the second day of having it up. He is supposed to set up a website. No word yet on when it is happening.
morpheus814 1 year ago
That's a very powerful message, to stay strong. I've never been through any toughts of suicide or depression, mostly because I look straight and I can "hide" myself easily. Now I'm at the point which I have assummed my sexuality and I don't fight with myself, but still I'm "afraid" to tell family or friends that I'm gay. I think this is like an evolutive process where you reach better and better stages when finally, you are ready to come out. Dealing with my own self was the hardest part. Thanks
Streamliner009 1 year ago
@Streamliner009 =( I am very sorry you have to go through that and I wish the best for you. I know everything will come through for you and when you tell your family and friends, they may exept it a lot better then what you would think.
marktheman2003 1 year ago
@JaapMatthijs True, You're definitely not the only one from Europe - I'm from Estonia and I truly enjoy John's videos.
And thanks to you, John, for another great video!
TLiisu 1 year ago
You're cool and I like that you sent me to see the It Gets Better video cause it's a great idea and I pray it helps to save lives. I hope you have a great and wonderful Happy Birthday!!
decarlolamb 1 year ago
glad you're back
sneakerjockCA 1 year ago
Except that people do care if your gay or not and its not a small something to a lot of people, myself included, yes its great that you haven't experienced hate directed at who you are but truth is that these people who commit suicide aren't people who are "picked on" by one or two people but are assaulted daily by the world they live in, often with on one to turn to including their families. No i do not condone suicide but fact of the matter is that it can be a long time before it gets better.
Ngage600 1 year ago
That's DAN Savage. ;-)
myheroxanderpander 1 year ago
this went to my favorites :)
franzzsh 1 year ago
Happy Birthday, your speeches are always very touching love your style man!!!
franzzsh 1 year ago
"I was ma own bully" same here :S
franzzsh 1 year ago
happy birthday. love your videos so much. you are so awesome.
ironspoon 1 year ago
I decided that lying to myself and further hurting myself was much worse than anything anyone else can do, so slowly but surely I've been coming out. Coming out to myself was the best thing I've ever done. You don't have to proclaim your sexuality to the world if its not the best thing for you, but you have to at least be yourself to yourself. Now my friends, and my immediate family know and even if some of them don't understand, they accept it and I don't have to act a part that isn't me :D
idunno22909 1 year ago
I'm 19, and have been out for only half a year, and really the only thing that made me want to come out was my attempted suicide, about half a year ago. I don't know whether the internalized stigma I had was the only thing that led up to it or not, but I know it was a main contributer. The rural Mississippi delta is a hard place to live as a gay male, even if you aren't out, because the attitude that is unfortunately prevalent in this area. But I survived my depression and after getting help
idunno22909 1 year ago
I'm out and I'm usually content.
I had bullying issues when I was younger, but I grew up into a somewhat imposing looking guy and people don't fuck with me now. The only thing that makes me upset is how alone I feel. I know very few people who are like me. I have moments where I wish there was place where there were no straight people... but that's both illogical and supporting of segregation, which I disagree with.
Bleh... I feel like I whine too much.
LocksAndChains 1 year ago
I am Proud to be Gay, although I was picked on and bullied for being gay once I got out of high school It got better!
rebafanforlife84 1 year ago
Thank you for your insight. It is truly appreciated.
BTW Happy birthday, John! Best wishes.
ivasenko48 1 year ago
luv it. i hope this message would spread across the world enough with the hate
sexsomnia20 1 year ago
Happy B'day sexy! :~)
GleamOfTheDevil 1 year ago
Happy Birthday!!!!!
rippinsteo 1 year ago
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Repent Gays
Leviticus 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it [is] abomination
Romans 1: 26 For this cause YHVH gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
derekdb2 1 year ago
I haven't made any videos yet. But this is something that I strongly agree with as a gay male.
tricitesboy 1 year ago
Im openly gay, Friday was national coming out day in Canada. I was talking to my parents about it and we realized that there is no one left for me to come out to! Im a grade 10 student, I have never been depressed or bullied by the fact that I'm gay. I am very fortunate and happy to be in the life I have been given.
ttuplin 1 year ago
Dude, I love you. You're awesome.
