I'll respond to a few comments. Dating outside of your race to find monogamy is a choice, just not one that I support. As a Goddess, I am the likeness of God. I have a 'Good man' who also is made in the image of God, my quest is for a Divine Sisterhood. In this society with its low value system, U r right...a group of women may not work, but when there is a shift in consciousness, limitlessness is possible. God is limitless. Spiritual elevation is a necessity for this lifestyle to work.
@AusetAswad99 thank mu ..I too believe in the Afrikan man regardless of how many other women and other cultures he may have..He always returns to his root
It's working for them. Their house is beautiful and both women seem happy. But a 3rd wife? I don't think groups of girl friends work well. Oh well, I'll never know. But for this family they seem to be content.
Thank you very much my sister AusetAswad in humanity. Thank you for informing our sisters. You are so right. As a muslim man I can relate to what you are sharing.
I have studied Dr. Dixon's work since undergraduate studies. I found her work to be astonishing and dynamic. She totally elongates the subject of Polygyny and gives important insight into how polygyny functions as an African Family Structure. Good luck to you and your sister wife and husband!
@nkreseknowledge I too feel very strongly that this is a very pleasant and liberating solution to some of our social, economic and even emotional blockages. Imagine how much more abundant we can be if we can just let go of the fear, the jealousy, the selfishness and insecurities. @lakshp87~I agree with Unconditional love no matter where it resides. I am personally a proponent of Polygyny but that does not mean that I'm against Polyandry...although I don't see the purpose other than pleasure
@AusetAswad99 Polygyny is a subject that must be addrressed. A man that can have a family life style, which involves multiple wives, seems like a plausible solution to the black dynamic here in america. The family system needs to follow divne order and laws so that emotional harm will not occur.
@PSYONCYAN7 you certainly have the most important and least discussed fact regarding polygyny within your reply with the emphasis on FOLLOWING DIVINE ORDER. However I would like to add that we must move away from the notion that it is the 'man's lifestyle, or privileged. If we are talking Divine Order, the lifestyle is for the benefit of the women, if they are living in balance and aren't just looking at the seemingly 'sexual' advantage of multiple partners-which is not the DIVINE FUNCTION of it
I am all for polygamy! ....not polygyny alone though!, let the love be unconditional on both sides.......imagine the chaos that would bring on the world, lol!
Funny thing though, half the black women in relationships now, are sharing their man with a few other women, and they know about it. They just pretend not to, shame. Either they know the jumpoffs or they are the jumpoff, either way, it's ridiculouos. To turn your nose up at polygamy and be in a false/pseudo monogamous relationship........ who is really kidding who. I understand where the ladies come from though, black men dont know what we need, in this wolrd where everyone hates blk wmn
What compels me to want this for my self? My complete dedication to the advancement and maintenence of the dying black race. Something inside me tells me this is the right thing, I have always wanted this. The problem is men and women are not brought up with the notion of polygamy and therefore do not have the mental/emotional stability to be in this kind of a relationship. Black people can't even be in monogamous relationships, so this does not surprise me. Maybe one day.
I am a black woman for polygamy. I do not see how one can be for the black community and not see the benefits of it. I am currently reading her book and so far it is awesome!! I would be in a polygamous relationship right now at 30, if my husband had the mentality for it. I told him that I was interested in doing this at the start of our relationship, some 7 years ago. After having a conversation with him the other day, I see that he is still not ready.
@painless78 Do you know what it's like to live in a community where everybody gives a fuck cause they are invested?? To be supported in everything that you are, everything that you do. Jealousy is a small price to pay for the benefits. If you were thinking collectively, you wouldn't have to ask this question.
Interesting video. I'm not against polygamy at all. If it works for you, then go for it. Don't know if I could do it personally, only if I didn't love my husband in a traditional sense. If I love him, I'm not sharing, period. But if I love him as a person (like a good friend) and just decided to marry strictly for security or something, then I would have no problem with it. I keep hearing and seeing folks that support this say it benefits the woman but they aren't explaining how. Please explaine
@kpdc26 ok, benefits to women 1) a live in sister(s) to share with and learn from-we women need each other and men can't provide the same companionship i.e. girl talk, nails, hair, shopping 2) women are better with household stuff in general-the more the better 3) women can help birth children and raise them. 4) I enjoy having other women to assist with the companionship of the man in my life-more perspectives, more nurturing for both he and me~my love is extra strong to allow this lifestyle
@kpdc26 Jealosy does not constitute REAL LOVE. in fact its quite the opposite. REAL love is unconditional, therefore if you love Him enough, you would want to ensure that your relationship has ALL that it requires to grow to heights greater than just the American Dream of material wealth and status-but into become a Divine Being in this lifetime.
