Emotional Vampires..How to Spot the EV's in Your Life !

[piloooogen]

Recharge?! Damn the last bit of understanding people I got an EV after me and he knows I´m autistic and love to amuse it ;C

[sheilaw12]

Good straight talk! I just ended a long term friendship with an EV who just dumped on me all of the time. Our phone coversations were not even conversations...just me listening and listening and listening. After a few years of my caretaking, her negativity was really starting to bring me down. I'm looking forward to a new life without her draining me all of the time. It hurts a little bit, but I think I will be ok.

[harpreetsingh2084]

thanx your great nd giving great advice nd sharing the pain of genuine people who r victim of emo vamps

[KeeperOfTheBlueFlame]

Great Video!! Thank You!

[SovereignBeing]

@ExposingTheFrauds OMG exactly. i have three of them on me now, brother and boyfriend and mother.. if you have any advice please let me know..

[cori800888]

@SovereignBeing well.. what ive been doing is just saying goodby like 4Mingthoughs has suggested..see 4mings other video's on this...its wonderful advice. Just than God you have not married that boy friend... tell them that is been stressful or whatever and that you need some space and say goodby...then never.. ever.. return or respond to them when they come around again, no matter how sweetly. See 4mings vids on the details.

soon your energy comes back, peace and happyness ensues

[SovereignBeing]

@cori800888 thanks! yeah i did tell them i wasnt able to deal with their toxicity..and not to contact me again - until i contact them,, feels great to be able to heal myself without constant energy drains and other people projecting their crap onto me..

[SovereignBeing]

imagine having one of these for your mother.. i went to the other side of the world to get away from her and now she wants to come live down the road. Of course im the bad one as she;s convinced everyone im uncaring and crazy, when really its simply that i have no energy or tolerance left, i also now have a chronic health condition from all the stress and energy draining, there is no where to go, because she;s family and you have to stay in contact with your family.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

@SovereignBeing

WRONG. That is what we are programmed to think. That we have to stay in contact with family. So untrue. We do not have to be subjected to energy drains by anyone. It's very simple. You say, " I love you, thank you for being the best mother you could be, I love you for that, but I don't like you as a person and I choose to not be around you. Please respect my choices" and you walk away. Why does family have a special pass to create pain in your life? Your in control!

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

@SovereignBeing

And I did have one of these for a mother. I haven't talked to her in years. At first it was hard and every once and awhile I get sentimental for what should be family, but then I remember how hard having them in my life was and I get over it quick. LOL. Good luck to you my friend.

[SovereignBeing]

@4MINGTHOUGHTS thank, yeah i know, its just the emphasis they put on family loyalty and all that, and go on about what they sacrificed for you.. its all mind control i know and they manipulate so you feel guilty and go back all the time. i have been fantazising about saying exactly what you mentioned .. so my own peace of mind and health.. i think its time~ thanks for your suggestion and great video.

[Ventzzz1]

First Twilight, now this! where is this world going damnit?

[angellover02171]

thanks

[KLRabstracts]

you nailed it. I can't thank you enough for posting this.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

@KLRabstracts

It's my pleasure :)

Stay true to you and don't let others wear you down. :)

xxoxoxo

Michelle

[Sanaajeet]

This series has helped a lot as I have attracted a lot of ev's in life am much better at spotting them so I don't enter into relationships with them to begin with and spend hours listening to their never ending drama. It really helped me to be firm with an ev neighbor - who is a chamelion and tried to worm her way into my life and suck the energy from our household - now even when she tries I can now handle it by giving neutral energy and being firm with boundaries. Thanks again for the series

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

@Sanaajeet

You are most welcome. I am very pleased that you found help in establishing boundaries. It's so liberating when we take back the power and energy of our lives. May you and yours always be surrounded by love, peace and joy.

xoxxo

Michelle

[aabrilamor]

this vid helped me alot 2 understand why when i'm in the presence of certain ppl i know afterwards i physically drained & fatigued.

[ehabtouch]

This is great you are teaching people how to set healthy boundaries.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

@calloway7000

Same thing in essence. Anyone who is so preoccupied with "them" and can't see that others have feelings, love, laughter and lives. LOL. Good luck with her.

Michelle

[ogicabp4u]

It's all about balance. Help them only if it makes you feel better, That way both of you win ..if not neither of you lose.

[juneride]

Honey, you're spectacular! I'm a salesman; I'm listening to you to improve my listening skills. In your case, I can easily read between the lines and see your body language.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

@juneride

Interesting. Keep listening to me and hopefully some where along the path you will find twists and turns that surprise you. People are complex creatures and some you can predict but others they are what we call "the wild card". Hope your New Year is fantastic. BTW do you sell cars?

xxoxo

Michelle

[davidmartinsvideos]

Right on the spot!

[shaneho78]

Sorry I don't believe any of this. It's another label you put on people so you can feel less guilt about dumping them. I'm willing to concede that I may be wrong though.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

@shaneho78

You are more than welcome to your opinion. I don't feel guilt about dumping someone who has drained all the emotional life they could from me. You know the type, always has a problem, excuse etc. There are simply some out there whose only goal is to drain what you will give them. No guilt in saying enough. Thanks for the comment and I am so happy you haven't had to deal with one of these EV's.

[sublimityeternal]

As I speak she's parked in front of my apartment building.....waiting and watching!

