I really need a horse of my own, recently I've been riding my aunts horse, and just yesterday I rode her from my aunts back to my place. it was an hour walk on Josie (the horse, lol), i felt ok but she kind of pigrooted, i stayed on and calmed her down but she did get a little nervous about two more times while we were riding home. I really just want a horse of my own so i can finally be full of that boiling love you're talking about, instead of investing time in someone/thing that's not mine...
what a neat lady, and this is true! once i went to the barn i work at, and i was fustrated as i went to get Turrian for grooming because my mom had been constantly saying that i wasn't doing a good enough job with the stalls, and he got very nervous and tense when i got him and brought him for grooming, but as i calmed down, so did Turrian 8D
It's so nice to see someone being affectionate and natural with their horses. I get so sick of seeing spoiled girls (especially teenagers or younger women who were given their horse) who treat their horses like they're vehicles. If you're going to be making commands all the time, then make the time to create and maintain a bond. Great video! This is true confidence and wonderful to see!
ya this is true, when i got on my horse bareback i was really nervous and he got distracted and i fell cause we both were scared of what happened, i broke my arm and could tell he was so sorry, i know he would never do anything to hurt me, but now i know to be happy and enjoy the ride and your horse will to
There was a horse I rode for a while and any time I let on that I was frustrated, he stopped dead and wouldn't move until I cooled down. He helped teach me how to keep myself calm and transfer that calm to my horses.
kk this video reallly helped me and now everytime i go out to ride my horse treasure and im mad ill walk away until im relaxed! and then me and treasure have a good ride!!! but rodeosabuseanimals need to shut their mouth!!!!!! this works on MY horses to so shut the hellll up!!!!!!!
I love taking my dog for a walk.I take her down the road were the horses are.The horse lets me pet him and i am finally getting Maggy to stop barking at the horse.I kinda think she thinks that he is a big dog.It's kinda funny at times.
The beauty in all of these comments is that everyone is right...and nobody is right. The whole point of the teaching is that we have the ability to create the outcome we want. If we want our horses to feel safe with us, going through this exercise can help us act and make choices that are congruent with what we want. This process is part of what master horsemen do naturally, largely unconsciously. I'm just spelling it out for those who can benefit.
But its sad, it's so sad, that people insted of trying to master themselves in a classical horsmanship, they try to create something what doesnt exist or give any result whatsoever and other people who know even less they believe them and take their word for granted.
And all that mumbojumbo is no god for anything, because I haven't sen any of them "horse whisperers" trying to ride their horse outside the premises of the yard, just think about it. PS didnt want toinsult anyone
all these videos have brought tears to my eyes because they are so true & I can feel they are helping me already, I suffer with post traumatic stress disorder & am trying to get over it... i witnessed a girl crushed by her horse on cross country and had to hold her still till helicopter came.. 1 week later i had the same accident and horse just missed landing on top of me - so ive been double hit with reasons to have lost my confidence but im so passionate about this sport im not giving up EVER
ACK! This is such a juicy response, and there is so much I want to say about it...there just isn't enough space here! Suffice it to say that there is a perspective, a way of being with horses that transcends the paradigm of 'human as dominant'. Leadership can be a shared role. Remember, there are also members of the herd who are fluidly equal without being on top of everyone else. This kind of relationship is also available between people and horses.
I met Kerri Lake the day after Christmas when I was out walking one of my cousin’s old horses here in the Santa Cruz Mountains and I must say the woman’s intuitiveness about horses greatly impressed me. In fact, after meeting Miss Lake I could not help but wonder if Jean Auel’s fictional character Ayla had not stepped out of “Clan of the Cave Bear” and come to life here in the 21st century.
I've had horses all my life and they do pick up on your mood, attitude, body language and voice. Owning show horses I understand that we ask a lot of them due to training for multiple disaplines. This video is a reminder that you have to be aware of self .... Thx!
More like a teacher of awareness and communication, clarity and understanding. The horses give instant feedback about how true we are to ourselves, what we're holding onto, where we're open, or not. The trick is learning how to listen, beyond what we think we know! Have fun!
