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  • What the heck are people meaning saying "why should gays get someone else's kid if they can't have their own"? Kids who are in the system don't have parents and don't belong to anyone! They aren't someone else's kid! They would be lucky to have parents that love them. Regardless if their parents are gay.

  • @mightymaxfan Let me squeeze your balls.

  • what do you think of ex exodus leaders Gary Cooper and Michael Bussee, and the fact Gary Cooper died of Aids in 1991, eventhough they have been together since 1979 and had a formal commitment ceremony in 1982? i think many christians would use that to question whehter gays should be allowed to adopt, as you might live a "hedonistic" lifestyle, regardless of whether you are in long term relationship or not.the only reason I am writing this is to giving you chance to explain your side.

  • Gays should NOT adopt kids thats really fucked up a kid living with two married men its nasty horrible..the kids will ask wheres their mom and other kids at school will make fun of them, it will ruin their life! fucking sick pigs..

  • @medusa1450 You're an idiot. 

  • @donnie8986 an idiot? so it will be okay for you if you get adopted by a gay couple knowing they fuck eachother' ass and it will be okay for you getting bullied everyday at school? you should think before you post so you are the idiot one for not thinking all the shit someone will go thru if that happens

  • @medusa1450 you really need to educate yourself...there is more straight anal sex in the world then gay people having anal sex. As for our kids getting teased in school they are very happy and popular for having two dads...We don't live in the backwoods like yourself where its legal to marry your cousin.

  • @medusa1450 Yes. It would be okay if I was to be adopted by a loving homosexual couple. I`m sorry I`m NOT a sexual deviant like you who only obsesses with what two grown men do in the bedroom. Secondly, bullied? I`m not in school anymore but if I had to deal with it, then I would take it up with administration like any rational human being would. Ending comments: Gay people are PEOPLE too! Stop judging people you don't even know. After all, being gay isn't a lifestyle or a choice.

  • @donnie8986 Im not judging them for being gay what im saying is that isnt right for them to adopt kids because it will ruin their life! they will see other kids with their mom and dad and they will ask where their mom is, and what will the gay couple say? thats REALLY fucked up, its okay if they get married but not adopting! youre not in school anymore but other kids are and other kids will obviously laugh at them for being adopted by two men, they will get bullied all the time

  • @medusa1450 So, you would rather have a child live in an overly crowded house and continuously deal with being shifted from house to house instead of letting a loving and welcoming gay couple adopt them? All because of the fear that they`ll get harassed because they don't have a mother (or a father in a lesbian case)? Let me tell you something; Although i`m done with school I can say for myself that no matter how many times i've tried to change myself for others to like me, there was always...

  • @medusa1450 someone who would criticize me; even though I tried my hardest to fit in. It doesn't matter if your eight or eighty, you`ll still get criticized, taunted, teased, you name it. In life you're just going to have to live with it and make the best out of a bad situation. Children do not need both a mother and a father to grow up healthy, kind, and intelligent. People come from all walks of life...

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  • People who argue against gay parent adoptions make me sick. They are more interested in a political/religious agenda than helping a child find a home. They would rather children stay in the system than allow a loving family to adopt them. I see a loving couple that has a true passion to help a child. What about the alarming rate of single mothers in America? I am sure having two dads or two moms is better than a single parent.

  • Such a pleasure to listen to you guys - a great team and a breath of fresh air.

  • You guys are great people. Thanks so much for taking the time and effort to put these videos together. I want to thank you guys for encouraging sibling adoptions and making a difference in our community. Your videos are greatly appreciated and inspirational. Not to mention, you guys make a wonderful couple. Your kids are very lucky. God bless.

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  • It must be nice to be a cop and whip out your badge and be like "Do we have a problem here?" ...'No sir'. LOL i love you guys! :)

  • kids.

  • I would fucking kill myself if my parents were gay. And I have no fucking idea why a Call of Duty video brought me here O.O And gays should stick with being without kids. Why should you get someone else's kids if you've done nothing to help bring them into the world. I don't care if their parents were drug addicts, they shouldn't be sent to a gay couple. Kids get bullied because of this. Then they go suicidal. I'm not against gay marriage I'm against gay adoption. Your fucking up these perfect

  • @Darkstar2398 First of all, just because someone is homosexual doesn't mean that they can't have and nurture children. Homosexuality not not a choice. You can't say it is, because it isn't, trust me. I don't think a child would rather live in a foster home in dirty, lonely, and unsafe environments over a safe and happy home.