Oh, and happy birthday! <33
NirgendwoProductions 1 year ago
Dude, I love you. You're awesome.
NirgendwoProductions 1 year ago
Nice video. Glad you finally got around to making it :) Been thinking of doing one myself but there are so many great ones on already, I think I might just refer people to them.
On another note, HAPPY BDAY John! Much love and here's wishing you many happy years to come :D
palaviye 1 year ago
I didn't know you were gay... Darn it! You dont look or act like it. I still love you! This actually probably made me love you more cause I just love gay guys but really I love all guys! Hehe but man it's kinda weird thinking you were hot now.. But anyway... Love you!
singer6965 1 year ago
& I'm out of highschool and everything still feels the same :/, but I guess that's my fault for not doing anything about it..
josephjuvenile 1 year ago
even after a run your hair looks AMAZING
josephjuvenile 1 year ago
You have to marry me already, reply.
MierAntonio 1 year ago
You should still make the cool video with editing and friends and family in it. ;-) PS- I loved this, and I want to make one too, but I have a feeling I'll just mumble around what to say... ha ha.
zachariahgriffin 1 year ago
kindan97 1 year ago
Im not trying to sound rude but people do care..maybe where you live,its more accepting but in a highly conservative town(like where i grew up) alot of people do care..I think you should edit that part out or change it to people do care but its up to you to love yourself and remember that there are people out there who accept and love you..
jasmine178100 1 year ago
"when you're done with high school, your whole world changes"
I can attest to that. It is so true. I graduated last june and am now in my freshman year of college in nyc and my life is SO. MUCH. BETTER.
vazqal10 1 year ago
Wishing you a very HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
dropcum 1 year ago
i've been openly gay since i was 18 and i love my life and everyone in it. things in fact DO get better and i wouldn't choose to live my life another way
and even if you're still in highschool, things can still get better. for every bully, theres an ally (or two). all you have to do is seek those allies out :)
thank you so much john for all your videos, you are truly a one of a kind inspiration! lots and lots and lots of love <3
kurisou 1 year ago
I came out when I was 14 and had a large extended Gay family to replace the one I lost. That was 40 years ago and things aren't like that today. People are much more accepting now & most people just plain don't care WHAT one is as much as WHO one is. All that one has to remember is that there are many many gay people out there that will help to make life as great as it can be. So don't ever let being different get one down as we are ALL there for support when you need us.
reddragon696 1 year ago
i'm half-openly gay in mi school.......i said that i'm bisexual because they just don't give a damn so i can say that a boy is hot in mi school whitout my classmates becoming insane, the truth is that i'm 100% gay but in my school i run the risk of being rape if i say the truth (not know why the difference but don't give a damn). and for my family, well my sister knows but my mom well she just say me once, no homosexual have the right to live in this house.....so you can guess.
saturok1 1 year ago
thank you :)
wayne1qaz 1 year ago
John, just commenting as requested. I love my life and am openly gay. I am still dealing with one particular person who doesn't think I'm normal, my dad. But that doesn't change anything. I am happy with who I am, I love my life, and I am openly gay.
chjr1387 1 year ago
i think your vid was one of the most heartfelt and honest, and simple....not staged. :)
MDkid1 1 year ago
you are amazing. thanks for this and all your videos.
watertower12 1 year ago
Changed. And now i wich i could change back but i don' t know how. This makes now problems with my love life. So if you have to change make shure you can change back as you where.