This is a fabulous video! It is so important to consider our internal state of affairs when dealing with such sensitive creatures like horses. Thank you for making and posting this!
I love your fresh presentation. You relay to people that it´s serious, but not to be taken seriously - hope I´m explaining myself! It´s great that you remind people you can have a plan, but at the end of the day horses are unpredictable animals so plans aren´t to be written in stone.
It is SO TRUE that horses pick up on your emotions. The other day I was really mad at my family and I went outside and I was all flustered and all four of my horses took off when I got near them and I had a really hard time catching Shadow and then he stepped on my foot and was distracted the whole time i was riding him because he picked up on MY bad mood.
I don't understand why any of this is necessary to explicitly state. For example how couldn't you have recognized at some point how your mood was effecting your horses? It should just be a natural cause and effect relationship. If your horses are looking for leadership (security and comfort) and they don't get it from you then at the very least are introducing subtle sense of insecurity into them and your relationship is less then it could or even arguably should be.
@PoorRichardSaunders The same can be said for parents who don't pay attention to the fact their children are picking up on/copying/being affected by their parents negative habits or behaviors (insecurity, anger, pessimism, etc). It's not always as obvious, until someone brings it to your attention. When you are having a bad day, you don't realize that you can change the bad day by simply changing your perspective of it. It's a case of "easier said than done", and encouraging reminders help.
i know some people are being rude to your video, but its true you have to remember to breathe lol my mom isnt as confident riding as i am and ill be giving her a mini lesson and end up telling her to remmeber to breathe! lol and alot of people know this what your talking about, like its in their head its only until someone says it out loud or they get hurt that it really clicks in, also i have a canadian/QH and hes amazing everytime i enter the barn i cant help thinking that i have the most---->
'till the end of the year I'm working on an equestrian center who works with these kinds of methods, just a little horsemanship. It's a little difficult to be in good shape (relaxed and stuff) when I'm around horses because I work hard and so have tense, but when it finally works.. I managed to lay down next to one of the Friesians who're standing at the center, haha xD
I believe this is completly true. my horse reacts on every emotions that I have which can be really good at times but other times its not so good but we work through it
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blablabla bla .... bunch of helpless dumbass american women who could NOT find their way out of a wet paper bag ... disgrace to intelligent women ....
@rodeosabuseanimals You're retarded. discontinue speaking. If you have your own deal on your animals, and how you treat them. Then shut your stupid fly catching mouth. this woman is sharing her experience and knowledge on what she finds WORKS with HER horses. So, whoever you are hiding behind a computer. go out and breathe some air.
i have a problem my horse feels my confedence but i feel worried on my horse and when shes trotting because my biggest fear is falling off a horse how do i conquer my fear
Is your fear of being hurt or being out of control? The answer will determine the best way to coach you beyond your fear.
Warm up at the walk, BREATHE, and use the four steps to create the trot experience you want.
Honor your fear - it's okay that it's there. You are taking the first step to exercise courage and leave the fear behind. When you feel the fear building up, acknowledge it (don't pretend it's not there!), exhale, and focus on your four steps.
Give yourself an easy exercise to build your confidence. If you have an arena, tell yourself that all you will ask for is an easy trot down the long side. You'll walk at the next corner. Do it only once per ride for a while until you are able to relax with that one exercise. If there's no arena, choose a short distance where you can define a beginning and an endpoint.
As small as it might seem, let yourself celebrate your accomplishment with a big breath each and every time!
Don't push yourselfjust one trot each ride. You will feel when you are ready to walk through the corner and trot back up the second long side. Take the corners to relax and breathe. Trot the second side only once during your ride. Don't worry about trotting the corners. You'll know when you're ready!
Create a gentle plan that lets you finish more relaxed than when you began.
Let progress be slow! The more patient you are with yourself, the faster you will see results!
Ultimately, the key to conquering fear is to give yourself new experiences to believe in. It's okay to be gentle with yourself, to take time.