@kpdc26 -yes, there's more lol~ Polygyny is a way that I can have EVERYTHING I NEED AND WANT, and EVERYTHING HE NEEDS AND WANTS. Again our Spiritual/cultural practices ensure there is respect, balance and no overindulgence. I don't have a need to be the 'only' woman in my man's life, my desire for TRUTH AND HONESTY is greater than my need to be the only one...plus an addition for him means an addition for me as well...its a win win situation if I'm open and not fearful or insecure. But I choose
@supervirtuouswoman. Thank you for seeing the light that it works for some. I have found that women who have not gotten over loss of say the attention of a father, or the absence of a father, or feel they have not yet experienced a loving devoted man who cherishes her unconditionally are desirous of that and can't even envision not getting it because the man's attention may not be on them the whole time in a Polygynous relationship.
YES! Thank you sooo much for posting this! In truth, Poly is for the benefit of the women & children first. By doing this, you protect & support the Entire community. Men, women & children can all benefit.
For those reading, check out Dr. Dixon-Spear's book: We Want 4 Our Sisters What We Want 4 Ourselves. Excellent, excellent read!
@DreamGyrl360-not a psycho..lol, I feel the same way about Dr. Dixon and her book. I took her class at GA State when I stumbled upon her book and then found out she taught a relationships class at my school...I was beside myself with joy...so I feel you Sis, I really do.
WHEN DID THIS COME ON?! I am so shocked that I MISSED THIS. I love it. NEVER have I been blessed to see Dr. Dixon speak anywhere. Altho I've read her book. Over. and Over. and OVER.
I positively LOVE IT. I love them showing a family that is 30+ years together. AWESOME. It's WORKING for them. THEY ARE HAPPY.
@EliseinATL-true indeed-I don't have problems finding a quality black man either, the thing is....there is always a string of women that want the same one I want...so I had to decide to want a lesser man--or one with qualities that are not to my liking-or be paranoid, angry, suspicious, jealous, possessive-or just go with the flow. If you love the man I love...you are not my enemy...you are my family. Thanks for your well articulated, respectful post
Glad you posted this, it's good and correct information. I have taught about polygamy for many years so that people can understand the institution. Nonetheless, EliseinATL below is true and exact too!!!
Interesting information. I think this type of relationship could help promote stronger women who learn how to work together amongst each other and bring out each other's best rather than hating each other over jealousy for the limited good ...guys out there. Women do out number men, and most men are confused , lets not forget the incarceration numbers in the US. People shouldn't overlook the actual ratio of good men to women.
Multi-generation homes with aunties and grandmas negate the need for multiple mommas. Neither me nor my black friends have ever complained about meeting a black man, some may complain about the quality, but that is with all RACES ("A good man is hard to find," didn't start with the black man). US Census says there is 99 men for every 100 women ages 18 - 30 so there is no shortage of men - if you believe the hype about the shortage of black men, then date outside your race - God made them too!
I'll respond to a few comments. Dating outside of your race to find monogamy is a choice, just not one that I support. As a Goddess, I am the likeness of God. I have a 'Good man' who also is made in the image of God, my quest is for a Divine Sisterhood. In this society with its low value system, U r right...a group of women may not work, but when there is a shift in consciousness, limitlessness is possible. God is limitless. Spiritual elevation is a necessity for this lifestyle to work.
AusetAswad99 1 month ago
@AusetAswad99 thank mu ..I too believe in the Afrikan man regardless of how many other women and other cultures he may have..He always returns to his root
kashaherum 1 week ago
a shortage of black men so why not date outside your race
kre85 1 month ago
Mark Henkel (national polygamy advocate) who was in this vid has a youtube page too. Great info !
sunnie2day 1 month ago
Woman put the love of God firstly in your heart,he will supply you with a good man that will SEE to your needs.
Djoanng 4 months ago
It's working for them. Their house is beautiful and both women seem happy. But a 3rd wife? I don't think groups of girl friends work well. Oh well, I'll never know. But for this family they seem to be content.
LuBellaCoils 4 months ago
I spoke about this on my radio show.