Tmmk1987 1 year ago
Hey from one libra to an other (10-02-87 & 10-10-1987 nothing mend by it) the people have to keep in mind that if some wone has sibelings that go to the same school. They must also don't know because when they get the oppurtunity they will .... You over and tell others. And that they don't take some thing to school that makes it obvios. Im talking out of the stuff that happend to me. Becaus that my secret came out i got down to a level that wold kill me and made an agremend with my self. I chan
Tmmk1987 1 year ago
you are a really good man John, and if these videos spare the life of one confused, directionless young person, or not so young person, then it will have been worthwhile. A very articulate spokesman for gay men and I thank you for it.
londonboy59 1 year ago
I love my life and being gay :) ♥
OMGItsGarrettLee 1 year ago
I am openly gay since the age of 19, started thinking I wasn't straight at the age of 16. I love this video. I have been through a lot in my life. Things do get better
dogit800 1 year ago
It does get better! It really does. =)
bradleyman888 1 year ago
Even though this topic may not always be hot on YouTube, it will always remain relevant. Good job, John. Have a really awesome birthday (tomorrow)!!
HahnJames 1 year ago
wonderful vid. so true. high school for me wasnt too bad cuz i stuck with the ppl who loved me and never got bullied seriously. but things are amazing in college with our Lambda society on campus i have a whole family of amazing people and a boyfriend of 8 months now who treats me better then anyone. those days when i didnt like myself seem so far away and it really does get better. i hope teens learn that soon enough.
drmakng53 1 year ago
I was molested by my step-father in jr high, moved in with my father in high school and was picked on by classmates all through high school, I finally dropped out and took my GED, it was that bad. I would pray to GOD almost every night to take my life so I could escape the bullying. I'm 42 now and love life. If anyone can be living proof that it DOES get better, then I could be on the poster :-) for anyone watching this vid and having issues, do whatever u need to do to get through it and it wi
GleamOfTheDevil 1 year ago
thanks for your vid mines on my channel
josephga 1 year ago
Thank you sooooo much for this great video:)
bayanmutlu 1 year ago
Hi John, His name is "Dan Savage" he started the "It Gets Better Project" he is a gay activist, journalist, editor and has a podcast on itunes called "Savage Love". He is also a regular contributor on "Real Time with Bill Maher" on HBO. Check out his video on Youtube. Thank You for all you do.
robsonic 1 year ago 13
that is so true way to go couver/ john
kevinrwtoth 1 year ago
awesome video! Great job john!
hurleyGRANDE 1 year ago
Great video...I am SO glad that I am Gay and that I didnt end up killing myself. It really does get better :-)
WiccanAlex 1 year ago
COOL message, Couver87! Happy pre-birthday to you, my fellow Libra! My birthday's today (33)! I never thought I'd live to see 16, let alone pass it twice! Today (and every day), is indeed a gift and a good day to be alive and gay!
Xoiboi 1 year ago
awesome video, VERY inspirational and supportive.
honduranflame 1 year ago
POST MORE VIDS!!!
rolita877 1 year ago
Thanks, John! Great words of wisdom, so truthful.
Ryan
Leprechaun1332 1 year ago
Thank you so much John! <3 It was hard for me to hide my sexuality from my mother. It was rough when I came out to her, but over time our relationship has grown so much and were even closer now. It does get better. I attempted suicide so many times over the years, and even now it still wears on me, but I know things will get better if you give it time.
Made4542 1 year ago
John - Great vid. and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
markvond1977 1 year ago
Hey John, your eyes are beautiful :D
The history of this boys is so sad and tragic. Im not gay, but i suffered bullying for other reasons, and life suck back then, but you need to hold on, not only for your family or love ones, but for you, because it really gets better, and i wish i knew that this was true back them..
take care and keep making videos :D
susipunkrockprincess 1 year ago
Dan Savage, darling, and you can add your vid to his project at itgetsbetterproject com.
shayhawkify 1 year ago
you don't know who Dan savage is? LOL!
I am from India and I know who he is! haha funny world :)
kiransimon15 1 year ago
Everything you said was absolutely true =)
I'm a freshman in college and my life is so much better. Like I'm pretty sure highschool is hell for everyone...except that most gay kids are on that frozen level of hell (whatever Dante Alighieri called it).
