How can you be a Muslim and a feminist at the same time. That is a contradiction! These connedverts are so delusional!
Qur'an (4:11) - (Inheritance) "The male shall have the equal of the portion of two females" (see also verse 4:176). (2:282) - (Court testimony) "And call to witness, from among your men, two witnesses. And if two men be not found then a man and two women."
(2:228) - "and the men are a degree above them [women]"
I guess Mohamed was correct, women are deficient in intellect!
@dickknows Qur'an (2:223) - "Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will..."
Bukhari (6:301) - "[Muhammad] said, 'Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?' They replied in the affirmative. He said, 'This is the deficiency in her intelligence.'"
Abu Dawud (2142) - "The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife."
The analogies are fine, we're just taking them more literal than they were intended to be. Their point is that your body has value, and you shouldn't make it available for mass-consumption of peoples' eyes. The point was never to say men ARE flies, or hijab is supposed to save girls from rape. But you could compare the animal instincts of men, activated by a revealing woman's image, to how flies are attracted by the candy. Hijab (even men's hijab) guards modesty... That was the point.
i love all wat u said coz dude it is true! im a muslim as well and i hate that freaking lolli analogy! we are not pearls hiding in our oyster shells thank you!
Wow, awesome video girl! You said it sister, masha Allah-- somebody had to say it. Truth is hijab's primary purpose isn't to shield our hair from the eyes of men. I see it more as a way to distinguish Muslim women from others-- a sign of respect and piety. Seriously, this was really needed and I wish people didn't view hijab so simplistically-- not only is it wrong, it turns people off to it.
EXCELLENT! I HATE THE LOLLIPOP analogy! It's so degrading and ANTI-women. It states that women are meant to only be unwrapped by men, and if they are not covered or are doing one little thing wrong they should be ridiculed, not respected etc IT'S JUST WRONG!
Ignore the haters. Well done! A woman is indeed precious, as is every human being, but frankly, my sole purpose in life is not to be "unwrapped" by one man (or by any number of men!). Those who use the pearl analogy are the ones who always view a woman's identity in response to a man's, rather than viewing her for the individual she is.
Also, the picture with the flies - the flies do not rep our brothers who live by the Quran who should be lowering their gaze - it reps other men who can't control themselves. Assalam Alaikum, love from your sis all the way from London x
@KpopManiacSFL Darling, I am a woman from London, who recently started practicing Islam, and I can tell you Islam does not promote treating women like 'candy'. Proof:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said "The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife". Source: Hadith - Muslim, #3466
The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: "Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother" (Ahmad, Nasai) meaning you should serve your mother and take good care of her.
Sis, clothing has a lot to do with rape. If a woman who is flaunting her bits in very provocative clothing is walking next to a sis who is modestly dressed hiding her shape and her hair, the woman dressed provocatively is a lot more likely to be treated with disrespect by the average man, or even raped. The way that we dress has a lot to do with the way that men perceive us and treat us.
@MissSFB1 No it doesn't!~ Many Muslim women who wear niqabs and hijabs get raped everyday, you need to acknowledge this! Modest women in the west (who do not wear make-up, miniskirts etc) get raped! Men rape women for sex, they don't pick and choose who is prettier to rape, the rape anyone they can!
@KpopManiacSFL I didn't say it is IMPOSSIBLE for a woman who wears hijab/niqab to be raped, I said a woman who is flaunting her bits is MUCH MORE likely to be raped. If he sees a woman who is dressed provocatively he is a lot more likely to have his imagination running wild and to be more tempted to do something to the woman.
@MissSFB1 That's not true. It just depends at the time and place and the guy. If a rapist wants to rape, he will rape no matter what. It's like saying black people are more prone to attract murders!~ Your idea that clothing would make men about dirty thoughts is stupid because if men can already imagine a women's body even if she is clothed. Just wearing a nijab doesn;t make men forget that there is breasts and a vagina under there.
hey are you a convert? nice headcovering, where did you get it from ? thanks for speaking the truth !!! I hate the analogy too. Women are human beings, full stop.
@sexismBusters CONGRATULATIONS! You are my first ever men's rights activist (MRA) to tell me about how sexist I am because I believe that both sexes should be equal! Have a gold star!
@sssjjjggg28 Koran says men are providers for women - that is sexist. Muslim women are the laziest housewhores in the world. More blind people have jobs than muslim women. Unfortunately, if you are a real egalitarian, it is not compatible with your religion. Choose one. You want equality? Campaign to ban the Mahr. Campaign for law change so Muslim women must share their money with men as men must with women. Renounce female privilege. Bury your dead as men must. Conscript women. No gold for you.
@sexismBusters I think you should check the translation of the Qur'an you're using and actually get some statistics on the "more blind people have jobs than muslim women" statement. Muslim women aren't lazy- we're dotors, teachers, lawyers, scientists, politicians, police officers, and because of patriarchy, we're still expected to raise the kids and cook and clean.
@sssjjjggg28 Stats? In UK, 26% of Muslim women have any kind of paid job, compared to 39% of blind people. In Saudi, 22% of women have job. Pathetic! "Patriarchy"? Stop blaming men. Women gate-keep childcare & housework, and anyway, in Islam, men must provide wives with a maid. To call it a whoriarchy, would be an understatement. Women elect men to positions of dominance (See Aries, E. 1996 Oxford for meta analysis). You're not a baby, a victim, or an angel. Time for real equality. More excuses?
@sexismBusters How is this pathetic? Have you ever considered the culture of these places? Have you considered the fact that some women like staying at home and some men like providing for their wives? The definition of freedom varies from culture to culture, so I suggest you shut up and listen to muslim men and women before speaking for them. And how can you wish for egalitarianism yet use the word "whore" to describe women?
@sssjjjggg28 dont worry about these fools darling, they are blind, we can just pray for them, and try not to get angry, i look at them and feel sorry because they are so blind, asalamualaykum, look after your self.
Terrible Quranic translation. Here is a better translation. don't ever apologize to these Islamophobes, you are in the right.
Those who harass believing men and believing women undeservedly, bear (on themselves) a calumny and a grievous sin. O Prophet! Enjoin your wives, your daughters, and the wives of true believers that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): That is most convenient, that they may be distinguished and not be harassed. [...] (Qur'an 33:58–59)
Funny video. She's right Muslim women are not jewels or treasures, they're human beings. This might sound bad but there are plenty of non-Muslim women who are better than Muslim women and I've seen it with my own eyes. Hijabis are not innocent women, many of them are horrible people and would make brothers wish they married a christian or a jew. I don't side with Muslims, I side with truth.
@modestgrrl - women are not responsible for their own objectification. The more you buy into it, the more you buy into a culture that normalises female objectification and male gaze.
Sister this is big questions you are playing with fire... My dear sister you should go and seek knowledge with a Aalem before you speak. Because in the hadiths why you wear hijab is because the prohpet said it is for your protection ! So it means that the hijab is a factor for not being assulted and i dont think you want to say agains the prophet ? sorry for my english !
I may not agree with everything you've said 100% BUT I totally understand and YES I do get it :) It irritates me when the "Pearl" thing is used! it objectifies women! am not "a thing" or "it" , am a person..a "Her" !! lool..don't listen to the haters or narrow minded people..you've got a good point so don't let the mean comments set you back...you're changing lives mashaa Allah so don't stop :)
I really love this a lot...I think you're making a great point, But I have to ask then...since a lot of us believe that women wear hijab to discourage the advances of men...why do you wear hijab?
I agree with you Sister. I wear Hijab because it's a commandment from Allah and it's a form of worship. I wear it for myself and ONLY myself and Allah as it's a constant reminder of my Islam. You shouldn't wear Hijab because you don't want men looking at you as it's on the same level as girls who dress for men to look at them. you're BOTH doing it for men. Let's renew our intentions Insha'Allah. Salaam.
Aw,you're super cute and I understand the point you're trying to make. No girl likes being thought of as an inanimate pretty thing that only needs be protected, and yes, that analogy does promote that kind of thinking.We are people, w/ individual personalities and decision making powers. Nevertheless, the purpose of these kinds of analogies is to point out that Hijab (or "oyster") protects a woman's dignity and self worth.The hijab is more than a 'piece of cloth',but rather a way of acting.
