How to Handle Negative People In Your Recovery

[LeaLovesBeauty]

Every video you post makes me want to be your friend even more ... I just love your personality!!!

I would really like to know you in person, Bea!

[AnnaMitchee]

Love u ur face ur voice u are so inspirational

[DoRayMeFa]

You've perceptively articulated a thousand subtleties and complex considerations about EDs and about people. The depth of your understanding has undoubtedly helped you yourself, but also others around you.

Best wishes to you!

[OSnapski]

@DoRayMeFa Why thank you very much! I hope you're well =D

[Slowlywechange]

This is a very useful video, thank you :)

[RonnieInOC]

Great video. You've got yourself a new subscriber.

[OSnapski]

@RonnieInOC YES. =D

[hotchocolatesundae]

thank you to lostlittlegurly for encouraging us to link to this video. She was absolutely right. Brilliant video

[lostlittlegurlygurl]

@hotchocolatesundae :D

[OSnapski]

@hotchocolatesundae thank you!

[lostlittlegurlygurl]

ONE OF THE BEST VIDEOS IVE SEEN ON YT.THANKS BE TO JESUS BEA!!!!

[OSnapski]

@lostlittlegurlygurl =D thank you so much!

[CsixHtwelve0six]

YES! I agree so much about group therapy. My experience with a support group was horrible and I was super triggered even though nobody triggered me intentionally or maliciously. I think eating disorders are a particularly bad match with group therapy settings because they're so based in competition and self-worth.

You sound so mature and college-like in your more recent videos. Hahaha. College is suiting you :).

[Danymixture]

The recovery "buddies" thing is so true. I had to distance myself from a really close friend due to that. We weren´t helping each other. looking back it hurts so much, though now we are somehow in the same place in recovery, and it´s easier to talk and not trigger each other. Great vid Bea :). You´ve helped me so mcuh with recovery with this videos :) Keep it up!

[whimsical2tree]

PS. Also of my two best friends one is a long-time sufferer of Anorexia, we do not speak often but know that each other is always there. If we have a bad day or aren't doing well we do not contact each other (she is a few hundred miles away). Also if either of us sends a negative message it has become a bit of a joke that we reply with "Oh hello Ana, can I speak to .... please?"

It isn't selfishness but just survival.

[whimsical2tree]

I used Youtube so much when I was very chronic, it kept me going day-to-day but I realised once I was committed to recovery that it was often a kick in the teeth. I was so easily triggered that even watching pro-recovery videos, such as yours, was too much. I made the decision to unsubscribe for channels, I would still watch all the videos (pro-R) but not having them on my homepage helped; you can still support a channel by 'friending' them after all.

Nice to see you Bea, hope all's well. X

[firefly1297]

Hey Bea I just had to let you know that I saw your last youtube video and your are right about noticing thinspo on tumblr, and I really think I'm taking your advice and not following them anymore.Also friends with eating disorders or "recovery buddies" you are right there. I am best friends with someone with an eating disorder, and she is an amazing person. Sometimes I do feel we get competitive even though we are both trying to recover. So we try to not talk about it at all. Keep making videos

[jennifermariez]

You are so wonderful. Keep doing what you do...Bea, God is working through you...I see it, I feel it...you are helping to save me...I don't know how to ever thank you enough. You make me believe in the power of humanity.

[OSnapski]

@jennifermariez thank you jennifer <3 means a lot to hear. if you need anything, let me know.

[mette1983]

you´re so cute and right about the whole "doing positive things for yourself" Bea <3

[OSnapski]

@mette1983 =D

[TeAmoLotes]

I think you should include B-eat website in the links <3

They're the charity for eating disorders in the UK... <3

They have a one to one chat, chat room and telephone line for sufferers or family/friends of sufferers to get advice :)

[OSnapski]

@TeAmoLotes ah yess i can't believe i forgot about them! thank you =D

[FruitBatties]

Fantastic!!! You are an inspiration

[OSnapski]

@FruitBatties thank yyouu!

[FruitBatties]

@OSnapski Like literally. You have so much courage to even talk about your e.d. When I went to even treatment I couldn't even say it out loud for I was ashamed. Now its just huge pink elephant in the room

[FruitBatties]

@OSnapski You look like Angelina Jolie and Miley Cyrus mixed together. Your so gorgeous hun don't let anyone say you aren't :)

[OSnapski]

@FruitBatties omg those are like my two favorite people <3

[9991JRod]

Keep it up, Bea! Yet again, another great video! You're an inspiration!

[OSnapski]

@9991JRod thank you!

[worldxxpeace]

You just gave me the courage to unfollow those who are holding me back. I've kept following them because I felt guilty- like it made me a bad person to cut them out of my life because they struggle. You're right though, its not that they are bad people, but if I don't put myself first nobody else is going to. You're amazing Bea. The wisdom you have is incredible. :)

[OSnapski]

@worldxxpeace that's great! im so proud =)

[amandajs21]

Hey B-

I'm struggling big time. I think I'm bulimic, I messaged you awhile back saying that I was occasionally making myself throw up and I was asking if I should get help. You told me to but I was scared and I never did. Well, it's gotten worse. I want to stop but I can't. I need to tell someone, I know, but I'm so scared people will think I'm gross and crazy. I need help, how did you tell someone?

[OSnapski]

@amandajs21 if you can't do it in person, write a letter

[amandajs21]

@OSnapski That's a really good idea. I'm still scared but I know this is gonna hurt me if I keep doing it. I'm going to write her one now, and try to get up the courage to give it to her tomorrow. Thank you!!!

[hanafan36]

You have the most gorgeous eyes. I can't even explain how proud I am of you. And, even because of you, through my pride, I've learned to be proud of myself for what I've accomplished in recovery. So really. Thank you, Bea.

[OSnapski]

@hanafan36 thank YOU!

[KayleighEmeraldEyes]

just wanted to say thank you for this vid, I needed these simple reminders and tips...especially because I am struggling like crazy recently.

[Innergoth333]

Wow! You said it so perfectly about the competition. My roommate has bought a sit load of candy and I'm just creating these very hostile and nasty comments in my head about her and how I'm so much better.

Yet I know that it is complete bull shit.

[sara7977]

Comment #2, sorry...The most frustrating conversation I had about eating disorders was with a friend of mine who was not aware that I had been diagnosed with bulimia. She insisted that bulimics are always underweight and that bulimics only purge by vomiting. She acted like I was the ignorant one. Also, using BMI is so screwed up in terms of determining whether or not someone is "anorexic." Just because people are the same height does not mean they will have the same health risks at x lbs.

[sara7977]

I agree with you about being pro-active in protecting your mind. I try to do this when choosing TV shows to watch. Even if I like a TV show, I won't watch it if it may trigger me. For instance, I like the concept of Project Runway in terms of designing clothes, but the ideas of women's bodies on that show are quite distorted. So I don't watch it.

[OSnapski]

@sara7977 that's great! proud of ya =D

[lostlittlegurlygurl]

im totally flinging up my gratitude video here Bea if you dont mind!!!lol xxxxxxx

[ARKdrummer]

I agree with pretty much everything, but mainly on the 'recovery buddy' part. I've never had a recovery buddy, but I've followed people on youtube who usually are in recovery, but when they struggle it kind of gets into my mind that it's a competition. Definitely hard to find good things from people that aren't fully recovered when you aren't fully recovered either..and sometimes even if you are fully recovered.

[OSnapski]

@ARKdrummer Exactly my point. It's a mixed bagged.