  • @Darkstar2398 You should have been adopted by someone that would have helped make you a human being. You just became part of the problem by posting what you posted. You stated that "kids get bullied because of this" and I would bet all I have that it's you and people like you, ie, your friends, that do the bullying. You actually just bullied the poster of this video. We would all be better off if you just shut your ignorant piehole!

  • @haptheknitter You are the best!! Sometimes being indignant is the only sane response to defend human rights on such complex issues. Go for it :-)

  • @Wishingstarification You have no understanding about state adoptions and why kids are removed you really need to educate yourself.

  • @Wishingstarification the kids dont get ripped from they family the parent has to do something bad to get they kid or kids taken from them

  • @MrsWebster1 this has already been rebutted

  • @Wishingstarification State adoption is where stupid ppl come and take stupid kids/teenagers away from their stupid families cuz the stupid parents r on drugs or wasteing their lives away in bars and pubs.......

  • @Wishingstarification Please educate yourself about adoption processes in specific states.

  • :') Your guy's relationship is beautiful. I can honestly say I have never seen a relationship like yours. <3 Great luck with your futures and you have amazing, beautiful children.

  • @kandynesskora Thank you that was very sweet ;O)

  • I love to listen to you, I love watching you. In my country it is not possible.

  • wow, i'm so happy for you guys...what you have is something i aspire to :)

  • I love your videos. Thank you so much. My partner and I are adopting right now and we are waiting for our placement at this point. We tried foster to adopt but we just couldn't handle it. Kids kept getting taken back or not placed with us at all. We finally gave up and just went for domestic adoption. Keep up the great work guys.

  • I actually wanted to say that I am really happy for your guys and your kids.

    As a gay guy myself, I always wanted kids as well, but adoption rights do differ in Germany. However, I sincerely hope that other kids will find that love in parents everywhere, either gay, lesbian or "just" straight and that all those haters out there will someday focus on the important issues in life...love, respect, honesty, trust, truth etc...lots of love and strength for your guys. your kids gonna be proud of you.

  • @meimfast as you can see we have a very happy life I wonder about yours if you are searching out gay families to attack

  • @depfox nice! i'm glad you're happy

  • @meimfast how about you get one. there are more orphans than you can even count, and i don't see you providing families for them. everyone should get a chance to have a family, so stop the hate and channel it into something can can help the world instead.

  • @meimfast it looks like they have a beautiful life. Are you perhaps jealous

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  • well I am glad you have a family that loves and takes care of you. Maybe you should look into adoption and talk to kids who dont have homes with loving parents then you can rethink your comments.

  • @tinkerbell12345able so would you rather not be adopted at all and be on your own in the world with no family?

  • A mansion indeed! You guys make such a cut couple, it's something about Bryan's shyness =]. I used to think that because I'm gay I can't have any kids, but your vids are definitely proving otherwise. I love kids, (love my nephew and niece to death) so I would like to have kids someday and I hope I can. You guys are awesome.

  • There are so many kids that need homes its really sad :O(

  • I'm so late on this one, but my goodness, you guys are more than amazing! Bravo! Just for being you...

  • to the men who posted this video, my question is for YOU... so comments from others are fine but i will NOT debate things with you.

    in your video, i see what appears to be a Christmas tree. that implies that you celebrate Christmas, which implies you're Christians.

    how do you make sense of that & being gay?

    please realize that i am genuinely wanting to understand. i want to hear your thoughts. i'm not trying to be insulting or anything, i just want your perspective.

  • No offense taken we made a video about this. ILL send it to you

  • lovely family!

    i wish you all the best!!!

  • omg such a heart warming story, thanks guys

  • @prayforthegaycure i don't pray, but after your comment i'll start praying for YOUR soul, hope you find some help

  • even in nyc, this is really informative. And i liked bryan's notion on siblings, we do always need someone to beat the snot out of and vice versa XD

  • I am so glad i have found your videos. I am a gay man, and though i do not wish to be a parent, It is lovely to see that there are possibilities out there for those gay people that do want kids.

    Thank you for opening up and sharing your experiences. I have no doubt that your videos will plant the seed to help many families grow and blossom.

    Peace and love to you both.

    Happy New Year.

    ~TJ.

  • i just want to say that i love your family. :D you four are loving and sweet and wonderful. i know that i don't really know you and you don't know me but i just thought that i'd tell you that. sorry if you think that's weird.