Cultivate a consistent plan for each trot session - I walk for x-amount of time; I breathe and relax my body; when I feel relaxed, I ask for an easy trot in this corner; I drop my legs long and breathe, keeping my body relaxed; I hold the mane or the saddle gentle when necessary;
...I walk at the next corner; I breathe and relax my body; I rub my horse's shoulder and neck to celebrate our experience.
It takes a lot of courage to move through fear in any situation. I applaud you for asking the question! You are not the only one who experiences that fear of falling!
I'm taking care for my cousins horse. She's pregnant and she was tortured and she doesn't let you touch her forhead unless she trust you. And the problem is, she doesn't trust me. So how can i let her trust me? I realy need help because if she gets the foal... She isn't going to let me touch it..
I would love to offer you some help to invite this mare to trust you. I can best help you through a phone consultation in this situation, though, since there is a lot to cover.
Don't demand that she let you touch her forehead or other sensitive places. Touch her in places where it feels good to her, scratch/rub her itchy spots with love and she'll begin to trust your touch. Let her guide you! And breathe.
Please visit my site and email me for more assistance!
Thank you, i really enjoyed your video. I hear a lot of comments about if whatever it is that your doing is not working then abandon the activity. But what if its a power game and they are challenging your authority example: my horse bucks and rears while simply lounging and tries to intimidate me which is not his nature truly. He is so chill, sweet and eager to please 99% of any other time. Do I abandon lounging or do I stand my ground when he gets unruly and seems to want to challenge me?
I wouldn't abandon lunging here - I'd abandon the struggle!
Don't take his behavior personally! Do maintain your own space to be safe, but refuse to fight with him, refuse to punish him. Guide him forward kindly, even as you stand your ground.
Patiently re-start your circle when necessary. Breathe, re-start and send him forward firmly and gently, with kindness. Then he can abandon the struggle too.
Do abandon the exercise if you find yourself so frustrated or emotional that you are fighting!
I understand what you're talking about - I went through this with my own horse! Try not to judge this as "bad behavior" Try instead to remember that bucking and rearing are what horses do when they need to express pent-up energy, wherever that energy comes from.
Continue lounging with a new perspective - "Thanks for bucking here rather than when I'm riding! Stay out of my space, keep going forward. Thank you!"
Totally agree! I feel all kinds of Zen when I am with my horses. I dont bring angst to our time together. Benefit...they walk right into my halter, or they follow me everywhere. When they are unsure, they look to me and I of course am full of happy reassuring vibes and they appreciate it!
Confidence in this context is about knowing what we bring to the conversation so we CAN offer consistency, acknowledging that horses tend to see more within us than we see in ourselves.
I honor what's being taught about how to be a leader for a horse - this perspective of dominance has helped people understand volumes about how horses interact with each other.
"Human as predator", however, is valid only to a point.
To begin earning her trust, first extend your trust to her. Lead by example and show her what trust feels like, looks like.
Plan your time with her before you go to the barn. Choose how you're going to groom her, what you will think about, how fast or slow you'll go. Plan out your ride just enough so you feel like you can trust yourself to give her a good experience. Breathe, relax and enjoy your time together! Focus on what feels good as opposed to what needs fixing!
I really liked this video, it made me smile. And tear up a little when she talked about that overwhelming sense of love you get for your horse. Not having a horse can sometimes seem like the worst thing in the world. I just have to give myself a little reality check now and then. Thanks for the helpful info, if I ever get to use it. *Is a sounding a little mopey* best stop now.
@westernhorse16 Agreed. Always remain calm on a horse because they can tell if your nervous. If you're nervous while riding then they're get nervous. I learned that the hard way.
Sort of agree with Mikedilv except if something isn't working you have to do it some other way or it definitely won't work. If you try something one way and it doesn't happen why would it happen if you keep on going in the same way.
I REALLY like the video. The only thing that I personally don't agree with is the suggestion to abandon your plan when it just doesn't seem to be going well. I have been taught, and agree, that abandoning your plan teaches the horse that if it doesn't want to do the activity asked all it has to do is be resistant and it will be rewarded with an alternative plan.
whats the name of the intro song anybody????
armystrong9997 1 day ago
this is awesome n so true
Amberus09 5 days ago
This feels like it goes so much deeper than just horses...