Ok sweety I get your point but the lollypop anology shows that a sticky lolly without a wrapper attracts flies (not necessarily brother btw) Whereas a lolly with the wrapper on doesn't attract them. Women in hijab will have a husband who is allowed to "unwrap" them (with their consent of course!!!). And the pearl analogy has actually helped a sister become muslim and love her hijab. Is this wrong? Should she see the light of feminism? Btw, just curious, for what reasons do you wear the hijab? :)
Sadly, today people are replacing the real wisdom and religious reasons for wearing hijab with their own fairy tale stories because they made assumptions and didn't do their homework.
This is just one of the many issues at which ignorance is to blame. Look at the state of the entire global Muslim ummah as a whole and it explains why we are in the state we are today. We as Muslims were at our best when true knowledge was the basis for our conduct. Don't just read the Quran, study it!
My biggest issue with this outrageous analogy is 1. it is only one part of why we wear hijab 2. it is VERY overused, to the point that it replaces the original reason why we wear hijab and thus changes the whole meaning! First and foremost, it is because Allah clearly commands this in the Quran. The rest we can debate about. Also, I do NOT wear hijab because I feel myself to be responsible for men's desire! Everyone is responsible for their own actions.
i've read in the news of fully covered women who were raped, their hijab and clothes slashed to bits for "faster access". just like how a locked door doesn't deter a burglar who has intent to steal the contents of a house or a car, clothes and hijab only deters men who have self-control, but they DON'T deter PERVERTS. if a pervert wants to see the women's body underneath the clothes, he would use whatever means necessary, even brute force and a knife. people should stop twisting God's words.
Girl, believe me i think u dont understand till now the essence of hijaab..u take it too litteraly. its not like that. Please read about it, cause ignorance may lead to such thoughts.
@sssjjjggg28 : Its like you telling if Police is meant to stop robbery and theft then whey are these things still present in the world? Is this logical sister?
Exactly!! Mashallah! true hijab is about the whole person, not just pieces of cloth. And raising boys to be men that know self-control!!! And yes it is possible for a man to be responsible for his actions. Rape is about power, not about hijab.
MashaAllah! I am soo with you sista. I was wondering if you could answer this question. Do you know any ways that we women can protect ourselves from sexual assault? if men can protect themselves, women should be able to as well right? Since we are equally made, what do u think is our way to protect ourselves?
PS this isn't related to the headscarf. Just wondering with your wisdom if you may be able to answer this please :)
@PromisedtATuLove Hmm, while most rapes/assaults occur by people close to us, i've always been told we can educate men about not assaulting and raping women, take self-defense classes, carry things like pepper spray, and try not to be alone in unknown places, especially at night. however, i am not so sure how well these work.
@sssjjjggg28 Not once...in all these precautions have u mentioned...the one most important thing that can protect us....reading the dua for protection from all harm(Bismillahil Ladi La Yaddurru Ma-Asmihee Shayee Unn Fil Ardi Wa La Fis-Samaee WaHuwas-Sami-unn-Aleem) OR reading ayat-al-kursi before leaving the house along & Bismillahee Tawwakaltu Al-Allah La Hawla Wala Quwwata Illa Billa. Not in any way undermining the importance of educating men/women, or self defence classes..etc.
"If I were asking to be raped, it wouldn't be rape."
It sounds so trivial, but it exposes the hypocrisy of the three Abrahamic faiths when it comes to female sexuality and self-determination; but it also is a hypocrisy adherent to Western civilization per se.
Thanks for speaking up - bad stereotypes have to be smashed! ;-)
Awesome video! I've posted it on Twitter and Facebook.
This exact topic came up at our latest Young women's Caucus meeting in Kuala Lumpur in February and we had a great discussion about it.
We'd love to invite you to join our group. Check out our page on facebook (it's not allowing me to post the link, so please search for Young Women's Caucus) and send me a message to add you to our mailing list, if interested.
WOW! It's exactly what I've been thinking and saying about those stupid analogies! Another one I heard is women are like diamonds and you wrap diamonds in silk to protect them. Well, who wraps their diamonds in silk while wearing them? Isn't the whole point of purchasing diamond to display it and claim a certain status because of it?
@layali715 Astaghfirullah. Purchasing a diamond is to display it and claim a certain status????? This is so un-Islamic...Takabbur...pride is in no way permissable. Would u wear good clothes or expensive jewellery to show it off to ppl? As a muslimah we cant show our beauty and zeenat to anyone except a Mehram...not even all women...only trustworthy pious women(of any faith).
Salaam! From a non-hijabi (and feminist) sister, I think this video is super incredible and despite the pauses you articulated your point really well and I found myself with a huge grin by the end of it. Women should not be compared to unwrapped meat or uncovered candy. It makes no sense and I bet you could come up with a smarter analogy if you tried.
But all in all, we are one Ummah and we shall respect everyone’s views. Women should respect the ideas of men, and men should respect the views of women that aren't being voiced. Salaam.
There is always going to be a positive and a negative. If you wan’t to magnify the negative and call it sexism rather than contemplating the positive and realizing the blessing, be my guest.
Analogies aren’t meant to be taken literally. Additionally, people are forgetting that Allah (S.W.T.) has asked for women to cover themselves as well as men to different degrees, and he knows best. Who knows, maybe there is compensation for wearing a hijab at times where it is most difficult that men will not receive because they weren’t asked to do so.
@TranquilityandRepose I'm not trying to encourage or discourage anyone from wearing hijab. My intention was to call on people not to use analogies that objectify women.
@sssjjjggg28 I do not understand how the pearl analogy is objectifying women. The fact that they’re calling you a pearl and not a person is solely because it is an ANALOGY. When I see a woman, I do not see a pearl; but when I contemplate the ANALOGY, I see the connection between how the hijab can be an oyster covering the pearl that you can metaphorically compare to a woman.
@sssjjjggg28 Now let me make an ANALOGY. Should you not put a lock on your door because people can break in, or will you just blame the person trying to break in? You can blame the person trying to break in but ultimately it is a necessary precaution to put the lock on. And I know you will say that you are not a door and your hijab is a not lock nor do you need to put a lock on yourself, but that is why it is a comparison; it might be a bad one, but overall a comparison.
A man can get raped too. The raping of a man by a women might not be as often, but it does happen, and forgetting that on it’s own is sexist. To simply pinpoint every tiny remark that seems sexist doesn’t go anywhere because usually it is not looked at from both perspectives.
Thank you for this, I am so glad to see a bright young Muslimah with such incisive analysis. What many of the comments here (as well as the 'pearl' analogy you critique) fail to understand is how they too objectify Muslim women's bodies by oversexualizing them and reducing the hijab to a matter of sexual desire. By focusing on items of clothing, we engage in victim-blaming for sexual violence, when NO woman no matter how she is dressed deserves that or "asks" for it. Hijabis are raped too.
For those who think that our dear sister is wrong:I just want to let people know that I do not have a Tootsie Roll center, and if you try to drill a hole in me to make a necklace, you're going to find yourself on the business end of the drill instead. Just wanted to make that clear.
@lamunoit95 Apart from the fact it says nothing about whether women should wear it or not, obviously this sister isn't undermining the importance of hijab. She's just pointing out a faulty - and kind of offensive - analogy. Being patronised by a patriarchal system is more discouraging, in my opinion.
@azyeennekun But that's not true. In Islam women are supposed to wear it. It's stated in the Qur'an. And the reason people use those analogies is b/c those analogies were used by our prophet too. Who's to argue with that? There's nothing wrong with calling Muslim women pearls because in Islam they ARE treasured and to be put on a pedal stool. In reality women have more importance than the men. And this video argued against that.
@lamunoit95 Where did he (saw) use those analogies? Can you give me reference? And even if he did, the difference is the context, the Prophet (saw) didn't belittle or oppress women, or say such things in order to justify forcing them to wear something. There's nothing wrong with treasuring and respecting women, there IS if you're saying such things in order to make yourself feel better about oppressing people.
