4 Magic Phrases You Can Use to Respond to ANYTHING

[mjndblain]

you remind me of phillip defranco

[PowerDiversity]

@mjndblain That rules!

[RyzeConnect]

Awesome stuff :) Everyone can tell you've had a couple conversations that you would rather not have had.

I've a habit of not beginning conversations or switching my focus before I need to use these tools, or even simply leaving. I think it comes from having strong beliefs about dominantly committing to enjoying cherished conversations. So I often get them, or not at all.

[einbischen]

The updated 4 Magic phrases for any situation are. What, How , When, Why ?

[TheMukas69]

filled with energy. great!

[Karencamille925]

Thank you this is awesome!

[PowerDiversity]

@Karencamille925 Thanks!



[nassauE]

@PowerDiversity Yeah man im sure you dont have testosterone issues so i totally understand you being lost by my comment.................before you get pissed im just joking man ha ha ha. I liked you video and you seem pretty cool. Good luck to you

[PowerDiversity]

@nassauE I would never! Thanks for your comments...the part I don't understand is the bus...what's with the bus driver??? Hahaha

[19alba87]

Wow - this is good. I am going to write down those (two really) phrases put them on my wall and I think it will make me feel more protected in social situations. Must drum it into my head though because when someone offends you, you're often so raging that you forget things like this. Good to repeat every morning or something. Cool stuff, loooking forward to seein your other vids now! :-)

[PowerDiversity]

@19alba87 Thanks! Let me know what else I can do for you!

[Cbeyke]

It's really helpful to ask open ended questions: I'm sorry that you feel that way; can you please tell me more/clarify the situation for me? These are not situation universal questions, but they are a good start. The idea is to get the other person to justify or explain their position. When they do, you get a better understanding of their situation, way of thinking, etc, and that will enable you to better approach the situation.

[PowerDiversity]

@Cbeyke Wow! you're so insightful. Thanks for the comment!

[nassauE]

@PowerDiversity You failed to add one very important integer to your equation............Testostero­ne. When a guy gets either horny or very upset, its similar to sitting on the back of a very long school bus while being driven around town by a maniac. And as soon as he comes, or knocks a guys lights out you are suddenly at the steering wheel wondering what the hell happened.

[PowerDiversity]

@nassauE That's interesting, NaussauE--tell me more!

[nassauE]

@nassauE HA HA HA!! ok

[ibowman64]

@nassauE haha..you must a thrill in bed?! zzzzzzz. I would rather listen to DAN. More stimulating...

[nassauE]

@ibowman64 ha ha ha. I'm not good anymore age has caught up with me, so your right.

[PowerDiversity]

@nassauE Wow! I have no idea what that means, but I really like the visual. Thanks for the comment! One of the most interesting I've had.

[PowerDiversity]

Yes. You calmly repeat the questioning until the difficult person goes away, dissatisfied, having gotten nothing from you that is rewarding. Unfortunately, you can have all the energy and dignity you want--there will still be difficult people trying to bring you down. You need to be prepared for them.

[phlearze]

Completely not helpful!!! Cos if someone insults you in responsr to you question, how do you react then? Ask the question AGAIN?! The best way is to work on your personality, improve self-confidence, find something that gives you energy and dignity, and then you wont have a problem with people like that.

[PowerDiversity]

They should be saying this to you only if they consider you a difficult person in their lives--one whose intentions are to cause problems. Given your comment about punching the speaker--you might need a little anger-management assistance before you move on to communication training.

[95688kage]

I would punch somebody who kept saying that to me.

[satsumamoon]

@95688kage That's really interesting. Why would you want to punch them?

[sabrinakeylife]

love it, i'll try and will see,

[1mariamorales]

Great! I will be using this technique when someone asks me a question that I find peculiar, "That's interesting (pause), why are you asking me that?" and hopefully...........THEY WON'T ASK ME "IT" AGAIN!!!! lol lOVE IT, THANKS FOR THE TIP!

[PowerDiversity]

@1mariamorales Thanks! Keep the comments coming...let me know how it goes!