SenyaSaysSo 1 week ago
Oh this is great! : )
DarkSigner7 3 weeks ago
i really need to try this more...
horserider2587 1 month ago
you are awesome !!
all what u have said is 100% true :)
MegaBusted101 1 month ago
Thankyou so much! i really learned alot from this awesome video and will do all the steps!
alyshaandtaylor1 1 month ago
I really need a horse of my own, recently I've been riding my aunts horse, and just yesterday I rode her from my aunts back to my place. it was an hour walk on Josie (the horse, lol), i felt ok but she kind of pigrooted, i stayed on and calmed her down but she did get a little nervous about two more times while we were riding home. I really just want a horse of my own so i can finally be full of that boiling love you're talking about, instead of investing time in someone/thing that's not mine...
datwilightluva 1 month ago
what a neat lady, and this is true! once i went to the barn i work at, and i was fustrated as i went to get Turrian for grooming because my mom had been constantly saying that i wasn't doing a good enough job with the stalls, and he got very nervous and tense when i got him and brought him for grooming, but as i calmed down, so did Turrian 8D
Wolferific 2 months ago
It's so nice to see someone being affectionate and natural with their horses. I get so sick of seeing spoiled girls (especially teenagers or younger women who were given their horse) who treat their horses like they're vehicles. If you're going to be making commands all the time, then make the time to create and maintain a bond. Great video! This is true confidence and wonderful to see!
BlatantlyBritt 2 months ago
ya this is true, when i got on my horse bareback i was really nervous and he got distracted and i fell cause we both were scared of what happened, i broke my arm and could tell he was so sorry, i know he would never do anything to hurt me, but now i know to be happy and enjoy the ride and your horse will to
spiritandrain101 3 months ago
There was a horse I rode for a while and any time I let on that I was frustrated, he stopped dead and wouldn't move until I cooled down. He helped teach me how to keep myself calm and transfer that calm to my horses.
SkyCabin6 3 months ago 2
That's a big kitchen.
dragonster82 5 months ago
@dragonster82 lol
falloutnewvaguspro 3 months ago
Please go watch my video of me jumping my horse!
Comment to tell me how i did :)
HoRsEjUmPeR305 6 months ago
Awesome video, that is so true about the emotions. Horses are the best animals EVERRRR!!! <3
guitargirl764 6 months ago
i get nervous and stressed at shows so my mare stresses out
harrison98x 6 months ago
Very Bueno!! thank U
SuperMazorquero 7 months ago
kk this video reallly helped me and now everytime i go out to ride my horse treasure and im mad ill walk away until im relaxed! and then me and treasure have a good ride!!! but rodeosabuseanimals need to shut their mouth!!!!!! this works on MY horses to so shut the hellll up!!!!!!!
countrygurl1432 7 months ago
Thank you for putting this video up! Much appreciated.
mylenenoire 7 months ago
very pretty foal!
Brindlefur 7 months ago
I love taking my dog for a walk.I take her down the road were the horses are.The horse lets me pet him and i am finally getting Maggy to stop barking at the horse.I kinda think she thinks that he is a big dog.It's kinda funny at times.
scopulus93 8 months ago
love her hair
hyperfocus2011 9 months ago
I'de like to camp out with her for some lessons:)
sunaJH 9 months ago 6
@sunaJH
That could be entirely possible! Email me if you are interested, and we'll find a way!
Warmly,
Kerri
KerriLake9 3 months ago
:36 is too cute, I love how she's just chillin in nature with the horsies.
dancer8164 9 months ago
well i think she knows what shes talking about she obviously been with horses longer than u have!
Pebble135 10 months ago
The beauty in all of these comments is that everyone is right...and nobody is right. The whole point of the teaching is that we have the ability to create the outcome we want. If we want our horses to feel safe with us, going through this exercise can help us act and make choices that are congruent with what we want. This process is part of what master horsemen do naturally, largely unconsciously. I'm just spelling it out for those who can benefit.