@lamunoit95 well if they're a treasure then treat them as one,perhaps treat them as human beings first, than just covering them and thinking ok now im done with my job to protect women. See,it is much more than just covering them, it is about understanding them, being careful with them, and simply RESPECT them no matter what. If one girl doesnt wear any hijab or cover herself doesnt mean she is not worth to be respected and can be mistreated or is less valuable. She is a woman, & they're special
@lamunoit95 I'm not arguing that women don't have more importance than men, I'm arguing that analogies such as the pearl analogy objectify women. If women are so treasured, why are we objectified and harassed for the way we dress?
@sssjjjggg28 You shud make clear in ur videos...that we are ordained by Allah to wear Jilbab...there's no if's, else or buts...we call ourselves muslims...so submit ourselves completely to the will of Allah. If these ananlogies dont make any sense to you..though such analogies are only used to better explain a concept. Then thats alrite....but make it CLEAR to all non-Hijabi Muslimahs that dont confuse this with what Allah had ordained upon us.
@sssjjjggg28 How else would you show people the difference of when women wear hijabs and cover themselves compared to women who dress wantonly? The point of the analogies aren't to objectify women, the message of it is different. Analogies are a nicer way of saying things. The other alternative could be, a girl who dresses like a slut has a bigger of chance of being in danger than a girl dressed modestly with a hijab. But how appealing do those sound?
@lamunoit95 sry,this is bullshit. i read an text of a big german police deprartment about all sexual assaults which were comitted by the stranger type (that ar ~30% of all, 70% of rapists and assoulting persons were family members or friends..)
one important thing that had all victims in common: all were ..Plain Jane (dunno if this term is known) they ve worn wide shirts or hoodies. not sexy cloth. they seemed to be good victims.
@lamunoit95 so you should stop and think about it. sexy or slutalikes werent raped much often.
if a woman appears self-confident and strong, the chance to become a victim is smaller as if a woman is shy, silent and looks insecure.
BE self-confident
another thing is VERY important.
DEFEND YOURSELF! screm, hit..in over 80% the cases the assaulter stopped the attack and runned. (if he has a weapon-dont do it. bt if he has none-than scream or fight. your chances to survive are higher
I hope you realize you're making people want to wear the hijab less. And wearing a hijab protects you a lot more than dressing promiscuously. Obviously no one asks to get raped but the hijab hides a huge part of your beauty and makes you less subjected to danger. You're right that wearing a hijab doesn't prevent it 100%, but it does keep women a lot safer and modest. It's adorable you're a feminist, and so am I but feminism isn't about rape or being equal to the male race.
You are awesome and articulate...and I agree with you on all your points. I especially like "The only thing that can stop me from being sexually assaulted is if a guy doesn't assault me...A woman's clothing has nothing to do with it. Nobody is asking to be raped or assaulted. If I were asking to be raped, it wouldn't be rape."
I rarely comment on YouTube, but I think you're great.
I have been thinking the same. Those who claim that they are not objectifying woman are just objectifying it to the degree that they compare her to a lifeless object. You are correct.
Contd ... Second purpose is, So that they shall be recognized as honoured women. Tell me if there're two sisters on walking on the street and one wearing a mini and second a jilbaab, and if there are a bad man waiting to tease a girl, which girl will he tease? So please...
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Do you read Qur'aan sister? Allaah says in the Qur'aan: " O Prophet! Tell your wives, your daughter and to muslim women that should wear a Jilbaab so that THEY SHALL BE RECOGNIZED AND IT WILL HELP THEM FROM BEING MOLESTED." So sister delete this video its contradicting the speech of Allaah. Jilbaab protects women to the maximum limit which you can think but and its this is its purpose. Contd...
@DanishRiyaz If this is so, why are hijabis sexually assaulted and raped? Why are we stared at and catcalled in the street? Why did my family receive death threats when I started to wear hijab? Why was my khimar ripped off my head in front of a crowd of people and why was I dragged across the ground?
@sssjjjggg28 : I'm not telling that Jilbaab will protect you 100% but it will surely protect you from lustful eyes and pleasure seekers etc that's what the Qur'aan says and you cannot oppose the Qur'aan. Also check you inbox I'm sending you a video about it for you benefit.
@sssjjjggg28 Dear, that's exactly why we do cover up. it doesn't mean it will stop the sexual assaults but that's the main purpose of it " to protect and cover the woman's beautiful body instead of putting it on show for the whole world to see" its about respecting your body! :D
@DanishRiyaz the PURPOSE of the Jilbaab is to DIPLOMATICALLY DISCOURAGE men's wandering eyes and prevents their desire from being VISUALLY ignited. but a PERVERT has no such self-control. a Jilbaab may prevent molestation from most men, but it would NOT prevent NOR deter such misactions from PERVERTS. a Jilbaab DOESN'T protect women to the MAXIMUM LIMIT, bulletproof vests can protect them even better. GOD recognises women, but SOME MEN still treat women as commodities, properties, OBJECTS.
@DanishRiyaz Why are as a man so concerned about the dress of women? Are you really insecure or something? From all your posts on this issue you seem pretty obsessed bordering on mental. Not everyone has your black and white interpretation of Islam - deal with it.
THANK YOU! Finally someone gets it. No, the hijab does not significantly reduce your chances of being assaulted. Usually CLOTHING has nothing to do with it. I don't see why people aren't getting that. I could be dressed as a snowman and still be assaulted.
You're absolutely right-- it's easy for us to become the kind of society that thinks some Muslim girls (in hijab) are good, while others (without) are asking for whatever they get. I think you've done a good job of drawing attention to this danger-- kudos!
And to those commenters below: you're really missing the point. Clearly, this young sister believes in the importance of hijab-- she's simply making the point that hijab will not protect a woman from a man with impure or evil intentions.
the earnestness and patience of one who goes through the trouble to obtain the pearl deep down in the oceans reflects the sincerity and patience of a Muslim brother who will go through all the hassle to find the well-protected Muslimah who guards her chastity. =) pls do ponder upon the analogies and inshaALLAH we will find the wisdom contained in them. best regards, and salaam from singapore. =)
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the analogy of the pearl in the oyster is relevant to a Muslim woman. why a pearl? in order to obtain a pearl, you need to dive deep into the ocean to get the oyster. do you just dive like you swim in a swimming pool? no, you need to prepare oxygen tanks, dive suits etc. and it's not easy to collect them. in jewellery shops, how are authentic pearls displayed? well-protected in velvet jewellery boxes, and sold expensively. all these reflect the dignity of a Muslim woman we should uphold.
men and women are equal in the sight of Allah. however, we are created differently through our appearance and biological system. men are visual beings and thus are visually attracted to physical attractiveness, depending on the level of imaan. so the piece of cloth that Allah has ordained us ladies to wear, serves purposes too many to be mentioned, and of them is to assist the men in controlling their nafs (which of course, is created differently from the nafs of us ladies).
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Assalaamu'alaykum, the hijab we wear does not absolutely mean we are safe from being sexually assaulted but it significatly reduces the chances of it, provided if the clothing is loose and conceal the shape of our body. We won't be any different from non-hijabis if we're in long sleeves and skirts which are suffocatingly body-hugging and showing every curves that we have. the flies are not brothers but they represent men whose hearts have illnesses in them, i.e. men who cannot guard their nafs.
@sumayyah90 Actually, rapists have been interviewed and the following has been shown: that they go for women with loose clothing and more cloth than women with tight clothing. Because it's easier to grab a woman with more loose cloth and violate her than it is to grab a woman who has tight clothing.
You go, girl! :) Very pleased to hear this from such a young Muslim woman!
And, just to add one thing to your thoughts - if (Muslim) women are "pearls," what are (Muslim) men? If we Muslim women are so precious, what are our fathers, husbands, sons, and other Muslim men around us? What makes them any less precious than us?
Oh, and have you seen that other image of a woman in hijab looking so relaxed and the one w/o it so distressed? LOL. People are so funny.
I've also heard ridiculous things like "the hijab is like the skin of a fruit that protects it" or "you don't just leave food lying around, you cover them." Why is it always FOOD that we're compared to??
