Do you know how to save an orphan?

[audradeecruz]

I am a woman who would love to adopt a child. I speak english and spanish fluently. Do you know how someone like myself can adopt a child. If I could I would bring them all home with me. I am unable to have children own my home and want to give all my love to children. What do I have to do to be a mom and give a lost child a home and love and education? if you know anything that can help me please contact me thanks so much

[TurquoiseTheoryProds]

I seriously love Orphans. I mean, life without parents is just...sad. We should care for them man. And for those of you who still have parents, please appreciate them. If these orphans have a choice, they would wanna have their parents back.

[DiabloNorth]

Ive lost both my parents in a sad way:( And my recently eks girlfriend have drug addicts as parents... Sometimes i hate my life, but i dont want 2 give up either..

[sandb2007]

In Islam we believe it is every human's responsibility to support the weak and needy, especially orphans. I can completely understand the emotion of the person who created this video. This is a matter that is close to my heart and yes I agree, to save an orphan is to give them the human right to have basic needs to lead a normal life and give them opportunities to achieve a lot more in the future and to maximise their potential. Everybody needs help in one way or the other. God bless your soul

[theneills]

...The purpose of this video is obviously to stir hearts to COMPASSION and to reach out to the suffering/needy, who have no hope and no future if they remain where they're at with no family. It's not about this family making sure their own child thinks that "they saved her". That would entirely be up to how they raise her, teach her, etc. I did not get the idea at all from this that that was the intention.

Good job.

It is unfortunate that Adoptee had a negative experience, it really is. :(

[theneills]

If a person does the research, he/she will see what the future of a child who is never adopted is like. A child is indeed saved from many unimaginable things. It is just unfathomable that a child would face a future like that, and do currently. MILLIONS UPON MILLIONS.

I do believe that "saving" language directed to a person's own adopted child can have negative effects later on, as "adoptee3420" said....(cont'd)

[adoptee3420]

I beg you to look outside your box and read the vast amount of info available from an adoptee perspective. At the very least, attend a Jane Brown seminar.

[fisherdawn]

adoptee3420, while as an adoptive parent I certainly repsect your perspective as an adoptee, it is clear you have had some negative experiences that are skewing perhaps your view of what we are trying to do here. I am sorry I cannot apologize for the wording of this video, but perhaps you have misunderstood our perspective. We all need saving, not just orphaned children. It is our purpose in life to reach out to help others as others have reached out to us. God bless.

[fisherdawn]

While I understand that you have had one experience, perhaps you would feel a bit different if you had a chance to see what we have witnessed around the world as the experience of children who, through no fault of their own, have been abandoned, abused or neglected. It is our collective duty to recognize their suffering and *do* something about it. It does not devalue their lives in any way to encourage others to do something to rescue them. It actually means they are worth any sacrifice.

[adoptee3420]

As an ADOPTEE - you have no idea how damaging the "we saved you" mentality really is. I was saved, what a burden that put upon me, to feel forever grateful just to have a family when it was them that wanted a little girl. To feel like I could never ever ever express any feelings that weren't 100% what my parents wanted to hear so fear of being abandoned again, for fear of being told I'm ungrateful. (cont.)

[lotusbaby1]

I would call you adopting your child, not saving, but giving the child what he/she has a right to in the first place as respectful human behaviour, but which she may previously not have ever been shown. At the end of all of this, it is a different perspective we share on the same thing. It is the wording that bothered me, not your intention.

[fisherdawn]

Thank you for your post and your opinion. You're right, we are on the same side just different perspective. Our daughter suffered greatly and I think that changes how you see things a bit. Our goal is not to victimize her but to get other people off their rears to go do something to help. We wish nothing but happiness and health for you and your family.

[deblp]

Psalm 72:12-14

For He delivers the NEEDY when he calls, the poor and HIM WHO HAS NO HELPER.

He has pity on the weak and the needy, and SAVES the lives of the needy.

[lotusbaby1]

I understand what you mean by saving but the word itself is indicative of then someone else being the 'saviour'. If you are a Christian, which I suspect you may be, this might mean something different for you in respect to your beliefs. I understand this. But being 'saviour' to a child is not a nice thing for the child to get a glimpse of when they grow older as it may impose a victim mentality that they may not appreciate. That is the only reason that I posted.

[lotusbaby1]

What I have said is my perspective on 'saving'. It was put here in the case that a person who is now an adult that was adopted as a young child should stumble upon this video. In the hope that they would understand that 'saving' does not mean the same to everyone.

[fisherdawn]

Considering our 1st adopted daughter had a giant bruise on her head (from banging against the crib), could not even crawl at 12 months or hold herself up, and did not even know how to laugh, I beg to differ that some children do not need someone to "save" them. It does not make her lesser, it means she is worth any price, any sacrifice, because she deserves a life and love.

[lotusbaby1]

It is every child's *right* to have a family who love them but they will not thank you if you express that they need to be grateful to have been 'saved'.

[fisherdawn]

We all need saving in one way or another at one time or another in our lives. It is not an insult or degrading to imply that someone is in need of help.  we are adoptive parents ourselves, three times over. Our adoptions are not viewed as a superior human saving the life of someone inferior, but as a love so great for someone else and a compassion for what they did not have that we were willing to make any sacrifice to bring our child home.

[fisherdawn]

I do not ask them to "thank" me or be "grateful". The video is not intended to garner praise for ourselves. It is simply designed to get others to think about how much they have to give to someone else who needs what they have.

[lotusbaby1]

save an orphan? as an adoptive parent, you have no idea how damaging that 'we saved you' mentality can be. you need to put more thought into how you phrase the things you say with respect to the children you talk about and how they will feel about being 'saved' when they are adults.

[lilys884]

so, i saw this video and my little brother is in it!! he is being adopted in august! awesome- loved the video. phf is so close to my heart- am going in july! thankyou!

[amjadayoubi]

keep lighting...as you said dear, a light against loneliness and despair...God bless you