KerriLake9 10 months ago
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KerriLake9 10 months ago
That woman neeeds a good 8x3 inch cock, that would shut her up. Sick of them wanabee horseman, taliking total bollocks with a serious face expression
trumparch 11 months ago
@trumparch Are you finished with your stupid petty little comment honestly if you don't like it...don't watch it :|
TheLoveOfHorses1 10 months ago
@TheLoveOfHorses1
But its sad, it's so sad, that people insted of trying to master themselves in a classical horsmanship, they try to create something what doesnt exist or give any result whatsoever and other people who know even less they believe them and take their word for granted.
And all that mumbojumbo is no god for anything, because I haven't sen any of them "horse whisperers" trying to ride their horse outside the premises of the yard, just think about it. PS didnt want toinsult anyone
trumparch 10 months ago
@trumparch Sorry, but you didn't have to be quite so...dramatic with your comment lol.
p.s what you are saying is true but part of what they are saying is true as well horses do feel peoples emotions and will react to them :)
TheLoveOfHorses1 10 months ago
@TheLoveOfHorses1 where is the truth and how do you know its the truth? Just because that bollocks on to legs told you so ?
trumparch 10 months ago
@trumparch ummm actually I ride horses and learn about them with my trainer.... and I would love to know how you know it isn't the truth :\
TheLoveOfHorses1 10 months ago
all these videos have brought tears to my eyes because they are so true & I can feel they are helping me already, I suffer with post traumatic stress disorder & am trying to get over it... i witnessed a girl crushed by her horse on cross country and had to hold her still till helicopter came.. 1 week later i had the same accident and horse just missed landing on top of me - so ive been double hit with reasons to have lost my confidence but im so passionate about this sport im not giving up EVER
diamondhorses121 11 months ago
HAVE A BLASTY BLAST! xDD
LittlePOPLolli 1 year ago
SHE IS RIGHT ....ANYWAYS I DON'T CARE EITHER WAY...LOLOLOLOL
paultheuplaoder 1 year ago
@looperdigs - I must say I agree. :) Hahahaha
DRCFFL 1 year ago
yeah but the alpha mare would never let another horse push her around with their head you just at that momment lost your leadership role.
hollywoodstitch 1 year ago
@hollywoodstitch
ACK! This is such a juicy response, and there is so much I want to say about it...there just isn't enough space here! Suffice it to say that there is a perspective, a way of being with horses that transcends the paradigm of 'human as dominant'. Leadership can be a shared role. Remember, there are also members of the herd who are fluidly equal without being on top of everyone else. This kind of relationship is also available between people and horses.
KerriLake9 1 year ago
@KerriLake9 can you give it a rest talking total bollocks?
trumparch 10 months ago
@hollywoodstitch can you hear yourself talking nonsense?
trumparch 10 months ago
im getting a new horse and he is like wild I guess so he has to gain your trust so I have a plan what imma gonna do :)
Ilovemysketch 1 year ago
I met Kerri Lake the day after Christmas when I was out walking one of my cousin’s old horses here in the Santa Cruz Mountains and I must say the woman’s intuitiveness about horses greatly impressed me. In fact, after meeting Miss Lake I could not help but wonder if Jean Auel’s fictional character Ayla had not stepped out of “Clan of the Cave Bear” and come to life here in the 21st century.
Marcfj 1 year ago
woow, she lookes like heidi klum!!
AlissaK1994 1 year ago
man she looks SOOO much like EGDE!! (the wrestler)
looperdigs 1 year ago
@looperdigs
HAHAHAHAHAHA! That's funny...!
KerriLake9 1 year ago
I've had horses all my life and they do pick up on your mood, attitude, body language and voice. Owning show horses I understand that we ask a lot of them due to training for multiple disaplines. This video is a reminder that you have to be aware of self .... Thx!
toptenqh 1 year ago
0:30 thats one strong looking foal and nice video :)
iluvmyhorsemay 1 year ago
is she a yoga teacher or a horse teacher
AirTimeSkates 1 year ago
@AirTimeSkates
Good question!