  • What struck me most about this video is when you guys talked about your life before you children. Amazing how much you've been able to enjoy with each other. Sometimes I wonder if that's even possible. Guess I just haven't met the right guy yet. Congrats to you both!

  • you guys are so brave cuz i know a lot of ppl give rly negative comments to ppl that are not the same as them or do not fall under a certain category as them but i rly liked this video and we need more ppl that keep going no matter what ppl say about them. thanks for being you.

  • Yea I agree maybe when I am out of highschool and I am ready to face any comments. When I was younger I always dreamed that I would move to California so I could legally get married but now sadly after prop 8 I can't and it's so foolish and stupid of California not to allow equal rights. It's like they treat gay peope like dirt

  • @Nullygully the vote was somthing like 51-49. to say california treates them like dirt is a little insensitive. there are alot of people who believe in equal rights, like myself

  • Actually I can't my parents check my email but I can post comments so thanks for taking time to reply to my question(:

  • no problem I remember what it was like being young and in the closet if you get a chance watch our coming out videos.

  • I will email you for a more confidential conversation

  • I am 15 and I am straight to my friends because none of them really like or approve of gay people. My. Parents are the same they would never know I was gay.

  • Well I guess my advice to you is that you are young take your time coming out. Tell the people your gut tells you to open upm to first. Go slow tell people a little at a time. PS if you think that your parents may have a bad response don tell them untill you are strong enoufe to stand against any negative reactions you might get.

  • Im glad you get it your friend Jay

  • Your videos are awsome and so influential I am a young male teen still in the closet I don't know what to do. Can you help me..thanks I really hope to hear back

  • Hmm this question has to answered to each person... I dont think there is any one answer that fits everyone. Age? What are your parents views on homosexuality? How are you dealing with being gay? Feel free to email us and we can talk with you about it.

  • Adoption is always a beautiful thing! Thanks for sharing helpful hints with everyone.

  • Thanks for your videos! :-) They are really helpful!

  • you two are such good parents, have you thought about adopting another child?

  • i really need somebody to .... Well yah should find out^^

  • Amazing stuff, more power to you two~ :D

  • Depfox, your kids are going to be so proud of you for making these videos when they are adults!

    I wish my parents had taken more pictures and film of me as I grew up with them. Unfortunately, it is too late for that now.

    Keep it up! One day your kids will watch your videos and laugh.

  • I want to say that I think you two are amazing. You are an insperation to me.

  • LOL I imagine the whole going through the Mexican customs thing :P

  • love you guys

  • Thank you so much for opening up your lives to us viewers!! You are both awesome parents! Thanks again

  • good vid

  • You guy have to be the two cuddliest bears on youtube.

  • They're not bears. Aren't fat and hairy.

  • LOL I think bryan wouldnt mind if I was a little more bearish he has a thing for fat and Hairy.... Not a great motivator to work out... And trying to get him to manskip me is like pulling teath... LOL

  • Daniel and Selena are so lucky to have you both in their lives and that goes to same for you two to have them.

    You're the perfect example of how wonderful adoption could be.

    By The way, when you go off topic, it's very interesting and entertaining. Keep it up : )

  • This topic is really informative, and interesting. I look forward to the next video. Cheers.

  • I love you guys. Thanks for sharing your story, I can't wait to hear more.

    I decided a while ago that if I ever decide to have children, [which won't be anytime soon, I'm only 21.] that I'd adopt them. There are too many children who don't have loving homes and families.

    My boyfriend of 2 years doesn't want kids or want to get married. I'm fine with that now, but he knows that this is subject to change. I can't know how I'll feel about this in 5 years or more, but for now I'm extremely happy

  • very sweet

  • thanks so much for sharing your perspective.

    it's really appreciated.

    -chris

  • I can't wait for the next video to be posted. Awesome video as usual.

  • but if we didn't put that in the title no one looking for this type of content wouldn't find it would they?

    its not like we call ourselves a"gay family" in everyday life.

  • Yeah and "Gay Married Couple with Two Adopted Kids" was too long a title!

  • You could just not watch the videos. BTW, They hardly ever even use the term "gay family" in them

  • Very nice video, and very applicable to everyone who's interested in adoption.

    You guys are inspiring in many ways as you make me see the world from a different angle. I've never been much of a soapbox guy because I'm a little shy, but, well... I'm thinking twice now.

    Keep it up fellas! You guys are obviously fantastic loving parents.