MrMayDayJayJay 1 year ago
You are amazing.
walkingwiddershins 1 year ago
i love ur videos there soo true but full of your personality and personal touch i was out before i watched your videos but im sure your helping loads and loads of closeted people :D
cgegeg 1 year ago
great video I am so glad you didnt waite its an important message that needs to get out there. You are great love the video love you.
depfox 1 year ago
You're a good man, john
superblooper123 1 year ago
I didn't come out until age 30. I feel cheated that I lost my 20's but in 1991 there was no internet or other tools that people have today. My partner and I have had 19 AWESOME years together...my life started when I came out.
I have a friend who recently came out at age 52. He is married and has 4 grown children. At any age it is important to be who you are and be honest with YOURSELF. Great vid!
stoner829 1 year ago
ur videos are so good this was a very touching informative video well done bro
mgl87 1 year ago
Thank you for your video, John!
Focus, not on what religion and society say, but on loving yourself. Religion is a poison. Love yourself and discover the gifts WITHIN you that you were meant to share with the rest of us in the world. Be well.
massage33316 1 year ago 2
i just feel like commenting even though i'm not gay.i support gay rights and everything and i've known people who are gay so i'm glad that people are finally address this,but it breaks my heart that this comes after many deaths.my question is,that i'm 18 and i'm stuggling with the one thing in my life right know which is my love of music,i feel like i won't be getting anywhere cuz i'm still learnin.do you think it gets better as long as i keep going or should i give up?
scarletrosechick 1 year ago
It is Dan Savage, not David Savage. He is a sex advise columnist and the host of the wildly entertaining sex advise pod cast "Savage Love" He uses his pod cast a lot to speak out about issues in the gay community.
TheJonnyBShow 1 year ago
From your friends in the United Kingdom, i just wanna say this is a totally beautiful video and i totally hope that someone watching this thinks about hope life will defo get better, and they learnt to just completely ignore the bullies and intolerant people
Loads of Love Tobz3000 :D xoxoxo
Tobz3000 1 year ago
"No one cares." There is one factor that is not being addressed. The religious aspect. For the most part no one does care but add in the religious aspect and the bible abuse--abomination, shame--its a tough battle. I came out at 13 in middle school. Not bullied really, called faggot etc but nothing to extreme, Check out what the Mormons, Evangelicals and some Catholics are posting, couple that with the inner struggle, then its all out war.
kla631 1 year ago
Hi John, I am not currently openly gay BUT plan to come out to my best friend and sister on or around October 11 (coming up soon). It's a Coming Out Day apparently. I have you and other gay YouTubers to thank so much for helping me with this. Thanks so much, you can never know how much you have helped! :) <3 -James
jtstacy9 1 year ago 2
Happy Birthday and thankyou for the gifts you keep on giving through your vids. You are making a difference in the world.
Flanole 1 year ago
You are amazing!
lebiansopp 1 year ago
Thank you for adding your voice to this. It can make a difference. Keep up the good work!
beautifullife787 1 year ago
You're so right. For every case we hear about gay suicide, there are many more that go unreported. It's horrible, and it's something people should remember.
I am 18, and I am openly, happily gay. It gets better. By the time I came out at 17, I was confident enough to not let bullying affect me. I am fortunate to have a loving family and group of friends, but nothing is more important than being okay with who I am. Learn to live with and love yourself. It gets better, I promise.
DaveOf92 1 year ago
As the creator of your facebook fan page, I always make sure to post your new videos on there =) I'll spread this around in different places as well!
Goten1992 1 year ago
It does get better. I came out when I was 19 (now 23) and I must say, life got so much better after I came out. Although I refused to come out in HS, and was teased at times for it, but I look now at the people who did tease me, and realize that I am a better person because of me. I constantly thought about suicide, and swore up and down I never would come out. Now today, I couldn't imagine life not being out. It truly is amazing just letting it out and being true to yourself.
allamerirejects 1 year ago
I don't think you can say that no one necessarily cares. There are a lot of people who get kicked out of their house for being gay by their parents, it just depends on where you live. Also, I don't think the whole gay-suicide thing is always to do with what others think. I mean, yeah, in a lot of cases it is, but for example, you said that you thought about killing yourself yet when you came out, no one really cared, which must have meant that where you grew up, being gay was ok,
dancingwithsmurfs 1 year ago
and I think sometimes it's the individual that can't cope with themselves being gay, that can't accept themselves even if everyone else can.
dancingwithsmurfs 1 year ago
Thank you for being such a strong and positive voice in this world, Im very quite about myself; but not a total closet case. I also hope you have a beautiful birthday. Keep the videos coming, they inspire me and many others.