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

Just go about your day and ignore. If she knocks.... you know what to do. I have never gotten used to that feeling of feeling trapped in your own home for fear of who is on your porch. These people will take you for all you have emotionally and then some if you let them. Hope it works out for you hon. Will keep you in my thoughts.

Michelle

[seamstobe]

Wow that is really a wakeup. Thanks, you get to the point where you can not take another second of their drama. LOoking forward to the next video.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

I just send you the whole series in a PM. I do hope you find them helpful.

My best to you,

Michelle

[TheSpartacat]

Gosh, my comments dont post and then they all suddenly appear! Sorry, I'm messing up your comment section again :-)

Sad thing is, you could pointedly send the EV in your life this video and they wouldnt recognise themselves!

[fatpius]

Where were you, and this information for most of my young adult life? My best friend told me I had a magnet that attracted ev's.

Married the MASTER manipulator! I find for

me, detachment works best. ...they are relentless chameleons! and will 'hook' you

in by providing something they will never let you 'pay off whatever "debt" they have used as bait. (i'm not talking money here)

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

LOL... They sure do hook into you and never want to give it up, but pure indifference with no emotional feeling will cause them to move on as you are not a fulfilling drain anymore.  Good for you on learning how to deal with these vial creatures.

xoxox

Michelle

[jefferyconnors]

And as soon as they find new bood you wont see them for while. And then when they see your energy level back up.they will come to feed.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

That is called trickle feeding. When they are in-between hosts so they go "visiting" their old victims for a tickle meal. LOL.

HUGS and good luck,

Michelle

[sublimityeternal]

@4MINGTHOUGHTS LOL!

It's crazy when the EV is a best friend or one of your parents.

[momoffour2004]

Awesome video!! What if a person has an E.V. in their life that happens to be a blood relative? Like a parent, for instance.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

I will help with that kind of situation in my next video on how to rid yourself of these unwanted people. I hope to shoot the video tomorrow.

Relatives take special care when disconnecting the feeding tube. I hope to be of some help with questions just like these. Thanks for commenting and watching.

Michelle

[MrTearsintherain]

Holy sheep shit, this is what I was entangled with!!! I checked the seven signs and they all fit!

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

Scary when you don't realize why you just can't stand to be around that person. Then you find out they are bleeding you dry. Don't worry there's a cure for this insanity. Thanks for the comment and hope you enjoyed the article.

Part two hopefully tomorrow.

Hugs

Michelle

[MrTearsintherain]

@4MINGTHOUGHTS I was in a really bad place in my life this September past and she smelled it all over me, swooped in. Even though I had a sense that something was amiss and didn't respond for 2 weeks, I was too needy to stay away. For the first month everything was fantastic but then things went to hell. I was manipulated, spied on, emotionally whip sawed and finally, towards the end, she tried to encourage me to commit suicide. Worst of all, I still feel for her.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

They are masters at this. She isn't done with you yet. Check out the part 2 video later today and if it doesn't answer all of your questions, PM me and I will do my best to clarify. It truly is a sad affair that some have such little regard for another's life. They are very disturbed people. HUGS to you hon and there is hope. Always there is hope and a cure I promise LOL.

[MrTearsintherain]

@4MINGTHOUGHTS Thank you, I will be looking forward to watching this when I get home tonight. P M sent.

[elainefromireland]

Excellent Michelle! :)

The worst part of the e.v experience is the guilt they make you feel when you try to cut them off. They are so good at manipulating every single situation and person to meet their needs.

Thanks for the video. Looking forward to the next one! :)

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

Agreed Elaine,

That is what keeps us connected to the feeding tube they have inserted. It's time they go on a diet and tomorrow (God Willing) I will give you the information on how to do just that. Disconnecting the feeding tube and regaining your soul back. Thanks for your support.

All my love

Michelle

[MrTearsintherain]

@elainefromireland You too? Day yum!!!

[Neurolanis]

Your description of the 'emotional vampire' is pretty good. I agree with all your points, especially how they instantly 'click' with you. They wear masks, so to speak, and behave like a different person to every different person or group of people they meet. And yes, they say and do all the right things (for a reason.) And when you're 'low energy' or desperate they'll try to take advantage of you in one way or the other. And like with all narcissists, it's all your fault.

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

I agree they change themselves to conform to your environment. I like to think of them as chameleon's. Able to blend no matter what the environment. Sad thing is they are so talented, yet they waste it on this selfish need to drain others due their lack of courage to find themselves.

Thank you for all your support.

Michelle

[MsMizzK]

Boy, am I looking forward to the next video. You know, I didn't listen to my INNER WARNINGS from the very beginning of my "friendship" with one of these EVs. Literally, moment one, I knew there was something wrong. And was I right. I really want to hear your insights about the trigger points - - the ways ot keeping the EV's target there for them, and of making you question yourself. I NEED to get rid of this EV for my own health. So this series is very timely! Thanks!

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

I hope to get that video made tomorrow. I am sorry that you have one of these wretched people draining you. If my response video doesn't answer all your questions please feel free to PM me. I will do all I can to help you disconnect this persons feeding tube from your being.

All my prayers and love,

Michelle

[4MINGTHOUGHTS]

Hey MsK.... I was thinking about you and just wanted to check in and see if this EV is starving from your lack of providing him a meal??? Let me know. I do hope you find your way in this, your a strong woman and I have faith in you.

HUGS

Michelle