  • It's reasons like this that I look forward to seeing your new videos coming out. It gives me hope for the world seeing how you two have worked out a life together that we aspire to, and have moved forward to affect more lives than you could have believed possible. ;)

  • You have no idea how much I want to watch this video. More than any piece of film I have ever seen (apart from maybe the first Lord of the Rings movie) but it will only play 5 seconds for me.

    I am so sad. Will have to try and download it from work tomorrow.

  • Wow, what an amazing video -- heartfelt with lots of great info! Thanks, as usual!

  • You're so in love with each other it's amazing. It's hard to stop smiling while watching this video.:) Happy to know you're going to post a few more about your adoption story.

  • Fantastic video guys! I'm going to show this to my mother - she's evangelical and strongly opposed to gay couples adopting (in fact, she's strongly opposed to gay couples period) but I think the amount of thought you guys put into your decision to have kids could help her recognise that gay people can be great parents.

  • I have a question.

    First of all, sorry about my forgetfulness, I remember that Daniel & Selena have another sibling, but can't remember if it's a brother or sister. I also remember that this other sibling was in the system with Daniel before Selena and no one wanted to adopt them together for a year. The question is, do you stay in touch with adoptive parents of that sibling and do the kids get to see each other, how often? And what those other parents think of your family?

  • Original: I have a few questions actually but I going to wait until the end, see if i can make a video response.

    Second: Dude we are so in sync. These are my questions too. XD

  • Well, maybe you remember, who was that: brother or sister? :)

  • Brother, Middle, younger than daniel older than serena

  • Thanks

  • Dude, you freak me out! Can you answer the following question: What are the 39 steps?

  • The Hitchcock movie or the John Buchan book?

    Those are what i´ve got

  • In a nutshell: watch?v=SP3q-1oDlpI 7:36

  • on it

  • Daniel has a few older sibling still with biological family members...then theres daniel....followed by a younger brother who was adopted to another family...and then Selena.

  • Well the questions still stands

  • @swampex

    I was hoping they decided to answer it in the Q&A video that they promised by the end of the Adoption story :)

  • Did I miss the question can you ask it again?

  • Do the kids see thier brothers? And is they do, what are the familys relation to you and yor family, the original questions are up there in the first KirilleXXI post

  • No the kids dont see any of there other siblings. The brother that is younger then Daniel but older then Selena was adopted by another family. we made contact with them but they are raising him as there Bio kid and didnt want him to meet our kids. We get pics of him to give to Daniel and Selena. If you would do a video question about this it would be great to go into more detail about the kids siblings.

  • Did you try to contact the siblings with the biological family members?

    I think it's not right to tell an adopted child that he is a biological child; they are basically hiding the truth from him.

  • Yes they are hiding his history. They adopted him at 12 months old. they are Mexican and he is Mexican so I guess they think they can keep that kind of secreat

  • Yes, it's also interesting about the older brother who still lives with his bio parents: do your kids get to see him, and their bio parents for that matter. I know they have drug problem, but if they still have parental rights to raise the older child, maybe things are not so bad? Do your kids want to see their bio family once in a while?

    Can't make a video question for technical reasons, otherwise I definitely would: I think it's an important one that raises other questions, too.

  • We have been getting this question a lot so I will adress it in video number four it is a very hard story to tell.

  • I figured as much.

    Thank you for addressing this issue.

    I understand that it's a hard story to tell, but that's the value of it: we, who decided to go ahead with adoption, should be prepared for everything.

  • This is wonderful. We're not at the adoption point yet, but we're glad for any preparation you can offer!

  • i liked the end where you guys kissed, i believe it's important for your kids (& any haters!) to see appropriate affection like kissing & hugging.

  • very important vid! cant wait till you do the vid about attitudes about sexually abused foster / orphan kids, i have a lot to say bout that.

  • Your sentiments regarding adoption are my views as well. There are too many children who need loving and stable homes. I personally don't want to be responsible for bringing a life into this world that didn't ask to be.

    But I would like to be responsible for assisting a child have a better quality of life than in an environment they would not have otherwise had.

  • When people like Jay and Bryan who obviously are so meant to be parents talk about adoption it puts a warm feeling in my heart. I think this series of videos will help a lot of people who might be considering adopting.

  • You are both lovely, commendable and a psychological support for many gay people. :)

    Keep it up.

  • I'm not sure if you've addressed this before, if you have I apologize, but what is Bryan's occupation? We found out that he works in retail, but where?

    Fantastic video, I'm a major fan! I hope to find a partner and adopt kids too one day.

    p.s. cute kiss at the end. We need more people like you two in the world.