You're so awesome!! Keep it up! I love how you articulate your ideas, and don't let people compare you to objects even more then women already are! I honestly believe people make up their own definitions of self based on what they believe their value to be, so if they truly believe they are a piece of candy needed to be shielded from flies- that's what they think of themselves. Others however, would prefer not to be objectified thank you very much. Empowering video, great job! :)
The analogy has nothing to do with rape. It has to do with temptation. The fly analogy fails, because flies are grotesque. Perhaps a flower analogy is better. Without bees, flowers will die. If a flower blooms, many bees will flock to her; which is a nicety for the flower because flowers and bees get along greatly. If a flower is budded, no bees will come to her because although she has pollen, she has not presented it so easily. Perhaps she can bloom when she finds the right bee. Just a thought
@sssjjjggg28 BTW do u know how many non-hijabi muslimah's are liking ur video. Let me tell u...Many!!So many have posted this on their FB pgs & gettin Likes from none other than non-hijabi muslimahs. Ponder on this,its like u're their voice of reason to continue being hijabless. When Allah clearly orders us in S.AhzabVerse58" OProphet tell ur wives, daughters, & the women of the believers to draw down their shawls over them..." If u could mention this in a followup vid, so that no is led astray.
@skwtrsrs03 dude, theres a different between hijab, and headscarf. Hijab is modesty in clothing. headscarf is headscarf. Allah does NOT obligate the headscarf, but obligates modesty. :) and for the record, I know girls wearing headscarfs that reposted this.
@PromisedtATuLove Allah DOES order us to wear jilbab...an arabic word which means a large piece of cloth. Plz see for urself in S.Ahzab Verse58. Its not a choice...its ordained on every mominah!! May Allah SWT make us steadfast in deen.
The verse continues to tell us..."That will make it more likely that they are recognized(as pious muslims), hence not TEASED". Allah SWT is all-knowing...He knows that women w.out hijabs are more likely to be teased than w.Hijabs. Dont bring ur own philosophy & understanding. Allah's word is above all!
@skwtrsrs03 I never said my word was above Allah's. But if hijab protects us, why are hijabis sexually assaulted, raped, and harassed? Why did my family receive death threats when I began wearing hijab?
I have heard imams compare women to diamonds, money, and candy
The really odd thing is they objectifying women completely, yet it doesn't even seem to register that this view of women (as an object that they are protecting from looters) is debasing to humanity.
This is like a freudian slip, rather a giant uncontrolled freudian effluence where their true view of women becomes apparent. There have been simply too many objectifying statements to believe otherwise. Its beyond a flawed analogy.
very interesting thoughts. impressive wisdom from someone so young. if you don't mind my asking, how old are you? and how did you come to these conclusions? and why do you call yourself a feminist?
Age is but a number; in some societies I am considered old and in some I am considered young. :) I came to these conclusions after contemplating them myself and a bit of reading feminist theory. I identify as a feminist because I stand up for/believe women should have rights and believe in equality between the sexes.
@sssjjjggg28 Thank you for your response :) Now I'd like to ask what kind of sources you've read on feminist theory, and if you've been influenced at all by any current or past feminist figures.
@sssjjjggg28 Lets clarify this,there is no need for feminism in Islam. Islam gives women more rights and dignity than no other religion...& our Prophet Mohammad(S) personified this in his own life. Feminism is a very non-muslim term, lets not use that. We dont need to be feminists. All need to be are Momin and Mominah's!
@skwtrsrs03 Though Islam gives women rights, that does not mean that Islam prevents men from taking away from us. If all we need to be are Muslims, then why is there still sexism in our ummah?
@sssjjjggg28 Because those who are sexists are Munafiq. Not muslims. Those muslims who rape and assault women are not Muslims...they are munafiq! Your concepts are very dangerous for ur eimaan. Plz dont mix lunatics..munafiq with islam and muslims. Muslims are those who submit their will to Allah. Plz get help. There are so many good imam's /teachers online,get ur questions answered from them instead of posting videos abt it. "A muslim is one with whose hand and tongue other muslims are safe"
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How can you be a Muslim and a feminist at the same time. That is a contradiction! These connedverts are so delusional!
Qur'an (4:11) - (Inheritance) "The male shall have the equal of the portion of two females" (see also verse 4:176). (2:282) - (Court testimony) "And call to witness, from among your men, two witnesses. And if two men be not found then a man and two women."
(2:228) - "and the men are a degree above them [women]"
I guess Mohamed was correct, women are deficient in intellect!
dickknows 2 days ago
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@dickknows Qur'an (2:223) - "Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will..."
Bukhari (6:301) - "[Muhammad] said, 'Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?' They replied in the affirmative. He said, 'This is the deficiency in her intelligence.'"
Abu Dawud (2142) - "The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife."
dickknows 2 days ago
Da'wa of the poorest kind. This child is being abused by the supremacist muslims.
MilanpavicBelgium 1 week ago
@MilanpavicBelgium Piss off.
sssjjjggg28 1 week ago
@sssjjjggg28 Get a life girl, leave this camel religion for what it is: camel shit.
MilanpavicBelgium 6 days ago
But I admire your passion, little sister :)
abdullahzs 1 week ago
The analogies are fine, we're just taking them more literal than they were intended to be. Their point is that your body has value, and you shouldn't make it available for mass-consumption of peoples' eyes. The point was never to say men ARE flies, or hijab is supposed to save girls from rape. But you could compare the animal instincts of men, activated by a revealing woman's image, to how flies are attracted by the candy. Hijab (even men's hijab) guards modesty... That was the point.
abdullahzs 1 week ago
Excellently said and definitely something a lot of people need to take to heart.
cousinted 1 month ago
you're such a pearl..lol
jakecaumeran 1 month ago
i love all wat u said coz dude it is true! im a muslim as well and i hate that freaking lolli analogy! we are not pearls hiding in our oyster shells thank you!
xXxsiaXshockxXx 1 month ago
Wow, awesome video girl! You said it sister, masha Allah-- somebody had to say it. Truth is hijab's primary purpose isn't to shield our hair from the eyes of men. I see it more as a way to distinguish Muslim women from others-- a sign of respect and piety. Seriously, this was really needed and I wish people didn't view hijab so simplistically-- not only is it wrong, it turns people off to it.
gulsy1123 1 month ago
EXCELLENT! I HATE THE LOLLIPOP analogy! It's so degrading and ANTI-women. It states that women are meant to only be unwrapped by men, and if they are not covered or are doing one little thing wrong they should be ridiculed, not respected etc IT'S JUST WRONG!
KpopManiacSFL 1 month ago
Ignore the haters. Well done! A woman is indeed precious, as is every human being, but frankly, my sole purpose in life is not to be "unwrapped" by one man (or by any number of men!). Those who use the pearl analogy are the ones who always view a woman's identity in response to a man's, rather than viewing her for the individual she is.
L00kintomyeyes 1 month ago
Also, the picture with the flies - the flies do not rep our brothers who live by the Quran who should be lowering their gaze - it reps other men who can't control themselves. Assalam Alaikum, love from your sis all the way from London x
MissSFB1 2 months ago
@MissSFB1 Women aren't candy! We are human beings!
KpopManiacSFL 1 month ago
@KpopManiacSFL Darling, I am a woman from London, who recently started practicing Islam, and I can tell you Islam does not promote treating women like 'candy'. Proof:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said "The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife". Source: Hadith - Muslim, #3466
The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: "Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother" (Ahmad, Nasai) meaning you should serve your mother and take good care of her.
Want more? Just ask.
MissSFB1 1 month ago
Sis, clothing has a lot to do with rape. If a woman who is flaunting her bits in very provocative clothing is walking next to a sis who is modestly dressed hiding her shape and her hair, the woman dressed provocatively is a lot more likely to be treated with disrespect by the average man, or even raped. The way that we dress has a lot to do with the way that men perceive us and treat us.
MissSFB1 2 months ago
@MissSFB1 No it doesn't!~ Many Muslim women who wear niqabs and hijabs get raped everyday, you need to acknowledge this! Modest women in the west (who do not wear make-up, miniskirts etc) get raped! Men rape women for sex, they don't pick and choose who is prettier to rape, the rape anyone they can!
KpopManiacSFL 1 month ago
@KpopManiacSFL I didn't say it is IMPOSSIBLE for a woman who wears hijab/niqab to be raped, I said a woman who is flaunting her bits is MUCH MORE likely to be raped. If he sees a woman who is dressed provocatively he is a lot more likely to have his imagination running wild and to be more tempted to do something to the woman.