BroHakiA 6 months ago
Thank you very much my sister AusetAswad in humanity. Thank you for informing our sisters. You are so right. As a muslim man I can relate to what you are sharing.
muslimalways 10 months ago 2
I have studied Dr. Dixon's work since undergraduate studies. I found her work to be astonishing and dynamic. She totally elongates the subject of Polygyny and gives important insight into how polygyny functions as an African Family Structure. Good luck to you and your sister wife and husband!
PSYONCYAN7 11 months ago 2
BLACK SUPREMACY
BRUTHABLACKWOLF 11 months ago
@nkreseknowledge I too feel very strongly that this is a very pleasant and liberating solution to some of our social, economic and even emotional blockages. Imagine how much more abundant we can be if we can just let go of the fear, the jealousy, the selfishness and insecurities. @lakshp87~I agree with Unconditional love no matter where it resides. I am personally a proponent of Polygyny but that does not mean that I'm against Polyandry...although I don't see the purpose other than pleasure
AusetAswad99 11 months ago
@AusetAswad99 Polygyny is a subject that must be addrressed. A man that can have a family life style, which involves multiple wives, seems like a plausible solution to the black dynamic here in america. The family system needs to follow divne order and laws so that emotional harm will not occur.
PSYONCYAN7 11 months ago 3
@PSYONCYAN7 you certainly have the most important and least discussed fact regarding polygyny within your reply with the emphasis on FOLLOWING DIVINE ORDER. However I would like to add that we must move away from the notion that it is the 'man's lifestyle, or privileged. If we are talking Divine Order, the lifestyle is for the benefit of the women, if they are living in balance and aren't just looking at the seemingly 'sexual' advantage of multiple partners-which is not the DIVINE FUNCTION of it
AusetAswad99 11 months ago
@PSYONCYAN7 And what of those who wish to do something...different than this divine order family system?
HorrorHiro 4 months ago
I am all for polygamy! ....not polygyny alone though!, let the love be unconditional on both sides.......imagine the chaos that would bring on the world, lol!
lakshp87 11 months ago
Funny thing though, half the black women in relationships now, are sharing their man with a few other women, and they know about it. They just pretend not to, shame. Either they know the jumpoffs or they are the jumpoff, either way, it's ridiculouos. To turn your nose up at polygamy and be in a false/pseudo monogamous relationship........ who is really kidding who. I understand where the ladies come from though, black men dont know what we need, in this wolrd where everyone hates blk wmn
nkreseknowledge 11 months ago
What compels me to want this for my self? My complete dedication to the advancement and maintenence of the dying black race. Something inside me tells me this is the right thing, I have always wanted this. The problem is men and women are not brought up with the notion of polygamy and therefore do not have the mental/emotional stability to be in this kind of a relationship. Black people can't even be in monogamous relationships, so this does not surprise me. Maybe one day.
nkreseknowledge 11 months ago
I am a black woman for polygamy. I do not see how one can be for the black community and not see the benefits of it. I am currently reading her book and so far it is awesome!! I would be in a polygamous relationship right now at 30, if my husband had the mentality for it. I told him that I was interested in doing this at the start of our relationship, some 7 years ago. After having a conversation with him the other day, I see that he is still not ready.
nkreseknowledge 11 months ago
@nkreseknowledge what are the benefits?
painless78 11 months ago
@painless78 Do you know what it's like to live in a community where everybody gives a fuck cause they are invested?? To be supported in everything that you are, everything that you do. Jealousy is a small price to pay for the benefits. If you were thinking collectively, you wouldn't have to ask this question.
nkreseknowledge 11 months ago
@nkreseknowledge Look fool! I just asked a simple question. Don't ever disrespect me like that again..NIGGA!
painless78 11 months ago
these are 2 beautiful sisters.
supervirtuouswoman 11 months ago
Interesting video. I'm not against polygamy at all. If it works for you, then go for it. Don't know if I could do it personally, only if I didn't love my husband in a traditional sense. If I love him, I'm not sharing, period. But if I love him as a person (like a good friend) and just decided to marry strictly for security or something, then I would have no problem with it. I keep hearing and seeing folks that support this say it benefits the woman but they aren't explaining how. Please explaine
kpdc26 1 year ago
@kpdc26 ok, benefits to women 1) a live in sister(s) to share with and learn from-we women need each other and men can't provide the same companionship i.e. girl talk, nails, hair, shopping 2) women are better with household stuff in general-the more the better 3) women can help birth children and raise them. 4) I enjoy having other women to assist with the companionship of the man in my life-more perspectives, more nurturing for both he and me~my love is extra strong to allow this lifestyle
AusetAswad99 1 year ago
@kpdc26 Jealosy does not constitute REAL LOVE. in fact its quite the opposite. REAL love is unconditional, therefore if you love Him enough, you would want to ensure that your relationship has ALL that it requires to grow to heights greater than just the American Dream of material wealth and status-but into become a Divine Being in this lifetime.