  • I was in retail sales ...selling plants, strangely enough, at a local garden center. the scant amount of money I made there made it the obviouse choice for me to be in my current role as a stay at home dad. :D

  • I love your openess and honesty in everything you talk about, your children will grow up so well adjusted becuase they have you for parents :) you both make me so happy, your love for each other is wonderful :) still got to send my question!!!!

  • I actually am thinking about adopting in the future. When I finish college and finish my transition. I'm like Jay I want girls. But look forward to these video's. So I can get a clear heads up on adoption and see if its the right choice for me. Thanks! Love you guys! Happy Solstice!

  • I absolutely LOVE this. I'm adopted and I plan on adopting when I'm ready to have children. This was a wonderful and helpful video, you guys are great.

  • Awesome video you guys. Very informative.

  • Loved this! We're also a gay male couple raising a now 22 month old daughter whom we adopted at birth, and are waiting for our second daughter to be born. Thanks for putting yourselves out there, and keep on doing what you're doing!

  • Thanks for sharing your incredibly informative and inspiring story. What an amazing contribution you are making. THANK YOU!

  • I'm looking forward to this series. I'm very interested in adoption, but I don't know very much about the process. I love you guy's videos :)

  • I am so proud of you guys! Dave and I have been together since we were 30. Back then (18 years ago) gay adoption was not even discussed.. Just think-if we had adopted then our kid would be in college now!! I often think of this because I would have loved to be a parent. Oh well..next life...

    You younger gay folk..GO FOR IT!! Believe me..to rescue a child will make your soul shine.....

    Happy holidays!

    Jim

  • Great videos as usual guys. Very educational on a little known topic

  • What an inspiring and informative video! I'm glad you've decided to make this important series of videos. I feel homosexuals are blessed in not being able to conceive children from the people we're in a romantic relationship with.

  • We're forced to go through the process of becoming parents with the proper degree of care and deliberation. We're smacked off the ego-trip associated with biological parenting, and are instead instilled with gratitude and appreciation of our hard gained families. Our eyes and hearts are opened to children in need. And we are forced to actually do something to improve this world, instead of increasing the problem.

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  • I love your vids, thank you for being so helpful.

  • I just have to say you both make such a great couple! I can tell that you really are caring, loving, incredible guys! I really look forward to your videos, they really help me a lot at times when I'm not feeling so positive. I was just wondering, have either one of you ever noticed how much Daniel acts like Bryan in the videos? It is so remarkable what a great match you all are for one another.

    Take care and stay safe!

    Lathan

  • Yeah, i've noticed it too! The way they both gesticulate to "clarify" and emphasize a point. Like sign language translators of sort. Endearing. :)

  • Yes Exactly. It is so cute!

  • Yet he (Daniel) wants to be a cop when he grows up :)

    He takes from both of his dads :)

  • Sorry if I didn't know that KirilleXXI. I wasn't meaning anything bad by it, just that in the videos he shakes his head and hand jesters in the same was is all. I think it is great that Daniel takes from both of his Dads because they are both great.

  • I didn't mean anything bad either.

    Just decided to mention that in addition to your observation.

    And you're right, I too think they're both great!

  • @LathanJV36

    I was thinking the same thing...daniel's body language seems a lot like bran's. it's so cute....and understandable...

    having a cop as your father ... isn't that what every kid secretly dreams of!

  • Every bit of advise you gave should be followed by straight couples, too.

    I love the little tangents you guys went on during this video. :-)

  • your family is SO cute! i am only 16, but i want to adopt when i do have children(in a loooong time). your story is so inspirationaland informative! keep it up!

  • A very intriguing and informative video. I look forward to the rest of the series!

  • thanks!i look forward to the future vids!

  • Thanks so much for this video. It's really informative and helpful. =)

  • Thanks for sharing your story. I learn so much from your family. BTW, l along with all types of people live in Texas. Most of us are alright. I'm sorry you had a bad experience.

  • Thank you so much for this!

  • Thank you! My partner and I are starting to talk about the possibility of having kids... I'm on the fence, and he defiantly wants children. However I do want to travel still, and we're both in graduate school, so it wouldn't be anytime soon.

  • Not a surprise with Texas, I live in Florida, west coast yuck, east coast yeah! This is an important video, this isnt like getting a pet, much conversation and planning....really cool video guys.

  • I liked how you pulled your law enforcement card at the border in TX.

  • It does come in handy sometimes especially when talking to homophobic cops.

  • Not all cops are homophobic, ...some of us are even gay ourselves. LOL