More like a teacher of awareness and communication, clarity and understanding. The horses give instant feedback about how true we are to ourselves, what we're holding onto, where we're open, or not. The trick is learning how to listen, beyond what we think we know! Have fun!
KerriLake9 1 year ago
i love horse!
antichristtemka 1 year ago
This is a fabulous video! It is so important to consider our internal state of affairs when dealing with such sensitive creatures like horses. Thank you for making and posting this!
mariadelmar2 1 year ago
@mariadelmar2
Thank you!
KerriLake9 1 year ago
Good job really. :)
Jayn0o 1 year ago
i like the way she sees working with horses
cowgirlforJesus1 1 year ago
I love your fresh presentation. You relay to people that it´s serious, but not to be taken seriously - hope I´m explaining myself! It´s great that you remind people you can have a plan, but at the end of the day horses are unpredictable animals so plans aren´t to be written in stone.
LaRanaTJ 1 year ago
@LaRanaTJ
Thank you! You got it, and thank you for sharing YOUR way of seeing it, too!
KerriLake9 1 year ago
It is SO TRUE that horses pick up on your emotions. The other day I was really mad at my family and I went outside and I was all flustered and all four of my horses took off when I got near them and I had a really hard time catching Shadow and then he stepped on my foot and was distracted the whole time i was riding him because he picked up on MY bad mood.
Andrea9514 1 year ago 28
@Andrea9514
I don't understand why any of this is necessary to explicitly state. For example how couldn't you have recognized at some point how your mood was effecting your horses? It should just be a natural cause and effect relationship. If your horses are looking for leadership (security and comfort) and they don't get it from you then at the very least are introducing subtle sense of insecurity into them and your relationship is less then it could or even arguably should be.
PoorRichardSaunders 5 months ago
@PoorRichardSaunders The same can be said for parents who don't pay attention to the fact their children are picking up on/copying/being affected by their parents negative habits or behaviors (insecurity, anger, pessimism, etc). It's not always as obvious, until someone brings it to your attention. When you are having a bad day, you don't realize that you can change the bad day by simply changing your perspective of it. It's a case of "easier said than done", and encouraging reminders help.
BlatantlyBritt 2 months ago
i know some people are being rude to your video, but its true you have to remember to breathe lol my mom isnt as confident riding as i am and ill be giving her a mini lesson and end up telling her to remmeber to breathe! lol and alot of people know this what your talking about, like its in their head its only until someone says it out loud or they get hurt that it really clicks in, also i have a canadian/QH and hes amazing everytime i enter the barn i cant help thinking that i have the most---->
CaseyHorses 1 year ago
What a goofball. Teaching someone to BREATH right around horses? Hopefully she's not making any money of this clueless "student"...
gmd1417 1 year ago
I feel like its like the horses on the movie Avatar, they feel u, but in a different sense
jphrockstar 1 year ago
Thank you sweetheart!
RackHopper 1 year ago
'till the end of the year I'm working on an equestrian center who works with these kinds of methods, just a little horsemanship. It's a little difficult to be in good shape (relaxed and stuff) when I'm around horses because I work hard and so have tense, but when it finally works.. I managed to lay down next to one of the Friesians who're standing at the center, haha xD
GoatBlaat 1 year ago
I believe this is completly true. my horse reacts on every emotions that I have which can be really good at times but other times its not so good but we work through it
ThoroughbredCrazy16 1 year ago
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KerriLake9 2 years ago
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blablabla bla .... bunch of helpless dumbass american women who could NOT find their way out of a wet paper bag ... disgrace to intelligent women ....
rodeosabuseanimals 2 years ago
Someone has anger issues. XD
DominoShadow 2 years ago
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actually theyre probably smarter than you dumbass im a girl and im highly intelligent so you can suck ur cock
madmadz4donkeys 2 years ago
@rodeosabuseanimals You're retarded. discontinue speaking. If you have your own deal on your animals, and how you treat them. Then shut your stupid fly catching mouth. this woman is sharing her experience and knowledge on what she finds WORKS with HER horses. So, whoever you are hiding behind a computer. go out and breathe some air.
kDOTsProductions 7 months ago
Haaiy,
Thank you so much. It realy helped :D,
wolly1477 2 years ago
i have a problem my horse feels my confedence but i feel worried on my horse and when shes trotting because my biggest fear is falling off a horse how do i conquer my fear
treea2122 2 years ago
Great question!