[euroruby]

This is amazing!

[NewBerri1]

interesting.... I like it

[dignerds]

i'm just going to be honest,and say let me think about ,or just walk away

[zwergie4444]

that's great - dead on - thank you

[b20002003]

basically, start out by saying, "that's interesting!" and ask them why they think that way!...

[zragisha]

that's intresting, tell me more!

[PowerDiversity]

Hi rayba47:

OK, granted that's how you feel. Now the question is--who are you, and based on who you are--how will you act?

[rayba47]

The problem: Bullies.

The solution: Firearms.

[MarloJamieson]

This is great advice, I've been going through a lot of relationship bumps and I think the universe brought me here. I believe in the same thing, and recently I got mad on this person who was degrading another culture (racism), and next time they say something terrible I will ask these questions!

[PowerDiversity]

Hi pinkwonderpower:

Remember that no one can take your personal power from you. What difficult people want is a response from you--one of embarrassment or hurt. If you respond with calm and strength, repeating such things as--"Why would you say that?" followed by "That's interesting; tell me more" the attacker will eventually see that you are not going to be rattled. In time it will be no fun to harass you, because you have removed their reward. Be persistent; you have the power to do this.

[ratface111]

@PowerDiversity

This response would make a good description for the video. It helped me understand why the phrase, "Tell me more" can work too.

[pinkwonderpower]

Hi PowerDiversity - that's pretty intersesting! I do have a question though. For example, if you have an irate person you're working with and instead of deaing with the issue or the facts at hand they retort to silly /personal attacks in argument does asking those questions open you up for more belitteling (sp)? But like you did say it shows that they can't "rattle your cage"! LOVE THAT POINT! : )

[hotgluegunfun1]

When I get verbally attacked and I choose to ask ''Why would you say that'', the offender would love to explain to me in detail why I am such a way, which hurts too. Then they get to vomit all over me with more of their hurtfull words.

[PowerDiversity]

@hotgluegunfun1 This is a good example of why you need to continually invest in your communication--if you did, you'd have more responses. Don't let your ego get in the way--ask the questions, and even though you might not like the answers, if you're prepared, you'll be able to respond to them with confidence.

BTW--how horrible that people vomit on you. Great example of why we should always carry extra Wet-Wipes. Keep up the good work!

[PowerDiversity]

Josslav, you'd have a response if you had taken my training classes. Thanks for watching! Keep the comments coming.

[jossalv1]

A;Hello how are you? B;"Thats interesting why did you ask me that?

A;"Why are you answering a question with a question?"

B,"I do not have a response to that"

[GWDeathscythe18]

@jossalv1 That's when you continue with "That's interesting, why did you ask me that?"

[Kawlinz]

@jossalv1 Then you can reply "why are *you* answering a question with a question?"

[PowerDiversity]

Thanks!

[MissZZee]

Haha, so funny - bet it works!! Thanks

[PandaPhuk]

this video is interesting, show me more.

[sheshahari]

i was thinking if he was using something manipulative at the last like he was being grateful just to get the loyalty of the people... lol just a thought... good vid thought.

[jeshikain]

im gonna try this. :P

[JustPeachy1955]

Thats intresting, tell me more :)

[stylergirl24]

how do i deal with nosy and rude people who asks so many questions. a relative came to the door and only i was in.

he says: where's everyone? is it just you at home? where's mum? wher'es dad?where have they gone? is anybody at home? has your dad gone to work? where have they gone? have they all gone in one car?

the relative bombards me with questions and then repeats most questions again such as: 'have they all gone in one car? where did they go?

[SovereignBeing]

@stylergirl24 dont answer the door..

[misium]

Interesting, I'll try to use that.

[bddc201]

Very useful, but not useful for "everything". Can't see these working out well with a supervisor who is expecting immediate pertinent responses rather than questions.

[bornbythesea]

@bddc201 Any kind of gossip, whether it be true or not is defamation of character. Those that did not know about something that a person said or did should not be victimized by the gossips information. I am willing to say that most of the shooters and mass murderers in our country and around the world are gossip victims. Some can only take so much and then kaboom. :(

[honibeeblue]

useful...greatful :)

[DancingChakra]

I'm gonna rock my coworker GOOOOD tomorrow. I think I'll go with combo 2.