...Peace.
MissSFB1 1 month ago
@MissSFB1 That's not true. It just depends at the time and place and the guy. If a rapist wants to rape, he will rape no matter what. It's like saying black people are more prone to attract murders!~ Your idea that clothing would make men about dirty thoughts is stupid because if men can already imagine a women's body even if she is clothed. Just wearing a nijab doesn;t make men forget that there is breasts and a vagina under there.
KpopManiacSFL 1 month ago
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hey are you a convert? nice headcovering, where did you get it from ? thanks for speaking the truth !!! I hate the analogy too. Women are human beings, full stop.
floyde91 2 months ago
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floyde91 2 months ago
Islam is degrading to men.
sexismBusters 2 months ago
@sexismBusters CONGRATULATIONS! You are my first ever men's rights activist (MRA) to tell me about how sexist I am because I believe that both sexes should be equal! Have a gold star!
sssjjjggg28 2 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 Koran says men are providers for women - that is sexist. Muslim women are the laziest housewhores in the world. More blind people have jobs than muslim women. Unfortunately, if you are a real egalitarian, it is not compatible with your religion. Choose one. You want equality? Campaign to ban the Mahr. Campaign for law change so Muslim women must share their money with men as men must with women. Renounce female privilege. Bury your dead as men must. Conscript women. No gold for you.
sexismBusters 2 months ago
@sexismBusters I think you should check the translation of the Qur'an you're using and actually get some statistics on the "more blind people have jobs than muslim women" statement. Muslim women aren't lazy- we're dotors, teachers, lawyers, scientists, politicians, police officers, and because of patriarchy, we're still expected to raise the kids and cook and clean.
sssjjjggg28 2 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 Stats? In UK, 26% of Muslim women have any kind of paid job, compared to 39% of blind people. In Saudi, 22% of women have job. Pathetic! "Patriarchy"? Stop blaming men. Women gate-keep childcare & housework, and anyway, in Islam, men must provide wives with a maid. To call it a whoriarchy, would be an understatement. Women elect men to positions of dominance (See Aries, E. 1996 Oxford for meta analysis). You're not a baby, a victim, or an angel. Time for real equality. More excuses?
sexismBusters 2 months ago
@sexismBusters How is this pathetic? Have you ever considered the culture of these places? Have you considered the fact that some women like staying at home and some men like providing for their wives? The definition of freedom varies from culture to culture, so I suggest you shut up and listen to muslim men and women before speaking for them. And how can you wish for egalitarianism yet use the word "whore" to describe women?
sssjjjggg28 2 months ago 4
@sssjjjggg28 dont worry about these fools darling, they are blind, we can just pray for them, and try not to get angry, i look at them and feel sorry because they are so blind, asalamualaykum, look after your self.
pushpaable 1 month ago
Hey, I understand where you're coming from. Just wondering though, what is the point of hijab to you then?
hadiaIAM 4 months ago
I agree with you on the analogy. however calling yourself a feminist and a Muslimah is redundant sweetie. think about it and you'll see I'm right
BellaPanamena 4 months ago
GAHHH this reeks of coolness and badassery !
huhwtf88 4 months ago
this is rediculous
AichaBlueSky 5 months ago
@AichaBlueSky yeah, i totally agree,the analogy is pretty bad.
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ALLAHSslave1 5 months ago
@ALLAHSslave1 I know right?! Kids these days, just outta control!
sssjjjggg28 4 months ago
you really opened my eyes! Thank you
MuslimVlogGuy 5 months ago
Terrible Quranic translation. Here is a better translation. don't ever apologize to these Islamophobes, you are in the right.
Those who harass believing men and believing women undeservedly, bear (on themselves) a calumny and a grievous sin. O Prophet! Enjoin your wives, your daughters, and the wives of true believers that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): That is most convenient, that they may be distinguished and not be harassed. [...] (Qur'an 33:58–59)
SimsAhmadKhan 5 months ago
Funny video. She's right Muslim women are not jewels or treasures, they're human beings. This might sound bad but there are plenty of non-Muslim women who are better than Muslim women and I've seen it with my own eyes. Hijabis are not innocent women, many of them are horrible people and would make brothers wish they married a christian or a jew. I don't side with Muslims, I side with truth.
chaeguevarakorean 5 months ago
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"objectifying" this is all I hear out of fucking feminists mouth. Plus shes a muslim. Even fucking better. Save me now god.
lvsoad22 5 months ago
@lvsoad22 jealous?
sssjjjggg28 5 months ago 9
@sssjjjggg28 yeah. Most white american males dream of being muslim women.
lvsoad22 5 months ago
Intellectual win!
Subbed, favourited & liked...
and to think i was searching for /watch?v=pGrvvDxjA3s (contains explicit language) when i stumbled across this.
Scrowubit 5 months ago
@modestgrrl - women are not responsible for their own objectification. The more you buy into it, the more you buy into a culture that normalises female objectification and male gaze.
BellHooksUrge 5 months ago 3
Sister this is big questions you are playing with fire... My dear sister you should go and seek knowledge with a Aalem before you speak. Because in the hadiths why you wear hijab is because the prohpet said it is for your protection ! So it means that the hijab is a factor for not being assulted and i dont think you want to say agains the prophet ? sorry for my english !
Khaled169 5 months ago
I may not agree with everything you've said 100% BUT I totally understand and YES I do get it :) It irritates me when the "Pearl" thing is used! it objectifies women! am not "a thing" or "it" , am a person..a "Her" !! lool..don't listen to the haters or narrow minded people..you've got a good point so don't let the mean comments set you back...you're changing lives mashaa Allah so don't stop :)
ModestNModern 5 months ago 2
I really love this a lot...I think you're making a great point, But I have to ask then...since a lot of us believe that women wear hijab to discourage the advances of men...why do you wear hijab?
dchperemi 5 months ago
I LOVE THIS, shukran sister :)
aljawadn 5 months ago
I agree with you Sister. I wear Hijab because it's a commandment from Allah and it's a form of worship. I wear it for myself and ONLY myself and Allah as it's a constant reminder of my Islam. You shouldn't wear Hijab because you don't want men looking at you as it's on the same level as girls who dress for men to look at them. you're BOTH doing it for men. Let's renew our intentions Insha'Allah. Salaam.
BoilingTheKettle 5 months ago
Aw,you're super cute and I understand the point you're trying to make. No girl likes being thought of as an inanimate pretty thing that only needs be protected, and yes, that analogy does promote that kind of thinking.We are people, w/ individual personalities and decision making powers. Nevertheless, the purpose of these kinds of analogies is to point out that Hijab (or "oyster") protects a woman's dignity and self worth.The hijab is more than a 'piece of cloth',but rather a way of acting.
zanyrox1 5 months ago
lol u r so cute ... u actually think what u r saying makes sense.
junaidnx 5 months ago
Ok sweety I get your point but the lollypop anology shows that a sticky lolly without a wrapper attracts flies (not necessarily brother btw) Whereas a lolly with the wrapper on doesn't attract them. Women in hijab will have a husband who is allowed to "unwrap" them (with their consent of course!!!). And the pearl analogy has actually helped a sister become muslim and love her hijab. Is this wrong? Should she see the light of feminism? Btw, just curious, for what reasons do you wear the hijab? :)
DwellorofIngo 6 months ago
Having heard you rant about this 'piece of cloth', I have one question: why are you wearing it then????
MissSamira2012 6 months ago
Sadly, today people are replacing the real wisdom and religious reasons for wearing hijab with their own fairy tale stories because they made assumptions and didn't do their homework.