Is your fear of being hurt or being out of control? The answer will determine the best way to coach you beyond your fear.
Warm up at the walk, BREATHE, and use the four steps to create the trot experience you want.
Honor your fear - it's okay that it's there. You are taking the first step to exercise courage and leave the fear behind. When you feel the fear building up, acknowledge it (don't pretend it's not there!), exhale, and focus on your four steps.
(continued)
KerriLake9 2 years ago
Give yourself an easy exercise to build your confidence. If you have an arena, tell yourself that all you will ask for is an easy trot down the long side. You'll walk at the next corner. Do it only once per ride for a while until you are able to relax with that one exercise. If there's no arena, choose a short distance where you can define a beginning and an endpoint.
As small as it might seem, let yourself celebrate your accomplishment with a big breath each and every time!
(continued...)
KerriLake9 2 years ago
Don't push yourselfjust one trot each ride. You will feel when you are ready to walk through the corner and trot back up the second long side. Take the corners to relax and breathe. Trot the second side only once during your ride. Don't worry about trotting the corners. You'll know when you're ready!
Create a gentle plan that lets you finish more relaxed than when you began.
Let progress be slow! The more patient you are with yourself, the faster you will see results!
(continued...)
KerriLake9 2 years ago
Ultimately, the key to conquering fear is to give yourself new experiences to believe in. It's okay to be gentle with yourself, to take time.
Cultivate a consistent plan for each trot session - I walk for x-amount of time; I breathe and relax my body; when I feel relaxed, I ask for an easy trot in this corner; I drop my legs long and breathe, keeping my body relaxed; I hold the mane or the saddle gentle when necessary;
(continued...)
KerriLake9 2 years ago
...I walk at the next corner; I breathe and relax my body; I rub my horse's shoulder and neck to celebrate our experience.
It takes a lot of courage to move through fear in any situation. I applaud you for asking the question! You are not the only one who experiences that fear of falling!
Go kindly, and enjoy your time with your horse!
(sheesh! ...I think I need a blog!)
KerriLake9 2 years ago
Find out why you are afraid of falling off a horse. Because it's really not too big a deal. Once you find out why it'll be easy to conquer the fear.
DominoShadow 2 years ago
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BarrelRacer955 2 years ago
Haaiy,
Can you help me out?
I'm taking care for my cousins horse. She's pregnant and she was tortured and she doesn't let you touch her forhead unless she trust you. And the problem is, she doesn't trust me. So how can i let her trust me? I realy need help because if she gets the foal... She isn't going to let me touch it..
i REALY need some help!!
wolly1477 2 years ago
HI and thank you for writing!
I would love to offer you some help to invite this mare to trust you. I can best help you through a phone consultation in this situation, though, since there is a lot to cover.
Don't demand that she let you touch her forehead or other sensitive places. Touch her in places where it feels good to her, scratch/rub her itchy spots with love and she'll begin to trust your touch. Let her guide you! And breathe.
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KerriLake9 2 years ago
Thank you, i really enjoyed your video. I hear a lot of comments about if whatever it is that your doing is not working then abandon the activity. But what if its a power game and they are challenging your authority example: my horse bucks and rears while simply lounging and tries to intimidate me which is not his nature truly. He is so chill, sweet and eager to please 99% of any other time. Do I abandon lounging or do I stand my ground when he gets unruly and seems to want to challenge me?
VanWillow 2 years ago
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KerriLake9 2 years ago
I wouldn't abandon lunging here - I'd abandon the struggle!
Don't take his behavior personally! Do maintain your own space to be safe, but refuse to fight with him, refuse to punish him. Guide him forward kindly, even as you stand your ground.
Patiently re-start your circle when necessary. Breathe, re-start and send him forward firmly and gently, with kindness. Then he can abandon the struggle too.
Do abandon the exercise if you find yourself so frustrated or emotional that you are fighting!