[PsykologThomas]

Okay I get it. You make the other guy think. You yourself get time to think. You answer a question with a question, thereby removing focus from yourself. But 4 magic phrases can't get you out of everything. It insults my intelligence. I would have put some questions to you that wouldn't have been able to dodge :)

[PowerDiversity]

@PsykologThomas --These are magic phrases for dealing with difficult people. They are not designed for : "Oh, I hear your mother died; how is your father doing?" You must put these magic phrases in the context for which they are designed (and then you won't feel intellectually insulted, anymore....)

[PsykologThomas]

I seriously don't get the point. But he seems energetic.

[upotti]

it's really intesresting dan useful tips to defend with teasers and negative peoples grt keep it up

[monthofthebull]

This makes me want to buy something at 3 AM

[LissaCollinAbigail]

great video!

[PowerDiversity]

Haha! I'm glad you're thinking Gobblishious! Let me break it down:

First, I'm assuming my gentle readers can discern when another response would be appropriate. For example, if someone tells you that they can kill you with their brain, I would hope your response would be to turn and walk away. If someone tells you not to eat the food, I'm assuming you'd say, "thanks," and if someone is begging you not to rape their children, I'm assuming that you're so far gone nothing will help you. Thanks!

[gobblishious]

"I can kill you with my brain." -> "That's interesting, tell me more."

"This food is problematic." -> "That's interesting, why would you say that?"

"What's the answer to question #14, Freeman?" -> "That's interesting, why would you ask that?"

"II will do everything in my power to keep you from raping my children." -> "That's interesting, why would you do that?"

"Duck." -> "That's interesting, why w- OMG FLUFFY DEATH!!"

[PowerDiversity]

One other thing I forgot to tell you, Aklinaz--if your lover leans over and whispers "I love you," that is not the time for : "That's interesting; tell me more." :)

[aklinaz]

Imagine to be in the bus and the "bad guys" are asking you for ticket and you say: "That's interasting, why are you saying that to me"? xDDD Haahah... But these phrases are magic, trust me. ;)

[luc500500]

Awesome tips!!!

[hameedlaghman]

very interesting

[PowerDiversity]

Glad you liked it; feel free to send this video around to co-workers and friends.

Dan

[ratul40]

@PowerDiversity

Me: Thats interesting, why do say that?

Person: I'm just curious.

Me: (how do I respond?)

[PowerDiversity]

@ratul40 Are you always this curious?

Person: Yes

You: Interesting

Then implement the broken record

[ratul40]

@PowerDiversity Me: Thats interesting, why do say that?/ Person: I'm just curious./ Me: (how do I respond?)

[ababin3]

Awesome.

[PowerDiversity]

Thanks for the comment, Getgin!

[ratul40]

@PowerDiversity How do respond to someone who answers "I'm just curious"

[PowerDiversity]

You respond by asking, "Are you always this curious?" And they will answer yes or no, to which you respond with the three-second look (make direct eye contact for three seconds) and maybe an, "Interesting," before moving along. Remember that questions such as the one you're describing are called "Challenge Questions" and the key is not to answer them, but to instead ask 2 questions for every challenge question someone asks you. This strategy helps you do just that. Hope this helps!

[getgln]

Another thing to say is "How do you mean?"

[PowerDiversity]

Thanks for the comment!

[Mechon25]

you are so fun to listen to. I get bored right away and your video had me laughing and smiling the entire time.

Good advice! I'm going to try it.

[PowerDiversity]

Thanks Mechon! Let me know if there's anything I can ever do for you, OK? I appreciate your comments.

Dan

[airforcemax]

Simple and great responses to challenging people. Thanks.

[PowerDiversity]

@airforcemax Thanks for your reinforcing words.

Dan

[megadeathx]

@airforcemax "...responses to people who are challenging." The way you phrase it sounds like a method to cause conflict.