This is just one of the many issues at which ignorance is to blame. Look at the state of the entire global Muslim ummah as a whole and it explains why we are in the state we are today. We as Muslims were at our best when true knowledge was the basis for our conduct. Don't just read the Quran, study it!
sacinerrasjoker 6 months ago
My biggest issue with this outrageous analogy is 1. it is only one part of why we wear hijab 2. it is VERY overused, to the point that it replaces the original reason why we wear hijab and thus changes the whole meaning! First and foremost, it is because Allah clearly commands this in the Quran. The rest we can debate about. Also, I do NOT wear hijab because I feel myself to be responsible for men's desire! Everyone is responsible for their own actions.
sacinerrasjoker 6 months ago
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mustno3 6 months ago
Preach it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
carrolcrunk 6 months ago 2
i've read in the news of fully covered women who were raped, their hijab and clothes slashed to bits for "faster access". just like how a locked door doesn't deter a burglar who has intent to steal the contents of a house or a car, clothes and hijab only deters men who have self-control, but they DON'T deter PERVERTS. if a pervert wants to see the women's body underneath the clothes, he would use whatever means necessary, even brute force and a knife. people should stop twisting God's words.
hireikei 6 months ago
Well she's pretty :)
Q91 6 months ago
she is so right .....
cokapepsi 6 months ago
Go girl!! I totally agree with you, the pearl analogy sucks
asiya92 6 months ago 2
Girl, believe me i think u dont understand till now the essence of hijaab..u take it too litteraly. its not like that. Please read about it, cause ignorance may lead to such thoughts.
morracandutchgirl 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 : Its like you telling if Police is meant to stop robbery and theft then whey are these things still present in the world? Is this logical sister?
DanishRiyaz 6 months ago
Exactly!! Mashallah! true hijab is about the whole person, not just pieces of cloth. And raising boys to be men that know self-control!!! And yes it is possible for a man to be responsible for his actions. Rape is about power, not about hijab.
hippitydoo 6 months ago
@modestgrrl At the time it was spontaneous in the sense that it was the result of an inner impulse :)
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago 3
You expressed something I couldnt express for yeaaaaaaaaaars! Thank you little sister =) <3
eskimobscure 6 months ago
@eskimobscure thank YOU :)
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
MashaAllah! I am soo with you sista. I was wondering if you could answer this question. Do you know any ways that we women can protect ourselves from sexual assault? if men can protect themselves, women should be able to as well right? Since we are equally made, what do u think is our way to protect ourselves?
PS this isn't related to the headscarf. Just wondering with your wisdom if you may be able to answer this please :)
PromisedtATuLove 6 months ago
@PromisedtATuLove Hmm, while most rapes/assaults occur by people close to us, i've always been told we can educate men about not assaulting and raping women, take self-defense classes, carry things like pepper spray, and try not to be alone in unknown places, especially at night. however, i am not so sure how well these work.
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 Not once...in all these precautions have u mentioned...the one most important thing that can protect us....reading the dua for protection from all harm(Bismillahil Ladi La Yaddurru Ma-Asmihee Shayee Unn Fil Ardi Wa La Fis-Samaee WaHuwas-Sami-unn-Aleem) OR reading ayat-al-kursi before leaving the house along & Bismillahee Tawwakaltu Al-Allah La Hawla Wala Quwwata Illa Billa. Not in any way undermining the importance of educating men/women, or self defence classes..etc.
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
"If I were asking to be raped, it wouldn't be rape."
It sounds so trivial, but it exposes the hypocrisy of the three Abrahamic faiths when it comes to female sexuality and self-determination; but it also is a hypocrisy adherent to Western civilization per se.
Thanks for speaking up - bad stereotypes have to be smashed! ;-)
eigensinn83 6 months ago 2
Awesome video! I've posted it on Twitter and Facebook.
This exact topic came up at our latest Young women's Caucus meeting in Kuala Lumpur in February and we had a great discussion about it.
We'd love to invite you to join our group. Check out our page on facebook (it's not allowing me to post the link, so please search for Young Women's Caucus) and send me a message to add you to our mailing list, if interested.
layali715 6 months ago
@layali715 Thanks for watching and sharing! I'd love to join but unfortunately I live in the US. I'll message you my email though :)
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 I'm in the US too. It's a transnational group of young Muslim women.
layali715 6 months ago
WOW! It's exactly what I've been thinking and saying about those stupid analogies! Another one I heard is women are like diamonds and you wrap diamonds in silk to protect them. Well, who wraps their diamonds in silk while wearing them? Isn't the whole point of purchasing diamond to display it and claim a certain status because of it?
layali715 6 months ago
@layali715 Astaghfirullah. Purchasing a diamond is to display it and claim a certain status????? This is so un-Islamic...Takabbur...pride is in no way permissable. Would u wear good clothes or expensive jewellery to show it off to ppl? As a muslimah we cant show our beauty and zeenat to anyone except a Mehram...not even all women...only trustworthy pious women(of any faith).
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
Salaam! From a non-hijabi (and feminist) sister, I think this video is super incredible and despite the pauses you articulated your point really well and I found myself with a huge grin by the end of it. Women should not be compared to unwrapped meat or uncovered candy. It makes no sense and I bet you could come up with a smarter analogy if you tried.
hitxthexdeck 6 months ago
But all in all, we are one Ummah and we shall respect everyone’s views. Women should respect the ideas of men, and men should respect the views of women that aren't being voiced. Salaam.
TranquilityandRepose 6 months ago
There is always going to be a positive and a negative. If you wan’t to magnify the negative and call it sexism rather than contemplating the positive and realizing the blessing, be my guest.
TranquilityandRepose 6 months ago
Analogies aren’t meant to be taken literally. Additionally, people are forgetting that Allah (S.W.T.) has asked for women to cover themselves as well as men to different degrees, and he knows best. Who knows, maybe there is compensation for wearing a hijab at times where it is most difficult that men will not receive because they weren’t asked to do so.
TranquilityandRepose 6 months ago
@TranquilityandRepose I'm not trying to encourage or discourage anyone from wearing hijab. My intention was to call on people not to use analogies that objectify women.
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 I do not understand how the pearl analogy is objectifying women. The fact that they’re calling you a pearl and not a person is solely because it is an ANALOGY. When I see a woman, I do not see a pearl; but when I contemplate the ANALOGY, I see the connection between how the hijab can be an oyster covering the pearl that you can metaphorically compare to a woman.
TranquilityandRepose 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 Now let me make an ANALOGY. Should you not put a lock on your door because people can break in, or will you just blame the person trying to break in? You can blame the person trying to break in but ultimately it is a necessary precaution to put the lock on. And I know you will say that you are not a door and your hijab is a not lock nor do you need to put a lock on yourself, but that is why it is a comparison; it might be a bad one, but overall a comparison.
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TranquilityandRepose 6 months ago
A man can get raped too. The raping of a man by a women might not be as often, but it does happen, and forgetting that on it’s own is sexist. To simply pinpoint every tiny remark that seems sexist doesn’t go anywhere because usually it is not looked at from both perspectives.
TranquilityandRepose 6 months ago
@TranquilityandRepose On behalf of the sister who created the video: I AM SO SORRY SHE FORGOT ABOUT THE MENZ.
hitxthexdeck 6 months ago
Thank you for this, I am so glad to see a bright young Muslimah with such incisive analysis. What many of the comments here (as well as the 'pearl' analogy you critique) fail to understand is how they too objectify Muslim women's bodies by oversexualizing them and reducing the hijab to a matter of sexual desire. By focusing on items of clothing, we engage in victim-blaming for sexual violence, when NO woman no matter how she is dressed deserves that or "asks" for it. Hijabis are raped too.
RevoUnity 6 months ago
For those who think that our dear sister is wrong:I just want to let people know that I do not have a Tootsie Roll center, and if you try to drill a hole in me to make a necklace, you're going to find yourself on the business end of the drill instead. Just wanted to make that clear.