KerriLake9 2 years ago
Thank you for asking this question!
I understand what you're talking about - I went through this with my own horse! Try not to judge this as "bad behavior" Try instead to remember that bucking and rearing are what horses do when they need to express pent-up energy, wherever that energy comes from.
Continue lounging with a new perspective - "Thanks for bucking here rather than when I'm riding! Stay out of my space, keep going forward. Thank you!"
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KerriLake9 2 years ago
Totally agree! I feel all kinds of Zen when I am with my horses. I dont bring angst to our time together. Benefit...they walk right into my halter, or they follow me everywhere. When they are unsure, they look to me and I of course am full of happy reassuring vibes and they appreciate it!
starlightseiryu 2 years ago
Horses are prey animals. They want safety.
They couldnt give a care about our confidence.
True they will have confidence in us if we can turn off the subtle signals of what we are which is a predator.
The more consistently and frequently they have this idea reinforced the more calm and comfortable they become.
Then for your safety you must establish your position at the top of the pecking order.
It is great but it is not LOVE.
gmwwc 2 years ago
Thank you for your comments!
Confidence in this context is about knowing what we bring to the conversation so we CAN offer consistency, acknowledging that horses tend to see more within us than we see in ourselves.
I honor what's being taught about how to be a leader for a horse - this perspective of dominance has helped people understand volumes about how horses interact with each other.
"Human as predator", however, is valid only to a point.
The purpose of this video is to offer more.
KerriLake9 2 years ago
hiyah
can you give me some more tips on how to get my horse to trust me because i just got her and shes like one of those really nervy horses
shes an irish thoroughbred X
shes really fast and really nervy so if she trusted me more then she might relax a bit
eireannehoy 2 years ago
Hiyah right back!
To begin earning her trust, first extend your trust to her. Lead by example and show her what trust feels like, looks like.
Plan your time with her before you go to the barn. Choose how you're going to groom her, what you will think about, how fast or slow you'll go. Plan out your ride just enough so you feel like you can trust yourself to give her a good experience. Breathe, relax and enjoy your time together! Focus on what feels good as opposed to what needs fixing!
KerriLake9 2 years ago
I really liked this video, it made me smile. And tear up a little when she talked about that overwhelming sense of love you get for your horse. Not having a horse can sometimes seem like the worst thing in the world. I just have to give myself a little reality check now and then. Thanks for the helpful info, if I ever get to use it. *Is a sounding a little mopey* best stop now.
snumbledore 2 years ago
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thor7777 2 years ago
wahtever, she is right, horses respond to our emotions.
westernhorse16 2 years ago 35
@westernhorse16 Agreed. Always remain calm on a horse because they can tell if your nervous. If you're nervous while riding then they're get nervous. I learned that the hard way.
RackHopper 1 year ago
@westernhorse16 Yes they do I love my horses
MuffinsYumYum1234 1 year ago
Excellent! Thankyou.
KatieLeoz 2 years ago
thanks for the suggestions...they were just what I needed.
bcnewe 2 years ago
Sort of agree with Mikedilv except if something isn't working you have to do it some other way or it definitely won't work. If you try something one way and it doesn't happen why would it happen if you keep on going in the same way.
keyses 2 years ago
I REALLY like the video. The only thing that I personally don't agree with is the suggestion to abandon your plan when it just doesn't seem to be going well. I have been taught, and agree, that abandoning your plan teaches the horse that if it doesn't want to do the activity asked all it has to do is be resistant and it will be rewarded with an alternative plan.
mikedilv 3 years ago
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she needs some make up before making another video.
Painkilaxx 3 years ago
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you're a retard... she's around HORSES at a BARN? why would she wear make up? haha (directed towards Painkilaxx)
tazfran 3 years ago 21
@tazfran shes wearing make up because she wants to look nice for this
dizzyarcher01 1 year ago
Welcome to the country where what you see is what you get with women :) No early morning or late night makeup free surprises!
mikedilv 3 years ago
Jeez, harsh much? I think she looks great!
bettylion 2 years ago
good video :)
abi247 3 years ago