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aManOnaJourney 1 year ago 19
@aManOnaJourney Awesome. Thank you for the information.
Couver87 1 year ago 2
@Couver87
Thank you for making the videos. Your genuine approach provides tremendous support and encouragement to so many glbttq people.
Thank you for being a role model. And thanks for letting me share the resource information for support in Canada.
Everyone should be free from bullying and discrimination.
I know 5 gay people we have lost to suicide or addiction.
"What have you done today to make you feel PROUD?"
(Proud by Heather Small)
aManOnaJourney 1 year ago
@aManOnaJourney 5?? I don't know any. I think that (unpopular opinion) class has a lot to do with it. I went to a kind of liberal private school, growing up I knew very few people who had anti-gay opinions, and it seems to me the more wealth and education you possess, the less likely you are to be gay.
I'm also surprised at the figure and that John says he's thought of suicide; I've never, ever, ever, ever contemplated suicide, despite my unusual and often fucked-up lifestyle
disamjisa 1 year ago
@disamjisa Lol, the less likely you are to be anti-gay, that is
disamjisa 1 year ago
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@Couver87
Thank you for making the videos. Your genuine approach provides tremendous support and encouragement to so many glbttq people.
Thank you for being a role model. And thanks for letting me share the resource information for support in Canada.
Everyone should be free from bullying and discrimination.
I know 5 gay people we have lost to suicide or addiction.
"What have you done today to make you feel PROUD?"
(Proud by Heather Small)
aManOnaJourney 1 year ago
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aManOnaJourney 1 year ago
Happy Birthday! Many happy returns! You are correct in making this video. Many of your subscribers are like myself, unwilling or unable to make videos, so you speak for all of us. Thank you for expressing for me what I cannot express myself.
CatotheCensor1 1 year ago
Ive alawys been the "Dont ask, Dont tell" type when it came to my sexuality. But I am openly gay and I thought it was pretty obvious in highschool, but I guess not because many former classmates are still surprised by it. My relationship with my family isnt the greatest so I have never told any of them and dont really see a need to do so but I am positive that they suspect I am but just dont want to say anything. John, do you think gay people SHOULD be so fully open or is there an extent to it?
prithy 1 year ago 4
@prithy There is an extent to anything. I think it depends on the person. If Jack feels hopeless and hurt that he cant be open with his sexuality with his family and because of this he feel less connected to them, then that sucks and Jack should try and come out to his family. However, if Jill feels that her lesbianism is no one freaking business and it doesn't effect her being at all whether or not her mom and dad knows then, well who is to say its a bill deal?
Couver87 1 year ago 6
@Couver87 ..... That surprisingly made sense! I was wondering how you would have answered that one. But I think I am a Jill in this scenario. Their not knowing does not affect my behavior or attitude at all. I did feel kind of pressured with all these videos but you gave me some reassurance. Thank you!
prithy 1 year ago
@prithy i am exactly the same as you but i think of it like this: only tell the people that are close and you give a shit abt. the rest are irrelevant.
acf870 1 year ago
I love how you talk about life!!! It really is beautiful
princeaustin08 1 year ago
Thank you for the work you do. Each video you have done has helped so many people
grosenberg45 1 year ago
*John* ...... thank God you were chicken! thank God! that was "strength" and not weakness on your part my gay Brother! i celebrate your beautiful LIFE by wishing YOU *** Happy Birthday *** ....... and many, many MORE!!! hugs! :-)
smurfit24 1 year ago
if I ever see you when I'm in Phoenix I'm going to give you a huge bear hug, thank you for this video and your continued efforts to grow as a person & help others do the same
wjplums 1 year ago