Jannah1 6 months ago 5
Also, you wear a hijab. Instead you should make a video on why Muslim women should wear it. This is pretty discouraging.
lamunoit95 6 months ago
@lamunoit95 Apart from the fact it says nothing about whether women should wear it or not, obviously this sister isn't undermining the importance of hijab. She's just pointing out a faulty - and kind of offensive - analogy. Being patronised by a patriarchal system is more discouraging, in my opinion.
azyeennekun 6 months ago 3
@azyeennekun But that's not true. In Islam women are supposed to wear it. It's stated in the Qur'an. And the reason people use those analogies is b/c those analogies were used by our prophet too. Who's to argue with that? There's nothing wrong with calling Muslim women pearls because in Islam they ARE treasured and to be put on a pedal stool. In reality women have more importance than the men. And this video argued against that.
lamunoit95 6 months ago
@lamunoit95 Where did he (saw) use those analogies? Can you give me reference? And even if he did, the difference is the context, the Prophet (saw) didn't belittle or oppress women, or say such things in order to justify forcing them to wear something. There's nothing wrong with treasuring and respecting women, there IS if you're saying such things in order to make yourself feel better about oppressing people.
azyeennekun 6 months ago 3
@lamunoit95 well if they're a treasure then treat them as one,perhaps treat them as human beings first, than just covering them and thinking ok now im done with my job to protect women. See,it is much more than just covering them, it is about understanding them, being careful with them, and simply RESPECT them no matter what. If one girl doesnt wear any hijab or cover herself doesnt mean she is not worth to be respected and can be mistreated or is less valuable. She is a woman, & they're special
eskimobscure 6 months ago 2
@lamunoit95 I'm not arguing that women don't have more importance than men, I'm arguing that analogies such as the pearl analogy objectify women. If women are so treasured, why are we objectified and harassed for the way we dress?
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
@lamunoit95 I'm not trying to encourage or discourage women to wear hijab. I'm trying to call on people not to use analogies that objectify women.
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago 29
@sssjjjggg28 You shud make clear in ur videos...that we are ordained by Allah to wear Jilbab...there's no if's, else or buts...we call ourselves muslims...so submit ourselves completely to the will of Allah. If these ananlogies dont make any sense to you..though such analogies are only used to better explain a concept. Then thats alrite....but make it CLEAR to all non-Hijabi Muslimahs that dont confuse this with what Allah had ordained upon us.
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 How else would you show people the difference of when women wear hijabs and cover themselves compared to women who dress wantonly? The point of the analogies aren't to objectify women, the message of it is different. Analogies are a nicer way of saying things. The other alternative could be, a girl who dresses like a slut has a bigger of chance of being in danger than a girl dressed modestly with a hijab. But how appealing do those sound?
lamunoit95 6 months ago
@lamunoit95 sry,this is bullshit. i read an text of a big german police deprartment about all sexual assaults which were comitted by the stranger type (that ar ~30% of all, 70% of rapists and assoulting persons were family members or friends..)
one important thing that had all victims in common: all were ..Plain Jane (dunno if this term is known) they ve worn wide shirts or hoodies. not sexy cloth. they seemed to be good victims.
women who dressed sexy arent more in danger,.
this ist wrong.
actiasSelene 6 months ago
@lamunoit95 so you should stop and think about it. sexy or slutalikes werent raped much often.
if a woman appears self-confident and strong, the chance to become a victim is smaller as if a woman is shy, silent and looks insecure.
BE self-confident
another thing is VERY important.
DEFEND YOURSELF! screm, hit..in over 80% the cases the assaulter stopped the attack and runned. (if he has a weapon-dont do it. bt if he has none-than scream or fight. your chances to survive are higher
actiasSelene 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 I cant say it better sis!!!!!!!!
1barre 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 excellent response! you have a clear voice, a clear head, and you know what you speak. congrats and keep it up :)
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ALLAHSslave1 5 months ago
I hope you realize you're making people want to wear the hijab less. And wearing a hijab protects you a lot more than dressing promiscuously. Obviously no one asks to get raped but the hijab hides a huge part of your beauty and makes you less subjected to danger. You're right that wearing a hijab doesn't prevent it 100%, but it does keep women a lot safer and modest. It's adorable you're a feminist, and so am I but feminism isn't about rape or being equal to the male race.
lamunoit95 6 months ago
@lamunoit95 i agree with u 100%. Her rant isnt going to do anyone any favors
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
You are awesome and articulate...and I agree with you on all your points. I especially like "The only thing that can stop me from being sexually assaulted is if a guy doesn't assault me...A woman's clothing has nothing to do with it. Nobody is asking to be raped or assaulted. If I were asking to be raped, it wouldn't be rape."
I rarely comment on YouTube, but I think you're great.
gdmarcus 6 months ago 3
I have been thinking the same. Those who claim that they are not objectifying woman are just objectifying it to the degree that they compare her to a lifeless object. You are correct.
mmoneib 6 months ago
Wow....you have just said what all along I have been thinking. Mashallah, you are one awesome chica!
ayeshter 6 months ago
Contd ... Second purpose is, So that they shall be recognized as honoured women. Tell me if there're two sisters on walking on the street and one wearing a mini and second a jilbaab, and if there are a bad man waiting to tease a girl, which girl will he tease? So please...
DanishRiyaz 6 months ago 2
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Do you read Qur'aan sister? Allaah says in the Qur'aan: " O Prophet! Tell your wives, your daughter and to muslim women that should wear a Jilbaab so that THEY SHALL BE RECOGNIZED AND IT WILL HELP THEM FROM BEING MOLESTED." So sister delete this video its contradicting the speech of Allaah. Jilbaab protects women to the maximum limit which you can think but and its this is its purpose. Contd...
DanishRiyaz 6 months ago
@DanishRiyaz If this is so, why are hijabis sexually assaulted and raped? Why are we stared at and catcalled in the street? Why did my family receive death threats when I started to wear hijab? Why was my khimar ripped off my head in front of a crowd of people and why was I dragged across the ground?
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago 16
@sssjjjggg28 : I'm not telling that Jilbaab will protect you 100% but it will surely protect you from lustful eyes and pleasure seekers etc that's what the Qur'aan says and you cannot oppose the Qur'aan. Also check you inbox I'm sending you a video about it for you benefit.
DanishRiyaz 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 Dear, that's exactly why we do cover up. it doesn't mean it will stop the sexual assaults but that's the main purpose of it " to protect and cover the woman's beautiful body instead of putting it on show for the whole world to see" its about respecting your body! :D
3maneya 5 months ago
@DanishRiyaz the PURPOSE of the Jilbaab is to DIPLOMATICALLY DISCOURAGE men's wandering eyes and prevents their desire from being VISUALLY ignited. but a PERVERT has no such self-control. a Jilbaab may prevent molestation from most men, but it would NOT prevent NOR deter such misactions from PERVERTS. a Jilbaab DOESN'T protect women to the MAXIMUM LIMIT, bulletproof vests can protect them even better. GOD recognises women, but SOME MEN still treat women as commodities, properties, OBJECTS.
hireikei 6 months ago
@DanishRiyaz Why are as a man so concerned about the dress of women? Are you really insecure or something? From all your posts on this issue you seem pretty obsessed bordering on mental. Not everyone has your black and white interpretation of Islam - deal with it.
IPredictAnOrgasm 5 months ago
@DanishRiyaz, this young sister understands the koran far better than you do. perhaps it is you who needs a re-reading.
BellHooksUrge 5 months ago
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You are a feminist. Whatever you say is invalid.
akub0d0 6 months ago
@akub0d0 Wanting equality makes our opinions invalid? Interesting....
stuckupcow90 6 months ago 3
I agree. As is often said...Never judge a book by it's cover! Salam sister.
freddy12349 6 months ago
I >never<comment on Youtube vids, but you, girl- are a stone cold badass. Never ever change!
anamra 6 months ago
Salaamm sister, I agree with you 100%, as a brother in Islam I support you
KelbAlrai1990 6 months ago 3
Good!
aanatami 6 months ago
Brava! I'm so proud to call you my sister in Islam.
Jannah1 6 months ago
You go, girl! You speak the truth, and what you say is so much more powerful coming from a woman who wears hijab. A true feminist of faith!
selkie305 6 months ago
mashallah such wisdom from someone so young, proud of you hun!
ummzeee 6 months ago
ask the men how do they feel about hijab.
duck9382 6 months ago
@duck9382 why should we? its none of their business this is between us and Allah.
ummzeee 6 months ago
You're my absolute hero. Mash'Allah. Seriously. I love you. Keep doing what you're doing.
azyeennekun 6 months ago
THANK YOU! Finally someone gets it. No, the hijab does not significantly reduce your chances of being assaulted. Usually CLOTHING has nothing to do with it. I don't see why people aren't getting that. I could be dressed as a snowman and still be assaulted.
MangoSupaSonic 6 months ago
You're absolutely right-- it's easy for us to become the kind of society that thinks some Muslim girls (in hijab) are good, while others (without) are asking for whatever they get. I think you've done a good job of drawing attention to this danger-- kudos!
