Healing emotional abuse: Three papers exercise

[467290]

Everything that's happened between me and my mother is not going to fit on one piece of paper!

[bettycroker101]

11 years of emotional abuse on one paper...hmmm...going to give it a try...wish i would of read this a long time ago...would of saved me years of heartache and depression...now my 2 children that he has is going through what i did...in 1 month...Lord help them when i can't :`(

[bluesguitargoddess]

I deffinately will utalize this technique, but it's gonna take a lot more than just 3 papers... Thanks for sharing this... my previous councleor seemed to want me to just stop talking about the abuse and the abuser... that never worked, I need to get it out, ALL OF IT... every dirty dark secret I have carried for HIM! I no longer need to protect him, I need to emotionally clense and protect MYSELF!

[3877michael]

Abused people like the abuse. Like a moth to flame. Dark drama is addictive. If they do not get enough abuse then they MAKE their abuser become more abusive. They get off on kinky degrading sex. The more degrading the better. Once their victim roll takes over then they turn even their normal relationships into abusive. Sick shit. Most abusers are made ( from victims ) than are born. Poor victims of abuse? Please these people are full of rage and hatred. Mostly they hate GOD.

[bluesguitargoddess]

@3877michael Sounds like something only an ABUSER would say. The "look what you made me do" thinking is what creates abuse... The abuser not taking responsibility for their own actions... someone can be a total asshole to me, but it my choice to hit them, call them names, or walk away... only *I* control that, no one can "make" you do anything without a gun to your head, and even then it is your choice to comply or take the possibly bullet.

[3877michael]

@bluesguitargoddess This issue is complex. Hate becoming love. Violence as affection. Emotional and physical abuse is a form of evil manifesting on earth. From war to slavery our history is loaded with this evil. Even religion has a hand in emotional abuse. ( You are born in sin. Wrath of God.) Preachers are in an abusive roll. ( I am closer to God. I know more than you.) Companies and bosses are in abusive rolls. Again this is an evil saturating human history.

[bluesguitargoddess]

@3877michael Yes unfortunately I know all to well about abuse, having been a victim more of my life than not. From my point of view, I would not say that I loved or liked the victim role, I was just "used to" it. Growing up with horrendous abuse, as an adult I would think, well it's not as bad as such and such, so it must not be abusive. Without a loving supportive envoroment as a child to grow up in, I had no guage of right from wrong as far as how people treated me.

[3877michael]

@bluesguitargoddess It would seem easer if demons and devils were real. Then you could fight with your attackers and the cause of your abuse. Instead we have memories making beliefs and beliefs making judgments. All this going on mostly in the subconscious. Not so easy to deal or fight with. One by one memories and the conclusions can be changed. Denial can be reveled and judgments can be transformed. This stuff is a hugh injustice. Having to become a parent and care giver to your self.

[Masqueradia]

I get that this works for boyfriend/girlfriend situations. But how would a kid who grew up in this environment liberate from their parents?

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@Masqueradia remember that ur great and special and keep in mind that u wont stay a kid forever. its tricky when it comes to parents but be smart with them and dont let the negativity get to you. ok ;) I hope that everybody would go along just fine.

[Dare2BUCounsel]

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[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@Dare2BUCounsel I enjoy reading your comments btw this channel is also on myspace and twitter if u wanna have a look

[Dare2BUCounsel]

@TheEmotionalAbuse Salutes for being multi-lingual-you're work is so helpful. Thanks for all you're doing.

[kozychik]

Step 1 He lied to me used me ridiculed me humiliated me verbally & emotionally abused me insulted my intelligence I felt hurt, frustrated, sad, confused, disappointed, stupid Step 2 Now I feel free uplifted empowered powerful strong excited enthusiastic optimistic Damn Good! Step 4 he has scared insincere eyes withered, evil hands a skinny awkward body grotesque tense expression with cartoonishly out of proportion features and he smells bad He is a coward and a cruel, ungrateful opportunist

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@kozychik Thank you for sharing but how will you cut the paper now lol ;D . can you share with us how you got to the point where you feel free

uplifted empowered

powerful

strong

excited

enthusiastic

optimistic?

[kozychik]

@TheEmotionalAbuse After I wrote this out on paper, I crushed it violently between my hands, threw it repeatedly against the wall, then to the ground where I stomped on it over and over.  Finally I picked it up and spit on it as I threw it into the kitchen garbage. Gone.

Slow awakening - I am not responsible for fixing others, but I am responsible for protecting/ defending myself. Reading "Will I Ever Be Good Enough" by Karyl McBride helped me break out of role of dependency / codependency.

[kozychik]

Simple yet POWERFUL.! That's all it comes down to really. This made me feel GOOD! And I'm going to keep feeling this way.

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@kozychik I'm so happy that I helped you :) by the way I invented this exercise ;p

[monkanana]

was helpful

[mayla1775]

Here is another intresting YouTube video on this topic - search for: "What Are The Seven Deadly Sins of a narcissist? - Dr. Sam Vaknin"

[mariana2062]

You're doing a great job!

[Chrissygirl67]

Great video. I loved it.