AusetAswad99 1 year ago
@kpdc26 -yes, there's more lol~ Polygyny is a way that I can have EVERYTHING I NEED AND WANT, and EVERYTHING HE NEEDS AND WANTS. Again our Spiritual/cultural practices ensure there is respect, balance and no overindulgence. I don't have a need to be the 'only' woman in my man's life, my desire for TRUTH AND HONESTY is greater than my need to be the only one...plus an addition for him means an addition for me as well...its a win win situation if I'm open and not fearful or insecure. But I choose
AusetAswad99 1 year ago
I can't see myself in a polygamous relationship, but these two BEAUTIFUL sisters give it a new light.
supervirtuouswoman 1 year ago
@supervirtuouswoman. Thank you for seeing the light that it works for some. I have found that women who have not gotten over loss of say the attention of a father, or the absence of a father, or feel they have not yet experienced a loving devoted man who cherishes her unconditionally are desirous of that and can't even envision not getting it because the man's attention may not be on them the whole time in a Polygynous relationship.
AusetAswad99 1 year ago
YES! Thank you sooo much for posting this! In truth, Poly is for the benefit of the women & children first. By doing this, you protect & support the Entire community. Men, women & children can all benefit.
For those reading, check out Dr. Dixon-Spear's book: We Want 4 Our Sisters What We Want 4 Ourselves. Excellent, excellent read!
OKeba
OsunK2 1 year ago
@DreamGyrl360-not a psycho..lol, I feel the same way about Dr. Dixon and her book. I took her class at GA State when I stumbled upon her book and then found out she taught a relationships class at my school...I was beside myself with joy...so I feel you Sis, I really do.
AusetAswad99 1 year ago
WHEN DID THIS COME ON?! I am so shocked that I MISSED THIS. I love it. NEVER have I been blessed to see Dr. Dixon speak anywhere. Altho I've read her book. Over. and Over. and OVER.
I positively LOVE IT. I love them showing a family that is 30+ years together. AWESOME. It's WORKING for them. THEY ARE HAPPY.
DreamGyrl360 1 year ago
@EliseinATL-true indeed-I don't have problems finding a quality black man either, the thing is....there is always a string of women that want the same one I want...so I had to decide to want a lesser man--or one with qualities that are not to my liking-or be paranoid, angry, suspicious, jealous, possessive-or just go with the flow. If you love the man I love...you are not my enemy...you are my family. Thanks for your well articulated, respectful post
AusetAswad99 1 year ago
@AusetAswad99 MY EYES WATERED UP READING THIS!!! Ohhhh!!!!!
I'm such a psycho.
Anyway. THANK YOU EVER SO MUCH SISTER FOR POSTING THIS VIDEO!!!
DreamGyrl360 1 year ago
Glad you posted this, it's good and correct information. I have taught about polygamy for many years so that people can understand the institution. Nonetheless, EliseinATL below is true and exact too!!!
Winmilawe 1 year ago
Interesting information. I think this type of relationship could help promote stronger women who learn how to work together amongst each other and bring out each other's best rather than hating each other over jealousy for the limited good ...guys out there. Women do out number men, and most men are confused , lets not forget the incarceration numbers in the US. People shouldn't overlook the actual ratio of good men to women.
lionintu 1 year ago
Multi-generation homes with aunties and grandmas negate the need for multiple mommas. Neither me nor my black friends have ever complained about meeting a black man, some may complain about the quality, but that is with all RACES ("A good man is hard to find," didn't start with the black man). US Census says there is 99 men for every 100 women ages 18 - 30 so there is no shortage of men - if you believe the hype about the shortage of black men, then date outside your race - God made them too!
EliseInATL 1 year ago 2
This is a beautiful video!! Very Deep stuff
CallieShabazz123 1 year ago
Excellent! Thank you for presenting this video.
akvahlibrary 1 year ago
THANK YOU! Restoring Balance back into the equation.
Melanatedone 1 year ago 2
This is awesome.
Isiejeme0829 1 year ago