And to those commenters below: you're really missing the point. Clearly, this young sister believes in the importance of hijab-- she's simply making the point that hijab will not protect a woman from a man with impure or evil intentions.
SanyaAnwar 6 months ago 5
the earnestness and patience of one who goes through the trouble to obtain the pearl deep down in the oceans reflects the sincerity and patience of a Muslim brother who will go through all the hassle to find the well-protected Muslimah who guards her chastity. =) pls do ponder upon the analogies and inshaALLAH we will find the wisdom contained in them. best regards, and salaam from singapore. =)
sumayyah90 6 months ago
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the analogy of the pearl in the oyster is relevant to a Muslim woman. why a pearl? in order to obtain a pearl, you need to dive deep into the ocean to get the oyster. do you just dive like you swim in a swimming pool? no, you need to prepare oxygen tanks, dive suits etc. and it's not easy to collect them. in jewellery shops, how are authentic pearls displayed? well-protected in velvet jewellery boxes, and sold expensively. all these reflect the dignity of a Muslim woman we should uphold.
sumayyah90 6 months ago
men and women are equal in the sight of Allah. however, we are created differently through our appearance and biological system. men are visual beings and thus are visually attracted to physical attractiveness, depending on the level of imaan. so the piece of cloth that Allah has ordained us ladies to wear, serves purposes too many to be mentioned, and of them is to assist the men in controlling their nafs (which of course, is created differently from the nafs of us ladies).
sumayyah90 6 months ago
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Assalaamu'alaykum, the hijab we wear does not absolutely mean we are safe from being sexually assaulted but it significatly reduces the chances of it, provided if the clothing is loose and conceal the shape of our body. We won't be any different from non-hijabis if we're in long sleeves and skirts which are suffocatingly body-hugging and showing every curves that we have. the flies are not brothers but they represent men whose hearts have illnesses in them, i.e. men who cannot guard their nafs.
sumayyah90 6 months ago
@sumayyah90 Actually, rapists have been interviewed and the following has been shown: that they go for women with loose clothing and more cloth than women with tight clothing. Because it's easier to grab a woman with more loose cloth and violate her than it is to grab a woman who has tight clothing.
You are incredibly ill informed.
CompanionableIlls 6 months ago
@CompanionableIlls This is correct. Rapists also go for women who have long ponytails which are also easy to grab.
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
This is awesome. Made my jumu'ah! Ramadan Mubarak!
kamuzrana 6 months ago
I LOVE THIS. THANK YOU
chillycoke123 6 months ago
You go, girl! :) Very pleased to hear this from such a young Muslim woman!
And, just to add one thing to your thoughts - if (Muslim) women are "pearls," what are (Muslim) men? If we Muslim women are so precious, what are our fathers, husbands, sons, and other Muslim men around us? What makes them any less precious than us?
Oh, and have you seen that other image of a woman in hijab looking so relaxed and the one w/o it so distressed? LOL. People are so funny.
Swaatai 6 months ago 3
I've also heard ridiculous things like "the hijab is like the skin of a fruit that protects it" or "you don't just leave food lying around, you cover them." Why is it always FOOD that we're compared to??
wallflower0708 6 months ago 20
You're so awesome!! Keep it up! I love how you articulate your ideas, and don't let people compare you to objects even more then women already are! I honestly believe people make up their own definitions of self based on what they believe their value to be, so if they truly believe they are a piece of candy needed to be shielded from flies- that's what they think of themselves. Others however, would prefer not to be objectified thank you very much. Empowering video, great job! :)
yasmarah1 6 months ago 14
The analogy has nothing to do with rape. It has to do with temptation. The fly analogy fails, because flies are grotesque. Perhaps a flower analogy is better. Without bees, flowers will die. If a flower blooms, many bees will flock to her; which is a nicety for the flower because flowers and bees get along greatly. If a flower is budded, no bees will come to her because although she has pollen, she has not presented it so easily. Perhaps she can bloom when she finds the right bee. Just a thought
Eetaq 6 months ago
thank you SOOOOOOO much for this.
maryammalek92 6 months ago 8
@maryammalek92
You're welcome! :)
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 BTW do u know how many non-hijabi muslimah's are liking ur video. Let me tell u...Many!!So many have posted this on their FB pgs & gettin Likes from none other than non-hijabi muslimahs. Ponder on this,its like u're their voice of reason to continue being hijabless. When Allah clearly orders us in S.AhzabVerse58" OProphet tell ur wives, daughters, & the women of the believers to draw down their shawls over them..." If u could mention this in a followup vid, so that no is led astray.
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
@skwtrsrs03 dude, theres a different between hijab, and headscarf. Hijab is modesty in clothing. headscarf is headscarf. Allah does NOT obligate the headscarf, but obligates modesty. :) and for the record, I know girls wearing headscarfs that reposted this.
PromisedtATuLove 6 months ago
@PromisedtATuLove Allah DOES order us to wear jilbab...an arabic word which means a large piece of cloth. Plz see for urself in S.Ahzab Verse58. Its not a choice...its ordained on every mominah!! May Allah SWT make us steadfast in deen.
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
The verse continues to tell us..."That will make it more likely that they are recognized(as pious muslims), hence not TEASED". Allah SWT is all-knowing...He knows that women w.out hijabs are more likely to be teased than w.Hijabs. Dont bring ur own philosophy & understanding. Allah's word is above all!
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
@skwtrsrs03 I never said my word was above Allah's. But if hijab protects us, why are hijabis sexually assaulted, raped, and harassed? Why did my family receive death threats when I began wearing hijab?
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
I have heard imams compare women to diamonds, money, and candy
The really odd thing is they objectifying women completely, yet it doesn't even seem to register that this view of women (as an object that they are protecting from looters) is debasing to humanity.
This is like a freudian slip, rather a giant uncontrolled freudian effluence where their true view of women becomes apparent. There have been simply too many objectifying statements to believe otherwise. Its beyond a flawed analogy.
BarclayAvenue1000 6 months ago 4
You Go, Girl !!
BarclayAvenue1000 6 months ago
very interesting thoughts. impressive wisdom from someone so young. if you don't mind my asking, how old are you? and how did you come to these conclusions? and why do you call yourself a feminist?
Druidgtfx 6 months ago 3
@Druidgtfx
Age is but a number; in some societies I am considered old and in some I am considered young. :) I came to these conclusions after contemplating them myself and a bit of reading feminist theory. I identify as a feminist because I stand up for/believe women should have rights and believe in equality between the sexes.
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago 10
@sssjjjggg28 Thank you for your response :) Now I'd like to ask what kind of sources you've read on feminist theory, and if you've been influenced at all by any current or past feminist figures.
Druidgtfx 6 months ago
@Druidgtfx
Well you're inquisitive, aren't you?
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago 4
@sssjjjggg28 yes, very ^_^
Druidgtfx 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 Lets clarify this,there is no need for feminism in Islam. Islam gives women more rights and dignity than no other religion...& our Prophet Mohammad(S) personified this in his own life. Feminism is a very non-muslim term, lets not use that. We dont need to be feminists. All need to be are Momin and Mominah's!
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
@skwtrsrs03 Though Islam gives women rights, that does not mean that Islam prevents men from taking away from us. If all we need to be are Muslims, then why is there still sexism in our ummah?
sssjjjggg28 6 months ago
@sssjjjggg28 Because those who are sexists are Munafiq. Not muslims. Those muslims who rape and assault women are not Muslims...they are munafiq! Your concepts are very dangerous for ur eimaan. Plz dont mix lunatics..munafiq with islam and muslims. Muslims are those who submit their will to Allah. Plz get help. There are so many good imam's /teachers online,get ur questions answered from them instead of posting videos abt it. "A muslim is one with whose hand and tongue other muslims are safe"
skwtrsrs03 6 months ago
I am a comedian and did a joke about this, I hope you like it.
ramibo 6 months ago
Hahahaha legit. Looking forward to more "rants" :)
tshaaban88 6 months ago
You are amazing. Keep being your bad a** self!
lightkeeper3 6 months ago
:-) Great video!
phoenix6676 6 months ago
yes! thanks so much for sharing this.
ficader 6 months ago